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tuck in a sexless relationship? A

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Then youre in luck: Because there is

a way to spark your partners sexual
attraction for you back up to where it
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get your partner in the mood where and whenever you
want... and to increase the pleasure you both get from
sex, far beyond what you ever dreamed possible.

This is all possible thanks to

advances in modern science
which singled out a handful
of Pleasure Chemicals in
your brain, which control your
sexual arousal.

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get into bed, its passionate...
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You dont need a Ph.D. in

Psychology or Biology either.
Ive done all the hard work
Thanks to this discovery -
for you. Simply follow these
paired with some basic human 6 instructions to trigger one
biology - you can now trigger
- or more - of the Pleasure
your partners sexual arousal
Chemicals. (Ive included a
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COMPETE

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Boosts her Dopamine - Responsible for Mood, Sexual

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to happen. And yes, most of the time it is. HOWEVER
- Fun competition boosts competitive chemicals like
Dopamine to their absolute limits.
And when her Dopamine is high, her mood is great... her
attention is focused on you... your attention seems like a reward...
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(Which means shes easier to turn on, and even easier to drive to
amazing heights of pleasure)
The way you build HEALTHY competition is simple:
You want to compete with games, not with real life problems.
Which means you should view this competition as a date you do,
together. Instead of something youre really trying to win.

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 Couples adventure race - Usara.com - This is a little
known resource Ive found really exciting for both me and
Anna. Its competitive, cooperative, and a whole lot of fun.
WARNING: May not be for everyone.
 Join a sports league... on the same team - Try joining local
soccer, basketball or touch football leagues. Even bowling
is a great way to get her Dopamine up. Remember - you
simply want a physical activity she can enjoy, and try to win!
 Stuck at a bar? Try doing this: When youre on a date with
your girlfriend, and some friends drag you to a bar, try
playing trivia... or shooting pool. You simply want something
competitive, to spark her inner competitive spirit. Which
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My favorite way in the whole wide world?
Thumb wrestling. Hot hands. Childrens board games. Fun
games that dont mean much, so winning isnt insulting to
the loser. You can use time youd usually waste - like waiting
in line, or riding the subway - to build a stronger sexual
relationship with you and your partner. Just throw in one of
these quick, childish games.

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Boosts her Norepinephrine - Produces a sense of

Well Being, Euphoria and Hyper Arousal.

orepinephrine
stimulates the
emotional and the
cognitive centers of your
brain. This simply means
it can trigger emotions as
well as thoughts. And doing
this double duty means its
guaranteed to come out when
youre being Nostalgic.
Also known as thinking about
awesome times in your past.
The good news is: The more
of this chemical you can

trigger in your partner, the

more they literally feel good.
Just good about themselves...
good about you... good about
life in general. And in high
doses it produces a state
called Hyper Arousal. Which
is exactly what it sounds like.
The best way to get your
partner to feel nostalgic is
simply taking them back to
places which had special
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These are all great places to go back to. And while youre
hanging out at these places, remember to walk your partner
through that day, step by step:
* Tell them what you were feeling... what made you act / do the
things you did... etc....
* Order the same food you ordered that day, or get the DJ to play
the same song...
* Invite the same people to the same place with you...
And in general, try to recreate the experience in real life, like it
was in your memories.
The sights... the sounds... the tastes... the music... the
textures... the stronger they match your old memories, the more
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hyper-arousal.

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TOUCH HER
THIS WAY AFTER

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ot all sexual arousal techniques take place BEFORE you

have sex with your partner. In fact, if your goal is to have
hotter sex, more often, this may be the perfect technique
for you:

After sex, ask your partner to lay face down on your bed. And
straddle the backs of their upper thighs.
Place one thumb on each side of your partners lower spine. And
then - using the pad of your thumb (not the tip!) - massage slow,
small circles into the muscle in their lower back. Rotate outwards, so
youre drawing tension away from their spine.
Slowly move your massaging up further and further up their spine.
By the time you reach their neck and the place where the spine
meets their head... your partners Oxytocin level will be through the
roof.

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 First, its released whenever you have sex with your partner.
So your partners levels will already be high.
 Second, its released during physical contact with your
partner. The more, the better. And the more sensual, the
better.

o a relaxing, post-sex massage is exactly what you need

to spike your partners levels for next time. Or to make
your partner initiate another, hotter, round of action. (This
is especially great for women who need a little extra stimulation
to get off - massage your partner like this, and shell be ready
for more intimate time - quickly!)

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ROLE-PLAY
With Your Partner...

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opamine isnt just a feel good chemical - it can also be used

to program or train good behavior into people. The way it
works is really simple: Make your partner do something you
like, and then give them dopamine.
Its as simple as that.
A great way to train your partner without being controlling is
through Role-Playing. Most men and women like it, as a sexual
experiment. And it can be incredibly empowering for your sex life,
no matter what issue you want to solve. Just pick a role-play that
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Role-play them in a powerful, sexual scenario. Great role-plays
include doctor / patient and teacher / student.

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Simply take the above role-plays, and play the power role
yourself. Or use some light bondage - like handcuffs or ribbon
ties. (Try the Wish from JimmyJane - www.jimmyjane.com)
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Try a riskier role-play (i.e. some scenario where your partner
is given complete control). Forced sex role-plays are highly
emotional, but theyre also for only the most experienced couples.
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of you in a power position AND theres implied anger emotions
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something new.
And this extra, increased dopamine will train your partner to act
that way in the future. The more you try it, the better it works.

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EXPERIMENT
TOGETHER...

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f youre looking for a more comfortable, romantic partner, then

its a certain TYPE of Dopamine boost youre looking to trigger.
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TOGETHER - towards a common goal.
Now, you could do this in many different ways. Such as working
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competition also drives up her testosterone. Which, as well see
in a minute, is great for short term arousal.) However, that burst
cools down after a few hours.
When youre learning new things together, however, the burst
happens again and again - every time she does the new thing
you learned. So something as simple as taking baking classes
together... learning how to play guitar together... even learning a
new language together...

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All give her dose after dose of romance inducing chemicals, time
and time again!
Use these new skills when youre together, alone, and you trigger a
more romantic attitude in your partner. For example:

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your woman proud of you, and turn her on (all the other women
will want you.) If youre a woman, your guy will feed off the sexual
energy of the mostly-woman class (getting him ready and charged
up for you, later).
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Bake together when youre alone. Or bake something for your
partner. Or have them bake a treat for you. A few sweets together,
and itll be time to share something else sweet, together, too.

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already. And the guitar can be such a passionate instrument. Not
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physically help your partner learn better.

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Play for each other, for no reason at all. Or cook her a meal and
serenade her with music. Or write your partner a song. These all trigger
that dopamine, as well as a kind, bonding attitude in your partner.

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Spanish... Italian... French... even Russian, when you pick up some
new phrases. Find out what language your partners always wanted
to learn, and then spring for classes for the two of you.
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Learn some naughty phrases, as soon as you can! And share them with
your partner. This way, you can whisper what youd like to do to each
other, in public. While no one knows what youre whispering about...
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When youve mastered basic conversation... or basic enough to share
with your partner... tell them I Love You in your second language. Or
whisper non-sexual secrets to each other, in public. (A great idea: Talk
smack about other people to your partner, or make jokes about them.
Youll create those inside joke feelings - which usually take years to
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THE 2-WEEK

SEX LIFE-SAVING
PLAN...

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f your sex life is in a rut... or... you want to increase the passion
between you and your partner... or... you simply want to have the best
sex you and your partner have ever had together, heres your two- week
plan for making it happen:

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Stop all sexual contact for three full days. This pools chemicals like
dopamine... testosterone... and norepinephrine in her system. And gives
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Two things to note:
1. There is no contact allowed here. No kissing - nothing. You can touch each
other non-sexually, but this is it. (Make sure you tease each other, verbally).
2. You must let them know WHY youre stopping the contact. Otherwise, youll
just feel cold and distant. Bring it up as if in a game. And tell them, I want
to try this new thing out, sexually. Lets see how much tension we can build
between each other. I heard it will make our sex incredible!

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%2186 To tease them even more,

only tell them whats happening
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would say, OK - For three days,
we can only touch each other non-
sexually, or tease each other with
words. No kissing either!

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they try to tempt you into breaking
the rules. This adds an extra
element of tension.

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Spend your third night making out like youre both back in high school.
No sexual touching. And no taking each others clothes off. But you get to
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out.
It seems like a great idea at the time... and... it will spike your partners
chemicals. But its also going to add a whole bunch of new tension. So be
ready for some hot and heavy days to come!

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Wait two days. Again, tease your partner mercilessly. Remind them how
good it felt to kiss them the other night. And tell them all the things you
wanted to do, but couldnt. As well as all the ways youre going to please
them, once youve reached the next stage in this game.

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On the 2nd night, you can touch each other sensually again. One rule - no
contact on the genitals. This means you can give massages, and touch
each others skin... but nothing sexual. And nothing near the genitals. Feel
free to take your time with this night, and end it by going to sleep in each
others arms.

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Wait another two days. On the 2nd night, you can kiss each others skin,
as well as touch and massage it. But yet again, nothing on the genitals.

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Wait one more day. And one more night. And on the second afternoon,
break the game wide open. Set aside time to spend with each other,
intimately. But surprise your partner by starting early, jumping them
because you cant stand waiting any longer.

his is a simple strategy yet... because of your partners

body chemistry... its guaranteed to light your sexual
spark again. And give you some of the greatest sex
youve ever had in your relationship.

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FINAL TIP
(FOR MEN)

ince youre waiting for two weeks, without having sex -

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solve this. And women, if youre reading, you can guide
your man towards these pointers, as well:
)LUVWuse lots of foreplay. And make your woman beg for sex.
These two things alone will drive her emotional level up so high,
shes going to orgasm the second you put it in her. REMEMBER
- The more teasing and foreplay you do BEFORE sex, the
sooner and stronger your woman orgasms during sex.
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as possible. Tension is what drives you to orgasm - its your
natural response as a man to tense up and stop breathing when
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not in this scrumptious two week cycle :-)

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