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by Chase Amante
Monday, 21 November 2011
A few days ago, a very perceptive reader wrote in to share with me an insight he'd had after
reading over the blog here again and reading the appendices at the end of my seduction
ebook. It was, he said, a profound realization about how to talk to girlsthat he'd seen me
using and others using, and it was something that, when he told me about it, I immediately
realized was something I'd once known consciously but had long slipped into the forgotten
parts of my memory that were accessed only intuitively and subconsciously in conversation,
without ever realizing it.
That reader called it "taking off the mask."
Here's the relevant part of his email:
In a flash, I remembered it being 2006, and me for the first time approaching hordes and
hordes of women. It was such a confusing time; women would say things -- crazy
things, unexpected things -- and I didn't know how to react.
What do you say when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend?
What do you do when she's acting flighty and disinterested?
How do you keep her engaged in a loud nightclub filled with distractions, or on a busy
street when there's somewhere she very much has to be?
I remembered how confusing talking to women used to be. And I realized that the way I go
about talking to women and interacting with them these days isn't just better -it's different. It's categorically, unequivocally, incontrovertibly different from how I
used to talk to women.
I'm coming from a different place, and my thoughts are on much different matters. And if I
can help get you there -- or at least illuminate the path -- I think I can rapidly speed up the
process you learn by.
What the seducer and the pick up artist and the conversationalist are good at, then, is
perhaps not just the conversation itself, but being able to see past those masks.
When's the last time you met a girl and within 10 minutes you knew about:
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Running your interactions off the assumption that those women want you
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If you don't get her moving with you, you'll lose her
Any guy who's been around women for a while usually figures this out eventually. It's my
hope that I can shave years off your learning curve by talking about this here; I know I sure
would've appreciated it had someone done the same for me 6 or 7 years ago.
Knowing how to talk to girls is knowing to follow this process:
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Run your interactions off the assumption that women want you
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1 word...cunninglingus.
Posted by Greg Barbosa on Friday, 20 April 2012
1 word...cunninglingus.
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Hey ChaseMuch of your strategy involved with keeping women in a lovers and not boyfriends role
after bringing them to bed seems to involve providing them with mind-blowing sex
while not paying for things, making any promises etc. Obviously if you give a woman a
night she will never forget in the bedroom that will be a very large factor in determining
if she wants to see you again or not. So would you please give some more
techniques/details that explain how to go about doing that? IE positions, strategies, etc.
Thanks!
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another chance. Chase I really appreciate what you guys are doing, girls are
complicated, that's a cliche remark but they are, most guys simply don't understand
them and that's usually where the probelm lies. In my case, I didn't know how to keep a
conversation going, I got too emotionally attached, and I rushed things, and it might
have cost me the girl of my dreams. What sucks is I've been waiting 3 years to get an
opportunity with this girl, I knew she would break it off with her boyfriend eventually, I
just can't believe I fucked it up.
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Scrumtrulescent
Posted by J on Tuesday, 6 November 2012
Chase,
Your blog has helped me so immensley I cannot even begin to tell you how thankful I
am. I personally was one of those guys who got so worked up and nervous about what
the fuck to talk about and now I'm spittin game like it's my job and it's wonderful. Also
the article on texting girs was helpful as well. I find that applying the techniques
outlined in the How to Talk to Girls articles and such to texting as well can help a bit.
Being in highschool and not having much experience yet at all I am so lucky to have
found this website. I stumbled upon it when I was getting extremely emotional and
depressed about this girl who I liked and wanted to date and now things are going
exceedingly well! I'm being more aggressive, taking charge of things, at most I send a
few texts a week and all I do is set up a date and time and then talk to her in person at
school and it works great! So once again thank you so much for all the help you've
given all men who are floundering or just needed that extra push forward.
Thanks
-J
P.S. Could you do an article on how much looks matter to girls in the long run?
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would just walk over and start a conversation with her. In these instances, she would
speak with the other guy but keep looking at me to keep me involved in the
conversation.) She's also a little bit of a social butterfly. How am I to understand all
this? Is she interested, or just being polite to me?
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2 Questions/Concerns
Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, 18 August 2013
I have found very useful information in this blog, but I still have a few questions/concerns:
1. It sounds more like a guide on how to get a girl to go to bed with you. I was hoping this
page would cover info on how to make a relationship with a girl rather than how to have sex
with her (I guess I'll have to figure that out by myself with the strategy you provided us
with).
2.What if you get to know the real her and you decide that you don't like her? What do you
do then? Leave her? I guess... But how do you do it without being a dick?
Overall, it's really helpful.
Thanks.