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INTRODUCTION
In the first semester, fellows have been immersed in several intensive processes, including
field support, village immersion, classroom training, etc. They have also been living in teams
and have started working through various differences and conflicts that arise. For many
fellows, these months have also been months of intense churning as they live away from their
homes and friends for the first time, or as they find themselves expected to explain their life
choices to friends and family members.
The second semesters Self-Discovery workshops seek to create a moment of pause and self
reflection -- a space for fellows to look more closely at themselves and their experiences,
think about the issues they are passionate about, and evaluate themselves on the leadership
skills they already possess or wish to develop. At the same time, the workshops focus on the
block teams as a space for collective reflection and growth; in the process of self-disclosure
and group feedback, as well as in creating shared agreements for their relationships to one
another, fellow teams are expected to deepen their relationships and build their capacity to
support one anothers growth. Finally, the sessions aim not only to create reflective spaces
but also to help fellows build skills such as Appreciative Inquiry, Dialogic Listening, which
will prove crucial to the harmonious functioning of fellow teams, and later to fellows
capacity to lead social change processes in the world.
None of the sessions here require a PL or external resource person to facilitate the session.
However, it is highly recommended that a program leader be around to support some of the
sessions, particularly Session 6, which might bring up uncomfortable feelings for some
participants. It has also been recommended that sessions 5 and 6 take place in a larger group,
combining 2 or more blocks, because they are much more effective with more participants.
The program leaders and FC would need to plan for the same wherever it is possible.
For each session, the LC Executive is encouraged to read the design a week beforehand and
clarify any questions with the block PL or the location FC. The presence of block PLs is not
required for these sessions; however, the PL may choose to sit in on sessions (as a participant
rather than as a facilitator) in order to understand the fellows journeys and be able to
participate in a similar journey along with them. In either case, the PL should follow up with
the LC executive and the fellows afterward so as to address any lingering questions or
emotions that the session might bring up for fellows in subsequent days and weeks.
1.
Open: Things we know about ourselves and others in the group know about us. This
is the information about the person -- behavior, attitude, feelings, emotion,
knowledge, experience, skills, views, etc. -- known by the person ('the self') and
known by the group ('others'). Participants should put down everything they can think
of about themselves that the group knows, from their favorite food or TV show to an
important dream or skill.
2.
Hidden: The Hidden Johari region represents what is known to ourselves but kept
hidden from, and therefore unknown to, others. This hidden or avoided self represents
information, feelings, or anything else that a person knows about him/herself, but
which is not revealed or is kept hidden from others. The hidden area could also
include sensitivities, fears, hidden agendas, secrets -- anything that a person knows
but does not reveal, for whatever reason. As participants fill out this information,
remind them that the handout is confidential and that they will not be required to
show their sheets of paper to anyone.
After participants have filled out these two areas, facilitator shares that the aim in any group
should always be to develop the 'open area' for every person, because when we work in this
area with others we are at our most effective and productive, and the group is at its most
productive too. By telling others how we feel and other information about ourselves we
reduce the hidden area, and increase the open area, which enables better understanding,
cooperation, trust, team-working effectiveness and productivity. Reducing hidden areas also
reduces the potential for confusion, misunderstanding, poor communication, etc, which all
distract from and undermine team effectiveness. Further, by opening our hidden areas to
others, we invite them into our lives and build trust.
Participants are asked to look at their hidden quadrant and choose one thing they are
willing to share with the group. The extent to which an individual discloses personal feelings
and information, and the issues which are disclosed, and to whom, must always be at the
individual's own discretion. If some participants are hesitant to share deeply personal
information, they should simply be asked What is one thing about you that we dont yet
know but that would make our group work better for you?. The answer could be as simple as
I like having an hour of time to myself in the mornings before we go to school or I have a
hard time being open with others and would prefer not to be pushed too hard. This should
take about 15 minutes.
Part 2
Participants are then introduced to the second half of the quadrant -- the things that we do not
know about ourselves. The Blind quadrant is for information about a person that is known
to others in the group, but is unknown to the person him/herself. This blind area is not an
effective or productive space for individuals or groups.
The Unknown quadrant represents things that neither the individual nor the group knows (it
might represent things like an ability that is underestimated or untried through lack of
Next, the team collectively makes a best practices chart based on what each person shared
about how the team was able to achieve its goals and work at its best. The chart seeks to
document behaviors that the group feels has most enabled its success in the past.
This chart should later be displayed prominently in a location where team members are likely
to see it on a regular basis and check in with themselves about the extent to which the group
is following through on these behaviors.
The team then looks at the chart and designs ways of working together to actualize those
behaviors and continue building on team strengths or starting something new that is desired
by the group. For example, if the team has listed Continue being open with each other as
one of their processes, they might decide to create a buddy system where fellows check in on
each other regularly outside of large group spaces. Another team might decide to meet every
Friday to discuss where they are in terms of HM workshops or goals that they need to achieve
by end of the month.
Debrief and Homework
Fellows can have a short discussion around the following questions:
What is the one unexpected/surprising aspect of your group that you learnt through this
activity?
What was the one surprising aspect of yourself that you learnt?
Later, fellows can be asked to follow up on the activity by examining who was the most
proactive in taking forward the decisions they came to as a group, or by revisiting their chart
at various points in the semester.
AI is the search for the best in people, their organizations, and the world around them. It
involves systematic discovery of what gives life to an organization, community, when it is
most effective and capable in economic, ecological, and human terms. In AI, intervention
gives way to inquiry, imagination, and innovation. Instead of negation, criticism, and
spiraling diagnosis, there is discovery, dream, and design. AI involves the art and practice of
asking unconditionally positive questions that strengthen a systems positive capacity to
apprehend, anticipate, and heighten positive potential. Through mass mobilized inquiry,
hundreds and even thousands of people can be involved in co-creating their collective future.
AI assumes that every organization and community has many untapped and rich accounts of
the positive what people talk about as past, present, and future capacities, or the positive
core.
We often ignore the positive core of organizations. Yet one thing is clear: Human systems
grow in the direction of what they persistently ask questions about. (9)
When you inquire into the positive core of the organization, an organization enhances its
collective wisdom, builds energy and resiliency to change, and extends its capacity to achieve
extraordinary results. (10) You can map the positive core in workshops! Instead of problem
analysis, you do positive core analysis. This is at the heart of positive change.
Problem-solving approaches are slow, painful, backward looking, and poor at resulting in
new vision; instead they generate defensiveness. In AI, we look at the root cause of success.
You look at what works well when the organization is at its best.
At the heart of AI is the appreciative interview, a one-on-one dialogue among organization
members and stakeholders using questions related to high point experiences, valuing, and
what gives life to the organization at its best. (14) Questions include:
Describe a time in your organization when you consider a high point experience, a
time when you were most engaged and felt alive and vibrant
Without being modest, tell me what you most value about yourself, your work, and
your organization
What are the core factors that give life to your organization when it is at its best?
Imagine your organization 10 years from now, when everything is just as you
always wished it could be. What is different? How have you contributed to this dream
organization?
The appreciative inquiry 4-D cycle:
AI is a narrative-based process of positive change. It is a cycle of activity that starts by
engaging all members of an organization or community in a broad set of interviews and deep
dialogue about strengths, resources, and capabilities. It then moves people through a series of
activities focusing in envisioning bold possibilities and lifting up the most life-centric dreams
for the future. From there, it asks people to discuss and craft propositions that will guide their
future together. And finally, it involves the formation of teams to carry out the work needed to
realize the new dreams and the designs for the future. (15)
Over the next ten minutes, the Speaker tells the Listener about the situation, and the Listener
attempts to apply the principles and practices of Dialogic Listening in order to deepen the
conversation. The Scribes take notes on the interaction, noting places where the Listener is
able to embody a particular aspect of Dialogic Listening as well as places where the Listeners
could improve this skill.
Note: If a particular fellow cannot come up with any situation, they can chose the following
prompt: Think about a day over the past month when you felt frustrated or otherwise unable
to fulfill your work objectives at school. Start by telling the Listener what happened.
At the end of ten minutes, the conversation is stopped, and the Speaker begins by telling the
Listener what she or he most appreciated about the conversation. The Speaker then mentions
one area where the Listener could improve their practice of Dialogic Listening.
Next, the scribes offer feedback to the Listeners, again starting from what the Listener is
already doing well and then offering suggestions for an area of improvement. Throughout,
Listeners are asked only to take in the feedback, without responding to it. Together, this
should take an additional 10 minutes.
Roles are then switched, with different people taking on the roles of Speaker and Listener,
and the rest are scribes. The process is repeated until each person has had a chance to play
both roles and has given and received feedback on their listening. Each pair gets a total of 20
minutes, 10 for the conversation and 10 for feedback.
Participants are then given 15 minutes to write down their personal responses to the following
questions:
What did you learn about yourself as a listener today?
Which aspect of dialogic listening is easiest for you to practice? Why?
Which aspect of dialogic listening is hardest for you to practice? Why?
Based on your learning today and on the feedback you have received, what are three
concrete steps you can take to become a better dialogic listener?
The group then debriefs around the following questions:
What concrete steps can each of us take to become a better dialogic listener?
What practices or policies can we agree upon as a group to create an atmosphere of better
dialogic listening?
Note to the Facilitator
The most important point for this activitys success is that the feedback should be based on
the Dialogic Listening handout rather than on a fellows personal views about the Listener. If
the feedback veers off from the principles and practices discussed in the handout, the LC
executive must bring the focus of the conversation back to the handout. Needless to say, the
LC executive must thoroughly familiarize herself or himself with the handout in order to do
this!
It is also possible that some participants resist the technique on the grounds that it is too
technical and listening should be an organic process. Acknowledge that they are right -listening should be an organic process. However, point out that we can also develop our
capacities and improve our skill sets around many things that should be organic, such as
leadership, empathy, relationship building, etc. Suggest that participants treat these exercises
as a scaffold -- once the building has been constructed, one can do away with the scaffolding,
but theres no way to build without one; similarly, once you have mastered the skill, you can
do away with the technical aspects of the handout, but the technical aspects are a useful tool
for mastering the skills.
When listening to people, we are often either distracted or focusing more on what we will say
in response to them than on what they are saying (surely weve all had the experience of
coming up with rebuttals or comments even before the other person has finished what theyre
saying!). Active listening was developed as a structured way of listening and responding to
others. It stresses putting one's self in another's place, with the goal of effectively
understanding and accurately interpreting another's meanings.
Dialogic Listening takes this one step further, arguing that meaning is created in the space
between two people. Rather than assuming that the speaker comes to the conversation with a
clear idea that the listener only needs to understand, this approach focuses on speaker and
listener making sense of an experience or idea together. Advocates of Dialogic Listening
argue that it is impossible for us to actually get inside another's mind, or even to actually set
aside our own perspectives and emotions, but we can develop the ability to understand each
other better through the process of interaction and communication.
What does Dialogic Listening entail in practice?
The most important element in applying dialogic listening is the participant's attitude. The
dialogic listener must stay focused on staying present, and on the open-ended process they
are jointly creating. Dialogic listening occurs when these attitudes are coupled with the
following techniques:
1. Dialogic listeners should encourage each other to say more, to further explore and
explicate their views and questions. The authors find that requests to "say more" seldom
produce mere repetition, and generally produces greater clarity and detail.
2. Dialogic listeners should also use, extend, and share metaphors. Such use of metaphors is
typical of the softer style of thinking, which this approach seeks to foster. Exploring
metaphors can help to reveal new perspectives on an issue or situation.
3. Dialogic listening also makes use of paraphrasing. The authors recommend asking one's
conversation partner to paraphrase one's comments. Dialogic listeners use paraphrasing
not just to repeat what the other said but also to interpret and respond. Again, the goal
here is to keep the conversation open and focused on the interaction.
4. The authors also encourage dialogic listeners to explore the context of each other's
claims. Explore the circumstances and desires which surround ideas, feelings and
opinions. Filling out the context facilitates shared understanding. 1
Im still not sure how to apply these principles! Can you give me an example?
Lets take the example of a conversation between two fellows, A and B. A has just come back
from a difficult day at school, and B wants to engage A in a conversation about whats wrong.
A: Some days, it really doesnt feel like any of this work is worth it.
B: Whats going on?
A: Same old thing. I keep talking to the HM about fear-free classrooms, but it feels like
we are getting nowhere.
B: Tell me more.
Stewart, John, and Milt Thomas. "Dialogic Listening: Sculpting Mutual Meanings," in Bridges Not Walls, ed.
John Stewart, 6th edition, (New York: McGraw- Hill, 1995), pp. 184-201.
A: Well, last week, I was very upset because I saw one of the teachers hitting students
regularly. I tried taking it up with him directly, but he didnt seem to be interested in
talking about it. So I brought it up with the headmaster, and he said hed look into it.
But today, the same teacher slapped a Class 2 student for forgetting her textbook at
home. And when I mentioned this to him and to the headmaster, they just told me that
children need to be disciplined and that I wouldnt understand. It just feels like all this
talking about fear-free classrooms makes no difference.
B: Yes, I know what you mean. Sometimes, this whole process of behavior change can
feel like banging ones head against a wall.
A: Not just any wall. A solid concrete wall thats ten feet high and surrounds you on all 4
sides.
B: And the space youre in keeps shrinking as the walls come closer together.
A: Exactly. It feels so claustrophobic sometimes. Like theres no room for
experimentation or growth.
B: Hmm, thats interesting. So it sounds like you arent just getting annoyed with the fact
that your efforts arent bearing fruit -- youre also feeling stifled in terms of the space
thats available to you within the school. Is that an accurate sense of how youre
feeling?
A: I dont know about stifled; maybe thats too strong a word. But yes, I think youre
right. Its not just about whether the Headmaster is listening to me but also about my
sense that maybe I dont have the freedom to create as much change as I thought I
could when I came into the fellowship.
B: Do you think this is coming just from todays incident, or is there a broader context to
this feeling?
A: Oh, its definitely broader. I think Ive felt this way since The Village Immersion,
actually. I came in with such big dreams of what I would do within these two years, but
sometimes I feel so helpless looking at the complexity of the problems that exist. I
know thats part of the process of becoming a change leader, but some days, everything
just feels so overwhelming, like I dont even know where to begin.
B: Yes, I understand. And I think thats what happens when were really passionate about
change. It becomes hard to sit by and watch how slowly things happen sometimes.
A: I guess its about patience, huh? Celebrating the small victories and being patient with
the bigger struggles. I suppose it is too much to expect a teacher to change 35 years of
learned behavior in just a few months!
This conversation could go on a lot longer, but just from this excerpt, notice the following
applications of Dialogic Listening.
A: Same old thing. I keep talking to the HM about fear-free classrooms, but it feels like we
are getting nowhere.
B: Tell me more.
A: Well, last week, I was very upset because I saw one of the teachers hitting students
regularly. I tried taking it up with him directly, but he didnt seem to be interested in
talking about it. So I brought it up with the headmaster, and he said hed look into it.
But today, the same teacher slapped a Class 2 student for forgetting her textbook at
home. And when I mentioned this to him and to the headmaster, they just told me that
children need to be disciplined and that I wouldnt understand. It just feels like all this
talking about fear-free classrooms makes no difference.
When A first mentions her struggle, B doesnt jump to conclusions about why shes feeling
that way, nor does B simply tell her to cheer up. Instead, B asks for more details and lets A
get to heart of what is upsetting her.
B: Yes, I know what you mean. Sometimes, this whole process of behavior change can feel
like banging ones head against a wall.
A: Not just any wall. A solid concrete wall thats ten feet high and surrounds you on all 4
sides.
B: And the space youre in keeps shrinking as the walls come closer together.
A: Exactly. It feels so claustrophobic sometimes. Like theres no room for experimentation
or growth.
Once A has explained her situation, B introduces a metaphor to try and take the conversation
further. A chooses to accept the metaphor and build upon it, and B builds further upon As
expansion of the metaphor. By the fourth statement, this metaphor has allowed A to come to a
clearer sense of her emotions -- the focus has shifted from frustration to claustrophobia.
B: Hmm, thats interesting. So it sounds like you arent just getting annoyed with the fact
that your efforts arent bearing fruit -- youre also feeling stifled in terms of the space
thats available to you within the school. Is that an accurate sense of how youre
feeling?
A: I dont know about stifled; maybe thats too strong a word. But yes, I think youre right.
Its not just about whether the Headmaster is listening to me but also about my sense
that maybe I dont have the freedom to create as much change as I thought I could
when I came into the fellowship.
In this section, B brings the metaphor back into real life by offering an interpretation of what
A just said. Rather than assuming that he already understands As perspective, however, B
asks A if his paraphrasing is accurate. A uses that opportunity to reflect on Bs interpretation
and clarify how shes feeling and what she meant by the metaphor.
B: Do you think this is coming just from todays incident, or is there a broader context to
this feeling?
A: Oh, its definitely broader. I think Ive felt this way since The Village Immersion,
actually. I came in with such big dreams of what I would do within these two years, but
sometimes I feel so helpless looking at the complexity of the problems that exist. I know
thats part of the process of becoming a change leader, but some days, everything just
feels so overwhelming, like I dont even know where to begin.
B: Yes, I understand. And I think thats what happens when were really passionate about
change. It becomes hard to sit by and watch how slowly things happen sometimes.
A: I guess its about patience, huh? Celebrating the small victories and being patient with
the bigger struggles. I suppose it is too much to expect a teacher to change 35 years of
learned
behavior
in
just
a
few
months!
Now that B has a clearer sense of how A is feeling, he introduces a question to broaden the
discussion from this particular moment to the larger context. In the process, A is able to locate
her feelings of frustration and helplessness within her broader set of experiences and come to
a better sense of why this particular moment has been such a trigger.
Once again, B responds by paraphrasing As words through his own interpretation of the
moment, thereby helping A to see her feelings in context and feel more at peace.
One more time, tell me how to practice dialogic listening.
First, just talk more. Make time for conversation. Ask the other person to say more
about what they are thinking. Look for clarity and detail. Offer likewise and listen
to their requests for information. If you ask them to talk more, they will also
become more interested in you and a comfortable balance of speaking and listening
will emerge.
Use metaphor. Ask 'What is it like?' Take the thinking into other worlds and explore
how things might work out there. Then wonder how to bring the ideas found there
back into the 'real world'.
Use paraphrasing and otherwise reflect back to the other person what you are
hearing and seeing. Show them their selves in the mirror of you. Discuss what you
perceive and what leads you to these conclusions.
Explore what you discover about one another. Wonder together what is happening
between you and the locus and dynamics of your shared understanding. Wander
together through each others thoughts, emotions, needs and goals, preferences,
beliefs, values, and so on.
Above all, remember that the conversation does not seek to dig hard but to encircle
and play with concepts, using metaphor and other expanding methods. The focus is
on the here and now of what is going on between the people rather than what is going
on in one person's mind or what was or what might be. 2
When I try to practice dialogic listening, people tell me that they just dont get the
impression that I really want to understand. What could I be doing that gives them such
an impression?
Madelyn Burley-Allen offers these guidelines for listening:
1. Be attentive. Be interested. Be alert and not distracted. Create a positive atmosphere
through nonverbal behavior.
2. Be a sounding board -- allow the speaker to bounce ideas and feelings off you.
3. Don't ask a lot of questions. They can give the impression you are "grilling" the
speaker.
4. Act like a mirror -- reflect back what you think the speaker is saying and feeling.
5. Don't discount the speaker's feelings by using stock phrases like "It's not that bad," or
"You'll feel better tomorrow."
From http://changingminds.org/techniques/listening/dialogic_listening.htm
6.
7.
8.
Don't let the speaker "hook" you. This can happen if you get angry or upset, allow
yourself to get involved in an argument, or pass judgment on the other person.
Indicate you are listening by
Invitations to say more, e.g., "Tell me about it," "I'd like to hear about that."
Follow good listening "ground rules:"
Don't interrupt.
Don't interrogate.
Don't teach.
Do reflect back to the speaker what you understand and how you think the
speaker feels 3
Are there any other barriers to good listening that I should be aware of
The following thoughts and behaviors could get in the way of your ability to listen to the
person across from you:
Thinking about your own experience (The same thing happened to me!) when you
should be listening to the other persons
Thinking about something quite different whilst the other person is talking
Thinking about what to say back
Feeling self-conscious or anxious in the situation
Working out some advice to give, based on you own personal experience
Judging the person, either positively or negatively: Surely you didnt want to do that! or
I think you were right to say that.
Deep cultural issues
Ignorance and prejudice4
Remember, listening is a muscle and, like any other muscle, it also takes time and
energy to develop. Commit to practicing this skill on a regular basis rather than
worrying too much about getting it right the first time.
Salem, Richard. "Empathic Listening." Beyond Intractability. Eds. Guy Burgess and Heidi Burgess. Conflict
Research Consortium, University of Colorado, Boulder. Posted: July 2003 <http://www.beyondintractability.org/
essay/empathic_listening/>
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then present their scenes (one per participant) to the rest of the group, and the group has to
guess which red flag each scene pertains to.
The debrief for this exercise is a group discussion focused around the following questions:
What does this exercise teach you about yourself?
How could anticipating your emotional reactions to certain situations help? Now that you
have identified some of your red flags, are there any steps you can/ would like to take to
manage those emotions constructively?
What are the advantages of knowing the red flags of your group members? Now that you
know some of their red flags, are there any steps you can/ would like to take that might help
you work more harmoniously together?
Notes to the Facilitator
In some groups, it might be important to also open a discussion about whether a situation will
always make me angry and how I choose to express that anger. For instance, if a fellow says
Im very angry when I see a teacher hit a child or Witnessing sexist abuse makes me
angry, it is important to acknowledge that such anger is necessary and important -- the aim
of the exercise is not to suggest that we shouldnt become angry. Similarly, if someone says
I switch off when someone speaks to me disrespectfully, it is important to acknowledge that
as a natural reaction for this individual.
At the same time, it is important to stress that we must each take responsibility for the
emotions we feel and find the most constructive ways of dealing with them; we cannot
always change how others behave, at least not immediately, but we need to manage our own
emotions and use them wisely. If need be, fellows can brainstorm together about ways in
which to deal with these situations and emotions the next time they arise.
Care must also be taken to ensure that the activity does not become a space for personalized
attack. For example, if a fellow response to What kinds of situations/ things/ people irritate
you? by saying People like XYZ fellow, the facilitator must intervene. In such a situation,
the fellow offering this response can be asked to think about specific behaviors that they find
irritating rather than naming individuals because this is more productive for all involved.
Poverty
Gender
Violence
Corruption
The facilitator continues this process until the group runs out of issues and can also add some
that the group may have left out. No issues importance should be judged or debated at this
point; everything should be put on the sheets. By the end of this process, there should be at
least 30 issues on charts or newspaper sheets.
Each participant is then given small sheets of paper (half an A4 sheet each) and asked to write
a personal story of an experience related to 1-3 of the issues on the charts. The facilitator
emphasizes the importance of focusing not on opinions but on personal stories and
experiences. Participants are given the option of putting their names on the sheets or choosing
to write anonymously (the anonymity of the exercise can, of course, only really be
maintained if the activity is being done in the large group).
While the participants are writing, the facilitator puts the charts on the walls of the room and
makes sure tape is available at various places in the room. As the time for the writing ends,
participants are requested to paste their stories into the corresponding quadrants on the charts
around the room (for example, if I wrote a personal story about gender, I need to walk up to
the chart with the gender quadrant and paste my story within it). This activity is done in
silence.
When everyone has finished this exercise, participants are asked to walk around the room,
reading each of the stories. They are encouraged to do this alone and in silence, paying
attention to the thoughts and feelings that arise as they read each story. If participants are
tending to collect in a particular corner of the room, they should be gently encouraged to
spread out and get a sense of as many stories as possible.
The debrief for this activity should begin with a general feel check; the experience of reading
so many stories of the people in the room can be a powerful and emotionally overwhelming
exercise for some people. The group may express surprise at the range of issues experienced
by participants in the room, and in such cases, they should be gently reminded that the room
represents a microcosm of society and the issues of the world beyond the room will always be
part of any room they are in. This can be an important awareness they should carry into their
future work (for instance, whenever I am talking to a room of people, I should assume that
people in the room have experienced various kinds of violence and difficulty associated with
the many issues that exist in society. This awareness allows me to create a safer and more
respectful space for my various stakeholders).
Activity
Fellows are asked to sit on the floor in two horizontal lines, one for the men and one for the
women, facing each other. If there are significantly fewer men than women, or vice versa,
they are asked to spread themselves out so that, even if there isnt one man facing every
woman, everyone can see and hear at least some of the others clearly.
The facilitator announces that she/ he is going to call out a series of statements that the
fellows will complete. In the first round, only the women will speak, and the men will listen.
In a second round, the men will speak and the women will listen. The responses do not have
to come in any order but can simply be shouted out, and each fellow can give as many
responses as she or he wants.
The facilitator reminds the fellows of the importance of confidentiality and deep listening.
Fellows are then asked to look at the person across from them and take a deep breath.
The facilitator begins with a set of statements for the women to fill. These are:
One thing I am proud of as a woman is...
One thing I never want a man to say to me is...
One thing I never want a man to do to me is...
One thing I need from my male allies is...
One thing I want you to know about women is...
The facilitator waits until there are at least 6-8 responses for each statement before moving on
the the next one. If need be, the facilitator can repeat a statement a few times for more
responses.
At the end of this exercise, the women and men are separated into two groups, and each
group is asked to share amongst themselves the feelings and thoughts that came up for them
in the course of the exercise. Ideally, each group would have a facilitator of the same gender
as the group, but if this is not possible, it is okay for the groups to just share emotions at this
time. Allow about 10 minutes for this conversation.
The groups then come back together in the same horizontal lines. The facilitator explains that
this time the men will have a chance to speak and the women will have a chance to listen.
The responses do not have to come in any order but can simply be shouted out, and each
fellow can give as many responses as he wants.
The facilitator begins the same set of statements, adapted for the men to fill. These are:
One thing I am proud of as a man is...
One thing I never want a woman to say to me is...
One thing I never want a woman to do to me is...
One thing I need from my female allies is...
One thing I want you to know about men is...
The facilitator waits until there are at least 6-8 responses for each statement before moving on
the the next one. If need be, the facilitator can repeat a statement a few times for more
responses.
At the end of this exercise, the women and men are again separated into two groups, and each
group is asked to share amongst themselves the feelings and thoughts that came up for them
in the course of the exercise. Ideally, each group would have a facilitator of the same gender
as the group, but if this is not possible, it is okay for the groups to just share emotions at this
time. Allow about ten minutes for this conversation.
The larger group is then brought together and broken up first into pairs or threes, with each
small group having at least one man and one woman in it. In these small groups, participants
share some of the highlights of the discussions that happened in the single-gender groups.
Allow an additional ten minutes for this conversation.
The larger group is now brought together again, and the facilitator starts by asking about
feelings. Some possible debrief questions are:
What was the most difficult statement for you to make? Why?
What was the most difficult statement to hear? Why?
What did you learn about yourself and the experiences of people of your gender through
this exercise?
What did you learn about people of the opposite gender through this exercise?
What is one statement you heard today based on which you can take action?
From feelings, the facilitator moves the conversation to thoughts and ideas, specifically in
response to the questions never want a
to say to me, never want a
to do to me,
and one thing I need from my allies. Fellows are asked what they heard their peers of the
opposite gender asking from them (rather than what they want from the opposite gender -this has already been expressed). Allow time for indepth conversation around these issues,
and allow fellows to clarify and nuance one anothers understanding. For instance, if a man
says, I heard the women saying that we should never touch them, ask the women if they
meant never or if they would like to add a nuance to this. If a woman says, Well, I dont
think its about never being able to touch us; I think its about the kind of touch and about
asking permission, ask her to clarify what she means. Because this conversation happens so
seldom in our society, push fellows to explain in as much detail as they can, and challenge
them to practice the skills of dialogic listening throughout this conversation. Allow 30-40
minutes for this conversation.
Finally, stress that not all women want the same things, and not all men want the same things.
These broad gender-based wishes or needs are also influenced by a range of other factors,
including personality, family, class, religion, rural-urban background, etc. It is therefore
important for us to have this conversation in more depth with the individuals we are working
with regularly.
At this point, the larger group should break up into the various block-level groups. Each
individual fellow is asked to share more with the smaller group about what they need from
each other in this regard. Each fellow group then comes up with a set of guidelines for their
block to practice greater gender sensitivity. Examples of such guidelines might be:
As a woman, I will recognize that it might be much harder for my male colleagues to
express emotions than it is for me, and I will work hard to create safe spaces for them.
As a man, I will ask permission before hugging a woman in my group.
As a group, we will not judge either the women or the men as too emotional or too
sensitive in any situation but will strive to understand the emotions they are expressing.
While the block groups are devising their plans of action, the facilitator can move from group
to group to ensure that the discussion retains its seriousness and purpose. If the exercise is
being facilitated by a fellow, then at this point, the fellow must join her or his block group,
and the Program Leaders can take over the task of ensuring that the group comes up with
guidelines that reflect the needs and wishes of both the women and men in the group. Allow
30 - 40 minutes for the creation of these guidelines.
In each group, the LC executive takes the responsibility for later putting up these guidelines
on a chart that can be prominently displayed in the office, residences, or somewhere where
the fellows will come across it on a daily basis.
Notes to the Facilitator
Depending on the level of trust in the group and the depth of the conversations so far, it is
possible that some people express deep discomfort, pain, or other uncomfortable emotions. It
is important for the facilitator to note that our training as men and as women has created
several deep-seated assumptions and tendencies, and it is natural for there to be a high level
of discomfort when we first begin to talk about these issues that are usually ignored in our
society.
In some groups, it is possible that certain fellows get defensive about the exercise and ask
why we are separating them based on gender when in truth, we are all the same. If this
question arises, gently remind the group that, although we might all wish for equality, our
society has constructed the experiences of men and women differently. Explain that, rather
than trying to divide the group, you are attempting to open up an important conversation
about some of the differences that exist, simply so that we can understand ourselves and each
other better and work more effectively together.
Prior Preparation
All participants should have filled out the Belbin Team Roles
survey online as well as the Observer assessments.
Participants will have received and read their reports before
coming to the session.
Before the session, the LC executive will have drawn the
facing diagram on a board or flipchart (instead of the pictorial
representations, it is also possible to just write the name of
each of the corresponding Belbins Roles in the
corresponding sections.
The team is then encouraged to look at the chart as a whole and analyze their findings as a
team rather than as individuals. Using their newly-acquired knowledge of Team Roles, ask
participants to come up with a list of five strengths of the team, and five possible weaknesses.
This may include statements such as: We have three Teamworkers and no Shapers. This
means that we are at risk of losing direction and focus. However, the atmosphere within the
team is likely to be very supportive.
Further debrief can focus around the question: Reflect on your team composition. Does your
team have a diverse set of people? If so, how do you all complement each other? If not, who
is missing? How do you intend to make up for the loss/lacunae in your team?
On completion of this exercise, ask participants to come up with 3 action points, based on
their discussions, which will enable the team to increase its effectiveness
Homework
Try on a new role in your team for one team activity, in the next two weeks with your teams
permission and check how it feels for you. Each of your team members can do the same. At
the end of the activity, report on how it felt to try on a new role, why you chose the role you
did, what your team felt and thought about your performance and if you would like to
continue the same role further.
has in fact been invited to offer feedback, they should be reminded to use the Appreciative
Inquiry framework and focus on what the fellow does well rather than on what she or he
lacks.
The debrief can focus on the following questions:
1. Is there a gap between how you should spend your energy and how you actually spend it?
2. Are there some behaviors that are taking up too much of your leadership time? Why?
3. Are there some strategies that you can employ that would move you closer to your ideal
distribution of behavior?
Behavior
Informing
Directing
Clarifying or Justifying
Persuading
Collaborating
Brainstorming or
Envisioning
Reflecting (Quiet Time for
Thinking)
Observing
Disciplining
Resolving interpersonal
conflicts
Reflection Questions
1. Is there a gap between how you should spend your energy and how you actually spend it?
2. Are there some behaviors that are taking up too much of your leadership time? Why?
3. Are there some strategies that you can employ that would move you closer to your ideal
distribution of behavior?
Conduct the first round. Ask fellows to think about the leadership principle on the envelope
they received, and to identify how this principle can be applied to on-the-job decisions and
behaviors in their schools or fellow groups. They must write short sentences describing these
application examples on a sheet of paper. Announce a time limit of 3 minutes and encourage
the teams to work rapidly. Explain that the responses will eventually be evaluated in terms of
both the number and the quality of the examples.
Conclude the first round. After 3 minutes, blow the whistle to announce the end of the first
round. Ask each fellow to place her or his response card (the sheet with its application
examples) inside the envelope and pass the envelope, unsealed, to the next person. Instruct
the fellows not to open the envelope they receive.
Conduct the second round. Ask fellows to review the leadership principle on the envelope
they received, but not to look at the application examples on the response card inside. Tell
them to repeat the earlier procedure and list the application examples of this principle on a
new response card. After 3 minutes, blow the whistle and ask them to place the response card
inside the envelope and pass it to the next team.
Conduct more rounds. Conduct two more rounds of the game using the same procedure.
Conduct the evaluation round. Start the fifth round just as you did the previous rounds.
However, tell fellows that they do not have to write any more application examples. Instead,
they must evaluate the four response sheets inside the envelope. They do this by reviewing
the individual examples on each response sheet and then comparing the overall merits of the
response sheets with each other. Teams have 100 points to distribute among the four response
sheets to indicate each card's relative merit. Allow 15 minutes for this activity
Present the results. At the end of the time limit, check to ensure everyone has completed their
task and has recorded on each response card the number of points awarded. Ask for
volunteers to share the leadership principle on their envelope and read the application
examples on each card, beginning with the card that received the least number of points. The
reading should progress from one card to the next in an ascending order of the number of
points. After reading all four cards, the fellow should announce how she/he distributed the
100 points and briefly explain the criteria used for distributing the points. Each fellow has 10
minutes for this part of the exercise.
Determining the Winner. Instruct fellows to place all the response cards on a table at the front
of the room; then call for each fellow to collect her or his cards. Ask them to add up the
points on their cards to determine their total score. Invite everyone to announce their total
scores. Identify and congratulate the fellow with the highest score.
Debrief can focus on these questions:
What are the interesting patterns among the application examples?
Can you find similarities among application examples related to different leadership
principles?
What leadership principle was the most difficult one for you to come up with suitable
application examples? The easiest one? Why?
Identify one person within the group who seems to have very different leadership strengths
than yours. How can the two of you learn from and support from each other?
Reflect on your work in schools or within the fellow groups. Which leadership principle
application idea could you implement immediately?
Open: Things we know about ourselves and others in the group know about us. This
is the information about the person -- behavior, attitude, feelings, emotion,
knowledge, experience, skills, views, etc. -- known by the person ('the self') and
known by the group ('others'). Participants should put down everything they can think
of about themselves that the group knows, from their favorite food or TV show to an
important dream or skill.
2.
Hidden: The Hidden Johari region represents what is known to ourselves but kept
hidden from, and therefore unknown to, others. This hidden or avoided self represents
information, feelings, or anything else that a person knows about him/herself, but
which is not revealed or is kept hidden from others. The hidden area could also
include sensitivities, fears, hidden agendas, secrets -- anything that a person knows
but does not reveal, for whatever reason. As participants fill out this information,
remind them that the handout is confidential and that they will not be required to
show their sheets of paper to anyone.
After participants have filled out these two areas, facilitator shares that the aim in any group
should always be to develop the 'open area' for every person, because when we work in this
area with others we are at our most effective and productive, and the group is at its most
productive too. By telling others how we feel and other information about ourselves we
reduce the hidden area, and increase the open area, which enables better understanding,
cooperation, trust, team-working effectiveness and productivity. Reducing hidden areas also
reduces the potential for confusion, misunderstanding, poor communication, etc, which all
distract from and undermine team effectiveness. Further, by opening our hidden areas to
others, we invite them into our lives and build trust.
Participants are asked to look at their hidden quadrant and choose one thing they are
willing to share with the group. The extent to which an individual discloses personal feelings
and information, and the issues which are disclosed, and to whom, must always be at the
individual's own discretion. If some participants are hesitant to share deeply personal
information, they should simply be asked What is one thing about you that we dont yet
know but that would make our group work better for you?. The answer could be as simple as
I like having an hour of time to myself in the mornings before we go to school or I have a
hard time being open with others and would prefer not to be pushed too hard.
Part 2
Participants are then introduced to the second half of the quadrant -- the things that we do not
know about ourselves. The Blind quadrant is for information about a person that is known
to others in the group, but is unknown to the person him/herself. This blind area is not an
effective or productive space for individuals or groups.
The Unknown quadrant represents things that neither the individual nor the group knows (it
might represent things like an ability that is underestimated or untried through lack of
opportunity, encouragement, confidence or training; a natural ability or aptitude that a person
doesn't realise they possess; a fear or aversion that a person does not know they have).
At the start of this activity, participants have no way of knowing the difference between what
goes into each of these areas. They should therefore be asked to make a list of a few
questions they have about themselves that they think the group might be able to offer some
insight on. For example, Am I able to lead discussions effectively? or What do you think
my greatest strengths as a team member are? or what seems to be a natural aptitude that I
dont realize I have?). Once each participant has made a list of 3-5 questions, they take turns
asking the group these questions and noting down the answers.
Once everyone in the group has had their questions answered by the group, they put new
learnings about themselves into the Blind category. If some questions remain unanswered,
they are noted in the Unknown category.
Final Reflection
Participants are asked to reflect on the differences between this version of their Johari
windows and the version they did in the first session. Specifically, they are asked:
What are the things that were in the Hidden section that are now in the Open?
What are the things that were in the Blind section that are now in the Open?
What are the things in the Unknown section that are now either in the Hidden or the Open?
Based on this comparison, participants reflect on the distance they have traveled individually
and as a group on the semesters journey of self-discovery. As a closing exercise, they each
note at least one thing from the hidden section that they are willing to risk sharing with
someone in the group over the next few weeks or months and one thing in the Unknown
section that they would like to explore further.
Note to the Facilitator:
If the group has now achieved a high level of trust and comfort in sharing, an additional
component can now be added to the activity. Fellows can volunteer to offer each other
feedback for the Blind sections. For this part of the exercise, participants would think about
whether there is something that they believe that the Fellow isnt aware of but should be, and
they would ask permission to offer feedback on it. For example: I notice that your Open
section does not mention anything about your ability to create relationships. May I offer you
some feedback on the same? Fellows should always have the option of declining this
feedback, but if they choose to accept it, they can then put any new learnings from this
process into their Open sections.