Foundation 2: Boy meets Girl

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Note: The talk The Foundation 1: True Colors should be the prerequisite for this activity.
Objectives:
1. To have a deeper understanding of the complementary relationships of the two sexes.
( The male and the female
!. To accept and appreciate the natural differences "etween a man and a woman.
#. To live out our roles as true men and women of $od.
Dynamics
1. %orship
!. &ctivity' (ands up) *as+s ,own
a. $ather all the male participants in one group) and all the female participants in another
group. ,o this activity separately in different session rooms) with a facilitator for the
male group and a facilitator for the female group.
". -ost the tally "oard for everyone in the group to see. (sample of tally attached "elow
c. &s+ the participants for a show of hands to signify their choice per item. Tell the
participants to answer each .uestion honestly) and that there are no correct or wrong
answers.
d. *a+e a tally per choice) and write the num"er on the tally "oard.
e. %hen "oth groups are done) gather as one "ig group and post "oth tally "oards.
f. The spea+er will compare the responses of the two groups) and then will segue to the tal+
proper.
#. Tal+ -roper/ the tal+ proper can "e done in a more creative manner. ( Ex' 0an "e a tal+
show where in there will "e two spea+ers) prefera"ly a male and a female leader who are
partners in service to explain how they are a "rother and sister to one another.
1. !
nd
&ctivity
2. 0losing -rayer ( -rayers should "e lead "y a "rother in a "oys and girls group
Expanded Talk Outline
I Introduction
The activity showed us that there are things that ma+es are more prone to male than in
females) and vice versa. There are things that characteri3e a man) and things that characteri3e
a woman. 0an you imagine a world with only men4 5r 6ust women4

7n the "eginning of creation) only man was there. (e was expected to love. &s a
person) he had to love and he needed to "e loved. 8o $od created a woman) and upon seeing her)
the man exclaimed excitedly' 9The man then said) !"o# t$is is bone o% my bone and %les$ o%
my %les$ &$e s$all be called #oman because s$e #as taken %rom man! Genesis 2:2'(

II God)s Ori*inal Intent
+an and #oman are e,ual in #ort$ and di*nity T$is is because God created bot$
in -is ima*e and out o% love
2. T$en /a$#e$ God caused a deep sleep to come over +an and $e %ell asleep -e took
one o% $is ribs and %illed its place #it$ %les$
22 T$e rib #$ic$ /a$#e$ God $ad taken %rom +an $e %ormed into a #oman and
brou*$t $er to t$e man
2' T$e man t$en said0 !"o# t$is is bone o% my bone and %les$ o% my %les$ &$e s$all be
called #oman because s$e #as taken %rom man! 1Genesis 2:2.22'(
God desi*ned man and #oman to be di%%erent %rom eac$ one0 in order to carry out a
partners$ip t$at is complementary and interdependent T$is partners$ip is not just
about a romantic relations$ip but in any situation t$is partners$ip can *ro# into0 since
God gave "oth of them the commission to su"due the earth and have dominion over all of
creation.
:ut "efore one can fully understand what it is to complement and to "e
interdependent with the other) we must understand the differences in the way $od designed
the two sexes to "e.
Di%%erence Bet#een +en and 3omen
T$e Di%%erence Bet#een
+en and 3omen
+en 3omen
Regarding 8peech -attern *en do not tal+ too much. %omen on the hand) tal+ a lot.
Regarding Relationships *en want respect and trust. %omen want love and care.
Regarding the *ind *en are analytical and thin+
in a"stract.
%omen are intuitive and they
thin+ concretely and in detail.
Regarding -ro"lems *en are secretive. %omen are vocal.
Regarding 5utloo+ in ;ife *en loo+ at the larger picture. %omen are more into details.
Regarding -ersonal Traits *en are focused on one tas+
at a time.
%omen can do multiple tas+s.
4omplementary and interdependent relations$ip o% +en and 3omen
+en 3omen
8ervant <ing' leader) provider Encouragement to the men' we support them
Tender %arrior' protector &dd exceedingly to their strength
%ise *entor' pastor (steward of right and
wrong
-rovide indispensa"le affirmation
Faithful Friend' good companion (elp them connect' given the gift of
relationships ) we initiate "uilding friendships
for them= serve) nurture) and protect life
-recious' they are to "e ta+en cared of= in a
romantic relationship) they are the ones sought
after
(uman sexuality encompasses the whole "eing of a person/ the physical) emotional) mental) and
spiritual/ all intertwined in one totality.
III +isconceptions on -uman &exuality
The world has confused man and woman regarding their roles and "ecause of this it
has caused a misunderstanding on the meaning of "eing a real man and woman.
Ever since our first parents had fallen into sin) the world has ta+en control of our
sexuality. The modern world has distorted the "eautiful plan that $od has intended for every man
and woman he created. 7t has threatened the very core of a person>s identity. 8ince that day) man
and woman have engaged themselves to an endless pursuit of impossi"ility where man wants to
"e woman and woman wants to "e a man.
5 -omosexuality
8ome "elieve that they have "een "orn as a person with a heart of what is opposite to his
or her gender. 8ome .uote them as saying that they have a woman>s heart "ut trapped in a man>s
"ody or vice/versa. $od made woman in such a way that she is different from a man. %hat only
exists is human sexuality that is composed of "eing a man or woman) any other desire or
attraction other than that is a distortion of our real sexuality. ?ou are created as who you are
today. There is no mista+e on how $od made you as a person.
B 6omantically in 7ove #it$ t$e &ame &ex
There is a"solutely nothing wrong with loving a person "ut this love must conform $od
otherwise it is simply not love. 8howing love and concern to the same sex is normal) "ut once
it elevates itself romantically then it does not "ecome love anymore. 8 7ove is patient0 kind0
#it$out envy It is not boast%ul or arro*ant It is not ill2mannered nor does it seek its o#n
interest 9 7ove overcomes an*er and %or*ets o%%enses : It does not take deli*$t in
#ron*0 but rejoices in trut$ ; 7ove excuses everyt$in*0 believes all t$in*s0 $opes all
t$in*s0 endures all t$in*s 1 . 4orint$ians .':82;( tells us what romantic love truly is and if
we are to live out this definition then falling in love with the same sex cannot "e ;5@E.
The sad reality is that more and more people fall into these lies simply "ecause our
generation has given up and started accepting all of these as the truth. %hat we should reali3e
that our attractions and emotions must not define who we are as a person.
I< 4onclusion
*en and women are in themselves complete) at the same time) complimentary.
7ndividually) they have the capacity to "e the "est. %hen they "ring out their natural geniuses
and go hand in hand together) they create something "igger for the world. They "oth have to
reali3e that they need the help of one another to fully allow them to live out $od>s uni.ue
purpose for them.
%hen men and women wor+ together) it leads to the fulfillment of our human
sexuality. %e "egan to reali3e earlier that we are made out of love and we are to love. Then $od
further made us man and woman. This is what allows us to live out our "asic call to love.
& part of this plan is for a man and a woman to fall in love with each other. The love
that $od planted in this design is meant for the greater plan of allowing his creation to go forth
and multiply 1 =ls read >eremia$ 2?::( so great the love that it can create another life of person)
when they enter marriage. :ut "efore this happens) what is important first is that each person
should understand and fully live out what he or she is made of. This would further allow one to
ta+e part in fulfilling the greater plan of $od.
Guide @uestions:
1. (ow can +nowledge a"out the differences of male and female help you in your
relationships with the opposite sex4
!. %hat is your response to the expected roles of a manAwoman4
5ttac$ment
-ands Ap0 +asks Do#n tally board
Item +an 3oman
Easily cries when watching
dramas) soap operas
Tal+s with a lot of details
(as 20% more physical
strength than the other sex
Tends to express hostility
(unfriendly= antagonistic)
warli+e physically rather than
ver"ally
7nterested in sports
7s stimuli tend more "y sight
than "y romance
Tends to "e more personal
rather than practical
Feel free to change the items. ?ou can change some items that ma+e it harder to distinguish men
and women ( ex. Expressing anger silently or out loud= has a huge appetite etc.