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INTRODUCTION
Alexander
Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008
Im intelligent. Aesthetically non-displeasing. Im a young
man. I rock a wicked sense of humour. I dont take it
seriously. Life is fun. I take it seriously. I listen to electroshock house.
I seeded my dreams in THE INDUSTRY. I grew it into a
full blown reality.
Im making tracks. 175, deep, intelligentsometimes
brilliant. Cunning, sharp, witty, decisivecreative. I go out.
I enjoy staying in. I drink for the image and sometime to
demise. I like big brands, I dont buy big brands. I sip
champagne and kick it with celebrities. They only live
nearby.
Im on the internet. Kids love me. Mums and dads adore
me. I love my friends, I make more every day. I have
enemies. But dont dislike them. No drugs. Im Australian.
Shaped by the international community. Im fashionable,
Im savvy sometimes I just dont care.
I talk the talk. I hold my own. Youll see it in my stride.
Im not from the hood. I dont pretend to be. People respect
that. Be yourself. Im just myself. Theres no better way to
be. You wont find yourself in me. I display my insecurities,
Ill always get back up. Im on my path. I drive cool, my
stero is LOUD. Im bi-polar, an engineer at heart.
CHAPTER I
(+V), neutral value (0V) or lower value than the girl (-V).
When I talk about your relative value to a girl I mean it in
terms of what you perceive your self to be in relation to her.
And remember, perception is projection.
Emotionally, you can expose a girl to a range of emotions
by talking to her. Ie, chatting up a girl. Or lines or routines
or whatever. Thats another debate. Essentially, you can be
as cooler guy as you want to think you are but if your not
talking to the girl, having the balls to approach and
ability/know how to communicate with her emotionally OR
have the balls to say emotionally spiking things you wont
get attraction.
However: If your ultra cool (socially proofed rock star) that
can be enough to inspire attraction in and of itself. If your
verbal game is ultra tight and you know exactly what to do
to expose a girl to a full range of emotions then that also
can render you higher value to her in her eyesrendering
you attractive.
COOL, GOT THAT CLEARED IN SHORT FORM,
LOOK OUT FOR A LONGER ARTICLE ON THAT
LATER.
Down to the internal compass. There are four types of guy
in the world.
The big in house secret here at RSD towers in the
confidential Northern Los Angles location is that only a
sexworthy guy gets laid. Period. Entertainer dudes make it
look great, and have plenty of clips on you tube depicting
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Elite Congruence.
Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008
What Im here to write about today is the notion of not
being here to fornicate arachnids. A lot have asked me what
the fuck does this mean. Fornicate means to have sex with,
arachnids more obviously refers to spiders. Were not here
to fuck spiders, as in, were here to get down to business.
worthy guy and open less and play less game. If you dont
play by the rules, your simply not in the game. The
alternate option is sitting on the side, drink to chest
watching, masturbating.
These sorts of dudes, if opened are magic. No doubt. The
classic natural. However these naturals will never come
close to the self actualized because they cant do the most
pivotal part of pick up
The approach.
Alpha as he may be, rest assure that anyone reading this
will always trump a man scared to risk a conversation with
a girl. And in most cases, the self actualized man is learned
of all possible contingencies, and can execute.
But the final hurdle that most guys make is the following.
Their internal compass clicks form the entertainer man
zone into the sexworthy guy zone. Identity level change.
But overtly and logistically they then neglect exactly what
they have become and, as a result, remain underneath their
own glass ceiling of success.
Essentially, when a guy learns about game, he becomes the
entertainer man. Enlightened and consciously aware of his
game unconsciousness he learns some lines and gets out
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into the field. No more internet south park and less world of
warcraft. As his experience compiles his inner game
becomes more and more restored. And with the resources
such as the forum, the Blog and our products his head is at
the light speed thrust into the right space.
I did it, Tyler did it, Jeffy did it, Tim did it, so did ALOT of
RSDNation.
Plasticity of the brain. People can learn. Internally you are
sorted. But a lot of guys get into some weird negative
headspace about the means and tactics that once was the
causality for closing.
Pffft dude, check out that chode doing a palm reading. He
must be a desperate **** creep. I wonder where he keeps
his wand.
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All of us have had nights when shit has worked, and others
when shit has not worked.
As mentioned above, anyone can come from any place.
Have you ever known a set of identical twins vastly
differing in mentalities and outlooks in life? Biologically
identical by nature, but polar opposites as a result of varied
nurture.
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You descent has finally ceased and you stand with your feet
firmly grounded ready to push off in the right direction.
The momentum changes from the heart in the throat freefall to self esteem and individual progress.
By the by, the generation of euphoric feelings of self
esteem comes during periods of progress in any area of
your life. You might still be obese, but if you hammer out a
good cardio session and eat right for a few days you will
feel like a million bucks. Self esteem.
This is so often the case with younger children. Theyre
always progressing physically and cognitively, moving in
the right direction. This amps the default self esteem. The
mom look at me phenomenon. By this same token, this is
the reason why so many teens in their later years lose all
self esteem and suffer emotional turbulence because there
is an acute feeling of what now?
To come from the right place is not a conscious way to act.
Your actions shift in presentation as you encounter more
and more life experiences, be they joyful or heartbreaking,
success or failure. Each and every individual experience is
another component to the self. The same self that is always
coming through.
There is a lot that can be learned from someone who has
seen the bitterest of failure. This is a person, whom in light
of disaster will find a new motivation unlike anything he
has ever known before. But it is the disaster, the experience,
that catalyses the change in self. To all whom observe this
person they will know he is a motivated and passionate
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Contrastingly, the trust fund kids have all the wealth, but
not the integrity of a self made, hard working humble
person. The spoiled brat. Traditionally these people, while
influential arent well liked. This persons self is
incongruent with their material wealth. So often you see
socialites, pop stars and rock stars checking into rehab.
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they are the naturally attractive type of guy who gets laid.
This may seem counter intuitive initially. Consider Richard
Branson.
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Operation Charlie~Kilo
Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008
OK.
At any one time in my life i will be working towards
several different goals simultaneously. keeps me occupied,
keeps me challenged, keeps me entertained.
One thing I always wanted to really conquer was my own
aesthetics.
I was shopping at a duty free store today and I realised that
becoming a professional model would make an awesome
career. It was as i sprayed sample cologne onto a tester strip
that i noticed the abundance of free products i would get a s
benefit of my photographic and cat walk obligations.
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Its the same traits that every instructor has, every great
natural has and what pre-socially conditioned boys have.
Living in the moment, positive dominance and escalation.
Three little things that if wholeheartedly understood and
embraced will render you congruent with what you were
born as, leading you to be more comfortable with yourself
and resulting in the girls being comfortable around you.
The traits of the naturally attractive guy. The traits that if
you werent incorrectly conditioned otherwise would have
shone through naturally on their own.
These traits are similar to those catalysed by alcohol, the
pillar of the western social world. When you drink the
cognitive part of your brain is inhibited, you lose the ability
to focus on much more than what is in front of you and
without a second thought you more comfortably act on
your desires.
Congruence is the KEY to attraction, it cultivates tight
inner game namely making you high value. On the nature
side of things you were designed to focus on the moment,
to be assertive, unreactive and generate you own state.
What we call presence and positive dominance. The man is
comfortable with who he is also comfortable to escalate.
Did you ever get blown out for escalating? Probably not. If
you cant answer that question get into the field.
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CHAPTER II
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Many guys play sports all over the world every day. If you
ask most why they participate they will tell you it is
because it enriches their lives, they get an opportunity to
test themself and an opportunity for glory and dreamtimes.
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And once you have some experience and truly enjoy the
game for the game, and are having fun, to the victor will
always go the spoils.
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But these privileges, these spoils, are reserved for the elite.
NOT the button pushers. Those willing to play the game to
the bitter limits. Those willing to let go
How can any guy ever expect to score if hes not going to
play not going to fully engage the game?! The trenches
are a tough place. To the victor go the spoils.
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You talk to all your friends about the numbers you got and
how she was totally into you!
You begin to think of yourself as the guy who gets the girls.
Impervious to the bad reactions that you never risk
exposing yourself to.
But then, in a heart skipping a beat moment you realize
that you might not be as good as you thought you were
after all you havent even read all the other companies
guides on how to get girls. You could never be complete
until you have consulted every stitch of published Poooah
propaganda.
But, does anyone ever stop to think that you already have
all the content you ever needed, the biology and the desire.
Sure this stuff has some great insights and even training
wheels but I can assure you it is not the answer it is the
motivation, it is the guidance or catalyst.
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No.
Why do men play sport? Its a celebration of your
masculinity, a release and exertion of yourself onto the
world in all of its grandeur. What happens when you get the
door of the venue? The venue clerks confirm you
chronology, take a moment to confirm your gender.
The close.
As you get deeper and deeper entrenched into the battle,
you plow through, your very identity being tested,
suppressing fire is heavy and tests you to the very tether of
your masculinity. Youre on your path no one can reroute
your intentions.
They try, your ego-social-persona is bruised beyond repair.
Your abandon it indifferent to future circumstances, bulletproof you subscribe to no structure no one can contain you,
control you or predict you.
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CHAPTER III
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Brain Psychology.
Thursday, March 6th, 2008
than any guy who has the intentions of improving this part
of his life need to be aware of.
Sceptically I inspected the book, guessed that it would be
like so many other anecdotal, quick fix how to flirt piece
of shit books out there. Reading the info about the author i
quickly discovered that her expertise was verified with
decades of experience in the field of relationship
psychology and neuropsychology.
Basically put, it described the mechanical workings of the
brain. The Author, Louann Brizendine M.D. is a
neuropsychiatrist at the university of California and the
founder of womens and girls mood and hormone clinic.
If anyone from the academic area is qualified to offer
insight into the working of a female mind it is this woman.
The book is primarily designed to address the differences
between male and female brains, as Brizendine argues all
research on the brain has historically presumed that it is a
male brain in question.
More than anything the book contrasts the differences
between male and female brains, development, hormonal
characteristics and the behaviour that one could expect in
light of certain neurological activity.
At university this was the focus of my studies and I
thoroughly benefited from and enjoyed this book.
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Imagine you are the bringing the party, you are radiating
fun. She will instantly get greedy and want some of that too.
But its ok because you can turn water into wine, you will
never run out of goodness.
This is my ultimate rule of game
whatever you are feeling is what she will feel.
This is the pillar of flawless natural game. Instant attraction.
You cannot control what she is feeling, but you can control
what you are and your experience.
Similarly, during a congruence test a woman is enjoying
your company and enjoying the feelings you are giving her
but will test the strength of your reality and frame. A man
whos feelings change as a result of a failed test (emotional
reactivity) will influence the girls emotions negatively and
she will most likely be done with him.
It is empowering to know that if you express yourself to the
right tune, feel good, genuinely trust yourself and live a
perceptually fulfilled life women will never be far away.
The self is always coming through.
Be the music,
People will feel you loud and clear,
And be moved.
Alexander~
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But what if you wanted to find and generate that love and
take control over the situation.?
Let me help you understand it and allow you to have a
stronger conscious control over the situation.
To help you pick up girls.
NOW! As we all know, for those who read Alex~ blogs
and RSDnation Attraction = Higher Value plus a full range
of emotions. I even made a graphic for you to put as your
screen saver, desktop or even to print off and put on your
wall or in your diary.
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You will get some great visual reaction to these things, but
in your experience do you close these girls or do they just
want to be friends? You might game them and game them
and game them only to be met by an armada of last minute
resistance to use an old school community term.
For example the dancing monkey. Put the girl through a
bevy of positive emotions, clowning about, making her to
laugh at you, wearing clown like attire. Putting on quite a
show.
What happens when the show is over? The girls look for a
guy they can game. Someone unpredictable and hard to get.
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just straight out insult the girl she wont even talk to you to
begin with. An ever quicker way to lose the interaction.
While trying to impress a range of emotions in a girl will
elicit a visible and marketable range of emotions and most
times validate some kind of impressers ego your still just a
clown in the club.
From time to time you will see guys like this. Give them
credit for getting out of the house. Soon enough, out of
necessity of not getting laid they will learn the error of their
ways and switch it up.
It would be wrong to say that impression doesnt work.
Impression will not result in you getting laid.
Actually, my mistake.
Impression makers simply will not have success unless the
girl makes an overruling decision that she wants to get laid.
But this guy will still be a low value guy and rarely get laid.
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Be the music~.
The notion of expression is to exhibit yourself in an
uninhibited, unstifled way. The overt communication of
how you feel.
Expression is a true and authentic communication that is a
by product of being unstifled.
Expression IS acting through your own intentions. Rather
than trying to impress others.
you dont give a fuck what anybody thinks of you
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How to drink.
Friday, April 18th, 2008
I used to be an expert on this one.
It was kinda difficult going from drunken lifestyle to social
lifestyle. I wondered how they would fit together.
But basically, gaming drunk is like driving drunk. You
wont be able to stop yourself from making mistakes. Even
though you will be able to tell that you are slurring, staring
at cleavage and urinating on the bar.
These things are embarrassing and unbecoming.
Hanging out with the boys and drinking is a whole nother
story.
I watched a clip online recently featuring Dr Phil. He was
interviewing turbo girls that frequented Hollywood social
hotspots.
When posed the question: what do girls like in guys that
approach them in the bar?
They didnt know. They can recognise what is attractive it
in an instant but will never be able to articulate it.
If a girl could tell you what she liked in a guy who
approached her in a bar then that would be like the maths
teacher giving away the answers to the maths test.
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She wouldnt really test you to see what type of guy you
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CHAPTER V
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While it inspires salivation to those who are ready for it, for
the average community guy its waaaaaaaaaaaay over their
heads.
But we take this stuff ridiculously seriously and it is the
ultimate passion and the backbone of our lifestyle.
So, I hereby present a nuRSD guide for the beginner.
Something you can digest right here and now, go out and
use that will
orient you in line with the new school mind-set-ologies that
were getting massive success with.
This is geared towards a total newbie. And for the more
advanced, give it a go. Your ability to replicate the basics
consistently will provide the foundations for you to
springboard towards the more spectacular highlights this
community has to offer.
Think new RSD think emotional communication, think
inner game.
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If you already have one yes, you will most likely get
another.
This is a compliance ladder in and of itself. Also, with both
compliant response the girl is investing in giving you
smart/smarter than a fifth grader response.
As opposed to a classic opinion opener you will not trip
any sort of classic game radars in girls nor will you be
coming from a pace of lower value in need of an opinion,
you are essentially qualifying right off the bat.
Make note that in any interaction you set the frame in the
first ten seconds.
So, with a positive high value frame established, follow by
asking a simple opinion opener. For examples sake:
1. Do guys who drink out of a straws look gay?
2. Do you know where parliament house is?
3. Do you think my hair matches my shoes?
4. How many times should a guy date a girl before sleeping
with her?
5. Whats a better job, lawyer or Viking?
6. Who lies more, insomniacs or chronic fatigue syndrome
sufferers?
7. Is Brad Pitt dating Angelina Jolie for love or for status?
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Then maybe they fall back into your frame, give yourself
credit for good plowing.
They will most likely give a perfectly smart logical
response. Just like any opinion opener. But we all know
that logic is the arch nemesis of emotions. Time for an
immediate emotional spike. Emotional spikes correspond
with above numbered opinion openers.
1. No, thing is Im trying to look gay to score free drinks
tonight!
2. Oh cool, we have a big game of capture the flag planned
for after tonights bar session.
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To get a number?
Hey I have to gobut we should be emotionally close
friends.
There you go.
In short these are core mindsets combined with a basic
verbal structure should be pre-product/bootcamp exposure
to get you started in field.
And in understanding the mechanics behind the methods
you go into field like a gun that has just been cocked.
Diagrammatically it would look like this:
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Alexander~,
Saad
&
Ryan (Ryan~, Yahyah, Sparky_PUA, Malcom X, Yahyah
Jones Bitch)
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After Cruise kisses Cruz, and he leaves and she is alone she
then proceeds to go crazy running around the room.
Making her formerly invisible game (emotions) visible.
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Makes sense.
Realise that when you are a chill guy, who takes pride in
the way he expresses himself, who has self worth
You become the equivilant to what we would considier to
be model hot girl.
Thing is though, guys like us are alot more rare.
Alex~
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If the girls gives you her number it doesnt mean its date
time, it means she was having a good time at that point of
exchange. That state you put her in at that moment is all
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I am cool.
I love beer.
Chuck Norris can eat a Rubiks cube whole and reproduce
it solved.
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When you actually get the number dont walk away and
give your friends a high five. The interest is in the girl, not
the number.
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There is not hard and fast rule for this either. Next day can
be fine.
Im a caller not a texter. For two reasons, texting is trickier
than calling with all the button pushing shit and I have had
more success establishing meet ups this way.
Person to person interaction on the phone is far more
influential than text messages. Dont be the guy who
doesnt call because he likes to plan meticulously what hes
going to text the girl. And dont be the guy who doesnt
call because hes scares hes going to fuck up speaking to
her in person on the phone.
Fucking up is good because it then gives you an
opportunity to show that you make mistakes, but you dont
care, its just what you do. Youre not the sort of guy who
really gives a fuck about stupid irrelevant bullshit.
The way it turns out most of the time is that it will take a
couple of days to call the girl because you have things
going on.
Usually one or two days is about right. If I get a number on
Thursday, Friday or Saturday I call Monday, if I got the
number
Sunday Id call Tuesday.
In my experience its best to call during business hours or
school hours, around the four or 5 oclock mark. This has a
better connection rate than later in the night when any
number of other things could be going on.
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So, when you get into a phone game situation its vital that
you persist for the meet up. This is a case again of coming
from the right place.
Chasing, pushing, needing is low value stuff.
Persisting is high value and approaching the situation from
the right mindset.
You take every responsibility for the girl getting laid. You
take every responsibility for the continuation of the
interaction after the initial meeting.
If youre wondering as to why you should have a sense of
entitlement remember your intentions.
You intend to make life a better place for her, you intend to
have fun, you dont intend to take value or detract for her
experience in any way. You know that when she hangs out
with you shes going to have more fun with you for the right
reasons than any other guy.
Thats why its worth persisting. In line with your
intentions you need to help her understand this. Persist until
she sees you. If she doesnt get that youre the best guy for
her thats her lossor your miscalibration.
Usually flakes result from bad interactions, a lack of self
value relative to the girl, lack of persistence and a lack of
sense of entitlement.
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When you actually make the call you have pretty much two
contingencies that could possibly arise. Either you speak to
her on the phone or you get her answering service.
If you get the answering machine its a simple:
Hey its me, call me back. Indifferent, breaking-rapport
tonality.
If you dont hear anything back do the same three or four
days afterwards.
After four or five instances of this with no call back you
have nothing to lose, so go all out and then delete the
number.
Call her answering machine as per normal with Aerosmith
playing dramatically in the background. Sing to the
answering to the tunes of the song something outrageous
like:
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Alex: Well, I was just calling to check in. Ive got a couple
of things going on this afternoon/this evening, Im going in
and out.
Girl: OK.
Alex: Cool. I will call you later.
Click.
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Eventually she will call when she realises that you are
genuinely indifferent and live in abundance. If shes pulling
some immature bullshit then I will call her lame for being
immature and lose interest then and there. If you want to
continue with the girl dont be afraid to call a few days later
and start the phone game process all over again. First call
then second call style.
Dont sweat the who-calls-who-more ratio.
If your feeing adventurous bust on her for flaking you. If
its for a reason like study, fatigue or some other
transparent bullshit then its time to up the stakes. I ask her
what her address is for INVITATIONAL PURPOSES, she
then sends it to me (this is the case 100% of the time) and I
simply go and pay her a visit.
Showing up where shes at is congruent with my sense of
entitlement, confidence and playfulness. If you are not
congruent with these things then this could be tricky and
come off weird. I have done this three times and have had
three lays.
I drive to the location, find the girl and change her mood
and mind right there. Its very difficult to say no to a date to
someone in person amplifying your state there in person
saying SKO, SKO, SKO!
Generally it goes down like this (this is the epitome of
persistence):
Girl: hey what are you doing here!?
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CHAPTER VII
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Since I left the factory many moons ago I have since lived
in hotels all around the world.
For about two months this was quite the novelty especially
for a guy who is in his early twenties. But after a while I
missed being able to take care of organising myself and
began to hate having to rely on others to organise things
for me.
The RSD guys do an awesome job or setting up
accommodation however the accommodators generally
suck. American customer service is second to none but I
still dont understand why it is not applicable when it
comes to hotels.
As a hotelier I wouldnt think people with huge yearly
contracts, investing in conference rooms and checking in
dozens people almost every day of the year would validate
distain for hotel guests.
This distain ignited a spark which has grown into some
kind of ongoing battle that continues to rage to this day.
Neither battle party is willing to give an inch.
This is a tension this is only going to continue to rage on as
long as my quest for self amusement is filtered through my
maturity.
Or more technically, lack thereof.
I check into hotels with camouflage paint on my face.
My game face.
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The results of the tensions are note worthy for the humour
value. The following is a short collection of the goings on
in the timeless battle of good and evil.
More accurately a collection of things that have happened
in the places I have stayed over the last two years.
Deity Liar-ism and Terrorist Response to Pubis.
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Not just one ass hair, but a family of about five that had
mystically migrated to the roof and were casually residing
there.
These profiled in excess of one inch.
The situation elicited emotions similar to when you break
up with a minger you have to work or live with. At first you
try and block it out the sour pangs of hatred, then, nope.
Open distain.
The anger came to head on a Tuesday night. We had passed
the pubis in the hall a couple of times and averted eye
contact. In the ultimate sign of verbal disrespect we would
address the pubis:
No eyes for pubis.
And wear sunglasses when around the family of altitude
asshole hairs.
The tension in the room was palpable.
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No girls.
Pent up frustration.
So many hot girls on the weekend not for us.
Doubly pent up frustration.
Instructor relaxing drinks time uncompromised by girl time.
Inhibited doubly pent up frustration.
Any crystal ball gazer at this stage would call for an
evacuation.
Its well documented that IDGAFWATOM, which is
cool. However when this phenomenon is chemically tainted
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TV still broken.
Even though we hadnt managed to contact reception
someone starts to bang on the door.
My blood ran cold. I stopped for a moment to stock check
that moment in my life.
Mattresses upturned to conceal floor vomit.
Tables upside down with vomit stored in the drawers.
Trail mix embedded in the carpet, raisins everywhere.
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And like a vulgar cherry on top of all of this the pubis still
lodged on the bathroom roof. Looking down upon us,
sneering, proud of its achievements.
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I walk back into the disaster site to find room mate passed
out and liar-ism telling me the importance of submitting a
denotation to deity with my credit card. Negative.
I wake up dude with water to face. I called for a red alert.
Time to go national guard on this place, my travels
depended on it.
Our clothes had been contaminated by the trail mix, bodily
fluids and sauced meats cocktail. So we made togas and
headdresses out of bed sheets.
Genius. It was oceans 11 all over again staring Caesar and
Spartacus.
Sparta! HOO HAAA!
I unplug the television, whod have thought? Problem
solved.
We infiltrate some storage closet. And find some
replacement furniture.
The one advantage of staying in hotels with pubic hair
embedded in the roof is they also have lacklustre security
surveillance systems.
We found the matching lamp shade. Check.
In the corridor we found a matching phone, although we
had to use a paperclip to remove the security clasp attached.
Check.
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I love it.
So it was a couple of months ago that all my closest and
most reckless friends had been summoned to the Darth
Hotel.
Matters were bad enough to begin with but like that
movie the great escape the hotel had agreed to house the
best of the debaucherous best. A dream team of antiharmony concentrated under one roof.
I was compelled to live in alignment with the man I am
supposed to be and gather the troops. It took a brave soul to
do this because it would be that brave soul that shouldered
the consequences.
I am brave like a chauvinist wearing a make me my dinner
shirt at a Germaine Greer rally.
But I couldnt resist the urge, someone had to step up and I
am the nuRSD.
We were euphoric enough to begin with after a successful
filming. I had spent the week seeing how many girls I could
close from five dates and had enough of small talk and
looked forward to again communicating in grunts.
The ignition of the fateful chain of events was at the
downstairs bar where we all gathered. I was upstairs trying
on some cool clothes one of my colleges generously
donated to me while my phone was buzzing out of my
pocket with requests from several different guys asking me
to join them for the drinks they had already bought me.
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I was with him the other week in the Upper Mid West when,
in an angelic voice, he dropped this line on an Ivory
schooled businesswoman in a silent and populated elevator:
My my, arent you just an adorable little kittenI would
just love to fuck you up the ass behind a dumpster like the
crack whore you are.
Abercrombie were hysterical and urinated involuntarily a
little bit.
So Derrick was there that night. Derrick aint no validation
seeker, hes a guy who knows what he wants and generates
the resources to make it happen. He likes to be in the
company of guys who have and teach great game.
He only fucks the hottest girls.
I was sitting nearby him giggling to myself when he
noticed my apparently psychosomatic infliction. He
questioned what was wrong.
I motioned to the David Copperfield show and he noticed
the babe.
He said it was a disgusting display of homosexuality and
that the girl needed some real game. He stopped and ran the
cogs in his head for a moment and said he needed me to
wing him, because I am the best.
I looked at the wing target and adamantly said no way.
This woman looked like the mummified version of
Cleopatra. She was anno- ancient Egyptian trash dressed in
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Each car we hit had a different car alarm, after only a few
minutes we had an orchestra of electronic whining and
screeching piercing the night.
It was fire in the crypt.
I contemplated the notion of fingerprint recognition on a
disembowelled apple and concluded the fun was worth the
risk. I re-concluded that customs had fingerprinted me days
before. I summarised that I am invincible so it wouldnt
really matter. Then I looked at a photo of myself in my
phone and felt good.
I was in the middle of telling one of the brave crew that I
was the best apple thrower when we heard a foreign voice
yell with fury in the crypt WHAT ARE YOU DOING UP
HERE!
Yes, to our terror this fiend had an Agent Smith ear piece.
He came from some service elevator, so we ran back down
the fire escape to the room that was to become known as
ground central. I was under the misconceived perception
that ground central was booked without a credit card.
I also thought I was invincible.
Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. I felt like I was
winning up until that point in time.
Motivated by terror we descended down the fire escape and
to our surprise we came across Copperfield from earlier on
in the night. He was crying something about she was my
girl.
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Great success!
There are some power cords and stuff that are broken and
an alarm going off but its ok.
I detach the computer thing from the fridge and toss it away.
Like the discovery of the Holy Grail light pours out of the
fridge and we are free to revel in the spoils. Vodka, rum,
whisky, its all there. At last I feel some relief that I am
back on task and on my way to helping Derrick.
We need to get out of the room fast. Smith is on the way as
we speak probably with law enforcement. I write a note on
the window for him with soap that I cant publish here.
Analysis of my handwriting would suggest that I am very
intelligent but slightly whimsical.
With the contents of the minibar in our possession we go
back to the roof where we can escape down one of any of
the six fire escapes and return to any room. We are running
hard. We have one room unbeknownst to the hotel
administration that came to be referred to as higher
ground. This was the room with the broken toilet. It was in
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Oh sorry sir, were looking for some guys who have been
trespassing on the roof and stealing cars
Oh fuck, Grand Theft Auto, I think.
Ryan continues.
Oh! We saw those guys! Why the fuck did you let these
criminals into the hotel, arent you supposed to be
security?!They told us not to say they we saw them, they
just went that way, he was wearing at hat.
I make note to give Ryan a blowjob later.
Oh sorry sir, we thought they were guests, we are taking
care of that right away, thanks for your assistance!
And they run off down the corridor. At this point I am
sweating bullets and shitting bricks. Grand Theft Auto!?
Must have concluded that because of the car alarms. This
shit was getting serious. I got a message tone meaning I got
a text from Derrick.
Once the security guys are out of sight we quicken our pace.
But moments later we hear running coming from the
direction the Agent Smiths had just left in.
HEY WAIT-A-MINNIT! WHO ARE YOU GUYS!
OH FUCK.
BAIL. Agent smiths come charging back
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blurred vision
and unstifled intentions, the Heineken would help to
completely delete my vision if I was going to do this.
Derricks girl was wearing little bang shorts now and he
had obviously already been fooling around with her. She
was smoking fucking hot in her more comfortable room
attire. I was definitely going to come through and take this
one for the team for the good of his blood sausage.
Little hottie was friendly and introduced me to her mom
who was very drunk in her bed. I dry wretched again at the
sight of her but stayed strong. Dale said to just talk to her
and occupy her while he closed his girl over counter in the
bathroom. Im sure I could manage that, I liked the idea of
not having to fornicate the scarecrow.
With Derrick and his girl behind closed doors in the
bathroom I was left with the woman who had discovered I
had an accent. On hearing her talk I was reminded of the
game show contestants on the Jerry Springer Show that I
had watched back in Australia. Thats what I was dealing
with.
For no apparent reason she was under the impression that
she was Gods gift to men. Maybe she once was but she
certainly wasnt now. She began to racially insult me and
my nationality. Bitch. At first I thought it was kind of cute,
but I soon realised it was just trashy drunk talk from an
idiot.
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The woman could barely move, she was lying under the
covers still in her Mary-Kate Olsen uniform. She didnt
relent with the cultural insults and targeted the late Steve
Irwin. What the fuck was this blasphemy?!
Her speech was merely a drunken slur and her eyes were
kinda rolling around a lot. Alex hatched a plot.
of my plot. All the while she was running her mouth about
how I was welcome to spend the night but not sleep with
her and that the girls my age didnt know their socks from
their box.
With Derrick in the bathroom I picked up the cooler with
the beer. I turned on the TV to drown out the Springer-Slur
coming from the MIWLF. I turned out the lights and last I
heard were squeals and grunts coming from the bathroom.
Wingman deluxe strikes again, Derrick closed playgirl,
Alex avoided Agent Smith wrath and collected the pot of
gold (Heineken) at the end of the rainbow.
I make my way to the elevator I must say I felt pretty
fucking pleased with myself. I was breathing easy apart
from the hefty weight of my bounty.
Recklessly I forgot to press my floor number in the elevator
and wound up in the lobby.
FUCK!
From the elevator I could see the same security guards and
the valet guys whom we had narrowly missed in the
corridor earlier that night. In my ingenious blind enough to
wing hoe state I decided I needed to hide and did this by
running into the lobby bathroom. Could have just closed
the elevator doors and gone upstairs. Nope. I panicked.
Cowering in the lobby cubicle at three am I feared my
imminent capture and the confiscation of my liberty.
What was I going to do?! I only know what happened next
in light of what I discovered the next morning.
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The next day I went down to lunch and found all the crew
from the night before. I was met with a heros welcome.
I didnt remember much from the night before but as the
others retold the stories to my disbelief I slowly pieced
things back together.
The evidence of the damage itself and the photos and
videos of me in action were proof enough. My blood ran
cold. It was time to get busy and clean some shit up.
I managed to fix all the superficial things, but there was
some hardcore structural damage that cost me badly. Ie,
broken fridge, something about apples and cars.
The repercussions of this was a fine so hefty that when I
arrived in Europe a few days later I couldnt afford to buy
the warm clothes I needed which really stung in a
Scandinavian December.
If there was a moral to these stories let it be this. Roll this
dice and trust yourself. Dont set out with malicious
intentions, I never do, but I do like to mix things up a little.
Although you do have to take responsibility for your
actions every time you throw down some self assurance
and some unpredictability something will come of it.
There are a lot of guys out there who forget the value of the
internal centeredness that comes from experience in
turbulent situations. The indifference you get to the game
and social interactions themself when you have been
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And as shit as that reality was its all I had ever known.
Who knew what might happen if I took a risk or took
responsibility?
When I went to learn game I thought it would be possible
to be good with girls operating out of this chode reality.
While I did deliver some good lines and got my acting
good enough to star in an American Sit-Com I was never
got the results I knew I should.
But I couldnt figure out why.
Tim says there are four types of guys in the world.
Unless youre the naturally attractive guy you are never
going to get girls and you will literally endure your dating
life banging your head against the wall and your dick
against your hand. Or an internet fleshlight which I hear
goes pretty good.
We all hear the saying coming from the right place. What
this means is that youre operating from the reality that you
are natural sexworthy guy, in alignment with your
biological nature.
If you are reading this I can pretty much guarantee that you
are coming from a place other than your naturally attractive
sex inspiring self. You might be an entertainer chode or just
a tolerable nice guy, perhaps even a creepy fuck that
watches the little mermaid while you shave you legs.
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If you have ever met a five year old you have met a
naturally attractive guy. If you have ever met a guy alcohol
buzzed enough to be carefree but still coherent you have
met a naturally attractive guy.
In the case of the five year old, Ill use my little cousin for
an example; he is acting through his own intentions
because he is not yet old enough to be compromised by
social conditioning. In the case of the buzzed adult the
alcohol has inhibited the part of his brain that applies social
conditioning filters to his emotional desires. Of course if
you get too buzzed drunk you will become sloppy and
desperate.
The point is the manual (your blueprint) to this process is
embedded in your subconscious, but you have constructed
chode ego over it during you upbringing and socially
conditioned mapping of your reality. Chode ego is
continually reinforced by repeated disciplinary slaps on the
hand when you execute authentic masculine behaviour.
Interestingly, these disciplinary actions are only validated if
you succumb to them. If you do not, and you are not
breaking any laws it becomes a case of that just who he is
or that just what he does and your behaviour becomes
justifiable to those around you.
Think Stifler from American Pie or James Bond, both the
characters were written with the intentions of compelling
female audiences with the presentation of a man who is
truly coming from the place of natural authenticity and
behaving in accordance with his own intentions.
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around them. They are put in place. They are really giving
everyone else responsibility for who they are and taking
zero responsibility for themself. So to question that reality
and begin to take any responsibility for their own self is a
massive terrifying daunting unknown.
Because they gave all the responsibility away to other
people to define who they are, when they go to move to a
new reality they have little to no recollection of what it
means to take any responsibility for their own life.
In cases like this they consciously think that they would
like to make a change but when they begin to take some
responsibility the fact is quickly shoved in their face that
they really have no idea of who they are and like a hermit
crab quickly return to what they knew back in the chode
comfort zone.
However, it is also in the cases of the biggest chode egos
that the transformation is so rewarding and contrasting.
One example of this is Tylers story. The effort to push into
that new reality was a long and exhaustive one, but once
the jump was made and the indifference threshold reached
it required so much more anxiety than that of others
journeys that in his new reality he was a lot much more
indifferent than everyone else. This gave rise to the best
results.
I can say from experience this is true of most of the coaches.
The more emotional leverage you have the better you are
inspired to become.
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Imagine you are born into a web and you are confined to
live within the rules and bounds of it. Everything you do,
ever actions you take is based on the web. As far as you
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know, without the web you will die. You dont know if you
can live without it as it makes up the very fabric of your
existence. You exist relative to it, and because it controls
you you live in a constant state of anxiety.
Then one day something happens and a little punkass kid
moves nearby and you can see him killing other spiders
around you with insect repellent (metaphor for leverage).
You know that you are going to have to take responsibility
for this and take some action otherwise you might die
(metaphor for not passing on your genes).
As the punk ass kid approaches you are scared but you
dont move because you dont know what else to do. He
starts punching holes in the joins in your web (metaphor for
destroying pillars of your existing reality).
With the destruction of each joint of your web (reality)
your web becomes weaker and your anxiety increases.
Your web (old reality) is becoming weaker and weaker;
you have never felt more scared and anxious in all your life.
The web is now a fragment of what it used to be.
Something you believe in and trusted no longer holds you
in place. You have no choice but to take responsibility if
you want to live.
You let go of the web (external pillars holding you in
place) and jump, trusting that where ever you land you will
be better than a certain fate of death. This trust is born
simply of necessity; at this point you no longer have a
choice. As you sail through the air wondering where you
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will land you realise that if you can get through this you
can get through anything. Then with a light spider-thud you
land.
When you stand up you feel overcome by a sense of
empowerment. Its as though you are invincible. You made
it through the toughest ordeal of your life. Sure you have no
reality. But you can exist without it.
Then by nature, you realise you can spin whatever reality
you want by pulling it literally out of your ass. You realise
how cool this is and look around for the best place to spin
your new reality. It occurs to you that the new reality you
spin will just be a celebration of you as opposed to
something you are dependent upon. You can spin your
reality however you want and you dont even care if it falls
down because you can just spin another one out of your ass.
When before you were in a reality to not lose, now you can
spin a reality to win for no other reason than its a
celebration of your ability to spin your own reality. In fact,
you can make a reality so strong that you can invite other
sexy ass spiders to come for sleepovers and pillow fights.
You spin your web/reality and at first it doesnt feel quite
like home and you will even think longing back to the old
web, but soon you make it your own. You have defined
your world and when before you didnt think you deserved
anything better than what you were served in life you
realise that you are deserving of what you make for
yourself. There is no reason why you wouldnt be
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Wednesday, July 23rd, 2008
Natural Attraction; a fragmented description, Self
Esteem and Ego, Alpha male beta male graduation,
emotional spikes and congruence tests.
First let me say that this article is a derivative of the
Blueprint. Tyler is genius and the RSD staff that inspired
the ideas are phenomenal and fun people. This article is an
evolution of and a backwards engineered collection of ideas
that will help you learn how to become an attractive guy.
Define attraction and solve the game.
The notion of attraction is a confusing and vague principle
in the seduction community and for the most part is
massively misunderstood. This is obviously a concern as
learning to be attractive is important causality to having
women in your life.
This article aims to define attraction in the context of the
game and help you to become an attractive guy by
eliminating behaviours and mindsets that hold you back
from being attractive. This article aims to teach you things
to do that will create a means to demonstrate your innate
natural attraction.
Let me start by making it clear that attraction is not actually
something that you can actively do. It is only something
that you can be. That said, you can be a certain way that
INSPIRES attraction in every woman.
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In the game, the way you are is something you can take
control of. The other parts are the ways you express and
celebrate yourself that allow attraction to be conducted
from you to the girl.
The notion of attraction itself isnt love, affection, sex or
status. Most accurately natural attraction is reproduction
value.
Its commonly misunderstood that you can deploy specific
behaviours to ensure a girl will be attracted to you. The
behaviour itself is irrelevant unless it is coming from the
right place. Attraction is not something you can inject into
the girl. You have to give her space and opportunity to
assign the trait of attraction to you in the emotional centres
of her mind and her consciousness.
A lot of guys have absolutely no awareness of this idea.
They continue to think that the longer and more intense
their routine stack is the more lethal their dose of attraction
is going to be for the girl. If you go over the top and divert
from your own natural rhythm you will find your actions
will stifle the girls opportunity to assign attraction to you
in her mind.
That said, it is fair and true to assume that as long as you
are coming from a naturally masculine place internally, you
are hygienic and you are not socially miscalibrated, the girl
will find you potentially attractive until you prove yourself
otherwise. By that same principle, usually girls will be cool
with a guy to begin with until he talks himself into a hole.
Instead of just being cool and unreactive in a lot of socially
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Who you are is male and with that comes biological natural
default settings. If you live in alignment with your
biological self you will be in alignment with your natural
self. This purely natural self can be seen in pre socially
conditioned kids, buzzed drunk guys, guys dealing with girl
from other languages were social conditioning doesnt have
common language to be communicated in, born naturals or
guys nimbusing.
I realised that some of the skills I used to teach on
bootcamp would simply naturally arise from guys when
they were unstifled, instate or in one of the conditions
conductive to naturally attractive behaviour above. These
behavioural traits consistently inspired a phenomenal
attraction.
These same behavioural traits are what all instructors have
in common even though they are seemingly very different
guys.
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Chode ego = bad feelings. You feel bad, the girl feels bad
and your unattractive.
The only way to be out of state is if your chode ego is
compromised. If you have no ego to diminish you cant go
into a negative level of state. No one can literally get the
better of you because nothing external composes who you
are. You are what you naturally are, you consciously decide
how you want to celebrate yourself.
This moment by moment celebration and definition of the
self is fleeting. An ego can only be constructed if you
reference the past and derive an ego bases sense of self
from that. Or, you identify with a projected future self and
derive an ego based sense of self from that.
Ego is to displace responsibility for your reality onto
external sources and derive irrational expectations from the
world around you. For example: if you have the Im a guy
who gets girls ego youll expect them to just show up on
your doorstep, and you cease to take responsibility for girl
actually showing up at your doorstep.
The guy who knows who he is realises that he is no better
or no worse than any other man, he was born just the same
as every other guy. He has no ego, no expectations of
himself and no expectations of the external world around
him. Hes the type of guy who thinks that if somethings
going to be done right then I gotta do it myself. The buck
stops with him.
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When you start a night or set with the attitude that every
man starts equal, that I have to take responsibility if I want
this to happen you go in with no ego, only self esteem.
You are playing to win, not to avoid losing. It then
becomes a fun game and any progress you make is a bonus
and a thrill. Youre unapologetic about your well
intentioned actions.
Picking up girls becomes a fun game again!
Alarmingly for so many guys in the community pick up
isnt about having fun but rather proving to other guys how
awesome they are and getting reputation and social
validation for their mad skillz.
Having fun in field is so much more sustainable than
battling to defend your Im good with girls ego. In most
cases if you go out with this ego it will be compromised
and it will leave you feeling shit and out of state anyway. If
you feel shit, the girls will feel shit.
The golden rule of natural game is whatever you feel, she
feels. If youre having fun with pickup, shell be having
fun with the pickup. After all, its just a game. Shes not
unhappy because youre not apologetic for your natural
preset attitude of responsibility for picking up on the girl.
Why would you be?
Its how you were designed naturally as a man. She
understands that and cant fault you for it.
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second guessing the things they say and dont trust in their
natural faculties in the present.
If you give a girl the option shes going to go out of her
way to perceive you they way she hopes you to be. This is
the nature of looking for something attractive.
In an effort to make the transition from the average socially
conditioned guy to the naturally attractive sexworthy guy it
can certainly be useful to take on the actions of the
sexworthy guy and do things consciously that a natural
would do unconsciously(naturally) to begin to realign your
internal compass with your natural state.
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Take aways
Extreme multiple threading
Elastic snap back
Game and gimmicks
Sexual innuendo
Shock and awe
Us versus the world conspiracies
Plot lines
Emotional rapport
Beating congruence tests
Physical communication and leading
Frame controlling
Using the word babe
Verbal rhythm
Emotional content of your language
Eye contact and intensity
Story telling style.
Many others
To mimic the attractive actions of a naturally attractive guy
is to practise the habits that are suppressed within you. In
the beginning you will come across as though you are
trying to be cooler than you really are, which is a form of
ego. The cooler actions will be incongruent with the not so
cool socially conditioned chode ego place you are coming
from internally.
Usually when making the transition from socially
conditioned beta male to naturally attractive alpha male the
execution of words and actions can seem jolty and forced.
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Remember though, the girls are hoping that you will pass
the test because they are on the lookout for a man of value
who is rare.
When you do get these tests it is a golden opportunity to
shed the beta reality and come into closer congruence with
the alpha reality. Pass the test and you get closer to aligning
your actions with the alpha born inside of you. Fail the test
and you confirm the chode socially conditioned beta reality.
Passing tests at first might require some conscious
recognition and decision making, but with each successful
execution you get closer to mastering natural game and
coming back into alignment with your natural self.
Therefore, passing a congruence test is a natural game
DHV. You are presented with an opportunity to
demonstrate that you are either alpha or beta. Pass it and
DHV is communicated. Fail it and DLV is communicated.
In classic game DHVs were a specific thing you would do
in order to show a girl that youre a special guy to
compensate for the fact that you dont feel you are good
enough for the girl to begin with.
Nowadays you dont need to especially deploy a DHV
because you live and talk to girls under the premise and
frame that you have everything that you will ever need to
be attractive just as you are because you know what it
means to man the fuck up.
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If there is any doubt that you are a high value guy she will
try to call you on things to quickly figure out what is going
on. These tests provide your opportunity to show your
value. You will be unreactive to the girls and their tests and
as a result they will react to you.
50% of natural game is player in congruence tests.
When you get really good at the unreativeness of natural
game you can deliberately call girls mingers and go for
make outs wearing stupid hats in an effort to get the girl to
immediately test you. In giving her a reason to test you it
provides an opportunity to very quickly and overtly
demonstrate what sort of guy you are and as a result you
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When you have these realisations you realise that you are
enough when you live in alignment with your natural self.
You dont give a fuck what anyone thinks of you just as
much as you are unapologetic for the things that you do
because you dont have bad intentions. Sometimes people
may misinterpret that you have bad intentions but you hold
your frame until they understand.
When a naturally attractive guy interacts with girls it is
usually a very predictable pattern.
1.Firstly, the self is always coming through, the set is
receptive because high value will be communicated before
he even approaches.
2.Tests are given by the girls to ensure that the behaviours
they are seeing are in alignment with the core of the guy,
his nature.
3. You freely express yourself and inspire emotional spikes.
Attraction is a function of your ability to put your
personality on the line (Tim, 2005 www.naturaltim.com).
4. The set will hook because you are offering value,
demonstrating core confidence, your unreactive to tests and
asserting yourself.
5. The girl becomes aroused and attracted to you by your
freely expressing yourself, moving things forward and
dealing with tests.
A typical girl response to a naturally attractive guy will be
stifled and nervous behaviour in the same way as an
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Footnote1.
More accurately a natural guy is a closer first and figures
out which girl is the one most worth spending his time with
after time spent seeing her as opposed to dating her.
Because he has no ego he doesnt discriminate when it
comes to closing the deal. The more he closes, the more
indifferent he is and the higher value his value becomes.
High value plus a range of emotions equals attraction.
If you are a cool guy she will want to talk to you, if you
know who you are and are on your path and have access to
your infinite well you will make the vagina wet.
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A high value guys knows that because he is purely his
natural self he CANT NOT be attractive in the same way
that a bikini model cant not be attractive to guys. He
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However, if you do know who you are, inside and out, you
will never flinch and react to the girl, you will never lose
state and will always have core confidence. If you are a
good source of state for the girl, you will have her seeking
value, and reacting to you. You will be considered higher
value than the girls, because you know who you are more
than they know who they are, and will be naturally
attractive to every girl that you meet. Often times, they will
feel attraction for you before you even approach.
Like I said, and its important that I repeat this, most guys
do give off an initally attractive vibe, because they are, in
actuality, COOL GUYS! But, when they get into set they
pretend to be something different that what they naturally
are, causing them to fuck things up for themselves. This
occurs because they are under the misguided illusion that
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Basically, all the things listed above point to the traits that
define you naturally as a man. The only reason why you
wouldnt behave like the man you naturally are is if you are
socially conditioned. When you are socially conditioned,
your natural behaviours as a man are suppressed, and the
behaviours you do express through the filter of chode ego
are not attractive.
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Thats why when you go in set and you are totally present,
or on, you will be naturally inclined to move things
forward, which helps the pickup. Also, when you are in a
natural headspace, you will be inclined to instinctively call
out people who say silly things and tease them playfully.
When you are in a natural headspace the exposure of the
girl to a full range of emotions will take care of itself.
When you are present, you dont go out of your way to
impress the girl, and you will simultaneously be carefree
about making bad impressions on people around you.
Expression is more important than impression. As soon as
she realises that you dont care if you make mistakes (in
contrast to classical pick up theory) she will see that you
are fully unstifled. She will know that you have no ego, and
are intrinsically of high value because you hold yourself in
higher opinion than anyone else. Girls will be attracted to
you and other, more stifled guys, will look up to you and
buy you drinks.
When present, everything is simplified. As Tim said in
Transformations, the only thoughts that will enter your
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headspace are girl hot girl get hot girl. Natural game
is a minimalist discipline. This simplicity of natural game,
and the carefree mindsets that drive it, make it a fun way to
go about things. You feel good, and if you follow the
golden rule of natural game, the girl will feel good.
(By the way, did you ever hear or experience the saying:
time flies when youre having fun? Actually, its the
other way around, you have fun when times flies. You have
fun because you are so in the moment that you forget about
the abstract notion of time, and in your default, unstifled
and outside your-head-state, you feel great. They old saying
is true, but the causality is actually inverted.)
When you are present, you will be fully dialed into your
empathy, and you will be aware of how people are reacting
to you, and very importantly, respond smoothly instead of
reacting and losing value.
Remember, you are responsive, not reactive.
While acting freely and unstifled, you will have the
presence of mind to change up what you are doing to
remain in a unreactive and leading frame, where you are
the one who dictates the energies and rhythms of the
interaction.
Its possible that you might act in unstifled ways that
offend, annoy or bore others. But, peoples opinions of
everything are subjective and they could interpret what you
do in any way. If, for any reason, what you do comes off as
socially miscalibrated, but still authentic, it will generate a
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butting heads with those who dont buy into your sense of
self. You will distance yourself from people who dont see
you the way you want them to see you, because it will
shake your reality and weaken your sense of self.
Imagine, conceptually, that all you have is a physically
entity, depicted here simply as a circle.
onto you. One the one hand, you go out of your way to seek
validation in conversations when you meet new people, and
simultaneously, stop taking risks because you dont want to
be de-validated.
The ego is depicted here as the outer circle between you
and the world. As you can see, you are always pinging with
your ego and trying to hold it in place. It is a negative
process that puts you in your head.
There are numerous, massive problems with ego in pickup.
Firstly, as you can see in the graph, you go through the
world stifled and instantly communicate to others that you
live in reaction to the world around you. This is reactive,
lower value and unattractive.
Secondly, if for whatever reason your ego and falsely
projected sense of self is questioned, or proved to be less
that you are trying to project, your entire sense of self
comes crashing down and you feel terrible, even suicidal.
Once again, this is an abstract concept, but let me use some
famous people as an example. Think about it in terms of the
ego graphic.
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himself. When you talk to a really cool guy and give him
props, he wont be overly enthused by it, because your
opinion of him will never hold more weight than his
opinion of him; my mentor, Tyler, is a great example of
this. Examples of performers in the entertainment world are
Robbie Williams and Bono from U2.
When you set out to become a guy who is good with girls,
you think you are out to learn to become something that
you currently are not. To think that you need to learn to be
naturally attractive is to deny that you were attractive in the
first place. As I said above, learning natural game is a
deductive process of surrendering and letting go.
As you start in the game, and begin to get results, you
change up the chode ego with the Im good with girls
ego; you erroneously derive your sense of self from
different forms of feedback you get instead of deriving
your sense of self from what you actually are. You go to
the clubs and dont push the interactions forward because
you are fatally afraid of de-validation, and when you talk to
girls you arent out to have fun, you are playing to not lose.
A lot of guys in the game have this experience after some
initial good results and experiences. What makes matters
worse is once you think you have externally achieved a
sense of self, or ego of Im good with girls, when you do
actually approach girls all you do is suck value out of them
in a quest to confirm that youre STILL good with girls.
The most dangerous and hazardous downfall of having an
ego in the game is your fluctuating state and lack of
consistency.
The golden rule of natural game is whatever you feel, she
feels. If you feel bad because you are having a bad night
and your sense of self isnt being validated, you feel
absolutely terrible. If you dont do as well that night as you
have done in the past, you hate yourself. The result is girls
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If you dont know who you are, someone else will define it
for you, or at least in conjunction with your desired
projection of yourself. If you have a weak idea of who you
are, you will be easily swayed by someone with a strong
reality projecting an identity onto you. With external
projection will come a compromise of state and self esteem.
Even if you have a fairly strong sense of self, you are still
at the mercy of others projecting onto you. The goal is to
have an internally defined sense of self. Only then will you
achieve the precious game traits of unreactiveness,
centeredness, self esteem, state and very importantly, you
will never have negative state.
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be best with you because you know who you are and can
offer more value than any other guy can. You take
responsibility and realize that you are doing the right thing
for the both of you.
When you take responsibility of your reality, your potential
can overwhelm and scare you more than your failures will.
Basically, you become the equivalent to what a model hot
girl is to a chode guy, when you come into congruence with
what you are. All of a sudden, you get treated a lot better
by everyone around you.
The thing is, though, that guys in congruence with what
they are as men are a lot rarer than model hot girls. Guys in
the world who were born alpha are usually married or have
girlfriends pretty early in life, because the girls go crazy
over him and pin him down quickly. If you are a student of
natural game you find yourself in a reality where, to quote
Jeffy, you have the sex drive of a man, but the options of a
woman.
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Even when you do make the shift, and identify simply with
what you are, it requires will power and continual action to
retain that internal centeredness. Continual action will
prevent you from letting external influences seep back in
and alter your perception of who and what you are.
Now, know this:
WHO YOU ARE, ON A PHYSICAL LEVEL, IS WHAT
YOU ARE. WHAT YOU ARE IS A MAN, AND, AS A
MAN, YOU ARE PRESENT, POSITIVIELY
DOMINANT AND SOMEONE WHO TAKES ACTION.
ANYTHING LESS IS A CHODE EGO.
Look at the two graphs below. The first shows your life
cycle from birth, through social conditioning to beta chode,
and then going full circle, self actualising and re-aligning
with your natural self as a man. As you can see, there are
four types of men in the world. Only the sex worthy guy is
in alignment with his natural self as a man. You are born
that way and you will re-align with your natural self when
you learn to drop your ego and find your natural self as a
man. It could be called manning down and letting go.
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like this, your reality will always be strong and will remain
strong, even in changing and unpredictable situations.
Self esteem, and congruence with what you are, as a man,
is mandatory pre-requisite for a strong reality. A strong and
adaptable reality is essential to core confidence and having
people react to you in all situations. When people react to
you, you are high value and they experience emotional
spikes and arousal when they interact with you.
The real social dynamics instructors, who taught and
mentored me, are examples of guys with core confidence
and self defined and adaptable realities. Last week, I spent
the week in Hawaii with Tim, Tyler, Jeffy and Saad.
Watching these guys confirmed everything I am reporting
here.
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In this day and age, the natural attraction triggers are the
same as those evolutionarily derived, and are a result of
millions of years of natural selection.
With this in mind, men in congruence with what they are
will be attractive to women.
A socially conditioned woman might be one who is busy
trying to control everyone or acting bitchy. On a more
physiological level, social conditioning for women can
result in a severe compromise of self esteem, and
sometimes women will eat to compensate for that. Women
in bad physical shape are unattractive. In cave-days things
like obesity would have been rare, because food was far
from abundant.
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Nurture
The term nurture refers to your physical bodys experience
in the world. Your nature is your physical self. Who you
are a combination of what you are (Nature) and what you
do (Nurture).
A lot of people erroneously think that the things they do in
the world constitutes who or what they are. When they
make this association and harbour this mindset, they
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But, if you make the realisation that the things that you do
are just expressions of your natural male self, then you
never diminish your natural sense of self, your masculinity,
your self esteem or state.
If you see yourself in terms of what you are, combined with
what you do, then everything you do comes from a place of
congruence with your natural self.
You could be a basketball player, a pick up artist, a doctor
or a hippy, but you still retain your natural self, which is
naturally attractive. All the things you do are a function of
you being a man, and nothing more than a celebration and
implementation of what you are.
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Guys who know who they are dont care how you are
received, or about the impression they make on others; they
are only interested in what they can control.
This is an expression of their natural self.
Following the model of who you are, being a combination
of what you are and what you do with yourself, you can
take on different personalities in different situations, dress
differently, transform yourself over and over, but still be
attractive. Because, in each situation, the variable of you as
a man doesnt alter. Everything, as different as it may be,
will work because it comes from a place of natural male
strength.
Tyler talks about dynamic nature of your existence in his
blog.
(http://realsocialdynamics.blogspot.com/2007/11/dynamicnature-of-your-existence.html). Who you are, over the
course of your life, can take on many forms of expression,
but as long as you are congruent with your nature, as a man,
its all good. If you compromise your natural sense of self,
you begin to get headaches, a weakened reality and begin
to suck with girls.
Identity, personas, and the different roles you play all come
from a place of strength when you know what you are.
They are all accurate.
It only ceases to be true if you perceive what you do
compensates for what you are.
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There are a lot of different men out there, in the world, who
are attractive. The commonalities between them are the fact
that they are in congruence with what they are as men. But
it is there differing experiences in life, which make them
unique.
Everyone has a different story, a different sense of humour,
different goals and they decorate themselves in different
ways, and this is why women can be attracted to different
types of men. The thing that makes them attractive is that
they dont identify with that they do. They identify with
what they are, they know themselves more than the women
knows herself, and as a result, she reacts to him and is
aroused by the emotional spike ripples that come from him.
Youre the same as every other man, it is only how you
apply yourself, and the way you behave that makes you
attractive. To identify with what you have done is to form
an ego, and to cease actively behaving in the ways that are
congruent to you as a man. You become unattractive
because you think you have the game won, purely on your
past experiences.
As a man you will feel unfulfilled when you stop taking
action, and the women around you will not be attracted to
you, because you will seek validation of what you
erroneously think you are. You will cease to continue to
grow by discontinuing taking actions.
As a student of natural game, seek out the examples of the
RSD coaches on DVD, or attend a bootcamp, to learn
firsthand from guys who get it.
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Ryan said, Its not the right action because its the correct
thing to do in the situation, its the correct thing to do
because you are the one doing it. I know what to do
because I am the game.
When you know who you are, you will know what to do.
Conclusion
Who you are is a combination of what you are and what
you do.
I have figured out what you are, and what it means to be a
man, by looking at examples of how men behave when
they are not socially conditioned, and have tested this
theory with hundreds of students, myself and profiling
other instructors over the last two years.
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I learned that who you are is not what you do, and that to
identify with what you do, or what is projected onto you, is
erroneous and gives you a weak reality.
I learned that when you discontinue to identify with what
you do, when external factors dont contribute to your
sense of self, you MAN DOWN and identify with what you
are naturally.
I LEARNED THAT WHAT YOU ARE, NATURALLY,
CANNOT BE TAKEN AWAY FROM YOU!
I LEARNED THAT YOU ARE NOT YOUR ACTIONS.
STATE IS A FUNCTION OF YOUR SENSE OF SELF.
WHAT YOU ARE CANNOT BE CHANGED AND
YOUR STATE CANNOT BE TAKEN AWAY FROM
YOU!
WHEN YOUR SENSE OF SELF IS WHAT YOU ARE,
AND YOU LIVE IN CONGRUENCE WITH WHAT
THIS, YOU NEVER HAVE NEGATIVE STATE OR
SUPRESSED SELF ESTEEM!
What you identify with what you are, you always feel good
about being a man. When you feel good, the girls you
interact with feel good!
When you understand who you are, you are always in state.
The more you express yourself, the higher state you are in.
More state youre in, the more attractive you are.
Unbreakable state is the key to good natural game. Its like
you cant not have ten out of ten game.
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When you know who you are, you have core confidence
because you define your reality.
When you know who you are, you are assertive, because
you are congruent with yourself as a man and take
responsibility for the situations you are in.
When you know who you are, you are unreactive, because
you know who you are more than anyone else knows who
they are.
When you know who you are, you offer value because
everything you do is simply an expression of your core
natural self. You have no ego and you take no value. Just
by taking action you offer value to the world.
I learned that by nature, you cant escape that you are a
man, and to try and escape it is to pretend to be a chode. I
learned that by nurture, everyone has their own story, and
can take any range of interchangeable forms but still be
attractive.
I realised that the advice be yourself is all you will ever
need to be attractive, as long as you know what it means to
be yourself. I realised that the reason why love happens
when youre not looking for it is because, when you are
being yourself, you are doing all the right things that make
you attractive.
You are MANNED DOWN.
I learned that when freed of the burden of ego, EVERY
MAN STARTS EQUAL. If you want to be a special
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You are a man, and from that physical platform, you realise
the potential to achieve whatever you wish.
This is why you CANT NOT be attractive.
Alexander~
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CHAPTER IX
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Zeitgeist.
Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008
Welcome back.
SUMANOVA has begun. The summer of mixed emotions
is dead and buried, and RSD is about to pop a can of
spinach before growing beyond recognition.
Ill be in the thick of things. Ryan (www.ryanforreal.com)
will play an integral part along with the stars of Tyler, Jeffy,
Tim, Papa(!), Ozzie and Nathan.
In recent times you have seen longer posts from me. These
are my first tentative efforts to expand on the established
knowledge in the community. Many more works of similar
length and profundity are on the brink of being published.
RSD: On the front line of the ongoing war against social
conditioning.
I have a thirty hour flight back to Australia that Im about
to board, but I want to leave you with something to chew
on.
I found out about this from a jaded American backpacker
on a hiatus from his homeland. I found it to be just as
profound as The Blueprint.
It centers around social conditioning, the battle of self
esteem and ego, and the power of now.
Be warned: its very controversial.
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think about how I was going to get this girl, make her
happy and complete myself.
More years passed. My internal torment spanned almost
half an adolescent decade. Things worsened. I would drunk
dial when I was drinking alone. I spent time with and later
fucked her friend to get to her. She would stay in contact
with me out of sympathy. Close enough to dangle the carrot
within perceivable reach, but far enough that every time I
gestured towards it, the deeper the trench would grow
between her and I.
At the time of my senior formal, though by this stage I had
began to form some friends, I had only one choice as to
who I wanted to take with me on my night of nights. The
Australian version to the Prom.
There was even a massive after party for couples to go to
afterwards. I wasnt invited.
I extended the invitation to her. To which she neither said
yes or no. After all that she and I had been through we had
grown close in a way. We had a sense of rapport with each
other that wed formed with no one else. She wanted to get
closer, but my insane behaviour would continue to drive
her away.
While others in my grade were forming tables to the school
formal and organising their partners limousines I had
neither a table of people to sit with nor did I have a date to
get a limo for. With only a few weeks to my formal the
other girls I knew had already been invited. Now I was
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A few weeks later I was out. I had lost the people I had
gone out with and found myself alone and drunk to the
point of leglessness. I decided to banish myself form the
bar and get a taxi home.
The driver had a turban. On the drive home I addressed him
racially in my state of absent mindedness. He kicked the
shit out of me in the passenger seat then opened the door
and kicked me to the curb.
Left to walk I barely remember getting home. The next day
I found I had texted and rang abusing the girl, her parents
and her friends. What I communicated to those involved
was that the girl was a whore and I told her parents that she
was sexually diseased. Told her friends they were fuckwits
and that I manipulated and fucked them to get to the girl.
Needless to say I regretted it. But it was the final stake in
the heart that was any chance I would ever have to talk to
her again. Years later, I would set up two of the girls
friends with two of the guys I played football with.
At that time the girls proceeded to tell my male colleagues
all about what happened in my hideous past. They used this
gossip as ammunition to rubbish my name in an attempt to
drive me out of my own social circle which was my
football team. By joining a football team the people you
play with have to be your friends.
In light of my drunk dialling the girl left my radar. I was
heartbroken in the same way you would be if a loved
family member died unexpectedly. Though she was never
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We would still hang out daily but now she wouldnt let me
kiss her.
Every day I would spend time with the love of my life who
was inches in front of me. We agreed to be friends and not
be intimate. This hurt for me worse than being completely
apart and me feeling sorry for myself listening to Coldplay.
While we were friends we slept together. I could fuck her,
but I couldnt love her. This was the final blow to the
destruction to what hope I had left.
I hated myself, I hated the world, now I hated her.
I stopped calling her. I began to drink avidly. I would drink
on my own and pass out early in the afternoon. She would
call concerned and worried about me. It didnt matter
anymore, all that I cared about was revelling in my own
self demise. I wondered if I could fall all the way to bottom
of the well?
I wondered what it would take to get myself there and what
I would find. There was certainly nothing left for me
anywhere else.
Out one night getting drunk and provoking police officers
we took refuge in a bar. In there, on a drunken adrenaline
high we spoke to some girls. At this point I didnt give a
fuck about the world, all I cared about was my own path to
self demise and pleasing myself. What was an initially
vicious reaction from the girls turned into a situation where
I was isolated with a gorgeous brunette girl who was
touching all over me.
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my girl because it was her being honest with herself for the
first time. It had always been me trying to logically
convince her that she liked me. Because things happened
this way, it is true to say that it was never actually me who
made the girl want to be my girlfriend. Its still true that
I simply wasnt capable of it getting a girlfriend.
After speaking to me in person and because of my amazing
female friend my girl made harmony with her feelings.
When she was finally honest with how she felt she was
shocked. In an emotional reaction she sent me this email:
alexander,
thank you for even opening this.
Firstly: apology for the nature of this [being an email] I
would never do this in any circumstance however I need to
say some things now and I cant any other way, please read
what I have to say as illogical and retarded as it may sound,
please.
I hate what im doing, I hate what I have done. After you left
I realised what the reality of the situation was [I knew at
the time however it hadnt quite hit me] I wish I knew
where we went wrong Alex, I hate what has happened. This
isnt what you want and its not what I want either, so if
neither of us are getting our way then its certain that both
of us will be unhappy.
Alex I am beginning to realise how fucking selfish I am and
I hate it, I dont want to be that person. I have hurt you and
I have possibly ruined whatever we had between us, im not
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had ended up. Dumb labour, heart break and a slim chance
of hope, working in a capacity suited for disabled people.
To endure it I held on the image of my future with my girl.
Now however, the thought of things not working out crept
into my mind. But I delusionary refused to acknowledge
them. With every box I put onto the conveyor belt I would
think, my girl my girl cherish love happiness my
girl- theres still hope future.
That year I put tens of millions of boxes on a conveyor belt,
each time I would repeat these affirmations . The thoughts
of being with her kept me motivated when I had nothing
else to hope for or aspire to. At the gym after work I would
think to myself as I lifted weights, my girl the house
the abs itll all -work, out.
I saved hard. The bank of Queensland approved me a loan
of $550,000 Australian dollars. I had a massive deposit
saved as I had no expenditures like going out to clubs or
travelling. I had a six pack for the first time in my life.
With a month before my girls birthday I was ready to reinitiate contact.
In a revelation of darkness, since the time we had broken
up and through everything she and I went through I still
had the password to her email account. Regrettably, and I
despise myself for being so desperate to have done this, I
would monitor her emails. It seemed that she had recently
been seeing a tourist and was making plans to travel abroad
to see him. Like yet another stake to my heart I couldnt
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ignore the possibility that this girl had really moved on. Her
parents were letting her travel to
Scandinavia to stay with this guy but not stay at my house a
three minute drive from her. They really hated me.
Her birthday date approached. Everything that I had
worked towards in her absence I had achieved. I got the
loan and I had the physique. I was sure that time would
have healed the wounds that my desperate and unstable
behaviour had left in her heart.
I spent weeks making a double mix CD for her with our
songs and a booklet with photos and words as to why each
song was relevant. I bought her a massively expensive
Tiffanys bracelet to signify the circle of our love. And,
once she accepted these gifts and agreed to see me again I
had organised two return Business Class tickets (cheaply
through hook ups from friends) for her and I to travel to
Hong Kong and back during which time I imagined would
explain everything that I had done and she would love me
again.
So, in a little package I enclosed the note for loan approval,
the bracelet, the personalised mix CD and of course some
of my poetry. It looked perfect and it was perfect. This time
around, the outcome of this venture really did dictate the
value of my life. I had dedicated years to this girl and this
was all in light of the efforts and trials I went through to be
with her on top of the adolescent heart destroying marathon
I had suffered with the girl before her.
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This was it. I had worked so hard for her and done all the
right things. Now it was out of my hands.
On her birthday I had the package, its precious contents and
my acute desperation couriered to her house.
For a day I waited in my living room, lying on the couch,
staring at the ceiling. I listening to more Coldplay and
looked at our old photos. After about 36 hours with no
response an no sleep I decided that going to the gym would
relieve my psychosis.
When I got home I found the package at my doorstep.
Dizzy with nervousness I stumbled as I walked towards it. I
opened it to find it as I sent it. Except for two words written
on the back of my note to her.
Those two words read, no thankyou.
It didnt make any sense. I couldnt comprehend. My brain
couldnt even process. I felt nothing.
I sent it back to her house.
Very soon after her friend bought it back. With it she gave
me a simple message, If you attempt to contact my friend
again there will be legal intervention.
It took me twenty four months of hard drinking, working
out and soul searching to recover from the mortal
repercussions of that message. Everything in life I had
worked towards, for what I thought was a noble and greater
good was smashed to pieces.
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Some of the variables that govern what you feel are the
following: State, frame, ego, self esteem, your biology,
your current physical status, your expectations of yourself,
your perception of others expectations of you, your
relative comfort zone, your contextual comfort zone and
many others.
All of these things are different perspectives of the same
object that is your state of emotion. A lot of people from
different schools of thought come at this from different
angles. Until you look at all the variables collectively you
will fail to see the bigger picture and examine state
incorrectly. It is imperative to understand that all these
elements are intertwined and to examine one element is to
examine all elements.
For example, your state can dictate your self esteem, while
in a different circumstance your expectations of yourself
can bruise or inflate your ego. I will look at many how you
feel variables individually before building up to a bigger
holistic picture. Once we have that established we can then
begin to understand the influence it has on you and the viral
influence it will have on others around you.
But the focus question is how does this help you get girls?
As mentioned in most of my other articles if you feel good
the girl will feel good. The primary goal in everyones life
is to have a good feeling while simultaneously avoiding
bad feelings. You want to perpetually feel good. If you can
be a perpetual source of good feelings to girls while
simultaneously inspiring a fear of loss you are going to be
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In short, a man feels good when he is on his path, positivedominant (woo + intent) and living in the moment.
Contrastingly a woman feels good when she is whisked up
in the adventure, along for the ride and living the emotional
rollercoaster that is being involved with an involve-worthy
man.
An involve-worthy man is one who is fulfilled and who
lives in congruence with his natural masculine self. Men
are motivated by the good feelings that come from
adventure, building, dividing and conquering whereas
women are motivated by harmony, love, family and
nurturing.
Evolutionarily men and women go together perfectly.
Women are designed to bring people together. The females
that tamed the wild men the best would survive. The men
that divided, conquered, killed and adventured more than
all the others would have passed on their genes. Its the
eternal yin and yang that continues to drive natural
selection to select quality genes.
[Though this sounds sexist against either men or women is
not the intention, many things will make either men or
women happy, but at the deepest level of fulfilment there
are specific gender roles that are naturally preset. In the
context of natural game I refer to the deeper evolutionarily
preset emotional states. Of course in this day and age
cognitive will power, drugs and psychological disorders
can nullify a persons naturally preset desires. While all
men and women consciously choose to some extent what
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they do and dont like, deep down all will recognise the
truth in what I am saying.]
If you are in alignment with your natural masculine
mindsets you will automatically behave in ways that make
you feel good. Naturally, this also makes women feel good.
Naturally this is very attractive.
The way a women is attracted to you and the way she gets
good feelings from you can be described metaphorically by
the way you are drawn to and entertained by a good movie.
Attraction is a combination of high value plus a full range
of emotions. If you notice a movie that you perceive
presents itself well you become exited and aroused and are
inspired to see it. The movie is high value because it looks
quality and enticing the from the outset. These factors all
stimulate good feelings.
If the plot of the movie is good and there is a range of
emotions experienced by the audience as a by product of a
well made movie (expression) it will be a very entertaining
and arousing experience. It will even make you feel
comfortable as it takes responsibility for you as you relax
and watch it.
While watching a movie, you are fully aroused and
experience a full emotional work out. This is the same
process a woman goes through when she is becoming
attracted to a man. When a woman sees a man she thinks
she might like she becomes exited. Then, as she speaks
with him and he doesnt try to impress her, he just
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not people see you the way you want them to see you. This
can give you massive internal conflict, make you feel very
bad and then influence the girls you talk to with a bad
feeling.
In the case of ego protection you are always concerned,
anxious and nervous as to whether people might try and
label you or interpret you in a way that you dont foresee
that could potentially be a bad thing. So you dedicate you
headspace to taking actions that arent natural but actually
directed towards introverting yourself, treading on
eggshells and being afraid to make a bad impression. Of
course if you are always suffering the internal conflict of
ego protection then you will feel bad and influence the girls
you talk to with a bad feeling.
On another level if you are feeling bad because of ego
protection and ego projection you will be reactive and live
in other peoples frames. When this is happening you dont
give the girl emotions because you are reacting to her and
nor are you higher value than the girl because you are
reacting to her.
Ego can only live in a person when they are in a thinking
headspace. Dont think, lose ego.
You didnt have an ego before you began to think. Plus, if
you approach a girl with an ego she can sense you are
second guessing your natural self. In addition to
influencing the girl with a bad feeling when you second
guess your natural self then you communicate to girls that
your natural self isnt good enough.
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in the case of you learning the game often you find your
doing better than expected and all of a sudden think
whats next? This gives rise to a feeling of panic and
uncertainty which will quickly be transferred to the girl.
Be in alignment with the guy you are. Be willing to block
out any logical and conscious sabotaging thoughts and ride
the interaction as long as it will go. It will give you a
feeling of excitement and recklessness as you get further
into unchartered territory. As you get more intimate with
the girl you will get more exited. These feelings are
transferred as well.
If you for some reason you fuck up the interaction you
will get a scar and learn something from the interaction.
Metaphorically, if you live in alignment with your balls you
ride the skateboard all the way to the bottom of the hill,
endure thrills, impress yourself and get the girl. If you fall
off you will get a scar and learn a lesson. Remember,
chicks dig scars.
Lot of guys escape their consciousness in social situations
by drinking. Biologically drinking nullifies your cognitive
brain and allows your emotional brain to express itself
freely. Sober for most guys means impression, drunk for
most guys means expression. But girls recognise that guys
get drunk because they cant access their naturally
attractive self while sober. In most cases drinking will
make a sad guys bad feelings far more evident. Drunk
approaching is a deal breaker.
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as a man the more fulfilled you will be. This is another way
of saying if you take responsibility for yourself AND for
many others you feel extremely good as a man.
Complimentary to this phenomena women love to be
influenced by a man who has the capabilities to take
responsibility for himself and many others. That would be a
very high value man.
Influence many people and you feel good beyond happiness,
you feel fulfilled. The more you get fulfilment by
expressing your natural behavioural traits of presence,
positive dominance and taking action the better you will
feel. The euphoria of this good feeling is overwhelming. It
becomes a drug for girls who, by nature, are influenced by
whatever state they are exposed to.
If you are a better source of good feeling that any other
person as a source of feeling you will be very attractive to
women.
In this nimbus state at the height of your good feelings you
will become mildly deluded. You will think youre the best
guy in the world, that all the girls love you and that you can
do no wrong. Of course, this deluded sense of self serves to
drive evolutionary natural selection. When you are in this
state you are most likely to confront other guys for their
girls and be with as many girls as you can.
When you have NIMBUS and are in a deluded state of
mind your reticular activation system (your focus) will not
even notice things that dont please you. You will think you
are the coolest guy in the world. When you perceive this
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In both instances you can see that you, the blue line, are
born with little anxiety. In an infantile unconscious state
you dont have the capacity to feel anxiety other than reflex
anxiety. When a person has low anxiety levels they are
high value, calm and therefore considered to be cool. This
is taken away by social conditioning.
Throughout childhood and adolescence you are socially
conditioned and forced by the world around you to think of
yourself as something you are not. This is you forming the
pretending to be a chode ego.
In this headspace you are constantly trying to impress a
cool impression onto the world. This means you
constantly have conscious stress and anxiety. While
socially conditioned you are constantly trying to defend
against others impressing a bad impression onto you. This
means you constantly have stress and anxiety.
Biologically you are being forced to adopt a false idea of
yourself that is the polar opposite of what you actually are.
You were born positive-dominant but social conditioning
persuades you to adopt a negative-passive ego for yourself.
This fundamental incongruence between what you are and
what you do leads to constant anxiety from cognitive
dissonance. Under social conditioning you constantly
struggle and react emotionally to the unanswered question
who am I?
As shown in the graphs, once socially conditioned you
always have higher anxiety levels then women. This means
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you are less cool than women, lower value and are
perpetually unattractive.
Contextually if you have confidence through ego validation
then in that context alone you will be cooler than the girls
and attractive. Otherwise, most guys drink, so do girls.
When guys drink their conscious brains become nullified,
they become present and cease to second-guess themselves
and become attractive.
While when women drink they begin to question
themselves more and their physical desires become
unstifled by the nullification of their conscious brains.
Contextual confidence and drinking plays host to 90% of
modern day pick-ups. Which are rare from cold approaches
nonetheless.
The first way you can get a really good feeling while
learning natural game is if you experiences the nimbus.
Sometimes, usually with the assistance of alcohol, you
might stumble onto nimbus and have a great night. On a
night you have nimbus you are having fun and so present
that your mind isnt confounded by negative conscious
thoughts.
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test will become. Once you pass the most intense tests you
begin to relinquish others influences and responsibility
over you. You cross the indifference threshold and begin to
form a stronger and stronger internally defined reality.
The more you internally define your reality the stronger
your core confidence becomes. With this comes a good
feeling. The better you define your own reality the more
emotionally unreactive you are to congruence tests.
Nothing takes away from you feeling good. The more
youre not reacting to others reality the more you assert
your reality onto others. You establish higher value and
women become emotionally aroused as they react to you.
The less you are looking for validation from impression the
more you simply express yourself and have fun. When you
have fun you feel good.
Core confidence, unreactive, assertiveness and
unreactiveness. Congruence with what you are which leads
to fulfilment and a perpetual and influential good feeling.
The best thing is, because you are internally centred there is
no Achilles heel that could instantly destroy your reality.
Your strength of reality and resulting feeling of fulfilment
is a conceptually 100% self defined. You are perpetually
high value, you influence others because they dont
influence you. You are perpetually attractive.
You always feel extremely good. No one can take that
away from you. Welcome to consistency.
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Ryan, Brad, Saad and Derrick. Ryan, Saad and Brad are
like my brothers. Derrick and Jeffy find themselves in a
position where they kind of take the role of hesitant father
to me.
Much love to my instructor assistants. You guys are the shit.
Especially ze Swan, the hero of the blog. My crew here in
Australia. James are the hot shit interns. Nadar and Jedi,
you guys know the real meaning of the word minger.
And last but most importantly to cherish. Heartbreaking
times. You know that I love you.
But a man has a mission. Nothing will ever compromise
that.
My mission involves lots and lots of girls. The two cannot
go together now.
Enjoyin fullscreen.
Watch out 2009.
http://www.youtube.com/user/alexanderhimself
Alexander~
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your company and enjoying the feelings you are giving her
but will test the strength of your reality and frame. A man
whos feelings change as a result of a failed test (emotional
reactivity) will influence the girl's emotions negatively and
she will most likely be done with him.
It is empowering to know that if you express yourself to the
right tune, feel good, genuinely trust yourself and live a
perceptually fulfilled life women will never be far away.
The self is always coming through.
Be the music,
People will feel you loud and clear,
And be moved.
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are in state. You cant force it, though. Like so many other
things, if you let go, it will come straight to you. But, not
like money in the casino, thats an exception.
More technically, self esteem based state is proportionate to
your ability to influence others. If you subscribe to natural
game, state comes from within. The more people you have
to influence, the more you call upon your resources from
within, and like a siphon it just begins to flow. Slow at first,
but it can build momentum.
Technically, if you do something positive, dominant or
simply take action, you will move more towards state then
you were previously. You want your cognitive traffic to
cause the people around you to do matrix style limbo to
avoid falling under your spell. But, they are only human.
Bring more state and they will succumb to your presence.
What are the well know state building techniques? If youre
a bit of a beginner and want to get a bit of a smile up in the
club, try talking to a few sets, singing, shouting, high fiving,
or clapping your hands.
Try it now. Sing this song... and follow the lyrics. Clap
your hands, stand up, bob your knees and give someone a
high five. Sing loud, break the shackles. You dont have
bad intentions, why would you limit yourself?
OK.. hit the song and sample some beginner state.
Remember, whatever you feel she feels.
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far more fucked up leverage than I do. But its true that
everyone has a worst thing that they experience and that
worst thing is relative from person to person. That worst
thing might be similar in terms of how extreme the
negative and desperate feelings are from person to person.
Looking back in horror and embarrassment of what I was I
wondered how the fuck I could possibly have been in that
headspace? On a weekly basis I wonder why my budding
students could come into program with the worldview they
have. Once that sadness and desperation is out of your
reality it really is out of your reality. Once you start making
shit happen and take control of your life there is no going
back. You cant avoid becoming what you want to be,
becoming what you are supposed to be .
If you are coming from that place of fear and scarcity then
it is quite a challenge. I realised the only reason I was in
that headspace in the first place was because of myself. The
more personal the wound the more universal. My story is
similar to everyone elses.
When I was young and in the embryonic stages of my
identity development I was heavily influenced by my
parents. As it is the case with most people my parents were
proud, caring and took all the responsibilities for me.
Like all parents they wanted the best for me and they
worked tirelessly trying to make it happen. Private schools,
tutors and driving me to any sports training I was involved
in. We lived a perfect life. But because it was so perfect I
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think for others, they could execute and I could hide behind
that. I was a good football coach. My coaching success and
experience qualified me for the job I have now.
Back on the school front I was about to go from primary
school to high school. I was enrolled at one of the most
prestigious schools in the Southern Hemisphere. After such
a torrid primary school experience, albeit self inflicted, I
was pretty concerned about starting a new all-boys school
with lots of rich kids. On the other hand at least I had a
blank slate to start with in terms my reputation. Also, two
teammates who I had played football with for years were
starting at the same school with me.
The school itself was amazing and to my surprise everyone
there was pretty mature and friendly for twelve year olds.
Everyone one came to the school from all over so everyone
started equal. In the beginning I had a little honeymoon
period of social success in a group with my friends from
primary school and a few others from my football team.
But sure enough my insecurity, immaturity and neediness
became apparent to those who got close enough to get to
know me. This was like having the social carrot dangled in
front of my face just perpetually just out of reach. The
desperation to achieve that social security drove me to
more immaturity and neediness forging a reputation for
myself that was unfavourable. I was quickly categorized
badly by my peers.
Both my teammates who I knew quickly made friends with
the cool group of kids. I would orbit the cool group of kids
but no one would really talk to me. It was a case of me
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come to the gym early in the lunch hour because they had
gym class right after the lunch. I played football with one
of the guys who went onto become the school vice-captain.
He was, and I think he still is the perfect human being. A
genius academically, musically and socially. He was in the
school teams for football and cricket and the fastest athlete
for all the prestigious events in his group and above. He
also won something like six academic awards for difference
classes at the graduation dinner.
Only now am I beginning to understand how one person
can be so impeccably successful. That day he asked me if I
wanted to join in their game of indoor soccer in the gym.
Like the other lunch hours I didnt have anything planned
except the books in the library. I accepted. Socially proofed
by a very popular dude and with their group having no
prior exposure to my reputation I joined in and for the first
time I had a proper group of friends.
Most people will never realise how much of a big deal it is
to be accepted socially especially after not knowing where I
fit in for the past seven years of school life. I could never
have known it at the time but because of the events on that
day, the meeting of the Scotch Crew, that I would meet
Jeffy and Tyler from Real Social Dynamics.
Now, every lunch hour I had a crew to hang with. These
guys lived in the same part of the city so now I had
someone to catch the train to school with. These guys
played basketball and football and cricket so now I had a
crew to go to games with and hang out with after. Now I
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had a crew to talk to about the ideas of girls with. Life was
pretty fucking sweet.
All the while I was a loner I had a mind that was ultra
creative and adventurous. I wanted to do things, take risks,
grow, adventure and push the limits. Now that I had peers
to do that with I was inspired. Because I was coming from
a headspace I self hate I didnt care about rules and
standards anywhere near as much as they did so my antics
were very entertaining. We were all into the high
achievement thing and we would compete with each other
academically and compete alongside one another in sports.
Also, at a time in life when so much is new and exciting to
have someone to share all the new experiences with is
pretty amazing. Every day of a thirteen year olds life leaves
him in awe of the world, what he is capable of and in
wonder of what is possible. Its a magical stage in life and
for me it was that much more intense in contrast with the
previous decade of sadness. As a kid, to have friends, play
sports and go to an awesome school is pretty much the
pinnacle of fulfilment. I didnt have a care in the world. For
the first time in the life I was happy.
I had developed so much headspace to dedicate to whatever
I wanted. Now I was extremely happy. I was playing very
well in the second best cricket team at school with my crew
and I played social basketball every weekend with my
friends. Most importantly I was playing in the prestigious A
grade football team at school. With the onset of a positive
perspective on life I even began to get better at the sports I
played. With that newfound success came a massive
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and had to deal with all the headaches that come with that.
It was hard enough moving back to a city where old bonds
had withered away but to add duress to my situation my
Dad had decided to start his own business.
Since the time Dad started his first business in his field of
expertise it was very touch and go. Of course when you
start a business you have to expect to go hundreds of
thousands of dollars into debt. I remember the combined
stress of running a family, putting three children though
expensive private school and going into massive debt to run
a business caused a lot of stress in my family which I felt I
beared a lot of.
This is not to mention the risk involved with not knowing
how successful a new business will be. So Dad stepped up
his workload to make it happen for our family. Mum did
the same. So instead of having the Dad I used to be able to
play sport with and a mum I could talk to it got to a stage
where I felt neglected. Of course I reacted by regressing
back to the victim bitch I used to be and this only worsened
the situation.
As it turned out, in spite of my Dads superhuman work
ethic and enthusiasm to make his new business work he
was the victim of corporate sabotage. While he didnt know
it at the time colleagues were sabotaging his business and
interfere with his prospective clients. This meant that for a
few years he would work his hands to the bone and make
no progress and the accumulation of even more debt. At the
time this was a disaster for me because the Dad figure was
caught up in so much work. I was lost at the best of times
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Also, around the age of fourteen is the time when boys start
to realise their physical strength. This is expressed by
wrestling and fighting. Brisbane is one of the most violent
cities in Australia especially due to the rugby culture. Every
class I was in I would be mercilessly hit or beat or punched
until my bruises had bruises and I couldnt use that part of
my body anymore.
When I got to school at the start of the year it was cricket
season. In my grade there were about five teams graded A
through to E. At my old school I just payed for fun. After
try-outs at my new school I was put straight into the A
cricket team. This should have been something to celebrate
because the A cricket team is an indicator of status.
Unfortunately this meant that a popular player from last
years team was dropped from the team when I replaced
him.
I wasnt an A grade player at the time and I would always
make mistakes cost the team when I played. So the other
very alpha guys in the team would hate on me and take it
out on me at practise. Because I had no idea how to bat I
would always have to practise. At which time the guys who
had accelerated though puberty to the point that they were
man-children would bowl rock hard cricket balls at me
faster than I had a chance to react. At practise I got laughed
at as I was a mannequin on a firing range. I would go home
aching, bruised on my chest, back and groin.
The one thing I had going for me at my old school was my
academics. When I changed schools and skipped a grade I
found that I couldnt do any maths at all. I went from being
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even got to the school the guys from the most influential
social group in my school knew all the bad things about me
and had a bad opinion of me. I never had a chance from day
one.
My parents had an old social network in the city we were
moving to and in that social network were parents of kids
going to my school. Of that network my parents strongest
social contact was with the parents of the most popular guy
in school and the most successful athlete. So, with
awesome initiative and awesome intentions (and I do mean
that) they set out to organise for me to meet some of the
guys from my school before I went there so I would have
some friends to start off with. In theory, a perfectly good
idea.
But a play date that is organised by parents for two
thirteen year old boys was never going to be a cool thing.
Imagine being the coolest kid in school and being told that
you have to go and hang out with a random stranger you
have very little in common with. A stranger who is vastly
less mature than you. No thirteen year old will be
enthusiastic about that. Combining the cool guys generally
negative disposition, my negative disposition towards
moving cites, my insecurity and neediness that I sucked out
of him and the entire homosexuality of a thirteen year old
pay date all culminated in the result of me making a very
bad impression. This guy even played in my cricket team
when I started at school. The guy told everyone at the new
school about me and how gay the whole situation was and
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From this meeting did come some sort of a social life. After
having no one else to talk about and no other hobbies to
engage in this girl became the centre of my world because
my world was empty.
I spent countless teenaged Saturday nights sitting on online
messenger or just wandering aimlessly through my house.
While I wondered around the house my parents would even
ask me why I wasnt out partying or at least hanging out
with people. Because of the patterns I had become so
routine I looked at everyone else as above me. Due to the
intense repetition of bad social experiences I developed a
very strong reality of I am lesser than other people and it
inevitably became a self fulfilling prophecy that people
would think they are above me. Exactly where my strong
reality had put them.
While this was ultimately a value taking disposition it made
me humble. About three quarters of the way into my first
year I had taken so many beatings and taken so many
verbal abusing that I simply ceased to give a fuck anymore.
I distinctly remember dreading going into English class one
day where I would take the majority of my beatings and
verbal abuse but I just didnt have any heart left to defend
myself or even care. It was like I wanted to be hurt. I just
embraced what I was for the first time. Nothing. Little did I
know it at the time, but when I embraced the identity of
nothing I became inherently cool. When I stopped
defending myself, when I stopped caring, when I felt no
more anxiety, I stopped projecting the mummys boy
reality and I became cool.
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of the school which was a really big deal at the time. When
the teachers spoke to him they told him all the things they
knew he had done. He realised instantly that someone had
dobbed him in, and not just the guy on the receiving end of
his belittling. They never suspected me because I didnt
have anything against the bully except that he spoke down
to me, which a lot of people did. The others werent
suspected either because they had plenty of social integrity.
He got punished by the school and so did a few others. But
they had no idea who had talked and backstabbed everyone
by going to the staff. I was part of the immediate discussion
about the fucked up things those convicted guys were going
to those who were responsible for dobbing them in.
Even though we stuck our necks out for this guy he ended
up changing schools anyway. He was just that miserable
and I really felt for him. In his darkest hours I would hang
out with him and stay at his house so he would have
company. I was there for him and helped him morally
wherever I could. My fragile reputation was tarnished even
further just for spending time with him.
After he left the school he still had contact with everyone
via online messenger. A few months after he left school he
went online and told everyone that it was me who dobbed
in the bully. Even after I was there for him when he was
depressive and suicidal. To add insult to insult he even
dated and hooked up with the girl I was obsessed with just
to spite me. He told me how she sucked his dick, but she
told me that when she did he couldnt get a boner. What a
fuckhead.
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continue with my studies from school and try and get the
unobtainable university entry score I needed to get into that
course.
I still dont know why they thought it was the right thing to
do to deny me a golden opportunity to do what I always
wanted to do. Of course because I had no faith in myself so
I didnt question them. I continued to be academically
mediocre.
In my final year of school I thought I had an ok social life
because of the DJ thing and I always had people around me
because I played every sport I could possibly fit into my
schedule. But I still wasnt any closer to getting the girl I
was still obsessed with.
There were a couple of harsh occasions when my social
isolation and ineptitude was bought out from beyond my
blindspots and shoved into my face. Times when I had to
face the fact that people didnt like me. On the night of our
formal (prom) the group of guys I hung with at lunch time
went ahead and organised a table without me. Leaving me
and my partner, the girl I was obsessed with, with no one to
sit with. We ended up sitting with one of her friends who
was going with a guy from school.
I didnt get invited to the formal after party which is like
the party at the lake after the prom. The others guys from
the group I hung out with were invited except for myself.
So I organised to throw a massive party the week before the
formal to give myself leverage to ask for an invitation to
the formal afterparty. With some bribing and persistence I
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In one case you would get a number that would a very solid
with a low chance of flaking. In the other case you would
follow the interaction all the way through to taking the girl
home.
In understanding all of these steps, or even just
understanding that they exist, it gives you something to do
with CONVICTION. A lot of guys have a great personality
and very good inner game, but no vehicle by which to
express it. Let these steps be that vehicle. When you act
with conviction you inspire richer emotions in the girls you
interact with. When you act with conviction you behave in
a way that is unstifled and you communicate to the girl that
you are following your own intentions. She will categorize
you quickly as an alpha male and attraction will soon
follow.
Each and every step in the process has a place and purpose.
I see so many of my students execute so much of the chain
properly but neglect one important link that brings
everything undone.
Pre Opener
Of course the opener is the first point of contact. But the
girl will have a sense of who you are and how you feel
before you even get to her. So take responsibility for that.
Get yourself into state, do some warm ups, take some dares
and get yourself into a deluded, somewhat thoughtless state
of mind.
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from them. The very first thing you should do after the
opener is meet all of her friends. The group will either form
a coalition to destroy you or plan a hens night for your
imminent marriage to their friend. To get the girls onside
its very straightforward, just talk to them and introduce
yourself to everyone.
A good rule of thumb with this is flirty and illogical with
the target, friendly and logical with the friends. For
example, ask what each of the friends do for a job but state
that the girl you like must work as a mermaid. Logical
versus illogical. If you get flirty with the ugly friends they
may adopt you and then get sad and bitchy if you dont pay
them attention. You want to have an emotional interaction
with the girl you like, talk to the friends like they are nuns
from the Mormon cult.
When addressing the group a whole you can do role plays,
ask about group dynamics, ask how they know each other
or whatever. Its all pretty straight forward stuff. Ask them
which Sex in the City girl they play, which Spice Girl they
would be, go Dr Phil on their ass, et cetera, et cetera.
Beware however the fatty/manager/bitch/psychologically
unsound/not getting laid chick. She can make every one
unhappy; even if the cute girl likes you, the bitchy girl can
ruin everything. Because girls are heavily influenced by
their environment, they also agree without question to the
opinions of their friends. This is very frustrating because
the bitchy girl can be your Achilles heel. Or, she could be
your cupid.
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In short, call her the sniper girl (Natural Tim, 2006) and
accuse her of being the girl that keeps all her friends from
doing stupid thing they will regret when they are drunk.
Say that its a pleasure to meet her, because if it wasnt for
girls like her then your friend/cousin/sister/workmate
would have been at the abortion clinic many times over.
The sniper girl often likes this and will try and lick your
face. Dont succumb. Thank her for her good Samaritan
work and be on your way with her friend with the sniper
girls blessing.
With guys in the group there are two ways to handle it. In
the first place the guy will be a chode, do nothing and
because you are a cooler and more sociable guy the girls
will recognise you are the coolest guy around and be
attracted to you because girls are attracted to the most alpha
guy in the group. No worries, most guys are bitches and are
scared, but they are good to prop you up to a more alpha
role then when you were approaching on your own.
Secondly the guys might try and fuck with you and do
some kind of AMOGing (Alpha Male Other Guy).
Personally, I think AMOGing is kinda lame and definitely
unnecessary. The only person I AMOG is Ryan, not
because I want his girls, but because I want to talk to him
and the girls are detracting me from doing that. If a guy is
trying to mess with you, the girls you are talking to will
clearly notice and realise that he is less cool than you for
trying to fuck with you. Call the guy on not being cool
with something like, Hey man, what the fuck are you
talking about, chill out, were all just being cool here.
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Take aways
Extreme multiple threading
Elastic snap back
Game and gimmicks
Play with iPhone
Sexual innuendo
Shock and awe
Us versus the world conspiracies
Plot lines
Emotional rapport
Beating congruence tests
Physical communication and leading
Frame controlling
Using the word babe
Verbal rhythm
Emotional content of your language
Eye contact and intensity
Story telling style.
Many others
(This list was taken directly from the post A = HV + E, the
complete article on attraction)
A lot of these moves are things that a guy will do naturally
when he is just fucking around, implement them if you will.
Remember though, the moment you deliberately implement
these actions to get the girl to like you the actions become
unattractive things. Do them as an expression of yourself
for the purposes of self entertainment.
If a girl meets a guy who can express himself in the above
listed ways, win the approval of her judgemental friends
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and start and carry a conversation until the point where the
girl is comfortable then you will most certainly hook the
girls attention and inspire attraction. Remember though,
there cant be one iota of you trying for rapport with her
until she tries for rapport with you. Classic game theory
reminds us that attraction always comes before rapport. Or
more accurately, you dont have a serious conversation
with the girl until she initiates serious talk with you. You
need to be an involvement worthy guy.
So, finally you have her hooked. The girl initiates serious
questions of you, usually to the tune of where are you
from, what do you do, how long are you staying here.
These questions will surely put you to sleep I know, but
you have to be polite. Answer some things accurately and
misinterpret some when it entertains you. Will you will
begin to develop rapport simply by talking to the girl and
getting to know each other. If you entertain yourself
through the get to know you generic conversation you
will radiate an arousing range of emotions that will keep
the girl interested and result in her attraction towards you
building.
Escalation
But, let me back track here for a moment. On another
simultaneous dimension is the action concurrent to
conversation: physicality. As Christophe says, If youre
talking, your touching. Basically the difference between
friendly and flirty is physicality. So if you are worried
about that cake-bingers sexual advances on you then just
cut off all contact. Dont let her boobs rub against you
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cause you will give her the wrong idea and the wrong
reasons to go to the ladies room.
With the cute girls, however, physical interaction is
chemistry itself. Its the bumping and vibrating of ions that
generates heat and tension and she is bound to react. You
should think of your physical interaction with the girl as
something that increases with intensity steadily but not
smoothly. Similar to the jagged upwards gradient of a stock
exchange graph (with the exception of recent times).
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on her and she need to sort the quality from the riff-raff. If
you are not capable of passing tests then you need to work
on your inner game.
If you not going up to her trying to impress her, and youre
just being cool, she will at some point question you, test
you, antagonise you or straight up try and belittle you. If
you can remain unreactive to this, you hold the attractive
frame(A = HV + E) and you overtly demonstrate that you
are a man of value relative to her.
That being said, if you are clever and know how to do thing
to generate tests immediately you can beat those same tests
just as quickly. One example is calling a girl a minger.
So, the primary and most effective way to beat a girls test,
or anyones for that matter, is to just plain out ignore it. If
that doesnt work then you can get a little bit creative with
your response. Note that it is a response, not a reaction to
her test. You can say righto, I dont speak Spanish, by
X you mean Y (another extended blog on that later) or
its all good.A test is like a speeding bullet, its only as
lethal as the impact it makes on you. If you dont
acknowledge the test then it isnt validated and it simply
doesnt exist. You hold the higher value frame, you are less
reactive to her and you overtly demonstrate higher value
and are attractive.
Qualification
So, the interaction is almost complete. You have opened,
won the friends, inspired attraction, isolated the girl,
inverted the value demonstrating, got physical, got to
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chatting with her and have a good vibe going all the while
beating congruence tests and demonstrating value. The
interaction is looking plush. Now all you have to do is
consolidate the interaction.
Of course a girl cannot just justify fucking some stranger
who she will assume approached her based on her looks.
Now that the girl has spent time chatting to you in an effort
to get to know you, you need to acknowledge this. You
need to qualify her, tell her what you like about her other
than her looks. Tell her why you enjoy her and
communicate to her that you understand who she really is.
Clearly demonstrate that the connection you have
established in the interaction is real.
When you qualify a girl there are three steps. Firstly tell her
why she is different. Do not tell her why she is aesthetically
different or visually different, like oh my god, youre so
much taller than all the other girls or oh my god your
camel toe is barely visible in your cargo pants or you are
so pretty. This shows that you still see her as a slab of
meat, rather than a human being. There will be plenty of
time to get in touch with her hotness and physicality later.
But if you want to get to that she needs to know that you do
in fact respect her.
Tell her that she is different in terms of her character traits.
If you have been talking to her for five minutes you will be
able to tell her profound things about her because you have
been listening. If you can tell her these things and they are
accurate they will appeal to her ego and make her feel good,
she will feel validated and want more of it, especially when
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to get the phone number, the other way is to take the girl to
another venue or even home that night.
If you are only able to get a phone number that night then
you want to have asked for the phone number earlier on in
the interaction somewhere after the opener. This way
throughout the rest of the vibing of the interaction she is
talking to you through the filter of this guy has my phone
number as opposed to the filter of this guy might be
trying to get my phone number. Everything you ever
needed to know about phone game can be found in another
post here: Phone Game; Your Missing Piece.
On the other hand you may want to take the girl from the
venue to get something to eat, to an after party or even
straight home. This branch of knowledge is an entire blog
post in and of itself. This blog post is just about the check
points of the interaction. But, if you follow the check points
outlined here venue changing or after partying wont be a
big deal.
In Conclusion
So there is it in its entirety. The tried, tested and proven
outer game elements that constitute a very good interaction.
Now that you have the knowledge of these steps, you can
trouble shoot your own game and take your results to the
next level.
Each and every part of the process is valuable in and of
itself. Neglect one step and it could undo your entire
interaction. If you arent in a good state before you open,
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the girls will run away from you. If you dont open then
you wont talk to the girls. If you dont introduce yourself
to the friends then the friends will whisk the girl away from
you. If you not attractive then you will just get into a
friends zone. If you dont initiate physical contact then you
will be left in the friends zone. If you dont get the girl one
on one you wont have a chance to quickly amplify your
investment in each other. If you dont invert the value of
the interaction then you will fall into a dancing monkey
frame. If you dont get to know the girl then you are just
another random guy at the bar. If you dont qualify the girl
then she will think you like her just to fuck her. If you dont
close the deal then you wont get the girl. You will just be
wasting your time.
For those who dont go out much, a knowledge of what you
are actually supposed to do can be the difference between
you acting with confidence and not. Acting with confidence
is the difference between you behaving attractively and not.
So a structural knowledge is very important to newer guys.
For guys who have been around the game for a while this
will be a rehash of a lot of ideas that you were aware of.
But I can guarantee that you are missing elements or doing
things in the wrong order that have left you confused by a
lack of results. Leaving you to think to yourself what am I
missing? For seasoned natural gamers a rehash of the
basics can get you back to a simple interaction where its
just a boy, a girl and some chemistry. Dont overcomplicate
things.
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BY Alexander~ | April
Dont get too wasted. With the onset of the weekend, it can
be a nice little change to write yourself off into a blithering
mess of kebab chunks and bile. While fun for some, its
mostly an unattractive thing to the girls that you want to be
talking to. Drinking is good because its normal by the
girls standard of reality. But, you dont NEED it.
Dont drink more than you would if you also had to drive a
car home. Otherwise, you will in set crashing shit out,
aware that you are doing it, but without control of saving
the impending wreck about to unfold in front of you.
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and when you learn you feel good. Get out there. There is
no failure, there is just competent and not-yet-competent.
Here is the next instalment of common mistakes that guys
make when it comes to natural game.
7. Whatever you feel, she feels. Remember that women
dont judge you on your status, they dont judge you on
your looks or even on your words. They judge you and
react to you based on what feeling you influence them with.
That said, its most important that you are always feeling
good. Best way to do this is to be a man of action with a
path in life, someone who is ballsy and risk taking,
someone who is daring and someone who sets out with
positive intentions. You were born feeling good with self
esteem, so you know that if you get back to natural state
then you will feel good. Its only when you try and force
things or unnatural do you lose your default good feeling.
Be natural, be relaxed and you will achieve the very
important goal of feeing good most of the time, and
automatically make all girls feel good most of the time.
You will be a fun guy to be around.
8. State is chill, not fireworks. This is a big one, most
guys have no idea that state is not something exciting, not
something flashy or even something extravagant, the
coolest people you have known in your life and alpha males
all have a chill vibe about them. This is true state, what
Jeffy calls a burning coal. It is EASY to be consistently
chilled-out or relaxed, its as simple as adopting an its all
good attitude and having some willpower to not let petty
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10. If the girl isnt gaming you, youre not going to have
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sex with the girl. Its true that people value something they
have to work for, or something they think of as higher
value than them. And this can be confusing if you are
learning cold approach pick up. How can I approach her,
then, get the girl gaming me? Furthermore, to think that
you have to game the girl implies that you are lesser than
her, and this implication with become a self fulfilling
prophecy to the girl you are interacting with. After all, the
way you approach her is the way she makes up her mind
about you. The way to get the girl gaming you is in the
VALUE INVERSION POINT, what some people call the
transition or the point when you go from 90/10 to 50/50
talking ratios. Go in chat, even entertain her and arouse
emotions. Then withdraw. This usually elicits a question
from the girl. Usually something chodely like where are
you from? or what do you do?. This is her gaming you,
once you get this going, keep it going, answer with
statements (obviously), express yourself to inspire
attraction and she will continue to game you. The more she
finds herself gaming you (unlike the way guys usually try
and game her) the more she will find herself liking you and
the closer youll be to sleeping with the girl.
11. Whatever you do, DONT try for rapport. There are
many levels of communication when two people interact
and there are subsets of communications within them. To
name a few there are verbal, non verbal and physical ways
to communicate; and if you want to be more technical there
are logical modalities and emotional modalities, direct or
indirect. The modalities arent as important as using them
to ensure you dont try for rapport. In any interaction
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with girls. But the sooner you realise its a futile pursuit
the sooner you realise that you have to continue to take
action on any given night in any given set. As a man it is
correct to identify with being a man of action because
thats what you physically and biologically are. Instead of
looking to achieve the identity of being a guy whos good
with girls seek to identify yourself as a guy who is always
continuing to get good with girls. This is the road to Pick
up mastery.
20. Inspire attraction, dont seduce it. Express yourself,
dont impress others. Whether or not you can be attractive
to someone is completely subjective and thus,
unpredictable. You can have no idea what will turn on
different people, especially when you are cold approaching
lots of them. So instead of focusing your efforts on what
will impress them and what impression you are going to
make, do the things that is sure to inspire attraction in
everyone. When you shift your focus from setting out to
impress people to, instead, expressing yourself and doing
the things that you know will inspire attraction; youre
reality strengthens significantly, others react to you, you
become unstifled and most importantly you have lots of fun.
They fact that youre not out to seduce attractive form
women and instead are out to inspire it communicates to
women you approach that you have all the trust in yourself
that you have enough and are enough to be attractive to
them. You inspire it in women, you dont need to trick it
out of them, and they come to you.
21. Be involvement worthy. The best way to go about
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Be involvement worthy.
Get yourself into state.
Keep Things Simple While Learning.
There is no such thing as a crush; ice cream theory.
For cold approaches social versatility is the most important
thing, clicking
Its incongruent of you not to be sexual.
The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled not
happy
There is no right thing to say, its the right thing to say
because you are the one whos saying it.
...Print it out and put it somewhere youre going to read it
every day.
Alexander~
PS. Longer articles on all of these in due course.
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The more she tests you, the more she gets to know who you
are and what sort of guy you are. The more she knows what
kind of a guy you are, the better she trusts you and gains
rapport with you. The better she trusts you, the sooner she
will be comfortable to be intimate with you: you get the girl.
If you have the integrity, you will emaciate congruence
tests and very quickly establish trust, not as a function of
your moves or lines, but simply because you are an
awesome guy.
If you are not yet an awesome guy, then you have some
work to do, and the best way to do that is through social
immersion by learning about yourself, others, the world,
and exploring your boundaries. Sometimes you forget who
you are if you dont have an avenue by which to express
yourself. Without that, your sense of self can dissolve into
nothing and leave you with a weak reality and little to trust.
So for the beginners, here are some guidelines...
There are two types of rapport: wide rapport and deep
rapport. Wide rapport is where you ask lots of general
questions like where are you from?, what is your job?,
whats your all time favourite movie? and that sort of
thing. You can throw out as many as fifty of these sort of
questions in a short amount of time and there's a good
chance you'll have at least a few things in common with the
girl, or you will stumble onto topics that lead you to find
commonalities with the girl. Also, while you have this sort
of conversation you get back in touch with yourself and
you give the girl a chance to revel in herself as well.
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Alex~ 2.0
Sunday, September 20th, 2009
Im at the beginning, the middle, and the end.
Ive been working for RSD for nearly three years now. All
around the world.
It is commonly recognized that to reach the apex of your
personal growth in this transformations game a period of
about four years is required. In four years a guy can
squeeze every last drop of transformative juice out of the
community. Before you are irreversibly changed for the
better.
So Im about halfway there. Or something like that. For me,
I think it will keep going after that, this is what I was meant
to do. Since I was ten when I had my heart set on becoming
a psychologist. Im in the middle of one of the most
valuable opportunities any 24 year old could possibly
dream of. No actually, I could never have dreamt of this
life, only someone with a mind like Papa could have
dreamt up something like this.
Im right in the middle of a group of like-minded, hard
working, dedicated and seemingly indestructible dudes.
There is no more centred and reassuring place to be.
Its is the end.
About five months ago I decided to get out of the game due
to almost HALF A DOUZEN life and death situations that
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So, it begins.
Alexander~ is back, with no other purpose in life than to
test, prove, print and publish from a new perspective.
Its what I always wanted to do since I was ten. And still
love doing it.
Dont change channels
Alexander~
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Strength Of Reality.
Wednesday, November 25th, 2009
Somebody asked me recently on rsdnation: What does it
mean to have a strong reality, and why is it even
important? This was asked on a forum that focuses on how
to be attractive to women and how to be good at picking up
girls.
The short answer to this question is: a strong reality is
when you have a strong sense of self and a very strong
understanding and perception of the world around you, to
the point where you play a part in defining it. The reason
why it is important is because as a guy, you will always be
able to have a stronger reality than women. Men have an
ability to have a stronger reality than women (in an
emotional and social sense), because you can have a
stronger reality than women, you have something that they
dont and that is something of value to them. This makes
you attractive. Most importantly, when you have a strong
reality you automatically behave in a way that inspires a
womans attraction triggers. Attraction means getting girls;
this was the purpose of the question.
Thats a pretty complicated short answer with many
different components. It begs the following questions:
What makes a reality strong? How do I know when its
strong? What is a perception of the world? What does it
have to do with your sense of self? What are the differences
between mens realities and womens realities? If I dont
have a strong reality, how can I get one and how can I
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keep it? How does having a strong reality make you behave
in attractive ways? All these things are massively important
to being good with women, but for most people they have
no idea this paradigm exists, or even what it means. So, Id
better answer the questions for everyone so your reality can
be stronger, you can behave in attractive ways and get lots
of hot girls in your life.
First of all you need to understand why its important for a
human to have a strong reality. Human beings, unlike most
organisms on Earth are social creatures. The reason why we
have evolved in the way that we have is because we have a
co-dependence on other people in our society or tribe. In
societies and tribes there is a culture, or a sociallyconditioned standard. In modern society, our culture is
socially-conditioned in ways that keep people in place, that
way they wont clash with each other, kill each other and
continue to drive primal natural selection.
So, because humans have evolved to want to fit into the
culture, they strive to form an identity that contributes to,
and is recognized, by their culture. Everyone wants to fit in
and be acknowledged by everyone around them. The usual
way of forming a strong reality is the age old struggle to fit
in and feel special. For example, take a 14th century village.
There is the village doctor, the village blacksmith, the
village drunk and the village idiot. Each of these people
have a role in society and they are acknowledged for their
role. When people meet them, they immediately understand
who they are and what they do. That way, they fit in. The
more they fit in, the more the collective co-dependence of
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In this day and age, there are probably a lot of men who
have enough money to be self-reliant (a provider) and have
a woman rely on him, yet these men dont behave like
alpha males. Through natural selection. women are simply
hard-wired to be attracted to men who BEHAVE like alpha
males. The way alpha males behave is with core confidence,
unreactiveness, offering value and being assertive the
same ways that primitive males behaved in ancient times
that caused females to evolve a recognition system in their
brain that feels attraction for men who behave in certain
ways, regardless of their modern day social status.
A modern day alpha male might be the head of a
corporation, someone who inherited a company or someone
born into privilege, but because they didnt earn it or
because reality has taken responsibility for them, instead of
them having to become an alpha male by taking
responsibility for their reality, many modern-day alpha
males dont behave with core confidence, unreactiveness,
offering value or being assertive, and hence they do not
inspire attraction. Sometimes modern day alpha-males do
have the mindsets and behaviours of a traditional alpha
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before them who easily eclipse them and put them into
place as beta males to them. So their chode reality is
reinforced by the older alpha males that theyre eclipsed by,
and they quit trying. Viola, modern day society is creating
armies of chodes about 80% or more of the male
population. By the way, there are groups of alphas
somewhere in ivory towers or running international banks
that are eclipsing all of us and socially conditioning us,
reinforcing that the average guy is just a chode and that
he should think and behave like a chode.
The more a female reality or a beta chode reality is
reinforced by external influences, the stronger the reality
gets.
people are females and beta males all interacting with each
other seeking contextual confidence, being reactive, taking
value and being passive and victims of their surroundings.
Suffice to say, society is in a bad way, but at least the few
alpha males in the ivory towers have everyone under the
thumb which prevents the bloodshed and social chaos that
has been the way of life since humans became humans.
But most men arent born as chodes, they are free-willed
and rambunctious children that act on their own intentions
in the same way that alpha males do. All men have the
potential to be alpha, but most get socially conditioned.
Imagine that when a male is born he is at the bottom of the
reality scale and in the middle. He both needs to rely on
society around him and at the same time has ample
impulses to express himself, adventure, take risks and push
the boundaries of his influence.
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The girl can see what type of a guy he is, instantly even
before the guy starts talking to her and she will usually
blow the guy off immediately. When pick up gurus say that
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you need to be cooler than the girl, they mean that you need
to have a stronger reality than the girl and have a better
internal feeling than she does, through a secure sense of
self.
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In terms of pick up, when you are in the club and going
after girls with very strong, externally reinforced and
externally validated realities, you need to have a stronger
reality than them to offer them value and have any chance
of picking them up. If you have nothing to offer the girls,
then there is no reason why they would want to engage in
talking to you or spend any time with you.
Even though hot girls in the club do have very strong and
continually reinforced realities, it can never be as strong as
an internally defined and autonomous alpha reality. When a
hot club girl comes across an alpha male as a source of
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So, what I have talked about and shown in this article goes
hand-in-hand with the attraction formula.
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When you move away from having your reality externallydefined and reinforced to being internally-defined, and you
build momentum of influence, you become socially
versatile. Those principles will be totally explained in yet
another in depth article.
In conclusion: Strength of Reality Series.
What does it mean to have a strong reality, and why is it
even important?
If you have a reality that is stronger than the girl you are
trying t pick up than you have something to offer her that
she isnt getting for herself. The stronger your reality the
stronger your internal sense of security. With your internal
sense of security comes positive and calming feelings. To
have a weak reality means you feel vulnerability, anxiety
and negativity.
For a guy a strong reality can come in two forms.
Externally derived or internal defined. Both can be strong
realities but one is resilient and can be absolute. While the
other is fleeting and vulnerable.
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more she will react to him. Each reaction she has to him the
more he becomes a source of arousal and the more she
becomes aroused. Arousal is EMOTIONAL
STIMULATION. Attraction builds when high value is
combined with emotional stimulation. A = HV + E.
Girls realities are inherently different from guys realities.
Guys are designed to be delusionally confident and
delusional confidence stems from a delusional sense of self
trust. Innate emotional self trust is what guys have that girls
dont have as much of, and thats what girls want from a
guy. A guy who is being the man he is supposed to be.
Girls innately have a more skeptical and cerebral reality as
a result of being less physically versatile in the natural
world.
Humans have evolved so that men are the risk takers and
women are the risk questioners. Between these two
opposing forces they find some happy medium and offer
mutual value. The woman urges the man to take fewer risks
to be safer, but men look take more risks to conquer more
territory or gather more influence. Girls are attracted to
ballsy guys. Ballsy guys have the strongest internally
defined reality because they are deluded in their sense of
entitlement, strength, capacity and abilities.
For a girl to spend time with a ballsy risk taking guy she
will be very aroused because she will always react to him.
BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY that type of guy is high
value to her because he has a very powerful feeling of
internal strength that the girl wants more of in her own
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reality. She feels safe, and therefore good, when she is with
a man with a strong reality.
Thats what it means to have a strong reality, and thats
why it is important to have one. Its just as important to
have the right type of strong reality.
How do you go from having weak reality to a strong one?
In short: nominate your path and goals and follow them.
Seek to remove blindspots. Adhere to firmly to your
personal boundaries. And come into congruence with
Presence, Positive-Dominance and being a Man of Action.
Are there different degree of Alphaness and Betaness? Yes.
But somewhere between the two there is a DEFINITE
divide point, this idea is more important than the degree to
which someone is alpha or beta. The varying degrees of
alphaness depends on how many times (socially and
emotionally) that the guy is reactive, relies on his context
for confidence, how often he takes value and how often he
asserts value taking. Degrees of betaness depends on how
often a beta male or female has core confidence, is reactive,
offers value and is assertive with that value.
How do you know when you are an alpha male? You are an
alpha male when your own (social and emotional) opinions
of yourself are more important to you than the reactions
and opinions of other people. But this is only true if you
have no blind-spots.
Can beta males get girls? Yes, if they have a stronger
reality than the girls. But its easy for the beta males reality
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good inner game you will have good natural game, without
it you wont. It all comes back to the way you think about
yourself and your reality. It starts with inner game. Its the
root of the meaning and purpose of your life and it flows on
to all aspects of your life.
Inner game is a complicated thing and a lot of it is pointless
mental masturbation. But the relevant ideas and concepts
can change a person deeply. Differences in peoples inner
game can give different meanings to identical actions. A
persons inner game can give a million different meaning to
the word hello. With the right inner game your hello
could be all you need to pick up a girl.
Once you get past the superficiality of outer game, things
like moves, lines and routines you realize that they all
count for nothing unless you think right and you do it
effortlessly and automatically every day. Your moves,
lines and routines need to be coming from the right
place. With good inner game you just BE right. You just
ARE right. You dont act (like an actor) but rather
authentically behave right.
Dont get me wrong. Outer game can be good for some
instant successes and some faking it until you make it. But
in the long term, if you really want to master the game
and your dating life or become consistently attractive to
girls, getting your head right is the final frontier. Outer
game is intermediate. Outer game is the language of inner
game.
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negatively.
Until you accomplish good inner game, until you take the
time and experiences - to get your head in the right place,
you will be continually plagued by frustrations of
inconsistency. In some cases, when your headspace is so
far removed from the correct paradigm, it can drive you
insane resulting in a worse belief system and
consequential generation of worse automatic behaviours
than before. Such is the repercussions of neglecting your
inner game.
What then, is good inner game? What is the goal or Holy
Grail of inner game?
The belief that your game is a fucken ten. Sort of.
Im absolutely certain that the best possible known mindset,
the best possible inner game, is to truly believe that your
game is a fucking ten.
The guys who have this mindset are the best. Tim said it
and Tim automatically behaves in ways that are profoundly
naturally attractive. There are several other guys who are
well known to RSD who also truly have this mindset. Ive
had stints where I walked around thinking my game is a
fucken ten and during those times my game was onfucking-fire. Its a scarily powerful mindset with scarily
powerful influence. Its almost overwhelming.
But I, like everyone had the little concerns creeping in. Ego
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I was cruising around getting a feel for the place with Chief
when I first saw her. When I first laid eyes on her her, I just
stopped. She was standing there all arrogantly, nonplussed
over the attention she was getting from yet another pack of
random annoying immature guys trying to impress her.
Chief noticed her at the same time - his response was
something like damnId like to slap that.
But Im RSD. In my mind I thought thats for me. So I said
to Chief with self-assurance on a level that only I have, and
Probably Tim, Thats for me. But I also thought thats
not for me yet! I have Bootcamp to annihilate. Students are
always plan A, as much as I could love this stunning
goddess.
The students are keen as. After tasting some day game
glory, they are straight into their sets, inside, outside, dance
floor, smoking zone. Everywhere. Except Vladimir. Hes
still crippled by approach anxiety. Vladimir has all the
hallmarks of Dracula from Romania. He could be crazy. He
could lash out and destroy me. Well, as an instructor that's
just something I guess Im going to have to deal with. Hes
going to get good even if I get destroyed.
The coaching dynamics begin. Hes freaking out. A
massive guy who could crush the skulls of living men is
scared of approaching cute little girls. One of my other
students is a virgin and he is on fire. The other student is
exhausted from making vigilante (citizen) arrests during the
day, but still, he goes to work entertaining himself and
me, trying to convince girls hes a missionary from the
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contact with her too. Ill talk to her later. Unless chode
footballer can get her - which I doubt.
I debrief Vlad and hes cool. Another experience in the
bank and hes getting cooler by the minute. Im on edge
because I alone realize the potential catastrophe that was
averted. Then I think again, fuck Im good at this. Team
JIGJAM represent. Alexander~ FTW Lolz, eh doesnt
afraid of anything. Vlad goes into set. I spend time talking
scientology with Swiftace, who is now giving sensual
exorcisms and I note that Anu~ is Nimbusing and tearing
the place apart. He couldnt-not smile if he tried.
Its getting late and things are going swimmingly. Students
are running around and the club is getting emptier. Im
going overtime because everyone is having fun and Im
loving this new club. Im loving Sydney, Im loving my job
and I love Bootcamp. Life is good.
At about 3AM, Im swaggering through the club - Nimbus
flaring away - to check on one of the students who had
been sitting inside with some girls. Out of the blue,
someone approaches me from behind speaking in a girl
Eastern European accent.
Just as I had forgotten the gorgeous girl, shed come back
into my life.
She opened me.
Before she can complete her first syllable, I think: Done.
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back to my house.
Driving through the streets of Sydney at almost 4AM can
be dangerous. Sydney is a drug pit, fuelled by racial
violence. You have to keep your wits about you. While
driving through some late night taxi traffic, a guy jumps
our taxi. My adrenaline shoots through the roof. I prepare
myself for the worst. Another potential roadblock to the
glory at hand.
But its OK. Its just a gay dude, drugged and boozed out of
his mind, wearing a fishnet top. Shameless homosexual. He
gets in and tries to tell the taxi driver to take us in another
direction. The Polish glamorous girl is highly entertained
and using these other stimulants to test my patience and
congruence. The gay dude has accosted my taxi and now he
has engaged my girl. My experience tells me to let it play
itself out. I command the taxi driver to drop the gay guy off
where he wants to go. The gay guy is hitting on me and
trying to flirt with me, saying such grotesque shit like
asshole is better than punani. Fucking hell.
The gay guy turns to the driver and tried to get touchy with
him. The driver is Middle Eastern and homophobic deluxe.
They start yelling at each other to the tune of you should
kill yourself. Racial slurs and sexist slurs fly back and forth.
The girl is getting unsettled and not having fun. I hold my
frame. Right now the game is mine to lose. I just have to
keep my cool. No sweat, yet.
The driver is pissed, he slams on the breaks and tells the
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gay guy to get the fuck out. The gay guy tells him hes a
dirty smelly immigrant with chocolate salty balls. I cant
believe this and I expect him to shoot or stab the guy. I say
nothing and claw the girl in. Play it out Alex, play it out.
The driver shoves him out of the taxi and the homo tells
him to suck his little pink dicky wicky. What the fuck. I
love Sydney. Well, at least now we're heading back to my
place. But now the driver has more material to entertain the
gorgeous girl with. Annoying. I just stay with the push pull
and ignore the chode who drives the taxi. The girl loves it. I
wish he would stop. Play it outI picked her up - hes
driving the taxi. Let self-trust prevail.
We drive and the vibe builds up. Her buying temperature
amps up. In the middle of their conversation, I push the girl
away and she predictably springs back. Then I pull her in
and kiss her neck. Taxi driver is still talking to her. I kiss
the girl on the mouth. The girl responds hard. Im rough.
Taxi driver is waiting for the girl to reply to whatever shit
he is saying, only to realize that shes kissing me. I see him
in the side rearview mirror looking dejected. Youre out of
the game chode. Just focus on getting us to the after party
mate.
We get to my place and the girl is astonished with the view
at night. I lived in Hunters hill and the view from the place
was really beautiful. I pay taxi chode and send him off into
the night. We head up the stairs to the kitchen. The house is
quiet and dark. I turn on lights, turn on music and get out
some drinks. Im relieved to be home and clear of any more
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OH COME-ON! Assssssssssssssssss
hoooooooooooooooole.
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SO!? Where are the people for this party then asshole?!...
Ignore, swish.
you get me drink!
Ignore. Shoot, miss. Dammit. Beer.
I turn up the music. I keep shooting hoops. This is the party,
and a fun one. I am thoroughly entertained. Fuck I love nerf
hoops.
One of my roommates comes out from his room, fat and
white and bleary eyed. He surveys the situation. Me and hot
girl dancing around playing nerf hoops drinking his beer.
He addresses us.
Hur Dur. Hur Durrrrrrr, Hur Durrr, Matt Daaaaaaamon.
He goes back to his bedroom and slams the door as though
to teach me a lesson. Lesson learned - dont be a squid and
spend the Saturday nights of your life playing network
games. Go out and pick up stunning girls and put them on
the dog couch back at your place while you drink beer and
play nerf hoops.
The girl is getting frustrated that she cant sway my
attention from nerf hoops. She climbs up on my kitchen
bench and starts to dancing seductively showing a lot of
skin.
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Next time you will have to pay for it! Implying that the
way she dances on my benchtop is worth paying for.
Negative. Though I would pay for beer and nerf hoops. Fun
times.
She turns up the music while shes dancing on my kitchen
table. At this, my other roommate and his fatty girlfriend
stumbles out into the light of the living room.
Hur durrrrrrr, hur hur hur hur dur dur. Its late man hurr
durrr. They waddle back to their bedroom.
Noted, but not prioritized. Back to beer and nerf hoops and
partying with the girl. The girl is laughing at them
condescendingly. Or maybe she understands the
international language of hur dur.
Im getting good at getting the ball in the nerf hoops.
Balancing a Melbourne bitter in one hand and defending
against the glamorous wannabe-Russian. Im in the zone.
Im on fire, sinking consecutive shots. Russian is speaking
in my ear but I am focused. I am the Hakeem Olajuwon of
nerf. With hot detractions, still I sink. In triumph, I hug the
HB-something. Then I push her onto the dog couch.
OH COME-OOOOOOOOOOON!!!! She kisses me. I
remember that she is really hot and all the drama that I
overcame to actually get her home.
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