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“A Doctor’s Confession to the City of Florence…”
Dear Friend,
Confessions are tough. Real
tough. But, sometimes a confession
can set the record straight, and
I want to give credit where
credit is due. Before I talk about
my confession, though, let me
say a few other things first.
Let me start by explaining
the photo in this letter. You
know, when I meet people in
town they usually say, “Oh,
yeah, I know you, you’re Dr
.Strickland, I’ve seen your ad
with that picture of you and the
little boy.” Well, I’m the guy on
the left.
Ten years ago something hap-
pened to me that changed my
life forever.
Back when I was freshman in
college, I injured my back while
water skiing. The pain in my
low back and leg was so intense
that I couldn’t even walk, and
sometimes I needed help getting
out of bed. I was afraid that I’d
lose the ability to even walk if
the disability
continued. After months of
prescription drugs, that did
more to disrupt my life than
ease the pain and numerous
steroid injections, I was told
that surgery was the only
option. Little did I know what
would happen. I lost a semester
in college (6 months of my life),
and was not better. But there’s
more.
A friend of mine convinced
me to give a chiropractor a try.
The chiropractor did an exam,
took some films, and then
“adjusted” my spine. The adjust-
ment didn’t hurt, it actually felt
good. I got relief, and I could
walk without pain again. It
worked so well that I went to
chiropractic school myself.
Now for Branton, who is the
little boy in the photo. About
two years ago he was plagued
with ear infections and chest
congestion. He took many
medications and even had to
have tubes in his ears. Imagine,
a little boy not being able to
play outside with his friends, he
was afraid of getting sick. After
we started to adjust him, the ear
infections and congestion start-
ed to improve immediately, and
now, his problems are only
occasional. He is able to run
And why, despite all, I still do what I do…
and play like kids should be able
to. That seems like a small
thing, but it makes a huge differ-
ence to him.
It’s strange how life is, because
now people come to see me
with their carpal tunnel syn-
drome problems. Also they
come to me with their
headaches, migraines, chronic
pain, neck pain, shoulder/arm
pain, whiplash from car acci-
dents, backaches, ear infections,
asthma, sinus/allergies, numb-
ness in limbs, athletic injuries,
just to name a few.
Here’s what some of my
patients had to say:
“I had headaches almost everyday of
my life for years; Dr. Strickland put
an end to that in a few adjustments!”
- (D. Kirkland-Florence. SC)
“I suffered with chronic pain for over
25 years. I tried numerous different
treatments including medication,
physical therapy, and even surgery.
A friend of mine told me about Dr.
Strickland. With his help, I am now
able to sleep through the night.
Thanks to my friend and Dr. Strickland” -
(H. Davis, Timmonsville, SC)
“I couldn’t sit, stand, or even lie
down without pain. After a couple of
visits, my low back and leg pain are
gone!” (K. Turner-Florence, SC)
Several times a day patients
thank me for helping them with
their health problems. But I
can’t really take the credit. My
confession is that I’ve never
healed anyone of anything.
What I do is perform a specific
spinal adjustment to remove
nerve pressure, and the body
responds by healing itself. We
get tremendous results. It’s a
simple as that!
Being a chiropractor can be
tough, because there’s a host of
so-called experts out there.
They tell people a lot of things
that are just plain ridiculous
about my profession. But the
studies speak for themselves,
like the Virginia study that
showed that 99% of patients
who saw a chiropractor were
satisfied with their results.
That’s just incredible!
Seventy-five million
Americans no longer have
health insurance, and those
who do have found that their
benefits are reduced. That’s
where chiropractic comes in.
Many people find that they
actually save money on their
health care expenses by seeing a
chiropractor. Another way to
save, studies show that chiropractic
can double your immune capac-
ity, naturally and without drugs.
The immune system fights
colds, flues, and other sickness-
es. So you may not be running
off to the doctor as much. This is
especially important if you are self-
employed. And, an entire week
of care in my office may cost
what you could pay for one visit
elsewhere.
You Benefit from an Amazing
Offer- Look, it shouldn’t cost
you an arm and a leg to correct
your health. You are going to
write a check to someone for
you health care expenses, you
may as well write one for a lesser
amount for chiropractic. When
you bring in this article (by
April 1, 2009) you will receive
my entire new patient exam for
$27. That’s with x-rays and a
thorough health
evaluation….the whole ball of
wax. This exam could cost you
$250 elsewhere. And, further
care is very affordable and you’ll
be happy to know that we have
affordable family plans. You
see I’m not trying to seduce you to
come see me with this low start up
fee, then to only make it up with
high fees after that. Further care is
very important to consider
when making your choice of
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very quickly.
Great care at a great fee…
Please, I hope that there’s
no misunderstanding about
quality of care just because I
have a lower exam fee. You’ll
get great care at a great fee. My
qualifications…I grew up in the
Pee Dee and love it here. I’m a
graduate of Palmer College in
Davenport, Iowa. Throughout
my career I have wanted to
return to the Pee Dee Region
and thankfully I was able to join
Dr. McKay and Dr. Skipper. I
am happy to be back where I
belong and doing what I love,
helping people through chiro-
practic and natural healthcare.
I’ve been entrusted to take care
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843-669-1010. Call Debbie or
Leah today for an appointment.
We can help you. Thank you.
-Dr. Craig Strickland
P.S. When accompanied by the
first, I am also offering the second
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contents
80 88 92

in every issue
14 Letter from the Editor 60 Shop Talk 124-125 Beauty Buzz
The Forum Spa
16 She mail 130 Fabulous Finds
68 Mary Unmarried
22 In His Own Words Mary R. Dittman, MBA 132 The Sir-Vey
Ed Young
70 There She Goes 136 Who’s That Girl?
47 The World According to Katherine Lawhon
Tressa Gardner 72 And She Cooks,Too!

48 She’s Closet 102 Women at Work Celebrate Your Age!

Carla C. Graham, MD 30 • 32-33 • 34 • 36
50 Ring, Ring, Ring!
The League of Women Voters
108 Chicks of the Month
54 She Wants to Know Doctor’s Care in Florence 38
How to Rock a Great Pair
59 Wee She 122 Ask Dr. Avie
Callie Elizabeth Bryant Avie J. Rainwater, III, PhD, ABPP of Jeans at any Age
104-105

contributing writers
24 Marti Miller
110 Ferebe Gasque 126 Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC
Anticipation
Feeling Nifty About My Fifties Make Peace with Your Age
26 Jumana A. Swindler
112 Aron Cannon Smith 128 Allie Atkinson
First Fiddle in Middle Age
Celebrating My Age Laughing and Dancing
44 Beth Grant
116 Melodie Griffin
The Grandmother I Always
Thought I’d Be Best Days Straight Ahead

62 Cookie Cawthon 118 Anna K. Pitts

This Day and Age Loving Life...At Any Age
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letter from the editor

melia flowers berr y

C E L E B R AT E YO
march 2010
U R AG E
Friends,

Eight years ago, She Magazine became more than just a dream inside my heart as the first issue
was published. I could have never imagined what was in store for She – and me – when this journey began. I
was thirty-six-years-old at the time. And, while I’m not complaining, the truth is, I worked so hard at building this
magazine, I lost track of time until the reality of my fortieth birthday set in.
Turning forty was a wake-up call for me. Although I wasn’t afraid or didn’t dread that birthday milestone,
it did open my eyes to the fact that I wouldn’t be young forever and it was time that I put myself on the priority
list. Raising children and building a business (especially at the same time) leaves no time for oneself, certainly not if
it’s done right.
A few months prior to the big birthday, I started to see the light. (That light may have
been coming from the fire of forty candles on a birthday cake looming in my future; but, nonethe-
less, it was a light.) I think there are many pluses to growing older – and growing wiser is per-
haps the best one. Turning forty was very liberating for me because it was at that point I began
to feel – for the first time in my life – that it was not only okay, but crucial to think of my own
needs. For most of my life, that hadn’t even been an option.
Now, at forty-four, I’m a lot gentler on myself. By nature, I take care of others, so the
transition hasn’t been easy. And, I’m still a work-in-progress. However, I have been pretty diligent in
finding a little time for me here and there. I have also discovered that, with age, I’m getting a bit
more outspoken at times, which may come from being less concerned with what others think of
me and more concerned with being true to myself.
All things considered, growing older is not a bad thing. I’m actually enjoying it. However, I will
tell you that after getting contacts a couple months ago, I did discover that I’m not escaping the
signs of aging as well as I thought I was prior to actually being able to see myself clearly in my
makeup mirror. Now, that was a real eye-opener! (No pun intended.)
In the South, one of the things you learn early on is that it’s not polite to ask a woman
her age. This month, in our annual CELEBRATE YOUR AGE Issue, we threw that out the window.
The one requirement for entry into this issue was that you tell your age. And nothing was off
limits! I wanted the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth in regards to how women
feel about their ages. In the group I chose for this issue, not one woman hesitated to comply.
In fact, all were proud of their ages and were happy to tell all! I wish you could have been a fly
on the wall at the photo shoot for the CELEBRATE YOUR AGE feature stories. Unfortunately,
I’ll just have to leave it at that. Collin Smith’s Studio is like Vegas; what happens in Collin Smith’s
Studio, stays in Collin Smith’s Studio! Just know that 93-year-old Jewell Insell still has the moves!
From twenty-something Lindsay Haselden to the fabulous Mrs. Helen Abernathy White at
one-hundred-and-three, our CELEBRATE YOUR AGE Issue proves that age is just a number, and
you truly are as young as you feel.
More than one hundred women of all ages put on our pink CELEBRATE YOUR AGE T-shirts
and joined in the celebration. And it doesn’t stop with this issue. If you are proud of your age
and want to help us celebrate ours, join us on Facebook and post your picture, age and a quote that says how you
This is feel about being where you are in your life.
As another year in She Magazine’s history comes to a close, just like the mother in me struggles to grasp
She Magazine’s that my children are now grown, I can hardly believe that this “Baby” is eight-years-old. I have loved every minute
and every issue along the way. I cherish the relationships that I have been blessed with because of She Magazine.
Birthday Issue, I am thankful for you, our loyal readers, and I am thankful for every advertiser whose support makes this magazine
possible. I’m also thankful for the incredibly talented staff that is our She family.
and we are Most of all, I am grateful to God, Whom I work for. Although I still wonder why – out of all the more
qualified people He could have chosen – He chose to put me at the helm of this wonderful magazine that has

celebrating Our become so much more than just a magazine.

Happy Birthday, to She Magazine, and to all of you fabulous women of every age!
Enjoy this issue . . . It’s a woman thing!
Birthday by
celebrating Yours! Melia
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Dear She,
She: mail
I just wanted to let you
know what an amazing job you
are doing with She Magazine!
You have come a long way, Baby,
and you’re still going! You are
truly amazing and seem to thrive
at all you attempt to do.
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(She Magazine/Facebook © 2010)
Dear She,
I love the new recipe page
in She! It’s a great addition!
So, Happy Birthday, She Magazine! We’re
Deborah Rogers,Marion grateful for the reading and, well, sometimes cut-outs, too!
(She Magazine/Facebook © 2010)
Dear She,
As a former manager of one of Florence’s bridal boutiques, wonderful
memories still linger. One being that every month, a new stack of She
Magazines would be delivered to our front door. You would not believe how
we (employees and the customers) would anticipate this magazine’s arrival!
However, what really left permanent impressions on my heart is how my
granddaughter, Caitlin (who was only six-years-old at the time) and her younger
sister, Ashlyn (then four) would see me approaching with the book-too-big-to-
hide and – totally out of character for them – they would ignore me, Nana, to
get to their fun magazine – She! No hugs or kisses for Nana until they had
checked out all the pages!
I learned that some things you must share and, to my delight, one of
them is She Magazine for me and my gals. (And, now I have a third granddaugh-
ter, Madison, who will soon know all about you, too.)
To be a magazine only eight-years-old, I have to say, “Hats off to
ya!” To capture the mind of such young girls yet still be able to bring warmth
to women of all ages – including mine (53) – She Magazine is a blessing. It shows
that life is wonderful, and you can have fun at any age.
And, because I believe there is a little girl in all of us – no matter our
age – who wants to just be what God has created us for, I can now say that I
think being my age is great, too! With age comes wisdom and discernment, and
I’m thinking that this Nana and her three granddaughters are most grateful to
celebrate our ages, as well as yours.
Debbie Howell, Florence

Dear She,
You and your staff are doing a great job Dear She,
with She Magazine! Keep up the good work! I love She’s February issue! The
I always enjoy reading it. story on Michele and Leon Pennington
Laura H.White, Marion is wonderful! When you see them,
(She Magazine/Facebook © 2010)
whether you know them personally or
not, you see that love. They are
absolutely inspiring!
Dear She, Lisa Wall Easterling, Florence
(She Magazine/Facebook © 2010)
I want to congratulate
you and your staff for eight
Dear She,
wonderful years of publish-
I have read with interest and empa-
ing She Magazine. Keep up thy about the loss of Melia Berry’s father.
the good work! She certainly has a way of capturing her
feelings and, as a writer myself, I love to
Become Friends Melanie Kostoff,
read her stories.
I have said many times that She
With Us On Florence Magazine is the best magazine I’ve read.
Facebook! And, that is a true compliment having lived
in DC with Washingtonian Magazine and
living in Columbia, as well. Their publica-
tions don’t hold a candle to She!

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MARCH 2010 1. 2. 3.

In Every Issue
1. J. Marshall Dent, MD is Board Certified in Family Practice & Obstetrics and
Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine. He can
be contacted at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence. This month, in keeping 4. 5. 5.

Contributors
with the health and fitness theme, Dr. Dent explains how insulin resistance leads to
weight gain.

2. Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP This month, She Magazine is happy to
bring to our readers the debut of ASK DR. AVIE - A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE ON
THINGS WOMEN CARE ABOUT. A Senior Partner of LifeCare Psychology Group,
LLC, Dr. Avie J. Rainwater is the only Triple-Boarded Psychologist in SC, holding
Specialty Certification in Clinical Psychology and Sub-Specialty Designations in both
Biofeedback and Pain Management. He and his wife of 31 years, Karen, have three
children together. Chelsea, Seth and Josh.
6. 7. 8.
3. Melodie Griffin "My birthday was always a huge deal growing up - a themed
party every year and lots of laughs and giggles.Through the years, the hoopla has
dwindled, but I'm thinking that I don't like that trend. Since I'm turning 41 this year, I
told my family that I would like for us to do 41 different things to celebrate! Let the
fun begin!

4. Erika Chapman "I can hardly believe I am 35 years old. I like my 30's though. They
make me feel comfortable and confident like my favorite, well-worn blue jeans and soft,
hug-your-skin, gray t-shirt."
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5. Ouida K Page “I am continuing to process dealing with my age and all of the
changes that occurring .I am trying to wear the latest make-up, buy cute clothes and fix
myself up. I try to work out at the YMCA regularly and eat really healthy foods with lots of
salads. Chasing my poodles keeps me young and healthy”.

6. Cookie Cawthon is 36 and thinks this stage of life is her fave so far. "There's
something to be said for liking myself more as I grow older. It's not necessarily
because I am becoming a better person but because I understand grace more," she
offers. She aspires to a super fun balance between grace and sass as she ages :-)
12.. 13.
7. Jumana Swindler “As I inch toward my 50th B-Day, there have been slight
clues along the way that middle age just may be catching up.The half a century mark
looms ahead. For me, a signal of my maturity is the reticence to relinquish control of
traditional joys and substitute them with the convenience of modern technology.”

8. Ferebe Gasque “Fifty-six is a great age. I'm old enough to feel comfortable
with who I am.Yet, I'm young enough (and, thankfully, healthy enough) to explore new
adventures and learn new things. I'm old enough to appreciate the little surprises of
life and young enough to discover them.” ferebe.she@earthlink.net.

9. Marti Miller anticipates being content to be any age, so 55.8 suits

her just fine. Martilives and writes in Marion, SC and enjoys life, with love and
laughter. Pig collections are important to these pursuits - especially the flying vari-
ety.They do fly. Really, they do.
10. Anna Pitts This year I'm celebratin' new beginnings! Twenty-seven is the perfect age for
me to get hitched! I feel like I know myself and love myself enough now that I am completely
ready to love someone else and share life with that person without giving up or hiding anything
about who I truly am. I am twenty-seven years closer to who God made me to be!
11. Paige Self Thomas says,“I now know why they call this the downhill side of life.
At the age of 52, I don't feel like ANYTHING is working like it used to, especially my mind!
My mother told me she looked and felt younger than her age until she turned 50, then it
seemed to speed the other way. I thought she was teasing. . .I see that she wasn't. Am try-
ing to learn to slow down. . .and be happy and grateful for all the little things.”
12. Allie Atkinson “I have always enjoyed whatever age I am. God has blessed my
life at each and every age so how could I possibly complain.”
13. Mary Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director of the
Internship Program in the School of Business at Francis Marion University. She con-
sults for a variety of local and regional companies and is actively involved in the
Florence community. Her new column “Mary Unmarried” is catching on quite quickly.
In This Issue
14. Cheri Jordan “At one time 37 sounded REALLY OLD. Now that I have
reached that age, I’ve found that it’s not so bad after all. My four children help keep
me young. I can still climb trees, play a mean game of soccer, and I’m current on all
the hip lingo. God has blessed me with good health and I celebrate being 37!”
15. Sharon Bixler I really don't focus on age, I think relationship is of much
more importance. How much less people would complain if they focused on
others and their relationship with them; and maybe they would feel younger and
less stressed.
16. Beth Grant “"I'm still a little girl at heart and I don't feel half a century at all!"
17.. Dr. Fred M. Krainin is an Interventional Cardiologist who performs many diag-
nostic and interventional procedures in the McLeod Cardiac Catheterization laboratory.He is
in practice with Pee Dee Cardiology Associates.
18.. Aron Smith “I love being in the middle of my thirties. And, I know
that the things I’m learning now will help to make the next decade even
better than this one.”

14. 15. 16. 17. Artist Spotlight

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in this issue of She.When she’s not taking photos for She magazine, she enjoys taking
photos of gymnasts at The Gymnastics Center of Hartsville and taking photos of anything
and everything nature.

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IN his OWN WORDS

ED YOUNG
AT 89-YEARS-OLD, I don’t have many
thoughts about how old I am. Actually, I never think about how old I
am. However, at my age, I have come to appreciate my faith. I know
that there is a power beyond myself. It is the Holy Spirit. It gives me
the strength to meet the challenges of every day. And, one of the most
important life-lessons I’ve learned is that age brings about more
patience.
For 64 of my 89 years, I have been blessed with wonderful
bride, Harriet. She has been such an important part of my life. (I mar-
ried over my head!) We have four beautiful daughters and seven won-
derful grandchildren in our family. And, those seven grandchildren are
truly grand! Ranging from elementary to college age, they keep me
young. They have terrific futures that I look forward to seeing.
Work also helps to keep me young because I know there’s
work to do on our farm every day. And, that work starts at 4:30 AM!
I love to farm. (I just wish I was good at it.) I farm cotton, wheat, corn
and soybeans. There are also cattle on the 1600 acres of land that my
father and my grandfather had before me.
Before I was a farmer, politics was a big part of my life. I
served in the House of Representatives in Columbia in 1957, 1958
and 1959. I had announced to run again when my father called
me in and said,“I can’t run this farm by myself; I want you to get
out.” I pulled my signs down. I didn’t run again until after
he died. Then, I ran for US Congress in 1972 and was
elected to the 93rd Congress. I ran again for Governor of
SC against Dick Riley. A bad thing happened to me in that
race; I didn’t get enough votes. (That’ll beat you every time.)
I still enjoy golf, music and flying airplanes. I learned to fly air-
planes when I was in the Army Air Corps in World War II. I earned
my Pilot’s Wings in 1942 and was in combat for two years in the South
Pacific flying P-38s, P-39s and P-40s. In 196 combat missions, I was
awarded the Distinguished Flying Cross and nine Air Medals. I
downed one Japanese Fighter when I was stationed in Guadalcanal,
New Guinea in World War II. This “I’m A Young Lover,” sticker contains the campaign slogan used during
The downside to getting older is constantly being concerned about my health. Mr. Young’s campaign for Governor of South Carolina in 1980.
Nevertheless, I’m thankful to have great nurses, doctors and hospitals in the Florence area. Mr. Young didn’t spend all of his time on the farm, however. He served as a
I think that men have it easier than women when it comes to growing older, though. Men Member of the South Carolina House of Representatives from 1958 to 1960. He served
aren’t too worried about how they look. as Chairman of the Pee Dee Production Credit Association and Chairman of the Florence
And, even though I don’t have too many mountains to climb now, adding more Federal Land Bank Association from the early 1960s until 1972 when he was elected to the
candles to my birthday cake is a good thing. More candles mean more sun-ups! And, more U.S. House of Representatives, where he served until 1974. Locally, he served as President
sun-ups is definitely a good thing! of the SC Jersey Cattle Club (1946); President of the Florence County Farm Bureau (1954);
President of the SC Association of Young Farmers, during which time he was named
Editor’s Note: “Due to the humble nature of Mr. Ed Young, his thoughts for IN HIS OWN WORDS
Outstanding Young Farmer of the Year (1955); President of the Coble Dairy Products Co-Op
were, for the most part, void of his accomplishments, which, I feel, are very much part of his
(1972-75); and he served on the SC State Development Board (1975-78). His civic accom-
“CELEBRATE YOUR AGE” journey. Please allow me, as Editor, to shed a little light on the giving
plishments include Chairman of the Florence County Heart Fund, Chairman of the Greater
nature of this wonderful man.” ~ Melia Flowers Berry
Florence Chamber of Commerce and President of the Florence Rotary Club. Mr.Young is
The Honorable Edward L.Young was born in 1920 in the Ebenezer Community a member and Deacon of the Ebenezer Baptist Church, a Sunday School Teacher and, for
of Florence County, South Carolina. He grew up on a farm and still lives and operates 43 years, he has served as a Radio Sunday School Broadcaster.
the farm his father and his father’s father ran before him. After graduating from Florence In addition to his farming endeavors and public service, Mr.Young branched out
High School in 1937, Mr.Young went on to Clemson College, where he graduated in 1941 into other business areas, including motel operations, a country club and diversified real
with a BS in Dairying. Following college, he entered military service, where he earned estate developments. He was involved in the development of the Days Inn, the Swamp
the Distinguished Flying Cross and the Air Medal with Nine Oak Leaf Clusters for Pacific Fox Inn, the Ramada Inn in Florence and the Days Inn at Surfside Beach. He was instru-
Theatre Service during World War II. As a Squadron Commander, Mr. Young flew 196 mental in the founding of the Forest Lake Community and Oakdale Country Club. Mr.
combat missions, credited with downing one Japanese Fighter plane. Young is also part of a group that already owned and then donated the land for the
After service in World War II, Mr.Young returned to Florence County, where he Florence Civic Center and the Florence Veterans Park.
married Harriet Gray Yeargin on August 4, 1945. They have four daughters: Dr. Claudia The Honorable Ed Young is well respected in his community as a devoted family
Venable of Atlanta, Georgia; Harriet Charles of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina;Virginia Gean man, an active church and civic leader and is held in the highest personal regard by his
of Simi Valley, California; and Rebecca Madden of Atlanta, Georgia. Ed and Harriet (Hatsy) associates, colleagues and friends. Mr.Young has a warm personality and a true concern
have seven grandchildren. for his fellow man.
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ANTICIPATION by Marti Miller

if If the title word immediately conjures up visions of upside down ketchup (or cat-
sup) bottles, and a Carly Simon tune begins playing over and over in your head, we may share
similar birth years or decades.At the very least, we’ve shared some television watching time
– making us older than dirt couch potatoes. Either that or we have been gifted with total
recall. Let’s go with option two, shall we?
Regardless, this happy birthday issue brings the word to mind for me. With each
passing year, my anticipation of the birth day changes a bit.When I was a little girl (and, yes,
I can go back that far – total recall, remember?), anticipation was of the breathless and squeal-
ing variety. As a teenager, I feigned disdain for birthday cake while still remaining all breath-
less and squealy on the inside (except for that one year when the reality of a driver’s license
arrived with all it’s implied freedoms – or so I thought – anticipation met reality head-on that
year, only this time it was about holding of breath and squealing of tires). For some of the
the expanse of the sky to give light on the earth." And it was so. (not enough room to
quote the entire chapter, but verses 14-15 help us anticipate our birthdays?)

4. John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and
only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not
perish but have eternal life. (Is there anything
more anticipatory than that verse?)

5. Romans 8
We know that the whole creation has been
groaning as in the pains of childbirth right
highlighted birthdays - you know, the ones with their very own card sections, like 21 and 30 up to the present time. Not only so, but
- anticipation was rather intensified. When 40 and 50 arrived, anticipation was replaced by we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of
mild to severe trepidation.And now that 56 is looming on the not-so-distant horizon, happy the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait
anticipation has returned, as the alternative to celebrating another birthday is not a particu- eagerly for our adoption as sons, the
larly pleasant thought. With so much to live for right now, I just can’t wait for that ketchup redemption of our bodies. For in this
to start shlerping out of the bottle, all over this tasty Pizza Shak cheeseburger kind of life. hope we were saved. But hope that
But what is anticipation, after all? It’s mostly a positive word – goes toward opti- is seen is no hope at all.Who hopes
mism for a future, doesn’t it? When we think in terms of our faith, anticipation (or hope?) is for what he already has? But if we
really all we have to keep us going in the forward direction. And that’s a very good thing. hope for what we do not yet have,
Faithful anticipation can become expectation – like when we expect a miracle.And miracles we wait for it patiently. (verses 22-
still happen. Just ask families who have heard the worst from medical professionals, yet con- 25 overflow with anticipation, as we
tinue to pray and discover a miracle of healing for a loved one. It can and does happen, only we wait eagerly for the hope that is ours)
don’t get to decide how or where or when or for whom. Some might even try to explain them
away. I choose to simply believe and anticipate the next one. And those are just the top
Of course, anticipation can sometimes take a turn toward pessimism – like await- five verses referenced for 2009. The
ing the dentist visit and wishing you had flossed on a much more regular basis between vis- remaining 20 are equally filled with
its, or going for that weekly weigh-in and regretting, too late, that third reward donut you anticipation and hope. Case in point:
snarfed up after last week’s successful scales encounter. Whoa, now. Not judging here, just number 13 on the list (and no, I am not
offering a few “what-if” scenarios to help identify the less positive aspects of anticipation. superstitious) – Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the
Let’s move on back to its more positive side now, shall we? plans I have for you," declares the LORD,
A thesaurus gives quite a few wonderful words as synonymous with anticipation – "plans to prosper you and not
words like awaiting, contemplation, expectancy, foresight, hope, joy, looking forward, prom- to harm you, plans to give
ise, prospect, and trust. Of course, it also gives words like apprehension, impatience, preoc- you hope and a future.
cupation and premonition. Guess that helps in describing the type of anticipation occurring H m m m .
as we approach some of our bigger birthdays, doesn’t it? Evidently we all seek ref-
Often when we anticipate events or outcomes or wonder about what’s coming erence to our greatest
next in our lives, we will turn to the Bible for support or clarification or comfort. Because I anticipation – the life
spent a good bit of time in front of a computer screen (do not judge, Matthew 7:1), I often eternal. To die is to truly
visit an online site like Bible Gateway (www.biblegateway.com) for quick reference by verse live. So… birthday,
or topic. In anticipation of writing this month’s article, I went there again and discovered that schmirthday – each one
they had published a list of the Top 25 Verses in 2009 (those most referenced online). brings me closer to that
Because I’m an avid list reader, and a bit of a Curious Georgette, I clicked on it. Portions of final anticipation. Maybe I
that list (the top 5, plus one, all in NIV) I will share with you now because they go directly won’t bother so much any-
to the topic word: Anticipation. See what you think : more with which number is
next, because, as the country
1. I Corinthians 13 (the love chapter – top verse look-up for 2009) For we know in part and song goes, I’m a winner either
we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. (verses 10-11, not way – if I go or if I stay. And, on
often referenced alone, but is there any greater anticipation than “when perfection comes”?) top of all that, the man of my
dreams (see February She) will
2. Psalm 23 always be older, no matter which of
Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house my birthdays is next. Hey, six months
of the LORD forever (Psalm 23:6 – the anticipation of dwelling in His house forever sort of is six months. No cougar town for
makes birthdays rather a minor event, yes?) this old broad. It’s time to cue the
Carly Simon song, pass the ketchup,
3. Genesis 1 and blow out all those candles
And God said, "Let there be lights in the expanse of the sky to separate the day from the again. Anticipation is everything?
night, and let them serve as signs to mark seasons and days and years, and let them be lights in

Marti Miller lives in Marion, SC and anticipates living life to its fullest while waiting for the ketchup to blurp out of the
bottle whenever it’s good and ready because she knows that good things come to those who wait…on the Lord.
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First Fiddle
in
Middle Age
Well they hit us right between the bifocals with this month's SHE
Magazine assignment. Yep ….Melia, has done it again. She targeted her
most vulnerable contributors with this one, me included, by plastering
the theme of Celebrate Your Age all over this edition.
For most people, partying it up for birthdays occurs when you
are very young and then again when you create a ruckus by being fortu-
nate enough to turn very old, a rite of passage sparked by the onset of
" middle age." Recognizing age apparently wanes a little during those
"off "years, after 21 and before 40.
My question is, how can you tell when you really arrive at
middle age? I mean everyone knows their start date, say June 15,
1960 (which was mine). Thankfully, God spares us the anxiety of
never knowing your personal expiration date before it happens.
But, when do you know you are actually in between -- in order to
call it your true "middle age"?
As I inch toward my 50th B-Day, there have been slight clues
along the way that middle age just may be catching up. The half a
century mark looms ahead. For me, a signal of my maturity is the ret-
icence to relinquish control of traditional joys and substitute them
with the convenience of modern technology.
Let me explain. I must be middle-aged because I still value things
done the "old" way - which younger staffers at work call "back in the
day" - like black and white movies, Frank Sinatra, comparing people to
Eddie Haskell from Leave it to Beaver episodes and bikes with brakes
that make you stop by pedaling backwards instead of squeezing the han-
dle bars. Or precious items like books rather than "Nooks" or "E-
books." Who wants to read a best seller in your palm, like Mr. Spock on
Star Trek (the Leonard Nimoy version, I might add), when you can buy a
great book and relish how the new book's pages smell. Also, I eat lots of
ice cream or drink loads of coffee when I read. Something you can't do
with electronic ones that disallow spillage on computer parts. Besides,
when I pass on my favorite historical novels to friends, there are tell tale
signs - - globs of butter pecan and fat free mocha smudges - - to reveal
who the original owner of the text is for its safe return.
Also, I've noticed that hang up mirrors - even the cherished
antique ones around the houses of my other "middle aged" friends, are
becoming replaced with precious artwork from the grands, photos of chil-
dren and their weddings or in the case of one unnamed colleague there's
a "lifetime" calendar. That's one that doesn’t have the year printed on it,
you move the dates each month with a little widget. "This is more than
for show, I really use it," she said. "I needed the wall space so I moved the
gold leaf mirrors out." Yeah sure. I thought….I did the same thing so I
wouldn't have to see my jowls in the foyer, too.
I think you know you're really middle aged when:
-You scour the town for low heel pumps for work, not because your
feet hurt, but you really can’t keep your balance anymore -
even without a glass of wine!
Jumana A. Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health.
Her personal favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies,
Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.
Sincerely Yours,
Jumana A. Swindler
• You sit in certain seats at church or in the theater, because you can’t
see or hear like you used to.And, surround sound isn't a luxury, it's a necessity
if you don’t have the subtitle in English option on your television.
• A trip to the dentist requires three visits "to fix those older cavities"
one more time.
• You no longer compare your age in dog years.
• Long trips now require more frequent breaks (not just to see the sights,
but to find the bathroom.)
• Memory jokes aren't funny anymore.
• You plan your own birthday parties because the surprise may be just
the one scare that takes you out! Incidentally, I turn 50 this summer, you
all are invited to the beach bash - if I can remember to have it.
Here's a list of my favorite quotes about aging:
• A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams. ~ John Barrymore
• Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter…
Life would be infinitely happier if we could only be born at the age of
eighty and gradually approach eighteen. ~ Mark Twain
• Middle age is when your age starts to show around your middle. ~Bob Hope
• Forty is the old age of youth; fifty the youth of old age. ~Victor Hugo
• I still have a full deck; I just shuffle slower now. ~Author Unknown
• It's sad to grow old, but nice to ripen. ~Brigitte Bardot
• Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because
they quit playing. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
• There is still no cure for the common birthday. ~John Glenn
• Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty - they
merely move it from their faces into their hearts. ~Martin Buxbaum
• The great thing about getting older is that you don't lose all the other
ages you've been. ~Madeleine L'Engle
• We turn not older with years, but newer every day. ~Emily Dickinson
• Old age ain't no place for sissies. ~Bette Davis
• You know you're getting old when all the names in your black book have
M.D. after them. ~Arnold Palmer
• Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. ~Henry Ford
And, my personal favorite is by Ralph Waldo Emerson -
The age of a woman doesn't mean a thing. The best tunes are played on the
oldest fiddles.!
Here's to you fiddlers out there everywhere. Feel free
and confident to celebrate your age and dance a jig or two!
Proverbs 20:29
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She Magazine’s second

annual Celebrate Your AGE
campaign was sponsored by
Dr. Sattele’s Rapid Weight Loss
& Fitness Center
Stuart Laurence Salon and
Genesis Cosmetic Laser Center
(all in Florence).

More than one hundred women of all ages put on our pink
CELEBRATE YOUR AGE T-shirts and joined in the celebration.
And it doesn’t stop with this issue. If you are proud of your
age and want to help us celebrate ours, join us on Facebook
and post your picture, age and a quote that says how you feel
about being where you are in your life.
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She Magazine • March 2010 • 31

Barbara Bennett & Lynda Grant

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Dr.Sattele’s Rapid Weight Loss Center

Bottom row (L-R):
Diane Jordan - age 60, Mitzi Lee age - 45,
Lola Altman age 68,
Anne Carraway age 65
Middle row starting left - Sheila Jordan age 45,
Lib Carter age - 68, Ashley Locklair age 25
top row starting left - Devin Cribb age 23,
Jo Hanna age - 66, Christine Welch age 55

Center For the Child , Florence

Pictured Back Row (L to R):

Whitney Reece 23
Margie R. Edwards 68
Gloria Ard 40
Anna Perkins 30

Pictured Front Row (L to R):

Mary Kathryn Jordan 26
Paige Thomas 52
Casey Jones 24

Marion Intermediate School

Pictured (L to R):

Ashley Hughes 27
Faye Joye 55
Frances Legette 55
Chyrel Legette 44
Lynn Skipper 34
Diana Jones 52
Ashley McColl 26
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Thanks to everyone who

participated in our
CELEBRATE YOUR AGE
t-shirt campaign, we
were able to celebrate
our 8th birthday with a
BANG!
McLeod Breast Imaging
(MORE PICTURES ON PAGES 34 & 36 Front row (L to R):Libby Aiken, 47; April Gordon, 32;
AND THROUGHOUT THIS ISSUE) Susan Baxley, 48; Ilissa Weaver, 20
Back row (L to R): Darlene Peters, 60; Maureen Byrd, 40;
Beth Kurilla, 45; Stephanie Steen, 52; Jilian Harrington, 27;
Debbie Christian,57; Ginny Edwards, 55; and
Debra Goodman, 46.

Florence Christian School

Pictured (L to R):

Kayla Dougherty, 37
Mary Rogers, 46
Margot Freeze, 59
Doreen Mies, 45
Amy Stone, 38

Carolina’s Hospital
Pictured (L to R):

Kim Peed, 38
Darlene Fulton, 41
Roxanne Hardwick, 53
Trish McLeod, 41
Beverly Shields, 51
Nancy Cathcart, 50
Barbara Trawick, 43
Cassie Britte, 29
Miranda Shefton, 46
Costa Cockfield, 49
Ronnie Calvert, 43
Tanya Manos, 48
Debbie Taylor, 32
34 2/25/10 10:30 AM Page 1

“ I am turning 30 in March and I feel it's

the beginning of something new, and
new is good! A new adventure because
30 is the new 20!

”
Candace Weatherford, 30, Florence

“ I am 38 years YOUNG!
Angel Benenhaley, 38, Florence
”
“ I love my age because
I can choose what I want
to do. I can go to school
and still change my mind
to be what I want to be

“ What I love most

about being 46 is being
when I grow up. I love my
age and wouldn't want to

”
secure with who I am be any other age.
and having the ability Heather Jordan, 19, Florence

to laugh at my
own mistakes.
Tammy Canty, 46 ,Florence
” “ I’m not an inexperienced girl anymore but a
mature woman that has learned from many
of life's hard lessons. I can look at myself in
the mirror now and know that I
made it. I might have a
few wrinkles, stretch
marks and some stray
hairs, but there's still a
spark in my eye and a
grin on my face and I'm
seasoned just right.

”
Patricia Thomas, 46 Florence
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She Magazine • March 2010 • 35

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“ I am young enough
to still get away
with acting silly
without looking
foolish.
”
Heather Frick, 25, Florence,

“ I'm old
enough to
know the
importance of
NOT acting
your age.
” “ofIt’scontinual
been a journey
growth!
Dresden Tucker, 22, Florence

”
Christina Lynn Henderson, 42, Marion

“wonderful
I have always treasured the
friendship I have with
my lovely mother,Vel. It was my
heart's desire to have that sort
of closeness with my three daughters,
Gracyn, Leah and Victoria.They have
grown into young women now and
thanks to them, my dearest friends.
At 53, I know that they love me,
but I am so happy that they LIKE me!
Cindy Altman, 53, Florence
”
“ I feel that 31 is an age of

“ I am 29 and holding
tightly to the last
year of my 20's
realization. Some things
finally click and make sense
that you could just never
grasp before.You become
more aware of what
while realizing that matters and what never did.
You try to make the best
age is just a number. out of each day.
I'm also celebrating I am not crazy about
biological changes but
the pregnancy of my the emotional and
first child and mental clarity more
than makes up for that!
looking forward Krissy Cromer, 31, Florence ”
to being a mom!
Leigh Abdou , 29, Florence
”
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The League of
Women Voters
Celebrate 90 Years
of Service
Pictured: Barbara Sylvester (left) and Dolores Miller, two of the three
Founding Members of the Florence League of Women Voters,
celebrate the 90th Anniversary of the League along with
She Magazine’s CELEBRATE YOUR AGE Issue

NINETY YEARS AGO, Carrie Chapman Catt first proposed

a League of Women Voters to “finish the fight” and work to end all
discrimination against women. Thus, the League of Women Voters was
founded on Valentine’s Day in 1920, six months before the ratification of
the 19th Amendment giving women the right to vote.
Today, they remain a grassroots organization with more than
150,000 members and supporters and 850 Leagues throughout all 50
states. Though the League is known widely for their voter education efforts, they have also Dolores believes the League of Women Voters is an important organization because
brought their expertise to critical issues such as health care reform, global climate change and of the broad range of interests the League maintains. Although it’s much simpler (and maybe
many others. As they enter into a new year, the League will continue to do what it has been easier on members) if a group’s purpose can be summed up on a T-shirt, the League of Women
trusted to do for more than 90 years: Discuss the important issues, ask the difficult questions Voters’ heavy workload means that it is always welcoming new members, and members can
and demand accountability from the government. And every one of their critical 2010 initia- always find something of interest worth their efforts in research, report and advocacy.
tives will give citizens a greater voice – in the upcoming census, the 2010 elections, the next More importantly, she really admires the League’s “grass roots” way of operating.
round of redistricting and more. When someone joins the League, she – or he – is always welcomed. Yes, LWV has always wel-
The League of Women Voters is an organization where hands-on work to safeguard comed male members, but it was during the 1970s women’s rights, ERA struggle, etc., that LWV
democracy leads to civic improvement. This year, the Florence League of Women Voters will made a point of polling its membership to see if male members were welcomed, and, if so,
celebrate its 40th Anniversary at the Annual Meeting on May 1. Barbara Sylvester, along with should its name be changed? The response was overwhelmingly in favor of welcoming male
Patsy Stone and Dolores Miller were the three Founding Members of the Florence League. members but to retain the LWV name out of respect for all the grand ladies who struggled so
With great pride, Barbara Sylvester told us,“A friend from Wilmington, Delaware, shared with hard and so long in order to win us the right to vote.
me all the wonderful things that the League of Women Voters was In Florence, instead of the Local League receiving LWV positions
from State or National levels, it is Local League Members who are
doing in their state, and I said, ‘Well, we just have to have one in “ ...every one of their polled first in the process of the organization; Local Members adopt
Florence!’ And we did!”
a position on a particular issue. Local Leagues feed their members’
A few months after moving to Florence in November 1969, critical 2010 initiatives will give responses to the State Board, which tabulates results and turns them
Dolores Miller joined the League of Women Voters shortly before
into a statement to be reported to National, which follows a similar
leaving Maryland. She had attended a meeting hosted by the League citizens a greater voice – in process in tabulating State results, and writes what will be the LWV
of Women Voters, Baltimore, exploring the possibility of establishing a
position. Local Leagues review State and National positions and pro-
LWV in Salisbury, where she is originally from. Not too long after her the upcoming census, the 2010 grams on a cycle of every two years. This way, Dolores believes the
arrival in Florence, however, a similar meeting was held by the League
League is less likely to be hampered by out-of-date or contradictory
of Women Voters of South Carolina. She immediately joined. elections, the next round of positions.
Dolores was attracted to the League of Women Voters by
In this present era of broadened career opportunities for women,
its outright support for women, its expectation of research and advo- redistricting and more.” the League has seen an overall drop in membership. Before, most
cacy by its members and its broad range of interests (health , educa-
tion, local, state and federal government and environment). Further, it was an opportunity to women’s organizations relied mostly on the time and talents of women tied exclusively to the
become better acquainted with community concerns – and to make new friends. home. Today, more women are busy in their careers and don’t have as much time to join in
The League of Women Voters is responsible for many uplifting actions through the extracurricular activities. Also, there are so many new organizations which offer a single theme
years. It seems so elementary now, but there once was a time when local polling places weren’t as compared to a broad menu of items in need of research, reporting and/or campaigning. Just
very well publicized or well marked. One of the early accomplishments of the Florence Local as the computer age makes mass communication easier, there are more demands on the time
League was raising sufficient funds to commission construction of free-standing, larger-than- and energy of those who once were available to do the League legwork.
sandwich-size signs announcing polling sites in large red, white and blue (League colors) letters. Dolores feels that it is so important for women to join the League of Women Voters.
Their generous and enthusiastic carpenter was the husband of a member, and later President, She encourages women and men to join. Properly pursued, LWV gives you a much better
Jeanette Lovensheimer. understanding of how things work (or don’t work) in government – especially in your local
Since the local Election Commission had no storage facilities available for the signs, arena (School Board, County Council, City Council, Planning & Development, Law Enforcement,
they were distributed among members for safekeeping between elections. For years thereafter, etc.). In addition to its coordinating role for Local Leagues throughout South Carolina, the State
Election Days were heralded by the early morning arrival of some LWV lady who would jump Board (LWV-SC) provides speakers, research materials and suggestions for projects and other
from her car, lift the trunk to haul out a huge sign, and then walk/drag it to a prominent spot helpful tools for Local Leagues. The Board also provides annual training and legislative briefin-
where it would rest until the polls closed. Then, the lady reappeared to wrestle the sign back gs for Local League members, as well as an Annual Meeting held during General Assembly at
into her car. Things have changed! which statewide issues are discussed and attendees are encouraged to take advantage of the
The League’s forums, at which candidates for public office have an opportunity to state opportunity to meet with their legislators.
their positions on various issues in an atmosphere of mutual respect, is another important serv- Membership in the League of Women Voters also carries access to both State and
ice that the League of Women Voters performs. Audience members may direct questions to one National League of Women Voters websites and the wealth of information housed at those
or all candidates, but they are submitted in writing, screened and stated by the LWV person pre- sites. Anyone 18 or older who is interested in learning more about the Florence LWV or in
siding. Consequently, LWV candidates’ forums have less opportunity for questions designed to joining is asked to contact Sara B. Stewart, President, at 662-5895, or Frances L. Elmore,
entrap or embarrass the candidate and candidates tend to be more relaxed and open in respond- Treasurer, at 662-5143.
ing. They believe this is an informative and important service to the community.
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44 2/23/10 5:02 PM Page 1
The Grandmother
I Always Thought I’d Be
Well, here we go again! My oldest daughter is
in her last trimester of pregnancy and, true to form, my
complexion resembles a pizza! When I imagined myself
as a grandmother, I pictured wisdom lines, not sponta-
neous combustion! So, here goes another photograph of
the adoring grandmother holding a precious grandchild
and sporting a face packed full of concealer.
As I pondered my age and where I thought I
would be at 50, images of beautiful little homemade
dresses for my granddaughters came to mind. I learned
to sew when my children were little and thought the
skills would come in handy when sewing for my grand-
children some day. The grandchildren’s walls would sport
canvases of brightly colored trikes and wagons for the
boys and flowers for the girls. I wanted to read to them
from books I’d written just for them. I wanted to docu-
ment the tales of the farm and our adventures together.
An even loftier goal would be to have illustrated the
books myself. The kitchen counter would also be full of
“goodies” fresh out of the oven from our baking. That’s
the kind of grandmother I wanted to be. I have done
none of these things! Not even one of them!
Currently, I find myself struggling to keep a busi-
ness alive in an economy that is as brutal and unpre-
dictable as anyone has ever known. When I realize that,
instead of slowing down at my age, I’m working harder.
It’s easy to start a pity party. Those crippling negative
feelings begin to wear me down, and I start to lose focus.
At 50 years of age, I have become my own
cheerleader. I’m constantly having little chats with myself
throughout the day to stay encouraged. Being a business
owner is not for the fainthearted. With mounting bills
and debt, it’s tough to stay positive. I was once told, “If
you think you have problems and that money will solve
them, you don’t have problems.” So, I try to stay opti-
Beth Grant is an Artist, Interior Decorator,Writer – and Grandmother. She and her husband, Don, live on their family farm in Lamar, South Carolina. They own and operate Mantissa Row in Hartsville.
mistic, realizing that even though money woes can seem
daunting, as long as I am healthy of mind and spirit, I can
tackle most anything!
It’s during these low moments that God sends
little messages to me. Sometimes, it’s a visit from some-
one else who’s struggling, and it shifts the focus off
myself. Sometimes, it’s the beautiful site of a bluebird and
a cardinal sharing a meal together on a snow-covered
feeder. Even a simple cup of hot chocolate with your
grandchildren can chase the blues away. Women are
wonderful nurturers, but we often forget to take care of
ourselves. In the process, we don’t allow ourselves to
bask in the moments that bring us joy.
When I take the time to share my thoughts with
the readers of She Magazine, it causes me to focus on
being a woman. Over the years, I have looked at my life
and its many facets and have found many blessings.
Carving out time to write and express myself has
allowed private thoughts to become public professions
of my faith. Hopefully, some of you have identified with
my stories, for I have certainly been blessed to share
them with you. In my busy, complicated little world, I
have stumbled over countless joys and unexpected
moments of awe. I have been privileged to write stories
about incredible women of faith whose life struggles mul-
tiplied into life lessons inspiring the rest of us.
When my grandmother died (my mom’s mom),
I was given a ceramic piggy bank from her home to
by Beth Grant
remember her by. The pig is ornately decorated, and I
often got in trouble for trying to play with it as a child.
You see, my grandmother didn’t have much, and she
saved for a whole year to have money to purchase col-
oring books and crayons, ice cream and tacos for us
when we came to visit. I only saw her for a week in the
summer and sometimes at Christmas when she came by
train. My grandmother didn’t drive and kept house all
day. The times spent with her were simple – but memo-
rable. I can still smell her famous Peach Cobbler (my
favorite) cooking in the oven. I now have the purse that
my sisters and I played dress-up with. It, too, was given
to me following her death. I love reliving the moments
of our times together. I love remembering her roses, her
Baby Magic lotion and the smell of the paper mill in
Alabama. Precious moments!
Here I sit today, rushing to meet the deadline
for the magazine, but having a personal epiphany. I may
not be covered in grandchildren around my lap, doing all
the things I thought I would be doing at 50. Instead, I am
juggling business demands that are a privilege to have. I
have a business where I can make things beautiful, and I
can make people happy. I get to look at lovely things and
plan, nurture and dream. I have a wonderful family and
the best friends, and I look forward to what tomorrow
will bring.
I may not see my grandchildren as often as I
would like; but, when I do, it’s magic! I love their little
smells, their giggles, their stories, their joys! I love talk-
ing to my children as adults, as friends. I love sharing two
towns as home, sharing the city life and the country life.
This weekend is supposed to be sunny for a
change, and I’m feeling a little fort building in the woods
(with my grandchildren) coming on! Life is good – at any
age – but especially when you’re a grandmother!
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TRESSA gardner
My Family: I live in Darlington with my wonderful husband, Phillip, and a
Favorite Movie:
Across the Universe
surly old cat,Tabby. My step-son, Hunter, is a senior at Clemson; my step-daugh-
ter, Maegan, and her husband Lee are parents to Emma (2) and Gracie (9
months). My other babies, nieces, Cassie and Kayla, are both in college too. Last Purchase: a Big Black
purse for me and a Metropolitan
Museum of Art pen for Phillip
My Job: I’m the Project Manager for the SC Advanced while in NYC.
Technological Education Center at Florence-
Darlington Technical College, where I coordi- Something Most People
nate National Science Foundation Would Be Surprised to
grant activities. Know about Me: I clip
coupons (and love Disco.)

My Escape: With Phillip and a
stack of books on a blanket on the
beach; or on a porch swing in the
mountains; or on the couch at home.
Proudest Moments: Over the last two
years I’ve been chosen by the college and
my colleagues as the FDTC Administrator of
the Year and the Tribute to Women and
Industry (TWIN) honoree and I’m pretty
proud of that.
Biggest Challenge: Patience with bad
drivers while I’m in the car.
My Music: Classic Rock, the Woody’s,
new Country and Jazz
Guilty Pleasure: Dark Chocolate
and Amaretto
Beauty Product I
Can’t Live Without:
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If I Could Have a Do-Over, I
Would . . . never have started smoking,
even though I quit years ago.
If I Could Be a Fly on a Wall, I
Would . . . Fly around Congress.There are
some people there I’d like to annoy.
How I Feel About Being 47: Wow!
How did that happen? Every year I think my
life with Phillip can’t possibly get any better, One Thing
and then it does. I’m at a joyful place where
I get to be friends with my mom, sister, You’ll Always
nieces and step-kids.You realize that one Find in My Fridge:
day when they just call to say hi, or to Assorted Cheeses
ask your advice; and that it’s a really
great thing.
My Inspiration: LIFE –
healthy family, good friends,
new baby joys, happy work

47
Childhood Ambition:
I wanted to be a vet-
erinarian or a bal- The One Thing I Know
lerina. for Sure: I’ve been very
blessed and lucky in my
life, although at times I
had to take a chance
and make my own
Photography by Heather Jordan luck.
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ers with her friends and family in her very own yard.
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Callie has made some important goals in life. At
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United States Postal Office. After her yummy endeavors
in the kitchen over the holidays, she has her eye on
being a chef. No matter where this life takes her, we
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sho p i talk
T F S
Karen Leatherman,
owner of The Forum Spa
The Forum Spa
written by Landra Bracey Calcutt
OUR VISION: The Forum Spa’s Vision is to offer an
extension of services offered at the Fitness Forum. Most
often, people think of spas as providing just relaxation
and pampering. In addition, there are health benefits
associated with facials, massages and foot and hand care.
Our goal is to provide professional services in a memo-
rable, pampering environment.
ABOUT US: The Forum Spa opened in January 2008
and is owned by Florence native, Karen Leatherman.
Karen graduated from Byrnes Academy, received a BS in
Biology from Francis Marion University and a Master’s in
Exercise Physiology from the University of South
Carolina. She started the Fitness Forum, located in the
former McClenaghan High School Gym, in 1984. At that
time, it was owned by Bruce Hospital (currently known
as Carolinas Hospital System). In 2000, she purchased
the business from the hospital. In 2007, she purchased
the building and did total renovations of the gym and
added the Forum Spa. Landra Bracey Calcutt began man-
aging the Forum Spa in 2009. She is a graduate from
Francis Marion University and previously managed the
Fitness Forum. Her vision is to make the Forum Spa the
number one location for the Pee Dee Area’s spa needs.
The Forum Spa offers a local place to unwind, take care
of your needs and leave you relaxed and rejuvena
OUR STAFF: Our staff consists of Melinda Bowen
Curgan and Mary Jo Langley, Licensed Massage
Therapists, that offer several different modalities of mas-
sage and body treatments. Licensed Skin Therapist,
Jessica Taylor Hewitt, joined our team in the summer of
2009 when she moved to Florence from Myrtle Beach.
Jessica’s focus is to educate clients on the benefits of skin
care and develop, for clients, a daily regimen for proper
cleansing and smart management for preventative aging.
Toni Yates, Nail Care Therapist, perfects our specialty
pedicure and manicure treatments. Brooklyn Allison and
Alana McElveen are the two smiling faces that you will
meet as you enter the Spa. They will make sure your visit
is comfortable and that all your expectations are met.
Landra Bracey Calcutt
RELAXING DESIGN: The area that houses the
Forum Spa was the breezeway and space between the
former McClenaghan High classrooms and the gymnasi-
um. Some may remember that this space was most
recently Players Restaurant. If you remember this area,
it had the old high school windows. Gary Brown did the
architectural rendering for the façade. We capitalized on
the breezeway that allowed for a second floor. In this
area, we house the nail area since it is brighter and more
open. The facial and bodywork areas are all on the first
floor providing more privacy and seclusion. We played
off the Fitness Forum name because Forum brings to
mind the ancient city of Rome. It also means a place of
assembly for people; therefore, the Greek theme became
a part of our Forum Spa logo and the decor inside.
OUR SERVICES : We offer an extensive service
menu including massage therapy, ranging from Swedish,
Deep Tissue Sculpting, Sports Massage to
Neuromuscular and Prenatal Massage. The Couples’
Treatment Room allows for you and your loved one to
enjoy one of our service treatments together in a
romantic environment. We also specialize in Body
Treatments and Herbal Wraps. Our Skin Therapist,
Jessica Taylor Hewitt, provides relaxing skin care treat-
ments, including Age Intervention Facials, Zone-Specific
Treatments, Microdermabrasion, Waxing, Brow Tint and
Airbrushed Spray Tans. We offer a Full-Service Nail Care
Salon for manicure and pedicure treatments. Relax in
our comfortable nail treatment area while you indulge in
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Pedicures. Our specialized treatments will leave you
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We offer spa memberships that offer significant savings
on some of our most sought-after treatments and products.
OUR PRODUCTS : The Forum Spa is the exclusive
local retailer of Dermalogica®, the number one choice of
skin care professionals and consumers worldwide.
Dermalogica® offers specialty products for specific skin
care concerns. The Dermalogica® Age Smart Products
focus on the management and treatment of aging skin
and the Dermalogica® MediBac Clearing Line focuses on
acne-prone or breakout-prone skin. Dermalogica®
recently introduced the Clean Start Skin Care Line for
teens and their moody skin. Skin care consultations are
complementary and include samples of these wonderful
result-driven products.
WHAT MAKES US UNIQUE: The Forum Spa is
unique because we offer an authentic spa experience
that provides locals a place to utilize the health benefits
of spa treatments while relaxing in a luxurious spa
atmosphere with superb customer service and attention
to detail.
TIPS TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SPA
EXPERIENCE: To ensure availability for the treat-
ment you prefer, try to book a day or two in advance. If
you have any questions or special needs, be sure to let
the Receptionist or the Therapist know. During your
treatment, always communicate any changes or issues
with your Therapist to allow for the best treatment.
Most of all, leave your stresses behind and use your visit
to relax and rejuvenate your body and mind.
FIND US: The Forum Spa is located at 120 East Elm
Street in downtown Florence across from the new
library. We are open Tuesdays through Fridays from 10
AM to 6 PM. On Saturdays, we are open from 10 AM to
5 PM. Other appointment times are available upon
request. You can visit our full-service menu online at
www.forumspa.net. Sign up for our newsletter on our
website and receive monthly spa specials and important
information about spa treatments.
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This by Cookie Cawthon

Day and “ At 36, I know

more about myself

Age than I ever have.

That’s not always
pretty, but it’s
useful.
I am 36. I did not cringe when I wrote that. Perhaps because I am
almost 37, so 36 ain’t looking that shabby these days. It was the hardest age to turn for
me. 36. The dark side of 35.
But vanity and mortality aside, I love this very moment in my life. A sweet-faced
little lass who must obey her parents and her teachers and all of her elders, eat her veg-
”
gies, and use her best manners. Been her. A sullen, self-absorbed teenager who watched
herself cry in the bathroom mirror, rode more emotional rollercoasters than Disney
World could hold, and thought Chicago (the band not the musical) wrote the sound-
track to her life. Nauseates me to remember. Stupid college co-ed. Would love to for-
get the stuff I do remember. Independent young professional with fake fingernails, a
career, and a paycheck. Enjoyed being her in a fresh neat-to-meet-the-world-as-an-adult
kinda way. New wife with more kitchen appliances and gadgets than I knew existed (the
loot you receive when you get married is insane; I was all about that). Racked up as her initial response to
(with the hubby and the goods). Career Woman stressed me out and made me tired. almost everything is
New Mom stressed me out and made me really tired in a this-is-the-most-wonderful- no. “Do you want to
thing-in-the-world-but-I-am-tempted-to-eat-my-weight-in-chocolate-and-overdose-on- go to Hawaii this
caffeine kinda way. As a new mom of two, I ate my weight in chocolate and overdosed summer?”
on caffeine on a regular basis (hang tough, new moms; I feel ya! Every day gets better “No.”
and easier. I promise!). “Do you
And now I am 36. Sandwiched, generationally, between those I may know a lit- want a new car?”
tle more than and those who know a lot more than I. Best seats in the house, if you (hypothetical
ask me. Old enough to be taken seriously but young enough to still be goofy. Old examples, let me
enough to heed the wisdom of my elders; young enough to value the creativity and inno- assure you).
vation of those younger. “No.”
At 36, I know more about myself than I ever have. That’s not always pretty, but “Let’s go
it’s useful. For instance, there are things about me that I have stopped fighting. I am not out to eat tonight.”
fast at anything. I prefer to call it deliberate rather than slow, but we’ll not dally over “ Ye s ! ! ! ! ”
semantics. I now know that I cannot do as many things in a day as my more speedy and Okay, I always say
efficient friends. In the past I beat myself down or ran myself ragged trying to keep their yes to that one, but
pace; now I try to make allowance for the fact that it is probably going to take me four you get the idea. My
times as long to clean the kitchen as any other able-bodied human being (nothing like knee-jerk reaction is
lowering your expectations for yourself). I now know that perfectionism and rumina- to immediately think
tion are not friends with hustle and productivity, and I am learning to accept their of objections – even
incompatibility. in the face of super exciting
Furthermore, I am becoming more comfortable with not allowing others’ opportunities. I say no, and, as I have time to think through possible solutions, I often
expectations to drive my activity. I love people and social buzz and boisterous girlfriend come back with enthusiasm and bounce. I just need time to process before I commit.
time and smiling and chatting and greeting and hosting and laughing and hanging out and Understandably that was terribly frustrating and disappointing to him early in our mar-
groups of fun peeps, but I must have time alone to deflate and settle. Okay, totally weird riage. Now, we know the drill and can navigate those conversations with more skill than
and awkward confession time: I love to sit in a room that is only barely lit by some far in the past.
away light source, in the quiet, and just be – preferably in the grey of dawn or the still I am also approaching a milestone as a mom in August. With the start of the
of late night. I use to think this very selfish of me. How dare I take time to be alone next school year, I will officially be the mother of school-age children. We three, my
when I have a husband and two young children and not enough time to ever do all that daughters and I, are growing more independent of each other. Over the past couple of
I want/need to do for them? I now know, with all of the sagacity that comes with being years, I have gradually gotten back in touch with my own interests, like writing and read-
thirty-six, that the quality of my time with my family actually trumps the quantity of my ing and teaching, and I am beginning to dance with the idea of who I will be from 8:00-
time with them. When I am depleted as a wife and mother, I have nothing of value to 2:00 every day. It’s a little exciting (spoken hunched over and in a whisper)…
offer my family. Even though I have to take three Extra-Strength Tylenol before I go to the gym
It’s also cool that at this stage of life and after eleven years of marriage, the hus- of late and the grey hairs are gaining ground, I am happier in this stage of life than ever
band and I know and understand each other better than we ever have. That’s certainly before. The years have brought me a greater understanding that I would not exchange
not to say that we’ve got this thing figured out, but we have tucked a few tidbits about for youth. A greater understanding of Him. Myself. My husband. My children. People
each other in our back pockets for future use. He is clever, my Chris. Not too terri- in general. And I am more and more certain that the benefits of time – wisdom, expe-
bly long ago, he made a super insightful observation about me. He pointed out that my rience, understanding, confidence, self-awareness – are well worth the price tag.

Cookie Cawthon is rockin’ the thirties and livin’ every day of her life.
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ABDOMINAL AORTIC
ANEURYSM IN WOMEN:
An Un-Recognized Danger
By Ganesha Perera, MD, MPH
A bdominal Aortic Aneurysm (AAA) is a ballooning out and
weakening of the wall of the Aorta, the largest arterial blood
vessel in the body. Aneurysms of the aorta exist in the chest
as well, but it is their presence in the abdomen that is the focus of this article.
Aneurysms are dangerous because like a balloon under pressure they
can burst or rupture. If that happens to the aorta in the belly,
massive internal bleeding results. Most people do not survive ruptured
aneurysms. Annually in the U.S., 15,000 deaths are due to abdominal
aortic aneurysms. Of these, forty percent are women.
An aneurysm, by definition, is a vessel that has enlarged to over one
and one-half times its usual size.The normal diameter of the aorta in the
abdomen is between 1.5 to 2 cm. In comparison, a golf ball is about 4 cm and
a tennis ball is just over 6 cm. Thus when the aorta in the abdomen measures
3 cm or greater it is considered an aneurysm.
Aneurysms grow over time. The average rate of growth is about
1 cm every three years. Therefore, someone with a 3 cm aneurysm discovered
today may have a 5 cm aneurysm within six years. As they grow the risk of
rupture also increases.
AAA’s have been found in about eight percent of all men and two
percent of all women. Women with certain risk factors have a much greater
chance of having an aneurysm. Moreover, once they are known to have an
aneurysm, their rate of rupture and growth generally exceeds their male
counterparts. Simply put, aneurysms in women are more dangerous than
aneurysms in men.
An Abdominal
Aortic Aneurysm
is a ballooning
out of the wall
of the Aorta,
the largest
blood vessel
in the body.
Dr. Ganesha Perera is a Vascular Surgeon with McLeod Vascular Surgical Associates.
His office is located at McLeod Regional Medical Center, 305 E Cheves Street in Florence, 777-3850.
The magic number for aneurysm repair is generally around 5.5 cm,
in men. This is the size where the risk of rupture greatly increases. It
should make sense that we want the risk of surgical repair to be less than the
risk of rupture while following aneurysm growth over time.The trick is to
find what the magic number is for the individual patient, in this case for the
individual woman.
Most studies that have been done on aneurysms have been done in
men because abdominal aneurysms are much more common in men than
women. However, there is good evidence that aneurysms rupture in women
at a smaller size than in men and that the rate of aneurysm growth is also
greater in women than in men. Thus the size at which to repair an
aneurysm in women is generally set lower than that in men.
Risk factors for developing an aneurysm are:
• SMOKING (GREATER THAN 100 CIGARETTES IN A LIFETIME)
• HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
• HIGH CHOLESTEROL
• FAMILY HISTORY OF AAA
• CARDIOVASCULAR DISEASE
• ADVANCED AGE
A woman who smokes is three times as likely to have an AAA as
one who has never smoked. Smoking is the number one avoidable risk
factor for aneurysm development and the number one predictor of
aneurysm disease in women. A woman who is older than 65, has smoked
or is a current smoker, has high blood pressure and high cholesterol,
the risk of having an aneurysm could be as high as six percent by some
studies. Being female is also a risk factor for rupture. In one study, women
were three times more likely to rupture than males of the same age and initial
aneurysm size.
While the overall risk of having an aneurysm is low in most women,
it is clear that women with aneurysms face greater danger in terms of
growth and rupture than men. It is these subgroups of women who are
at significantly increased risk that should be screened for aneurysm disease.
This can be done with a simple ultrasound test that your doctor can order.
If an aneurysm is detected, there should be prompt evaluation by a vascular
surgeon who can follow it over time and determine when and how it should
be repaired. Vascular surgeons have the skills necessary to perform either
an open operation or a minimally invasive method (endovascular aneurysm
repair EVAR) to repair the aneurysm.
Talk to your doctor about an appropriate screening if you have risk
factors for aneurysms.
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•March 4: Black Creek Arts Council Gallery Opening 5:30 - 7pm:

Heidi Bond in the Jean & James Fort Gallery
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by Mary R. Dittman, MBA
j When asked to write about celebrating your
age for my single gals, I immediately remembered my
response to my best friend’s desire to throw me a party
for my 35th birthday. “What’s there to celebrate? I’m 35
and alone! There’s nothing to be happy about,” I thought.
Was that too much of a whine?
One thing that is very different about the South
is that people here are very focused on marriage at a
young age. Having lived and traveled extensively in other
parts of the country, I can tell you that the obsession
with marriage before age 25 is almost uniquely Southern.
I spent three weeks straight on the West Coast recently
and nobody asked me if I was married or if I had children.
But, since we are where we are, I do want to
address the panic that many single women (and men!)
feel about getting older and alone. First, I know 22-year-
olds who are anxious because they’re not engaged yet.
(To whom I want to say, get back to me when you’re in
your late 30s, Kid, and we can really talk about what anx-
iety is.) Second, I’ve met men and women in their 40s,
50s and 60s who also are fearful about being single or
single again due to death or divorce.
Unfortunately, being married doesn’t necessarily
eliminate fear of the future. One of my girlfriends is mar-
ried to a wonderful man, but they never had children.
She recently confided to me that as she gets older and
realizes she will most likely outlive her husband, she wor-
ries, “Who will take care of me when I’m old?”
I won’t tell you not to be afraid or that the anx-
iety is unfounded. I’ve struggled with the thoughts of
what’s going to happen to me. My own stepmother wor-
ries about what will happen to her if my father precedes
her in death. Even though I have committed to her that
I’ll take care of her as my own, she still has that nagging
insecurity – maybe that I’ll change my mind or I won’t
really follow through. I was an adult when she married
my father; so, once my dad is gone, there would be no
bond to hold us together except for my love for her.
I do know that a lot of married people with chil-
dren also have fears and anxiety about the future. One of
my friends buried both of her children and faces her senior
years as a divorcee with no offspring. So, even having a fam-
ily doesn’t guarantee you won’t be alone at some point.
So far, this article is pretty depressing, I know.
My greatest fear used to be that I would end up 40 and
single. Guess what happened last year? I turned 40 and
I’m still single. The surprising thing was that I’m happy in
my singleness; I never imagined that would be true. Part
of that transformation for me was realizing I don’t want
children. I know a lot of people (especially women)
struggle with this. If you are serious about wanting chil-
dren, you may have to make some difficult decisions – like
whether or not to adopt or give birth to a child as a sin-
gle woman. If that’s not for you, maybe you could have chil-
dren in your life by volunteering at a church, a hospital or
a children’s charity. There was a time when I really want-
ed to have children in my life, so I volunteered at McLeod
Children’s Hospital. Nothing will make you grateful for
your life like spending time with ill children and their fam-
ilies. My point is, bloom where you’re planted.
More importantly, God is not limited by our
ages. I’m pretty sure the following wasn’t the scene in
Heaven when I turned 40.
God slaps His hand over his forehead and exclaims,
“You’re 40?! Gee whiz! That really snuck up on Me.
Now what am I gonna do? Well, kid, I guess you’re kinda
screwed because you know how hard it is for a 40-year-
old woman to meet a decent guy. Sorry about that. Wish
there was something I could do for ya. How about a pro-
motion at work instead?”
In Isaiah 56:3-6, God says, “And let not any
eunuch complain, ‘I am only a dry tree.’” Now, we don’t
encounter a lot of eunuchs today, but try this: “And let
not any single person 35 or older complain,‘I’m too old.’”
I’m not saying you will “meet somebody.” Maybe you will
and maybe you won’t. There’s a lot more to finding the
right person than your age. But, there’s something way
worse than being 35 and single; it’s being 35 and miser-
able (whether you’re single or married). Single people
think they’d be happier married, and a lot of married peo-
ple believe they’d be happier single. We all do that. My
students think they’d be happier when they’re graduated
and working full-time. Then, they get out in the real
world and realize they were happier in college!
God wants to give you a happy, abundant life
worth celebrating – at any age. Nowhere in the Bible
does it say God’s blessings are only for couples. If mar-
riage was the path to happiness, why was Jesus unmar-
ried? Of course, He didn’t have to experience the trials
of being a 40-year-old single woman in a small Southern
town; but, He knew about being abandoned and forgot-
ten – truly forsaken by God as He hung on the cross cov-
ered with our sins.
You, on the other hand, are not abandoned, for-
gotten or forsaken. In Isaiah 56, God says if you bind
yourself to Him, He will give you joy. Maybe you can’t
really imagine that or believe it today, but I promise you
that if you take your focus off your age and your marital
status and focus on living a joyful life with what you have
now, you will experience peace and happiness regardless
of your circumstances. Your future may not look like a
fairytale – and it may not be what you had wished for – but
it can be happy and joyous. Is it possible that God can pro-
vide you with a better life than the one you imagine for
yourself?
Here are some things worth celebrating about
being single. You get to go see any movie you want to see
with anyone you like without having to worry about any-
body getting jealous. You can decorate your home as you
see fit. You can leave your dirty laundry all over the place
until you decide to pick it up. You can eat all the ice
cream directly out of the tub with a spoon. You can drink
out of the milk carton. You can buy 57 pairs of black
pumps just because you like them. You don’t have to
shave your legs if you don’t want to. You have freedom
to do whatever you want to do.You can sleep in, get up
early, lie on the couch all day or shop ‘til you drop.
If you can’t get excited about celebrating your age
because you’re single, just celebrate your life! You live in the
best country on earth! You are free! You are healthy, you
are whole, and you have access to the Creator every day!
Let today be the day that you thank God for
your life as it is now and ask Him to show you the life He
has for you. Then, celebrate with another pair of shoes
or another spoonful of ice cream.
Mary R. Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director
of the Internship Program in the School of Business at Francis
Marion University. She consults for a variety of local and regional
companies and is actively involved in the Florence community.
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• 1/2 Cup of Shortening
• 3 Cups of Cake Flour
• 3 Cups of Sugar
• 5 Eggs
• 1 Cup of Whole Milk
• 1 Teaspoon of Baking Powder
• 1 Teaspoon of Vanilla
• 1 Teaspoon of Lemon Extract
ingredients for rolled marshmallow fondant:
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Mini Marshmallows (use a good- Sifted Confectioners’ Sugar
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• Add the eggs, one at a time, beating well after • Place into a COLD oven*
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• Sift the flour and baking powder together
• Add the vanilla and lemon extract to the milk
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• Add the flour and baking powder mixture to the
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sugar and egg mixture, alternating with the liquid Baking Time: 1 hour and 15 minutes
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• Microwave 30 seconds on high • Grease your hands and the counter out tearing, about 8 minutes
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CELEBRATE
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To celebrate our birthday, we are celebrating yours.
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FEATURE STORIES BEGIN ON PAGE 76.
76 2/24/10 9:22 AM Page 1

kcelebrate your age!

Lindsay LaRue Haselden

kMy Age: 25
Awesome at
kWhat I Enjoy: I have more hobbies than I currently know what to do with. I enjoy pretty
25
much all things creative or artsy – photography, graphic design, painting, blogging. And, running
!
should also be considered a hobby (though it’s one I must sometimes force myself to keep).

kWhat I Have Come To Appreciate Most About Where I Am Now:

Through the different stages of my life, God has placed just the right people at just the right times.
I have seen more evidence of this in the past year than ever before. I am so thankful for the
wonderful relationships He has blessed me with.

kThe Most Important “Life Lesson” I Have Learned: Life isn’t about being
safe and secure; it’s about stepping out and taking risks. I must be willing to accept the possibility
of failure if I want to have the opportunity to succeed. I can’t be afraid of falling on my face and

Collin M. Smith Photography

looking foolish – which I admit happens more often than I would choose.

kMy Greatest Accomplishment: This may not be your “typical” accomplishment, but
I’m proud of it. I spent my college career determined to go to medical school. Through the wait-
ing period – before I found out I had been accepted – God began to show me that I wasn’t meant
to take that path. Turning down a life that I had worked years to get to was one of the toughest
decisions I’ve ever made.
But, I am so proud to say that I was able to make that choice – choosing what He had for me over
what I had in mind for myself.

kWhat I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: Trying to forget about past pain
and suffering doesn’t make it go away. True healing only comes from remembering the things we
wish we could forget. I wish I would have learned that a long time ago.

kMy Dreams For The Future: Right now, my dreams for the future are being able to
see my family grow and having the opportunity to take part in a mission trip to Kenya with my
church. Beyond that, I can’t even begin to imagine what’s next.

kWhat Keeps Me Young: A little bit of caffeine and a lot of laughter keep me young!
The laughter is often courtesy of my husband. I’m so blessed that he’s not as
serious as I am. He keeps me on my toes.

kThe Downside To Getting Older: So far, nothing. Age has treated me well – with
more wisdom, more happiness and stronger relationships. But, ask me that question again in a few
years. I’m thinking that gray hair and wrinkles will change my mind.

kThe Best Thing About More Candles On My Birthday Cake: I love

birthday cake and being able to celebrate with my family and friends, but candles mean that
everyone is going sing to me and stare as I try to blow them out. Honestly, I would rather we
just all eat the cake and forget about the candles altogether.

kIf I Could Have A Do-Over: I would go back to my college days and pay more
attention. I thought some of my classes were incredibly boring and crammed just enough for my
A, and then I let the information fade away. Then, there were a few classes I wish I had been able
to take. Like the class that went to Australia for a month! That would have been awesome!

kPersonal Thoughts About Being 25: As I have gotten older, it seems that life
beckons me to simply settle down and get comfortable. It becomes easier to get into a routine
of busyness and to let that become what my life is all about. Lately, I have come to realize just
how critical it is for me to fight that urge to settle. I must fight to prevent the comfortable routine
from taking control. So, this stage in my life has been all about breaking free of my own personal
boundaries. Stepping out in ways that I never would have thought possible and letting God do
with me what He will. I just pray that I can continue this because whenever I am least comfort-
able, I am most in touch with what He wants for my life. I now feel
like 25 is my starting point. The past 24 years were like a base coat, priming me for whatever
God has in store for my life. I’m quite sure that the best is yet to come!

Lindsay Haselden and her wonderful husband of almost four years,Travis, live in Florence. (She has finally caught up with him in age since he
has been 25-years-old for the past three years!) Lindsay teaches Biology at Florence-Darlington Technical College. This is her third year; how-
ever, this summer, she is stepping away from teaching. She can’t wait to see what God will do with her when she has some free time!
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kcelebrate your age!
Harmony Parker
kMy Age: 32
finding balance at
kThings I Enjoy: I’m helping plan an event for the
Darlington Humane Society Fundraiser,“Lucky Dog Ball,” on
March 25th. Other hobbies include: Shopping locally in
Downtown Hartsville,Yoga-Pilates and fitness with Heather at
The Haven, Facebook (it’s how I keep up with everyone!), playing
Wii with my husband and planning baby showers. (Did I mention
all my friends are pregnant?) I like taking beach trips with my
friends and, of course, playing with my four-legged children, Daisy
and JB.
kWhat I Have Come To Appreciate Most
About Where I Am Now: At the “young” age of 32, I
feel that I’ve found what works best for me in daily life – balance,
stability and independence. Mostly, I appreciate that I learned
these attributes earlier rather than later. It’s hard work running a
successful business and marriage, but I’ve found what works for
me and my partner in both work and marriage.
kThe Most Important “Life Lesson” I Have
Learned: My mother lost her battle to cancer at the young
age of 39. I learned my most important life lesson from her well
after her passing. I choose not to take any day for granted, and I
live life to the fullest! And, I choose to live my life in the present.
Not worrying about the future allows me to live life now, and
that’s how I have chosen to exist.
kMy Greatest Accomplishment: I feel that in my
short experience in life, I’ve accomplished a lot. I’ve been mar-
ried to my best friend, Clay, for almost ten years. I went back to
school just a little later in life for esthetics and found my passion.
I truly enjoy pampering others and making them feel good about
themselves. The Haven has been open two years this month,
and it’s such a blessing that we have grown so much in the past
year. I couldn’t be happier with the way things are going for
Kristin and me. It’s a daily reward to come home knowing I’ve
made people feel good and I put a smile on their face when I
know times can get hard for everyone. My clients, in turn, also
make me feel good; it’s just a no-lose situation. I’m blessed to be
able to go to a job that I love every day.
kWhat I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then:
I wish I would have known to remain positive. In the last couple
years, I’ve tried to surround myself with a positive attitude and
thoughts and other positive people. I wish I would have known
then that if you surround yourself with negative, you will draw
negative. Making a few minor positive changes in my life has
resulted in much more happiness and gratitude. I definitely wish I
would have known that sooner in life.
kMy Dreams For The Future: I like to keep my
dreams within reason, so I would have to say that my dreams for
the future include remaining healthy, having bigger and better suc-
cess for The Haven, volunteering more for local organizations,
being able to vacation and travel and building my ideal home.
One day, I would love to have an oceanfront vacation home big
enough to invite friends and family to join.
kWhat Keeps Me Young:
I personally feel the neurotic fear
of the effects of time may very
well be the cause of prema-
32 !
ture aging. So, what keeps
me young? Staying interest-
ed in life. I feel you grow
old when you lose that
interest in life. I also feel
the secret to youth is love,
joy and inner peace. And, of
course, laughter. I’m a skin thera-
pist, so I’m going to have to throw in
taking care of yourself and your skin.
Using sunscreen, eating right, sleeping well and
staying inspired keep me young, as well as a fitness
routine. We all know this though, right?
kThe Downside To Getting Older: At my
age, I can’t think of any downside to getting older. If you
ask me that question in thirty years, I may have a few.
Hopefully, I won’t have any downsides then, either. That’s
my goal.
kThe Best Thing About More Candles
On My Birthday Cake: My answer would be the
obvious – actually getting to add more candles to my cake!
It’s better than the alternative, which would be not turning
another year older. It’s gonna be a lot of fun when I have to
pull out the fire extinguisher to blow out all my candles!
kIf I Could Have A Do-Over: When I
think of having a do-over, I think of many times
when I could have done, said or acted different-
ly. But, I truly feel everything has happened to
me for a reason and that those moments and
experiences made me who I am today. In
many cases when I thought the world was
crashing around me, I can’t help but think that it
was for the best in the long run. In almost all those
times I wanted a do-over, later I would realize that
things worked out for me and my life and I’m glad
they happened. Those times are in the past, and
they make me realize that the present is better.
kPersonal0 Thoughts About
Being 32: I welcome the advancing
years. It means I’m moving on in the higher
path of life, which has no end. I have faith
in what my future has in store, and I won’t Originally from Durant, Oklahoma,
be afraid of growing physically older in Harmony Parker presently lives in
my life. I’m going to learn daily and gain Hartsville, SC, with her husband,
wisdom, and I am excited about it! I Clay. She is the Owner of The Haven
(Day Spa) in Downtown Hartsville
want to welcome the changes and face and Esthetician with partner and
my future with patience, kindness, love, Massage Therapist Kristin Carpenter
goodwill, joy and happiness; these qual- She has three sisters, Michelle,
ities never grow old. In spirit, I will Darla and Allison.
always be young!
Collin M. Smith Photography
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kcelebrate your age!

Mykea Atkinson
“crazy blessed” at
kMy Age: 37

kWhat I Enjoy: Exercising, reading, dancing

kWhat I Have Come To Appreciate Most About Where I Am
Now: I feel such appreciation and love for my life and the people in it. Every person plays
such a special part in my life. In big and small ways, they all make a difference in who I am
– from co-workers who smile at me in the hall to my wonderful husband of eleven years.
I’m so blessed that I’ve reached a stage in my life where I can help others. Being 37 and
having been through highs and lows in my life, I have a greater appreciation for how blessed
I really am. I just feel great in my skin, and I love being a Wife, Mama and Educator.
kThe Most Important “Life Lesson” I Have Learned: The most
important life lesson I have learned is definitely to treasure my life and the blessings I have.
My mama passed away less than two years ago with breast cancer. She was diagnosed in
October and, although she fought a brave fight, she lost her battle seven months later. We
had a short time from her diagnosis, but our little family bonded together and I realized
how precious life is with the people you love. She was honestly one of my best friends,
and we talked every night on the phone. Her loss has been hard. Ironically, it has also
been an amazing inspiration in my life, as well. I want to experience and enjoy every
moment, giving others a little bit of happiness when I can. Sometimes, it may be just a
piece of chocolate at work, but I just want people to have at least a moment during the
day when they feel appreciated.
kMy Greatest Accomplishment: My greatest accomplishment is my daugh-
ter, Reagan. She is still a work-in-progress; but, for eight years now, I have tried to raise
her as my mother raised me – with rules and consequences, manners, love for others, cre-
ativity and fun, an appreciation for family, a love of church and the freedom to be who she
is. It’s the hardest and most rewarding task I have ever taken on. Daily, she makes me
smile and sit in awe of her insight. She lets me know politely when I’m too “over the top”
and soothes my heart when I’m having a bad day with her constant singing, dancing, art-
work and hugs. I tell her everyday that I prayed for a little girl like her, and God was so
excited for me to have her, He gave her to me two
months early!
kWhat I Know Now That I
Wish I Knew Then: I am a “lovey”
person, but I wish I would have hugged my
grandparents and my mama more – even
though I hugged them every chance I got. I wish I
would have understood how short life can be and how
the smallest memories shared with a family member or
friend will stay with you forever. I wish I would have known
the difference in the importance of things I thought were so
“bad” when I was younger compared to the things that really mat-
ter.
37
kThe Downside To Getting Older: Wrinkles! Of course, I would change
that if I could!
!
kThe Best Thing About More Candles On My Birthday Cake: I
have more compassion as I age and such a better understanding of who I am. I wear what
I want to and do what I want to regardless of it being “artsy” or “quirky.” And, the more
candles on my birthday cake, the more I have to be thankful for.
kIf I Could Have A Do-Over: I would have more time, time, time! Time with
people here and that have passed. Time to do everything I can for people and myself. Can
I add a few hours to each day?
kPersonal Thoughts About Being 37: I love being 37! I love it more
when people don’t think I’m 37, but I love where I am in my life. I am so crazy blessed! I
have a wonderful husband who has also been my best friend for 19 years (married 11,
dated 8). I have a precious eight-year-old daughter whose life is like a Broadway play, and
I am so lucky to be a spectator. I have an awesome brother and sister-in-law who have
also become my best friends, and they have been my rock through the loss of my mama.
I have in-laws who give me the love and support of blood relatives. I have so many fami-
ly and friends who have molded me into who I am today. My job blesses me daily in show-
ing me the small ways I can help the sweet children at Easterling Primary School. I have
peers who make my day with kind remarks. Or, even better, they show kindness to stu-
dents who wouldn’t get it elsewhere. Life is so great if you get excited about even the
mundane things. You’ll stay young if you look at things like a child. Not with naiveté, but
with appreciation and wonder. I try to always find the silver lining – or at least the humor
in things. When I do, I feel so much better. When I don’t, well, then I go to the gym and
work it out! I think about my mom in the last days of her battle with cancer. She had lost
her hair and, some days, it was a harder reality than others. On one of the easier days,
she laughed and said to me, “Well, at least I don’t have to fix my hair.” I try to remind
myself of things like that on a bad day. I’m 37, and I’m here and making my mark in this
world! I love life! And even the hard times serve to make me stronger. So, I’ll still wear
my high heels, knee boots and act silly. I’ll still buy Sugar Babies and Twizzlers and enjoy
them like I’m still ten-years-old. I’ll dance sometimes until the wee hours of the morning
and sing show tunes as loud as I can throughout my house. I’ll greet my
husband with goofy sayings and leave silly notes in my daugh-
ter’s lunch box. I’m 37 and I love my age! Older and
wiser – but still a barrel of fun!

kMy Dreams For The Future: I look forward to watch-

ing my daughter grow and experience all the wonderful things life has
to offer. I look forward to growing old with my husband and contin-
uing to share our love of travel and friends. I look forward to all the
adventures I know I will have with all the people I love because, to me,
everyday is such an adventure!

kWhat Keeps Me Young: My crazy brain that keeps telling

me I’m still 21 keeps me young! That and exercise, some young friends
and, of course, my younger husband! For better or worse, I still have
childlike awe for most things in life. I’m definitely a unicorns-and-rain-
bows-kind-of-girl!

Mykea Atkinson and her husband, Heath, live in Florence.

They have a daughter, Reagan. She is Lead Teacher at
Easterling Primary School in Marion, SC. Collin M. Smith Photography
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kcelebrate your age!

Dr. Jimena Burnett

feeling right at home at

kMy Age: 41
41 !
kWhat I Enjoy: Reading, running, gardening (back when), family time

kWhat I Have Come To Appreciate Most About Where I Am Now: After ten years of living in Florence,
it has truly become “home.” I never thought it would have been possible. I also appreciate my parents more – their unconditional love
and support. I hope my husband and I can be the good parents that ours are.

kThe Most Important “Life Lesson” I Have Learned: As a physician, I’m reminded everyday of
how precious life is. The unpredictability of life has taught me to enjoy each and every moment.

kMy Greatest Accomplishment: I am most proud that I can do it all! I can be a good mom, wife,
friend and doctor. I’m very organized and plan ahead, which makes it all possible. (With that being said, my
weakness is lack of sleep.)

kWhat I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: I wish I knew my husband was at the end
of the path. I would have saved a lot of tears along the way.

kMy Dreams For The Future: Growing old with my husband and seeing my girls become
the ladies I hope they will be

kWhat Keeps Me Young: My friends and my running keep me young. And, of

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course, my girls who keep me up-to-date with Hannah Montana,Taylor Swift and the Jonas
Brothers also keep me young and hip.

kThe Downside To Getting Older: There’s nothing wrong with getting older.
I think it’s the mirrors that have the problem. My mom just had cataract surgery. She’s
thinking about filing a malpractice lawsuit because now she can see her wrinkles and how
dirty the house is.

kThe Best Thing About More Candles On My Birthday Cake: I

have to have a bigger cake!

kIf I Could Have A Do-Over: I wouldn’t change a thing. The good and the bad
have made me who I am.

kPersonal Thoughts About Being 41: Things do get better

with age. My marriage is getting stronger (if you know what I mean),
and I’m healthier and stronger than ever. Haven’t you heard? Forty
is the new twenty! It’s cool to be twenty again! I’m smarter and
wiser this time.

Jimena Cordeiro-Feijoo Burnett , M.D., is originally from Cordoba, Argentina.

She has lived in Florence for ten years. She and her husband, Jonathan H.
Burnett, have two daughters, Sophia Grace (7) and Camila Hays (5).
They also have Lola, the family Dog. Dr. Burnett is a Family Physician at
McLeod Fitness Center in Florence.
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kcelebrate your age!

Kim Nelson
Getting a second chance at life
at
47 !
At 46-years-old, the weekend of November 13, 2009 would prove to be the weekend that
changed my life forever. My husband and I were heading out of town to celebrate our anniversary, and I
noticed the right side of my jaw was hurting. Not terribly, but it was a dull ache. I told my husband about
it, and we discussed the possibility of it being a warning sign for a heart attack or a stroke. I said that I’d
go to the doctor on Monday (once we returned home) if it was still bothering me. Since I was feeling
fine otherwise, we put it out of our minds.
We went to Chester, South Carolina (we had never been there before), to stay in a beautiful Bed
& Breakfast (staying in a B&B on our anniversary is a tradition). We walked downtown, had dinner and,
afterwards, chatted with the owner of the restaurant. Then, we walked back to the Bed & Breakfast.
After turning in for the night, all of a sudden, I had a slamming pressure on the left side of my
chest. My left arm was going numb and getting tingly. My breathing became erratic. I got up to get a
drink and realized I was dizzy. Then, I started sweating. I knew right away this was a heart attack. These
were classic symptoms I had heard about from various people over the years. I was very scared! My
husband called for an ambulance because we didn’t know where the hospital was and because they have
equipment and the knowledge to help in emergency situations.
My grandfather (my father’s dad), my father and both my brothers have – or have had – genetic
heart disease/blockages. They all began having symptoms or problems in their early- to mid-40s. My
father and oldest brother both died from a massive heart attack at age 56 after years of surgeries, prob-
lems, procedures and medications. My other brother (60-years-old now) has had several heart attacks
and heart procedures and is on medications. He has been doing very well and been heart-attack-free for
the last seventeen years. My sister (62-years-old now) has no genetic heart problems; she’s the only one
who has escaped it.
My life hasn’t really changed much since I had my heart attack. I have always had a lot of ener-
gy. I was – and I still am – always on the go. I’ve always enjoyed life, and I’ve always been an optimistic
person. Before I had the heart attack, I didn’t think about heart disease much. I guess it has always been
in the back of my mind when I would think about the men in my family; but, I never thought about heart
disease and me. There are all types of cancer on my mother’s side of the family, and many have died from
it. Cancer was much more of a concern to me than heart disease.
I didn’t think I was at risk for genetic heart problems. Yes, I know that as we age, our chances
of heart problems increase. When I had my heart attack, I didn’t (and I still don’t) have any other health
problems like high blood pressure or high cholesterol, and I have very little stress in my life. I was defi-
nitely living a healthy lifestyle. I don’t smoke. I only drank alcohol occasionally and was eating a low-sodi-
um diet. I’m average in size. Like many of us, I have five to ten pounds to lose and I wasn’t exercising reg-
ularly; but, I have always been active.
Now, at 47-years-old, I’m living my life differently. I’m taking several medications, which may
change as time goes by. I’ve modified my diet by slightly lowering my intake of fats. Although I can’t stand
to exercise, I am exercising now. I’ve made these changes and will continue to follow through with them
for the rest of my life.
Having a heart attack at 46-years-old definitely changed my life. But, I feel so good now that I often
forget I have heart disease. We went to Walt Disney recently and a friend reminded me that I needed to
ask my doctor if it would be okay for me to ride roller coasters! I seem to have more energy than I did.
My family and friends don’t know how that’s possible! I’m in the process of becoming a volunteer at
McLeod, and my request is to work with cardiac patients. Although I was very optimistic before I had the
heart attack, I am even more so, now. I truly don’t sweat the small stuff.
My advice to other women who think they are too young to have a heart attack – or to women
in general who might overlook the symptoms or risk of having a heart attack: You are not exempt from
heart disease at any age! I didn’t get the chance to ignore any warning signs. They are different for
everyone, but no one knows your body like you do. Ask your doctor about any changes you notice.
There are no stupid questions when it comes to your health!
If you do have a genetic health problem, don’t be hard on yourself. You are who you are, period.
Just accept limitations and changes you may have to make so that you can enjoy life. It’s your life!
Do what’s best for you.
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“When I was thanking Dr. Krainin for saving my life, he was very
modest and told me that it obviously was not my time yet.
With some changes in my life, I have a very good prognosis.”

Editor’s Note: After learning about Kim Nelson’s story, I felt an obligation to ask The key to successful outcome following a heart attack is early detection
Dr. Fred Krainin to elaborate on her experience from his point of view as Kim’s physician and treatment. If you have symptoms of concern, the earlier you get to the hospital,
and the man she credits for saving her life. With heart disease being the number one killer the better your chance of success. The bottom line is “time is muscle.” This means
in women (according to the American Heart Association), I would like to thank Kim and Dr. the earlier the blocked artery causing the heart attack can be opened up, the less
Krainin for sharing this story and, hopefully, prompting us all to take heart disease more seri- heart muscle damage one will suffer, and the better outcome the patient will have.
ously. ~ Melia Flowers Berry The gold standard for heart attack care is 90 minutes “door to balloon
time.” This means from the time the patient hits the front door of the emergency
room to the time the artery is opened in the Cardiac Catheterization Lab and blood
Kim Nelson was a very healthy 46-year-old woman with no history of med- flow is restored should be less than or equal to 90 minutes for optimal outcome.
ical problems at all. While on vacation with her husband, she began to experience Most of the damage from a heart attack is done in
some chest pain which felt like a pressure, starting in the front of her chest and radi- the first several hours. Therefore, the earlier you
ating into the back. She had some tingling in her left arm. She began to feel dizzy, get to the hospital, the better chance you will have
hyperventilated and suddenly became unconscious. She had what appeared to be a of surviving your heart attack with less muscle
seizure and was unconscious for less than a minute. When she regained conscious- damage.
ness, she was confused and disoriented for about fifteen to thirty minutes. Her hus-
band transported her to the local hospital, where blood tests showed evidence of a
small heart attack.
A week later, she returned home and had a heart catheterization performed.
This revealed a 90% blockage in the artery to the front of her heart. This blockage
was treated by the placement of a stent in that artery. As the stent was being placed
into the artery, the vessel went into severe spasm. As a result of this spasm, she began
to experience chest pain, EKG changes, very low blood pressure and dangerous
arrhythmias (irregular heart rhythm). The spasm was successfully treated with admin-
istration of nitroglycerin directly into the coronary artery, and intravenous fluids
were given to help raise her blood pressure. Following this, the spasm resolved and
the stent was able to be placed successfully.
She had an excellent result and is doing well at this time, several months later,
and has returned to a normal, fully active and productive lifestyle.
The traditional risk factors for heart disease in women include high
blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol, cigarette smoking, obesity, a fam-
ily history of heart disease and post-menopausal status. Of these risk fac-
tors, the only one that applied to Kim is that she has a strong history of
heart disease in her family. The lesson that we can learn from this exam-
ple is that heart attacks don’t only happen to people that have all the tra-
ditional risk factors. She was actually very fortunate that this was not a
fatal heart attack. Many people present with sudden death as their first
manifestation of heart disease.
The Pee Dee region of South Carolina has one of the highest
incidences of heart disease in the country. It is not uncommon for us to
see young people – even as young as their 20s or 30s, or women as
young as their 30s or 40s – with heart attacks. Generally, coronary
artery disease presents about ten years later in women than in men.
Heart disease can also present differently in women. The typical pres-
entation of crushing chest pain, sweating, nausea and vomiting are fre-
quently not present in women.
A heart attack is caused when a blockage or plaque in a coro-
nary artery ruptures. This leads to the formation of a blood clot, which
closes off flow to the area of the heart supplied by that blood vessel.

Kim Nelson and her husband of fourteen years live in Florence. She is originally from
Northern Virginia (near Washington, DC) and has lived in CA, GA and Scotland. She
has been in Florence since 1994 and says she’s not moving again because she loves it
here. Kim has a married son who is in the Navy and a stepdaughter who is a stu-
dent at the University of South Carolina. She is a part-time Bank Teller at First
Reliance. She loves to traveling, cooking and reading – with her cat in her lap.

Fred M. Krainin, MD, FACC, with Pee Dee Cardiology Associates, PA is Board
Certified in Cardiology, Internal Medicine and Interventional Cardiology. He is also
a Fellow of the American College of Cardiology, a Fellow of the Council on Clinical
Cardiology of the American Heart Association, a Member of the Steering
Committee of the South Carolina Chapter of the American College of Cardiology
and a Member of the American Medical Association. Collin M. Smith Photography
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kcelebrate your age!
Melanie Kostoff
is happy to be
kMy Age: I turned fifty in November. I still can’t believe it! I like to remind
people that Barbie (the doll) and I are the same age, although she still looks eight-
een. No one would ever mistake me for being anywhere near that age again. Of
course, she’s plastic and never had to worry about the effects of time, while I’ve
learned that Spanx can be one of my best friends.
kMy Work: I work for Florence School District One as an ESOL Teacher
(English as a Second Language). This means I get to work with students from other
countries who are learning English. It’s been a wonderful opportunity to learn more
about other cultures. My students currently come from nine different countries, and
each one brings something unique to the classroom. I know I’m biased, but I think
ESOL students are some of the best anywhere! I admire their resilience and the
way they bravely take on the demands of learning a new language and navigating
their way through an unfamiliar world. I think it takes a lot of courage to start over
in a new country, and they handle it with grace and style.
kMy Hobbies: I walk every day (unless it’s raining, no thanks!). This is more
of a stress reducer than a hobby, but it’s something I enjoy. My husband and I walk
just as fast as we can without actually jogging. We’re pretty fast, though I doubt we’d
break any records. I love to read, and I’ve been an avid journal-keeper for years.
Maybe one day in the distant future, my family will enjoy working their way through
countless journals. For now, it’s very inexpensive therapy. Recently, I converted part
of my son’s old room into an art studio and have rediscovered a love for working
with chalk pastels. I usually end up with as much chalk on me as on the paper, but
that’s part of the fun. The creative process is definitely not neat – at least not for
me. So far, I’ve produced some pieces I’m proud of and have designed my family’s
Christmas cards for the last couple years.
kWhat I Have Come To Appreciate Most About Where I
Am Now: I have reached a place where I’m comfortable – though not compla-
cent – with who I am. I know there’s always room for improvement; but, to me,
that’s part of what keeps life exciting. I joke about lines around my eyes (which I’m
sure weren’t there a year ago) or having to hold books further out to read the fine
print. But, I’m so very fortunate to have these years. Each year is a gift, and I’ve
been blessed with a family that encourages me to try new things. I’ve also been
blessed with good friends who are always willing to listen. It’s hard to worry too
much about aging when I look at all I’ve been given. I’m at a point now where I can
see all these good things for what they are and be grateful for the wonderful people
who share this life with me.
kThe Most Important “Life Lesson” I Have Learned: If I keep
focused on what’s important (faith, family and friends), then I won’t ever veer too far
off course. I know what matters, what keeps me going. The rest will fall into place.
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned, however, is gratitude. If I remember
to be grateful, I don’t waste too much time on wanting more and more time appreci-
ating what I have.
kMy Greatest Accomplishment: Over the years, I’ve become a more
patient person. It’s easier for me to try something again, even if it didn’t work out the
first (second or third) time. I’m patient and persistent, and I’ve learned to see failure as a
learning experience. This is a definite outcome of age; I certainly didn’t always see it this
Melanie Kostoff and her husband, Lynn, live in Florence. She has lived in Florence for 23 years, so she considers Florence to be her home. She and Lynn, a Novelist and
Professor of English at Francis Marion University, have one son, Jeremy (21), who is a Senior at the University of South Carolina. They also have one dog and seven cats.
50 !
way. Patience has made me a better wife, parent, teacher and friend. Persistence keeps
me from giving up, so these two qualities really do go together. One of my proudest
accomplishments is the mission trips I’ve been on, including two to the Dominican
Republic (not easy for someone who doesn’t speak Spanish and likes hot showers in the
morning). I went with a group from my church. On the first trip, we cleared land for a
school; and, on the next trip, we built a playground. I saw what life is like in a third-world
country, but I also experienced grace and generosity in a way that still affects me years
later. I’d love to go back one day. In fact, I’d like to get back to taking part of my summer
for mission trips. It always meant a lot to be able to go along as a chaperone with the
church youth group. And, I’m pretty good with a hammer.
kWhat I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: What I know
now is this: Bad times don’t last. No matter how bad something is, it will pass. My
grandmother was right; things will eventually get better.
kMy Dreams For The Future: I have several dreams, but one that
stands out is I’d like to see my son, Jeremy, graduate (which, he will this summer) and
find a job after working so hard these last four years. I hope he finds something that
engages his mind and his heart because it isn’t all about the paycheck. He’s a good
young man, and he already knows this; but, it’s still something I wish for him. Also, I’d
like to travel with my husband; there are so many places, both here and abroad,
we’ve always talked about visiting. Finally, I’d like to take on the Cooper River Bridge
Run. Maybe not this year, but someday!
kWhat Keeps Me Young: What keeps me young is knowing there’s still
so much I haven’t done. I really can’t imagine ever getting bored!
kThe Downside To Getting Older: The downside of getting older is
the realization that the time to pursue my dreams is now. At fifty, I’m more acutely
aware that time is not slowing down.
kThe Best Thing About More Candles On My Birthday
Cake: The best thing about adding more candles to my birthday cake is being able
to add more candles to my birthday cake! Also, all the candlelight gives the room
such a bright, cozy glow.
kIf I Could Have A Do-Over: If I could do anything over, I would have
finished college sooner and I wouldn’t have “sweated the small stuff” when it came
to parenting. I would have never worn big hair or shoulder pads (even if they were
in style), and I would have been quicker to let things go when my feelings got hurt.
kPersonal0 Thoughts About Being 50: If I could sum up my atti-
tude about aging, it would be to say that it doesn’t bother me as much as it used to.
Turning fifty was, in many ways, easier than turning thirty. I’d like to believe this is
because I’m wiser (though there may be some dispute about my level of wisdom). I
think it’s more a result of being content with who I am, what I have and spending my
life in the company of some really wonderful people – especially my husband, Lynn;
our son, Jeremy; our families and those I’m fortunate enough to call my friends.
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“ I’m so very fortunate

to have these years...
It’s hard to worry too
much about aging
when I look at all
I’ve been given.

Collin M. Smith Photography

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Celebrate your AGE!

Anne Poston McNair

Age: 67 – Born on November 27th, 1941, on

Thanksgiving Day
67
My Work: I’m in my third year of retirement from Florence School District #1.
My Hobbies: Redoing my house has been an ongoing project since I retired. I
love working in the yard when the weather is warm enough (I don’t like cold weath-
er), reading and – best of all – babysitting my grandchildren whenever I’m needed. All
three live in Columbia, so it doesn’t take long to get to them.

My Thoughts About My Age: I can’t believe that I’m this age. I don’t feel
old. But, my children are getting older each year, so I have to be, also. I just refuse
to act or look any older than I have to.

What I Have Come to Appreciate Most About Where I Am

Now: Every part of my life has been made up of wonderful experiences, but I do
not desire to relive any part of it. I love the part that I’m now in. I love not getting
up when it’s still dark to get ready for work. Howard and I can sit at the breakfast
table and watch the sun become bright and see the birds gather at their feeding sta-
photo by Collin M. Smith
tions. I’m not on a schedule except for appointments that I have to attend. I do pret-

“
ty much what I want to do. I try to be available if my children need me. That is one
of the benefits of not working.
Every part of my life has
been made up of
A Quality I Have Now That I Didn’t Have When I Was
Younger: I think that maybe I have become a little more patient with age. I try
not to rush things because I have always wanted things to happen or be done right
wonderful experiences,
away. but I do not desire to relive
Dreams I Look Forward to Coming to Fruition: I hope that I will live to any part of it. I the part love

”
see my grandchildren grow into young adults. I want to be a part of their lives for a
long, long time. Also, I want my husband and me to have many more years together.
that I’m now in.
We have been married 42 years.

What Keeps Me Young: When I remember my parents, they continued to
act young and look young until they became very sick and died. They had a very
strong influence on my sister, Carole’s, and my life. I often say that I need Mother
here to tell me to hold up my shoulders or ask me what happened to my hair when
it didn’t look as she thought it should. I have an awesome hairstylist who really
understands my hair and I try to get the right creams and makeup for my face. If I
don’t look presentable, I don’t want to be seen. I try to stay active. I love redoing
my house and just can’t stay inside when the weather is beautiful.
Downside to Getting Older: Let’s just say that
there shouldn’t be one. I’m just glad that I’ve made it
another year and, hopefully, that I’ll stay as healthy as I
can.
Anne Poston McNair and her husband, Howard, live in Florence. Their children
are Pierce, his wife, Laura and their children, Mary Catherine and Evans; Will
and his wife, Bea Jay; and Dan, his wife, Jennifer, and their child, Christopher.
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Celebrate your AGE!

Suzanne
“Suzi” Jones
Age:
My Work:
70

My Hobbies:
I am Vice-President, Secretary,Treasurer and the Parts
Department Saleswoman for Tractor Traders, Inc. I sell heavy equipment
parts, components and attachments for construction equipment. 70
Reading, working out, gardening, cooking, entertaining and sports
(Clemson football, basketball and baseball)

My Thoughts About My Age: Anybody that enjoys life, enjoys the age they
are and looks forward to more. I’ve become well-adjusted with age and I’ve learned what’s
important and what’s not. The love of God, family and friends, being loved and giving love is
the oil that greases the wheels of a wonderful life.

What I Have Come to Appreciate Most About Where I Am Now:

I realize that I’m capable of doing so many things and I’m not afraid to try new things.

photo by Collin M. Smith

Most Important Life Lessons So Far: I’ve learned a lot about love and the

“
willingness to love with age. I’m not scared to love people and I know that I can love them
just because I want to. I don’t have grudges or take offense. I’m well-adjusted and I know
when others are needy.
Anybody that life, enjoys
A Quality I Have Now That I Didn’t Have When I Was
enjoys the they are and age
Younger: I have a tiny bit more patience - thanks to a lifetime of prayer. I have a lot more looks forward to more.

”
love to give and I have more stamina. I’ve had so many wonderful life experiences – having
my children, surviving my children’s adolescence, surviving myself during my children’s ado-
lescence, marrying Chappell and traveling everywhere with him.
What I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: Just about
everything! I wish I knew then not to sweat the small stuff. I wish I knew then
Life Is Different Now Than When I Was Younger: I’m more
that worrying yourself to death won’t change a thing. I wish I knew then to always
relaxed about life and I have lived through enough recessions and traumatic events to know
keep putting one foot in front of the other and I’ll get there.
that this, too, shall pass. Living a long time is good because you have the time to realize what’s
important and you can build back what is broken. Negativity will get you nowhere. I am a
fan of Dale Carnegie who often uses the phrase, “Stop worrying and start living.”
The Best Thing About Adding More Candles to My
Birthday Cake: I’ll need a bigger cake!
Dreams I Look Forward to Coming to Fruition: My dreams and prayers
are for Chappell and I to stay healthy and enjoy life the way we are and to see all our chil-
dren and grandchildren have healthy lives. For the most part, all my dreams have come true.
I have wonderful children and a husband whom I adore. I have so much fun in life and I’m Personal Note from Suzi’s interviewer, Dana Carraway::
comfortable in everything I do. “I will always remember the first time I met Suzi Jones in 1995 in the Francis Marion
dorm rooms where her daughter and I had just become suitemates. She is just as ener-
What Keeps Me Young: My sense of humor, exercise, lots of fun things to do, getic and vivacious and full of life today as she was then. Her bubbly personality and
cooking healthy meals, reading enriching materials and being positive and optimistic all keep overflow of love for her family and fellow man is contagious and most definitely
admirable. She has an uncommon zest for life and it is apparent any time you’re in her
me young.
presence. She’s never met a stranger and has set an extraordinary example of loving oth-
ers with that agape-type love. She has been a source of joy and laughter in my life from
Downside to Getting Older: My body just does not always cooperate like I want the moment I met her. Suzi could truly say with no guilt or boasting,‘I am woman! Hear
it to. Plus, I don’t want wrinkles! me roar!’ God broke the mold when he made Suzi Jones.”

Suzanne “Suzi” M. Jones and her husband, Chappell, live in Florence. They have two daughters (“Bebe” and Charlotte), one son (Chap, Jr.), two sons-in-law, (Chip and Clay)
and five grandchildren ranging in ages from one- to twenty-two-years-old.
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Celebrate your AGE!

Age:
My Work:
75

My Hobbies:
Frances B. Drew
Owner, Drew Tax Office in Mullins

Telling others what Jesus has done for me, helping others,
working with taxes and spending time with my grandchildren

My Thoughts About My Age: I really don’t think much about my

age. My age is only a number. When I arise in the morning, I say, “Thank you,
Lord! It’s morning!” instead of,“Oh, Lord, it’s morning.” I happily thank Him for
another day.
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What I Have Come to Appreciate Most About Where I Am Now:
At this time in my life, I have come to appreciate my family, my friends, my church. I appreciate
the very simple things in life – even the air I breathe.

A Quality I Have Now That I Didn’t Have When I Was Younger:

The one quality that I didn’t have when I was younger and that I still don’t have (even after sev-
enty-five years of experiencing so much of what life has to offer) is patience. I wish I had been
patient then and I wish I were more patient now.

Dreams I Look Forward to Coming to Fruition: I often dream of and imag-

ine myself building a health facility – and I fully intend to do so. It will be a combination
Independent Care, Assisted Living Care, Nursing Home, Hospice, Alzheimer’s Acute Care and
Rehabilitation Center. It will be located in Marion County, serving our people to the fullest.

What Keeps Me Young: I began working taxes in the early 1960s. A very challeng-
ing career at times, I enjoy it very much. For me, it’s not just a job; it’s a service to people. That
and my ambitious thoughts keep me going day after day. I always have to be doing something.

Downside to Getting Older: I don’t think there is a downside to getting older. Each
day is a gift from God and I thank Him every day for every day. As I look back, so many lives
are taken before reaching my age.

Most Important Life Lessons So Far: I graduated from high school in 1952.
Being child number seven out of ten, I didn’t immediately go to college due to lack of funds. My
mother wanted so much for all of us to go to college; but, at the time, it just wasn’t possible.
Thank goodness, she did live so see me graduate. After rearing my own family, I decided I want-
ed to go back to school and get a college degree. With encouragement and support from my
husband and family, I did just that. I even took some college credits with my children. Although
I was reluctant at first, I really thought I could do it and I wanted it very badly. My college career
began at age 51 and it took me six years to get my degree. (Because of my tax business, I could-
n’t attend the spring semesters.) On December 15, 1987 – at the age of 57 – I received
a Degree in General Studies. No matter what your age, you can’t – and shouldn’t
– dismiss new opportunities. Getting my degree has given me a sense of security and con-
fidence in myself. When I say I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me, I really
mean it. Anything can be accomplished if the desire is there.

What I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: When I was young, my
father was killed in an auto-train accident in April 1939, leaving my mother to serve as mom
and dad. She was always reminding us to do our best, be honest, let our word be our bond
and, last, but not least, let Jesus come first in our lives. As I grew older, I began to see exactly
what she meant. If I had known then what I know today, I would have understood her way of
thinking and why she stressed certain things to us.

photos by Collin M. Smith

The Best Thing About Adding More Candles to My Birthday
Cake: I love having birthdays! As the candle-count grows, so does my wisdom and love for

“
God, my family and my fellow man.

When I arise in the morning,

I say, “Thank you, Lord!
Frances B. Drew and her husband, Frank, live in Rains, SC. They have five children (Demaris,Weston,
It’s morning!”... Dixie, Dawn and Tommy) and eleven grandchildren.
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Celebrate your AGE!

Mary Long
Age:
My Work:
Streett

I’m 89; I’ll be 90 in September.

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I volunteer one day a week at McLeod Health Foundation and I play with
the Calvary Baptist Church Handbell Choir. There is no “work” anymore.

My Hobbies: I enjoy music (especially classical), needlework, puzzles and word games.

My Thoughts About My Age: I’m very grateful that the Lord has given me
these extra years and the good health to enjoy them.

What I Have Come to Appreciate Most About Where I Am photo by Collin M. Smith
Now: It’s nice not to have all the pressures we are under when we are younger, having a

“
family and getting established. (Although, that was fun, too!)

Most Important Life Lessons So Far: I’m still working on it, but I now real-
ize that worrying about things does not change anything. Be concerned, but don’t worry. Every year brings new,
unexpected blessings.

A Quality I Have Now That I Didn’t Have When I Was
Younger: Hopefully, I’ve learned to be more patient and understanding.
Dreams I Look Forward to Coming to Fruition:
for my children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I would like to see all of them living
close to the Lord and having happy, productive lives.
What Keeps Me Young: I try to stay active. If I ever stop, I may not start again!
I enjoy being around young people and that really helps.
Downside to Getting
Older: Aching joints and doing
everything so much slower!
“
All my dreams now are
What I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: I’m not so
sure I know it now, but I wish I had been more knowledgeable about the correct
things to do while raising my children.
I See Things Differently Now: Everything that happens – even a
setback – is not a matter of life or death. I try to live by the prayer of St. Francis
of Assisi.
The Best Thing About Adding More Candles to My
Birthday Cake: There is such joy in every new day. There is always some-
thing new to see and learn. There are always new friends to meet and every day
with old friends is special. Every year brings new, unexpected blessings.

Mary Long Streett lives in Florence. She and her late husband,
Ernest, have five children, Mary, Beth, Donald, Kaye, Bobby
and Tommy, eleven grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren.
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Celebrate your AGE!
Sarah Layton
SarahSarah Layton has led a full and exciting life. At the age of
91, she’s still going strong.
Sarah Smith and her family lived two miles out-
side of the town of McCormick in her growing up years.
Since her mother helped out with the family business in
town and Sarah was the eldest of three children, she
learned responsibility early as she helped take care of
her younger siblings. Though times were hard, celebrat-
ing was also a part of life. Sarah remembers riding to
school in a surrey (as in “with a fringe on top” from
Oklahoma).
After high school, young Sarah was determined
to continue her education. She went to nearby Lander
College for one year. A lack of funding curtailed her
vision of getting a college degree; so Sarah went to busi-
ness school in Greenwood instead.
In 1939, the family moved to Bamberg and she
immediately put her business training to work. She had
various jobs – usually more than one at a time. Initially,
she worked for $12 a month for the NYA (National
Youth Association). After about a year, Sarah was offered
a job at the J.W. Hand Electric Store and Theater. In the
mornings, she kept books and ordered supplies. In the
afternoons, she sold tickets and popcorn for the theater,
across the street from Cooner Hardware. Mr. Cooner
also owned the local Funeral Home. Soon, a young
embalmer moved into town to work at the Funeral
Home. His name was Floyd Layton, but everyone called
him “Tubby.”
Shortly thereafter, Sarah and a friend heard
about Civil Service jobs to aid in the war effort. They
went to Washington on the “Silver Meteor” train, not
knowing where they would stay. Mrs. Layton says that
she supposes she got her spunk from her mother, who
was a “women’s lib” proponent before her time. Sarah
remembers blackouts when the only light visible in the
city was the light on top of the Washington Monument.
Those blackouts were periodically held in preparation
for potential attacks during the war.
She and her friend initially found a place to stay
with a family in Washington who had a fold-out couch.
After two weeks, they found an attic apartment sixteen
blocks from the Munitions Building with the Signal Corps
where they worked. Eventually, Sarah and five of her
friends rented a house closer to the new site of the
agency. When the building was completed, the girls were
Ferebe Gasque is the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, a Service Coordinator with Florence County DSN Board and an Independent
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among the first to work at the new building – The
Pentagon. In the meantime, Tubby Layton had been on
active duty in the South Pacific and had been staying in
touch through letters.
In 1943, Sarah’s father became ill with cancer.
After a visit home, she returned to Washington, where
she wanted to join the Cadet Nurse Corps. Sarah went
into training at age twenty-six. Feeling that she needed
to be closer to home to support her mother, Sarah
returned to South Carolina and continued her medical
training at the Medical University of South Carolina at
the old Roper Hospital in Charleston.
One night while she was at work, Sarah
received a telephone call. Tubby was calling from the
West Coast. He had contracted malaria and was being
sent to a hospital in Alabama. Not too long after that
surprise telephone call, Tubby was transferred to
Durham, North Carolina. Romance blossomed and
Sarah Smith became Sarah Layton on a three-day pass
Tubby had managed to acquire. The blushing bride was
now twenty-eight years of age. The handsome groom
was a mature thirty-one. Tubby found Sarah a room at a
boarding home in nearby Oxford, North Carolina, so
they could be together. Soon after their marriage, Mr.
Layton was honorably discharged from the military. Mr.
Cooner (of Hardware and Funeral fame in Bamberg), like
many grateful citizens, had held Tubby’s job for him while
he was fighting for our freedom.
After about six months happily settled in
Bamberg, Mr. Ham (of Ham and Perry Funeral Home in
Timmonsville) contacted the Laytons. They were hesi-
tant to go, since Mr. Cooner had been so good to hold
the position. However, after they discussed the matter
with him, Mr. Cooner sent the Laytons on to their new
home. First, however, he graciously gave them the use of
his lake cottage for a belated honeymoon.
In Timmonsville, Tubby became the embalmer
and Sarah the bookkeeper. When Mr. Ham retired, Mr.
Perry asked Tubby to join him and the business became
Layton-Perry Funeral Home in 1958. Tubby died sudden-
ly of a cerebral hemorrhage in 1965. Mr. Perry later
retired, as well, and Mrs. Layton asked Howell Anderson
and his wife, Sue, to join her at the Funeral Home.
Howell became a licensed Funeral Director as did Sarah
Layton. Layton-Anderson Funeral Home now occupies a
lovely building on Highway 76 between Florence and
Timmonsville and serves both communities with grace
and compassion.
Though she no longer drives, due to vision
problems, Sarah Layton goes to work every day with the
able assistance of her chauffeur and partner, Howell
Anderson. In addition to working, however, she is secre-
tary of the American Legion Auxiliary, a member of the
Palmetto Hearts Chapter of the Red Hat Society and the
Order of the Eastern Star, and attends the Seniors
Luncheon at Timmonsville United Methodist Church,
where she is an active member.
Sarah has a wonderful family to whom she is
deeply devoted. Her son, a graduate of Clemson
University in Chemistry, worked for SLED for many
years and her daughter is a nurse. She has six grandchil-
dren and four great-grands. She attributes the positive
qualities in her life to trusting in the Lord to make all of
her decisions. She loves people and counts her blessings
every day and every night.
When asked about how life has changed for her
through the years, Mrs. Layton says that the Great
Depression taught a lot that young folks today have
never experienced. She has learned that things are only
things. She is trying to be more discreet these days in
sharing her physical maladies, as well.
Sarah Layton’s dreams for the future are not for
herself but for our country. She would like to see more
respect for human life and more people leaning on the
Lord before making decisions.
Yes, Sarah Smith Layton celebrates her age.
More than that, however, she continues to celebrate the
phenomenal life she has been blessed to have for almost
ninety-two years. She’s looking forward to celebrating
for a long time to come, too!
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Celebrate your AGE!
Jimmie Rogers
Age: On April 15, I will be ninety-six.
My Work: I’m a retired elementary school teacher. In addition, I taught Sunday
school classes at First Baptist for seventy years. Although I did not accept a class for
2008-2009, I have agreed to substitute.
My Hobbies: My favorite hobbies are reading, flower gardening and my church
and club activities. I’ve also enjoyed traveling with friends and with my daughter. I have
so many memories of fascinating places in Europe, the Orient and many island cruises.
My last trip and probably my “Swan Song” was Edinburgh, Scotland to attend my grand-
daughter, Cecily’s wedding at Dalhousie Castle. My daughter, Kay, her husband, Johnnie,
and I spent a week touring the Highlands of Scotland and another week in London and
Paris. While in Paris, we saw a musical at the theater and had dinner at La Tour
D’Argent on Mother’s Day. (La Tour D’Argent is rated as one of the top-ten restau-
rants internationally.) In 2006, Kay and I flew to Cincinnati and boarded the steamboat,
“The Delta Queen,” for a trip down the Ohio River. The highlight of this event was a
stop over in Louisville for the Kentucky Derby at Churchill Downs. For no particular
reason at the time, my bet was on Barbaro. You can’t imagine my excitement at choos-
ing the winner and collecting a few hundred dollars. After returning home, I had a lit-
tle talk with my pastor, Lyn Anderson, about gambling and sipping Mint Juleps. (Raising
horses and attending horse shows are among his hobbies, so I think I received absolu-
tion.)
My Thoughts About My Age: At ninety-six, I have so many wonderful
memories. God has been good – an ever present help during the sad times, as well as
the happy times. He’s the first One I talk to when I wake and the last One I talk to
before I go to bed.
Most Important Life-Lessons So Far: As one matures, many changes
take place. You can’t believe you were young, selfish and carefree for so many years.
You really learn to love one another as God has commanded.
A Quality I Have Now That I Didn’t Have When I Was
Younger: I always pray that God will lay someone on my heart that I can lift up that
day. There are people who need a call, a visit, a sandwich or a bowl of soup – people
who are alone. I think God has kept me active enough to fulfill a few of those needs. It
makes me feel useful and keeps me out of the rocking chair; I’m not ready for that yet.
Life Is Different Now Than When I Was Younger: I have seen
many changes during my lifetime. I graduated from Lake View High School in 1931 and
attended Winthrop for two years after which the banks began to go bankrupt and busi-
nesses failed all over America. I returned home, as so many young people did, and lived
with my grandfather and a favorite aunt in Dillon. My grandfather, B. Frank Edwards,
was like a father to me, having lost my own father when I was eleven. Dillon had two
large cotton mills that closed, as well as so many other businesses. I worked as an assis-
tant social worker and encountered so many sad situations. A full-blown depression
changed the lives of so many people. Strange as it may seem, however, those were some
of the happiest years of my life as a young person. Franklin Roosevelt was President
and put so many people – old and young – to work in his New Deal Programs and
Works Progress Administration. Also, in speaking of the good times, a dance organiza-
tion was formed. Dillon became known as the little dance town of the south. This was
during the time of the Big Band Era. Highway 301 was the only major highway on the
east coast and every band traveling from New York City to Miami played in Dillon. To
name a few would include Guy Lombardo, Jan Garber, Glen Miller, Benny Goodman,
Tommy Dorsey and Cab Callaway. These were the greatest of bands who entertained
our troops overseas in WWII.
Dreams I Look Forward to Coming to Fruition: I’m looking forward
to this new administration and pray that people all over America can rebuild their
homes and find jobs that will give them peace of mind and security. Most of all, I pray
for our troops overseas and their families and that, in someway soon, this war can end.
I’m also looking forward to celebrating the centennial of First Baptist. I’m on the com-
mittee to make sure this takes place in a big way in 2010. Furthermore, I’m serving on
our pastor search committee as our church is without a pastor at the present time. I
look forward to all this coming to fruition.
What Keeps Me Young: My association with young people keeps me young.
(I have to admit that everyone I know is younger than I am.)
Downside to Getting Older: The downside to getting older means you out-
live your family and friends with whom you’ve been so close and had so much in com-
mon. We have to realize that death is part of life and we have to move on. Dwelling
on our grief doesn’t help anyone. Our Lord admonishes us to take our burdens to Him
and leave them there.
Jimmie Rogers Rogers lives in Lake View, SC. She and
her late husband,Trayce, have three children – Kay,
James F. (Tip) and Ferrell (deceased). She enjoys her
three grandsons, two granddaughters, two granddogs
and six great-grandchildren.
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“
As one matures, many
changes take place. You
can’t believe you were
young, selfish and care-
free for so many years.
You really learn to love
one another as God
has commanded.

”
photo by Collin M. Smith
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“
As one matures, many
changes take place. You
can’t believe you were
young, selfish and care-
free for so many years.
You really learn to love
one another as God
has commanded.

”
photo by Collin M. Smith
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kcelebrate your age!

Helen White
kMy Age: 103

kWhat I Enjoy: Sometimes, I cook. I still help teach Bible studies, and I try to be
a confidante for friends, young and old. Reading current events, especially political
news, is also a favorite pastime.

kWhat I Have Come To Appreciate Most About Where I Am Now:

My daughter and I live together, so I haven’t had to go to a rest home or nursing home where (I think)
you can lose your identity.

kThe Most Important “Life Lesson” I Have Learned: How to relate to

other people and their needs and to use that in my own life

kMy Greatest Accomplishment: I’m proud of learning patience along the way.

kWhat I Know Now That I Wish I Knew Then: I know now that I could have
run for a political office, but I didn’t start early enough.

kMy Dreams For The Future: My dream is that my four-year-old great-grandson will
learn discipline and continue to learn and grow all his life.

kWhat Keeps Me Young: The ability to think and to be active keeps me young – as well
as optimism.

kThe Downside To Getting Older: Having to give up driving – I did so voluntarily, but
I miss the independence of driving.

kThe Best Thing About More Candles On My Birthday Cake:

Having my great-grandson blow them out!

kIf I Could Have A Do-Over: I would have liked to be in the medical field – a nurse or
a doctor. That wasn’t possible when I finished college in 1928, though, because four younger children
were to go to college, too.

kPersonal Thoughts About My Age: An aunt always said, “Old age is hell!” It was
for her, but it hasn’t been so much that way for me because I have continued to be in
relatively good health.
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Full of Life at
“I got along well for the first 100 years.
It wasn’t until then that I began having
a few problems.”
Now in her 103rd year, “Miss Helen,” as she is known locally, is
often asked to what she attributes her length of life and amazing good health.
She will quickly say,“Buttermilk.” Then, taking a serious tone, she will explain
that her mother was in prime health the spring and summer before her
birth. “There were a lot of fresh vegetables and fruits available that year, and
my mother enjoyed healthy food that was not sprayed with chemicals nor
processed with additives.”
“Also,” the rest of her family is quick to add, “she has taken good
care of herself throughout her life. We think she may have that special
longevity gene. We know she is a special, remarkable woman!”
Helen Douglas Abernathy was born September 21, 1906, to William
Leslie and Martha Mary (Williams) Abernathy of Ft. Lawn, South Carolina.
Her father was engaged in a mercantile business, farming and selling hors-
es, mules and buggies. He was Mayor of the town, an office he held for
more than twenty years. And, he was a Justice of the Peace.
Known as a “tomboy” in her growing years, she was the one who
loved to climb the light pole to turn on the streetlights for the town, walk
the roof of the barn and take other risks around the place. A “middle”
child of eight children, she also helped with the household chores and care
of the younger children as the older children left home for college. Helen
was close to her father and drove the car for him on many occasions,
thereby meeting a lot of people and learning many things about life. It’s no
wonder that she grew up to be the definition of common sense: “Genius
dressed in its working clothes.”
After attending Erskine College for one year, her parents respect-
ed her wishes not to return to a place where she felt “stifled” and allowed
her to transfer to Flora McDonald College in Red Springs, North Carolina.
She was, and is now, something of a “free spirit” with a strong will and for-
ward-looking ideas. For example, while in college (about 1928), she took her
first airplane ride in an open-cockpit, single-engine plane. She has enjoyed
flying ever since.
Helen completed a degree in Home Economics and accepted a
teaching position at Centenary High School in the small Centenary commu-
nity of Marion County, South Carolina. Although she met her future husband
in Centenary, their relationship did not become serious until several years
later. After a year and a half of teaching English and Math, as well as Home
Economics and coaching the girls’ basketball team, she accepted a job as
Assistant Home Demonstration Agent for Florence County and, a year later,
the position of Home Demonstration Agent for Saluda County. During her
stay in Saluda, she and Harry White were married in Seneca on Christmas
Day, 1933.
The Whites first lived in Clemson where they were soon intro-
Ricki Ford Photography
duced to the social whirl of playing bridge (which required formal attire in
the evenings) and going to dances featuring big bands such as those of Guy
Lombardo and Tommy Dorsey. Several years later, after their daughter Jerri’s
birth, Mrs.White worked with the Works Project Administration (WPA) to
pioneer school lunch programs, nursery projects in industry, gardening and
canning projects and home services for indigent families. She supervised
WPA operations in nine counties in the western part of the state.
Mrs.White and her daughter, Jerri, live in her home at Whitehall near Centenary part of the time and in her daughter’s home at Wrightsville Beach, NC, part of the time. Her son and
daughter-in-law, Harry and Linda White, live in Raleigh and have a second home at Landfall,Wilmington, NC. Her grandson and his family (Michael, Louise and Cam White) also live in
the Wilmington area. Her four-year-old Great-grandson, Camden Douglas White, is named for his father and for her.
As told To She Magazine byJerri White
103 !
Following Mr. White’s career path, the Whites lived in Raleigh,
North Carolina, for a year and then moved to Griffin, Georgia, where their
son, Harry, was soon born. In two years, Harry, Sr. accepted a promotion in
Athens, Georgia, and they lived there for nine years. During this time, Helen
began work part-time on an advanced degree in Education that she was
unable to complete before they left Athens.
The family moved again to Raleigh and lived there for twenty-two
years. During this time, Mrs.White taught Home Economics for a semester
at Needham Broughton High School and then at the Governor Morehead
School (School for the Blind) for sixteen years. The position at the
Governor Morehead School challenged her creativity, and she rose to the
occasion.
Imagine teaching blind and partially-sighted children to cook, sew,
clean and generally maintain a household! This required, at a minimum,
rethinking and tailoring tasks so that the children could accomplish their
goals. Mrs.White also involved community people in the program, using Red
Cross Nurses to conduct child care sessions and garden clubs to help stu-
dents learn home decoration. In addition, she arranged for the students to
go on field trips to museums and cultural events to expand their opportuni-
ties and experiences. When some of the girls showed a need for personal
information about their bodies, she began a course that incorporated a seg-
ment on sex education. This was so successful that the Superintendent
asked her to teach similar courses for the boys and, later, for the house par-
ents. Some of her students still have regular contact with her through tele-
phone and e-mail to this day.
In 1978, the Whites moved to his home community of Centenary,
buying and renovating an old house that is part of farm property. Since Mr.
White’s death in May 1984, Miss Helen has continued to live in their home.
Her mission and forte in life has been to serve others, and she has
done that in a number of ways – not only individually and through her work,
but also through church and service organizations. A person who reaches
out to people in any and all circumstances, she is a respected and loved
member of the community. She has served as President of the Centenary
Community Club, Chair of several Church committees, a Trustee of
Centenary United Methodist Church, President of the Women of the
Church and a Member of the Administrative Council. She still holds the last
two offices.
Although Miss Helen is a little hard of hearing, she has all but two
of her original teeth, good vision and good mobility. She does occasionally
use a cane. She’s beginning to be a bit forgetful; perhaps that could be due
to having had some cardiovascular problems over the past three years.
Nevertheless, she still largely manages her own business, pays her bills and
makes the decisions about the upkeep of the home, grounds and outbuild-
ings (sometimes with a little assistance from her daughter, Jerri).
Nevertheless, Miss Helen proudly says,“I got along well for the first
100 years. It wasn’t until then that I began having a few problems.”
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T here are probably very few women who have never stood in front of a mir-
ror and thought, “I wish I could change this” or “I don’t like that.” For each of us, it’s
different; but, still, it’s universal among women. We put much effort into our appear-
ance. There are times, however, when a little extra makeup or lotion just won’t do the
trick. It is, for these times, that one may call Dr. Carla Graham.
Dr. Graham is a Facial Plastic Surgeon with Carolina Facial Plastic Surgery in
Florence. Her office is located at 492 West Cheves Street. She has lived in Florence
since 1996 when she began her Fellowship with Dr. Paul Davis.
Prior to moving to Florence, Dr. Graham resided in Eastern North Carolina.
She attended UNC-Chapel Hill, where she originally began studying Genetic Research.
She had always been interested in Science and knew that she wanted to study some-
thing in that field. At the time, plastic surgery was not a consideration for her. As Dr.
Graham continued to study Genetic Research, though, she discovered that this was not
the right career choice for her after all. She found herself alone in a lab much of her
time and became bored at the prospect of doing this as a career. It was then that she
focused her attention toward medical school. She began her residency at the Medical
University of South Carolina and discovered that facial plastic surgery was something that
intrigued her. Not only did it interest her, she also found it to be a challenging field, as well.
Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband, Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children: Abbi, Luke, Savannah and Matthew.
Carla C. Graham, MD
with
Carolina Facial Plastic Surgery
by Cheri Jordan
Dr. Graham sees a variety of patients in her office on a day-to-day basis. She
deals with quite a bit of skin cancer, which is very common in our area, she says. She
also does a wide variety of cosmetic surgery, as well as dealing with cleft lip and cleft
palate issues. Most of the surgeries take place in her office. She will occasionally have
to perform a surgery in a hospital setting, especially when she is dealing with a child
who suffers from a cleft lip and cleft palate.
I asked Dr. Graham what the toughest part of her job was. “I’m never com-
pletely satisfied with my work. I always see ways in which I could improve.” Dr. Graham
says that she is a “perfectionist to a fault.” Personally, I think this is one area in which
being a perfectionist is a good thing. If someone is operating on my face and altering
my looks, Dr. Graham is just the kind of person I would want on the job!
There are many rewarding aspects to her job, as well. Dr. Graham said that,
by far, her cleft lip and palate patients are the most rewarding to her. She first sees
these patients when they are infants and often follows them and works with them into
adulthood. The surgeries that she performs on these children not only alter their phys-
ical appearance but allow them to live a normal life, as well. These surgeries are not
merely wanted; they are necessary for the child to function as a normal human being.
Dr. Graham still hears from some of her patients who she worked with as infants and
they are now in college. She has established relationships with them and their families,
and it is rewarding to see the difference that she has made in their lives.
As stated, Dr. Graham’s office offers a wide variety of treatments. Surgery
options include face lifts, brow lifts, lip augmentation, eyelid surgery and corrective nose
surgery. Laser treatments include laser resurfacing, hair removal and wrinkle treatment.
She also offers Botox®, Restylane® and Intense Pulsed Light (IPL) Treatment. While
many of these treatments may not be necessary for a person’s well-being, they are often
still life changing. These treatments often give women a boost in their confidence and
self-esteem. Dr. Graham says that she sees patients who walk out of her office feeling
like a new person. Often, that boost in confidence can trickle into other aspects of
their lives. When you feel better about yourself, you can often face life’s challenges with
more confidence and grace. There’s something to be said for a positive mental focus.
That’s what Dr. Graham provides many of these women.
Dr. Graham says that she has seen many “fad” treatments come and go in her
years as a Facial Plastic Surgeon. Most of the tried-and-true treatments have remained
over the years. However, she has seen some recent advances in her field of work. One
thing that really impresses her now is the low downtime that many of these surgeries
offer. She has women come in her office, have surgery and get right back to their nor-
mal daily routine with very little discomfort. Many women are busy with children, fam-
ily and careers and they don’t have time to be out for recovery. This often hindered
women in the past from pursuing treatments or surgeries. Now, though, a woman can
go in one morning and still fulfill her role as “soccer mom” by that evening.
A second huge advance that Dr. Graham has noticed in recent years is with
skin care products. She says there are wonderful products available now that contain
antioxidants. Dr. Graham carries some of these products in her office. She and her
staff first use and research these products for six months before she puts them on the
shelf for the public to purchase. This practice is a testament to the way she cares about
her patients and their satisfaction.
So, the next time you’re standing in front of the mirror scrutinizing your
imperfections, think of Dr. Graham. She’s ready and willing to sit down with you, con-
sult with you over your desires and give you that boost in confidence that we all need
from time to time.
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Bio-Identical
Hormones
and Aging
by J. Marshall Dent, III, MD

T This month’s issue of She Magazine is dedicated to aging. For most, aging
can be a difficult and scary time. It doesn’t have to be. With the proper balance of bio-
identical hormones, aging can simply be enjoyable and a time to treasure.
When your hormones are replaced in perfect balance, you look, feel and act
ust trudging
along being
miserable to floating
happily and healthily
younger. Also, you are protected against some of the diseases that are prevalent at your along once they were in
age. Balance is not just correction of your sex hormones (i.e. estrogen, testosterone balance with their hormones. It
and progesterone); it also involves the balance of your adrenal hormones and insulin, as
well as proper weight maintenance.
is one of the great joys of what I do!
The real understanding about
“ It has been
Let’s take a look back when synthetic hormone replacement began fifty years balance is to realize that the most my experience to
ago. At the time, women were comfortable with the use of birth control pills because overused hormone today is estro- watch the wonderful
they changed the face of American culture. Look what we know now about birth con- gen. There is no doubt that it helps
trol pills. In their early years, the doses were four- and five-times higher than they are with hot flashes and night sweats,
transformation of women
now. Was the protection against pregnancy any better then? Of course, not. What we did but the price to pay is too great! that had accepted their
know was that women were having more blood clots, and some were dying as a result. So, What I mean is that once it is course in life of just
the doses have been lowered over the years, and the risks have dropped, as well. prescribed, the patient is happy
What about hormone replacement therapy? The doses haven’t changed much because her symptoms are trudging along being
over the years, and we are seeing some of the effects today with the increase in cer- resolved. Then, over time, the miserable to floating
tain cancers and epidemic obesity. By the turn of the century, the statistics indicated weight increases. The negative
that one in ninety-one women would get breast cancer. In 2002, the stats are one in effects of oral estrogen are that they
happily and healthily
eight. One in eight?! What has changed? You be the judge. lower testosterone levels – and that along once they were
In Dr. Erika Schwartz’s book,The Hormone Solution, she states that once bro- leads to decreased libido, lean body mass in balance with
ken down in our body, conjugated estrogen (i.e. Premarin) becomes toxic to our very or muscle, a decrease in mood and sense of
DNA. It may not be just as simple as avoiding synthetic hormones; maintaining proper well being and a dramatic decrease in energy. their hormones.
weight is essential to the proper balance, as well. Obesity leads to excess estrogen The use of estrogen leads to displacement of prog- ”
through conversion of other hormones in the adipose tissue and further compounds esterone balance leading to further weight gain and
the imbalance. The new statistic is that 65% of adults are overweight in America – and insulin resistance. As you can see, this is a vicious cycle. And,
that number is growing. many times, it all started with innocently taking a pill to treat hot flashes.
Many physicians continue to prescribe synthetic hormones, and women are If you have asked your doctor to draw your hormone levels and have been told
getting fatter and fatter every day. It is predicted that the next generation will have a that your levels are normal, but you still feel like a ninety-year-old in a fifty-year-old
shorter lifespan as a direct result from diseases caused by obesity such as diabetes, high body, don’t accept it! You can’t base treatment solely on blood levels; you have to use
blood pressure and heart disease. With this sobering news, what is one to do? Ask symptom relief to adjust treatment. In some cases, blood levels are helpful – such as
yourself if you feel as good as you want to. How much extra weight are you willing to insulin levels when evaluating obesity and cortisol levels when a patient is not respond-
accept? If you are ready to get off this path that is leading to a dead end, what better ing as well to hormone treatment. But, in the real world, symptom relief must be con-
time is there than now to make a change? sidered, as well.
Bio-Identical Hormone Replacement Therapy offers extraordinary benefits. Unfortunately, the media has shed such a negative light on hormone replace-
What makes bio-identical hormones special is the chemical formula is identical to one’s ment therapy that many women are afraid to take any hormones at all. No one can
body. The body recognizes the hormone as a perfect fit! Many times, the public remains understand your body better than you do. The choice of hormone therapy is give-and-
confused about the correctable effects of diminishing hormones. This confusion stems take with your doctor, not a one-size-fits-all plan. No one will lose out more than you
from what they have read concerning the dangers of hormones – in particular, synthet- if you make the wrong decision about your health. Think of your body as a finely tuned
ic hormones. machine. You must feed it the right fuel. You must take care of it with regular tune-ups.
The goal is to find the optimal hormone balance individual to your body, and You must treat it as precious as any thing you hold of great value. The proper balance
then you will see your body sing in perfect harmony. It has been my experience to of bio-identical hormones can really be your “fountain of youth.”
watch the wonderful transformation of women that had accepted their course in life of Is this not what we all want? To feel as good as we possibly can and look for-
ward to aging with excitement, knowing that we have a zest for life? That is priceless!
j

Dr. Dent only uses Bio-Identical Hormones in his practice. If you have questions about the information in this article, you may contact Dr. Dent at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence.
Dr. Dent is Board Certified in Family Practice and Obstetrics and Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine.
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Feeling Nifty
about my fifties by Ferebe Gasque
Fifty-six….That is WAY too close to sixty! On the other hand, I would much rather “After not having a
be fifty-six than twenty-six. Sure, there are things I would do differently if I had it to do all over again. But,
I’d probably just make different mistakes. It’s not that sixty is old; it just SOUNDS old!
The older I get, the more I learn not only about life in general but, more importantly, about me. I vacation in more years
find myself both more adventurous and more pensive. I’ve started cyberdating yet I think more about the
what-ifs of even small decisions. After not having a vacation in more years than I can count, I’ve been both than I can count, I’ve
to San Francisco and Houston since mid-January.
I think part of this newfound diversity is the experiences I’ve been allowed to have through my been both to San
work as the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House. I am confronted every day with what’s really
important in this life. Of course, those mortality events are not limited to my work situation. Recently, one Francisco and Houston
of my dearest friends died suddenly, just the day after the eight-year-old daughter of another friend was
killed in a freak automobile accident. Also, it seems that more and more of my friends are dealing with life- since mid-January.”
threatening illnesses in themselves and in those closest to them. But, through it all, God is good. And,
through it all (if I stop to listen), He’s teaching me more and more things about Himself and about His
incredible love for me.
I’ve often said that “things are only things.” In these past couple of years, I have learned that I
really do understand and believe that profound concept. God has used so many experiences in my
life to grow my faith in Him. He has always been faithful.There are so many stories from through-
out my life that testify to that. During these last two years, however, I’ve seen first-hand how
He uses events and people to “work together for good” (Romans 8:28).
Recently, I’ve had several new reasons to celebrate my age. In January, I visited with
my dear friends Denise and Neil in Oakland, California. I’m looking forward to my new chal-
lenge of being Denise’s literary agent in getting her book re-published (more about that to
come, as well). During my recent trip to Houston, I was able to get to know a friend in a bet-
ter way (2222 miles in five days will do that to you!). I met face-to-face with my cyberdate (actu-
ally twice!) along the way (more about that in another article – let’s just say he was even more
charming in person than he is online!). And, I had the wonderful opportunity to spend Valentine’s
Day with my ADORABLE, four-month-old, sweet, smart (did I say adorable?) grand-nephew Duncan
(and his Mommy and Daddy, too).
I’ve learned so many lessons during the past fifty-six years. Some of them have been fun lessons
to learn. Many of them, however, have come after difficult experiences. So, as I think of celebrating my age
in this issue, I’d like to share some of those with you.

I’ve learned…
• just because life is difficult, it is not necessarily bad.
• God is always good, He is always in control, and He loves me and those I love
much more than I could ever imagine.
• God really DOES know what’s best for us and He DOES prepare both us and
situations far, far in advance for events yet to come.
• friends are amazing and are truly priceless gifts from God.
• things really ARE just “things.”
• life on earth is short, no matter how many years it lasts.
• Duncan is the most adorable four-month-old in the world!
• moments with those we love are to be cherished. They are gone all to quickly.
• no matter how dark the night, nor how violent the storm, God IS still in control.
• all of life is worth celebrating.
• Jesus loves me… and, ultimately, that’s really all that matters.

Come to think of it, the-big-six-oh doesn’t sound so bad after all!

Ferebe Gasque is celebrating being fifty-six by cyberdating, reconnecting with friends, being a great aunt, selling Pampered Chef kitchen tools,
writing for She Magazine, serving as Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, and looking forward to what the future holds.
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my 30-something
I remember when I
Life
turned thirty. For the first time in my life, I
actually felt older. Not a decrepit-wheel-chair older; it
was more of an I’m-in-my-thirties-and-married-with-two-
kids-and-people-are-actually-depending-on-me
And that was a strange feeling to have because, at the
time, I had a four-year-old and a one-year-old and people
had been depending on me for the previous four years. It
just seemed to hit me when I turned thirty. Fast forward
nearly three years, and I’m still feeling that way. It’s not at
all a bad thing, though. In fact, I love it!
Probably, the most important thing
that I have come to realize in my thirties
is that I know nothing.
Now, I’m getting very close to my mid-thirties.
My life revolves around doing laundry, going to Target a
thousand times a week, picking kids up from school, tak-
ing kids to dance and soccer, doing laundry, planning
meals, cooking meals, doing laundry, entertaining a three-
and a six-year-old, loving my husband like crazy and – you
guessed it – doing laundry.
In my thirties, there has been a whole change in
definitions in my life. Take, for instance, Friday night. It
was once the night. It was never spent at home. It was
the one night of the week that was guaranteed to be
spent out with friends. These days? More often than not,
Aron Cannon Smith and her husband, Collin, live in Florence. They have a son, Makgil (5) and a daughter, Clara Beth (3).
by Aron Cannon Smith
it means movie night on the couch with my husband. We
always have grand intentions of making it our official date
and it’s okay to make mistakes. That’s what life’s about,
right? Making mistakes, learning from them, trying to do
night; but, life happens. Work gets busy. And, getting a it right the next time.
babysitter can be difficult, especially when you wait until Thankfully, the Lord has blessed me with an
the last minute. Really, though? There’s no place in the arsenal of older women that I can turn to for advice on
older. world that I’d rather be than curled up on the couch with marriage, parenting, work – all the things that are
the love of my life on a Friday night. Life is so hectic and important to me in my thirties. I seek out the wisdom
fast paced – but so wonderfully full. of my mom about a hundred times a day. She’s been
The things that occupy my daily thoughts have where I am, raised children and has so much to share.
changed in my thirties. I think about retirement accounts And, I love taking it all in.
more in a single day than I did in the entire decade of my More than anything, life in my thirties is just plain
twenties. I worry about the things my children will face fun. Yes, life is busy. Yes, things go wrong on a daily basis.
as teenagers. I think about what they will be like when But, a lot goes right, too! In my
they are all grown up. I think about their friends and thirties, I’ve learned to focus on
what they will be like. The pros and cons of public the little, everyday moments
school/private school/homeschool are always on my that make life special.
mind. Who knew that my children’s education options I love being in the mid-
could occupy so much of my brain power?! None of dle of my thirties. And, I
these thoughts even entered my mind until I turned thirty. know that the
Probably, the most important thing that I have things I’m learning
come to realize in my thirties is that I know nothing. now will help to
There have been so many times that I have said,“I would make the next
never . . .” or “I’ll always . . .” And, there have been many decade even
times that I have broken my own rules. It’s actually quite better than this
nice to come to the realization that very rarely am I right, one.
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Best Days
STRAIGHT Ahead
I
I accidentally enjoyed a country music song while waiting for my oil to be
changed. The other unsuspecting auto patrons and I were glibly waiting for our vehi-
cles to be ready and had no choice but to listen to the Country Music Television that
was flashing for our attention. I sat and read my book, only to be interrupted from time
to time by the voice from the service desk, calling out to whomever was next in line.
It was then that I noticed a sultry twenty-something girl singing her broken heart out
on the TV screen. I looked around the room to see if anyone else was paying attention
and my eyes landed on an elderly gentleman who was sheepishly peeping up at the
pretty young thing. It was obvious that his mama or his wife had tried to train him well
– he was at least bashful about his gawking. I plunged back into my book, remember-
ing why I’m not a big fan of country music.
March is my birthday month. Last year, it was a monumental birthday month
when I crossed the threshold into the fuzzy realm of middle age. Whatever that is.
Pondering the new collection of crow’s feet that I’m sporting, it’s no wonder that my
ears would perk up at the sound of the country crooner, Danny Gokey:
“Blowing out the candles on another birthday cake
Old enough to look back and laugh at my mistakes
Young enough to look at the future and like what I see
My best days are ahead of me.”
Oh yeah, Danny? Ya think? The video had lots of great imagery and fun say-
ings. One of my favorites was: “Make better mistakes tomorrow.” I’m not sure that I
understand it, but I’m pretty sure that I agree with it.
His song made me wonder. Do I really believe that my best days are ahead of
me? I don’t know. I’ve had some great days in my lifetime. Some really great seasons,
come to think of it. But I’ve also had some stinkers.The kind of days, months, and years
that drag on endlessly.The kind that suck the life out of me until everything makes me
weary – even simply breathing.
Melodie Griffin resides in Lexington with her husband, 3 children, and 2 Westies. She plans on celebrating her birthday for this entire month
by Melodie Griffin
“…there's a whole lot of world out there that I can't wait to see.
My best days are ahead of me”
I’ve been fortunate to see a whole lot of world out there already. By the time
I graduated high school, I had visited Israel, Egypt, Greece, Haiti, Jamaica, and the
Netherlands Antilles.Wow. Just reading those words seems surreal. My parents showed
me a lot of life before I grew wings and flew the nest. Better yet, they showed me the
world through the eyes of the One Who created it.The One Who loved it enough to
give His only Son for it.With all that I’ve seen, heard, smelled, touched, tasted…could
the best days really still lie ahead?
Carrie Underwood must have read my mind. Her lyrical voice wooed me in
as I watched her tell a story through video.A boy in foster care, a single mom looking
for a job, an elderly gentleman standing on the brink of death. Their stories were all
the same:
"This is my temporary home - It's not where I belong
Windows and rooms that I'm passin' through
This was just a stop on the way to where I'm going
I'm not afraid because I know this was my temporary home."
So truth be told, Danny Gokey was right. If I have decades left on this big, blue
ball or only minutes to spare – my best days most certainly are yet to come! Because
of the glory that awaits me on the other side, lookout! Spectacular sights and sounds
will be there:“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God
has prepared for those who love him” I Cor. 2:9. Hopefully you and I have much life
left to be lived here on this earth - loved ones to kiss, books to read, chocolate to
savor, and maybe even that elusive pair of skinny jeans to fit into! But either way, the
God Who gave us our birthdays in the first place stands waiting with life abundant for
those who give their hearts to Him. Life now and in the life to come. Outta my way –
I see some great days just ahead!
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“ It’s so funny how we look forward to certain ages
and set so many goals and standards for our lifeline
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A A certain superstore and I have developed a very solid love/hate relationship.
It’s true that this store has everything I need in one spot – which I love. But, their
behaviors and mannerisms continuously cause me to leave the store crabby and
disheveled – which I hate.
I love that I can pick up ink for the printer and other random things when I
suddenly remember that I’m out without having to make another stop after purchas-
ing the eggs and milk. But, I hate walking towards the line of thirty registers and real-
izing, once again, that only six or eight are open and those lines are long. These are the
facts. But, sometimes in life, you weigh the options and decide you just have to take
the good with the bad.
For instance, one of said superstore’s redeeming qualities is the fact that it
allows RVs and campers to park overnight sans rental fees or towing threats. (That’s
quite generous of them seeing as how they try to squeeze every penny from my pock-
et by offering items I don’t even need in bulk packing at ridiculous sale prices that I
can’t pass up.)
Now, back to the RVs and campers. I used to think that was quite sketchy of
the establishment, allowing squatters to take up residence when there’s a perfectly
good campground just up the road a piece with much better scenery. In fact, I used to
consider this generous act as more of a fashion faux pas, especially when I saw a com-
mercial featuring a sort of tailgate party going on in the parking lot of this chain store
and recognized it as something I had seen before in real life.
Of course, when I was accusing our superstore of being “tacky,” I did all my
camping in a tent on the ground, in a sleeping bag, while the raccoons raided our camp-
site and ran off with whole bags of marshmallows, chips and loaves of bread. I knew
not the luxury of camping in a hard-shelled camper that sat up off the ground keeping
out the rain that so easily floods a tent in a low campsite. I had also never heard the
stories of other seasoned RV residents who told of terrible storms and sudden break-
downs, nor did I know any families that lived in their camper because they had nowhere
else to go.
Now, it makes more sense to overlook the redneck potential of a camper
parked in the parking lot of a large supercenter because I have heard such things and,
well, I may very well be wanting/needing to park in such a place in the near future.
That’s right, ladies and gents! Brandon and I are homeowners now! We are the proud
couple with keys to a ’79 Starcraft Galaxy Swinger! It’s something we’ve both wanted
for a long time, and now we can roam the world in our little pull-behind pop-up
camper!
I think this says something significant about us as a couple – not just our inter-
ests, but our age. It’s as if we’ve crossed over into a different era where pulling a very
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Anna K. Pitts lives in Florence where she is the Media Specialist at Greenwood Elementary. She loves reading, writing and is having a blast planning her wedding in June!
At Any Age
by Anna K. Pitts
”
it was just a year or two back. We’ve always shared a love of the outdoors and an inter-
est in camping. We’ve loaded the truck bed and camped at several different locations,
but we always seem to be among a sea of retirees who must rollout Astroturf under-
neath their awning and hang their garden flag from the holster before they even finish
setting the blocks behind the tires.
Campers come up in conversation at least once a week with us. Several times,
we had to pull off at one exit or another “just to look” at a dealership. We’ve discussed
pull-behinds and piggybacks,Airstreams and Dutchmen, weighing the pros and cons and
ins and outs of each. It was only a matter of time before we began to search serious-
ly. But, in my mind, it was always in the future, when we were “older,” you know. The
more we talked, the more we thought. And, the more we thought about it, I began to
see us stringing lights around our awning and tying down the canvas sides after turn-
ing the crank to raise up the roof.
I laugh when I look at how I “grow up” sometimes. While my friends are long-
ing for babies and looking for mommy groups to join, I’m scouring the AutoTrader for
a camper and striking up conversations with campground neighbors about the best
sites and wondering what it takes to join the Airstream Club of America.
Still feeling very much like a “spring chicken” at twenty-seven, I can’t imagine
how thirty might feel any different. It baffles me that Brandon will be thirty before we
are married, an age that still seems so far away for me. I remember how I was set on
being married by twenty-five, and that pushed the envelope when I knew so many girls
who were getting married at twenty and twenty-one. But I wanted to be “older” and
more established.
Years go by so quickly. It’s so funny how we look forward to certain ages and
set so many goals and standards for our lifeline when we have zero control over any
of it. Life just happens, and we just live it the best we know how. If we’re smart, we
choose to love how we live it and not hold ourselves to so many boundaries. The
twenty-seventh year for me was just as exciting as the twenty-first and the eighteenth
and the sixteenth. And that’s how I want it to feel for the thirtieth and the thirty-sixth
and the forty-third – if we’re on this earth long enough to see it.
I know I’m blessed. I’m fortunate enough to be happy. The life around me is
a sweet landscape of amazing opportunities and milestones. There’s a smudge every
now and then, a dark spot on the page; but, I’m moving forward. And I’m excited about
what’s to come.
We’re making some minor repairs to the Galaxy Swinger. Obviously it might
need some given it’s pushing thirty-something. But then we’re hitching it up to the back
of Brandon’s truck and looking forward to a few weekends of camping, possibly in the
parking lot of a superstore near you. But not if we can help it!
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Dear Dr. Avie,
I am so thrilled that you are taking questions in She Magazine.
I have been married for 13 years and have three wonderful children.
My problem is this; I DO NOT TRUST MY HUSBAND.
How can I regain my trust in him again?
When we were dating, we argued a lot. I responded by neglect-
ing him. As a result, he got involved with an older, married woman at
work. I found out about the relationship, but I still married him
because he told me he wouldn’t keep in touch with her. But, he did.
After we married, she would guide him on how to strengthen
our relationship, and she would tell him that it was wrong to have a
relationship outside the marriage. Nevertheless, my husband continued
to have feelings for her.
We have continued to fight, and I continue to withdraw. I focus
on our children; I don’t have a close friend with whom I can confide.
I’m a little reserved and have never had many friends, but my husband
loves mixing with people.
ASK
Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP
We recently got into an argument, and he mentioned that he
still keeps in touch with this woman through e-mail. He says that they
are just friends and that I should trust him. I love him, but it’s hard for
me to believe that they are just friends knowing that he had feelings for
her. Is it right for him to do that? He also chats with other women
online. Is this normal?
He tells me he loves me, and he thinks I don’t believe him. I
don’t want a divorce because I don’t want my children to suffer the
pain.
I’m attending a seminar that our church is having on how to
stay happy in the marriage; but, how do I stay in our marriage and trust
my husband when I doubt him in everything he does? I want our mar-
riage to work, but it hurts me so much to think that he still keeps in
touch with this woman and that he chats online with other women. He
has a family! AM I WRONG?

Dear Reader,
To come straight to the point – no, you are not
wrong. However, you’re probably not totally in the right
either. This situation – like most relationship difficulties –
is a two-way street.
Let’s begin to look at the litany of problems that
are present in your circumstance. First, while dating,
there was a problematic pattern of his looking outside
the relationship (wrong on his part) and your response
of neglecting him (wrong on your part). If you had come
as a couple to my office before marriage, I would have
challenged you not to marry until this destructiveness was
remedied. That central problem has continued throughout
the marriage and will continue until two commitments are
made. First, he will have to commit to turning his interest
and affection only to you. And, you will have to commit to
being sufficiently open to address the problems in the rela-
tionship rather than running from them and neglecting him
in passive aggressive anger. When he is emotionally unfaith-
ful, he grants you an excuse to withdraw, which is just
another type of emotional unfaithfulness. When you with-
draw, are you being faithful to the marriage promise of
working things though in the bad times? When you with-
draw, it grants his excuse to justify his own actions of emo-
tional infidelity. See the pattern? The two of you have
played that tired song for years. It’s amazing how common-
ly we do this to one another.
Your husband has to be willing to prove to you
that he is trustworthy – that is, worthy of your trust.
What should he do? Simple! Whatever it takes!
Whatever it is you need from him. If he isn’t willing to
humble himself and right this wrong, he probably doesn’t
want to give the other woman up. Again, if he isn’t will-
ing to do for you what you need to meet your needs to
be able to trust him again, it simply isn’t going to work.
There is a balance that must be had. If you hold
this wrongdoing over his head and continue to withdraw,
you will both lose. However, you have to show some
mercy, too. It is a two-way street. You have to be willing
to prove to him that he can count on you for the emo-
tional consistency and connectedness that he is likely
missing. No, I am not excusing his being emotionally
unfaithful – any more than I am excusing your being emo-
tionally distant. But, we have to be able to explain why
something happened so that we can see the pattern and
know how to avoid it in the future.
The married “friend” who was supposedly
“guiding” him about how to do his relationship – she was
no friend! For her own reasons – out of her own unmet
needs – she was enabling his aspect of the problematic
pattern. Scripture says we can’t serve two masters, that
we are to flee from temptation and to avoid even the
appearance of evil. For these scriptural reasons, and the
obvious emotional ones, chatting online with someone of
the opposite gender is dangerous territory. Sure, it’s easy
to say, “They are just friends.” But, in reality, would you
spend that amount of time with that person in real time?
If you did, don’t you think you’d be at risk of developing
an emotional bond with them? Of course, you would.
We all develop bonds with each other based, in part, on
how much we share. With the anonymity of the Internet,
it’s easy to get quite intimate, quite quickly. So, this is a
very slippery slope that is wise to avoid altogether. Does
your husband know this? I’d say he probably does.
So, for you, the question becomes, “Why does
he have the need to spend time with other women on
the Internet?” It’s a question that could save your mar-
riage. My guess would be that he is getting from those
interactions what he isn’t getting from you – connected-
ness, social exchange, maybe even passion. Since you aren’t
a social person (and he is), you are probably going to have
to be willing to change, too – to become more social. Just
like he is going to have to be willing to change by giving up
on looking to other women to meet his needs.
By all means, go to your church’s marriage sem-
inar. But, go together! Let that be the beginning step to
you both rededicating yourselves to one another.

Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP

Senior Partner of LifeCare Psychology Group, LLC, Dr. Avie J. Rainwater is the only Triple-Boarded Psychologist in SC, holding Specialty Certification in Clinical Psychology and
Sub-Specialty Designations in both Biofeedback and Pain Management. He and his wife of 31 years, Karen, have three children together, Chelsea, Seth and Josh.

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causing not only emotional stress but permanent scarring, as well. Adults with acne (as
well as teens with moderate-to-severe acne) shouldn’t hesitate to see their primary
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counter products.
There have been many causes of acne debated over the years, including bacte-
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Good hygiene is always important, but acne is not caused from dirt on the
skin. Washing your face more than twice a day is not going to improve acne and may
be more damaging to the skin by drying it out and causing irritation. A good gentle
cleanser twice a day is all that is needed. The cleanser should be exfoliative to help
remove dead skin cells. Do not “scrub” or use anything abrasive. Topical retinoids are
also useful in the prevention of the hyperkeratinization that results in follicular plugging.
Oil control is important, and cleansing helps with this; but, astringents can also
be useful. In females, acne can be improved with hormonal treatments such as oral con-
traceptives and other anti-androgenic medications.
Killing Propionibacterium acnes (the bacteria responsible for acne) is also
important and can be accomplished with topical bactericidals (salicylic acid, benzoyl
peroxide and azelaic acid) or topical antibiotics such as erythromycin, clindamycin or
tetracycline. Oral antibiotics can also be used if needed in the more moderate-to-
severe situations. Another good option is phototherapy with blue light. Intense Pulsed
Light Treatments (IPL)and BLU-U™ Blue Light Photodynamic Therapy use blue light of
400- to 420-nanometer wavelengths to actually kill the bacteria indirectly by causing
porphyrins within the bacteria to generate free radicals. Phototherapy is also very use-
ful in the treatment of rosacea by reducing redness and removing red vessels on the
skin of the face. Photodynamic Therapy with ALA (aminolevulinic acid) is another
option available in which the skin is treated with ALA prior to the light treatment. The ALA
makes the skin more photosensitive thus increasing the effects of the light treatments.
In summary, acne does not have to be lived with at any age. You always want
to make sure you have a proper diagnosis and then start with the basics – a good top-
ical cleanser, morning and night, and oil control. The next step would be adding topical
bactericidals/antibiotics if needed, then progress to oral antibiotics and, possibly, topical
retinoids. Next would be the light-based phototherapy for stubborn acne. Always
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There are several treatments available for sagging neck skin. The best treatment for
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with Mesotherapy. Therefore, if there is fat, I always recommend starting with
Mesotherapy treatments. The other benefit of this is that fat cell death is permanent, so
you don’t have to worry about the fat returning.
The Mesotherapy treatments are typically done about four weeks apart, and the
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a little longer than the fat loss effect and usually peaks at about three to six months after
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Collagen production is always a relatively slow process, so the full effect of treatments
is typically noticed about six to nine months after treatments. There will be gradual
improvement along the way, however. The light-based treatments are done in a series
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make
PEACE
with your
Age
by Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC

We all need to celebrate life because it is so precious! I’ve never liked getting older, but
I’m developing a better attitude about all the changes. I’ve never been one to like lots of changes
– unless I’m the one in charge of making them.
As we develop wrinkles on our faces, and some – or all – of our hair begins to turn white,
we can choose to focus on the positive or focus on the negative aspects of our bodies changing
and aging. Some negative aspects would include not liking or accepting the changes in our bod-
ies and developing a somewhat distorted self-image. Being angry about getting older is another
negative response to aging. Growing older should be a positive thing. You can remind yourself that
you’re getting better as you get older, that you are wiser and have a greater knowledge base than
someone who is twenty. You know more and have traveled to more places, right? You can say what you
think with assertiveness and feel good about it! You can enjoy yourself and just have fun.
It’s also very important to exercise and eat right and take care of your body. Enhance yourself with
attractive makeup and clothes that accentuate your figure. Continue to fix yourself up and wear complemen-
tary clothes and makeup; don’t “let yourself go.” Accept the way God made you and make the most of your
best qualities. How you look should be important to you and how you look is still important to your husband.
And speaking of husbands and age, you’re not a teenager anymore. Now, it’s okay to hold your husband’s
hand – no matter where you are – or touch his leg when you sit beside him. Let him know that you love him and
appreciate all that he does for you.
If you have a twenty-year-old daughter, it’s probably best for you neither to dress like your daughter nor to
wear the latest fads that twenty-year-olds are wearing. You need to stick to what complements your figure and looks
somewhat age appropriate.You shouldn’t dress like a little old lady, but you probably won’t look good in a miniskirt or
the skin-tight jeans that most of the young ladies are sporting. You would probably look good in a slightly low-cut blouse
and a pair of black pants with a nice jacket to match. Just use good judgment!
Join different clubs that women go to and share and vent. Continue to establish goals for yourself, learn new hob-
bies and how to use some of the latest gadgets. This process stimulates mental activity and keeps that brain working and
functioning properly. Develop a positive attitude and speak and say positive things.
You know the old saying, “You reap what you sew”? If you sew positive thoughts and speak them, you will reap bounti-
fully and develop joy, happiness and peace. Happiness is dependent on what happens to us. Joy and peace come from the inside
of us. And, if you have joy and peace on the inside, then what happens on the outside is not as important and is more easily dealt
with. If you speak negatively, which includes self-criticism and talking about your unhappiness, you will reap negativity. You won’t feel
good about your life or how you look.
In summarizing how to feel good about yourself and your age, put your best foot forward. Dress so that you look and feel
your best. Fix yourself up so that you can celebrate your age to the fullest and look like the “sexy diva” you know that you are.

Ouida K. Page is a Master’s Prepared Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and
is a member of Sigma Theta Tau (International Honor Society of Nursing). She has been in private practice in the Hartsville and Florence areas for over 15 years,
specializing in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages. She is married and has one son who has graduated from Wofford College.
To contact Ouida, you may call 843-398-0915. You may also contact her by e-mailing editor@shemagazine.com with “Ouida” as the subject matter.
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Laughing and Dancing
by Allie Atkinson
It’s How to Stay Young
“Age is only a number.” “You’re only as
old as you feel.” Both of these statements are true, as
far as I’m concerned. But, I have to admit that I still kind
of cringe and hesitate when I’m asked my age. Not that
I’m ashamed of my age. On the contrary. I believe that
my age is a good one. I really enjoy being my age, in fact.
Except, of course, when I don’t. Because, I live,
as do you, in a society that is totally and completely con-
sumed and obsessed with youth and appearing youthful.
There are so many creams and serums available that
promise you a “younger appearance in only . . .” These
products aren’t cheap, either. They can range in price
from the teens to hundreds of dollars per ounce.
Then, there are the services that you can get in
order to maintain your youthful appearance. You can
have collagen and fat injected into areas to decrease the
appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. You can have
Botox inserted into your muscles in order to relax the
muscles so that lines are less visible and so your mus-
cles can’t form the faces to cause them. You know; you
can’t laugh, so you can’t form the laugh lines. You can
even have your entire face lifted in order to smooth out
problem areas.
Allie Atkinson is a French teacher at Marion High School. She lives in Marion with her husband, Philip, and daughter, Abbie.
I try very hard to avoid falling prey to adver-
tisements and articles that tell me how old I should look
at my age. I’m not always successful, though. I, too, find
myself frowning in the mirror when I see all the lines
beginning to deepen. I see ads for miracle products and,
sometimes, I may cave in and try them.
I try to remind myself that I always thought
that my grandmother was beautiful – even with her
many fine lines – because it was truly her heart and spir-
it that I saw when I looked at her. And, she was
beautiful! Her skin was lined, but it was so soft and
radiant. Her eyes creased significantly at the corners
when she laughed, which she did often. Mine do the
same thing, and I try to find it as beautiful on myself, as
well. It’s harder when it’s me; but, I try.
Sometimes, I feel younger than my age; for
example, when I’m away on girls’ weekend and laughing
for hours with my friends, or on rare occasions when I
get to go out dancing. I went out this past weekend for
a girlfriend’s birthday and had a ball! We danced for
about four hours. It was wonderful! I love to dance,
but I don’t get to do it very often. When I do get to go,
I just let loose and forget about my age and dance.
Dancing is something that can be done at any age.
Sometimes, I forget that.
At other times, I feel older than my age. Like
when I woke up the morning after dancing for four
hours. I obviously got a good workout because I was
sore! I worked muscles that have obviously not seen
any action for a while. My thighs felt as though I had
done dozens of squats. And my knees! They were not
happy with me. In fact, they were sore all day. It’s sad
to me that I can say at my age that I have bad knees. But,
I do.
I think that we should always do our best to
stay young. Maybe we should concentrate more on
staying young on the inside than on the outside, though.
We should do things that make us feel young – like
laughing and dancing. And, we should avoid things that
make us feel old, like dwelling on negativity or problems.
I believe that we should strive to enjoy whatever age we
currently are and not think so much about what age we
were.
Besides, age is only a number, and you’re only
as old as you feel. And, by the way, since I’ve avoided say-
ing it up until now – I’m thirty-seven. And proud of it!
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After centuries of older men fancying younger women, it

seems the tides have turned. An older woman dating
younger men has become the new trend.

What do you think about this

“Invasion of the Cougars”?

1 Jason Christmas - Florence

“I think it’s great that everyone is finding love
regardless of age. It’s just part of falling in love.”

2 Tripp Smyth - Florence

“I don’t see anything wrong with it. Older
women have much more life experience.”

3 Morris Green - Hartsville

“I see nothing wrong with it as long as the younger men
are gentlemen and treat the women with respect.”

4 Russell A. Bass - Mullins

“My oldest son is 17. I don’t have a problem with the
‘Cougar thing’ as long as it’s not my son we’re talking
about. If the man is 18 or older, he’s considered an
adult. Then, there’s not much you can do about it.”
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She Magazine • March 2010 • 133

Business
Women
Love To
Barter

Carolina
Barter EXCHANGE

www.Barter.sc
(866)532-4725 Info@ Barter.sc
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And may you grow to be

proud, dignified and true.
And do unto others, as you'd
have done to you.
Be courageous and be brave,
and in my heart you'll always

Forever Young
stay...

-BOB DYLAN

be
Young at Heart
be She
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She Magazine • March 2010 • 135

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My Family: Parents, Kathy and Glenn Lawhon; Sisters, Jane,

Renee and Maggie; Brother-In-Law, Bradley (Maggie’s husband)

My Town: Hartsville, SC

My School: Mayo High School for Math, Science & Technology

My Accomplishments: Member and President of Future

Business Leaders of America (FBLA); Member of Key Club,
Environmental Club, French Club and Media Productions
“Mayo Mania”; Dancing with the Brenda Cranford School of
Dance (BCSD) since 1995 and having the opportunity to
compete all over South Carolina (even dancing in New York
several summers with my favorite dancers, Jaime and Mrs. “B”)

My Dreams for the Future: Graduating from Clemson

University with a Nursing Degree – Go Tigers!

K
My Favorite Song: “LITTLE SUNDRESS” BY CHRIS CAGLE

atherine

Lawhon
My Favorite Movie: Sweet Home Alabama

My BFF: Caroline – We’ve been best buds since

daycare. She likes Gamecocks – and I still love her!

If I could meet anyone, it would be . . . my Granddaddy,

Dr. Glenn Lawhon. He passed away a long time before I
was born. From the stories I’ve heard, he seems to be a lot
like me (always up to something).

If I could go anywhere in the world, I would go to . . .

New York (again), dancing every day!

One Word That Describes Me and My Personality:

OUTGOING

Words That Inspire Me: Live, Laugh, Love

What Makes Me Laugh: Old TV comedies, good books

and John

The Coolest Person I Know: My Dad – He’s my inspiration

Photograph by Heather Jordan to be the best I can be each and every day.