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Lethal Tongue
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2.4.
Warnings
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3.1.
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3.2.
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3.3.
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3.4.
Opening Salvos
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3.5.
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3.6.
Verbal Ju-jitsu
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3.7.
Whats Your Story?
3.7.1. The Two Second Rule
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3.8.
Getting into Their Skin
3.8.1. Parallel Empathizing
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ATTITUDES OF POWER
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Power Attitudes
4.2.1. Genuine Interest in Others
4.2.2. Incorrigible Humour
4.2.3. A Radiant Confidence
4.2.4. Overpowering Assertiveness
4.2.5. Intrepid Initiative
4.2.6. Sensual Enthusiasm
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5.1.
Bomb the Emotions; Nuke the Senses
5.1.1. The Framework of Hypnotic Speech
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5.2.
Asserting in the Affirmative
5.2.1. The Power of Positive Statements
5.2.2. Living la Vida Loca
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Touching Magic
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Creating Magnetism with Similarity
5.5.1. The Power of Apparent Similarity
5.5.2. Mirroring- The Sneaky Method of Creating Similarity
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Electric Words
5.7.
The Big Guns: Stealthy Word-Play I
5.7.1. Power Up Your Verbs and Kick Them Off!
5.7.2. Tri-Component Narratives
5.7.3. Similes and Parallelisms
5.7.4. Metaphors
5.7.5. Mesmerizing Tales
5.7.6. Magnetic Interrogatives
5.7.7. Shrouded Interrogatives
5.7.8. Stealthy Ambiguities
5.7.9. Time Warping
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The Big Guns: Stealthy Word-Play II
5.8.1. Shifting Paradigms
5.8.2. Power Presuppositions
5.8.3. Inducing Feelings In a Flash
5.8.4. Pacing Your Way to Compliance
5.8.5. Locking People In a Box
5.8.6. Unearthing Her Secrets
5.8.7. The War Between Features and Benefits
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1.
"The difference between a smart person and a wise person is that a smart person
knows what to say and a wise person knows whether or not to say it." -- Quote found
on the wall of a recreation center office in Berkeley, California.
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In less time than it takes to mow your lawn, you will be giddy with delight as you
discover breakthrough techniques which easily allow you to:
Reap more income
Triumph in negotiations
Gain instant respect and admiration
Mesmerize the opposite sex
Resist all rejection
Win friends
Brutally seize opportunities and
Kill off the competition!
You will magically find your social, business and romantic life taking a swift and
dizzying change. All for the better.
Suddenly, doors and windows of opportunity shall open at your command!
All your needs will be met. Your desires will be satisfied. to the full
At but a whim, you could shape the outcome of any personal relationship.
An irresistible human dynamo of charisma that is your destiny if you absorb all
the valuable lessons this book offers.
What could such power bring you? As you sit there, reading these words, and
imagining your unbelievable future, you may already notice your breath
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2.
I imagine that you felt a shiver coursing down your spine. Was it tangible? Ill bet the
farm and all the horses on it that you found
yourself experiencing a mild excitement as I
narrated the benefits you will enjoy.
With a bit of ink and a pen, I fiddled with
your emotions. What power that is! The pen
indeed thwarts the sword.
Observe how a few simple lines carried
enough force to play upon your feelings. You
readily found yourself experiencing mild states of excitement because I willed it
through my writing.
I safely presume that you read the works of Dean Koontz, Stephen King or perhaps,
Mark Twain. Recall how these expert writers easily rivet you to their every word.
Like wizards, writers unleash magic with their pens. Their stories forge entire worlds
which you willingly explore. As you lose yourself in the annals of their imagination,
your mind opens up to the ideas they present. Immediately, you find yourself
influenced by their views and opinions
The art of writing is invaluable because it is a tremendously potent form of
communication. Writing conveys thoughts, ideas and even ideologies. As we already
know, writers who are charmingly persuasive can sway public opinion very easily.
Consider, now, how politicians would get nowhere without their ghostwriters. You
need a fiery speech in order to sway the masses and win votes
Centuries ago, the writers influence largely lay confined within the village or town
where he promulgated his craft. That changed all so rapidly. Todays mass media
technology allows writers to quickly influence the publics across the world! I
envision that writers could rewrite history (literally and figuratively) should they
choose to do so. Give a man a pen and hes ready to take on the world.
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That power, upon your mastery, will allow you to influence anyone and create
compelling arguments that could mesmerize even the most stubborn of individuals.
2.2.
ook around yourself. What do you see? A table? Chairs? Paintings and
scultptures? Or maybe a loving wife? What you have around you are the fruits
of your personal relationships. Accordingly, everything that you have
indirectly results from your interactions with others.
Through the vocal facility, you negotiate your salary, you bargain for your goods, and
yes, you even win a spouse. You communicate with bosses, peers, and loved ones in
order to procure your needs. How well your needs are met highly depend upon your
speaking aptitude.
You must convince others of your needs in order for them to deliver to you! You win
a coveted raise if you can persuade your boss of your worth. You melt your crushs
heart with the soft whisper of honey-coated poetry.
Do you already understand how your fortunes largely depend upon the dexterity of
your tongue? Stop, for a moment and understand this fact: the quality of your
interpersonal communications determine your success. Ultimately, it is your speaking
skills and attendant behaviours which shape your relationships and ultimately, your
fortunes
To master human interactions, therefore, you must hone your speaking abilities to
perfection in such a way that you become persuasively magnetic and unstoppably
confident. Your words must ring with authority and drip with sensual allure.
Within three hours of your reading this book, I intend to impart all the professional
skills of persuasive and charismatic speakers. You will master devastating skills in
order to deliver a verbal payload of immense power, that people will have no recourse
but to say yes to you. This book teaches the art of hypnotic speaking and your tongue
will have the lethal ability to persuade anybody.. You will become an irresistibly
hypnotic speaker.
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lenty. The book assumes that you hold average persuasive abilities.
Since most people already stumble at the prospect of making first contact,
this book first teaches you how to overwhelm initial timidity and to approach
anyone you meet. You cannot display your magnificent speaking ability if
you have no one to speak to!
Once you discover how to break the ice, we get
into the hard core techniques of hypnotic speech.
Hypnotic speech focuses on altering peoples
emotions, thereby influencing behaviour.
Behavioral doctors assert that peoples actions
result from both cognitive and affective factors.
A cognitive factor pertains to a persons wilful
and intellectual analysis of a situation. On the
other hand, an affective factor pertains to the
emotional impact a situation begets upon
behaviour. Of the two, it has been proven that
affective factors more easily influence
behaviour.
The human psyche, while logical, frequently falters in the face of emotional assault.
Observe how an emotional stock broker ceases to make logical decision and bets on
the wrong stocks. He follows his guts and his guts lead to failure.
Examine also, how a student readily yields to emotional peer pressure and commits
illogical moves that threaten his grades. Again, emotional force overrules intellectual
analysis.
Emotions are powerful. In your case, recall how you indulged in a sinful feast of fats
and junk foods. You brain screams that such food is poison, yet you yield to
emotional gluttony and wolf it all down
The emotions rule the head. Its a clich that stood the test of time.
The various techniques arrayed within this book all conspire to play upon the
emotions in order to yield maximum impact. Seize a mans emotions and you become
his puppeteer.
Lethal Tongue comprises of advanced verbal techniques geared towards
persuasion and emotional elicitation. Its spotlights methods of irresistible verbal
magic. The forerunner to this book, Ph.D of Persuasion focuses on the general
behavioural aspect of persuasion; hence, you would find it beneficial to read the latter
first.
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2.4.
Warnings
should stress that all the techniques within this book are intended for your
personal and wholistic development.
Influence is a tool which cannot be abused. You will find that mens doors easily
swing open as you master and practice the Lethal Tongue method of hypnotic
speech. Thats great, but remember the catch. Each time you open a door, ensure that
you do not rob whoever invites you in. Abuse anyones hospitality and your influence
will be short lived you will also create die-hard enemies in the process!
Remember, with great power comes great responsibility.
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3.1.
salesman hates making cold calls. The fear of rejection hangs heavy over
his head.
A young man is smitten by his crush, but he cant bring himself to say hi .
You have a proposal for your boss, but cringe at his disapproval.
You, no doubt, have experienced the fear of making first contact. You
probably hesitate to initiate conversations with strangers, with figures of
authority or with the object of your desire.
How many times have you let pass the opportunity of meeting someone
new and exciting and only to curse yourself later, thinking what if?
Many times, Im certain.
Refusing to initiate contact is the virus that prevents wonderful new relationships
from budding. It takes at least one person talking to get two people together. Often
times however, no one exerts the effort. Reasons often include shyness, fear of
rejection or plain anti-social behaviour.
Imagine now, that every single person on the planet refused to extend the first hand? I
see a bleak, unfriendly world
When you run into a potential client, a stranger or a crush, how often do you fervently
wish that they initiate contact. You hope that somehow, they open up and say hi first.
The problem with such expectation is that, they, no doubt, are also wishing that you
open the floor. If youre shy or afraid of rejection, then they, all the more, are shy and
fearful of dismissal from you!
Pause a moment, and think about it. You are shy; they are shy as well. If no one
makes the first move, nothing happens!
Thats the catch in all initial meetings. Both parties would rather not talk. It is too
frightening!
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Now that you already understand the dynamics behind the phenomenon of first
contact, you hold a key to overcoming the fear of meeting new people. This is true,
whether your prospects be clients, strangers or even figures of power. The next time
you feel the clammy hands of fear pawing your neck, tell yourself,
Ill bet this guy/gal is even more afraid of me than I am!
Repeat that assertion to yourself a few times and immediately, you will feel an instant
surge of confidence, allowing you to approach anyone aggressively. I call this the
Table Reversal Technique because you rapidly switch the tables on those who scare
you.
In order to dissipate your fear, you accuse the object of your fear as the ones being
fearful of you!
Getting this technique to work even more effectively, pair it off with the Five Blink
Method
3.2.
Then Oooh that salad by the buffet table looks inviting, so you amble over and
fork a spoonful, thankful that you dont have to approach her yet.
You find all manner of excuses to delay that frightful first contact.
What happens?
Gradually, your fear crawls back. You fidget. Your confidence flushes down as you
the salad petrifies in your stomach.
A full minute later, youre a nervous wreck
again, unsure how to approach that attractive
stranger. No amount of self-talk revitalizes your
spirits.
You go home feeling miserable.
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mediocre ones. You deserve the best, right? Upon seeing a lucky prospect, tell
yourself, that shes terribly shy of you, then approach. Thats it. I guarantee youll be
rejected. But of the twenty rejections, two or three will bite. And you will become
more confident after each encounter.
Practice this religiously and delightfully observe how your social circle will
magically and rapidly expand.
The reason sociable and popular people are so well liked is that they dont fear
forging new relationships. They approach people on the bus, at the zoo, while waiting
at the checkout counter. Make them your models. Get out there and meet some
people.
Remember:
The very moment you see someone worth meeting, approach him or her before you
would have inhaled five times after spotting your quarry.
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eople search for magical lines that would somehow melt others and get the ball
rolling. Search the internet and youre bound to find books such as Killer
Opening Lines, Best Opening Lines, Worst Opening Lines.
While canned opening lines sound witty, they also sound rehearsed. Would you like it
if someone came up to you and said:
Your daddy must have been a thief because he stole the stars from the skies and
placed them in your eyes.
Inane.
Only utterly dense people will fall for such drivel. You dont want such people in
your roster of clients or loved ones.
Canned opening lines are dumb because they lack sincerity and people can spot them
right away. When people detect insincerity, they close up and avoid contact.
Rejection is bound to occur.
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Try using pickup lines in a bar and you can already expect sneers.
If youre a salesman attempting to interest a client in a widget and you use a canned
line, like:
Sir, you look like a really smart person. Smart persons use widgets. I have the best
widgets only smart people like you would use.
Laughable, but people use such lines. That previous one was used on me at the mall.
An opening line is an opening gambit. In that first sentence which you utter after the
initial approach, you must encapsulate warmth and sincerity. In my experience, there
is only one line that oozes of simple sincerity.
Ive used it time and again, to much success.
Whether youre selling an object, or selling yourself, its guaranteed to work.
Here are the magical words:
Hi, Im __________.
Deliver the words with warmth, an outstretched hand and a big smile and watch as
the other persons face lights up.
The words work well because you communicate the simple fact that you are
interested in the other person. Interest flatters. Being flattered, the your prospect will
warm up to you.
Furthermore, the unadorned simplicity of your words convey straightfowardness. You
simply want to talk and share something. How could anyone resist that?
Right now, replace all your standard opening lines with this one. People will beam at
you.
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3.4.
Opening Salvos
he good general follows up his first attack with a barrage of missiles. The
constant
onslaught
gradually
whittles away at the target until it
yields.
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No doubt about it, you would instantly perk up if you were the crux of a
conversation..
The same goes for the other person. She would like nothing more than to discuss
about herself and her own slice of her world.
People are inherently selfish in that sense.
Let me give you another example of how self-centered we are.
Observe a crowded room, a-buzz with discussions of all flavor. Now pick a person in
the crowd nearby. Mention his name in a casual manner, not too loudly, not too
softly. Instantly his ears would perk up and he would glance at you quizzically. His
ears systematically screened out all extraneous sound and focused on that one sacred
word: his name.
We are all interested in ourselves. We love talking about our own interests. We love
hearing our names.
In order to get others interested in you, you must meet them on their terms and
discuss their interests.
Heres how to break the ice and get that conversation going:
Compliment someone sincerely. Observe something within that person
which is praiseworthy but not very obvious. Complimenting a model for her
gorgeous body wont have the razzle dazzle effect you desire because she
probably gets that all day. However if you notice that a cute dimple forms
when she laughs, mention it! Shell be glad that you were so perceptive!
Observe a personal effect and ask something about it. Your prospective
client may be carrying a book entitled Rabbits and Modern Man.
Mentioning his quaint reading material could spark a series of replies and
counter replies that would fuel conversation. For instance, you could mention,
I noticed your interest in Rabbits. What about it interests you? Now shut up
and await the avalanche of replies.
Focus on the situation. Observe the goings-on and comment on it. Ask your
prospect how he relates to the environment. Exemplifying, you could ask a
woman at a restaurant what food she would recommend. At a golf club, you
may inquire from that rich bloke how long hes been playing there and how
many games hes won. At the beach, querying a surfer how he best
manoeuvres high waves could invite a torrent of excited elaboration.
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The key to conversation is lies on focusing upon the other person. Shine that spotlight
on your prospect and hell be magnetized as a deer to incoming lights.
3.5.
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How
Why
In what way
Could you elaborate
For what reason
What
Avoid questions that begin with:
Where
When
Who
Such questions invite one-word responses. You will be hard pressed to follow-up.
Imagine the following conversation:
You: So, where do you live?
Him: New Hampshire?
You: When did you begin living there?
Him: Ten Years ago:
You: What do you do now?
Him: Im a doctor. What kind of questioning is this?????
The latter questions are close-ended and very often, they lead to conversational deadends. Deploy open-ended questions to engage the imagination and emotions of the
other person. He will be forced to elaborate and will relish every minute of it.
Consider the contrast:
You: So how do you find the show?
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Him: Man, its terribly exciting! I love wrestling. (pounds his fist on the
chair)
You: What about wresting excites you?
Him: Oh, its all that blood and gore. You never know whos gonna win. Of
course, its scripted, but till the last moment, the result is unclear. Gets your
heart pumping. Blah blah blah.
Open ended questions, as you realize, engages the other person to elaborate and
search within himself for answers. This creates excitement and animation. Whomever
your prospect is, he will love you for it!
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Verbal Ju-jitsu
u-jitsu makes use of the enemys own force to soften an attack or deflect a
blow. In conversations, you will use your prospects own
words to generate an ambiance of good-will and
rapport. Remember, that your initial goal as a
hypnotic speaker is to get the other person to like
you. For this, you shall use a bit of verbal ju-jitsu
In clinical psychology, shrinks use a technique that gets people
talking non-stop. Whenever their patient finishes saying something, the psychologist
will simply repeat their last word. This causes the patient to elaborate further.
Psychologist: How long have these nightmares been recurring?
Patient: For a week. Ive been seeing horrible demons.
Psychologist: Demons?
Patient: Yes, theyre all black and carrying roses. I think theyre symbolical.
Psychologist: Symbolical?
Patient: They must represent something. I dont know what. But I feel that
maybe it has to do with my step-brother.
Psychologist: Step-brother?...
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This technique delivers well, despite its mechanical nature. Psychologists uncover
inner conflicts because layers of elaboration result from the relentless questioning.
Amazingly, psychologists charge hundreds of dollars per hour simply for repeating
your last word.
As a hypnotic speaker, you are to go one step further and use a bit more finesse.
Instead of repeating the last word, you are to paraphrase the gist of your prospects
thought. Observe the technique:
Psychologist: How long have these nightmares been recurring?
Patient: For a week. Ive been seeing horrible demons.
Psychologist: Youve been plagued by monstrous things and you cant rest.
Patient: Yes, theyre all black and carrying roses. I think theyre symbolical.
Psychologist: You feel these apparitions signify something you want to
identify.
Patient: Yes. They must represent something. I dont know what. But I feel
that maybe it has to do with my step-brother.
Psychologist: Youre not sure of the link, but you suspect your step-brother
triggers the nightmares.
Through the careful paraphrasing, your prospect feels that you are genuinely
interested in what you have to say. He will feel at ease and open up.
Personal revelations will indubitably surface and these are goldmines for you.
Remember them. Jot them down if you have to. In later sections of this book, you will
learn how to use the bits of trivia you uncover in order to promote yourself.
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3.7.
ecall the many movies where a character utters So, whats your story?
The line is magnetic. Whoever hears that enters himself and emerge with
truckloads to tell. He may narrate anything of current significance. As you
listen, watch his eyes glaze over as he delights over his tale.
Whenever you grope for words to say, and have none, just say So whats your
story. Or point at his broken arm and ask, whats the story behind that.
Feeling tongue tied with that amazing girl? Gesture towards her quaint brooch and
whisper, Whats the tale behind that?
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3.8.
hat you have just learned was the magic of active questioning and
listening. You launched powerful questions to elicit answers. As he spoke,
you listened. Questioning and listening by itself works magic because you
feed the ego of the other person. You make him feel important.
The time will come when you will have to state something other than a question.
Between old-time friends, anything goes. You can mention something about your
molars even if your friend is discussing nuclear reactors. Established friendships
allow enough conversational leeway.
Between acquaintances, the dynamics of conversation demand more tact. Remember
that your goal is to make the other person like you.
Recall previous conversations where the other person did nothing but disagree.
Whatever you said, he countered. You must have been boiling as murderous thoughts
seeped into your head.
On the other hand, remember the times when both you and your best friend pranced
in verbal harmony. Both of you flitted on the same wavelength. It was almost as
though both of you arrived at the same thought at the same time. Harmony and
agreement flowed easily. You relished the conversation.
You task, in any new relationship is to recreate that same aura of agreement. By
actively seeking points to agree upon, you weave the webs of attraction. It is vital not
just to agree, but also to demonstrate an understanding of the other persons
viewpoint.
Of course, perpetual agreement is impossible. Points of conflict always loom close
by. Attracting your partner entails forgetting the differences for the moment and
treading common ground.
The quickest route to manifest agreement is to listen for experiences, facts, or
opinions which you feel strongly for and to acknowledge them:
I agree with that
Yes, that is true
That is astute. I think so myself
That is also my understanding
Why, you and I think alike!
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4.
Attitudes of Power
"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who
looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." -- Carl Jung
4.1.
iger Woods plays a mean game of golf. No one could slice a ball
the way he could. The man blazes through history as the best
golf player ever to walk the earth.
In order to win his games, Mr. Woods prefers certain kinds of clubs.
Most probably, they are top-of-the-line models, those types which only
he could afford.
He probably also favours certain brands of balls, golf shoes and apparel.
Like you and I, he has preferences.
Now imagine that aliens decided to abduct Tiger Woods. In his place,
they choose to insert you. They change your face and body type. Then they give you
his clubs, his balls, and his shoes.
You look like Mr. Woods, and you wield his prized implements too.
Now, they pit you against an average player. The aliens sponsor a tournament in the
largest golf green and sell millions of tickets world-wide.
Confident, you jump into the fray with your best Tiger Woods pose. You grip his
magical irons and swing.
And you lose.
Badly.
What was the missing ingredient?
You could look like Mr. Woods. You carry his weapons. But you are not him. The
essence of Tiger Woods is not within you. His attitude, his skill, his memories his
years of experience all these make Tiger the winning man that he is.
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In the same way, you cannot be a hypnotic speaker simply by knowing the techniques
that you will learn in this book. The real hypnotic speaker first develops certain key
beliefs and espouses specific power attitudes. With these attitudes, you create the
edge which allows you to take command of any personal encounter.
Well-developed attitudes are vital to success because they set the framework for all
current and future behaviour. If you believe that you are worthless and uncharismatic,
then you cannot persuade anybody. Using all the techniques of persuasion and
seduction in the world will not help. Your external techniques must be consistent with
your inner beliefs. Rumor has it that Don Juan carried the face of a maggot. Yet, he
seduced thousands of women because of his steely confidence.
Hence, prior to making contact with people, examine yourself first. Check your
attitudes. Weed out those which obstruct your quest for social triumph. Reinforce
those which goad social flexibility.
In my study of human behaviour, I readily ascertain six core attitudes which naturally
promote personal power. These attitudes compose the mind-set of the effective
hypnotic speaker.
Anyone can adopt the core attitudes. You can do it NOW by constantly behaving in a
manner consistent with these attitudes, you automatically integrate them into your
personality.
4.2.
Power Attitudes
man who has no interest in his neighbours would readily admit that he has
three best friends: Me, Myself and I.
An attitude of self-centeredness blatantly manifests itself in conversations
thru:
Persistent interruptions
Lack of focus on other speakers
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Laughing causes the brain to release tremendous chemicals which momentarily turbo
charges your entire system. Everything, from your mood to your immune system
skyrockets.
A few years ago, a movie depicted the power of laughter. In the movie, a doctor made
the rounds among his patients dressed as a clown. His hilarious antics goaded the sick
onto the quick road to health. Sometimes, a dose of laughter beats a ton of morphine.
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Like the good doctor, carry an irrepressible sense of humour. Crack jokes. Laugh at
yourself. Make your opening lines funny. Treat events lightheartedly (except at a
funeral). People in your vicinity will find themselves infected with vivacity. People
will think of you as a fun individual and will be drawn to you.
Try this experiment. For one entire day, walk around town with a haggard face and
vicious growl. Count how many people approach you.
The next day, plaster on a sincere smile. Make your eyes sparkle. Have a good word
to say to each person you meet. Crack an anecdote. Tease with a quip. The difference
will astound you.
Of course, moderation should be observed. Humour in the right amounts produce
grand results. Overdo it and people will judge you a buffoon. You want people to
laugh with you, not at you.
isery loves company and not the other way around. Now that youre
already committed to becoming a mesmerizing, hypnotic speaker, its time
to pull yourself together. Walk tall, chest out. Breathe deeply. Make your
movements slow and deliberate.
A confident man is someone to rally around; he becomes an
impregnable barrier reef whom others seek security from.
Confident people inspire admiration in others.
Almost all the stereotypical heroes in our movies reek
confidence. Observe how their chins jut out, how they occupy lots of space and how
measured their sweeping gestures are. Confidence emanates power. Power attracts. A
sure way to inspiring others to believe in you is to appear confident.
Appearing confident gradually makes you internally confident.
Your posture is a good place to begin building the appearance of confidence. Try
stooping over, with your eyes downcast for an hour. Inevitably, you will find yourself
feeling depressed. Your movements automatically become sluggish. The next day,
walk around ram-rod straight. Move like you own the world and make eye contact.
Observe how your confidence surges. This link between confidence and posture
provides you with a powerful way of infusing yourself with self-assurance anytime.
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Whenever you feel depressed, hold yourself up, tall and proud. Others will envy your
poise. And you will love yourself for it.
magine for a moment that you are seated at a posh restaurant. The waiter comes
and your order a thick, rare, juicy steak. The waiter promises a ten minute prep
time and scurries off.
Thirty minutes elapse and youre still waiting. Only the soft tinkle of the piano and
the lazy fish in the aquarium diverts your attention from the gnawing hunger. Forty
five minutes elapse. Still no steak, and that spoon starts to look delicious. One hour.
Then the steak comes. Its thin, and over done.
Do you:
A) Swallow your pride, eat the steak, and leave, feeling cheated?
B) Send the steak back with thunderous threats and insults.
C) Patiently explain to the waiter that youve waited for an hour to dine on a rare
steak.
Most people would behave passively (behaviour A) or aggressively (behaviour B). In
either case, you lose. Passive behaviour causes you to relinquish your rights. You
ordered a thick steak, waited long, and are served a substandard piece of burnt
carcass. Accepting the meal without a whimper is wrong because you lose confidence
in yourself and your abilities to ask for what is rightly yours.
Aggressive behaviour on the other hand, is overkill. People who launch into
explosive tirades and violent behaviour create anger and resentment in other people.
Angry people may resist, or worse, undermine your efforts. In the previous example,
the slighted waiter could take revenge by getting another steak and secretly rubbing it
on his derriere before serving it. The aggressor and his victim rarely arrive at mutual
common ground; hence aggression must be avoided.
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very war is started by at least one side. Frequently, the initiator brings with
him the element of surprise. That extra edge
could easily tilt the balance in his favour.
Like warriors, you must fire the first volley. Your role
is as catalyst. Think about your objectives and actively
seek out your prey. Dont wait for them to come to you.
Develop the propensity for initiative in all that you do
till it becomes second nature. Make phone calls first.
Come to meetings before everyone does. Open the
floor. Terminate the sessions. People will see that you mean
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Romance benefits from enthusiasm. As you play the love game, infuse your words
and gestures with gusto. You are selling yourself, and you need to demonstrate just
how enthusiastic she will be when she goes out with you.
I observed that people take a serious stance when selling or proposing. Unless you are
an undertaker selling a graveyard plot, that wont work. You have to engage your
prospects mind with delightful visions of what they will experience by acceding to
your proposal. Enthusiasm provides just that electric jolt.
Heres how to demonstrate enthusiasm:
Smile from ear to ear. Dont fake it with that half smile. Show your pearly
whites.
Laugh with gusto. Chortling doesnt count.
Slam your knee, your table when you make a point.
Gesture with grandiosity.
Vary the tone and timbre of your voice. Let it rise and fall as the waves of the
sea.
Maintain an upright, but relaxed posture.
Uncross your arms and legs. Loosen up!
Armed with bubbly enthusiasm, you enliven yourself, emanate a sense of conviction,
and rally others to your enlightened perspective. Enthusiasm spawns a delightful
child, Charisma.
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As mature adults, we are still guilty of this method of persuasion. It is called the
Broken Record approach. This technique allows you to get what you want from
time to time. People give in, not because you convinced them, but because you
annoyed them. Eventually, this approach backfires when your listeners acquire
immunity to your ranting.
Other conventional approaches to persuasion involve threats. Bullies love to
pronounce grave bodily harm so as to pressurize weaker individuals. Some preachers
levy threats when they wash our minds with hellish horror stories to scare us into
repentance. Today, this type of persuasion already works infrequently. We either beat
up the bully or tune out the preacher when he spews his fire and brimstone.
Bribery is another short-lived tactic. A big enough bribe works wonders. Run out of
money, and you lose power.
Traditional methods like the Broken Record Method, and Threat lose potency with
time because they create irritation. They work overtly. Hence, they are best left to
amateurs. Dont make the mistake of employing brute tactics over and over until you
find yourself simply ignored.
Truly powerful persuasion techniques convince others of your point, thereby
empowering them to act upon it, on their volition. The ideal persuasion system
touches the emotions and acts upon the psyche very subtly. The less aware the other
person is of your attempt, the better.
Prepare to learn a truly influential system which creates lasting influence. This is the
system of hypnotic speaking.
5.1.
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Hypnotic speech is flexible. You can use it for reasons other than persuading others.
You can also employ it to entertain. Or you could apply it to amuse yourself.
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The succeeding sections impart the core aspects of hypnotic speech. Among these
include:
Learning how words should be structured in order to reduce resistance to your
proposals. Primarily, this is achieved through powerful words, known to
practitioners of NLP as presuppositions and their appropriate sentence
structure.
Understanding how emotions are brought about and how you can invoke them
at will. Remember that emotions result in action; you want to be able to ignite
emotions with your words!
Learning a how to deliver your words powerfully and engage all the senses;
and
Discovering how to unearth your prospects desires and use them to promote
your own.
Understanding the framework of the system now allows you to fully absorb the
techniques.
Shall we begin
5.2.
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icky Martin obviously lived the life. He burst with energy and it was
contagious. Look at his sizzling dance steps. Recall his animated TV
interviews. No wonder his concerts sold out. The man had energy to spare
and his fans wanted to share in his dynamism.
Ricky teaches you the value of a positive outlook. Positive energy must ooze from
your pores if you want to inspire others.
In addition to speaking positively, carry yourself positively. Move vigorously and
pack some pep into your steps. Leave that long face at home. Tackle the world with
spunk! As mentioned in earlier sections, positive people attract people.
Here are ways to exude a positive outlook:
Learn to handshake like an upbeat general who just won the war.
Use eye contact. Lots of it.
Occupy as much space as you can. Spread your feet, shoulder width. Arms
could be mounted akimbo.
Talk with animation! Explore your entire range of facial expressions
Move briskly or deliberately, depending on the situation.
Say what you mean. Dont be coy about it.
5.3.
Touching Magic
ne overlooked aspect of interpersonal communications is
the art of touching. People think that conversation simply
involves speaking. Not so. Part of the dynamic involves
touching.
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First, know the frequency of the touch. Not enough is better than too much because
your partner might sue for harassment.
Second, and more importantly, hone the quality of your touch. Know when a light
grazing is preferable to a manly squeeze. When dealing with women, keep your
touches to the shoulder, arm and waist regions. Other zones are forbidden.
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direct the discussion towards something with a bit more sizzle. Splatter that
conversation with colour; bring in the emotions!
Hypnotic speakers who seek to win a contract or woo a girl automatically realize that
every conversation should be an avenue to arouse latent emotions. Small talk already
provides an excellent avenue for exploring feelings and arousing emotions.
In order explode a conversation with emotional colour, you must find the other
persons hot spots or interests, and probe how she feels about them. Once you learn
how she feels, demonstrate empathy by using the parallel empathizing method
discussed much earlier.
You can bring out emotions by prodding your partner with words like feel,
experience, aware, understand.
Ask her, how do you feel about that?, what does that make you feel? People, and
women in particular, love being asked how they feel about something.
Ask how someone feels and she enters herself to seek the answers. During the
narration, she will naturally and immediately experience the emotions that she
describes. You cannot tell stories in an emotional vacuum. Recall how telling a funny
incident makes you laugh all over again, or how disclosing a sad story makes you cry.
Whatever emotions she experiences, she will link them to you unconsciously. This is
the psychological principle of association. If you incur bad luck and Mr. X always
happens to be around when that happens, you will then associate Mr. X with the
misfortune, regardless of whether there is a connection. You will avoid Mr. X.
The key, then, to creating fulfilling discussions and satisfying relationships is to
deploy small talk that gets the person talking and experiencing POSITIVE emotion.
In this way, the person associates you with happy times and begins to find you
magnetic.
Heres an example of eliciting positive emotion:
Don: I noticed you come to the gym regularly. You must enjoy it what do
you like to experience here?
Eva: I love the way aerobics pumps me up. I feel so stretched, so alive! Its
like I can leap and bounce until I drop. You know that feeling? And then you
get second wind and then you just keep on going
Don: Oh yes, like the Energizer bunny huh? I feel the same way when I go on
my annual wilderness hike. The nature trail gives me such a rush. Roughing it
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makes me feel attune with nature and wild you know without
boundaries fearless!
Eva: Wow! You remind me of me! We both love the effort of exertion. Im
glad I met you.
Don: Hahaha. Same here. So how do you feel when you get home after a
wonderful day at the gym?
Evan: (gushing) blah blah blah
Once wondrously pleasurable emotions go on rampage, you can naturally expect that
the other person will look forward to more conversations with you.
Observe the important words marked in red. They are discussed in the next section.
5.5.
irds of a feather flock together. Its a psychologically proven fact. Thats why
we have cliques of like
minded individuals and
organizations
composed of people with
similar pursuits.
People begin to like each other
as soon as they discover
common interests. When you
share interests with me, you
begin to find yourself at ease
because you assume we think
alike. If we think alike, then
surely, a biological and
psychological
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exists. When compatible people mingle, the probability for antagonism is low and
mutual support is high. Compatibility is natures way of putting different organisms
together. Theres less chaos.
Recall an instance when you met an acquaintance who seemed to indulge in all the
hobbies you had and who talked, walked and even dressed similar to you. Maybe he
shared you passion for racing. Or both of you had that unique fondness for fried
goose liver pate. This person, is most probably a very close friend of yours.
In order for magnetism to occur between two persons, it is vital to introduce
similarity. Prod the other person into revealing aspects about herself. Then
demonstrate how you agree or sympathize with her paradigms, interests and loves.
You can do this easily with phrases like, Me too!, Same here!, Wow, just like
me!
The principle is not to overdo it. You may begin to appear insincere if you agree with
everything only to contradict yourself much later.
Listen for ideas that she shares. Mine them for those which you agree with. And
vocalize your agreement.
Stars will sparkle in her eyes.
eople who have achieved a very deep conversational rapport begin doing
something which perceptive observers consider amazing: a
very obvious mirroring of posture and gesture.
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Mirroring indicates a strong bonding, and from exhaustive studies, is proven to create
very potent rapport. An almost supernatural attraction occurs between mirroring
individuals.
This has implications for the hypnotic speaker.
Should you wish to induce instant enthrallment with someone else, begin by adopting
the same pose as the other person. You should look like a mirror image of her.
Furthermore, adopt the same gestures as your prospect, but take care to move a few
seconds after she has, so as not to appear to overt. Subtlety prevents suspicion.
Remember that it is not necessary to do exactly the same thing. What is important is
that you employ the same movements. For instance, you may scratch your nose if she
rubs her eye.
Mirroring occurs naturally in situations between intimate friends. Observe how you
already do it spontaneously with people you feel comfortable with. You can exploit
this natural phenomenon to enhance your social circle; apply it even with strangers!
Give it a shot.
5.6.
Electric Words
In the English language, certain words create an emotional spike. Each time
you use such a word, you rivet your listeners focus upon you.
Prolonged focus creates a hypnotic effect. By heaping electric words one after the
other, you lull your listener into a near alpha-state enthrallment. You will observe his
eyes glazing over, his breathing slowing down, and an almost narcotic concentration.
As a person enters the alpha-state, which is a state of accelerated learning and
relaxation, his mind absorbs information like a sponge. In short, he becomes highly
impressionable. Ripe for persuasion.
Recall instances when an ad stole your attention and held you in thrall. The ad not
only proposed some wondrous benefit, it liberally machine gunned your
consciousness with words like:
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Amazing
Horrifying
Sensational
Discover/ Explore
Breakthrough
Realize
Secret
Revealed
Proven
Power / love
Controversial
Glorious
Sexy
Slammed
Guaranteed
Impressive
Electric words create sudden interest because they inspire curiosity, promote mystery
and demand action.
Do you think you could resist a speaker who takes the floor, raises his hand for
silence and thunders:
Gentlemen! It has come to my attention that a breakthrough discovery at NASA has
rocked the scientific community. Today, I will reveal all to you
Even if nature called, you would have delayed it till the speaker delivered his piece.
Electric words are best used at the onset of your persuasive speech to ensnare
attention. Once you see that youve hooked your listener, you can taper off in your
use of these high-impact words.
The list of electric words go beyond those which Ive listed for your convenience. For
as long as your words ignite curiosity and create a desire to discover, it is electric.
The very word discover itself is electric. With discover you tantalize your listener
into lusting for a secret another hypnotic word.
One hint for creating electric words: Make them snappy and single/dual-syllabled.
Use the word bloody instead of sanguinary. Dont send your listeners to the
dictionary. That is not hypnotic.
Electric words offer situational versatility. Use them frequently at your discretion:
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You will leap with delight as the income figures rocket through the roof
e have five senses. We explore the world through the sense of touch, taste,
sight, hearing and smell. The world takes on a three dimensional form as
our senses assimilate all that stimuli and feeds them to our brain.
Snuff off the sense of sight. Suddenly, the world loses a vital dimension. We lose our
appreciation of rainbows, of blue skies of emerald trees. We may hear the rustling of
the leaves and experience the grit of the loamy earth, but we feel incomplete.
Blindness robs you of the total experience. The sensuality we enjoyed as a whole
individual is gone.
If the loss of a sense drastically impacts our perception of the world, imagine now,
how important the synergy of all sensory input must be to the brain? The brain
requires as much sensual stimuli as possible in order to create sense out of every
experience.
Powerful, persuasive conversation should therefore offer a multifaceted, multisensual narration to fully capture an experience and create compelling pictures. If you
are to influence someone, you must engage his imagination fully by describing a
benefit or a phenomenon from all sensual perspectives. Use your sense of touch,
taste, sight, hearing and smell. With such a complete, three dimensional picture, your
listener will automatically find your proposals irresistibly compelling.
Observe the following example:
Mr. Wakefield, with the XM5 mainframe installed, you will not only see
happy customers flooding your door, you will also hear your employees
tittering with delight over its ease of use. Your building will literally flood
with business. Can you hear the ring of your cash register now. You can
already smell success, cant you?
Engage as many of the senses as possible, and your speech creates a compelling pull
that you yourself will find irresistible!
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5.7.4. Metaphors
etaphors mimic similes, but are more direct. Similes use the words as
as and like. Hence, we have similes that go a smile as radiant as the
sun.
For those who crave a more forceful evocation of emotional imagery, you may deploy
metaphors.
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To use metaphors, first, take the concept you want to explain, and describe it in terms
of concrete events. The difference is that with metaphors, you eliminate the words
asas and like
Consider Mr. Jamesons case:
So, Mr. Jameson, you find your production process sluggish? I guarantee that the
employee empowerment program will reduce your turn-over cycle and allow you to
rebound with an explosive slam-dunk of your profit goals.
The link between business process and basketball incites action. If Mr. Jameson were
a basketball fan, he would appreciate the analogy all the more and be compelled to
act upon it.
Listen to romantic Don Juans love metaphor
Marian, allow me to whisk you away from all this so we can strum beautiful music
on the strings of your heart
Naughty knaves use it to seduce
Desiree, I will now ravage your flower and take command of your heart!
Depending on your delivery, similes and metaphors could get anyone palpitating over
an acquisition or dripping with romantic desire.
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Granny told stories so compellingly! Whether she whispered of a big bad wolf or
screamed of a rampaging lion, you would shiver with delicious fear. Then, later, you
would drool as she described gingerbread houses and succulent candy canes.
Granny knew how to rivet your attention. Each night, her tales rocked you on an
emotional roller coaster ride. Before you would drop off to sleep, your mind still
rings with her immersive stories and you dream of them in earnest.
Stories have magic. Stories stimulate moods and emotions because a person who
listens to a story has no recourse but to imagine what you tell in order to understand
it.
Do you remember those war films wherein a commander inflames his men with a
rousing speech? Very often, he would weave a tale of heroic veterans who braved
formidable odds to survive. The men imagine the hardships of the heroes and find
themselves energized with vigour. Stories rally soldiers to war.
Storytelling forms key part of the hypnotic speakers arsenal. You can find people
easily persuadable if you first tell them a story geared to arouse emotions related to
your objectives.
If you are a salesman arguing for an amazing new product, you can narrate how
previous customers have burned with enthusiasm for it.
If you are a CEO asserting that the board maintains its old plants instead of scuttling
them, you can recount the solid years of performance and loyalty that the plants
staffers have poured into it and how they brought the companys stock ratings
through the roof.
If you are a glib-tongued romancer, you can seduce a womans heart by relating
someone elses a passionate love story in erotic tones.
I once mentioned how well Hitler enraged his nation at the Jews. His speeches incited
fury because he magnified details of how the Jews sapped the German nation of their
resources, and how they proliferated uncontrollably. He created a despicable image of
Jews as rabid rats that multiplied and spread filth.
Hitler was wrong of course. But Hitler demonstrated how powerfully you can channel
action through the use of tales.
Stories can arouse emotions in a manner that almost no other technique can. Let me
tell you a real secret this time. Don Juan was a masterful story teller. He lacked a
great deal in the looks department; in fact, I could bet that you have far better looks
than he had. Nonetheless, he bowled those women over because he told stories with
such erotic passion, that women throbbed in lust for him.
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When you decide to use the power of stories, you must first identify the specific
emotion that you wish for your listener to assume. Once you have pinpointed that
emotion, follow the succeeding steps:
Powerful Tale Crafting
State the emotion that you want to provoke.
Describe in lucid detail the subjective experience you are provoking.
Physically manifest the emotion that you are narrating.
Escalate the story telling with growing passion until your prospect throbs with
the emotion you are inducing.
Lets imagine that we want John to become a risk taker and experience a desire to
buy in a certain speculative stock. Heres how we would weave a tale compelling him
to proceed.
John, I understand how you feel about caution. Its your hard-earned money. You
have the right to safeguard it, and I agree that keeping it in the bank is probably the
safest thing you could do with it. Thats how I felt ten years ago before I invested in
Risk-Tech stock. Then one morning, I woke up and wondered why the hell are these
bankers making profits out of my money and theyre only paying me 4 measly
percent?? I mean, thats outrageous. Thats when I decided that Ive had enough of
being too timid. I wanted to make it big and the only way to accomplish this is
through some daring. I mean, hey, Bill Gates, Michael Dell and John D. Rockefeller
werent grannies. They didnt make their fortunes by keeping their greenbacks in the
bank. What they did is go out and jump into dizzying high-stakes gambles. So thats
what I did. I studied the stock market and saw that Risk-Tech was on the ascent. I
called my broker without a word and plunged right in. I felt really high almost
detached from my body as I ordered him to purchase 10,000 shares at $8 each. Then
two weeks later, the price per share doubled to $16. I was rich oh boy oh boy oh
boy My mind played with the possibilities of what that money could do for me.
See, now, John. For as long as we are open to exploring some calculated risk, we
could reap a reward that compensates the anxiety of doing something new
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And there is, through the use of tantalizing questions. In that last sentence, I grabbed
your attention with the promise of a secret.
Questions are powerful. They direct the mind to pay close
attention. The human mind is designed to seek solutions to
problems. By posing a rhetorical question, you immediately
capture the minds focus and set it working on an answer.
As the brain churns to come up with an answer, you help
guide it by feeding it with the information you want to
infuse into your listener. Incredible, isnt it? Questions are
very persuasive.
You can use questions as powerful openers. As you launch a question, be sure that it
is positively worded and that it taunts with a hint of mystery.
Here are the rules for question making:
Know beforehand the answers that your questions seek.
Craft a teasing rhetorical question
Follow up with a series of related questions which are answerable with your
solutions.
Follow up with the solution that you want your prospect to believe in.
Bombarding someones mind with question after question causes him to stop thinking
and to crave for an immediate answer. Once you give the solution, he latches on to it
as a drowning man to a life preserver.
Consider Ricky, who intends to ask Janine out on a sudden road trip:
Ricky: You look bored Janine
Janine: sigh, yes I am.
Ricky: Would you like to have a bit of fun?... Maybe youre wondering what
it would take to put a smile on that cute face of yours? I wonder how
delighted you would be to just be spontaneous? Do you like seeing the
sights?... How about a bit of excitement right this very minute? Sound good?
Do you think feeling the rush of wind as you just drive off somewhere would
make you feel good?... Janine, the car is gassed up and ready to go. What do
you say?
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Questions can also be deployed as hidden directives. Properly worded, you can order
someone to do something if you use questions draped in pleasant vibes.
For instance, imagine asking someone:
Do you want to buy my bag?
Hard sell. That doesnt sound persuasive. Now if you reworded that question to inject
emotion into it, you can influence the mind.
Do you realize how delighted you will be when you buy this sturdy Gucci?
By implying delight in the question, you create subtle force in the direction of an
affirmative answer.
Here are a few more power questions.
I wonder if you would be gallant enough to open the door for me?
I wonder how soon you will realize a mastery of Lethal Tongue and how
delighted you will be?
How pleased you will be to discover your powers of influence increasing
with each chapter of this book?
Use interrogative techniques with the implication of positive benefit. And use them
frequently. Therein lies its power.
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Sir, youve heard all the benefits that this system offered you. Now, would you like
to hear more, or shall we proceed with the order?
Tricky question isnt it? Even if you didnt desire to buy, answering yes or no will not
send him away. Say yes, and the salesman will say, We proceed with the order
then.
Say no, and the salesman will say, Very well sir, you dont want to hear anymore?
That means its alright to proceed with the order
In the courts of law, this type of question is called a complex question. Judges forbid
such questioning because it confuses witnesses. The witness cannot answer yes or no
to both questions at the same time.
A complex question is in fact a shrouded interrogative. Creating the master question
requires that you link two separate questions at the same time. The first question,
whether answerable with a yes or no, ultimately confirms the final question. So, even
if the prospect answers in the negative, you still trap him into acceding to your final
objective, which is answerable by the second question.
Other examples follow:
Would you like to discuss this further or shall we execute the decision?
Do you need to have anymore information before we give the go signal?
Tricky, arent they.
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selecting the meaning you want through a last statement which sorts out the chaos.
Its like using magic to blind the eye and pull out a desired emotion from the
confusion.
How do you use ambiguous statements to consolidate your point?
Deliver a series of ambiguous statements till confusion results.
Rescue the listener from confusion by saying something very simple, which is
what you wanted the listener to experience from the start.
An example of creating ambiguities:
It would be great to proceed with the merger. I know of all these little
companies that combined and became financial juggernautsthey rake in
billions. Think of that amazing thing. Thats a grand thing, isnt it?
In the example, precisely what that amazing thing refers to is unknown. It
could mean the pending merger, or the previous successful mergers. The
prospect will also be confused over whether the grand thing is the upcoming
merger or the history of successful alliances. Nonetheless, on an emotional
level, the success of the previous mergers is linked to the upcoming merger as
being grand. What you have achieved is to link positive emotions to the
decision of merging.
Another expert example of crafting ambiguities:
I feel both of us would love to dine by candlelight one balmy evening. I
visited a chateau that serves excellent sparkling red and steak that really melts all
overlooking the crashing waves fifty feet below. Tremendous experience, I tell you.
Think of relishing all that. That would be a wonderful feeling, dont you think?
You sneaky sly dog! What exactly is the wonderful feeling? Both of you
dining by candlelight? Or experiencing an evening at that chateau? Whatever that
wonderful feeling pertains to you have created positive emotions towards the prospect
of dining out.
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ften times, your decisions are rooted to the here and now.
Hence, it becomes hard to change your mind.
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Examples
Adverb/Adjective
Awareness
Spatial
Command
stop, now
fell,
consider,
discover,
Note: for a more complete list of NLP presuppositions, refer to the works of Bandler
and Grinder. These eminent doctors are the founders of the NLP system.
Throughout this book, I liberally sprinkled presuppositions to ensure that the
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appeared to be facts, hence you accepted them without question. Hunt down these
little stealth bombers if you can.
Observe, now, two rules in deploying presuppositions:
Use a presupposition immediately before a command. Everything that follows
a presupposition is assumed to be presupposed. That means that the mind will
accept them without question. Placing a presupposition after a command
dilutes its effect.
Use as many presuppositions within a statement and a paragraph as possible.
The more presuppositions, the greater the effect and the more influence you
generate.
Presupposition + Command/Directive = Stealth Command
Now that you have the basics, observe how I use presuppositions in the following
statements to induce greater agreement.
Already, you will begin to realize the importance of developing your
persuasive skills. Only with a well-honed ability to persuade can begin you
triumph in your business negotiations.
The statement dropped a load of presuppositions! However, that same
command will lose power if you strip off the presuppositions. Observe.
You will see the importance of developing your persuasive skills. The wellhoned ability to persuade lets you triumph in business negotiations.
Heres another example:
You will immediately realize your life improving after maximizing your
persuasive abilities. That sudden awareness allows you to study your skills all
the more!!
Strip off the presuppositions and realize, now, how the power disappears in a
flash.
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Heres a powerful example using the presupposition allow. Observe how you
can use this simple structure in daily conversation. With allow, you can
transform antagonism into cooperation
You know what, Michael, your strong disagreement to my proposal allows
you to immediately realize how both of us are better off working together,
instead of against each other. Is a gradual awareness of how such cooperation
will help us beginning to sink in?
My favourite example:
Now, stop and begin to realize the wondrous benefits that await you as you
gain mastery over people
Didnt that make you pause and marvel at your growing abilities?
Discussing in-depth the power of presuppositions exceed the scope of this book as
reams could be written on the subject. For further studies, I urge that you purchase
any book by Bandler and Grinder or peruse through Kenrick Clevelands Maximum
Persuasion 2000 .
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Storytelling provides the perfect avenue for emotional release, provided you have the
time to weave the perfect story. It is potently effective and remains a choice
persuasive tool.
With storytelling, the main character of your story is a third party. In fact you can
even make up a fictional character in a scenario that never existed. Since your
prospect is physically detached from the characters and situational context of the
story, she finds it very easy to experience the fictional characters emotions. There
are no strings attached, so to speak, so its safe to immerse herself in the story. The
next time you sit in a sad movie, observe how true this is. Scan the crowd and observe
how hundreds of women cry as the hero stumbles into dire misfortune. They readily
identify with the emotions the fictional character undergoes. Women normally cry
buckets in sympathy.
A time would come when you would want the leading character of your story to be
your listener. Sometimes, directly involving the persona of your prospect in an
emotional tale immediately yields results of a more intense kind. This becomes
particularly true when you want your prospect to partake in some high-involvement
action, such as buying a house or making love.
The process of creating a story with your listener starring the lead role tends to be a
tricky. You cant just say:
Sheila, you are now getting lusty and you feel horny
nor can you say:
Mr. Smith, you notice how excited you are and how you want to proceed
with that merger?
Sheila would slap you and Mr. Smith would walk out your door. Being direct doesnt
work in such situations.
In the practice of NLP, we use special words that hint to our listeners that they should
enter themselves, search their experiences, and release their feelings. All this should
be done as subtly as possible, because once they suspect that there is some form of
manipulation involved, your listener would shut you out.
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The special words I refer to are called analogical sweeteners. You would use them in
the following structure:
Analogical Sweetener + Command + Emotional State description
When you use the aforementioned structure, you seem to be delivering an innocent
series of interrogatives. The magic then begins; the instant you stop speaking, your
listener takes over, and already you would notice a bright spark in her eyes. She
would speak with great deliberation, touching her emotions, and the more she speaks,
the deeper she experiences ever intensifying emotions.
How is this possible?
The sweeteners, command verbs and emotional descriptions enshroud her mind in an
inescapable veil that elicits an emotional recounting of her history. As she relates a
chunk of her history, she reawakens latent emotions tied to her story.
In effect, she tells a story and experiences it as though she were going through it all
over again.
You create your magical interrogatives using the following sweeteners:
Imagine what it
Consider
When you
Do you recall
As
If you were to
How does it feel?
Your psychiatrist is obviously adept at unleashing these tools on your mind as you
sink onto his couch. He would ask you:
Robert, do you recall a time when you felt terribly alone It was as though
the world pretended you didnt exist and it was as if you were a ghost?
And each waking hour, you felt miserable and as each minute passed, you felt
like you just wanted to vanish from this indifferent earth?
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The letters in red are the sweeteners, the words in tan are the command, and
the rest are the emotional descriptions. If you were Robert, wouldnt you
begin feeling melancholy as you dredged your experiences?
Lets look at an upbeat example. As a broker, you may wish to induce enthusiasm in
someone to purchase a house. You could wisely provoke intense feelings related to a
previous successful purchase.
Mrs. Smith, have you ever made an acquisition before and were totally
satisfied with it? I mean, you would gloat over it for days, telling yourself that
it was such as steal and that you couldnt have done better?...
When you use the technique, you ask your prospect to tell her story. As she dwells
upon the lurid details of the tale, she experiences everything in a flood of emotions; it
were as though she were back in time again. This time, it is with you silent, and she,
eliciting her emotions for you.
In order to effectively leverage this method in a flash, I suggest you follow the
succeeding steps:
1. First, identify your objective. Do you want someone to buy something? To
fall in love with you?
2. Now, identify the relevant emotions involved. If you want someone to fall for
you, the pertinent emotion is that of passion or attraction.
3. Ask your prospect, using Analogical Sweeteners, to recall of a time she
experienced such an emotion. Provide assistance by describing the emotional
state desired in crisp detail.
4. Fall silent and listen as she recounts the tale in all its naked glory. Provide
affirmation as she requires it.
5. Once she finishes her tale, she has reached the necessary emotional saturation.
It is at this point you can give your proposal. For instance you could say:
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I understand now that your previous purchase really satisfied you! First, because
you received unprecedented customer support, second, the price lay within your
budget, and third, you got a lot of valuable extras with it. What if I now offer you
an investment that will get you smiling even wider? As you do business with us,
you will enjoy 365 day customer support, a price that even a tight purse could
afford, and free extras worth $5000.00 Hows that for value, my friend?
Take care to mention key points that your prospect raised in her story as
you mention your proposal. You will create stronger agreement in this
manner because both of you would appear to rest upon common ground.
Like all the previous techniques, inducing emotion offers flexibility for any situation.
You will readily find it an ideal opener for most persuasive effort.
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$600Million to the entire board. The contract that finally determines what
happens rests before you gentlemen. I, as your chairman can only advise. The
decision is yours and since weve gone over the matter many times before,
perhaps you have this strong solid intuition that signing away our
corporation our baby, is not in our best interests. I foresee strong growth in
the future and our earnings will vastly overshadow that $600Million takeover
bid. Gentlemen. What say you in light of the situation?
All the statements, from the greeting of Ladies and gentlemen to The decision is
yours., are truisms. You will readily find them observably true. Each time a truism
is uttered, you induce a silent yes reply in the mind. Invoke a series of truisms in a
row, and you provoke an avalanche of yess. You are in effect, creating a mind-set of
passive agreement within your listener.
The truisms end at The decision is yours. and from there, you insert your
commands, beginning with, and since weve gone over the matter many times
before, perhaps you have this strong solid intuition that signing away our
corporation our baby, is not in our best interests. Now, examine how much
easier it is to agree with this command, posted at the end of all those truisms?
The mind desires consistency. Get it to say yes a dozen times, and it is bound to say
yes to everything else.
The technique applied by the Chairman is known as pacing and leading. First, you
pace by stating the observable reality of your listener. Second, you lead by
insinuating your suggestions or commands. Blending the truisms prior to the
commands creates a hypnotic effect. Your listeners will find it easy to accept your
suggestions as fact.
The Chairman will be hard pressed to garner agreement with his board if he simply
declared:
Gentlemen, I urge you right now to reject that offer
The board will begin thinking, Why? Why reject it? $600M is a nice round figure!
Launching a command without the preliminary of truisms robs you of the beneficial
shock absorbers that truisms provide. A command standing on its own is shocking
and invites rebellion. However, by veiling that command with observable facts, you
transform it into a simple statement of fact that is irrefutable!
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For your benefit, I offer you an effective framework to formulating your persuasive
speeches:
Truism, truism, truism, truism, truism, truism, command
Truism, truism, truism, truism, command, command
Truism, truism command, command, command
Truism, command, command, command, command
You craft your truisms with observably true statements. Avoid anything that is
subjective in nature. Remember, that we sometimes confuse fact with opinion.
For instance, these are truisms
We are in a room.
The steak is before us.
We are seated across each other.
Now, observe the subtle distinction with opinions
We are in a large room. (If you were used to mansions, the room may appear
small!)
The steak looks delicious. (What if your listener were devout vegetarian?)
We are gazing at each other lovingly. (You may just be wishing of this)
Effective use of pacing and leading demands deft skills of observation. First, observe
your surroundings. Second, state your observations in a series of irrefutable
statements. Finally, link your suggestions to your irrefutable statements.
Dont worry that people will question your bizarre opening truisms of sitting at a
table, looking at the contract and lunch being over. Theyll never notice. The
human mind will pass over those little details because it will be too busy agreeing to
them. Besides, it appears to be small talk. We are all entitled to that! Make your
conversation as free flowing as possible and you will be delighted with how easily
you can sway others to your side. Can you imagine what power that is?
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Thank you for coming to this meeting. I look forward to discussing with you
because my colleagues praise you for your incisive thinking and ability to
explore new alternatives. Its rare for me to meet such individuals.
Once the panel is told that it is open-minded, it would strive to live up to that
expectation.
Human nature dictates consistency. If I am told that I am cool-headed, I would refrain
from making violent outbursts because I desire to prove to everyone and to myself
that I know how to rein in my emotions!
The rule for locking people in a box is as follows.
Identify how you would like your listener to behave.
Praise her for such behaviour, whether or not it even exists.
If she later deviates from the ascribed behaviour, remind her of her alleged
reputation, and voice wonder at her erratic behaviour.
Smile, as she behaves the way you desire.
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The salesman failed to entice you because he used his reasons in his attempts of
persuasion. When you decide on a course of action, you choose based upon your
reasons. I myself pick through options founded on my criteria.
We hold our own sets of value and criteria. Every action we make must be beneficial
to us, so we choose carefully; hence we compare alternatives against our intrinsic set
of values. Rarely do we base it on the criteria of others. The exception arises when we
tend to lack spine and consult others with every action we make.
The most effective means of influencing someone else is to dig up his secret set of
values. Armed with his values we readily identify how to tailor our proposal such that
it meets those core criteria. Imagine the process as finding the perfect key to open up
a specific lock. Your product, your proposal will never appeal to anyone unless it
fully satisfies a specific set of criteria. Each person possesses a unique set. It is up to
you to discover what those are.
Questions provide the easiest tools to pry someone open and discover the criteria
hidden within. Once you identify those gems, take them out and blend them into your
suggestions. You would instantly become irresistible.
Allow me to illustrate using a romantic example:
You: I feel its a wonderful thing to know you ,and whats really exciting for
me is to discover beyond the superficialities of what your job is, what my job
is, etc. That type of small talk doesnt appeal to me. What I want to know is
who you are on a deeper level, to get a grasp on what you believe in, and
why So if I were to ask you, what do you value in a relationship?
Pia: Oh its xxx
You: I see, I find those important as well. Do you experience that often?
Pia: xxyy
You: I agree with you. That is enlightening. May I know what else is
important in a relationship?
Pia: yyyzzz
You: Amazing! I feel the same way too. Maybe we are soulmates So, is
there anything you feel should be an issue in a relationship?
Pia: zzzzkkkk
You: You truly are a woman after my heart. So of those values which are
most important?
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Pia: klklklk
You: <much much later> Pia, I could see that our friendship has gotten of to a
marvellous start! From what you tell me, I think its because we have this
rapport based on <what Pia mentioned>!
Pia: <gushes in delight>
You: Im very glad to have met someone like you. I feel that we can share a
lot of good times together.
How to Elicit Criteria Effectively
Identify the situational context. A person possesses different decision-making
criteria for each situation. Hence, it is important to focus your questions on
the specific circumstances. Exemplifying, should you desire to discern
someones decision criteria for buying houses, ask about his particular home
acquisition habits. Dont ask how he chooses vacation spots!
Identify at least three primary criteria. Ask your prospect what is important
to you about ______
Demonstrate sincere understanding for each criteria shared. Agree with them.
Disagree and you kill rapport.
Conclude the session by subtly linking your proposal with that of your
listeners criteria.
Emphasize how your prospect will ultimately enjoy agreeing with your
proposal.
Between
Features
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