The Social Aspect of Women in Islam:

As a Daughter:
(1) The Quran ended the cruel practice of female
infanticide, which was before Islam. God has said:
{And when the girl (who was) buried alive is asked, for
what sin she was killed. } (Quran, 81:8-9)
(2) The Quran went further to rebuke the unwelcoming
attitude of some parents upon hearing the news of the
birth of a baby girl, instead of a baby boy. God has said:
{ And when one of them is informed of (the birth of) a
female, his face becomes dark, and he suppresses grief.
He hides himself from the people because of the ill of
which he has been informed. Should he keep it in
humiliation or bury it in the ground? Certainly, evil is
what they decide.} (Quran 16:58-59)
(3) Parents are duty-bound to support and show kindness
and justice to their daughters. The Prophet
Muhammad (pbuh) said: {Whosoever supports two
daughters until they mature, he and I will come on the Day
of Judgment as this (and he pointed with his fingers held
together).}
(4) A crucial aspect in the upbringing of daughters that
greatly influences their future is education. Education is
not only a right but a responsibility for all males and
females. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: {Seeking
knowledge is mandatory for every Muslim.} The word
Muslim here is inclusive of both males and females.
(5) Islam neither requires nor encourages female
circumcision. And while it is maybe practiced by some
Muslims in certain parts of Africa, it is also practiced by
other peoples, including Christians, in those places, a
reflection merely of the local customs and practices there.

The Social Aspect of Women in Islam:

As a Mother:
(1) The Quran elevates kindness to parents (especially mothers)
to a status second to the worship of God:
{Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and
that you be kind to your parents. If one of them or both of them
reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect,
or scold them, but say a generous word to them. And act humbly
to them in mercy, and say, My Lord, have mercy on them, since
they cared for me when I was small. } (Quran, 17:23-24, see also
31:14, 46:15, and 29:8)
(2) Naturally, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) specified this
behavior for his followers, rendering to mothers an unequalled
status in human relationships. A man came to the Prophet
Muhammad (pbuh) and said, O Messenger of God! Who among
the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The
Prophet (pbuh) said: {Your mother.} The man said, Then who?
The Prophet (pbuh) said: {Then your mother.} The man further
asked, Then who? The Prophet (pbuh) said: {Then your
mother.} The man asked again, Then who? The
Prophet (pbuh) said: {Then your father.}
As a Sister in Faith (In General):
(1) According to the Prophet Muhammads (pbuh) sayings:
{women are but shaqaiq (twin halves or sisters) of men.} This
saying is a profound statement that directly relates to the issue of
human equality between the genders. If the first meaning of the
Arabic word shaqaiq, twin halves, is adopted, it means that the
male is worth one half (of society), while the female is worth the
other half. If the second meaning, sisters, is adopted, it implies
the same.

(2) The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) taught kindness, care, and

respect toward women in general: {I commend you to be good to
women.} It is significant that such instruction of the Prophet was
among his final instructions and reminders in the farewell
pilgrimage address given shortly before his passing away.
(3) Modesty and social interaction: The parameters of proper
modesty for males and females (dress and behavior) are based on
revelatory sources (the Quran and prophetic sayings) and, as
such, are regarded by believing men and women as divinelybased guidelines with legitimate aims and divine wisdom behind
them. They are not male-imposed or socially imposed
restrictions. It is interesting to know that even the Bible
encourages women to cover their head: If a woman does not
cover her head, she should have her hair cut off; and if it is a
disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut or shaved off, she
should cover her head. (1 Corinthians 11:6).

Rights of a Muslim Wife

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has
made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to
support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are
devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the
husbands absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity,
their husbands property, etc)" (An-Nisa 4:34)

Mahr (Dowry)
In Islam the man presents his wife with a dowry they have mutually
agreed upon, at the time of marriage. The amount varies according to his
means and generosity, and his wife has the right to spend, save or remit
any part of it. Allah (SWT) says in the Quran:
"And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridalmoney given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a
good heart, but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to
you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allah has made it
lawful). (An-Nisa 4:4)

Maintenance
Women have been entrusted by Allah (SWT) with the task of providing a
peaceful, comfortable home environment for the breadwinner who works
for their provisions outside the home all day long.
It is one of the extraordinary beauties of Islam that by entrusting the male
to the position of protector and provider, it frees the woman, who is
burdened with the long cycle of bearing, giving birth to, nursing and
raising children, from having to assume the extra burden of her own and
her childrens support, which is unjust and a tremendous hardship.
While a woman must obey her husband, as long as he does not ask
anything forbidden of her, and guard his possessions while he is away
from the house, and handle his money as he wishes, she must also be
faithful, trustworthy and honest.
A wife is regarded as a source of love, peace and compassion, as stated in
the Quran:
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among
yourselves, that you may find repose in them , and He has put between
you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who
reflect." (Ar-Rum 30:21)
"But the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mothers food and
clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him
greater than he can bear" (Al-Baqarah 2:233)
"O Messenger of Allah (SAW), what right can a wife demand of her
husband? He replied, that you should give her food when you eat, clothe
her when you clothe yourself, not strike her on the face, and do not insult
her or separate form her except in the house." (Reported by Ahmad, Ibn
Majah and Abu Dawud)
"A woman came to the Prophet (SAW) complaining of her husband,
Messenger of Allah (SAW), Abu Sufyan is a niggardly man who does not
give me and my son enough; except what I take from him without his
knowledge. He replied, Take what is enough for you and your son
according to what is maroof (well-known in your society)." (Reported by
Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Good Treatment, Condideration and Companionship

Allah (SWT) instructs men that they must be compassionate and kind to
their wives:

"They are Libas [i.e. body cover, or screen or Sakah, (i.e. you enjoy the
pleasure of living with her as in Verse 7:189) Tafsir At-Tabari], for you and
your are the same for them" (Al Baqarah 2:187)
"It is He Who has created you from a single person (Adam), and (then) He
has created form him his wife (Eve), in order that he might enjoy the
pleasure of living with her" (Al-Araf 7:189)
This meaning that a wife and a husband are meant for mutual support,
mutual comfort, and mutual protection of each other.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) also emphasized the importance of this
compassionate treatment:
"I command you to treat women kindly. Woman has been created from a
rib (the rib is crooked), and the most crooked part of the rib is the upper
region. If you try to make it straight you will break it, and if you leave it as
it is, it will remain curved. So treat women kindly." (Reported by AlBukhari)
Prophet Muhammad (SAW) also said:
"The best of you are those who are best to the women." (Sahih AtTirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Al-Jami Al-Saker)
The best husband is one who provides her with true leadership without
harshness, or laxness, and who does not misuse his authority and
strength. Even if the behavior of a wife should become hard to live with
(for she may not always be in strong health and of cheery disposition), the
man is asked to be patient and kind to her. Allah (SWT) says:
"O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will,
and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away
part of the Mahr (dowry, bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at
the time of marriage) you have given them, unless they commit open
illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honorably. If you dislike
them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great
deal of good." (An-Nisa 4:19)
A wife has the right to her husbands attention, companionship and time.
The husband should try to please and make her happy, taking into
consideration her needs, wishes, likes and dislikes, and making time for
relaxation and recreation together.
Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said,
"Among the Muslims, the most perfect as regards his faith is the one
whose character is most excellent, and the best among you are those who
treat their wives well." (At-Tirmidhi)

"A believer must not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her
characteristics he will be pleased with another." (Sahih Muslim)
"Woman has been created from a rib and in no way will be straight for
you; so if you enjoy her you will do so while crookedness remains in her;
but if you try to straighten her you will break her; breaking her being
divorcing her." (Sahih Muslim)

The Right to Adequate Sexual Relations

Since the purpose of marriage is to be a mutual source of comfort, peace,
and enjoyment for each other, like a garment that protects and cover, the
sexual aspect of marriage is an extension of this. The husband is asked to
be gentle, considerate and loving with his wife, and to try to satisfy her
needs. The wife must reserve herself exclusively for her husband, and
make efforts to be attractive, as well as making herself available to him
whenever he is in need of her. This latter obligation also applies to the
husband. In Islam, any sexual relations are reserved EXCLUSIVELY for the
confines of marriage. Both husband and wife are also obligated to honor
the privacy of the intimate relations between them, and should not speak
of them to anyone. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:
"Verily among the worst people before Allah on the Day of Judgment is a
man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he
spreads her secrets." (Sahih Muslim)
Allah (SWT) says in the Quran:
"And live with them honorably" (An-Nisa 4:19)
The wife has right over her husband. The husband should play with his
wife.
"The Prophet (SAW) was told about one of his Sahaba (Companions) that
he fasts in the daytime and prays at night, the Prophet (SAW) told him
that his family has right over him, his body has right over him, pray and
sleep, fast and then break the fast." (Ibn Hibban)
The Prophet (SAW) also declared that having sexual intercourse with ones
wife is like giving charity. It is very important to play and sport with ones
wife before having sex, as the Prophet (SAW) told Jabir,
"Why did you not marry a virgin, with whom you could play and who would
play with you?" (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The Right Not To Be Beaten

Prophet Muhammad (SAW) specifically said,

"Do not beat the female servants of Allah." (Abu Dawud)

Allah (SWT) says in the Quran:
"As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them
(first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it
is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means
(of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great." (An-Nisa
4:34)
The Prophet (SAW) said:
"When one of you inflicts a beating, he should avoid striking the face."

The Right to Be Just With All the Wives

The Prophet (SAW) said,
"When a man has two wives and does not treat them equally he will come
on the Day of Resurrection with a side hanging down." (At-Tirmidhi and
Abu Dawud)
The wives have the right to equal number of nights and equal amount of
wealth.

The Right to Learning Matters of the Deen

A husbands duty is to teach his wife the essential knowledge of Islam, in
particular matters pertaining to women. If he does not know himself, then
he must buy her books and tapes that would teach her or let her go to
study circles where she can acquire that knowledge. She can not leave the
house without his permission, but she can go to the Masjid (Mosque)
without his permission. He has no right to stop her from that. Allahs
Messenger (SAW) said,
"Do not prevent the female servants of Allah from visiting the mosques of
Allah, but they may go out (to the mosque) having not perfumed
themselves." (Ahmad and Abu Dawud)
"Their houses are better for them." (Abu Dawud)

The Right to Be Jealously Defended

This includes not letting her leave the house without proper hijab, or not
letting her freely intermingle with men. The Prophet (SAW) has said that a
dayooth (a man who is not jealous about his honor) will not enter
Paradise.

Now this does not mean that the husband is permitted to go to the
extreme in this matter. Such matters may be as follows:
Not letting ones wife go out of the house EVEN when it is safe to do so.
Not letting ones wife answer the phone.
Not allowing wife to go to hospital when she is sick.