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Wednesday, february 11, 2015
Volume 63 No. 47
PHOTO BY YUSONG SHI, DESIGN BY KENNETH CRUZ AND JENNA BOWER
Threes company 50 Shades of Fetishes

A close look at how society
handles threesomes
An exploration into kinks, fetishes

and where they come from
About 10 percent of UB students have had a threesome, according to a survey of 837 students conducted
by The Spectrum.
YUSONG SHI, THE SPECTRUM
BDSM, a kinky form of rough sex involving a dominant and a submissive, is growing in popularity and gaining acceptance in mainstream media with the release of Fifty Shades of Grey. Some students, however,
still struggle to accept their own kinks or fetishes.
TOM DINKI
SENIOR NEWS EDITOR
After getting a drink and coming back
to the dance floor during a party near
South Campus, David Stockman* found
a girl hed been flirting with earlier in the
night dancing with one of his friends.
But the friend, Cam Lucas*, wasnt trying to steal the girl from Stockman he
wanted to share.
Yo, shes down for a threesome, Lucas whispered.
That night which started out as a
possible normal hookup for Stockman
would become his first and only threesome experience. And hes not the only
college student whos sexually experimented with more than one person at a
time.
About 10 percent of UB students have
had a threesome, according to The Spectrums sex survey of 837 people. And according to sexual health experts and educators, college students are sometimes
more willing than other age groups to
participate in them.
In that age range, people are more
likely to experiment and explore and get
things out of their system, so to speak,
said Dr. Justine Shuey, a sexologist and
sexuality educator who is an adjunct professor at several colleges in Pennsylvania

and New Jersey.
Threesomes which can be considered
any sexual acts involving three partners
of any gender are well-documented
fantasies for both men and women. But
they arent limited to college campuses.
A threesome with two women is the
No.1 fantasy of heterosexual men, according to Shuey. Theyre featured in
both pornographic films and mainstream
pop culture. How I Met Your Mother dedicated an entire episode to characters coveting a Threesome Belt.
But trying to get better at threesomes
from watching porn is like trying to be a
better driver from watching a Fast and Furious movie, said sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko, who lectures about
sexual health at college campuses across
the country.
Its really hard to go to rock climbing
without someone showing you the basics. We dont talk openly about the basics
of sex, and we dont talk about the basics of sexual exploration, Mihalko said.
Culture does a terrible job of preparing
young adults for exploring things safely.
SEE THREESOMES , PAGE 4-5
RACHEL KRAMER
MANAGING EDITOR
Brittney is turned on by the sound of

urine falling into a toilet.
Its one of her kinks.
Lorna Loster has been tying men up
since she was 14 years old.
Its her fetish.
A fetish is something one needs in order to have a fulfilling sexual experience
while a kink is just something sexual one
enjoys.
Although sometimes thought of as taboo or uncommon, 23.5 percent of UB
students admitted to having some sort of
kink or fetish including spanking, public sex, feet and bondage in The Spectrums
sex survey.
Brittney, whose name has been changed
for her privacy, is aroused by urine-related activities. This kink is also defined
as urolangi, or watersports, including
watching people urinate, getting urinated on a golden shower or watching
people wet themselves.
This is only one of countless fetishes and kinks people could have. Some
are more common, like a foot or spank-
ing fetish, while others are less common

and even illegal, like erotophonophilia,
arousal from killing someone, or bestiality, the desire to have intercourse with
an animal.
Bondage, however, is a fetish that has
recently grown in popularity and acceptance. In 2010, the American Psychiatric
Association announced it would change
the diagnostic codes for fetishism and
BDSM overlapping abbreviation of
bondage and discipline, dominance and
submission, sadism and masochism in
the next edition of the Diagnostic and
Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
(DSM).
The new definitions will have a distinction between behavior and pathology,
meaning consenting adults will no longer
be considered mentally ill for being a sexual minority.
The Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon is also helping to alleviate the stigmas surrounding the BDSM community.
But some students still struggle to accept
their kinks and fetishes, though they may
not be as uncommon as people think.
SEE FETISHES, PAGE 2
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Wednesday, February 11, 2015
Continued from
fetishes, page 1
New York is ranked 28 in amount of BDSM searches on PornHub.com, the largest porn website on the Internet. This includes the words punish, bondage and
accounts for 1.2 percent of all PornHub searches.
Loster, owner of local sex shop Four Beauties near
South Campus, is a dominatrix and breast fetish model. The 28-year-old gets paid to stand in front of a video
camera and jump around, shake her shoulders and play
with her size 36M breasts.
But her real enjoyment comes from wearing fishnet
stockings, heels and a corset as she assumes the role of
a dominatrix; whether its as a model or in her everyday
life, she loves being in control.
Its my lifestyle and its in me, I have to do it, she
said.
But its not about the sex for the dominatrix. Shes
more into having all the power.
In a typical BDSM scenario there are two roles: dominant and submissive.
A dominant figure, like Loster, has the power in the
situation whereas the submissive has given up the power, according to Dan, a BDSM expert who has been educating people about the sex subculture for three years.
Dan doesnt reveal his last name but goes by his nickname Frozen Meursault in the BDSM community.
As a dominatrix, Loster spanks, ties up and disciplines
men who ask for it. She currently has relations with five
submissive men in what she calls her stable.
Just because someone is playing a dominant role, however, doesnt mean he or she is getting all of the pleasure thats for the bottom. The
top is the person giving the sensations and the bottom is the person receiving them, according to Dan.
Joshua, a junior at UB whose name has been changed
to protect his privacy, loves to submit to other guys and
identifies as a bottom.
I have this natural attraction to power, physical and
otherwise, he said. So once I find power, I want that
around and I will make sure he knows hes taken care of.
This means he would rather give a blowjob than receive one and he will only be the receiver in penetrative
sex. He said this is what has led him to his kinks of getting choked and having his hair pulled during sex.
Where do they come from?
Fetishes, kinks and paraphilia illegal fetishes and
kinks usually develop in the adolescent stage of growth
through associative networks, according to Lance Rintamaki, UBs sex communication professor.
This means the brain links something often not associated with sex, like feet or urine, to feelings of arousal. Its
unknown why this occurs and its unavoidable for some
people, Rintamaki said.
When someone develops a fetish or a kink or a paraphilia, its not under their control and its not their fault,
he said.
Brittney, who also enjoys looking at womens feet, ac-
Lorna Loster poses at FetishCon, a convention for people involved

in the BDSM community. She is a dominatrix and model for breast
fetish porn. COURTESY OF LORNA LOSTER
knowledged her urolangi kink when she was in high

school.
I saw people wet themselves and something about
seeing them almost make it to the restroom got me excited and nervous, she said.
Loster was 11 when she recognized her fetish.
She accidently saw an episode of an HBO documentary show, Real Sex and it sparked her curiosity. She
started researching the kinky sex she saw. By the time she
was 14 years old, she started teaching herself and experimenting with tying people up and other domineering acts
like making the boys in her class carry her books.
Ive always had that controlling nature, Loster said.
Its weird because with my friends who arent in the lifestyle, they cant really read that off of me. But once I
find out youre into the lifestyle, it all comes out.
It wasnt until she was 17 that she considered herself
serious about being a dominatrix and got involved
with dom-sub relationships.
Dan was introduced to the lifestyle through a girlfriend
he had when he was 17. When his girlfriend told him she
was into BDSM, he was unsure of what his role would
be. After his first experience, he actively sought information about rough body play, including punching, slapping
and choking.
At first he said he tried to compartmentalize his desires by looking for a vanilla girlfriend someone who
isnt in the BDSM community while also looking to
fit in his kinkier interests on the side. It wasnt until he
accepted this is a part of who I am that he fully im-
mersed himself into the lifestyle.

-Throughout his exploration, Dan became aware of
the three consent rules of the kink and fetishism community.
-Informed consent: people know the risks of what
they are consenting to
-Enthusiastic consent: people shouldnt be coerced
into doing anything they are uncomfortable with
-On-going consent: occurs throughout an activity to
ensure people dont feel pressure to continue an activity
if they dont want to.
As a dominatrix, Loster ensures her submissives are
aware of all three types of consent and she also always
participates in after care.
If you do anything that seems abusive you have to do
[after care], she said. People are in disarray sometimes
and you need to make sure their minds are back in order
and they acknowledge its play and not reality.
Acceptance
For a long time, Dan described himself as in the closet about his rough body play fetish.
On some level there is a component of its just a sexual activity and some would argue that its not the same as
accepting who you love, Dan said. But for me, my relationships have a power exchange and Im polyamorous
and so I have more than one partner that I care about, so
in a lot of ways it is [like coming out of the closet].
Joshua disagrees with that comparison. He said kinks
and fetishes are something that can be kept in the bedroom, and therefore is nobody elses business.
But he does think its important to be vocal with sexual partners about what he likes. To encourage sexual partners to participate in rough sex involving choking and
hair pulling, he guides his partners hands around his own
neck and into his hair to subtly let him know what he
wants.
Just cause Im a bottom doesnt mean I cant be a little bossy, he said. If they dont like what theyre doing
theyll move their hands back.
Brittney has talked to her boyfriend about her interest
in urolangi and although she hasnt experienced her kink
yet, he is open to trying watersports with her. It took her
a long time to accept her fascination with urine.
She struggled with shame, guilt, disgust and denial over
her kinks and is slowly starting to accept them. Her boyfriend has helped her come to terms with them and realize they are just sexual preferences and interests.
She advises other people to accept their kinks and fetishes without needing the approval of others.
It does not make you a freak or abnormal, Brittney
said. We all have our different preferences and turn-ons
and the longer you try to deny it, the more difficult it will
become to think or engage in sex.
She joined online communities to help her embrace
her kink and encourages other people to do the same.
Odds are there is somebody else who is into what
youre into, Dan said. Its highly unlikely that you invented a fetish. Most people arent that creative.
There is a stigma surrounding kinks and fetishes but
Dan said theres no reason for people to be ashamed of
what makes them happy.
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Editorial Board
OPINION
Letter from the editor
EDITOR IN CHIEF
Sara DiNatale
MANAGING EDITORS
Rachel Kramer
Emma Janicki
OPINION EDITOR
Tress Klassen
COPY EDITORS
Alyssa McClure, Copy Chief

Anne Fortman
Emma Fusco
Natalie Humphrey
NEWS EDITORS
Tom Dinki, Senior

Ashley Inkumsah, Asst.
Charles W Schaab, Asst.
SARA DINATALE
FEATURES EDITORS
Theres a good chance you

picked up The Spectrum today
because you saw SEX bold
across the cover.
Maybe youre a fateful reader, eager to pick us up every Monday, Wednesday and Friday or,
perhaps, you just wanted to read
about fetishes, threesomes and the
new sex shop on South Campus.
Look, I get it.
Theres a reason this is our
most-read issue of the year.
Most college students like reading about sex, but theres more
to the issue than that this year
especially.
College newspapers across
the country produce sex issues,
many of them mainly feature
columns, sex advice and pieces
about safe sex practices.
The Spectrum team wanted to
Sharon Kahn, Senior

Gabriela Julia
Dan McKeon, Asst.
ARTS EDITORS
Jordan Oscar, Senior

Tori Roseman, Senior
Brian Windschitl
SPORTS EDITORS
Jordan Grossman, Senior

Quentin Haynes,
James Battle, Asst.
PHOTO EDITORS
Yusong Shi, Senior

Kainan Guo, Asst.
CARTOONISTS
Harumo Sato
CREATIVE DIRECTORS
Jenna Bower
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Professional Staff
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EDITOR IN CHIEF
The digital ages affect on how we cover sex
go beyond that this year. I think

we did, doing research and reporting on topics we thought
students didnt fully understand.
But we ran into problems we
didnt anticipate. Students, many
absolutely infatuated with sex,
are scared to talk about it to a
publication.
Millennials have been told
over and over to be conscious of
what they post on the Internet.
And UB, you seem to have listened. The No. 1 answer my reporters got from potential sources on our mission to write real
stories about real topics was,
Only if you dont use my name.
I dont want this to show up on a
Google search.
We obliged.
We have every right to publish
this edition every right to write
about things frankly that may be
hard to talk about. And we know
theyre hard to talk about, being
why weve granted sources the
option to talk to us anonymously, something youll rarely see in
our regular editions.
The sexual revolution in the
1960s and 70s allowed Americans to loosen their morals on
premarital sex, casual sex and
birth control use.
The digital revolution seems
to have made students scared to
talk about those very topics on
record, fearing what will be left
behind in their digital footprint.
That response made us want

to run this issue even more, with
the hope maybe an article explaining why fetishes shouldnt
be stigmatized or the psychology
behind threesomes would make
people feel at least a little more
comfortable with the less-talked
about parts of sexuality.
A quote in a college newspaper shouldnt turn off a future
employer but I cant say for
sure it wont. I can say The Spectrums former sex columnist, who
put her name on every column,
is now killing at law school.
It shouldnt be taboo for a student to openly talk about sex,
but even my own editors cant
control how society (mainly employers) may perceive them if
they put their names to an article
reviewing sex positions.
Weve been producing a sex issue for five years. Its become a
staple in The Spectrum newsroom,
but doing something because
weve always done is not a good
reason to do anything.
Every year, the incoming editor in chief evaluates our list of
special issues. I never considered
taking away the Sex Issue, but I
did think about why it was important to keep.
Stories come up every few
years if not more often
about college papers frustrating
administrators with sex-focused
editions. In 2014, a paper at Central New Mexico Community
College had its sex issues swiped

off the racks by administration.
The college shut the newspaper
down, just to later reinstate it
and return the newspapers, realizing their failure to acknowledge
the First Amendment.
The Spectrum is an independent
publication, meaning we decide
what goes onto our pages. With
that comes a lot of responsibility, especially in an issue that
forces us to question whats justifiable and what isnt.
This issue isnt crude for the
sake of being crude. There are
no photos of half-naked models throwing condoms in air as
some gimmick to get you to
pick up the paper. Weve aimed
to have well-thought-out images
to accompany well-thought-out
content.
Last year, I wrote an article revealing of the 1,003 students surveyed, 42 percent didnt
get tested for sexually transmitted infections. The year before,
I chronicled the life of a student
stripper. And this year, theres
more stories I hope get you to
think and challenge how you understand sexuality.
Sex is messy, fun, serious and
worth talking about meaningfully, even if youre not having it.

email:
sara.dinatale@ubspectrum.com
Supreme Court refuses to cater to prejudice

Gay marriage is worthy of support, but states deserve rights, too
Subverting the law for the sake
of equality is ultimately a worthwhile endeavor.
Lora and Julie, the first samesex couple to marry in Etowah
County, Alabama on Monday
would certainly agree.
So, too, would Olanda and Dianah, Cooper and Jessie and all
the same-sex couples in Alabama
who finally saw their relationships
recognized and legalized after the
Supreme Court declined to block
a January federal court order that
made states begin issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples.
Voters in Alabama approved a
statewide ban on gay marriage in
2006 by a 4-to-1 margin.
But this January, U.S. District
Judge Ginny Granade ruled that
the law was unconstitutional after
hearing an adoption case involving a same-sex couple.
As a judge in the Federal District Court, Granade initiated an
intense debate over Alabamas gay
marriage law with her ruling.
The attorney generals office in
Alabama immediately expressed
its opposition, with Attorney
General Luther Strange turning to
first a federal appeals court in Atlanta, and then bringing the legal
battle to the Supreme Court.
In both cases, the states arguments failed to sway the federal
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courts.
Alabamas desperation to maintain a prejudicial and discriminatory ban is clearly deplorable.
Theres little to debate about the
states stance against gay marriage
its simply wrong.
But the dilemma about the legal
rights of states versus the federal
courts is murkier.
Its satisfying to hear that the
Supreme Court struck down a
states request, but only because
doing so supported the cause of
gay marriage and allowed for an

expansion of freedoms.
Looking past the context, the
legal actions that brought same
sex marriage to Alabama are
questionable.
It was a judge for the Federal District Court not the state
who first declared the ban to
be unconstitutional. And it was a
federal appeals court, and the Supreme Court that proceeded to
quash a states request to maintain
its laws.
If a federal judge can strike

down state law and have that
supported in the nations highest
court, then states rights are endangered.
Clearly, the majority of the
population in Alabama supports a
ban on gay marriage. As unpleasant as that is, the state has the
right to represent and support the
voters opinions with laws that
back them up.
Most of the nation, at this
point, does support gay marriage.
So at a national level, Alabama is
an outlier, but they have the right
to differ from the rest of the nation until a federal ruling on gay
marriage is announced.
At the same time, its an embarrassment to live in a country
where some states still deny equal
rights on the basis of sexual orientation.
And the judges in Alabama
who are refusing to issue marriage
licenses of any kind just to avoid
marrying gay couples arent doing
much to generate sympathy for
the states plight.
After all, theres something
pleasantly ironic about a state, in
its quest to deny same-sex couples
their rights, losing its legal rights
and influence along the way.
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Bills pickup of Incognito far from inconspicuous

Bills Head Coach Rex Ryan
made it known that he wants to
build a bully with his new team.
With the signing of Richie Incognito, its clear that Ryan means
business.
Incognito, a veteran offensive
guard who has made the Pro Bowl
as recently as 2012, is unfortunately equally experienced in bullying
and brutish behavior on the field
and in the locker room.
Suspended from the league in
2013 for his infamous bullying
of then-teammate Jonathan Martin to such extreme that he ended up leaving the team, Incognito
has been benched for head-butting, arrested for assault, suspended
and ejected from games for fighting and sent to anger management
treatment (clearly, it didnt take).
That list could be far longer, but
the point is made: Incognito plays
dirty. Hes a liability, in terms of
racking up penalty yards during
games and causing distractions off
the field.
High-risk, high-reward move a smart play

But if Incognito can get his act
together, and if the Bills coaching
staff can keep him in line those
are two gigantic ifs this could
end up helping the team enormously.
Sure, the move isnt great for the
teams image, but the Bills already
have a reputation for picking up
so-called troubled players Marcell Dareus, Terrell Owens and
so do plenty of other teams. Michael Vick is still an NFL quarterback, after all.
So although Incognito and
other violent, dirty players arguably dont deserve another chance,
theyre on the field anyway.
And because Incognitos going
to be allowed back in the league,
the Bills might as well take advantage of a talented athlete at a great
price.
When it comes down to it: The
NFL is just a business.

If it wont cause too much of
a public relations firestorm, the
league is going to let players with
questionable pasts continue to play.
Incognito didnt beat his child
or punch a woman in the face
(though he has been accused of
groping a female volunteer at a
golf tournament), so to the powers that be, hes not the worst of
the bunch.
His anger issues, his use of racial and homophobic language,
his time spent in psychiatric care
somehow the league has deemed it
acceptable to look past all that and
give the man another chance.
That decision can be debated and derided endlessly, but Incognito is now a Buffalo Bill and
he could be a boon to a struggling
team.
Incognito has to know that this
is his last chance. He has to accept that its time to stop throwing
punches and slurs.
If he can just do his job, he can
be a standout player on the field.
His teammates could benefit from
the presence of a veteran player.
But the Bills coaching staff has
to do its job, too. Incognito needs
to be made aware and kept aware
that there is no tolerance for misbehavior and violence.
A 31-year-old shouldnt need extensive supervision and guidance,
but Incognito clearly does, and the
Bills need to provide that.
And if they cant, Ryan has to
be ready to cut Incognito without
hesitation.
Buffalo is already known for its
Super Bowl losses and its inability
to draft an effective quarterback.
They need to become known for
nurturing talent, not dirty players.
email: editorial@ubspectrum.com
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Continued
from threesomes, page 1
Threesomes may be easier to fantasize about than to actually execute. Some
people rush into it and are afraid to say
something when theyre not comfortable.
Boundaries are rarely established beforehand. There can be a higher risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and relationships and friendships can be altered afterward.
The fact that most students have gotten
their sexual help information from mainstream porn and whatever article came up
on a Google search, doesnt help, according to Mihalko.
Most parents and high school teachers
arent talking about these things with seniors, about to be freshmen, in college,
Mihalko said. And its not necessarily being talked about on college campuses either.
The fantasy
Stockman agreed to the threesome. He
saw it as a way for him and Lucas to bond,
and, according to him, it worked. Stockman said there were never any secrets between the two friends who had met during their first semester at UB after the
threesome.
I could not talk to this man for 20 years,
and it would be just like we talked the day
before, Stockman said. Once you know
how someone f****, you know everything
about them.
People have threesomes for many reasons. Some people are looking to empower themselves, some are trying to satisfy
their partner or some want to get out of a
normal routine. Shuey said threesomes are
a common sexual fantasy because people
want to be desired by more than one person simultaneously.
Theyre also desired because they go
against the status quo. Shuey said the more
taboo something is the hotter it is for people.
We live in a monogamous-centric society. So the idea of having more than one
person in the bed can be erotic from an,
Oh, Im breaking the rules perspective,
Mihalko said.
Senior Brian Jones* claims to have had
five threesomes during his time at UB. He
said hes had a good amount of sex in
his life, so its good to experience something different.
Dr. Justine Shuey said people

should be more conscious of sexually transmitted infections during a threesome, as more bodily
fluids are being spread between
multiple people.
Jones once had a threesome with two

girls in a UB dorm initiated by the girls
rubbing sun tan lotion on his sunburnt
thighs. He had just gone tanning to prepare
for spring break. One of his threesomes
started when a girl crawled into bed with
him and another girl he had just had sex
with.
Shuey said theres no common theme
of who initiates a threesome.
For Stockmans threesome, it simply
started when Lucas approached the girl on
the dance floor and asked her, Want to
have sex with me and David?
Alcohol and communication
Stockman, Lucas and the girl had to find
out where to actually have the threesome.
They left the party and wandered the University Heights streets. Stockman described
the trio as enthusiastic, adventurous and
hammered as they searched for a safe
place to have sex.

All three were under the influence of alcohol the night of the threesome.
Most of Jones threesomes occurred after nights of drinking at parties and bars as
well, like when he and his male friend ran
into a drunk girl they knew from Facebook and convinced her to come back to
Jones basement to have sex.
Maybe were talking about it at the bar,
like, Oh yeah is that a good idea? Or, Should
we try something like that? Jones said.
Both Mihalko and Shuey recommended against having a threesome while under
the influence of drugs and alcohol but its
how many college students experiment sexually.
In college, theres a lot more of an alcohol and hookup culture, Shuey said. The
more you drink, the lower your inhibitions
are. That might be something youre not
necessarily thinking youre brave enough
to do while youre sober, but if youre un-
A lot of things can
der the influence, you might be like, Hey, I

want to try this.
Mihalko said most people want a threesome to happen organically, which in college can mean everyones drunk. He said
people think it will be a good idea to experiment while high or drunk, but in reality, it
could go awry.
If you have to do shots of tequila to
do a threesome, that means the next day
someones going to regret it, he said.
Mihalko and Shuey recommend all participants discuss what theyre comfortable
doing and whom theyre comfortable doing it with before engaging in sexual activity.
Mihalko said most threesomes fail when
one person is afraid to communicate when
theyre uncomfortable. He said they often
dont speak up because they do not want to
ruin the experience for the other two people.
When you dont speak up, youre going
to ruin it anyway, he said. Most people
dont want to explore a fantasy and then
the next morning have everybody regret
it.
He said to call a timeout, and check in
with everyone whenever you are in doubt
during a sexual experimentation.
Shuey said that if one person in the
threesome is more hesitant than the other
two, the threesome probably shouldnt be
happening. Shes often asked by people in
relationships how to convince their partner
to have a threesome. Her response is usually, Find another partner.
She said if a person is uncomfortable
with the situation, every aspect of the experience becomes more difficult.
Theyre uncomfortable, so in the back
of their mind theyre thinking of 20 million different things so they cant be in the
moment and enjoy the moment, Shuey
said.
Jones said being comfortable with the
people youre with is important. Every
male hes engaged in a threesome with has
been a close friend, and said most of his
threesomes with two women have been
with his female friend and her friends.
The situation was different for Stockman. He acknowledges hed known Lucas
for four or five months at the time of the
threesome. Hed known the girl for four or
five minutes.
Navigating a threesome
Stockman, Lucas and the girl had walked
four blocks before they arrived at the front
door of a friends house.
We pleaded with him to let us use his
attic, Stockman said. They werent too
into it, but they were fine with having us
bang in their attic.
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Once upstairs, the three found a dirty old

mattress with like a 20-year old pad on it, in
the corner of the attic. Stockman said Lucas
was fully erect before he even took his pants
off. But Stockman had a slower start. He
said he was comfortable being naked in front
of another man, but found it difficult to get
an erection around another man.
Jones said its never been weird between himself and his male friends during
a threesome.
As long as the tips dont touch, Jones
said with laugh.
Jones has been in a threesome where the
two other girls kissed and touched one another on top of him. Women are sometimes more likely to engage directly with
each other in a threesome, as sexual fluidity is more common in women than men,
according to Shuey.
She said men typically fall on one end of
the spectrum of the Kinsey Scale, which is
a rating scale of a persons heterosexuality and homosexuality. Men are more likely
than women to be 100 percent heterosexual or 100 percent homosexual.
Mihalko was once in a threesome with a
heterosexual man and a woman where the
man wanted to see if he could handle being in a threesome with another male. The
man did not want to engage in sexual acts
directly with another man, he just wanted
to see if they could roll with another penis
in the bed, according to Mihalko.
Mihalko said its important for people to
realize they can explore sexually with the
same sex without threatening their sexual
identity.
If youre Republican and you vote
Democrat, it doesnt all of a sudden make
you a Democrat, he said.
About 24 percent of people who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender
said theyve had a threesome in The Spectrums sex survey. Some threesomes are
made up homosexuals of all the same gender, but for Stockman that wasnt case.
Stockman and Lucas did not touch one
another, but being in the presence of another man was still out of Stockmans comfort
zone. The trio engaged in an Eiffel Tower
a sexual position in which the female receives vaginal penetration from behind while
also giving oral sex to the other male.
Stockman said he had to stare at the girl to
try and forget there was another penis three
feet or however long the girls torso was
away from him during this position.
Lucas ejaculated before Stockman and
went downstairs. Stockman said it was
definitely more natural when he was left
to have sex with the girl alone.
The morning after
Lucas now goes to a different school,
but he and Stockman still remained friends
after the threesome. Stockman said he

never saw the girl again.
A lot of people think sex ruins relationships between friends but I dont, Jones
said. Usually right after Ill just be chilling,
talking in bed with them naked. Its never really weird for me. As long as I dont
make it weird, they dont make it weird.
Mihalko said threesomes are weird by
their very nature, but the situation can be
made less weird if the participants talk about
the weirdness the next day. He said people
often feel theyre not allowed to discuss it after the fact, and thats why college students
sometimes feel embarrassed when they run
into another participant on campus.
Thank people for being generous with
their genitals, Mihalko said.
He said participants should not brag
about their threesome experiences, as peoples privacy should be respected.
Thinking it through, keeping it safe
For couples that engage in threesomes,
the effects can be tricky. Feelings of jealousy and insecurities can be exacerbated
after adding another partner to the mix,
according to both Mihalko and Shuey.
It could either be a, Hey we really liked
this, or it could stir up jealousy You
liked that other person more than me,
Shuey said.
Shuey said people have to be more conscious of preventing STIs during a threesome than a sexual experience with just
one other person.
If you touch person A and you get fluids on you, and you touch person B, youve
just exchanged those fluids, she said.
Mihalko encourages all sexually active
college students to get tested a few times
a year.
He said its also important for people
to remember theres nothing wrong with
them if they didnt like their threesome experience, or if they never have one during college. He said theres a pressure on
college students to try everything and a
perception that a person is not evolved
if they dont like experimenting.
Youre allowed to like what you like
and explore what you want, and figuring
out you dont like something is also a win,
Mihalko said. It doesnt mean youre broken or unevolved, it just means you dont
like that thing.
Jones is not sure hell have threesomes
after graduation. He said hell be in the
real world and may find the right person.
Well see, he said.
Stockman is still open to having another
threesome experience in the future because,
as he puts it, normal sex gets boring.
*Names have been changed to protect sources
privacy
email: news@ubspectrum.com
Size of the boat or motion of the ocean

UB student analyzes the perception
of penis size and its importance
TY ORLANDO
CONTRIBUTING WRITER
I could never date a guy with a small

dick.
Thats what some girls are saying around
campus. Is it rational for a small penis to
be a deal-breaker? Or is there some logic behind this statement?
Before I expose the secret formula to sex,
I should probably start off by introducing
myself as Ty, a new male sex columnist for
The Spectrum.
In order to do this position justice, I have
to speak from personal experiences, without
sounding like a full-blown man whore. Im
going to assume you all just wished me luck
while reading this, so thank you. Now, back
to the penis.
I guess the whole importance of the penis
begins during puberty. Once guys hit puberty, we kind of adopt this mentality that having a bigger penis is not only attractive on
us, but also a bare minimum requirement to
be considered boyfriend material.
The average erect penis is 5.1 inches, according to a study done at the Alfred C.
Kinsey institute for sex research out of a
sample of 60 men from the university of
California in San Francisco.
Some guys may think their penis should
be as big as their ego, but I dont. And thats
not what I found out.
In a personal survey I conducted, I simply asked 100 women if they preferred penis size or the motion of the penis itself.
Sixty-eight out of the 100 women said they
preferred to date a man with a larger penis.
This still leaves 32 other women in disagreement but its a clear reinforcement of this
idea of a larger penis being better.
Although only 32 women in my survey

said they appreciated the motion of a penis over its length, that doesnt mean penis
length takes the crown.
There is definitely such a thing as bad sex.
Some guys just dont know how to pleasure
a woman. They either rely on the size of
their penis, or the act of sex itself, to automatically please a woman. In other words
a tool.
Just like Ive heard women say they would
prefer a bigger penis, I have also heard
women say certain men had big penises
and the sex was still boring.
Think of it like getting into a physical altercation. Lets take for instance, a short guy
who is on the skinnier side of 150 pounds,
fighting a tall, muscular prized champion fighter weighing 210 pounds. If the tall
fighter doesnt know how to throw a punch,
the smaller man will take home the prize.
Essentially, height and weight wouldnt
have determined the winner of that fight
skill would have.
My question for these women who prefer
a large penis then becomes, what is a large
penis? Do you even know what youre looking for? And are you simply basing penis
size off of the porn you watch when your
roommate isnt present?
Social media also plays a huge role in enhancing the idea having a bigger penis matters. It creates chatter and when the person next to you says a bigger penis matters,
youre going to believe a bigger penis matters.
Ive witnessed women make comments
about wanting a man who had at least a
6-inch soft penis. But some male penises remain the same length erect as they are flaccid, and others enlarge during erection.
Even some women who are virgins
say they would prefer a bigger penis, as if
theyve felt one before. Im forever confused by that mindset. Its almost a universal fantasy shared by many women, regardless of their sexual experience.
Its almost the same thing with sex. Regardless of penis size, some men just know
how to penetrate a female in the way that
pleases them the most. They may know different speed techniques, or different spots
that can make a woman orgasm. Simply having a bigger penis isnt an automatic implication of a better sexual experience.
So for the fellas, put down the penis enlargement pills and work on your skill.
email: tyadams@buffalo.edu
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UB gets passing mark in sexual health

University ranks No. 53 in annual Trojan Sexual Health Report Card
ASHLEY INKUMSAH
ASST. NEWS EDITOR
UB offers students free Trojan condoms from the Wellness Education Services office located in the Student Union.
Thats one of the reasons Trojan, a brand
of condoms and lubricants, is giving UB
a passing mark in its annual Sexual Health
Report Card.
UB ranked No. 53 in Trojans 2014 Sexual Health Report Card a ranking of
140 American universities sexual health
services. UB dropped two spots from
2013.
Im proud that we rank so well [because] our providers love what they do
and take great care of their patients,
said Nicole McDermott, a staff assistant
at UBs Student Health Services office in
Michael Hall. We have added some new
services recently, like the [long-acting reversible contraceptives] placements, so
I hope that helps us to rank higher next
time.
Trojan commissioned the study that
was done from Sperlings Best Places, an
independent research organization based
out of Portland, Oregon.
The rankings are based on a number of
classifications, from the number of hours
per day the universitys student health
center is open, to whether HIV and sexual transmitted diseases (STIs) testing is
done on university health premises and
if the university website provides information on sexual health for the students,
according to Bert Sperling, president of
Sperlings Best Places.
Sperling said the top schools in the
rankings offer a wealth of information
about the resources and services provided by the health center, and create their
own informational pages about topics
such as different contraceptive methods.
Health
Services
offers more
than just
condoms
SAMANTHA BRENNER
STAFF WRITER
If Rebecca Weitz, a junior health and human services major, needs to go to the doctor, she cant travel over 400 miles to see
her gynecologist on Long Island. Instead,
she goes to South Campus.
Health Services on South Campus in Michael Hall offers students like Weitz an accessible way to get check ups without having to a hop in a car.
From condoms and pregnancy tests, to
lube, dental dams and more, students have
access to various contraceptives at little to
no cost through health services. In the fall,
they provided sexually transmitted infection (STI) testing to just over 500 students.
Last year, Health Services and Wellness Education handed out approximately
20,000 condoms to UB students. According to a sex survey conducted by The Spectrum, 56 percent of UB students use protection female condoms or condoms.
We refill our little bin [of condoms]
five to six times a day, if not more, said
Kara Fitzpatrick, office manager of the
Wellness Center. I would say there are definitely a great number of people who take
advantage of that.
But what students may not realize is the
option of specialty clinics on campus like
Womens Health Services.
Students probably dont know about us
until they need us, said Susan Snyder, director of Student Health Services.
Many students are unaware the specialty clinic provides genealogical care and services and counseling for women. They are
also unaware of the preventative services
the clinic has to offer, according to Snyder.
Womens Health Services provides females at UB with pap smears, testing for
STIs and human papillomavirus (HPV), as
well as HPV shots and emergency contraception.
Having a womens health clinic on a college campus is great because students can
stop in after class if they want and its not
out of the way for students who dont have
their own car, Weitz said.
To receive a pregnancy test from the clinic, students are given a handout explaining
the effectiveness of the pregnancy test and
The clinical services that UB offers include free condoms for both males and
female, dental dams, lubricant, STI testing, pregnancy tests and GYN exams, according to McDermott.
Student Health Services also has a
board-certified womens health nurse
practitioner and offers birth control
counseling and prescriptions and placement of long-acting reversible contraceptives such as IUDs and implants.
I work in a very non-judgmental environment and we really try to stress the
fact that everyone likes and wants different things when it comes to their sex lives
and that is 100 percent OK, said Maddie Collins, a junior sociology and media
study major who works as an SBI student
Health Educator.
UBs SBI Health Education, a studentowned division of Sub-Board I Inc. that
offers sex-positive education and sup-
port, has hosted Sex Week for the past

three years in the spring.
Sex Week includes classes and services for students on education, exploration and discussion of healthy sexuality, according to Jane Fischer, Director of
SBI Health Education. Making the choice
to be sexually active and communicating
about likes and dislikes with partners are
some of the topics educators encourage
students to consider.
We hope it is an opportunity for students to find something in the week that
speaks to them and their needs or interests regarding sexual health and sexuality, Fischer said.
Sex Week will be held in April this year.
Collins said she is particularly proud
UB has the Safety Shuttle and walk stations because it encourages sexual safety
when walking to different points on campus.
Mustafa Khalafalla, a junior aerospace

engineering major who works as a Safety Shuttle driver said that the safety shuttle is a key aspect of UBs sexual health
programs in that it encourages a safe environment.
But he also said that giving out free
condoms might be an encouragement for
students to engage in too much sexual activity. He worries that this may cause students to look at sex as a sport.
Oregon State University, which ranked
No. 1 on the list, provides students who
live in residence halls and co-ops with a
service to anonymously order free condoms, known as The Condom Express.
The University of Oregon, which ranks
No. 17, has an iPhone app called SexPositive that adds up the type of sexual activity that students are thinking of engaging in and makes recommendations on
the safest way of avoiding pregnancy and
STIs.
Sperling said some of the universities
that rank near the bottom of Trojans list
have a policy not to acknowledge sexual
activity between students.
They believe sexual activity should
be between married students and not between unmarried students, he said.
Brigham Young University ranks last
on the list at No. 140.
Sperling said the best thing that UB
can do to improve its future ranking is to
increase the amount of sexual health information which is provided on its student health center web site.
We are passionate about this because
we are providing this information to students and what theyve done with this is
that theyve approached administration
to say we need to have better resources,
Sperling said.
Last year,
Health
Services and
Wellness Education
handed out
approximately
20,000
condoms to UB
students.
PHOTO BY YUSONG SHI THE SPECTRUM, PHOTO ILLUSTRATION BY JENNA BOWER
what options are available depending on

the outcome of the test.
A staff member at the Wellness Center
will give the student options whether to take
the test in the privacy of their dorm, apartment or in the Student Union bathroom
with a staff member there for support.
We arent interpreting the results, we
are there to support the person as they take
the test themselves, Snyder said.

To receive emergency contraception, the
student must sign a form allowing Health
Services to bill their student account $25,
which is the cost for Plan B One-Step,
which may prevent pregnancy after having
sex.
Nationally, for students in four-year colleges and universities, unplanned pregnancy
Womens
Health
Services is one
of the clinics
offered to UB
students
is about 2 percent of the population, Snyder said. Even though it is a relatively low
number, it can have a huge impact on students.
We want to continue to offer the testing, and want to continue to support students as they make choices about unplanned pregnancy, Snyder said.
Health care services also offers two types
of counseling: prevention/contraception
and emotional support.
Prevention counseling is for students
who are interested in contraception. A student can meet with a nurse and can speak
about what her options are and what would
work best for her.
The second type of counseling is available for students who receive unexpected
or emotional results from a positive STI result, or an unplanned pregnancy result.
Our providers spend a fair amount
[of time] talking to them about what this
means, what their options are, what other resources are available to them, Snyder
said.
Women arent the only ones who can receive health services such as testing for
STIs and HPV.
Its harder, I think, to get men to participate in preventative health care, Snyder said. For this age group we stress with
them testicular cancer and doing self exams. It is recommended that men get tested for STIs annually and encourage men to
take care of themselves.
Most STIs are treatable or curable, but
not all of them have symptoms.
Weitz said having a health clinic on campus allows for quick check ups or for any
questions she may have. Its a convenient
alternative to travelling home to Long Island when she needs a condom. Although,
she said she would only use the services as
a first opinion and probably go to another
doctor to confirm or reject any results.
Other than condoms, a variety of protection for safe sex and sexual health items are
also given for free in the Wellness Center in
114 Student Union. The services provided
by UB are available to any registered student
regardless of the students insurance plan.
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Naked twister:
How realistic are the

craziest sex positions?
A SEXY SPECTRUM EDITOR

I never thought Id say this, but this weekend, The
Spectrum forced me to spice up my sex life.
When all of us at The Spectrum started talking about
our annual Sex Issue two months ago, I volunteered
my long-term boyfriend and myself for what was
sure to be the most difficult article of all the sexperiment.
My fellow editors perused endless sex position
websites looking for the most difficult, awkward and
ridiculously named sex positions around. While they
laughed, gasped and cringed, I was thinking about
how I would recover from this challenging task I was
charged with.
Oh, the things I put myself through for The Spectrum.
After a weekend of exploring these new sex positions, I have put together a list so you and your partner can chose which new positions to add to your
repertoire. Grab a friend or lover and give em a go.
And remember, I did this all for you.
The Dolphin
Difficulty: medium
Pleasure rating: high
I was relieved when my kind colleagues chose this
position, because it is one of our personal favorites a
guaranteed finisher. Although it looks uncomfortable
for the ladys neck, kind of like The Butter Churner, this one is actually really comfortable once you get
into the grove.
Unlike many of the other positions, this one requires effort from both parties. My boyfriend usually
holds my hips and moves me up and down in rhythm
with him, while I raise and lower my butt along with
him, or squeeze my hip abductors to help stay in place.
The Dolphin also allows for brilliant views of each
other, so despite the distance between you, its a very
intimate position. Make sure you guys try this one out;
I guarantee itll become a staple in your repertoire.
The Love Triangle

Difficulty: medium
If your guy is looking to do some work and let
you lay back and just enjoy it, then this is for you. I
pretty much just laid back, stuck one leg up in the
air and waited for him to get comfortable in a deep
lunge. The Love Triangle doesnt allow for easy
movement for the guy, but the girl can rub herself
on his leg for extra pleasure.
The Propeller
Difficulty: impossible
Pleasure rating: none
The Propeller is a position very similar to The
Snow Angel, except the girl keeps her legs between the guys legs and lays them flat on the
bed. The difficulties arose in the same place as
penises have this habit of sticking straight out
when erect, or curving just a bit, but not 180 degrees.
Magic Bullet
Difficulty: easy/medium
Id venture to say The Magic Bullet is almost iconic.
There are very few sex position images more recognizable than a pair of lady legs resting on a mans shoulders, but this one demands the girl to hold her legs
straight up in the air and close together, rather than in
a V-shape (another iconic position).
The Magic Bullet allows for deeper penetration,
and there arent many things sexier than a mans torso
(shoulders and chest, yum yum!) during a sex position
where hes sitting up and working hard.
Girl on Top
Difficulty: easy
This one is a classic go-to for a reason its easy, offers great views of the lady, allows for intimate eye contact and kissing and is incredibly pleasurable. I dont think
I need to explain this one, because you all should be doing it, all the time.
Sometimes people think sex between people whove
been together for a long time can get boring, especially
since many stick with the same few positions. But when
youve got one this consistently good, it only gets better
with time.
Row His Boat

Difficulty: easy
My fellow editors gave me some rest by choosing
Row His Boat, a position we both love. We typically reserve this one for nights on the couch when were both
too lazy and/or excited to walk the necessary five steps
to our bedroom. Plus, sometimes in the winter the bed
sheets can be just too damned cold and if youre already on the couch
Anyways, this is essentially Girl on Top, but by having the guy sit on something, youre getting a new angle of penetration. The closeness of your bodies and
faces makes this seriously intimate. And, if you havent
tried public sex but are thinking about it, open your
curtains and let everyone wonder what things youre
getting up (to).
The Butter Churner

Difficulty: very challenging
This one is terrifying to look at, extremely difficult
to get into and requires a lot of endurance on the
guys part, but highly pleasurable once youve both
gotten into place.
The hardest part is working out exactly where everyones body parts should go and maintaining the
height of the girls pelvis. If the girl starts to slip
and drop her butt toward the bed, then its very difficult for the guy to squat over and over, and lower
and lower.
But once youve both got it going and have sufficiently warmed up your legs and neck to avoid
cramping, youre going to feel some serious penetration in a way few other positions allow.
Face to Face
Difficulty: medium
Pleasure rating: medium
Websites and magazines always tout what an intimate
position this is because of how close your faces are, but
my boyfriend and I are not particular fans of this position. If we do this one, then I place myself more on his
lap, holding myself up with my legs. If you do this position as shown, then youre not going to be able to do
much easy movement. Its a nice sitting hug but could
allow for more pleasure with your own variations.
Doggy Style
Difficulty: easy
Pleasure rating: medium
Now, I may be violating the sanctimony of Cosmo
here, but I really dont like Doggy Style. I find it immensely uncomfortable. Nonetheless, I know this is one a
lot of couples like and find super pleasing, so I figured Id
give you some variations for it.
Id much rather drop down and lie fully on the bed and
have my boyfriend enter from behind. Weirdly enough, I
prefer a type of Doggy Style if hes standing off the bed
but Im in the same all-fours position. Another A+ variation is when the guy stands off the bed and the girl kneels
on the bed and bends at the waist. Whatever way you do
it, playing around with variations of Doggy Style will be
one of the most pleasurable ways to spend your evening.
The Pretzel
Difficulty: easy
If youre bored with missionary but arent ready to
jump into the more difficult positions, take on The
Pretzel. By lying on her side, the girls pelvis is raised,
allowing for deeper penetration than missionary.
Like Face to Face, The Pretzel is better when you put
your own spin on it. We did try the designated style for
a while but I ended up dropping my upper leg quite a
bit, nearly ending up on my stomach (another personal favorite). Anything sideways is always a winner, but
this is a new one, and definitely going to be put in regular rotation.
Missionary
Difficulty: easy
Pleasure rating: medium/high
Do I even need to review this one? It can be extremely pleasurable or extremely boring, depending on if the guy gets his hands involved with the
ladys breasts or clitoris or not. Basically, all guys
need to keep in mind they cant just expect a girl to
seriously enjoy a position this simple if they arent
doing something a little more exciting with it. The
girl can also work to make this one better I tend
to raise my lower back and pelvis and gyrate my
hips.
SEE SEX POSITIONS, PAGE 10
ILLUSTRATIONS BY KENNETH CRUZ
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Waiting for love

EMMA JANICKI
MANAGING EDITOR
Kadriye Tekin, a sophomore health and

human services major has never kissed
anyone.
While she is on the clock at Alumni
Arena, she said guys regularly come up to
her and hit on her or ask her to hang out.
Half the time no one will believe me,
she said.
Although many people are surprised
when Tekin tells them she hasnt kissed
anyone, a significant percentage of UB
students are in similar situations. A survey
by The Spectrum of 837 students found that
about 14 percent of students are not sexually active and another roughly 5 percent
are sexually active, but have never had sexual intercourse. The 2013 UB American
College Health Assessment found that
about 34 percent of UB students hadnt
had any sexual partners in the prior 12
months. Despite how many students on
campus are choosing not to have sex, they
sometimes encounter harsh judgments
from others.
Stereotypes about the sex lives of college students can impact how some view
their fellow classmates, something Nadine
Thomas*, an abstinent student, has encountered.
My friends have all been supportive of my decision, even though Ive had
many who dont understand why I would
want to abstain or would judge me for it,

Thomas said in an email. Ive endured a
countless number of jokes about me being a naive, innocent virgin. That is such a
stereotype, being a virgin doesnt really say
a lot about your personality.
By senior year, 40 percent of college
students nationwide are virgins or have
had sex with just one person, according
to the Online College Social Life Survey,
a survey designed by Paula England and
conducted between 2005 and 2011.
At UB, about 23 percent of students
have had one sexual partner. Thomas
said she decided to wait to have sex because she wanted to find someone she
was comfortable and secure with, because there are so many things that can
go wrong, or so many ways it can get embarrassing.
Like Thomas, Tekin wants to wait to
kiss someone until she meets someone
she is comfortable with. Although Tekin
hasnt experienced many harsh judgments
from others, she said her guy friends either find it awkward or so fascinating,
some even asking her whenever they see
her if shes kissed a guy yet.
Once, a teacher even told Tekin she
needed to get on that.
Tekin said it can be overwhelming
when guys at Alumni Arena hit on her.
I want to be liked for who I am than
for what I do with guys, she said.
By waiting for someone they are com-
What is: sex?

LGBTA uses Jeopardy game to talk
about sex and romance
About 14 percent of UB students

are not sexually active, survey finds
fortable with, Tekin and Thomas are both
avoiding feeling regretful of their sexual
experiences something many students at
UB are familiar with.
Nearly half (46.57 percent) of responders to The Spectrums survey said they had a
sexual encounter they later regretted.
But students who are sexually active can
take steps to decrease the chance of later
regretting a sexual encounter by learning
more about themselves, according to Jane
Fischer, the director of SBI Health Education, a division of Sub Board I, Inc.
Someone might feel regret because of
what their family or culture believes, because they were cheating, because of what
friends think or say, because of alcohol
or drugs, or many more reasons, Fischer said. Its important to understand what
your sexual wants and needs are, whats
OK for you and whats not, and why you
feel that way.
Fischer said people need to talk with
their partners before and during sex, but
were more comfortable having sex than
talking about sex.
Thomas has been conscious of her decision to wait when deciding whether or
not she will date someone. She said shes a
good judge of character, so she figures
out pretty quickly whether or not the guy
would wait for her to be ready to have sex.
Thomas is now in her first relationship
and said she wants to have sex with him.
Not only is he the most compassion-
personal vs. private identities
PARIS CANTY
TORI ROSEMAN
SENIOR ARTS EDITOR
Musical chairs isnt just for childrens

parties or elementary schools the classic game makes a pretty good icebreaker
for college students gearing up to have a
frank discussion about sex.
The LGBTA, or Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Alliance, held a dating
techniques and romance language meeting on Monday, where they discussed
sex, romance and the situations college
students find themselves in. The clubs
goal was to have an open conversation
about these topics. The group used a
Jeopardy game to pose questions about
relationships and sexual practices as related to the lesbian, bisexual, gay, transgender and queer community.
Social media portrays gay sex as
glamorous and smooth, but its not always like that, said Paris Canty, a senior
psychology major and the president of
the LGBTA. The first experience can
be really uncomfortable, and awkward,
and painful. Neither of you really know
what to do because its completely new
We talk about [sex] in this open place
so people feel like they can ask questions, share experiences and get rid of
the clichs.
The LGBTA holds regular meetings
on Mondays, where members not only
talk about their feelings and experiences but also have fun with the friends
theyve made in the club. The meetings
have an upbeat, friendly atmosphere
with everyone chatting before the meeting and all throughout.
The open atmosphere is a comfortable setting to address issues that are
faced by not only members of the club,
but all college students. As Mondays

meeting continued, more intricate, situational questions came up such as what
to do if your significant other decides
to transition genders while you are still
in a relationship or how to react if your
crush likes your friend.
The room was split into three teams,
each of which gave thoughtful responses to the questions. The clubs executive
board analyzed the answers, then approved or disapproved with a yaaas or
nah. The exercise allowed participants
to enjoy friendly competition while
learning about sexual terminology and
different situations that can arise.
Its important to talk about sex because everywhere else, its taboo, said
Andrew Baumgartner, a senior nuclear medicine and psychology major. Because its so taboo, the subject is avoided, and then theres no way to get information about it. We keep the open
atmosphere here so people can feel
comfortable when they speak about
sex.
The club doesnt just hold Monday
meetings, but they also host regular
events, sometimes with other clubs such
as the UB College Republicans and even
the InterVarsity Christian Fellowship.
They have movie nights, potluck dinners and life-sized pong tournaments.
In addition to their own events, the
group participates in school-sponsored
events like Relay for Life and Oozefest.
The club constantly welcomes new
members, no matter their sexual orientation. They work closely with groups
on campus like the Christian Fellowship
in order to exchange ideas and discuss
their differences.
SEE LGBTA, PAGE 10
Out of the closet:
SPECIAL TO THE SPECTRUM
LBGTA members play a game of musical chairs to break the ice for new members before their sexual and
romantic language meeting
ANGELA BARCA, THE SPECTRUM
ate, genuine person ever, but hes been so

patient with me when it comes to sex,
Thomas said. Im so happy I waited.
Although Tekin and Thomas have made
decisions to wait to kiss or have sex, both
said people shouldnt judge others for
their decisions.
If you feel comfortable with someone,
and you think youre ready, then I do encourage you to do it, Thomas said. But
dont have sex because its the cool thing to
do, or everyone around you is having sex.
For Tekin, if someone you want to date
doesnt understand the decision to wait or
judges you for it, then they are clearly not
the right person to be with.
Every student must make their own decisions about when, where and who to
have sex with, but many (about 41 percent) are certain they absolutely want to
have more sex this semester than they did
last semester.
Whatever decision students are making about their sex lives, it is important to
know oneself, according to Fischer.
We cant know the future, but we can
take steps to identify our own boundaries, limits, wants, and beliefs ... and learn
from experience, Fischer said. Life, and
sex, often involves walking this road that
sometimes is a little bumpy.

When we go shopping, we usually are
attracted to things that we feel will look
good on us and we things we like.
Now, imagine every time you went
shopping, you were assigned a random
stranger. You dont know this stranger, you dont wish to know this stranger,
but they are more than willing to help
you every time you select an item. Because you know this stranger has little to
no knowledge about you besides the persona they assigned to you in their head,
you would think their opinion wouldnt
matter. That is how it is for many queer
persons when they go out, except the one
person is turned into everyone.
Misconceptions about a person come
from a limited understanding. We make up
for this by associating it with things we do
know. Nobody wants to look foolish, stupid or ignorant because its a negative in
society and a blow to our self-esteem.
Queer-identifying people have this with
questions such as, Who is the guy in the
relationship? when involving two lesbians, the assumption that a more feminine
man who is sexually attracted to men will
engage in anal sex from the receiving
end. These come from medias structure
in representation. Media favors the more
outrageous, the more shocking, the other; so gay men are structured to be seen
as the white girls best friend, to be seen
as flamboyant and an accessory or extension of the popular female.
This idea emphasizes the sarcastic and
quick-wit of the homosexual male, giving
them more value by societys standards
but limiting their dimensions.
This identity is limited to white males
of the queer spectrum. Race can also influence how an identity is given, as black
men are portrayed to be an amped version of their white counter parts with
added traits of the urban essence.
This breaks down the homosexual
male to be promiscuous, fashion minded,
clever and slightly obnoxious. People are
not simply these four traits, but these are
the first things that come to mind giving
homosexual males their identity.
Women are not given the best start at
life since birth, but adding another stigma
against them yields a more difficult life-
style. Lesbian and bisexual women, despite popular belief, are not more accepted than males in the queer community.
Lesbian and bisexual women are more
sexualized than men. In the media and
in life, there will be talk of a man being
harmed due to his sexual identity but not
of women receiving harm for discovering
themselves and publicly displaying it.
Women are not safer by any means but
they dont receive more questions about
their sexuality and dont hear youre going through a phase or you havent
found the right guy yet.
Women who do experience their bisexuality are not going through a phase
but may surpass themselves in order to
increase their societal standing and decrease the amount of interviews they get
from bystanders about their sexuality.
Remember the story about the helper inserting their opinion although they
should have better things to do, now
imagine them dressing you. While many
struggle to find a sense of self, others
struggle to maintain it.
When a woman dates a masculine
woman, it does not mean she is less of a
lesbian, it means she is attracted to masculine women. When a man dates a feminine male, it does not mean he attracted to females, it means he is attracted to
feminine men. A common misconception lost in translation is feminine is assigned to female and masculine assigned
to male, which is false.
To think of this from a different perspective, imagine your ideal partner, boyfriend or girlfriend. Now flip the sex of
the person to the opposite one are you
still attracted to him or her? A straight
man usually cannot find himself attracted
to a feminine male but can find himself
attracted to a feminine female. So, why
are queer people expected to find both
sexes equally attractive, if thats not the
case with heterosexuals?
Sometimes perspective is the most important thing to acknowledge. Your truth
may be somebodys lie. Those of sexual minorities cannot control their desires
any more than a person can choose what
color their skin will be. It can only be altered by dangerous methods that may do
more harm before good.
When we try to find ourselves we often
come up to two different types of obstacles: Me vs. Me or Me vs. Them. The issue that can be stopped is Me vs. Them
because it is dependent on the people in
society.
Before inserting an opinion, ask if what
you are about to say is based on whats
good for the person or whats good for
you. Will that sentence actually help them
in life? Or will it help the idea you have
of them?
Despite popular belief, you are not the
center of the universe.
Paris Canty is the president of LGBTA and
a senior psychology major.
email: pariscan@buffalo.edu
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THE SPECTRUMS SEX SURVEY of 837 students

WHAT IS YOUR GENDER IDENTITY?
>
M TO F TRANS
PARTICIPANTS
YES
PARTICIPANTS
PARTICIPANTS
494 327
PARTICIPANTS
<
F TO M TRANS
PLEASE DESCRIBE YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP STATUS:
MARRIED
ENGAGED
12
24-26
MONOGAMOUS
SINGLE
348
422
SEXUALLY
ACTIVE
BUT NO
INTERCOURSE
10
DIVORCED
WIDOWED
2
Have you ever
masturbated on
campus?
21% 79%
NO
Have you ever been

sexually assaulted
during your time as
a student at UB?
YES
93%
NO
birth control
vaginal ring
52
115
pull-out
method
.3%
birth control
shot
22
35
iud
no birth control
86
not sexually
active
not applicable
HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN IN YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIP?
14.25%
< 6 MO
6 MO - 1 YR
1 YR - 3 YR
3+ YR
NA
5.19%
13%
7.7%
19.3%
10%
50%
24%
23%
If you are not currently in a relationship,

where do you typically meet people you
have sexual encounters with?
33%
2-5
35%
15%
6-10
17%
15%
130
24
parties
class
the gym
have you ever had

a threesome?
102
61
79 632
through
mutual friends
dining halls
never in the
same place
13
136
332
clubs
not sexually
active
11+
SEPARATED
birth control
sponge
2.42%
11
birth control
implant
condom
32.85%
201
the pill
38.77%
7%
288
HOW MANY SEXUAL

PARTNERS HAVE YOU HAD?
POLYAMOROUS
YES
WHAT TYPE OF BIRTH CONTROL DO YOU USE?
6.16%
NOT
SEXUALLY
ACTIVE
NO
NO
what age did you first

have sexual intercourse?
21-23
63%
76.7%
NO
15-17
18-20
YES
YES
89.5%
12-14
23%
23.3%
10.5%
DO YOU HAVE HAVE YOU EVER

ANY FETISHES? HAD SEX ON CAMPUS?
DO YOU IDENTIFY
AS LGBT?
8%
14%
NA
18%
PEOPLE
PEOPLE
YES NO
119
PEOPLE
NOT SEXUALLY
ACTIVE
Do you use protection

(female condoms/condoms)
during sexual encounters?
56%
18%
YES
NO
NOT
SEXUALLY
ACTIVE
IN A
MONAGOMOUS
RELATIONSHIP
11%
15%
in a monogamous
relationship
have you ever had a sexual encounter

with a ta or professor to recieve a
better grade or specialtreatment?
20 YES
POEPLE
646 NO
POEPLE
YES
,
BUT NOT TO RECIEVE A BETTER
GRADE OR SPECIAL
TREATMENT
NOT
SEXUALLY
ACTIVE
31
NA 138
POEPLE
POEPLE
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A mans guide to a
single Valentines Day
TOM DINKI
SENIOR NEWS EDITOR
Saturday will be my first Valentines Day

being single in three years.
Ive done my fair share of the whole be
a good boyfriend and make Valentines
Day special for the girlfriend even though
you could care less routine: planning out
the day and spending more money than
you have on flowers, jewelry and dinner.
All of the things a disorganized, poor,
20-year-old male college student doesnt
like to do.
But not this year.
Saturday is going be the first Valentines
Day I spend alone since Feb. 14, 2011. I
have no one to spend the day with this
year. I have an entire day completely to
myself.
But dont feel bad for me. Im still going to have a better day than most of you
in relationships.
Im going to be able to start my day the
right way: sleeping until noon.
While the rest of you will be waking up
far earlier than anyone should on a Saturday for a pleasant Valentines Day brunch
or simply to prepare for the Big Day, Ill
be catching up on some quality sleep time.
Besides, who wants to be rudely woken
up with a Happy Valentines Day! I love
you, text? Not me.
Instead of putting on my best dress
shirt, spending 30 minutes on my hair and
heading out for said expensive brunch, Ill
whip up myself some eggs in my pajamas.
Another thing I wont have to do Saturday: pick a girl up in my car.

Women deserve to be equal to men; so
can we please get over this clich that its
the mans job to pick the women up for
dates? Gas prices may have dropped recently, but its Buffalo and the road conditions arent the best this time of year.
Anyone else remember the Stampede lines
last week?
A car is a persons own private space.
Its an extension of yourself really. So why
would I take time out of my day clean it
out for another person? Am I really supposed to throw out month-old Tim Hortons cups, drive thru receipts and used
gym clothes so a pretty girl has room to
put her feet somewhere?
Absolutely not.
A romantic ice skate downtown by
the waterfront sounds like a great way to
spend Valentines Day, but instead Ill stay
inside my warm house watching college
basketball or Netflix. Ice-skating is hard
enough. You dont need to a girl dragging you along, insistent on holding hands
while youre barely managing to stay balanced.
Ill be staying fit and watching my diet
while you have to dig into a box of chocolates your significant other bought you.
We all know most of the flavors are disgusting. Who wants to eat five gross pieces just to get to the flavor you really like
anyway?
Speaking of gifts, Im proud to announce there will be no $200 withdrawal from my checking account to Kay Jewelers this year. Someone should let them
to know to stop sending me ads and coupons in the mail. I will not need them.
Ill pay for just for one meal at dinner
instead of two. Ill be able to enjoy my
food instead of having to listen to someone talk about their day and remembering
to chew with my mouth closed.
Of course, everyone needs the company
of another person at the end of the day.
Even if we dont admit it, were all searching for someone we can connect with and
possibly be in a relationship with. Im no
different. Im sure Ill feel some loneliness
by the time Saturday comes to end.
But thats what Tinder is for.

email: tom.dinki@ubspectrum.com
Continued form sex positions, page 7

Reverse Cowgirl
Difficulty: easy
Pleasure rating: low/medium
As with my views on Doggy Style, I am
being blasphemous to sex advice worldwide in that I find this to be totally lame. I
love Girl on Top, dont get me wrong, but
Reverse Cowgirl is really only about penetration and the lovely view the guy has. It
doesnt allow for much more pleasure than that, whereas most girls need some type of
external stimulation to have an orgasm.
Guys, if you really want your girl to get into this one, then you need to be conscious
of the spots that make her moan when you touch them and capitalize on that.
The Snow Angel
Difficulty: impossible
Pleasure rating: none
When this position was chosen, about five
of us editors gathered around the computer screen using our Physics 101 knowledge
to figure out exactly how this would work.
We wondered what contortion the penis
would have to be put into, and believe me,
our conclusion was not a comfortable one.
Once we got into bed, my boyfriend and I decided to give this one a go first. It was
a total bust. For reasons unknown, the author of this position thought penises could
bend down and back towards the guys butt in a pleasurable manner. Unfortunately, the
laws of nature won and we laughed this one off. Perhaps with some time and creativity
you can find a way to make the angles work.
Being together for years like we have
means youre comfortable exploring crazy new options, but sometimes couples can feel a little stagnant in their sex.
If you spend an evening trying each one
of these, youre going to do some serious
laughing, but most importantly, some serious bonding.
For those of you dating someone new
or hooking up, it might feel a bit awkward
to suggest something like The Butter
Churner, but itll be fun exploring something new with someone new.
Best of luck on your own sexperiment!
The Spectrum editor who wrote this piece asked
to remain anonymous to protect her privacy.

Continued from LGBTA, page 8

The meeting Monday began with a game
of musical chairs, which broke the ice for
newcomers and regular attendees alike.
People stepped in and out of the meeting,
greeting friends before running to class or
staying to enjoy the program. People who
stepped in without knowing anyone were
greeted with enthusiasm and were invited
to participate in all of the activities.
This is actually my first meeting, said
Nick Backiel, a freshman accounting major. I see why people come here, though.
Everyone is so friendly, and I didnt feel
uncomfortable, even when we were talking about sex. I can definitely see myself
coming back.
Whether lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgen-
der or straight, members of the LGBTA

saw the importance of discussing sex and
romance. Sexual orientation didnt matter
many members left the meeting feeling
informed.
The chatter was just as loud at the end
of the meeting as it was in the beginning.
Once discussion of new executive board
elections and future events ended, the club
meeting turned into a hangout for friends
new and old. It wasnt until a Student Association member approached the executive board because the room was needed for another event that people began
leaving the room, taking their happy chatter elsewhere.
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KAINAN GUO, THE SPECTRUM
Lorna Loster opened her shop on Jan. 23 after deciding she

wanted to be her own boss. The shop promotes a safe environment for those who are skeptical about the sex industry.
In order to make
the store comfortable for all customers, Loster keeps her
X-rated products
in a locked glass case
at the register. She
also painted the walls
slick pink in order to
give more of a cozy
and girly vibe and
to make people feel
more at home.
Loster offers numerous products that
are key to the success
of her business, most
notably lingerie and
exotic clothing. Four
Beauties offers sizes from XS - 6XL in
order to appeal to the
entire market. Loster
also markets her
clothing as classy,
but revealing.
The shop offers
shoes, accessories, novelty items, gifts and
party supplies in addition to the clothing.
Although the shop has been open for
roughly two weeks, Loster said the biggest
sellers are fetish items such as stockings
and whips. She said it is not a coincidence.
Fifty Shades of Grey a critically
acclaimed erotic novel that explores fetish and bondage will hit the big screen
Friday. The release of Fifty Shades of
Grey led to a 7.5 percent increase in sales
of sex-themed products, according to a
report from research firm IBISWorld.
A fetish is something that is much bigger than Fifty Shades of Gray, Loster
said. Many people do it for a lifestyle,
some do it for fun. It can go from very
soft like light bondage and tickling, to really extreme stuff like use your imagination.
Loster said she has taken the right precautions to make the shop as friendly and
comfortable as possible. From the outside, Four Beauties shows various lingerie
items and mens apparel with several signs
that promote the wide range of sizes and
other merchandise.
A red curtain runs around the front
windows. Its not uncommon to see adult
shops around the country do the same
thing. Most stores put up a curtain to prevent children and pedestrians from seeing
the more promiscuous items. A sex shop
must abide to specific laws in order to
functionally operate. Less than 10 percent
of the inventory can be phallic or vaginal-like products but they cannot be presented in the front window.
Loster abides by the law, but she put
the curtain up for a different reason.
I want the customers to feel comfortable, Loster said. Most adult stores
block the windows off so little kids cant
see the raunchy items through the window.
I do it for discretion. People who are new
to the life can come in and no one would
know if you came in or what you buy here.
Sex and the Queen City

Sex shop opens near UB South Campus,
promotes a safe sex haven
JORDAN GROSSMAN
SENIOR SPORTS EDITOR
Buffalos South Campus just got a little

sexier.
Lorna Loster runs the only store near
Buffalos South Campus that offers a
plethora of novelty sex toys, lingerie, exotic dancer costumes and other intimate
sex enhancers.
But Loster will never call her store a
sex shop.
Its a fashion and intimates boutique,
Loster said. Thats a title I came up with
because I dont want anyone to think
raunchy. People wont sit there and say
Oh, you went to that sex store? Theyll
sit there and say, I went to the boutique.
Loster opened her Four Beauties adult
shop at 3083 Main St. in the University Heights near UBs South Campus. The
shop officially opened on Jan. 23 and welcomes anyone with a valid 18-plus ID.
Loster said the main intention of the
store is to create a safe environment for
people who are looking to explore his or
her sex life.
Loster an intended sex therapist who
studied at the University of Pittsburgh
first worked at a sex shop when she was
18 years old. She quickly realized she
wanted to work in the sex industry. After
working at her first shop, she was motivated to one that didnt make customers
feel uncomfortable.
I worked at one in 2004, Loster said.
I tried to work there and I didnt like the
atmosphere. It was creepy to a certain extent. You didnt feel comfortable in there.
In 2012, Loster began the inception of
an adult shop that wouldnt make customers feel uneasy upon entrance while being
able to enhance a persons sex life.
The moniker Four Beauties references a Chinese legend about the four most
beautiful women in the world a running
theme in the boutique. Above the register
is an abundance of oriental dcor, including posters, embroideries and wall art.
Loster said the addition of an adult
shop in the Heights has not posed any
issues or criticism so far, but the risk is
present. Four Beauties is located near 28
schools where students under the age of
18 attend, according to HomeFinder.com.
But Loster is convinced there will not
be a problem now or in the future.
As long as the child is taught properly
by their parents, it shouldnt be an issue,
Loster said. I dont see issues coming either. I keep my storefront just like any retailer that sells lingerie at the mall. Its not
until they come inside when they see the
rest of the store.
I want this to be a sex safe haven.

One of Losters main goals is to turn
skeptics about the sex industry into believers. She said a common misconception about adult shops is publicity.
Most people think that [sex shops]
are things to look down on, Loster said.
They dont believe it should be public.
But most people need to know its something natural for all of us.
UBs South Campus has been a target
market for Four Beauties due to the high
number of college students that reside
in the dorms and houses around South
Campus.
College is about exploration, not only
through knowledge, but [exploring ones]
self, Loster said. Students are away
from parents and are here to explore. Im
just a stepping stone to help further the
process.
Charlie Wanderer, a sophomore physics major, lives directly above Four Beauties. When Wanderer returned from winter break, he wasnt aware that a sex shop
would be opening below him.
It wasnt there when I moved in earlier this year, but it took us for a surprise
when I came back from break and saw
it opened, Wanderer said. The store
doesnt bother me though. It caters to different clientele that Im not used to, but
it keeps to itself and does its own thing.
Phil Berg, a sophomore exercise science
major, lives with Wanderer and was not
excited about the opening of the shop
upon returning from break. Berg said he
thinks it will draw a weird customer
base to the neighborhood.
Berg also said the location of the shop
was not ideal, considering the proximity of Buffalo Academy of the Sacred
Heart, which is located a few blocks further down Main Street.
Its an interesting business to be
opened up on a street with so many young
kids running around, like the elementary
school just down the street, Berg said. I
dont know what the shop will do to prevent kids from seeing their stuff.
Nonetheless, Berg found humor in the
opening of the store.
I wasnt concerned [with the shop];
it was more funny to me, Berg said. I
never thought in a million years that I
would be living over a sex shop.
Loster plans to open two other shops
around Buffalo in the future. The other two shops will specialize in specific apparel, rather than a conglomerate of adult
products. She plans to have one of her locations to be in Allentown, a community
in downtown Buffalo.
Like Four Beauties, she plans to promote a comfortable environment for the
customers.
My other store will be strictly toys and
novelties, Loster said. Three in total, in
different areas, is my goal. These will be
places where you dont feel uncomfortable when you walk in.
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ACROSS
ACROSS
1 Musician Clapton
5 Stop acting up!
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14 Like Ertes style
15 Stayed away from
16 Alternate sp., in crossword clues
17 Filled with uncontrollable emotion
19 Cy Young Award
stat
20 Boardwalk sights
21 One spelling for a
zigzagging ribbon
used as trimming
23 In an angry way
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cheer to
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as a river bank
28 Olympic
skiing
category
31 Discharge through
the pores
32 Ending
passage
in music
33 Units of resistance
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37 Job
possibility
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41 Russian despot
43 Yemeni port
44 Pops the cork
46 Bangs, yells, sirens,
etc.
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54 They often wear
dark eyeliner
55 White House Webaddress ending
56 Where Jack and Jill
live now?
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once ...
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63 Cookie favorite
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over time
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canonical hour
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of Balder
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lickety-split
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winner Spacek
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water
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roles
or Lenya
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word
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painter Frans
briefly
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of the back doors, Brown misdemeanor, or Exposure of a Person; a

said. Once he left, we tried violation-level offense, Bartolomei said.
sneaking out the other back
While neither Greene nor her boyfriend
door.
ever received any information in regard to
The cop was waiting be- a report or referral to Judicial Affairs, they
hind the door and ques- have a feeling their adventure is not so setioned Brown and the girl. cretive anymore.
He let them off with a warn
ing
*Names have been changed to protect the anoI guess it was worth the nymity of these students.
story, Brown said.
In the spring of 2014, Lauren email: features@ubspectrum.com
Greene*, a senior nursing major,
wanted to add some
excitement in her sex life
with her boyfriend. They
made it their mission to have
sex in all the libraries on
campus.
On a Saturday afternoon, they went to the
Health Sciences Library
on South Campus to
study.
But not much studying
took place.
Greene and her boyfriend
went into one of the private rooms located upstairs on the second
floor and got to business.
We
had
to
study but couldnt
do work before,
Greene said. We
had so much sexual tension.
They started
to have sex in
the corner
of the
room
so
nobody
walking past
could see
through
the window
on the
door.
We
got really into it
so I wanted him
to throw
me on the
table,
Greene
said. He
refused because there were
other people in the
rooms next to us. He was
too scared we were going to make
too much noise and get caught.
When they successfully completed
their mission, they went back to studying,
believing they had successfully gotten away
with having sex in the library.
Elizabeth Lidano, director of Judicial
Affairs and Student Advocacy, said she
hasnt received a case in regard to students
having sex in public locations on campus.
Lidano said in an email if she were to receive such a report from UPD, the guilty
students would be charged with a violation
of disorderly conduct.
Disorderly conduct is defined as conduct which is disorderly, lewd, indecent;
breach of peace; or aiding, abetting, or
procuring another person to breach the
peace, according to Lidano.
But, it isnt something we are seeing,
Lidano said in an email.
At the beginning of the following
semester, when Greene and her boyfriend went back to the library for
the first time, they noticed signs
on the private rooms reading,
Inappropriate conduct will be
reported.
While Greenes story ultimately went unreported, Bartolomei said situations involving students, such as
the ones described, would
result in a student conduct referral to Judicial
Affairs depending on
the circumstances.
However, under
state law, potential
offenses could include Public Lewdness, which is a B
PHOTO BY YUSONG SHI, DESIGN BY JENNA BOWER
Sexperiences
Students share
their on-campus
sex stories
the
Bulls
Stadium
between the
words NEW
and YORK.
Despite students
stories, students having
sex in a public location isnt
a major issue University Police is faced with regularly, according to Assistant Chief of Police Chris
Bartolomei.
We rarely receive such calls and it is not
considered a common problem on campus, Bartolomei said in an email.
One night during finals week last semester, Will Brown,* a freshman undecided
major, and a girl were in her dorm room,
under the covers naked and about to
have sex.
But then one of her roommates
walked in.
DANI
GUGLIELMO
STAFF WRITER
About 23 percent of students claim to have had sex in
on-campus buildings other than
residential bedrooms, according a
Spectrum survey of 837 students.
Its not unusual for students to have sex in
on- and off-campus housing, but theres a
riskier group of students who claim theyve
had sex in public parts of campus. Anonymous students who took the sex survey
said theyve had sex in parking lots, Knox
20, a library stairwell, Baird Point, a biochemical laboratory, a Student Association
club office, the Follett Campus Bookstore,
the Stampede and even in the center of
Earlier
that week,
Brown had
created
a
bucket
list
with his friends
a pact that each
of them had to
have sex in an academic building at UB.
When her roommate opened the door
we quickly sprung to get
our clothes back on before
she turned the corner into the
bedroom area, Brown said. We
were able to get dressed and then
we casually talked to her roommate for
about 10 minutes.
Brown figured this would be the perfect
time to put the bucket list into action.
They told her roommate they were going to get ice cream from Perks, a coffee
and ice cream shop located in the Atrium
at the Ellicott Complex, to escape for some
privacy.
Instead, the two went to the Millard Fillmore lecture hall in the Ellicott Complex
for what many would consider better than
ice cream.
Sex.
After going in and scoping out the situation we turned off the lights and laid
down behind the back row, Brown said.
Before things could get intense, our bad
luck persisted.
Brown said a UB police officer strolled
in with a flashlight, thwarting his plans.
We hid until [the officer] went out one
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