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CHOOSING BELIEFS
Understanding how your beliefs shape you
History is full of men and women who defied the odds and overcame seemingly
immovable obstacles to reach their goals. These people all had one thing in
common:
For example the world isnt flat but people used to believe that it was, and
wasted a lot of energy in formulating strategies to avoid falling off the edge.
Where do beliefs come from?
Some of the beliefs we hold go right back to childhood.
Choosing different beliefs that may challenge you, but drive you forward doesnt
make you nave or just thinking positive, it is simply good sense.
The beliefs that hold someone back are no _____________ than the beliefs that
spur someone into positive action.
So it makes sense to choose to focus on the beliefs that get you the great results
you want.
What are your beliefs?
Many of our convictions are so much a part of us that we rarely have a good
objective look at them.
Building a strong positive belief system starts with dusting off each one of those
beliefs and taking the time to truly examine them
Here is a key point of information: Once you have made up your mind about
something, or even someone
My payoffs
I am smart.
I am lazy.
I cant sing a note.
I am lovable.
I can do anything I want.
Ill never kick my smoking habit.
You can do some personal research by asking some of your friends and loved
ones what makes up their beliefs systems. You are likely to get a fascinating
cross-section of views demonstrating that everyone has their own unique map of
the world. We all see a different version of fact and reality. This activity can
demonstrate how arbitrary some beliefs are, and it can also aid you to a better
understanding of what drives your nearest and dearest. Your friends and loved
ones are just as entitled to their maps as you are to yours. Make no judgements
regarding anyones belief systems during this exercise.
Changing your beliefs
Sometimes, simply by recognizing a limiting belief, you take away its power.
So following the earlier thought about evidence: whatever you believe about
yourself, is probably supported by plenty of evidence. Changing our assumptions
allows us to act differently more often.
Now try challenging the self-talk, for example changing shoulds and oughts for preferences:
Constructive Talk
Feelings Would be
Actions Could Be
What my disempowering belief was: (It isnt necessarily important to recognize the limiting belief
rather, be aware of how you might want the situation or incident to go should it occur again. How will you plan to
handle it differently, next time?)
Now try challenging the self-talk, for example changing shoulds and oughts for preferences:
Constructive Talk
Feelings Would be
Actions Could Be
no bitterness
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Getting under your most stubborn limiting beliefs
Appreciate that it is not necessarily important to fully understand why the client has the
fear that is preventing the release of the limiting belief.
Sometimes we have to make peace with the past before focusing on the present.
Remember, a coach is not a therapist. If your client should have beliefs associated with a
strong childhood trauma or any past storyline that seems to permeate every piece of that
clients life and causes distress, then some counseling or therapy by a professional is
probably recommended.
Managing fears
Jill Bolte Taylor My Stroke of Insight We are born with only two fears... the fear of
falling, and the fear of loud noises.
http://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight.html
Fear gets in the way when you allow it to stop you from taking action and achieving
something. Managing the fear is essential.
Fear of achievement
Fear of achievement seems an odd fear to have, yet it holds many people back at some
point in their lives.
Fear of achievement can be one of the trickiest fears to recognise in yourself because it
seems quite unselfish.
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A quote from Marianne Williamsons book A Return to Love
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful
beyond measure.
How does this statement sit with your spirit?