Love Systems Insider

Date: February 2009

1. Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is coming up.

Is this a good thing or a bad thing? It depends on your situation.

• If you are in a committed relationship, Valentine’s Day is a good opportunity to

strengthen your relationship.

• If you are completely single, Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to meet women who
want a man in their lives.

• If you are casually dating one or more women, Valentine’s Day sucks. But I’m going to
show you how to make the best of it and make it your friend.

If you’re not dating anyone...

If you’re not dating anyone, and you’re reading the Love Systems insider, you must be new. Or
you haven’t had the chance to do a lot of work on your game.

If you thoroughly study Magic Bullets and the Love Systems Routines Manual and you’re
approaching at least a few women every day on average, you’ll succeed. If you’re not getting
anywhere, contact me. I answer all my email personally and what we do means a lot to me.

These Valentine’s Day tips will help turn Saturday to your advantage:

• Send a mass text message of “Happy Valentine’s Day” to all of the women in your
phone, whether you’ve talked to them recently or not, and even if a woman’s been
blowing you off. You have nothing to lose.
• Send this text in the early afternoon... women who are interested in you will text back.

• For the ones who text or call back, the dance starts. Let the conversation go a bit and
then ask her what she’s doing tonight. If she’s not sure, say that you were going to
boycott Valentine’s Day and grab a few drinks and invite her to “join up later.” Imply
that you’ll be doing this whether she comes out or not.

• BUT – this is the important part – keep your line of retreat open. If she responds with
anything other than a “not sure” or some other hint that she’s available, you need to have
a solid reason why you’re not doing something. For example:
○ YOU: [Random conversation.] What are you up to tonight?
○ HER: Going to party, you?
○ YOU: [Noticing that she hasn’t hinted at seeing you tonight.]
✔ “Ha, I’ll be getting used to being an uncle. I’m in Chicago this weekend;
my sister had a baby yesterday!”
✔ “Me too. But it’s a white party and I just realized I have nothing white. I
might have to resort to bleach.”
✔ Do NOT imply that you have nothing to do.

• If you end up meeting up with someone through this method, do NOT act like it’s
Valentine’s Day or make it all romantic. Go to a bar or club, have some drinks, have
fun. She’s likely planning to sleep with you anyway.

• (Oh, I shouldn’t forget this part – if you do get a woman out like this, and she does sleep
with you, don’t assume it means anything. She could just be lonely or on the rebound.)

• Other than this, do NOT do anything specific for any woman you already know and are
interested in, unless you are on the path to becoming her boyfriend (my Relationship
Management home study course can help with that).

• Do not send flowers, anonymously or not.

• If you don’t talk to her on Valentine’s Day, call her early next week and tell her a funny
story about something that happened when you were out with a “friend” on “Saturday.”
 • Be subtle – she’ll put two and two together – and make your story take place somewhere
fun and romantic but not over the top. A story about a woman taking off her shoes to
dance and then seeing them slide over the deck into the water while you and your friend
went on a dinner/cruise works better than “Yeah, so on Saturday I went out with a girl
with big tits and we had a lot of fun.”

• Don’t ask her what she did on “Saturday” or “Valentine’s Day.” Assume that she was
either alone or with a lesser man. Don’t react or be interested.

• Go out and meet women! Women who go out on Valentine’s Day are looking for
romance and to feel better about themselves. Prepare for questions like “Why aren’t you
with someone tonight?” and “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?” There are tons of great
responses for these sorts of “tests” in the Love Systems Routines Manual (and stay tuned
to the Love Systems Audio page for a whole downloadable interview on handling tests
coming in March).

• Don’t get drunk and get tempted to call someone you wish you were with.

• Don’t stay sober and get tempted to call someone you wish you were with.

(Did you know that in Korea they have a phone with a breathalyzer that can block outgoing
calls to certain numbers if you’re drunk? Anyway...)

If you’ve been dating someone but she’s not your girlfriend or close to it...

• This is the trickiest one. Valentine’s Day is great for women because it forces men to
reveal their intentions.

• You may have been casually flirting with her and playing hard to get, but as soon as you
ask her out on Valentine’s Day, she will know that your interest is serious. Unless she is
equally interested in you, she will know that she can have you, and will therefore be
more likely to get bored with the lack of a challenge. Remember, being Challenging is
one of the eight attraction triggers from Magic Bullets.
 • Yes, this sucks. No, it doesn’t mean she’s a bitch. People want what they can’t have,
and women and relationships are no exception. On the other hand, if she’s into you and
you don’t offer to make plans... you may be discarded for someone who does. Sorry.
This can be a no-win situation. I didn’t make the world; I just live in it.

• The best bet here is to go out with a mixed group (either a group of singles, or include
some couples once they’ve done the private Valentine’s Day stuff together) and invite
her to come along. Keep it nice and ambiguous.

If she is your girlfriend...

• There’s no way around this. Make the day special for her. Do the traditional date and do
it right.

• Send her flowers, and send them somewhere she can show them off to her friends.
Valentine’s Day for women is in part a “who has the best boyfriend” competition. So
send flowers to her work if that’s appropriate, or to her apartment if she has a few
roommates.

• Don’t just send roses. Be creative. But make it nice.

• Do the traditional Valentine’s date, complete with the nice dinner, dressing up, romantic
vibe, etc. Take any concerns about “supplicating” and throw them in the $(*@ing
garbage. It’s Valentine’s Day, she’s your girlfriend, so man up and be a good boyfriend.

If you have multiple girlfriends or long-term relationships (in your city)...

• Get out of town. I’m serious. Most beautiful women will not accept seeing a man once a
week or more, sleeping with him, and not getting to spend Valentine’s Day with him if
he’s in town.

• Make it a business trip, a family emergency, etc. Whatever it is, leave before Friday and
don’t come back on Sunday. That’s too obvious. Disappear for at least a couple of days.

• Send flowers to all of them and call all of them. You’ll probably have make-up dates to
do when you get back, but at least they’re not all colliding on the same day.
In sum, if you’re single or casually dating, Valentine’s Day is a giant, societally-imposed
artificial state break in the normal evolution of a relationship. It is not your friend. Try to make
the best of it. On the plus side, if you are single, women are incredibly easy to meet.

2. Free Routines Manual

Well, not the whole thing. But the first few chapters are, and they contain some really
interesting and effective openers and more.

You can grab this on the Routines Manual page.

It’s completely free, and our gift to the Love Systems community in continued recognition and
thanks for your support over the last five years.

Without you, we’d have lost interest in changing the world a long time ago.

3. If you missed it...

There’s been so much going on so far this year that I wanted to send out some quick summaries
of cool things and resources out there.

• Braddock wrote a killer guide to Spring Break (which works just as well for Ibiza, or any
concert, festival, etc., with a lot of beautiful women).
• There are more videos up from the Relationship Management Home Study Course.
• We’ve added more new videos to the Love Systems YouTube channel. (Subscribe to
this; it’s free.)
• Great new articles on the shut up challenge, picking up in the UK, inner game, rapid
escalation, approach anxiety, and more – in the classic writings section of The Attraction
Forums.
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Take Care,

Savoy