Love Systems Insider

Date: January 2010

Use Humor to Get Initial Attraction - Three Techniques by

Big Business
Hey guys,

Quick Quiz: The best way to break through that first shield women put up when a stranger
approaches them is to:

A) Wear crazy outlandish clothes that make her notice you.

B) Use humor and make her laugh.

C) Tell her something great about yourself.

D) Say something insulting so she knows you don’t take her seriously.

We’ve known for a while that the answer is (B). The data doesn’t lie. Making her laugh is the
best and easiest way to the “hook point” where a woman stops wondering what you want and
starts enjoying the conversation.

And, it’s not just ANY kind of humor either. You don’t want to be try-hard or a clown.

Attraction humor is kind of a funky skill. It’s easy to teach on a Love Systems live bootcamp,
because we can work on your delivery, tonality, timing, and what exactly to say – live, in real
pickups with beautiful women – until you’re getting it right.

It’s not normally easy to teach with words on a page, unless you happen to have access to
someone who is both:

1. A highly-accomplished and knowledgeable pick up artist, and

2. An extremely talented, successful, and experienced comedian.

I’m talking of course about New York-based Love Systems instructor Big Business. So sit tight,
take notes, and use these introductory techniques to “break through her shield” tonight.

My three favorite ways to make people laugh in bars...

By Big Business, professional seduction coach and stand-up comedian

When I got started doing pickup, I noticed that making people laugh was an incredibly quick
way to get interest from beautiful women. Not only that, but it made dealing with their male and
female friends a lot easier.

There are a lot of reasons why this works so well – I’m not going to rehash what you already
know from reading the seduction bible Magic Bullets. Just remember that humor makes you an
asset to whomever you are talking to because laughter releases chemicals that make people feel
good.

Now, a lot of people think that becoming funny isn’t possible. They think that you just have to
be born that way. NOT TRUE. As someone who’s been doing stand-up comedy for six years in
New York City, I can tell you that I’ve seen a TON of people go from awful to incredible. All it
took was the proper instruction and lots and lots of practice.

(They were also willing to make mistakes and learn from their mistakes, which is an incredible
skill set to have when meeting women as well, but that’s a whole other story.)

At the moment, I’m currently working on a one day seminar to help guys become funnier when
they are talking to women. Right now I’m going to share with you my three favorite ways to
make strangers laugh in bars.

Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #1 – Self-Deprecation

The average guy (who hasn’t found Love Systems) tries to make himself look as cool as possible
by bragging about his job, his body, and his history.
Doing the opposite – as long as it’s obvious that you’re pretending – is one of the easiest ways to
make people laugh. For example:

• Tell people that you are a virgin and that this is your first time meeting women.
• Explain how living in your parents’ basement is actually a lot cooler than it sounds.
• Let everyone know that you are actively stalking your last ten girlfriends (or should I say
“the last ten girls who made the mistake of telling you where they lived...”).
Just make sure it’s obvious that you’re joking without a lame “just kidding” at the end. Pick
things to say that anyone meeting you for the first time would know can’t be true.

Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #2 – Ridiculous Statements

This is somewhat similar to self-deprecation because you’re also saying things that are obviously
not true. But instead of being negative, they’re just ridiculous.

They key to using ridiculous statements is to back them up with good specifics. Specifics make
something funnier and more “realistic” even if it’s obviously not true. For example:

• “I’m pretty excited. I finally got my pet zebra in the mail.”

• “I heard that astronauts drink for free in this bar. Is that true? Being in space makes me
thirsty.”
• “I just got back from Australia. Did you know that they call oral sex ‘going up’ over
there?”
My favorite thing about ridiculous statements is that sometimes you don’t even have to make
them up. If you ever trip over your words or get confused about the details in a story, then that
can be the start of a great ridiculous statement. Pretend that the mistake is what you meant to
say. Stick with it and see where it goes.

Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #3 – Misinterpretation

This started out as one of my favorite games to play in bars and ended up being a great way to
make people laugh. Because bars are so loud, I’d pretend like I misheard people and respond to
things they didn’t say...
 THEM: “So, where did you grow up?”

BIG BUSINESS: “No, I don’t need another drink. Thanks, though.”

Then I thought, “this would be even funnier if it wasn’t loud at all.” I started mishearing things
in quiet bars and it got even better reactions than before, so long as they could tell that I was
kidding.

After a while I started misinterpreting everything. Some nights, just for fun, I would decide to
interpret everything I heard the exact same way, regardless of what it was...

THEM: “Do you know what time it is?”

BIG BUSINESS: “Wow. Are you really going to hit on me like that without even asking
my name?”

Or

THEM: “I grew up in Philadelphia.”

BIG BUSINESS: “Wow. Are you really going to hit on me like that without even asking
my name?”

If you’re going to go out and try misinterpretation tonight, make sure you are mishearing them
in a way that makes you look good. For example, always assume they are hitting on you, or are
asking for your phone number, or trying to buy you a drink.

So in a way, this is kind of the opposite of Attraction Humor Secret #1 – Self-Deprecation. I

deliberately chose a couple of attraction humor techniques that are pretty similar, so if you get
one of them, you should be good at all three.

As with anything, practice makes perfect, so don’t be afraid to go out there and land flat a few
times. At least you’ll have a good time doing it!

- Big Business

Big Business is a professional Love Systems dating coach based in New York and a successful
stand-up comedian. He leads the exclusive Love Systems Humor, Improv, and Attraction one-
day seminar.
Big Business is also available for private 1-1 instruction and telephone training. Email or call
(+1 323-836-0150 ext.110) our Program Manager Jeremy to book an appointment.

Big Business also recommends the following resources for humor and attraction:

• IVS Volume 3 – Storytelling with Sinn and Future

• IVS Volume 6 – Identity with Tenmagnet, Sinn, and Future
• IVS Volume 23 – Cold Reads with Savoy and The Don
• IVS Volume 30 – Teasing with Braddock and Dahunter
• IVS Volume 32 – Role Plays with Cajun and Tenmagnet
• IVS Volume 35 – Humor with Braddock and Cajun

Good luck using these techniques. Make sure you let everyone know how well they worked out
for you on The Attraction Forums.

Take care,

Savoy

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