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[Music playing]
Psychotherapy is a personal and private process that is a mystery
to people who haven't gone through it. The following theory is a
unique effort that allows us to sit in on a very private therapeutic
experience. An actual patient was courageous and considerate
enough to allow herself to be photograph while engaged in therapy.
We are allowed the privilege of seeing and feeling what really
transpires.
A film series like this in which three distinguished therapists
share their therapeutic endeavors has never been made before.
We express our gratitude to Gloria the patient, and her therapists
for allowing us to share in their therapeutic adventure.
This series will be divided into three separate films. In the first
we will see Dr. Carl Rogers, founder of client centered therapy
interviewing Gloria. In the second film we will see Dr. Fritz Pearls,
founder of Gestault therapy [sp?] is working with her. In the last
film, Dr. Albert Ellis, founder of rational emotive therapy is our
therapist.
Each therapist will describe their system of therapy briefly. Then
he will demonstrate his work with Gloria and last he will [Can't
hear/can't understand.]
Here is Dr. Carl Rogers.
From my own years of therapeutic experience I have come to feel
if I can create the proper climate and conditions and relationships,
a process of therapeutic movement will occur in my client. What is
this climate and conditions. Will they exist in the interview with
the woman I have never seen before. Let me describe what the
conditions are. One question is can I be real? It has become
increasingly important to me over the years. I feel genuineness is
another way of describing the quality I would like to have. I like
that term congruence. What I am experience inside comes out
through my communication. When I have this quality I am at piece
in the relationship. There is another word that describes. I feel it
in the relationship. I would like to have a transparency. I would
like my client to see through me. Nothing hidden.
I know that my own feelings will often bubble up into awareness
and be expressed in ways that won't impose themselves on my
client.
Second question will be will I find myself praising and caring for
this person. I don't want to pretend to care. If I dislike my client
I should express it. I know that the process of therapy is more
likely to occur and constructive change is likely if I feel a
spontaneous prizing of the person I am work with. You can call it
acceptance or caring. You can call it a non possessive love. I know
the relationship will be more constructive if it's present.
Will I be able to understand the inner world of this person from
the inside. Will I be able to see it through her eyes. Will I be
sensitive to move inside the world around her feelings so that I
know what it feels like to be her, so I can sense the surface
meanings as well as the meanings that lie underneath the surface.
If I can let myself enter into her world of experience, then change
and therapeutic movement are more likely.
Let's suppose I experience some of these attitudes in the
relationship, then what? A variety of things are likely to happen,
Therapist: You find it hard to believe that they would really love
you if they knew you.
Gloria: That is right. Before therapy I would have chosen the
other area. I would want respect even if I had to lie. I know that
is not true. I don't know if they will accept me. I want
reassurance.
Therapist: You are in a no man's land probably shifting from one
point of view to another. You want somebody to tell you to do it.
driving me bugs until I did. I feel more relieved now. I just feel
like you have been saying, you know what pattern you want to follow
now follow it.
Therapist: You have been telling me you know what you want to do.
I believe in backing people up in what they want to do. It's a little
different slant. I want you to understand your own inner choices.
Gloria: There is conflict. I don't know what I want to do. I don't
know what I want to do when I go against myself. For example if I
have sex with somebody I really don't want to.
Therapist: You don't like when you do something against yourself.
Gloria: Yes. This is so different. It's not just knowing what you
want to do. When I find myself doing something that I am
uncomfortable with, and I feel uncomfortable with it, I tell myself,
if I don't feel comfortable with it, then it must be wrong. How can
I know which is the strongest? Because I do it does that mean it's
the strongest? If I disapprove does that just go along with it? I
am not following.
Therapist: You are feeling a contradiction in yourself too. You
said the way you like it is when you feel comfortable about what
you are doing.
Gloria: I have at times when I have made a decision. Sometimes I
feel a conflict with things I do. There is a conflict there. It's not
the same at all. How do I know if I am following my true feelings
if I have guilt afterwards.
Therapist: Because in the moment it seems like your true feelings.
Gloria: Yes!
Therapist: That is tough if you feel comfortable in the moment
but later you don't. Which course of action should you have
followed?
Gloria: The one thing I know is I wanted to leave my husband for a
long time. I didn't do it. When I did it I felt right. That is when
I know I am following my feelings completely. The small little
things don't come out that clear at all.
Therapist: But you are saying that you know perfectly well you
know when you are doing something that is perfectly right.
Gloria: I miss that feeling.
Therapist: You need to listen to yourself sometimes. You know
when it's a wrong feeling.
Gloria: But I do it anyway. I will just tell myself, I am already in
the situation and I will remember it next time. I mention this word
a lot in therapy. Most grin or giggle when I say Utopia. I want to
feel Utopia whether it's good or bad. I want to feel right about
me.
Therapist: In Utopian moments you feel whole and in one piece.
Gloria: I don't get that often. It's a precious feeling to me.
Therapist: [Can't hear/can't understand.] That really does touch
you.
Gloria: I feel dumb saying it, but I am wanting you to approve of
me. I miss that my father couldn't talk to me. I don't know why
that came to me.
Therapist: You look like a nice daughter. You miss the fact you
couldn't be open with your own [Can't hear/can't understand.]
Gloria: I couldn't be open. I want to blame it on him. He would
never listen to me talk like you are. Why do I always have to be
perfect? He wanted me to be perfect. I miss that.
Therapist: You miss trying to be the girl he wanted you to be.
Gloria: I almost gloated telling him that I was a waitress and I go
out and night. I want acceptance and love from him.
Therapist: You want to slap him in the face with it.
Gloria: I want him to say, I knew this was you all along but I love
you.
Therapist: You think there is little chance he would say that.
Gloria: No. I went home 2-years ago. He doesn't hear me. He
will say, you know I love you. He doesn't hear.
Therapist: He has never really known you and loved you. That is
what brings the tears inside.
Gloria: I don't know what it is. When I sit still it feels like a big
hurt. I feel cheated.
Therapist: It's much easier to be a little flipped because then you
don't feel that big lump inside of hurt.
was true in this instance, then I find myself being moved by being
in touch with my client, but I also find myself bringing my own
experience into it. I felt there were one or two incidents of this
kind in this interview.
I was genuinely moved that she told me that she saw me as the
father she would like to have. My reply was although spontaneous
when I said she could be a nice daughter. We are playing with
relationships when we talk about to transference and color
transference. I feel deeply about that. I want to say yes, we
could put this experience into highly intellectually framework. But
it misses the quality of the relationship. I felt that Gloria and I
encountered each other. In some small but lasting way, we were
enriched by the experience. I am saying these things right after
the interview. There are not many statements I remember. I
know I was present in the relationship. I live in the moment of it's
occurrence. I might remember it too. At the present time, I don't
have specific memories of the whole interview. I will look at it
more from an intellectual point of view. She talked about her past
feelings. She was talking about aspects of her behavior and self as
if she didn't own them.
She was looking outside for a locus of evaluation. Some source of
authority. She saw some things in black and white fashion. By the
end of the interview she was experiencing her feelings in the
immediate moment. She was able to express her feelings towards
me. You could say she moved from the there and then of her life,
to the here and now of elements she was discovering in herself. All
in all, I feel good about the interview. I feel good about myself in
the interview. I feel regret that the relationship can't continue.
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Gloria: I am afraid.
Therapist: Where would you like to go. Can you describe the
corner you want to go to.
Gloria: Back in the corner where I am completely protected.
Therapist: Where you would be safe of me.
Gloria: I know I wouldn't really.
Therapist: What would you do in this corner?
Gloria: Just sit.
Therapist: This is reminds me of when I was little. I felt better
sitting in a corner.
Gloria: I am 30.
Therapist: You are a 30-year old girl who is afraid of [Can't
hear/can't understand.]
Gloria: I am defensive with you.
Therapist: What can I do to you?
Gloria: You can't do anything, but I can feel dumb and stupid.
Therapist: What would that do to you?
Gloria: I hate feeling stupid.
We are nearing the end of our therapeutic journey. You have seen
two therapists try to help Gloria with her concerns. We are going
to watch Dr. Albert Ellis.
[Dr. Albert Ellis]
Rational emotive therapy (RT) is based on several hypothesis. The
me. Am I never going to find the kind of man I enjoy. I get the
other ones.
Therapist: You are getting closer to what I am talking about. "If
I am this type of woman, that no good man would appeal to that
would be awful." I would never get what I want, that would be
something frightful.
Gloria: I don't want to think of myself that way. I want to put
myself on a higher standard. I don't want to be an average Jane
Doe.
Therapist: Let's suppose that you were average Jane Doe. Would
that be so terrible? It would be unpleasant. You wouldn't want it,
but would you get an emotion like shyness and embarrassment, out
of just believing you will just end up like Jane Doe?
Gloria: I don't know.
Therapist: It would be terrible.
Gloria: I would never get what I want. I don't want to live with
icky men.
Therapist: Your chances would be reduced. There are still icky
girls who get superior men. You are generalizing. It would
probably be that I would have a harder time. You are
catastrophizing.
Gloria: It seems like forever.
Therapist: Isn't that a vote of non confidence in you. This is
because you are saying you don't want to miss out. You want to get
a good man. You want to be a superior girl who get a superior kind
of man. If I don't then I am practically on the other side of the
chain, who is no good. Somebody who won't get anything they want.
That is an extreme ways away. That is catastrophizing. That
would be taking a statement and then saying, I would never get
what I want and beyond that I couldn't be happy. Let's just
assume the worse. Assume the worst. You would never get what
you want. Look at the other things you could do to be happy.
Gloria: I don't like the whole process. Even if it wasn't a
catastrophe, even if I didn't look at it that way. I don't like how I
am living. When I find somebody I like I am not as relaxed. If it
is somebody who I don't care about then I can be anything.
Therapist: You are anxious. If you were just concerned it
wouldn't be that big of a deal. You are over concerned or anxious.
If I don't get what I want, I will never get it. I must get it now.
That causes anxiety.
Gloria: I want to feel like I am working towards it.
Therapist: You want a guarantee?
Gloria: No! I want a step towards working towards it. Whatever
this is in me, why am I on the defensive. I want to know what I am
afraid.
Therapist: I think you are afraid of failing with the man, you are
afraid of missing with EVERY man. Then you are not up to what you
want.
Gloria: You sound more strong at it. If there something that I am
doing wrong, it's silly. If I wasn't so anxious, it wouldn't be so
bad.
Therapist: Look at how you just devalued yourself. Somebody
might not like the attributes, but he is not going to despise you.
Gloria: I am harder on myself.
Therapist: Right! If people just didn't like you, you would
eventually find one who did. As long as you devalue yourself, you
complicate the problem. You are not focusing on how you can be
yourself. you are not focused on how to change the trends. If you
had a mangled arm and you wouldn't accept your whole self, then
you would focus so much on the arm that you wouldn't be able to do
things you should normally be able to do.
Gloria: Yes! That is what I do.
Therapist: You are focusing on just a part of you. You are taking
a part of you, your shyness and focusing on it so much you are
getting an awful picture of yourself. If you could accept yourself
for the time being with this defective part and not beat yourself
over the head, it would be a workable problem to deal with. In
other words let's get back to be yourself. Let's say you accepted
yourself. You know you will screw up sometimes. You are saying,
alright I need to go through a learning process, but I will do it just
the same. It will be like ice skating, I will fall but I will learn it. If
you accept you, you will take the risks of being you. If you do win
one of these men, you need to be yourself.
Gloria: I want to allow a relationship.
Therapist: Right! A long relationship. We don't want you to role
play. Be yourself. If you weren't so disturbed about your current
failings, you could be this self of yours. You could wonder what you
want to do with this man to enjoy each other. You force yourself
to take the risk of being that. If you succeed great, if not too
bad. Either you are not for him, or he may not have been for you.
When these men reject you, you assume it's all your fault. You
can't assume it's all your fault. They may not be your cup of tea
and it's nobody's fault. It's just incompatibility. If you would
accept yourself as you are it would be good. If you were a regular
patient of mine, I would give you homework to force you to be
yourself. I would check up on you to see if you could force
yourself to be you for a while even if it hurt. You would find that
A, you would start being yourself and lopping off these things that
aren't you. You would watch yourself from the outside while you
are being yourself, this is impossible though.
Gloria: It would become like a habit.
Therapist: If you forced yourself to open your big mouth and
talked even if you were worried about it, then you would start
swinging in the grove and be what you want to be. You would
become less inefficient. You wouldn't focus on how bad you were.
You would focus on the nice person you were with. You would
wonder how to enjoy him.
Gloria: See usually it's just the opposite, I am wondering what I
need to do to be more attractive.
Therapist: Underneath, if I am not, then I can't enjoy myself. I
can't enjoy myself if I don't win this person.
Gloria: When there is one of these men and I want to cultivate a
relationship and he accepts me I find myself on the defensive.
Instead of enjoying the time, I am worried.
Now that you have finished viewing the film, you might want to see
Gloria's reaction.
Therapist: Could you tell us about your reaction.
Gloria: I was most relaxed with the first one. The second one
made me uncomfortable and the last one I had to think the most
with.
Therapist: Did you see Gloria different with each of these guys?
Gloria: Yes! I felt my more lovable caring self with Dr. Rogers.
There was not enough feeling with Dr. Ellis. The biggest amount of
emotions came up with the second doctor.
Therapist: Think about each of them again and think in terms of
what you learned.
Gloria: It's hard to think about what I learned.
Therapist: Let's think about it a different way. You had some
negative experiences with the second and third doctor, and at the
same time they were dealing with parts of you that you didn't have
to deal with with Dr. Rogers.
Gloria: Yes, if I only saw men like Dr. Rogers, it would be hard for
my anger to come out. With the second doctor I want to get in
there and fight. The first two doctors were almost the perfect
combination for me. I see one side with each side of the doctors.
I wanted more with the second doctor, I want to go on more.
Therapist: You felt your feeling self with the Dr. Rogers, your
fighting self with the second doctor, and your thinking self with
the Dr. Ellis.
Gloria: Yes, yes! I would have liked more time with Dr. Ellis.
Therapist: You might see there are some important things in
different types of therapy, each had it's own way of getting to
you.
Gloria: If I were new at therapy, I would see somebody like Dr.
Rogers because he is not so frightening. I think I could get the
most with the second doctor although I would really want to battle
with him.
Therapist: You are very courageous and willing to take risks!
Gloria: Oh I appreciate it.
Therapist: Thanks very much!
[End of video]