Arellano University

Graduate School of Nursing

In Partial Fulfillment for the Requirements in C211 MHPN

REACTION PAPER

Submitted by:
Mary Grace D. Estuya RN

Submitted to:
Dr. Remedios L. Fernandez

Date Submitted:
February 14, 2015

Reaction I:
What is Midlife Crisis?
By Cathy Meyer
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It is only when human being has grown up that he can have doubts about
himself and be a variance with himself.
-Carl Jung, Modern Man in search of a
soul, 1933

Carl Jung viewed midlife as a critical point of transition in life, which

itself begins between thirty-fifth and fortieth year. He defined it as a period of
time in which the true self begins a process of separation from the ego
(persona). He also characterized the second half of life as a time when
people shift their attention from material acquisition toward the pursuit of
meaning.
I dont know how older adults feel when they already reached their
40s or 60s, but as I observed my parents, especially my mother, I realized
how this brings crisis to them. I often heard my mother says, how her life
would be when she continued working and did not chose to be a housewife,
would this change the status of our living today. I also observed her being
emotional, especially when watching those telenovelas and sometimes she
easily gets mad even without reason. Having her mood swings is honestly
bothersome, but I understand her because I know she is also confused with
how her emotions shift.
Im not yet at that age, but I understand how depressing it is. As I
imagining myself being near on my thirties made me feel anxious, because I
still didnt accomplish much of my goals in life. I have a friend, whos in her
30s already often verbalizing that she sometimes feels depress because she
is already in the age where she should be the one providing for her parents
and still she does not have a stable job.

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Midlife crisis is the stage where you would ask yourself, Have we been
living a life worth living?
Reaction II: What stresses Men?
Predictors of Perceived Stress in a Population-Based Multi-ethnic
Cross Sectional Cohort
There are many stressors that affect a human being; it can have a
positive or a negative effect depending on how human reacts on it. Me,
myself faces many stressors, in my studies, family and friends. Because I am
a single parent, I need to manage my time caring for my daughter, doing
household chores, doing other activities and especially doing my school
requirements, which made me feel stress at times, because I dont know
what should be done first. Financial problems also made me feel stress
because I need to provide for my family and pay other expenses and still I
dont have a stable job, my father is the only provider in our family. And
sometimes, my mother often releases her problems with me which also
made me feel stressed. Sometimes, I have this hard time sleeping because I
often think what school I do to solve my problems, which me ended tried and
unsatisfied. But due to my experiences in facing what causes my stress, I
have learn that if you face it the positive way, it will reduce the negative
effects on you and resolve your problems as well. Before, whenever I feel
stress I would tend to eat a lot, sleep late and stay at my room. But I have
realized that this will not reduce my stress, so now, whenever I feel it, I also
eat but not a lot, enough to make me feel relieved, sleep early so that Ill be
refresh the next day and I do planning so that I dont cram anymore.

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Every feels stresses but it depend on how you manage it. it is better to
know yourself first, so that youll know your weakness and limitations.

Reaction III: Grief and Mourning

By Carolyn E. Carlson

Everybody has their own time on how long they can move on in a
certain situation in their life. No one can determine other peoples grief. You
can just empathize with them and say that it will all get better soon, but it
will still depend on the person if he/she is ready to go on that acceptance
phase of their lives.
I have my own experience when a loss happened in our family; it was
my grandfathers passing. The family cannot accept that he is already dead.
The family mourns for almost two years. We never stayed longer in our
house in the province unlike before because it was still hard to accept, and
the house always reminds us the memories of our grandparents. Even today,
my mother still cries whenever it is my grandfathers death anniversary and
would verbalized, Sana kung buhay pa din si lolo niyo, magiging masaya na
siya ngayon.
Grief and mourning is not always about a person dying, sometimes it
can be mourning over a break-up with a boyfriend, a love one, a partner or a
spouse who had once become important in your life. I had a boyfriend for
almost more than a year, and then he needed to go abroad for work, it was
depressing for almost more than a year, and then he needed to go abroad for
work, it was depressing for me because I know long distance relationship
ended. It was so depressing that it took me almost three years to move and
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let go. It was very hard that everyday seems to be a battle that I need to
face, knowing that I need to forget all the memories. Nights become more
difficult, because it is when all the sadness returns, and it is when you are
facing your sadness alone. After 3 years, I came back to my senses, my
friends and family helped me recovered. It was hard to start but I need it, I
have realized that I still have my own life to live with, and I know that there is
somebody out there for me willing to stay for the rest of our lives.
This experience s proves that it depends upon a person if how long
he/she will move on. You cannot judge a person by the grief or mourn they
feel on a certain situation in their lives, it is them, and it will depend on them
on how ready they are to live their life again, all you can do is be with them,
listen with what they have to say, atleast in that way who can help them
release their burdens.
Reaction IV: Nurses Suicide highlights twin tragedies of medical
errors
I believed that committing medical errors could not be a reason for
anyones dismissal, especially if you have committed it only once. Everyone
can commit errors, even doctors can do too, because it is not every day that
you are

feeling well. In the case of Hiatt, she is working in that hospital

for years already, and she has good records on how she had worked. She
only committed an error once, and yet was not proven that her medical
mistake caused the death of the child; she was not given another chance to
prove herself. I am not saying that it is okay to commit mistakes especially
with us who work as healthcare provider who holds the life of other people, it
can be prevented but chances are you cannot avoid it.

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