Empowering Women Today

Oral Sex Techniques for Women

by Grace Tan Sumbillo

We all know that the road to a lasting sex life is paved with
among other things oral sex. But most of us could use a few
pointers on how to sharpen our oral skills.

1- Start slow
Kiss your way down her body and tease her thighs and buttocks for a while before you make
contact with any part of her genitalia. This will turn her on before you start the real action. Get
close so that she thinks youre going to zero in on her at any second, but dont give in
immediately.

2- Warm her up
Before you remove her underwear, breathe hot air through it against her genital area. Breathe
softly but warmly for short bursts at a time. You can alternate between doing this and kissing
her thighs and stomach.

3- Dont dive in
When you begin to kiss and lick her vulva, work your way in slowly from the outside. Start by
licking the outer edges of the outer lips (labia), then very slowly spread them, and lick and kiss
the inner lips, and around thevagina. Do this gently, as though you were still teasing her. Youll
work your way up to more intense action eventually.

4- Wait for the clitoris
Try to hold off from coming in contact with her clitoris for as long as you can, even as you kiss
her labia and vagina. When you do begin to lick it, do it softly, and focus on the clitoral hood
(just above the clitoris), since most women prefer indirect clitoral contact before theyre fully
aroused.

5- Lick the alphabet
If youre not sure which strokes are best to approach the clitoris, try Sam Kinisons famous
suggestion and lick the shape of every letter in the alphabet as a means of offering a wide
variety of approaches. Make them wide from time to time to cover the whole genital area, and
make them small at other times, centering on the clitoris itself.

6- Suck it up
As she becomes more aroused, you can gently suck her clitoris into your mouth and flick your
tongue over it. This combines suction with a much faster rhythm. Women like that.

Grace Tan Sumbillo is an organizational development consultant, women motivational speaker and
trainor. Being a secret lesbian in the Baptist church since college, she finally come out by writing
three books on women relationship, Naomi and Ruth, The Power of Fingering and Fingering Yourself
which is widely and freely distributed in the internet through her website with thousands of
downloads. Her fourth book Empowering Women Series is the most downloaded and popular
among young women and single mothers . Grace is in happy relationship with young professional Joy
Lim. Grace is a faculty of Bakke Graduate University in Seattle, Washington.