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Archbishop of Miami
Archdiocese of Miami
Member Sole, Catholic Health Services
9401 Biscayne Boulevard
Miami Shores, FL 33138
VIA UPS No. 1Z64589FP294652373
Since sending my email August 5, 2014 to Catholic Health Services, Valerie has revealed other
difficulties caring for her mother as sole caregiver.
Valerie does not have other immediate family. Most relatives are in England, her place of birth.
There is a separate issue with a neighbor and vicious dogs that have attacked Valeries pet and
damaged her home and property. So far the authorities have not been able to provide relief.
This is Valeries contact information:
Valerie E. Maddix
16355 SW 153rd Court
Miami, Florida 33187
Telephone:
Cell phone:
I know first-hand the difficulties caring for a terminally ill parent, and the challenge of getting
assistance, whether paid or volunteer. My mother Penelope died of Alzheimers September 16,
2009. Penny was an unremarried widow and member of Queen of Peace Catholic Church, Ocala,
Florida, as was my father until his death in 2002. The following letters are enclosed:
Letter to Ms. Diane Filiaggi, RN, Parish Nurse, November 28, 2008
Client Agreement, Respite Manuel, National Counsel of Catholic Women, Feb-04-2009
Letter to Fr. Patrick J. O'Doherty, Pastor, Queen of Peace, September 26, 2009
Letter to Rev. Thomas Stabile, T.O.R., Fort Worth, Texas, October 2, 2009
Reply letter from Fr. Tom Stabile, T.O.R., Fort Worth, Texas, October 7, 2009
Letter to Ms. Diane Filiaggi, RN, Parish Nurse, March 8, 2010
I know Valerie desperately needs assistance and respite. Previous contact with the Florida
Department of Elder Affairs was not useful. Time is of the essence. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Neil J. Gillespie
8092 SW 115th Loop
Ocala, Florida 34481
Telephone: 352-854-7807
Email: neilgillespie@mfi.net
Enclosures
cc: Mr. J. Patrick Fitzgerald, email jpf@jpfitzlaw.com, J. Patrick Fitzgerald & Associates P.A.
cc: Catholic Health Services, email info@chsfla.com
cc: Valerie E. Maddix, via UPS No. 1Z64589FP291607598
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Neil Gillespie
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Subject:
8/5/2014
August 5, 2014
Valerie E. Maddix
16355 SW 153rd Court
Miami, FL 33187-5203
Dear Valerie,
I hope you are feeling better, you sounded depressed the other day. I found a home healthcare
provider that may be able to help you care for your mother, Catholic Health Services. Enclosed
you find a printout of Catholic Health Services website home page.
http://www.catholichealthservices.org/about-us/catholic-health-services.aspx?nd=43.
Catholic Health Services
4790 North State Road 7
Lauderdale Lakes, FL 33319
Phone: 954.484.1515
Fax: 954.484.5416
Catholic Health Services is a ministry of the Archdiocese of Miami and the largest post acute
provider in the southeast United States. We provide a full continuum of healthcare and social
services to the southeast Florida community. We serve more than 6,000 people on a daily basis
with over 7,500 new patients per year and operate 30 facilities in Broward and Miami-Dade
counties.
Catholic Health Services offers home health services according to its website, see enclosed. I
sent them an email about your situation, info@chsfla.com. Ill let you know the response.
Otherwise I enclosed some reading material to lift your spirits, and a small journal for yourself.
Hopefully I can visit you soon in person. Love, Neil.
Neil J. Gillespie
8092 SW 115th Loop
Ocala, Florida 34481
Phone: (352) 854-7807
Email: neilgillespie@mfi.net
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CLIENT AGREEMENT
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agree to hold harmless and free from any liability or claim from myself, my
family, estate or any other actual or potential interested party, the RESPITE program of the
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National Council of Catholic Women and the Arch/Diocese oro /?2.,<,,/>?,<f6)itB providers, employees,
volunteer workers, adminIstrators or any property whatsoever. or any third party, or myself,
occurrIng during, or as a result of, any participation In any activity or involvement with or
through the above Program. Its providers or representatives whatsoever. I understand that I am
accepting and receiving volunteer services.
I acknowledge that I have read aDd do understand the above. and have disclosed to the represen
tative of the program any information pertinent to tbe program's assistance to me, or otherwise,
concerning my health, abllltlesand reqUirements, and have had my signature below witnessed by
a person not being a member directly or indIrectly of my family.
I have read and understood RESPITE policies on clIent rights, client confidentiality. and caregiver
responsibIlities.
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The Diocese of Orlando
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in partnership with
Diocese of Orlando
What is Respite
At the present time one out of every four homes
has a homebound person being cared for by a
family member. Most often these caregivers are
family members who have other full-time
responsibilities. RESPITE, Sharing the Care is
in-home supervision and companionship
provided by trained individuals at no cost.
Unlike the Ministry to the Sick program whose
focus is on the homebound person, Respite is a
program focused on the caregiver. Respite
provides short-term relief for the caregiver that
has a 244lour day, 7-day a week responsibility.
The Or1ando Diocesan Coundl of catholic
Women in collaboration with the Respect Life
Office of the Diocese of Or1ando has formed a
partnership to provide this service for our
Diocese.
The National Council of Catholic Women
(NCCW) has a long-standing position in support
of families who care for their chronically ill or
disabled members at home.
Why Respite
Persons who are homebound have the desire and
need to remain independent and self-sufficient.
Families provide 80% of the care given in the home.
Family caregivers frequently experience
exhaustion, isolation, loss offreedom, fear, gUilt and
grief. Respite care lightens the stress and
enhances the quality of life to both the caregiver and
care receiver.
Program Goals
To offer a training program which ensures that
the participants have the basic knowledge and
skills to provide respite care.
To provide short-term respite care to help
maintain family equilibrium.
To provide respite care at no cost to the family.
To inform and/or refer a family to additional
support services.
Respite Volunteers
Volunteers are the foundation of
the Respite Program
The volunteer needs to demonstrate a
warm interest in and have an
understanding attitude toward the
homebound and a desire to be of service.
The volunteer needs to demonstrate
patience, sensitivity and good listening
skills.
The volunteer will partidpate in the training
program to learn more about care giving:
acquire basic skills necessary to assist a
frail person in activities of daily living and
recognize and respond to
emergency situations. Opportunities for
follow-up training and volunteer support
will be provided on a regular basis.
The volunteer will meet the recording
reqUirements of activites and time
volunteered.
All volunteers are required by diocesan
policy to be fingerprinted and have a
background check.
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Neil J. G espie
8092 SW 115th Loop
Ocala, Florida 34481
Telephone: (352) 854-7807
via hand delivery
enclosures
GILLESPIE, PENELOPE
"PENNY" M~ 78
October 2, 2009
Rev. Thomas Stabile, T.O.R. - Pastor
St. Andrew Catholic Church
3717 Stadium Drive
Fort Worth, Texas 76109-3798
Dear Father Tom,
Thank you for administering Last Rights and the Sacrament of the Sick to my mother,
Penelope Gillespie on September 13, 2009 at SW Nursing and Rehabilitation Center.
Penny was visiting her son Mark and his wife Jody when Alzheimer's took a turn for the
worse. For several years I was Penny's caregiver at her home in Ocala, Florida.
Enclosed is a token of our family's appreciation for your ministry. Penny began her
Catholic faith at Transfiguration of Our Lord Catholic Church in Philadelphia where she went to
grade school, attended weekly service, and later married my father. Thank you for bringing her
home to Our Lord Jesus Christ.
Sincerely,
Neil J. Gillespie
8092 SW 115th Loop
Ocala, FL 34481
October 7, 2009
Dear Neil,
Thank you for the letter, memorial card and money order. I always wonder how a
person is doing after I visit, but don't always here from the family. I was delighted to
receive your kind letter.
You are welcome for my visit and for administering the Sacrament of the Sick to
Penny. I understand you were her primary caregiver so it must have been tough for you
to be so far away. Mark and Jody explained what had happened.
Just to let you know, all donations we receive for our ministry to the sick or for the
celebration of the Sacraments are put into the funds to support our Social Ministry
Outreach (food pantry and other assistance) and the Liturgy and Music Ministry.
God give you peace as you recover from your loss.
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Fr. Tom Stabile, T.O.R.
Neil J. Gillespie
8092 SW 115 th Loop
Ocala, Florida 34481
Telephone: (352) 854-7807
email: neilgillespie@mfi.net
March 8, 2010
Ms. Diane Filiaggi, RN, Parish Nurse
Queen of Peace Catholic Church
6455 SW State Road 200
Ocala, Florida 34476
Dear Ms. Filiaggi,
You visited our home in Oak Run in December 2008 to see my mother Penny Gillespie
who was a member of Queen of Peace parish and in stage 5+ Alzheimer's. I am sorry to
report that mom died September 16, 2009 while visiting family in Fort Worth, Texas.
Father O'Doherty held a wake service for Penny in the chapel October 14, 2009.
The reason for this letter is to provide useful information for the care of the elderly and
some suggestions that may help others. When you visited last year I had been caring for
mom since 2005 and was exhausted. In February 2009 my brother agreed to provide care
at his home in Texas to give me respite.
Are you aware of the Veterans Administration (VA) pension programs, including Aid &
Attendance, and Housebound benefits? Penny was eligible for cash benefits of over
$1,000 per month as a surviving spouse of an eligible veteran. This VA pension
information is online at www.vba.va.govlbln/21/Pensionlvetpen.htm.
Unfortunately we were not aware of this program until shortly before Penny's death. We
lost years of benefits that could have made a difference in Penny's life. Apparently this is
not unusual. Enclosed is a letter from Debbie Burak, founder ofVeteranAid.org about the
delay in receiving VA benefits that inspired her to create VeteranAid.org.
There is another intangible benefit of VA benefits, it gives families "permission" to
employ a home healthcare agency to help the disabled parent who needs assistance with
bathing, feeding, and dressing. Some members of our family were resistant to employing
others to help mom at home, viewing it untoward since they believed it was their duty,
but a duty which they eventually neglected because of the amount of work involved. A
payment by the VA for that purpose can legitimize the expense. It also acknowledges the
service to our country provided by the veteran and is an earned benefit, not welfare.
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Medicare has a number of excellent publications that would have made a significant
difference in Penny's life had I known about them. Here are some of the Medicare
publications available online, just Google the title to find them. Copies are enclosed.
a. Medicare Guide to Choosing a Nursing Home
b. Medicare Coverage of Skilled Nursing Facility Care
c. Medicare and Home Health Care
There is also an online Medicare Nursing Home Compare Tool that lets you compare
several nursing homes. This would have made a difference in Penny's care and added
quality to her life had I known about it before she entered Southwest Nursing and
Rehabilitation Center in Fort Worth, which I later learned was poorly rated. The Medicare
Nursing Home Compare Tool found an excellent Alzheimer's specialized facility a short
distance away that would have been much better for Penny.
Lastly is the issue of respite for primary caregivers. A letter to my parents from Father
O'Doherty when they frrst registered with the parish says that over 99% of the
parishioners are non-Floridians. This is true for our family too. Our nearest relatives live
over 1000 miles away. This isolation was detrimental to Penny's care and my respite.
As you know I contacted the Queen of Peace respite ministry and Mary Dombek visited
Penny in February 2009 for two hours. We were grateful for Mary's help and I later sent
her a card expressing my gratitude. However after several years of caregiving a two hour
respite is not nearly enough. And the time spent preparing for a short respite almost
negates the benefit. It would help to have lists of home healthcare agencies. Your referral
to Patricia Martin was great, except she was under contract with Champion Home Health
Care, Inc. (Sherri Kalishman) an agency with an onerous contract. For example, the
contract had a $50,000 liquidated damages clause if we hired Patricia Martin directly.
We used Florida Palliative Home Care once and I would recommend it. We also hired an
independent home healthcare worker, Beth Bosse, who happens to be a member of Queen
of Peace. I found Beth through her ad in the Oak Run newsletter and recommend her.
Another one advertised is Comfort Keepers, which claims over 550 independently owned
and operated offices worldwide. http://www.comfortkeepers.com/HOME.html
The Catholic Church teaches the value of protecting life which becomes more poignant
when the life is vulnerable due to dementia. The things discussed in this letter are fairly
simple but would have gone a long way in protecting Penny's life. I regret not being
aware of this information. Please pass this information on to others if you find it helpful.