Boyfriend Destroyers

Author: Tyler Durden

Background - a few things to remember
1) When BFdestroying you walk a tightrope between evoking too many bad
feelings and having them anchoured to you, and getting the chick to want to
dump her BF Don!t forget that your end goal is to f"close, not to break her
up for some other dude to en#oy
$) %t is preferable that you don!t make it appear that you want her to dump
her boyfriend &ather, make the idea appear to be something from within her
'more of a (ocratic thing, than a direct thing)
)) While BFdestroying, you must direct the convo to make her prompt you
to tell her how you would treat a woman *ake her work it out of you,
because she!s worked up, and wants to know if she!s got a fair deal or not
+) ,ou must &-F&.*- all behavior to appear like insecure nice guy behavior
-ven behavior that "W-" as .(Fers would use on girls 'such as not agreeing
to /T&) is to be &-F&.*-D as being nice guy behavior, as someone who is
too afraid to be decisive and go for what they really want, since they are too
afraid that they will lose it once they!ve been emotionally vulnerable 'as will
be e0plained below) .ll behavior can be &-F&.*-D
1) By making the guy look like a 23%4- 56,2, you are making him the most
se0ually unappealing guy conceivable 7nce you!ve done this, there is
37T8%35 that he can do to get back into her good books, as you!ve put him
into a predicament where anything that he does will be interpreted by his 5F
as being insecure (o, if he!s too distant, and he makes up for it by buying
her flowers "9 he!s insecure %f he!s too needy, and he makes up for it by
getting a life "9 he!s insecure ,ou are trying to D%FF6(- his outer glossy
shell, and give the girl a window into his inner workings, so that he no longer
appears 2mysterious2 in any way ,ou make her understand him so well, that
she likes him more as a person, but no longer has any se0ual desire for him
:) &ather than re"e0plaining -;ing, %!ll #ust <uote some *r(-=+u3,4
archive, to give the basic frame that you!re working with W8%/- you are
using the stuff that %!m mentioning Without using this at the same time, my
shit is 6(-/-((>
2. ma#or point though is that if her relationship to her boyfriend was so
good, what is she doing sitting out for coffee with you? This does not need to
be stated by you %t is obvious ,our #ob is to find out what (8- wants from
you and how you plan to demonstrate that you can provide it to her through
your stories about yourself 7f course you need lots of stories about yourself
dealing with women in the same fashion that she likes to be handles herself
This stuff seeps in and makes her think of you as 2her type2 without you
even complimenting her once2 '*r(-=+u3,4)
The Tactic
What you!re looking to do here is tear the guy down to a 3%4- 56,, while
making it look like you!re actually (T%4@%35 6A F7& 8%*B ,our goal is to
make him one of those guys that a girl would go out on a date with, like as a
person, and feel bad for having to /CBF at the end of the night when he tries
to kiss her at the door
(o how do you do that? .lmost invariably, /T&s have certain problems 'which
any of you who!ve had /T&s are morbidly familiar with)>
"#ealousy related spats '@-,)
"neediness
"failure to commit or being too distant
"abusive behavior 'be it physical or mental)
"psychological withdrawal, to gain certainty in the relationship 'ie> in /T&s
each party will withdraw to see if the other will pursue periodically, to assure
themselves that the /T& is solid this is dimestore psychology, and easily
observable in any relationship)
"being irresponsible 'not holding up share of chores, etc)
"not being assertive in bed '@-,)
"being into (D* and other stuff in bed, that the girl thinks is too far out
"getting angryEfrustrated when he initiates se0, and girl is not in the mood
'@-,)
"being too predictable, not passionate
7@, there are some basic ones % will now break these down to show you how
% would roughly respond to any of these complaints, in a way that % appear to
be sticking up for the BF, but am inadvertantly BFdestroying him This is not
the sum total of the routine, but simply the raw fuel that you are employing,
while using standard FFF kinoEbodylanguageEtonality etc &emember, that
you may not necessarily want to start escalating your se0ual state, until she
is convinced that her BF is lame"ass, otherwise she may potentially realiGe
that you are trying to pull one over on her This is not the rule, but simply
something to be considered based on your evaluation of the circumstance
Jealousy:
2,ou have to understand that this guy really appreciates you, because you!re
probably the best girl that he ever got, or ever will get % know thatyou
care about this guy 'maybe sp) but there!s #ust a certain e<uilibrium where
if you!ve done this guy a favour by being with him and he!s not e<uipped to
handle it, since he knows that he!ll never get a girl like you again if he walks
out, that he!s #ust constantly frustrated and panicked that you!ll leave %t!s
not his fault2
Neediness:
2,ou!ve got to understand that for this guy you are his entire world 8e cares
about you so much, that everything else in the world is meaningless to him
,ou are his only source of pleasure, and without you he knows thathe!s
nothing ,ou can!t blame him, he #ust doesn!t have anything else going for
him, so he needs you2
Failure to commit:
2%t!s not that this guy doesn!t love you 8e does %ts #ust that deep down he
has a fear that you!re too good for him and that you!ll realiGe it and be
like, you knowyou #ust have to dump this guy and then he!ll be left
emotionally destroyed because he made himself vulnerable ,es yes % know
that you wouldn!t do that to him, but its #ust that with '0,y,G into
consideration " bring up imbalance struck earlier in the convo) he knows that
you could get other guys '(A)like me% #ust think that he!s not an
emotionally secure person, and you!ve gotta cut him some slack2
Abusive behaviour:
2%t!s not that this guy doesn!t love you %ts that he loves you too much, and
#ust can!t handle it 8e!s not emotionally available, and because he knows
that you!re the best he!s ever had, he can!t handle all of these things that
he!s going through emotionally .ll his life he probably wasn!t very good with
women, and women weren!t interested in him (o now that he!s got this girl,
he doesn!t know how to handle it 'plus use the he doesn!t want to be
emotionally vulnerable, because he!s such a loser ass that he can!t handle it
as per above etc)
eriodic sychological !ithdrawal:
2'use combinations from material %!ve written &ather than downplaying it
for the perfectly normal behaviour that it is, magnify it by making it appear
to be a sign of insecurity, that is typically displayed when nice guys who can!t
get girls get stuck into a relationship with a girl that is too good for them)2
Being "rres#onsible:
2%ts not that this guy doesn!t "want" to do these things %ts #ust that he!s so
overwhelmed by all of the things that are going on, that he #ust can!t keep up
these responsibilities ,es yes, % know that 0,y,G aren!t that much, but he!s
not in an emotionally healthy place right now, and he #ust can!t handle it
'you mirror this against yourself, the image of a &-./E(T&735E47*A-T-3T
man, basically trying to make him seem like a little boy)2
3ot being assertive in bed 'T8%( %( @-,, .3D %( ;-&, 7FT-3 T8- B-(T 73-
T7 6(- " ;-&, 47**73)
2%t!s not that he doesn!t want to e0cite you %t!s #ust that he!s so
overwhelmed being with a girl like you, that he!s not e<uipped to handle your
se0ual needs %t!s like the typical case of the rich daughter who marries the
labourer .t first the labourer is so e0static to have this gorgeous girl 'point
to her) wanting him But in the end, he cheats on her with some white trash
mullet haired girl, because he knows that that!s who he really belongs with,
and that!s who makes him feel good about himself ,ou shouldn!t hold his
lack of assertiveness in bed against him, because its #ust a reflection of his
insecurity With the right girl, any guy can be a stud in the sack its not
hard, you #ust have to take 473T&7/ 'perhaps show some controlling kino
here, to get her turned on)2 then transition to some 87T se0 talk, where you
inadvertantly spill how much you need to take control in bed
5uy into weird stuff in bed '(D* etc) when she hates it>
2%t!s not that this guy doesn!t love you %ts #ust that he uses these things to
ob#ectify you, because he knows that he!s never had a girl like you, and
probably never will once you!re gone so he doesn!t want to 2make love2,
because he doesn!t want to make himself emotionally vulnerable to you but
he still wants se0, so he has to turn it into a perverse game, to keep his
insecurities from overwhelming him2
5uy gets angry when he initiates se0 and she!s not interested '.37T8-& @-,
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2The thing is, that this guy loves you, and he!s #ust e0asperated that he!s
completely impotent to turn you on he #ust can!t turn you on, and he knows
that, so he gets frustrated %ts like when you want to have se0with
meits like, % know that its your #ob to get the girl turned on 5irls need a
man who knows that they want, and how to get it When a girl says !no!, but
at the same time she loves this guy 'sp), it often means please turn me on
more please, % want you to be more attentive to me 'this totally mindfucks
the girl, as it is an -=T&-*-/, 47**73 part of the /T& cycle, that once se0
becomes stagnant "9 foreplay nearly ceases Because chemically women are
addicted to 7=%T74%3( which are released by touch, and it is more
testosterone that they get from se0, most women will hate se0 once it
degrades to a lack of foreplay 8owever, most /T&s have this problem, so you
must e0ploit it %!m ceasely amaGed by how much girls in /T&s A-&@ &%58T
6A the second that you imply that you!re attentive even in /T&s)
Being too #redictable$ not #assionate:
2%ts not that this guy doesn!t love you 8e does %ts #ust that he!s so
comfortable with you now and feels so close to you, that you!re more like a
sister to him /ike a special sister, but someone who he doesn!t feel that he
has to do all these things for anymore, because your relationship is so secure
and so predictable there!s no need for all that e0citement, because he
knows that nothing will change (ome guys deal with true love that way %
dunno, for me, % think that if you really love someone, you have to do 0,y,G
'established earlier in convo) to keep it fresh /ike if you are really a real
man who loves his woman, you have to do 0,y,G to keep it fresh But really,
its not that he doesn!t love you, its #ust that he loves you so much that he
doesn!t see the need2
FFF(o, remember that you are focusing on destroying the guy!s se0ual
appeal, by making him seem too familiar, and easy to understand Aeople
generally get !one"itis! for those who are challenging and hard to understand
By making the BF seem both easy to understand, and very
insecureEniceEbeta in the meantime, the relationship will likely not last the
week
Cust remember not to be the /CBF who counsels her on her problems
%nstead, you are constantly getting her worked up by doing the -;ing that
*r(-=+u3,4 discusses in his archive %deally, she must be getting both
turned off the guy by what you!re doing, and getting turned on by ,76, and
the conversation 3.T6&.//, /-.D( T7 87W ,76 .&- D%FF-&-3T, .3D
"%D-./" F7& W8.T (8- W.3T( The natural flow of conversation must
indirectly lead to e0posing your highly desirable <ualities
(he is getting turned on by the D%&-4T 473T&.(T between you and her
boyfriend
,ou do not offer your <ualities directly, but highlight them by pointing out
that you understand where her BFs negative <ualities are insecure 5etting
her to beg you to tell her how you treat women is all the better, and if it is
going well can likely be e0pected .ct reluctant to tell her if necessary,
though not to the e0tent that you are sending an (7% that her getting with
you is not a program that you!re down with
7nce you have her worked up, use standard FFF material to move in, and its
a done deal