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AUGUST 2013

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104
112
118

136
144
206

Fun,, Fearless

Confessions

Perfect Jeans
for Your Body and Budget
Beauty Under $10
How to Bounce Back
From an Ofce Oops
Demi Lovato
Cosmo Exclusive: My Fianc
Was GayNBA Player
Jason Collins Ex Speaks Out
The Real Reason
He Never Texted
Sex on the First Date?
The Verdict Is In!
Supermodel-Abs Workout

Best. Sex. Ever.


42 New Tips

Your Summer Bucket


ListGet on It!

30 CONFESSIONS
Yours and his

36 HE WENT FROM
DREAM GUY TO
MEAN GUY!
One readers
disastrous date

Fun, Fearless Celebs


39 SUMMER LOVIN!
40 CELEB TRENDS
42 COSMO GUY
Max Irons

46 FUN, FEARLESS
FAIL!
Wow to WTF?!
Our trend radar

50 21 THINGS TO DO
THIS MONTH
National Girlfriends
Day, JT and Jay-Z
team up, and more

PHOTOGRAPHED BY PAUL COSTELLO

Fun,, Fearless

Shopping
pp g

180

55 MUST-HAVE OFF THE


MONTH
Embellished jeans

58 WHATS YOUR OFFDUTY VIBE?


Sleek or grungy?

See you in class!


Real girls, real
style on campus.

Blazer, Ostwald Helgason;


top, April, May, $190;
skirt, Parker, $220; shoes,
J.Crew, $298; watch,
Tissot Swiss Watches; top
bracelet, Charming Charlie, $10; middle bracelet,
AllSaints, $110; bottom
bracelet, Elizabeth Cole
Jewelry, $75

60 FAS
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62 TREND REPORT:
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Dress by Boulee; bra by Stella


McCartney; necklace and rings
by Effy Jewelry; star bracelet
by Ann Dexter-Jones Design;
bracelet by Cartier, Lovatos
own; earrings, Lovatos own.
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and LAbsolu Rouge in Rich Cashmere lipstick, all by
Lancme cosmetics. Fashion Editor: Aya Kanai. Hair:
Adir Abergel at StarworksArtists.com. Makeup:
Kristofer Buckle for Benefit Cosmetics at Crosby
Carter Management. Manicure: Julie Kandalec for
Chanel Beaut. Photographed by Matt Jones.

64 UNDIES UPDATE!
Cute rear views

66 ASK AYA
Fashion Q&A

68 COSMO STYLE

CHALLENGE
How to revamp a basic
button-down, from
star style bloggers

Fun, Fearless Beautyy


71 PROJECT GORGEOUS
Michael Kors
launches a new
beauty line

72 BEAUTY Q&A
74 CHEAT SHEET: SLIM
DOWN WITH SELFTANNER
80 DIRECTORS CHAIR:
OUT WITH A BANG!
86 KEEPING IT REAL
88 BEAUTY
UNDERCOVER: BE A
SMARTER CUSTOMEER
90 THE
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WHY YOU NEED
WH
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SERUM

86

Match your
nails to your
accessories!
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122 SO YOU WANT TO BE


A PRINCESS
Who says we all
outgrow our Disney
fantasies?

Fashion & Beauty


Chillaxed jeans and
cool-girl jackets

180 RULE THE SCHOOL

129 FOUR SUMMER


HABITS THAT
MAKE YOU
IRRESISTIBLE
130 MAKE SEX HOTTER

192 SUMMER WHITES

Tulane University
students work falls
best trends

134 SEX Q&A


136 MANTHR0POLOGY

140 ASK HIM ANYTHING

92 G
GE TTING READY: TH
HE
NATURAL GLOW
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or makeup arti
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Rick
k y Wilson sho
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ws
you
u how

Everything you
need to know
w to
have an epic year

Hot & Healthy


201 IF YOU DO ONE
THING FOR YOURSELF
THIS MONTH

Is it time for a BF
intervention?

149 COSMO GOES


TO COLLEGE

210 HEALTH REPORT:


THE TATTOO YOU
WONT REGRET
214 IM TOO YOUNG...
FOR LUNG CANCER
216 THE ANXIETY TRAP
How to stay sane in a
crazy world

Its a hair and


makeup whiteout!

Heat up every stage


of your relationship!

Cosmo Campus
p

The truth about HPV


and throat cancer,
and more

179 WHATS SEXY FOR...


AUGUST

Love,, Lust
& Other Stuff

Special Section

208 BODY NEWS

Eat fresh on the


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202 FOOD BUZZ


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204 FITNESS BUZZ

174

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Live It Up
221 INSPIRATION
EVERYWHERE: THE
LIFE OF THE DANNIJO
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designers at home

224 HOW TO DRINK WINE


LIKE YOU KNOW WHAT
YOURE DOING
226 COSMOS SUMMER
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Fun, Fearless

Work & News


48
229
232
234

101 CAN COWORKERS


EVER REALLY BE
FRIENDS?
106 CASHING IN: MONEY
CONFESSIONS
110 FUN, FEARLESS
FEMALES

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How they
GOT THEIR START. . .

contributors

Paul Costello

Costello photographed real Tulane


University students for the fashion
story Rule the School (p. 180).

How I got my start. My father was

an amateur photographer, so I
grew up surrounded by
cameras. In high school, I built
a darkroom in our bathroom so
I could experiment. After
earning a photography degree
from New York University, I
spent many years assisting
the best photographers I could
get close to, like Ellen von
Unwerth and Annie LeibovitzI observed their
dedication and began to
understand how much work
goes into one picture.
Instagram: @PThePaul

Jennifer Wolff
Perrine

Writer Wolff Perrine explores


the allure of the Disney
sisterhood in So You Want to
Be a Princess (p. 122).

How I got my start. While I


was getting my masters
in journalism at Northwestern, in Chicago, I
applied for an internship
with the Pulitzer Prize
winning investigative
reporter Pam Zekman.
I had the nerve to call her
directly. She thought that
was so ballsy, she hired
me on the spot! Twitter:
@MsWolffPerrine

Jeff Wilser
In Sex on the First Date (p. 144), Wilser, coauthor of the new book
Its Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date, debunks the myth that
doing so disqualifies you from being considered girlfriend material.
How I got my start. My first job was in finance. After a few

years, I wanted a change, so I made an Excel spreadsheet of new career options and writer was at the top of
the list. I wrote my first short story for my grad-school
application and still managed to get in! My first paid gig
was writing reviews of bars in New York CityI got
paid $12 a pop, which wasnt even enough to cover the
drinks. But from there the assignments snowballed,
and here I am. Twitter: @JeffWilser

Lauren Greenfield
Award-winning photographer and documentary
filmmaker Greenfield captured some of the many
grown women obsessed with the Disney fantasy in
So You Want to Be a Princess.

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Steven Brown
Cosmos senior booking editor cast the students from Tulane University
for the fashion feature Rule the School.
How I got my start. After graduating from Manhattan College
in May 2007 in economics, I spent weeks applying for
entry-level jobs. I got an interview for an editorial assistant
position at the New York office of Italian Vogueand I
started the next day! I was there four years before I moved
to Cosmo. Now, I book the models and the hair and
makeup artists for each issue. Instagram: @SBro911

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ANGELA LEDGERWOOD

COUTRESY SUBJECT (5)

How I got my start. I liked documentary


photography, but I never expected to
become a professional photographer or
an artist. I assumed Id grow up and get a
real job. I got my first big break when,
based on my senior thesis project about
the contemporary French aristocracy, I was
picked from 200 applicants to be National
Geographics photography intern.
Only during that internship did I realize it
was possible to have a career as a photographer. Twitter: @LGreen66

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Hairstylist Adir Abergel and Demi
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Sigma Alpha Epsilon, was handdelivered to their apartment. Alas,
I had to leave the next day, so I
never got to explore the fraternity
systemperhaps for the better. But
Mary and I are still friends, and this
months first-ever Cosmo Campus
section brought back all the hilarious
memories. So did our amazing fashion shoot at Tulane, where our team
embedded for a week and found a
fabulous group of strong, sexy, smart
students who styled themselves
with as much intensity as they study
their chemistry.
There are a million ways to live out
our glory days, and its not all about
parties or rah-rah campus life. Our
fearless cover girl, Demi Lovato, opted
out of school to be a pop star. She told
me at her shoot that shed be celebrating her 21st birthday volunteering in
Kenya with Free the Children. A huge
y to her!
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19. For the schedule, see
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Editor-in-Chief
joannacoles@cosmopolitan.com
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Twitter: @JoannaColes

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Growing up in the U.K., I always


longed for the full-on American college experience. It looked so much
more fun than studying English and
American lit at a liberal-arts college
with only 4,000 students in a flat and
rainy corner of Britain. In fact, one of
the most fun times I had at college
was at Purdue, staying with my American friend, Mary Payne, whom I had
met during my gap year in Paris. I
was on a tour of the U.S., and my first
stop was that gorgeous campus in
West Lafayette, Indiana, where I
arrived in August at the beginning of
rush. With 35,000 students and a
massive Greek system, I had never
been to so many parties in my life!
Watching Marys friends sweat entry
into various sororities was a totally
foreign kind of stress, but I still
remember her roommates screams
of excitement when a long-stemmed
rose and stiff white card, saying I had
been made a little sister to the frat

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

Whats your best (or worst!)


college memory?

Joanna Coles
EXECUTIVE EDITOR

CREATIVE DIRECTOR

Joyce Chang

Tracy Everding

MANAGING EDITOR

EDITORIAL BRAND DIRECTOR

DIGITAL DIRECTOR

John Dioso

Susan Schulz

Abby Gardner

FASHION DIRECTOR

BEAUTY DIRECTOR

ENTERTAINMENT DIRECTOR

Hooking up
Aya Kanai
Leah Wyar
Dana Stern Schwartz
with the cute,
genius-smart DIRECTOR, EDITORIAL
PHOTOGRAPHY DIRECTOR
DEPUTY EDITORS
guy from
BRAND STRATEGY
Alix B. Campbell
Sara Austin, Katie L. Connor
freshman
Holly Whidden
Marina Khidekel
Latin class my
senior fall. I
DESIGN DIRECTOR
EDITOR-AT-LARGE
Pizza for
married him.
Jaclyn Steinberg
John Searles
breakfast,
Liz Plosser
lunch, and
FEATURES
dinner.
SENIOR EDITORS Helin Jung, Jessica Knoll, Liz Plosser

Mika Brzezinski; Ian Kerner, PhD; Alexa von Tobel


Jessica
ASSISTANT MANAGING EDITOR M. Ryan Purdy
Knoll
ASSOCIATE EDITORS Erika Berlin, Annie Daly
ASSISTANT EDITOR Angela Ledgerwood
EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT TO EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Sergio Kletnoy
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MEDICAL ADVISORY BOARD Mitchell Creinin, MD; David J. Leffell, MD; Stephanie Middleberg, RD;
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CONTRIBUTORS

Having my
identity stolen by
my roommate.
Seriously.

BEAUTY
DEPUTY BEAUTY EDITOR Jessica

Matlin

SENIOR BEAUTY EDITOR Marta

ASSOCIATE BEAUTY EDITOR Loni

Jessica Matlin

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ART MANAGER Alexandra Kushel DESIGN ASSISTANT Elizabeth Howell

ART DIRECTORS

A colorful collection
inspired by TVs

My year as an
exchange
student in
America. I
came from
Australia to go
to Cornellit
was the year
that changed
my life, and I
never left!
Angela
Ledgerwood

I dreaded
PHOTO
attending a
SENIOR PHOTO EDITOR Louis Pearlman PHOTO EDITOR Michelle Rose Sulcov
250-person
ASSISTANT PHOTO EDITOR Allie Kircher
class while
Moving into my
assigned a seat
COPY AND RESEARCH
first apartment with
between an
COPY DIRECTOR Ann Bacon Wright RESEARCH DIRECTOR Chris Moore
my best friends.
annoyingly
COPY EDITORS Ester Brooke Friedman, Marissa Gainsburg
affectionate
Alexandra Kushel
couple for
EDITORIAL BUSINESS COORDINATOR
INTERACTIVE MEDIA
an entire
Caryn Kanare
DIGITAL ASSET MANAGER Blake W. Ellison
semester.
DIGITAL ART DIRECTOR Chi un Lee
Elizabeth
Howell

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Apologizing to
the professor on
the phone about
missing my final
exam (talking my
way out of it) and
the professor
saying, Oh, Ill
just give you
an A because
everyone did well
on the exam!

Mary Donahue Quinlan


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women at
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still is of men,
men, men!
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Cosmo readers
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Underwear Overshare

A Guy Reacts
I think its cool that
she told him the truth
about her relationship.
Since he lost interest, I
dont think hes worth
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also say that she should have just
laughed. Its funny! And Im sure shell
be extra careful to double-check
before she enters any public restroom
from now on!
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Cant a
girl
get a lit
tle priv
ac y
around
here?

Taxicab Confession
My college roommate, Norah, scored
a job in the same city I live in, and I
was excited for us to reunite. But she
was going to live with a childhood
friend, Meg. The morning of Norahs
arrival, I was late to pick her upit
was raining, and I couldnt find a
taxiuntil I saw one pull up for a girl
who had just beaten me to it. Wet,
late, and annoyed, I jumped in front
of her and hissed, Sorry, but I really
need this. I heard her say, Are you
serious?! as I slammed the door, but
I didnt care. When I got to the
airport, Norah and I shared a long
hug, and she told me that Meg was
coming to meet us too. Guess who
Meg was? Yup, the taxicab girl. I tried
to act like it was the first time Id seen
her, but she was cold to me and I
could tell she recognized me from my
thievery. Norah still cant figure out
why her roomie doesnt like me!
Emily B., 27

Cupids Arrow
I went to this cool rooftop bar with
my girlfriends one summer night
and started flirting with the

bartender. As we were midbanter,


this guy across the bar pointed at
me and shouted, Hey, youre
Smoothness123 from OkCupid! My
heart practically stopped from
humiliation. I know theres nothing
wrong with online datingbut to be
recognized from your profile and
called out for it while youre trying to
flirt with someone in person? It
made it seem like I was dating every
guy in the city. I mumbled some
excuse about having to go, and I
bolted. I know it was a good thing in
theory that he recognized me
because it shows that I stood out
from the crowd, but did that guy
really need to shout it to the world
like that and ruin my game?
Morgan R., 28

That Stings!
I was on a date at an outdoor beer
garden when a bee started buzzing
around me. I freaked, started
swatting the air, and accidentally
knocked over a full pitcher of beer
into my dates lap! He was a good
sport, but I was mortified.
Lisa L., 23

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A few months after I broke up


with my boyfriend, a cute guy asked
me out, and apprehensively, I said
yes. One of my friends came up with
a great plan for me: wear granny
panties on the date but keep a sexy
pair in my purse to ensure that Id
go home with him only if I decided it
was a good idea, since Id be forced
to change in a bathroom. I took her
advice and arrived on the date
wearing a huge, beige pair. We
hit it off, so halfway through
dinner, I excused myself to change.
I had taken off my jeans and had
the bloomers half way down my
butt when the door creaked open
and I saw my date staring at me.
Turns out, I forgot to lock the door
of the mens room! I had no choice
but to explain the situation. But
somewhere between seeing my
granny panties and my saying
that I wanted to take things slow
after being hurt by my last
relationship, he clearly lost interest,
and I never talked to him again.
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His

Men reveal their


most mortifying
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Wildest Dreams

Hair Scare
I took a girl to the movies for a first
date, and she looked so beautiful
that I put my arm around her. She
leaned in to snuggle, so I ran my
hand through her hair. But I noticed
something felt loose, so I brought my
hand back to see what Id done and I
had a huge chunk of her hair in my
palm! She was wearing extensions.
Luckily, she hadnt noticed, so I just
threw the clump of hair under the
seat. But I was so nervous she would
notice that I couldnt concentrate on
the movie. When it was over, I faked
sick and left because I didnt want to
discuss a movie that Id been too
jittery to watch. I was sketchy about
the good-bye, so I never asked her
out again.
Daniel B., 23

Buggin Out
After Id hooked up with this cool
girl a few times, I realized I was
starting to really like her. One Sunday afternoon, we took her dogs for a

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T hings are
about to g
et way
less Zen.

walk in the woods, and when we got


home, we showered together to get
the dirt off. After, we got dressed but
then started making out again, and
off came my boxers. My girl was
about to go down on me when she
stopped and asked, Uhwhats
that? Turns out, a small tick had
lodged itself onto my peniswed
both missed it in the shower. It was
so gross. But instead of freaking, she
pulled it off, laughed, and started
calling me Ticky Dick. It was pretty
emasculating, and I still wince at
the thought of it. On the upside,
I got to see how cool she is even in
embarrassing situations, and weve
been together for almost three years.
She still teases me with that name!
Peter H., 24

HE WAS BRAVE
ENOUGH TO
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SHOW HIS FACE

Sexting SOS
I was dating this girl, but we
werent exclusive yet. One night
while we were texting, I was so tired,
and the conversation was pretty
boringwe were just talking about
our days. To keep myself awake, I
decided to steer the texts into sexy
territory, so I told her I couldnt stop
thinking about the time that we had
sex on the beachand before she
even responded, I sent another text
about the time we had sex in the
bathroom at a sushi restaurant.
Only problem was, I was reminiscing with the wrong girl! Id done
those things with someone else. She
quickly called me out for my player
ways and called me an a**hole, and
shes ignored me ever since. As for
me, I felt like an idiot and also
learned to never, ever sext while
tired again.
Seth F., 25

I was on a date with a girl at a golf course and wanted to


show off my skills. That plan backfired when I accidentally
let go of my club midswing. It flew up, hit the tin roof we
were under, broke in half, and then fell down on her head.
Obviously, I brought her to get help, but I felt so terrible
about it!
Eddie C., 23

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Im a big cuddler, but my girlfriend


isnt. She pushes me away whenever
I start snuggling her in her sleep, so
Im always saying, Just let me hug
youyoure sleeping. Its harmless.
One night, she caved and let me
cuddle her, and I fell asleep happy
with her face nuzzled in my arms. It
was great, until she woke me up
screaming about half an hour later.
I had dozed off into one of those
immediately deep sleeps, had a
dream about tackling an intruder
in our apartment, and started
wrestling heraka the intruder
in my sleep! I dont even bring up
cuddling anymore.
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least try to hide his
wandering eye!

HeWent From
Dream Guy
to Mean Guy!
BY ALYSSA BLACK

My friend Jen* wanted to set me


up with this guy John in her law
school class, whom she described as
funny, smart, and a reformed bad
boy. I was intrigued, so she orchestrated a group happy hour for us
to meet casually, and we hit it off.
I loved Johns scruffy look
especially his tousled, curly brown
hairand he was super funny. At
the end of the night, I mentioned
that I was going to a Patti Smith
book reading that week, and he said
hed like to join me. Nice!
I liked John even more at the
readinghe was hilarious. He kept
cracking witty jokes about Pattis
stories under his breath, and then he
took me to this cute Italian spot
post-show. I told him over pizza that
my birthday party was that weekend, and I invited him to come and
bring friends. After, John walked me
to the train, and although I got the
feeling he wanted to kiss me (and I

wanted to kiss him), he held back


and hugged me instead. I wondered
if I was misinterpreting our
chemistry, but then he said he
wanted to see me again. So I shoved
my doubt out of my mind and
enthusiastically agreed.
That Saturday night, I was
psyched when he showed up at my
partyuntil I realized hed brought
guys and girls with him. It bothered
me that hed brought other women,
especially because I saw one of them
trying to shove her braless chest in
his facebut I silenced my inner
warning bell when he ignored them
to be with me and then asked me to
go to a beer bar that Thursday night.
Something is definitely happening
here, I confirmed to myself.
Not quite! When we met up for
our beer date, John seemed agitated
and distracted. He told me hed just
had an argument with Jen and called
her a spoiled brat because she wore

expensive clothes. And clearly hed


decided that I was a princess by
association, because when we
started talking about our days, he
went off about how my corporate job
was so bourgeois. Then he told me
that it made sense that I worked for
the man, since Id gone to a private
university (so did he, might I add). He
spent the rest of the evening lobbing
thinly veiled insults at me. Things
were moving so quickly, I didnt
realize what was happening at first.
But his jerkdom became
unmistakable when he decided to
inform me, totally unprompted, that
his ideal type of girl is a tall, superskinny blonde. Im brunette, average
height (about 5 feet 6), and a healthy
weight. To hammer home his point,
he proceeded to point out his type to
me! Theres one, hed say, motioning
toward a modelish blonde. See that
girl? Shes so hottotally my type. I
was dumbfounded. I didnt want to
waste another second of my time
with him, so I declined his offer to
get dinner and hailed a taxi, stat.
The next afternoon, I recapped
my night to Jen over Gchat. She was
floored by his behavior but admitted
that shed recently started to clash
with him too. Heres the weirdest
part though: She told me that shed
seen John that morning in class, and
hed reported that he thought the
date went well and he planned to ask
me out again! Tell him not to bother,
I told her. And he didnt.
*Names have been changed.

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Hint, hint.

Play Ball!
Way to hustle, guys. Celebrities show off
their excellent hand-eye
y coordination.

FASTBALL
Kerry Washington is
first-pitch-perfect.

TOUCHDOWN
If anyone
can make a
case for
the return
of shoulder
pads, its
Jennifer
Lopez.

SCHWING!!
Smaall balls are no
Small
match for Eva
Lon
Longoria.
goria. (Watch
out, boys!)

KICK IT!
Gwen Stefani
proves
provees you can
still
still bend it
afterr Beckham
retires (sniff!).

PHOTO BOMBS
BOMB AWAY!

Jesse Tyler Ferguson has ups, but no one Eeps! Just keep on taking in that
can distract from Kerr-Bloom perfection. ocean view, Olivia Palermo.

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Emma Stone tests Andrew


Garfields spidey senses.

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Kevin Spacey photo-bombs on the


run at a park in Boston.

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CLUTCH MOVE
Best way to
psych out the
competition?
A megawatt
smile, Chrissy
Teigenstyle.

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#EXPDENIMLAB

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COSMO GUY
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Q

Max
Irons

The White Queen


star and son
of acting legend
Jeremy Irons
dishes on why its
good to be king.

You got kicked out of


school for hooking up on
campus. Now youre in a
show about the Wars of
the Roses. Do you wish
youd been a better
student?

A I did get expelled


from boarding school. It
wasnt my finest
moment, but thankfully
it was after exams in my
final year, so I graduated, got my grades, and
got a long holiday.

Q What was it like


playing King Edward IV?

A You get quite used to


walking into a room and
everyone bowing to you.
Also, riding around on
horses and wearing
crowns is a lot more fun
than talking about
Twitter and Facebook.
Q Everyone went nuts
when Prince Harry
came to America last
spring. Whats your take
on the royal family?

A I like Prince Harry.

Hes a good sport. It


must have been tough
growing up in that
family. I dont know
why everyones shocked
when hes seen with
a girl or with a beer in
his hand. You feel sorry
for the guy.

Q Any advice to
American girls on dealing
with British guys?

A Try to see beyond the


pasty skin, bad teeth,
and strange accent to
find the English charm.

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JU S T
SAYING...

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Will Your Guy

Change
His Married
Name?
Presenting
Mr. and Mrs.
Beyonc may call herself Mrs. Carter, but that
Knowles-Carter?
may not be her real name nor her husbands: After she
and Jay-Z married, both reportedly took the surname
Knowles-Carter. Many men would never consider
taking a wifes last name for fear itd be emasculating.
But if the coolest hip-hop mogul is doing it, could it
mean more guys will? Shawn Knowles-Carter isnt
the first to challenge this convention. Back in 1969,
John and Yoko became Ono Lennons. Rock star Jack
He was wrongnot that
White dropped his last name (Gillis) entirely and took
its easy for a guy to do. While
on then-wife Megs, keeping it even after they
the process can involve
divorced. L.A. Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa (formerly
annoying red tape for women,
Villar) adopted a combined name when he married
men often face a mountain
Corina Raigosa. Its a novel option, considering
of paperwork and legal issues
women have long struggled with whether
when they try to use a marriage
to take her husbands name, hyphenate,
license for a name change.
or keep her maiden name.
Thats what happened
Although the Social Security
to Florida newlywed
Administration doesnt keep tabs on
Lazaro Dinh when he
how many men change their names for
took his wifes lastt
marriage, the trend is having a moment
name. A year after
and shows no sign of slowing. Three
he changed his
ye
percent of our clients are male, says Jake
passport, Social
Would Kimeir
h
t
e
g
mer
Wolff, CEO of HitchSwitch, a service that
Security card, and
s t oo?
last n am e
helps newlyweds legally change names.
drivers license, the
Of those, 98 percent are men going with a
Florida DMV accused him
im
hyphenated surname, usually wifes
ense
of obtaining a driving license
name-husbands name. When Worcester,
by fraud and suspended it, with one
Massachusetts, couple Ryan Smith, 34,
worker telling him a marriage
ge name
n
change
and Aarti Madan, 30, married, they became
only works for women. Although Florida
Smith Madan. When Ryan proposed it,
later dropped the charges, it shows a crucial
I was stoked because it confirmed I was
legal roadblock: Most states dont have gendermarrying the kind of man Id always
neutral laws, because they assume a bride
wantedopen-minded and committed
will take the grooms name, says Wolff, whos
to equality, says Aarti. Three years later,
also a lawyer. Our society is changing. All states
they still get flack from strangers.
s
should amend their laws so a man can
An airline rep told me, Honey, your
cchange his married name without having
husband couldnt legally change his
tto go to court. The future Mr. Wexlername to yours, says Aarti.
Something agrees.

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GSI; ULIMI/GETTY IMAGES; MICHAEL JAWORSKI/FILMMAGIC.

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Fun, Fearless...Fail!

ush i!
C ic ada s

From wow to WTF, we calll the trends like we see


ee em.

FUN

FAIL

SS
FEARLE ol
olester

NASA funds
ds
research on
na
3-D pizza printer
ter for
astronauts on long
missions. Its not
delivery or
DiGiorno!

A U.N.
report
rep suggests
we eeat more bugs
in order to fight
world hunger.
Blech!

Ch
ned!
be dam ntrell,
a
Pearl Cs bacon is
y
105, sa ecret to a
the s life.
long

TODAYS
SPECIALS

FUN

FE ARLE

Keri Russell
plays a Jane
Austen superfan
seeking love in
the new movie
Austenland.

AUSTEN
MANIA

SS

ns
Mad Mertheiser
a
K
t
Vincen r. Darcy in
as M version
a stage e and
of Prid ice.
Prejud

FAIL

Oh, our ovaries!


David Beckham
and daughter
Harper get
caught by the
Kiss Cam.

Heey, EEmma
Hey,
Stone,
Sto
one, does
that pant
panty-hose
face
fac
ce ta
taste as
g
good
ood as it
feels?
feel

ax
Bikin i-iews.
be st
FUN

Gwyneth
Paltrow jokes,
Every time I get a
bikini wax, Cameron
Diaz holds
me down.

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Leave Jane
alone. A web
series based on
Austens Sanditon
crowdsources
plotlines.

Zahar sks
itt a
li
o
J e-Prents to
a
p
r
he
aking
sttoop m t.
ou

FUN

TAKE IT
OFF

FAIL

fan s.

SS
FEARLEa

y s little girl!
Daddy

LIP
SMACKERS

C razy

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FAIL
Hair down
there: More
men are getting
laser treatments
for their fuzzy
feet.

HELIN JUNG

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Sexy vs. Skanky

Socialite Olivia
Palermo and boyfriend
Johannes Huebl

Frisky
forward
motion

SEXY

Gross (from
the) backstrokes

SKANKY

Alessandra
Ambrosio

Rita Ora

Fresh-cut
melon
shorts
Up-in-the-air
sweetheart balloon

Pink

First-class act
How does this
look?

Fitness expert
Jennifer Nicole Lee

Melons,
freshly
squeezed
Out-to-there
latex fun bags
Ass-first action
Off the rack and
up her crack

Miranda
Kerr

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Aubrey
ODay

Italian showgirl
Alessandra Sorcinelli

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Model Rosy Dilettuso


and designer
Mauro Grifoni

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Things to Do
This Month
{

Screw blow-em-up blockbusters.


ockbusters.
These flicks are just ourr speed.

Catch Them
Live!
Justin
Timberlake
and Jay-Z

IN
THEATERS

lers
08 Were the Millers
09 Dont let the mom clothes fool you.

GRAND
FINALE

IN
THEATERS

07 Girl Most Likely


19 In her biggest role since Bridesmaids,

We cant wait
for the Vine
stream of whats
sure to be the
most epic rendition of Suit and
Tie ever, when
Jay-Z and Justin
Timberlake wrap
up their fourweek Legends
of Summer tour
August 16 in
Miami.

Kristen Wiig takes on Imogene Duncan,


an awkward playwright who fakes a suicide
attempt to get an ex-boyfriends attention. It all
backfires when she has to move back home
with her gambling-addict mother (Annette
Bening) and her spank-happy boyfriend (Matt
Dillon). Shudder in solidarity.

IN
THEATERS

w
08 The Spectacular Now
he popular
02 In this refreshing twist on the

high school guy falls for nerdy


dy shy type
story, the girl (played by Shailene Woodley)
gets the guy (played by Miles Teller)) without
changing one little thing about her sweet
nature. As it should be. Catch the costars
ostars
again in next years Divergent.

IN
THEATERS

07 The To-Do List


26 Some girls want their first times to be

special; others just want to get it done.


Count Aubrey Plazas sexually inexperienced
Brandy Clark among the latter. Her master list
of tasks to accomplish between high school
graduation and her first day of college includes
sexcapades both ridiculous and raunchy. Who
knew there were so many, er, jobs?

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Jennifer Aniston is actually a stripper in


this hilarious road-trip-gone-wrong
one-wrong flick.
Asked to smuggle a smidge
ge of pot from
Mexico, low-rent drug dealer
aler Jason Sudeikis
hires a faux family as a cover.
ver. Spoiler alert: Its
more like two tons than a smidge, and Aniston
flaunts more than a little skin.
kin. Shes still got it!

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The Newsroom
it or
SUN Love
hate-watch
it, HBOs workplace
drama makes the
Today shows Curry
vs. Lauer battle look
like childs play. Feel
the second seasons
slow and steady burn,
July 14 at 10 p.m.

08.01.13

NAT IONA L

GIRLFRIENDS

eir
And for th
ct
nal a

Breaking Bad

The Virgins

FICTION
by Pamela Erens

SUN

When a bookish girl meets a druggie bad boy at


boarding school, they form an unlikely pair who
shock fellow classmates with their explicit sexual
displaysand yet, theyre actually virgins.

The End of the Suburbs

NONFICTION

Will our favorite antihero Walter


White finally get got? Will Jesse
Pinkman find a normal life in the burbs?
All will be revealed in the series final
season (August 11, AMC, 9 p.m.).

by Leigh Gallagher
Are your Pinterest boards all-white picket fences,
or are you more of a loft-apartment type of girl? In
this exploration of the American Dream, Gallagher
sheds light on where we want to live and why.

All Our Pretty Songs

FICTION

by Sarah McCarry
What matters most: friendship or love? In this hypnotic and gritty debut novel, two best friends with
an unbreakable childhood bond wrestle with their
devotion to each other when a mysterious man
threatens to break them apart.

Turn Your Blog Into Bucks

The Bridge
this new
WED In
series from
a Homeland writer,
Diane Kruger takes on
the role of a detective
tackling Aspergers
and a grisly murder
investigation on the
U.S.Mexico border
(July 10, FX, 10 p.m.).

Who runs the World Wide Web? Girls! Rub shoulders with the A-list of women in social
media at the ninth annual BlogHer conference, July 25 to 27 in Chicago. Tickets start at $149 ($99 for students) and include workshops on how to market
and monetize your blog, pitch and publish your essays, and vlog like a pro. (Visit BlogHer.com for info and follow @BlogHer on Twitter.)

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D AY

Ditch the bros for some margs and mani-pedi time with your girls.
Cliniques new summer shades in Pinkini, 70 and Sunny, and Hula
Skirt bring beachy vibesminus the sand ($16 each, clinique.com).

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MUST-HAVE

of the

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These jeans come fully
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THE STYLE

Cuffed Jeans

flatter petite figures


Look for a snug fit from hips to ankles.
Petite frames get lost in boyfriend styles.

Wear with heels, heels, heels! Small


statures benefit from a little lift. Pumps
give the casual look polish.
PETITE PICKS
From left, Hudson
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hudsonjeans.com;
Juicy Couture, $148,
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UNIVERSAL PICKS
From left, True Religion,
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THE PERFECT FIT

Kourtney
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Denim
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Play up your assets in hot
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Jessica
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Look for a low rise with a slight
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Wear with stacked wedges or
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Look for rich jewel tones that make a
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Wear with a tunic top and tailored
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From left, Jordache,
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THE STYLE

PLUS-SIZE PICKS
From left, Glo
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Skinnies
Ski
flatter tall figures
Look for dark saturated rinses with a
high waist to even out longer torsos.
Wear with loose layered tops that
offset second-skin denim.

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A powerful acne cleanser


couldnt possibly smell delicious.
Scratch that thought. Sniff this.

Maximum strength dermatologist


recommended acne medicine treats breakouts,
even blackheads, all with an uplifting blast
of naturally derived grapefruit.
Its such a pick-me-up, youll
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FASHION

Jacket, Kelly Wearstler,


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DENIM
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Jeans, MiH Jeans,


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BLAST
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Levis Vintage Clothings newly
relaunched Orange Tab label
features archival designs from the 60s
and 70s, made in the U.S. of A.

INTIMATEE

Indigo

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sleep in your jeans?
Diesels denim-inspired
lingerie brings sweet
fades into the bedroom.

Woman in Black
Joes Jeans has cool girls covered
this season with Tailored by
Joessuiting thats professional
enough for the office but cool
enough for after hoursand Never
Fade Black, a collection thatll
never go gray. It's a denim miracle!

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Bra, $35,
and panty,
$30, Diesel,
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ROCK OUT!
Calvin Kleins new RCKR Kick jeans are the perfect hybrid of fit and flare.
Finally, a skinny jean you can actually wear over boots!
+ win big! Tweet @Cosmopolitan #FallJeans for a chance to win a $1,000
Macys gift card, courtesy of Calvin Klein and Macys. See page 234 for details.
Jeans, Calvin Klein Jeans, $79.50, Macys

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Shorts, Rebecca Minkoff,


$98, rebeccaminkoff.com

Rebecca Minkoff
and Kelly Wearstler
are getting in on the
denim game with
badass collections
that go way beyond
basic blue.

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Funktional, $130,
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DKNY Jeans,
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Statement
Sweatshirts
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1
Kate Spade
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Blogger
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Ferragni,
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TOP

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By Chance,
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Aryn K.,
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S T REE T
ON T HE
Look 1
Ankle-strap heels
and short shorts
give a playful
sequined comicbook sweatshirt
sex appeal.
Look 2
Opposites
attract! Kenzos
tiger top adds
fun to a glam
metallic skirt.

Sandro,
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St
Stilettos
and
sw
sweats? Yes,
you can!
H
Heels dress
up the look a
notch.

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With bold hardware and graphics,


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H&M,
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Q How can I
wear scarves
this summer?

Cosmo fashion
director Aya
Kanai fixes your
fashion probs
and shares her
new obsessions.

A One of my favorite old


movies is Roman Holiday,
with Audrey Hepburn.
She looks so chic. And
I love how Miu Miu
recently brought back
drama to the neck on the
runway. Use a mens
pocket square, which
isnt too bulky, and think
of it as a bow tie for girls.

ASK AYA

Hi, people! Please throw any fashion


questions my way (AskAya@cosmopolitan
.com). I have dressed celebrities and
models of all sizes and shapes, so I am
ready for you. Bring it on!

Q Whats your
must-have shoe
this season?
A This Prada shoe is

Shoes,
P
Prada, select
Prada
Boutiques

A I love a chunky, oversize watch too.


Dont be afraid that it looks manlythats
what makes it cool! One of my favorites
this season is by Seiko. Whether your
look is girlie or tomboy, the mixed metals
and black face go with every outfit.
Watch,
Seiko, $450,
sears.com

Q Honestly, do you think there


is really a difference between
de
denim for work and denim for
weekends anymore?
w
A In a word, yes! A million times, yes. I have a
closet full of jeans for different occasions.
Look for a crisp unfaded pair of trouser jeans for
work, and save your beat-up pairs for your off-duty
hours. Think of denim as setting the mood for
whatever the activity is, and remember that there
are varying levels of appropriateness.

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Vi
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TOP LEFT: AYA KANAI; MARIA VALENTINO/MCV PHOTO; NC; COURTESY SEIKO.

everything! It mixes
leather, satin, and a
perfect heel height.
Theyre definitely an
investment, but the right
shoes can be an outfit
game changer and give
older pieces in your
wardrobe new wings.
Plus, they look as pretty
displayed at home as
they
t do on your feet.

Q I love big masculine


watches, but they look
silly on me. Any advice?

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Cosmo Style
Challenge

We invited four star fashion bloggers to reinvent how to wear


a basic button-down. Check out their fresh outfit ideas.
THE STAPLE
This soft and simple button-down
is not only comfortable but also
so versatile. Top worn throughout, Ann

A hologram
bag is a
great way
to add
some fun to
a basic
buttondown.

ARIELLE
NACHMANI

My Blog
Where Did U Get That
wheredidyougetthat.com
My Style
Menswear-inspired
but still feminine.

The Look
When I saw this
shirt, I knew I wanted
to pair it with a
tuxedo-style trouser
and a bold blazer.
The combination has
a masculine feel
that I think most girls
shy away from,
but they shouldnt!

My Blog
Something Navy
somethingnavy.com
My Style
Ever-changing
but always bright
and colorful.

The Look
What I love
about this shirt is
how many ways
you can wear it.
Theres something
unexpected about
pairing it with a
neon skirt and heels.
I would wear this outfit
almost anywhere
to the office, for
drinks with a friend,
or on a date.

KAREN
BLANCHARD

HOLOGRAM
CLUTCH

GET KARENS LOOK Blazer, BCBG Max Azria,


$248, bcbg.com; pants, DKNY, $235, select DKNY
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blazer, Zara, $129, zara.com; white blazer, Topshop,
$200, topshop.com
GET ARIELLES LOOK Skirt, Topshop, $140, topshop
.com; shoes, her own Casadei pumps; clutch, Milly,
$450, Bloomingdales. Left: Hologram envelope
m
clutch, Melie Bianco, $80, karmaloop.com; hologram
clutch with black leather, ASOS, $42, asos.com

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The blazer
anchors
the mixed
prints on
the shirt
and pants.

TUXEDO
BLAZER

HAIR: MARCO BRACA


CA AT KRAMER AND KRAMER. MAKEUP: NATASHA SMEE AT THE WALL
WA GROUP. MANICURE: JACKIE SAULSBERY FOR CHANEL.

Taylor, $68, anntaylor.com

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Statement
accessories
are key
to making a
collared
shirt
look cool.

HELENA
GLAZER

My Blog
Brooklyn Blonde
brooklynblonde.com
My Style
Classic with an
edge. I dont like
anything too girlie.

FRANCES
KWON

My Blog
Pink Horrorshow
pinkhorrorshow.com
My Style
Its all about
understated
elegance.

The Look

KEVIN SWEENEY/STUDIO D. STYLIST: JESSIE LIEBMAN/RJ BENNETT REPRESENTS. FROM LEFT: COURTESY KARMALOOP
LADIES; COURTESY ASOS; COURTESY TOPSHOP; COURTESY ZARA; COURTESY FOREVER 21; COURTESY KATE SPADE.

This look is a
perfect example of
my personal style.
The tailored shirt is
timeless, but the
leather pants and
chunky jewelry give
it just the right
amount of attitude.
I didnt want the
look to be too serious
though, so I added
bold red accessories
to make it feel
more playful.

The Look

The printed
skirt keeps
the outfit
from looking
too sweet.

BOLD
JEWELRY

This is such a
cheeky weekend
look! The subtle
striped shirt paired
with the fluorescent
pink skirt is the
perfect juxtaposition,
and the clutch is so
unique! It reminds
me of those old
Hollywood vanities
with the spherical
lightbulbs.

PRINTED
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illy,
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om; gold
spike necklace, Joomi Lim, $128, joomilim.com
m.com

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o,
$235, sandro-paris.com; shoes, her
er
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ccharlotteolympia.com. Right: Leopard
pard
skirt, Kate Spade New York, $298,
sk
8,
katespade.com; blue printed skirt,,
kat
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Out This
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Michael Kors Glow


Bronze Powder, $50,
and Sporty Citrus,
Glam Jasmine,
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Were obsessed with Michael Kors new


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Tweet your
trickiest questions
to @Cosmopolitan
#BeautyQs and
well solve them in
the mag.

Your burning
beauty
issues,
solved
in 20 words
or less!

Q Can I wear
perfume on an
outdoor date
or will bugs eat
me alive?
A Fragrances may

Sephora
Supreme
Cleansing
Oil, $14,
sephora.com

SOURCE: JOSEPH CONLON, TECHNICAL


ADVISER FOR THE AMERICAN MOSQUITO
CONTROL ASSOCIATION

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ume in
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utside,
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me.com

Q I hear
cleansing oils
remove makeup
best. But will
they make
me break out?
A Possibly, if youre
acne-prone. In that
case, limit oils to eye and
lip makeup, then wash
skin normally.
SOURCE: REBECCA BAXT, MD,
DERMATOLOGIST IN NYC

Q Will those
vinegar hair
rinses all over
Pinterest make
me smell like
a salad?
A Yes. But we tested

How can I prevent


a sunburned scalp?

A Wear a hat or cute scarf. Or go for a


slicked-back, unparted ponytail, so hair
covers burn-prone skin.
SOURCE: SUSAN STUART, MD, DERMATOLOGIST IN LA JOLLA, CALIFORNIA

vinegar-based Philip B.
Detangling Mist, $24 (similarly, it seals the cuticle
for shine), andno smell!

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Protect an
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Posnick Brush
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Q My foundation
ccakes in my laugh
lines when I sweat.
Got a fast fix?
A Puff out your cheeks like a
blowfish, then run a cotton swab
along the lines to remove buildup.
SOURCE: CELEBRITY MAKEUP ARTIST MALLY RONCAL
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MARTA TOPRAN

JON PATERSON/STUDIO D. FROM TOP: AMANDA FRIEDMAN/TRUNK ARCHIVE; DAVE WHITE/GETTY IMAGES.

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contains geranium) repel
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T SHEET
CHEA

Slim Down With


Self-Tanner
Had it with the Paleo Diet, calorie-counting apps, and juice cleanses?
Try our easy, natural-looking tricksfrom Anna Stankiewicz, NYCs spray-tanner to the stars
on your next date night and youll look more toned (and tan!) in seconds.

TO PREP

TO SCULPT
YOUR BOD

Apply one of the


self-tanners below
before bedtime. A full
nights sleep is the
perfect amount of time
for color to develop
and create a perfect
base for contouring.

Rinse off any residue from last


nights self-tanner, then

In circular motions,
apply a matte
bronzing cream to
your arms and
legs. The texture
camouflages
cellulite and other
imperfections.

pick
one

MATTE BRONZER
Tarte Rainforest Glow
Maracuja Body
Bronzer, $34, ulta.com

IF YOU WANT

Foolproof
Color
Gradual formulas give
your skin just a hint
of bronze, which you
can build upon daily.

Place your hand on


your hip. With a blush
brush, run shimmery
powder bronzer down
your arms. The sheen
creates a vertical
line of light, making
arms look leaner.

Nivea Sun-Kissed
Radiant Skin,
$7.99, drugstores

IF YOU WANT

Allover
Perfection

Choose a 360degree mist to access


hard-to-reach
spots like your back.
LOral Paris Sublime
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$11, drugstores

IF YOU WANT

A Quick Fix
Tinted gel formulas dry in
seconds and are superconcentrated, creating a
deep, dark base.
Guerlain Terracotta
Sunless Self-Tanning Gel,
$52, neimanmarcus.com

Now sweep the powder


down the center of
your legs (from thighs
to toes in the front,
then thighs to heels
in the back). Again, the
shimmer has a highlighting effect that
shades away inches!
LONI ALBERT

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JON PATERSON/STUDIO D. SWIPES: GREG MARINO. CORINNE DAY/TRUNK ARCHIVE.

SHIMMER BRONZER
Lancme Star Bronzer
All Over Magic
Bronzing Brush, $33,
lancome.com

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A4

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ICONIC
INSPIRATION

DIRECTORS
CHAIR

BETTIE PAGE
BABY BANGS
1955

Out
With a
Bang!

BRIGITTE BARDOT
CENTER-PARTED
1965

A few months agodying to make


a major changeI came thisclose to
getting a pixiebut I was way too
attached to my length. Instead, my
YOURE
stylist suggested bangs: jagged,
long, FLOTUS-like ones. And
within five minutes, I was a cooler, FOR BANGS IF
sexier, edgier version of me! The
soft, curtainlike line of hair
Youre craving a real
change (they totally
seemed to draw attention to my
tweak your look!).
eyes and cheekbones, plus made a
lazy-day ponytail look chic (score!).
Youre cool with a
Want to wrap summer the same
daily style sesh
way? Falls low humidity is the
(they arent wakeup-and-go).
perfect time to get your fringe on.
And despite the rumor, bangs
Youre committed
arent that needy. Just try my tips!

READY

AUDREY HEPBURN
SIDE-SWEPT
1966

UMA THURMAN
BOLD AND BLUNT
1994

to a trim every three


to four weeks.

Follow Cosmos beauty


director on Twitter and
Instagram (@LeahWyar).

SEXY
STYLING

Test-drive bangs with clip-ins


(like these at Puccis fall show).
2

5
4

pulls bangs taut so they lie flat.

SECRETS

3 LOral Paris EverStyle Energizing


Dry Shampoo, $7, mattifies an
extra-oily fringe (thanks, forehead!).

Work these into your


rotation for a fringe
thats hot, not
high-maintenance.

4 Amika Mini Ceramic Styler,


$29, smooths the small area.
5 Sephora Ombr Bobby Pin Ups,
$6, keep bangs tame while
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Hydration Spray, $13, heads off frizz.
2 Spornette Little Wonder, $7,

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2013

COSMOPOLITAN | AUGUST 2013

you sleep.

Meet Me in NYC!
On August 1, Ill be at Saks
doing beauty consults
with Kiehls. Book a one-onone at LookGoodFeelBetter
.org/register. The $30
fee goes toward LGFB
to improve the self-image
of women undergoing
cancer treatment.

PEEP AT COSMOS TABLET EDITION TO SEE MY BEFORE-AND-AF TER PICS.


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Sienna Miller:
Always bangin!

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Im 5'2'',
but a little
sheen and
nude shoes
make my legs
look longer.

My inspiration:
Katy Perry.
Shes not afraid
of bold color
and big lashes.
BrieAnna Shepard,
24, student

Kimberly Cheng,
27, research
arch
associate

Rock pink liner


using Urban Decay
24/7 Glide-On
Eye Pencil in
Woodstock, $19,
urbandecay.com.
urbandecay.com.

Keeping
It Real

Caudalie
Divine Oil,$49,
caudalie.com,
makes legs glow.

Score major
lashes with
CoverGirl
Flamed Out
Mascara, $6,
drugstores.

We hit the street for inspiration!


Cosmo girls share their beauty secrets.

NAILS
I matched
my mani to
my necklace,
to tie my look
together.
Bekah DiFelice,
26, blogger

HAIR COLOR
I love ombr! It is beachy
and doesnt try too hard.
Tatiana Beyer, 20, hostess

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Orly Lacquer in
Gumdrop, $8.50,
orlybeauty.com

DIY with
LOral Paris
Fria Wild
Ombr, $13,
drugstores.

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Be a
Smarter
Customer

Jessica Matlin always felt pressured around


beauty salespeople. To overcome her retail
anxiety, she trained at Origins to become one.

Cosmos deputy beauty


editor listening to a
customers skin issues.

(1)
CC CREAM
Fights free radicals

Ill never forget Timothy:


a soft-spoken makeup artist
in New Jersey, he sold me my
first MAC lipstick at 14. I saw
him on the reg during high
school, and he made me feel
more beautiful than my first
boyfriend didhe showed me
how to own my look. When
he left the store for a new job,
the other salespeople were
so pushy, I quit asking for
advice and kept convos to a
minimum (I didnt want to
lead them on). But I knew my
phobia meant I was missing
out. So I approached Origins
to curb my anxietyand
became a savvier shopper.
My lessons:

Dont Buy It
Just Because
Its Popular
During my training, a
customer held up a Facebook
page featuring a well-Liked
night cream. I need this! she
told me. I practically skipped
to get the product. But when I

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and evens skin tone.


got back, my coworker was
Smarty Plants
selling her a different one.
CC SPF 20 Skin
He learned she had breakoutComplexion
Corrector, $35
prone skin, and the heavy
cream wouldve made
WIN
this moisturizer
her skin go berserk.
PLUS
(#Fail!) While social
GinZing Brightening
media is great for
Mascara! See page
making new discoveries, 234 for details.
dont be a slave to it. Unlike
(2)
a trendy shade of nail polish,
M
O
I
S
TURIZER
the wrong skin product can
Java
and
ginseng
have major consequences.

Yes, Request
Samples
I used to think taking
samples made me look like
a cheapskate or, worse, a
suckerit told the salesperson, You almost got me!
But smart beauty companies
want to get you hooked on
their products. Their philosophy: If you try it, you might
just buy it. And theres less of
a chance youll go home with
a $40 jar of cream you end up
hating, then bash the brand
to all your buds.

give this one a kick.


GinZing EnergyBoosting
Moisturizer, $26.50

(3)
SERUM
Softens the look of
lines and wrinkles.
Plantscription AntiAging Serum, $55
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It, Bring It Back
How many bad beauty buys
of yours are sitting unused
in a drawer? Its time to
stop the madness! Whether
you bought a product in a
moment of weakness or it
just doesnt work, most
companies will exchange or
refund it if you have a receipt.

Ask About Extras


Origins offers free mini
facials to anyone, but many
customers are clueless or too
embarrassed to ask. While
asking about free services
might seem like something
your crazy aunt might do, the
worst thing they can do is say
no. Best-case scenario? Youre
getting pampered, for free.
When my shift ended, I was
a little bummed to hang up my
apron. I got hooked on solving
customers skin issuesmy
coworkers passion was contagious. Sure, selling product
is always going to be part of
staffers jobs, but remember:
the truly remarkable ones
wont lead with it; theyll ask
about your concerns first.
So make them your personal
shoppers. Theyll keep tabs
on what youre using now and
know what you should be
using next. Let go of the retail
fear factor, and treat the store
as your own beauty playground. It can really pay off.

ALLIE KIRCHER. JON PATERSON/STUDIO D.

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THE SKINNY ON

Why You
Need a
Serum

AMAZING
FOR A.M.
Start the day with a
serum that protects
and perfects.
Had a rough night?
This lipid-rich serum
plumps and tightens, so
skin looks refreshed.
Lancme Rnergie Life
Multi-Action Reviva
Concentrate, $120,
lancome.com

Its only the most game-changing


product out thereand it will get you
the skin of your dreams. No kidding.

Worried about aging?


With antioxidants and
AHAs, this fends off free
radicals and brightens.

BY JESSICA MATLIN

Yes to Blueberries
Intensive Skin Repair
Serum, $20, Target

WTH Is a Serum, Anyway?

A smart investment: Serums are


packed with potent active ingredients,
says Ranella Hirsch, MD, a dermatologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts.
Think a lotion without the airy, fluffy
stuff, which explains the sticker shock
for such small bottles, serums are often
pricier than their cream counterparts.

S
Sensitive?
With calming licorice, its
a dream for fussy skin.
MyChelle D
Dermaceuticals
Pure Harmony Serum,
$42, mychelle.com

s
A big-time ingredient rush: Serums
watery or gel-like textures allow them
to penetrate deep into the skin and elicit
a quick, visible change, says Dr. Hirsch.

PERFECT
PER
FO P.M.
FOR

Yes, You Need One!


Heres Why

Head to bed with a


reparative formula
or jjust head out with
ap
party-friendly blend.

They troubleshoot like nothing


ng else.
Think of serums as booster shots
s at a
juice bar, says Dr. Hirsch. Use them
em to
customize your existing regimen.

Se
Seeing
spots?
Hydroquinone fades dark
Hy
sp
spots on the quick. Murad
R
Rapid
Age Spot and
Pigment Lightening
P
Serum, $60, murad.com
S

They let you get away with less.


Depending on your skin, you might not
need a moisturizer too. A rich serum is
ly
often a one-stop shop for normal to oily
un
types. Just wear sunscreen (Clinique Sun
21,
Broad Spectrum SPF 50 Face Cream, $21,
absorbs instantly) on top during the day.

Battling fine lines?


Collagen-boosting
neuropeptides iron out
wrinkles. PerriconeMD
Peptide Complex, $98,
perriconemd.com

Going out?
Satiny and oil-free, its
the perfect base for p.m.
makeup. Olay Instant

1
2
90

After cleansing, massage a


nickel-size drop of serum onto
clean skin, giving those highpowered ingredients direct
access to your skin issues.

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Better skin in 48
hours? Sign us up!
Feeling dull?
Apply this Saturday and
Sunday and let the gentle
glycolic acid go to work.
By Monday, your skin
will be glowing (and feel
ridiculously soft).

If youre wearing moisturizer


too, wait a few minutes for the
serum to absorb before applying
it. Otherwise, it will dilute the
serums actives. (Dont cheat
yourself and waste your money!)

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Hydration Day Serum,


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NEXT UP

Wash your
face with
a gentle
exfoliating
scrub to
remove dull,
dead cells,
followed by
a hydrating
mask for 10
minutes.

Hide undereye circles


and redness
with concealer.
Then apply
a mix of 2
parts luminizing
cream to 1
part BB cream
all over as
base, and
powder your
T-zone.

GET TING READY

The Natural Glow


Score ultraradiant skin with tips from Dior makeup pro Ricky Wilson.
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4
Apply waterproof mascara
(crucial since
the moisture
on your skin
can cause
smearing) to
lashes. Last,
top lips with
sheer, hot pink
lip gloss to play
up the flush of
your cheeks.

With a triangular sponge,


apply a mix of
equal parts hot
pink cream
blush and
the luminizer to
your cheeks,
blending
upward to temples. Line upper
lash lines with
bronze pencil.

Your
Tool Kit

Avon Ultra
Glazewear Lip
Gloss in Palm
Beach Pink,
$6, avon.com

Dior Cheek
Creme in
Bikini, $30,
30,
dior.com
o
om

Flower Powder
Trip Powder
Foundation $10,
walmart.com
Dior
Dio
or Nu
Nude
BB Creme,,
B
$44, dior.com
com

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Dior One Essential


sentia
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askk,
Treatment M
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$95, dior.com
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Dior
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Waterproof
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$25,
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LOral Paris
Magic Lumi,
$13, drugstores

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We know this sounds a little OTT, but stay with us. Eyes experience
three major problemspuff, circles, and linesand there isnt a universal
fix, says Julie Karen, MD, clinical assistant professor of dermatology at
NYU School of Medicine. Alternate creams for different issues: one in the
morning, the other at night. Use our formula-finding guide.

Woke Up
Puffy?

CoverGirl +
Olay Eye
Rehab CC
Cream, $9.29,
drugstores

Reach for a
caffeinated formula.
The stellar
ingredient (find it
in Origins, here)
knocks out puffiness
and dark circles by
decreasing swelling
and increasing
circulation, says
Dr. Karen.

Clinique
Even Better
Eyes, $39.50,
clinique.com

Seeing
Fine Lines?
The ultrathin skin
around the eyes ages
36 percent faster than
the rest of your face.
At night, go for a cream
with retinolit helps
grow collagen, which
plumps out existing
creases. (RoCs, here, is
formulated for sensitive
skin.) Heads up: Retinol
makes skin more prone
to sunburn, so be sure to
top it with SPF and
throw on shades.

Got Dark Circles?


IF YOURS ARE BLUEthe result of swollen
blood vessels near the skins surfaceagain,
go for a caffeinated formula (left) in the a.m.
Caffeine constricts blood vessels, says NYC
dermatologist Joshua Zeichner, MD.

Origins
No Puffery
Cooling
Roll-On
for Puffy
Eyes, $25,
origins.com

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RoC Retinol
Correxion
Sensitive
Eye Cream,
$20,
drugstores

Eye products should always be applied


to clean, bare skinnever layered over other
lotions, which can block their ingredients
from penetrating. (The only exception?
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Its the perfect


combination
of eye cream and
concealer.
Jenn Streicher, Emily Blunts
go-to makeup artist

It is virtually
undetectable and
photographs
beautifully.
Beau Nelson, who works
regularly with Kristen Stewart

Jeanine Lobell, who works


with Natalie Portman

a Bit
Reach for Eye
2 Go
3
OCD
Creams First
Use a cream every
single day and the eye
area will respond in
about two weeks,
explains Dr. Karen.

In the 21 years YSL


Touche clat has
been around, its won
tons of awards and
earned a cult following
(one is sold every 10
seconds!). But why?
Top pros weigh in.

It softens lines,
brightens, and
color corrects.
You can apply it
over makeup!

How you erase them depends on their color.

IF YOURS ARE BROWN, its a hyperpigmentation


issue. The body responds to inflammation
from things like allergies and rubbingas an
injury, sending extra melanin to repair it,
says Dr. Zeichner. The MVP eye brighteners:
vitamin C (in Cliniques, above, plus Murad
Instant Radiance Eye Cream, $68) and
niacinamide (a key ingredient in CoverGirls,
above), used morning or night.

Why is everyone
obsessed with
this concealer?

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clat, $40,
yslbeautyus.com

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Apply too little eye


cream and you wont
see results. Apply too
much and youll
flood the area with
excess product and
ingredients, which can
cause irritation and
puffiness. A pea-size
dot to each side will get
you results. To apply:
USING YOUR RING FINGER
(it has the gentlest touch),
blend it along the bone below
your eye, stopping just beyond
the tail of your brow (aka the
crow zone).
CONTINUE UP ALONG THE
BROW BONE, which can get
puffy and, over time, droopy.
(Skip this step if your only
issue is undereye circles.)

5 Skip
the Lids
Its the thinnest eye
area of all, so its
easily irritated, says
Dr. Karen. (If youve
ever woken up with
red, puffy eyes, this is
the likely culprit.)

Theres
a New Eye
Wrinkle
in Town
Preventative
Botoxa
trend among
20somethings (30
percent of all Botox
users fall into this
bracket)may fend
off crows-feet,
says Dr. Zeichner.
But its not without
side effects.
When outer eye
muscles are
completely frozen,
inner eye muscles
overcompensate,
creating bunny
lines: whiskerlike
creases that appear
between the inner
corners of the
eyes and bridge of
the nose when
you smile, says Dr.
Zeichner. Theyre a
telltale sign of a
trigger-happy doctor
(who should be
told to use less the
next go-round!).

Ban Oil

One of the biggest


eye-cream complaints:
They make my eye
makeup smear! That's
because the same
hydrating ingredients
often used in eye creams
(petrolatum, castor oil)
are found in makeup
removers. The creams
residue can break down
makeup, says makeup
artist Beau Nelson. In
the morning, go for an
oil-free formulaideally
a gel. Most anti-puff
formulas (like the ones
at right) qualify.

Garnier Skin
Renew AntiPuff Eye
Roller, $13,
drugstores
Caudalie
Vinosource
S.O.S
Morning Eye
Rescue, $34,
caudalie.com

Rollers
deposit the
perfect
amount.

7 Get Protection

Diorsnow UV
BB Eye Crme
SPF 20, $49,
select Macys

The number one reason eyes


get premature wrinkles: sun damage,
ge
says Dr. Zeichner. While most eye
sa
creams dont contain SPF, the latest
cr
B
BB eye creams multitaskthey
moisturize, conceal, and protect from
m
UV rays. Try one, or go for a regular
U
chemical-free suncreen (like
ch
N
Neutrogena Pure and Free, $13), which
wont make sensitive eyes tear.

No, its not a new Tinseltown bikini-wax trendits what celebrity makeup guru
Napoleon Perdis swears by to combat dark circles and redness.

Prep

Stroke 1

Stroke 2

Finish

Load both sides


of a synthetic
concealer brush
(like Lancme
Concealer Brush
Number 8,
$27.50) with
concealer.

Starting at your
inner eye corner,
lay the brush
head flat, and
drag it diagonally
downward to the
midpoint of your
lower eye bone.

Now flip over the


brush head (this side
is freshly loaded
with concealer),
and go diagonally
from the midpoint
up to the outer
corner of your eye.

Blend concealer
up toward the
lash line with
your brush or
finger. (The Vs
concentration
hides the most
shadowy zones.)

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Can Coworkers
Ever Really
Be Friends?
Finding a posse at work:
the good, the bad,
and the awkward.

NICK ONKEN

BY HELIN JUNG

They take credit for your efforts, thwart your ideas,


and brag about their achievements, ignoring yours. Just
because you ring up customers together or share a cube
doesnt mean youd ever want to be friendsreally
friendswith the people who share your shift. But
heres why you have to at least try: Research shows that
social support at work is one of the most significant
factors contributing to your job satisfactionand your
health and happiness in general.

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When you have a best-friend relationship with


someone you work with, youre 7 times as likely to
be engaged in your job, says Tom Rath, senior scientist
at Gallup and author of Vital Friends. If youre not
engaged in your job, you get less done and have less fun
doing it. Some companies make it easy for employees
to get friendly: Online retailer Zappos hosts regular
costume parties and parades. But most of us are on
our own when it comes to office-bonding dilemmas.
We asked some career experts to give you an assist.

Depending on where you


workare you at a threeperson start-up, where youre
bound to get close, or do you
work for a huge corporation,
where the boundaries
between professional and
personal are more clear?
you can totally be friendly with
your boss. Theres a big but
here: You should also maintain
your professionalism, says
career coach Lisa Quast.
When you report to someone,
its best not to divulge too
much. You never know whats
going on in that other persons
head, Quast says.
Penelope Trunk, blogger at
Brazen Careerist, agrees:
Your boss might tell you
something personal, but thats
not an invitation for you to
reciprocate, she says. Thats
an invitation for you to be a
listener. If your boss wants to
know something about your
personal life, she will ask, and
then you can answerjust the
question, not your life story.
Even if youre not BFFs, you
should be positive and helpful.
Being friendly with your boss
is a sign that youre really
meant to be at your job, Trunk
says. If you think of your job
as helping your bosss life
be better, you will be so
connected that you wont be
scared of an interaction.

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YOUR
COWORKER
IS A GOOD
FRIEND BUT
NOT GOOD
AT HER JOB.
She may know things arent
going well. But if she doesnt
and youre really her friend,
you should tell her. Start the
conversation by saying you
see something that can make
a tremendous difference in
her career and asking if shed
like to know what it is. She
can say yes or no, says Nicole
Williams, career expert at
LinkedIn. Think of it as career
counseling, not personal
criticism. Help her figure out
what she is good at, Trunk
says. Youre helping
somebody be their true best
self. Ideally, shell see it that
way, but be prepared for some
fallout if shes not ready to hear
what you have to say.

YAY, YOURE
GETTING
MARRIED!
NOW, WHO
TO INVITE?
First, a word: Its okay to party
with your work circle, but dont
go crazy. The world is your
network, Trunk says. As for
your wedding, you might hurt
some feelings, but its okay to
be selfish. Says Williams, Suck
it up, make excuses about
limited seating, and blame it on
your mother-in-law.

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So, the IT guy:


Hot or not?

YOURE
NEW AND
FEELING
DAUNTED
BY THE
CLIQUES.

Flashing back to the high school cafeteria?


Get to know individuals or a few people
from various cliques by asking them to
lunch. Be friendly with everyone, but
dont join any one group, Quast says. Find
a buddy at roughly your level who can help
you figure out the power structure.

YOUR WORK
FRIEND
GOT
PROMOTED
OVER YOU.
UGH.
Most of us will have mixed
emotions, says career coach
Henna Inam, CEO of Transformational Leadership Inc.
Congratulate your friend, obvs,
then sort out any jealousy,
confusion, or insecurity by
writing in a journal. Ask yourself,
How do I want to show up for my
friend? Its about choosing who
you want to be.
In the meantime, be as
gracious as possible, advises
Williams. Think of it as an
opportunity, and ask her what
she learned and how she did it.
Be the one who says, Listen,
I expect to work as hard for you
as I would anyone else.

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YOUVE
BECOME
THE BOSS
AND HAVE
TO MANAGE
FRIENDS.
You did something right to get
here, but its natural to feel
guilty and uneasy about having
to be the one who tells your
friend that she needs to start
getting to work on time.
Acknowledge that the power
dynamic has shifted. Have
a conversation where you set
new rules of the relationship,
Inam says. Then be patient
as you both get used to your
role. Show empathy for your
friend, but dont apologize or
act more junior than your rank.
As Trunk notes, A key part of
climbing the ladder is not
taking responsibility for other
peoples feelings.

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YOU LIKE
YOUR BOSS
BUT DONT
KNOW HOW
CLOSE YOU
SHOULD BE.

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You Made a
Mistake at Work

Now What?
The moment you realize youve majorly
screwed up is not pretty. But you can snap out
of it and into action. Your recovery starts here.

Uh-oh.
I think I just
Replied All.

BY MIKA BRZEZINSKI

However tiny or T. rex your


mistake, you need to do
damage control. That
means fixing the problem
if at all possible. Lets take
a classic scenario: You
double-book your boss for
a meeting. (Someone on
my staff did that to me
when I was supposed to be
meeting with the editorin-chief of Cosmo!) Right
away, get in touch with the
person your boss was
supposed to meet so she
doesnt wait another
second. By the time you go
to your manager, youll be
able to tell her the steps
youve taken to make
things right or the steps
you propose to take.

sorry; its bad news. Here


it is. We had some interns
on the Morning Joe set a
few years back who helped
us with our new Twitter
account. One day, I heard
Joe Scarborough, my
cohost, get very upset with
them about how one had
tweeted something before
it was a done deal. I realized in one horrifying
instant that Id
mistakenly posted the
info. I walked up to Joe
and said, That was a
hundred percent my
fault. I couldve let the
interns take the fallthey
almost thought they had
done it! But I know I
earned a lot of respect
with my honesty.

Leave Others Out of It


Apologize
From your supervisors
POV, theres nothing
worse you can do than
sweep a mistake under
the rug. The minute you
cover it up, your boss will
know. And from that day
on, shell wonder if youre
BSing her. Instead, go to
your boss and say, Im

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I messed up are three of


the most important words
you can say, with the
emphasis on I. Dont pass
the buck. When I missed a
lunch date with a group of
successful and timecrunched women, the
staffer who stepped up to
take the blame didnt
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dropped the ball too.


I figured that out and was
impressed he didnt drag
others into the mud with
him. Your boss will find
out on her own who else
was involved. That will
solidify your reputation
as loyal and trustworthy.

Dont Do It Again
Take every precaution
to ensure your mistake
is a one-time screw-up.
A few habits that have
served me well: Set up
auto-reminders so you
dont forget deadlines.
Triple-check the facts
and grammar in any
e-mail you send. And it
never hurts to take a
breath and think before
you speak.

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Press Reset
Many women struggle to
get over it after theyve
messed up. Maybe some of
us are hardwired to gnaw
on our mistakes. But once
your flub is fixed, its time
to move on. Your boss and
coworkers shouldnt have
to hear you rehash the
disaster or console you.
And they dont need you
wasting time brooding
and second-guessing
yourself. That only makes
you lose confidence
which makes you worse at
your job. The bottom line is
you feel bad about what
happened, youve admitted
your role in it, and youve
taken every action possible
to resolve it. And you
definitely wont do it again.

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I never know how


much is in my bank
account. I got an
overdraft charge when I
bought a latte!
Allie F., 28

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> If you feel like credit is


financing your happiness,
remember this: Research
shows debt is the number
one factor in not reaching
your big life goals: think
starting a family, retiring
comfortably. Cutting back
will feel less painful if you
dream about (and plan for)
those goals now. Take a
deep breath, and write
down everything you owe.
You have to know the
scary number to create a
plan for paying it off.
(LearnVests free Live a
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> Theres a better way.


Instead of paying for overdraft protection, stay on
top of how much money
you have by signing up for
low-balance alerts from
your bank. When your
account drops below a
certain amount, theyll
ping you.

Im the friend who


always borrows money
and never pays it back.
Edie B., 24

> This is bad for both of


you: When your friend
lends money but doesnt
get it back, it creates a
power shift, and you may
start to feel her judge your
spending decisions. Agree
on a repayment plan the
second you borrow. Try, I
need $100 for a car repair
but will return it when my
paycheck hits on the 15th.
If you borrowed forever ago
and feel embarrassed
facing your friend, use an
online service like PayPal
or Venmo.

I forgot about my
Flexible Spending
Account and lost all
the money.
Louise P., 34

> To make sure you dont


take a financial hit this
year, look into things
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this account can


reimburse you for
copays, therapy,
acupuncture, even
prescription sunglasses.
(FYI, new rules dont
allow drugstore meds
unless you get an OTC
prescription from your
doc.) Even if you didnt
save receipts, you may be
able to circle charges on
your credit-card statement or have the vendor
print out another.
Then set a calendar
reminder to check your
Flexible Spending
Account balance in
October and make a game
plan to spend whats left
by the end of the year.

Ive never donated


a penny to charity. Im
broke, but I still feel so
guilty about it.
Jessica H., 25

> Giving back isnt just for


the super rich. What you
spend money on reflects
your values, so if you care
about certain causes, shuffle around whatever funds
you have to support them.
Donating 2 percent of your
salary each year is a great
goal. Build it into your
budget by having a small
portion of each paycheck
directly deposited into a
sub-account at your bank.
Or set up a monthly direct
deposit to the group of
your choicemany accept
ongoing monthly
donations. If you cant
spare a cent, sign up to run
a race with a charity team
and use Twitter and
Facebook to raise money.
Or you could even ask your
friends and family to
donate to your favorite
cause as a birthday gift.

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THE POWER PLAYERS

Jessica Matthews, 25, and Julia Silverman, 24, inventors


In 2008, Matthews and Silverman were partnered for an engineering
project at Harvard. The catch? Neither one of them studied engineering.
Matthews had recently been to Nigeria and was frustrated by the
frequent power outages. Kids play soccer everywhere in the developing
world, says Matthews. We thought, what if we could turn play into
power? They inserted into a soccer ball a generator that harnesses
energy from movement. Just 30 minutes of play powers an attachable
light for three hours. The women founded Uncharted Play, which earned
praise from the Clinton Global Initiative and is now working to bring a
similar technology to jump ropes. Imagine somewhere like Oklahoma
after a tornado, says Matthews. People could have lights and power
before electricity is even restored. (Follow them @SOCCKET.)

fun

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females
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Boston bombing
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SURV
Adrianne Haslet-Davis, 32, dancer

THE VOTE MAKER


Maria Teresa Kumar, 39, CEO and president of Voto Latino
Its fitting that Maria Teresa Kumars first day of work was an election day. In
November 2004, actress Rosario Dawson, chairwoman and cofounder of the nonpar tisan political group Voto Latino, recruited the then-29-year-old former legislative aide to find new ways to get the Hispanic community to turn out the vote
something politicians and organizers had been failing at for years. Thinking back
to her Colombian childhood, Kumar realized what no one else had: Latinos may
not have a lot of disposable income, but they have a lot of free minutes on their
cell phones. Under her leadership, Voto Latino became the first organization to
use text messaging to promote voter registration, helping to bring in 220,000 new
voters. What we need as a country, Kumar says, is to make sure as many
people as possible are involved in politics. Its a lot harder for other folks to decide
our future if we are constantly paying attention. (Follow her @MariaTeresa1.)

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Haslet-Davis, a ballroom dancer and instructor in Boston,


was cheering on Boston Marathon runners with her
husband, Adam, 33, this past April when she heard the first
bomb explode. Moments later, a second bomb went off
just four feet behind the couple. We were blown right off
our feet and onto our backs, recalls Haslet-Davis, who
used her elbows to crawl into a nearby building after the
blast took off her foot. I thought, Im going to die here.
Instead, just months into her recovery, Haslet-Davis is
preparing for two huge physical tests: running next
years Boston Marathon on her new prosthetic leg and
performing on the 17th season of Dancing With the Stars.
These are great ways for me to challenge myself and
thank the people of Boston for being supportive, HasletDavis says. I have days when Im frustrated and mad
that this happenedIm human. So its wonderful to be
able to hear other people say You can do this!

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At an age when most women are just


starting out, Demi Lovato is starting fresh.
Celebrating a big birthday and her biggest
album ever, she opens up about accomplishing
so much at an impossibly young ageand
the tough lessons she has learned along the way.
By Logan Hill

As she pulls up to a skyscraper on


Manhattans rain-slicked Hudson
Street, Demi Lovato, ascendant pop
idol, is confidently rocking all black
in the back of a black Lincoln SUV:
zippered skintight pants, studded
rocker boots, and a leather jacket
covered in so many metal studs, its
practically weaponized.
Its a new beginning for me, she
says, as fans juggle umbrellas on the
other side of the cars rain-streaked
windows. A year and a half ago, I was
frustrated, she admitsalthough
not for the reasons you might expect.

I was like, there are people on the


radio and theyre not even singing
its all Auto-Tuned, and I know I can
sing. Its taken me three albums to
figure out what works for me.
Its the next chapter, Lovato says
as she hops out of the car, signs
autographs with an extra-smiley face
for each fan, and poses for photos
(even retaking an iPhone photo for a
mom whose shot turned out blurry).
Last year, she roared back from her
struggles with bulimia and selfharming with hit singles Skyscraper and Give Your Heart a

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gold bangle worn
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bracelet: Ann DexterJones Design

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tattoos, she transformed from a


perfect Disney star whom other girls
aspired to be into something more
interesting: a girl they felt they
knew, a survivor.
Im not super religious, but I
grew up Christian and I believe in
God, Lovato says a few minutes
later, back in the Lincoln. When Im
in L.A., I dont talk about it that
much because people are very judgmental, but I just feel like God gave
me a voice, not just to sing with. He
put me through those things, which
seemed horrible at the time, but they
were so worth it. With the obstacles
Ive overcome, I can help people.

Lovato has always felt like she


had a purpose. Arms wrapped
around her legs as she takes a break
in a downtown hotel room, she says,
I remember reading about Shirley
Temple and looking up at God and
being like, Okay, Im 5. Im ready.
At the same time, she was a little
girl whose parents divorced when
she was 2 and whose mothera
former Dallas Cowboys cheerleaderturned-secretarymarried her boss
when Demi was 4. She was a single
mom living in the ghetto of Dallas,
and he took her in, Lovato says. I
remember walking into his house
the first dayhe had all-white carpet, and the first thing I did was spill
a glass of red Kool-Aid. Like, Oh my
god, I just ruined this guys
mansion. And it kept happening.
When she turned 7, she got her
first gig, on Barney & Friends,
dancing with that giant purple
dinosaur and a tiny pixie of a girl
named Selena Gomez. Every day, the
girls sang the same songand every
time that I love you, you love me
song would end with the same needy
little plea, Wont you say you love me
too? Lovato admits that Barney
could be a little codependent, but
she needed love too. Badly.
At the time, I was just so grateful
to be on TV, but I also was really
struggling, she says. Looking back,
there was a connection, probably
between any kid whos ever sang that
song to Barney, a little place in a
childs heart, a void, that could be
filled. And maybe Barney fills it.
Even before Barney, I was suicidal.

Demi took only


one week to
go platinum.

I was 7. With Barney, I guess subliminally, I did have a relationship


with this figure that was saving my
life in a way.
Looking out the window into the
drizzle, Lovato adds, Ive talked
about being bullied and the years of
being a teenager, she says, but I
went through things when I was
younger that Ive never talked about
that probably caused me to turn out
the way I ended up turning out.
Lovato has divulged more than
most celebrities, but shes still holding something back. She wont say
why she would feel suicidal at such a
young age. And she tenses up when
pressed for details about exactly
what kind of pain shes confronting
in Warrior when she sings,
Theres a part of me I cant get back /
A little girl grew up too fast / All it
took was once, Ill never be the same /
Now Im taking back my life today.
My family knows what its
about, she says. When Im ready to
open up that subject with the outside
world, then Ill be free to talk about it.
But right now, its kind of one of
those things where the lyrics speak
for me. Its all in the song.
Whatever troubles were there
didnt stop her success: On the same
day in 2007, Lovato, not yet 15,

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Break, recasting her image as a bigvoiced power-pop vocalist. At about


the same time, she was cast on The X
Factor as the shows youngest judge
and the only person sassy enough to
spar with Simon Cowell. Her new
album, Demi, is stacked with radiofriendly singles, including the smash
Heart Attack, which, like most
songs on the album, she cowrote.
Lovato did it all while living in a
sober living house, her home until
just a few months ago.
Health is a priority. Global superstardom is the plan. Today, shes in
the middle of a monthlong stretch
that will take her to Singapore,
Manila, Jakarta, Moscow, Barbados,
and New York City for a riot of TV
and radio spots, photo spreads, and
packed concerts. Escorted by her
manager, assistant, guard, and pintsize mother, Lovato heads up to the
offices of New Yorks 92.3 NOW,
where a banner calls her the Queen
of Pop. She laughs, tosses her hair
back, and kicks out a hip to show off
her butt. Snap. Her 13.4 million
Lovatics retweet the photo more
than 34,000 times.
Thirty minutes later, shes
wrapped up interviews with three
different radio shows, munching on
a few handfuls of a Texas favorite,
turkey jerky, for energy. I tell her
that, to an outsider, the pace is crazy.
Lovato, a 20-year-old who has been
working for 13 years, shrugs.
Station managers usher in two
dozen contest winners, who shake
with excitement every time Lovato
speaks. I ask one shy 14-year-old
what her favorite Lovato lyric is. She
names Skyscraper, about standing
tall in the face of bullies. Every time
Im having a hard time, she says, I
just think, Stay strong.
Actually, Stay strong isnt a Lovato
lyric at allits the tattoos (Stay on
the left wrist, Strong on the right) that
Lovato got to cover up what shes
called the battle scars from her years
of self-harming. I got them in North
Hollywood, right after I got out of
treatment [in 2011], she says. I
thought, theres no better place for a
former cutter to get a tattoo than on a
place where they used to self-harm.
In a way, its a Batman-like origin
story: The moment she got those

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EVEN
BEFORE
BARNEY,
I WAS
SUICIDAL.
I WAS 7.

auditioned for lead roles in the


Disney musical Camp Rock and the
series Sonny With a Chanceand
won both parts. She enjoyed the
fame and the fun but also buckled
under the constant scrutiny of her
body and personality. Her battles
with bulimia and cutting are welldocumented, as is the time she
punched a backup dancer.
I just had the idea in my head that
I was on the Disney Channel, so
somehow I had to prove that I was a
badass. So on the weekends, Id go
crazy, she says. There were
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moments when I was at parties and


would laugh, like, Yeah, Im such a
role model, Lovato remembers.
Looking back, how disrespectful to
the people who you are a role model
to and the parents who are letting
their children trust you.
This is the most fired up Ill see
Lovato all day. She starts talking and
doesnt stop for several minutesits
clear shes thought hard about what
kind of star she wants to be. When I
look at someone whos out there
partying excessively or rappers
rapping about doing drugs, who
people look up to, and think, Oh
thats a G; thats a gangster. I think,
Youre actually being a giant pussy.
Sorry, but those rockers in the 80s
were the furthest thing from rock
stars. They were so insecure and so
lonely that they had to do these
things to get them through the day.
If youre spending your entire
early 20s chasing the next party,
what are you running away from?
she continues. Thats not a badass.
Whats badass is when you can sit
through your problems and feel emotions when you dont want to have
them. There have been nights where
Ive had to sit on my hands, because I
want to act out, because I physically
cant sit still in the pain Im dealing
with, from looking back and being
bullied or other things that happened. And now, as hard as it may be,
I will do that. Thats what makes me
a badass. Being a badass is handling
your shit.

By her own definition, being a


badass also means fighting through
your bad days, and Lovato, like
anyone, still has them. This winter,
she broke her leg. I gained weight
cause I wasnt able to work out, she
says, back in the SUV after another
round of radio interviews and finally
headed home for the day. I stayed on
the couch. My body-image issues
flared up. And I just got depressed.
Not long ago, Lovato might have
unraveled. A year ago, I may have
purged, I may have restricted, I may
have donesomething, she pauses.
But I dont have that option anymore. Its not even like, Well, if I
throw up one time, its not gonna be
a huge deal.That thought cant go

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through my head, because if I do that,


everything will spiral out of control.
There are bad days, bad weeks, but I
dont allow myself the option of
falling back.
Instead, she says, I totally allow
myself to cry my eyes out, and I allow
myself to open up to people and ask
for help. She relies on her recovery
team, her counselor, her family, and
her best friendswho are not, contrary to her public image, red-carpet
buddies. I have two incredibly close
amazing friends who are not celebrities, who wouldnt mind hanging out
with my family and my dogs, she
says. Those are the types of friends
that I would have, rather than those
who just want to use me. I had to
learn that the hard way.
As for her romantic life, shes
keeping it private. If Im dating
someone, you may see me out, she
says, but until Im marriageserious, I probably wont walk the red
carpet with anyone. The album is
stacked with emotional breakup
songs. On the last album, I was still
a little numb and just wanting to stay
positive and not tap into that pain or
those emotional issues, she says.
On this album, I was able to release
some stuff that had built up.
The album, magnified by her
plum TV gig, has the potential to
push Lovato to the next level. So 2013
will be a very big year, not least
because in August, she will turn 21.
If celebrations are hard for anyone
in recovery, the 21st birthday of a pop
star is especially dangerous turf.
Its socially acceptable for people on
their 21st birthday to just go out and
get drunk, she says. Instead, shell
celebrate in Kenya with her family
and the charity Free the Children.
Im not gonna lie, its gonna hurt a
little bit, she says, looking out the
car window, maybe at all the bars
and clubs whizzing by. Sometimes,
I wake up and Im like, Why cant I be
normal? Why cant I just.You
know? But I cant. So I dont.
I look at birthdays as celebrating
another year of your life, she says,
smiling. Youve made it another
year. An entire year. The last year
could have turned out very differently. Some people, she says, dont
make it to 21.

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COLLINS
is my
EX-FIANC.

I HAD NO IDEA

HE WAS
.

GAY

THE NBA PLAYER SHOCKED THE WORLD LAST


SPRING WHEN HE BECAME THE FIRST MAN
ACTIVE IN PRO SPORTS TO COME OUT AS GAY. NO
ONE WAS MORE SURPRISED THAN CAROLYN
MOOS, HIS FORMER FIANCE. IN A COSMO
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My mistake was in
thinking, What
did I do wrong? I did
nothing wrong.

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MONTH BEFORE I
was set to marry the man I loved, he
called off the wedding. I had no idea
why. He and I had been together for
eight years. We had planned to have
children, build a family. Nearly four
years later, I got my answer. My
former fianc, Jason Collins, a pro
basketball player with the Washington Wizards, announced last spring
in Sports Illustrated that he is gay.
Jason told me hes gay over the
phone on a Monday morning in
April, the same day the magazine hit
newsstands. However, he didnt
mention the articlethat came as a
surprise when I heard about it from a
friend. In his essay, Jason wrote that
hed once been engaged to a woman.
Reporters zoomed in on me, thrusting my name into the news. My
in-box exploded with e-mails from
women saying the same thing had
happened to them. Im sharing what
Ive learned from my experience in
hopes that it might help others.
The day Jason canceled the wedding was surreal. It was July of
2009, and he had just returned
home from a road trip with his twin
brother, Jarron. I had been living
with Jason in Los Angeles for the
previous year, ever since our
engagement. He told me, You may
want to sit down. I loved this man
deeply. He was intelligent, goodhumored, handsome, and importantly, taller than I am7 feet. (Im
6 feet 5 and a former pro basketball
player myself.) His words didnt
make sense to me, and they hit me
hard, freezing my heart. Im just
not sure, he said. There were no
tangible reasons, no explanations.
I opened the front door and ran,
my mind spinning with questions.
I wanted answers. Im an analytical
person, a planner. I make things
work. I wanted to know what was
wrong so I could fix it. I thought
perhaps something was wrong with
me. I kept running until I ran out of
breath. When I returned, he tried to
calm me, but I couldnt stop crying.

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Jarron, and I became friends. All
basketball players, we ran in the
same social circles. There was no
romance at that point. I hadnt gone
to college to look for a husband. I was
focused on my schoolwork and my
dream: becoming a pro athlete.
When I graduated in 2001, I
achieved my goal, getting drafted
into the WNBA by the Phoenix
Mercury, then signing a contract
with a pro team in France. That year,
I saw Jason unexpectedly in Dallas
while traveling for business. Id gone
to a basketball game with friends,
and there he was, playing with the
New Jersey Nets. We agreed to meet
up after the game. When we did, we
looked at each other and almost
simultaneously asked why we hadnt
dated in college. I felt incredibly
attracted to him. I always had
been Id just been too shy and
focused on my goals to show it.

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Moos was with Collins


for eight years before he
left her. She froze
her eggs recently as a
backup plan.

During our conversation, I lost track of time. He had this natural, easygoing way about him that just pulled me in. I remember having this exciting
rush of emotion, because I could picture myself with him for the long-term.
We were very compatible, with our shared athleticism and academic
background, and his height was a bonus. It seemed like a given that we would
become a couple, and we did, albeit a long-distance one.
Jason and I talked on the phone and saw each other when we could. Our
schedules as pro athletes made things challenging. I returned to the U.S.
from France in 2002 and signed a contract with the WNBA, this time with the
Miami Sol. Jasons home base was L.A., but his team at the time was in New
Jersey. In the off-season, we had more time together. We loved working out,
playing golf and tennis, just hanging out and talking about our lives. We

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The first time I laid eyes on Jason,


I had been running as well. It was
the fall of 1997, the first day of my
freshman year at Stanford University. I had just gone out for a jog
when I ran smack into Jason and
Jarrontwo towering, stunning
guys. I stopped and introduced
myself, thrilled to meet people who
were actually taller than I am. I was
attracted to Jason but shy. We had a
brief chat, and I kept running. I
called my mom that night and said,
I think Im going to be at home at
StanfordI feel normal, like I fit in.
I hadnt exactly been normal
growing up in Minneapolis. For one
thing, I had rocketed to 6 feet tall by
sixth grade. I embraced my height,
learning everything from hockey to
ballet; I was both a tomboy and a
girlie girl. When I discovered
basketball, I truly found myself. I
loved the rhythm, the artistry of the
game. It was like dancing on the
court. I excelled, winning a gold
medal in the Junior Olympics, and
college recruiters came calling. I
chose Stanford because academics
were as important to me as athletics.

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VER THE NEXT few


years, I got my masters and started
my own business in L.A., Fitt4Life,
as a certified personal trainer,
nutrition consultant, and yoga
instructor. Jason was traded to a
team in Memphis, then Minnesota.
I began to feel like it was taking
forever for him to propose, but
I knew hed do it when he was ready.
Wed discussed marriage, but we
were young, in our 20s. I felt sure it
would happen by 30.
Finally, on a trip to Mexico in
2008, some seven years after we had
begun our relationship, he finally
said the words I had waited so long
to hear. Wed been swimming with
dolphins, eating fresh seafood,
having an amazing time. Over
dinner on our last night, he started
out slowly, saying, Ive been thinking about my life, what I want. I felt
like finishing the sentence for him.
Then he said, I wanted to ask if you
would marry me.
I remember feeling overwhelmed
with joy and also thinking: finally.
I was almost 30. In the air on the way
home, I saw my future unfolding
before me. I pictured our family:
intelligent, athletic, tall, dynamic.

I could hardly wait to get off the plane to start making plans for the wedding.
Soon after, Jason and I moved in together in L.A. We cooked at home and
enjoyed having barbecues. We discussed our future plans, agreeing that we
both wanted children. I felt grounded in the knowledge that he wanted kids.
Family is very important to me.
A year later, he canceled the wedding, throwing me into a tailspin. Up to
that point, everything Id ever wanted, I had achieved through hard work and
sheer determination. When I couldnt get answers from Jason on what had
gone wrong, I questioned myself and what I could have done better or differently. I should have been questioning him, but I didnt think to do so at all.
In the years that followed, I dated other men, I built up my business, I had a
full life. But when it came to Jason, deep sadness and confusion remained.
The phone call this April ended the mystery. He left a message on a Sunday,
saying, I have something important to talk aboutplease call me back.
I was working and called the next morning. He uttered an eerily familiar
phrase: You may want to sit down. Then he said, Carolyn, Im gay. I was
stunned. I managed to say, after a silent moment and then a deep breath, I
had no idea. Im sure a huge weight is off your shoulders. During all the years
I had known him, I never would have guessed that he would come out as gay.
We talked again briefly that night. He answered a few questions, but there
was much left to discuss and he
said he had to go. As I tell this
story, it has been several weeks
since he told me his news and he
has made no further time to
talk, despite saying he would do
so. I am sad that the media
seems to be a higher priority.
I hope this changes in the
coming weeks, as I value open
dialogue more than anything.
I cant imagine what its like
to go through all the stages he
has gone through, all the deep
layers. I dont know what its like
to wear a mask for 34 years. Its
sad that society puts that kind
of pressure on a person. I also
understand the macho stereotypes men face in the NBA. I ran
up against a reverse stereotype in the WNBA: People said I was too feminine to be a pro player. I quickly proved them wrong, showing that my nail
polish and dresses had nothing to do with my ability to compete on the court.
I empathize with Jason and support him. But at the same time, I remain
deeply hurt by him. I wish he could have been honest with me years ago. I feel
like there are two Jasons nowthe man I fell in love with and the man Im
trying so hard to understand. Hes being hailed as a pioneer, but I believe true
heroism is a result of being honest with yourself and with those you love.
Today, I am 35 years old and dating. I have a great life. I train pro athletes
and high school kids, and I work at athletic camps with at-risk children. Im
writing a book that I hope will help other women. I froze my eggs last week as
a backup plan. Its an empowering option, something I had been planning to
do for some time. I realized recently that maybe I had put it off because there
was some seed of hope that Jason might come back to me. Its hard to admit
that. But I face up to issuesI run toward them one hundred miles an hour.
What I have learned is that my mistake was in thinking, What did I do
wrong? I did nothing wrong. I was true to myself. I understand now that you
can never truly know whats going on in the mind of another person, no
matter how well you think you know them. But you do know yourself. Be
your own cheerleader. Trust in yourself.

with Jason.

I empathize

BUT AT THE
SAME TIME,

I REMAIN DEEPLY

HURT
BY HIM.

understood each other in a way that


others couldnt. We knew what it
was like to travel with a team from
one hotel room to the next. We talked
about what it was like to be traded to
another team, to have grueling
schedules and back-to-back games.
We pushed each other to be our best.
On one visit, I remember taking a
nap after a day of hard training, and
he woke me up by rubbing a rose
across my face, telling me how much
he believed in me. Another time,
he told me that I was his soul mate
and I was meant for him. When I
began thinking about graduate
school at the University of Southern
California, Jason supported my
ultimate decision to enroll. I wanted
to put down some roots and cut
down on all the travel. We agreed
that it would be a good time to start
this new phase of my life.

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Being a princess for a day is my only opportunity for girl time, says Makosy (second from left).

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heila COSTFORD IS A PRINCESS


just ask her. Its not just because Im a pretty face, says
Costford, 34, who is at Disney World, in Orlando, Florida,
on a February weekend with 24,500 other women for
Disneys Princess Half Marathon. I am strong and
capable. I put myself together and look nice, and I am
good to others. In fact, Costford is a Perfect Princess,
a title Disney bestows only to those 324 women who
have run each annual Princess race, an event that has
nearly quadrupled in size since its debut in 2009.

What also anoints Costford: She was


married at Disney World, hangs a
pink princess stocking over the fireplace at Christmas, and has a tiara
collection. She and her friends once
donned old bridesmaids dresses and
tiaras and dined at Cinderellas Royal
Table, after waiting eight months for
the reservation.
Costford is also a postdoctoral
fellow at the Hospital for Sick Children, in Toronto, Ontario, studying
the biological mechanisms that
cause obesity and type 2 diabetes.
So how does a PhD scientist find
herself at the starting line of a princess run, wearing purple wings, a
wand festooned with feathers, and a
tiara around her updo? In her mind,
the two things go hand in hand.
Taking the time to put yourself
together conveys to your colleagues
that you are confident and capable,
she says. The professional princess
doesnt claw her way up the ladder.
She ascends through the ranks by
employing kindness, courtesy, and
charm, leaving everyone with whom
she has worked singing her praises.
And as for actually donning a
tutu and tiara? I spend my days
injecting insulin into mice, she
says. Dressing up as a princess
after all that is funnot so much a
fantasy as a complete escape.
Thats how a lot of women seem
to feel here at Princess Weekend.
Theyre here to run, but theres
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of every shape and size and color


prance through the Magic Kingdom
arm in arm. They are giddy, ridiculous, and completely uninhibited.
Every girl wants to be a princess
and marry Prince Charming, says
Laura Ryan, 23, a Victorias Secret
product manager from Charleston,
South Carolina. She favors Belle from
Beauty and the Beast. Shes just like
a Southern lady. I know shes from
France, technically, but she is classy.
Gloria Makosy, 40, a specialeducation teacher from
Mount Airy, Maryland, is
here with seven friends and
running as Merida from
Brave. Its a time when I
am not judged, she says.
A woman dressed as Ariel
confides that watching The
Little Mermaid with her
daughter helped her get
through the sudden death of
her young husband. Malinda
Ann Hill, 42, says running
as a princess provides a
reprieve from her job as a
bereavement counselor.
Brittney Holland, 18, from
Corpus Christi, Texas, says
its diva training.

rebooted the tales for a


new generationgirls
who are now in their 20s
and 30s. Raised on
princess stories and
maybe a little wistful for
the days of tea parties
and castle tents, some
young women are
finding they want the
story to continue. Guys
have video games and
fantasy-football
leaguesand women have Ariel,
Belle, and all their royal friends.
Through its $4 billion Princess
licensing franchise, Disney has put
princesses on panties, pajamas, and
every other product that appeals to
a 4-year-old girl. Now the company
has set out to fulfill the fantasies of
women long past preschool. We
recognize that every generation
wants to have that princess lifestyle
365 days a year, so we developed products to fit those needs, says Dara

THIS WAS supposed to


be the postfairy-tale age.
But something happened
along the way: The Little
Mermaid (1989) and Beauty
and the Beast (1991)

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Trujillo, senior manager of merchandise for Disney Theme Parks.


You dont grow out of being a Disney
Princess. You just grow older.
So it is that teens can buy Disney
Princess prom dresses and 20somethings can sex up Halloween in a
Sassy Princess costume. Brides can
walk down the aisle in Disney
Princess wedding gowns, their
Disney Princess rings twinkling,
wearing shoes from DSWs Glass
Slipper Collection. Last spring, Marc
Jacobs released a $595 reinvention of
Cinderellas slipper in transparent
PVC, and earlier this year, Kristyn
Marrott, 24, exchanged rings
wearing one-of-a-kind Christian
Louboutin heels crafted in honor of
the release of Cinderella on Blu-ray.
Nearly 2,000 women entered a photo
contest portraying themselves as a
modern-day Cinderella to win the
shoes. I just had to have them, says
Marrott, a tae kwon do instructor
from Ashburn, Virginia, who most
loves Tiana, the hardworking
heroine of The Princess and the Frog.
Last fall, Sephora introduced its
Cinderella Collection; this spring
brought the Jasmine Collection, and
in fall comes the Little Mermaid line.
Inside the Disney resorts, 20 percent
of Princess sales are from an adult

line that includes handbags, jewelry,


and cosmetics. Theres an inner part
of each of our guests that truly
believes she is a princess, says
Trujillo. Its in her DNA.

BUT IS IT? Its hard to know if the


Disney Princess franchise has
tapped into a need, created a need,
or simply made princesses so
ubiquitous that they can symbolize
anything to any woman. The sheer
amount of princess stuff out there
and the marketing of it has consumed the identities of girls, says
Peggy Orenstein, author of Cinderella Ate My Daughter. Princess has
become shorthand for expressing all
sorts of things. Right now, that
seems to be femininity, specialness,
entitlement, andalthough I don't
know whystrength.
Devin Nurse, 19, whom I meet on
Princess Weekend standing in line
to buy a limited-edition Dooney and
Bourke Princess handbag, says she
t iaras and tutus

Seven
costumes, each representing a
different Disney Princess, line the
closet (left) before the 13.1-mile
race through the Magic Kingdom.

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grew up playing Ariel in her swimming pool. She had Ariel sheets and
pajamas, and she has planned to the
last seashell an Ariel wedding, with
Prince Erics castle in the background and little bubbles hanging
everywhere. Today, she works in the
Dino-Rama section at Disney
Animal Kingdom but dreams of
getting a job as Sleeping Beauty. The
5-foot-10 beauty has auditioned twice
despite knowing that her height
disqualifies her.
Nurse longs to be a princess not
only professionally but also in her
actual life. I dont believe in looking
for my one true love. I really do think
he will find me, she says, blue eyes
twinkling. For now, she says, she is
princeless. But driving around in
her pink car, texting on her pink
iPhone, and still planning her Little
Mermaid wedding, she waits for the
man who will open doors for her, buy
her flowers every day, and know her
favorite songnot because he has to
but because he wants to.
Shes also working on her
second-choice career plan: to be a
Disney wedding planner. Being a
princess means not only having
your own dreams come true, she
explains, but making other
peoples dreams come true too.

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crowning glory

Alaniz-Torres (left) and Peters at Disney World. I felt like a celebrity, the bride says.

LOOK, MOMMY, its Cinderella!


a towhead screams, tugging at her
mothers thumb to get a closer look at
Christina Alaniz-Torres, 22, a pharmacy technician from San Antonio,
Texas. The pretty brown-eyed Latina
is not your traditional Cinderella
except here she is, posing for pictures
in front of Cinderella Castle, wearing

grazing their shoulders, as their


parents snap photos. I wanted to
be the princess they expected me to
be, she says. I know that image will
stay with them for a long time.
Alaniz-Torres remembers her
own first trip to Disney World: She
was 8 years old and unimpressed
with girlie-girl princesses. She
gravitated toward Pocahontasan
adventurer like Alaniz-Torres, who
likes to canoe and hikeand
rebellious Jasmine from Aladdin.

as the CARRIAGE

WHISKS HER FROM THE


CASTLE, THE BRIDE STARTS TO SOB, THEN PULLS HERSELF
TOGETHER, SMILES, AND WAVES TO THE CROWD. NOT
JUST ANY WAVE, SHE EXPLAINS, BUT A PRINCESS WAVE.
a meringue of a dress and Minnie
Mouse crystal shoes she bedazzled
herself. A crowd of girls dressed like
princesses fold themselves into the
brides capacious skirt, her hands

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She vividly recalls how the cast


member playing Jasmine stayed
to chat with her after her shift
had ended. That was it, she says.
I became a princess fan forever.

Alaniz-Torress childhood wasnt


easyher family fell on hard times
when her father lost his job, putting
visits to Disney World out of reach. So
it was a natural for her boyfriend,
Chris Torres, to figure that if he took
her back to the park, wined and dined
her at Cinderellas Royal Table, and
proposed, she might say yes.
"My friends at work tease me for
everything I do for Christina, says
Torres, who often has dinner and a
foot rub waiting when his bride gets
home from work. When other people
tell me about their relationships, I
think it would be cool if Christina did
that stuff for me. But this is how we
started, and I will probably be doing
these things until I die, he says with
good-natured resignation.
Thats one of the reasons I decided
to marry Chris, says Alaniz-Torres,
who has dated the cable-company
employee and deejay business owner
since she was 18. He really is Prince
Charming. The couple saved $12,000

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fairest in the land

Playing Aurora is my lifelong dream, says Nurse, spending a day off at the park.

for the perfect princess wedding,


including a Crystal Coach shaped like
a pumpkin and complemented by two
wigged footmen and six Shetland
ponies. (Its the same ride Mariah
Carey took for her wedding-vow
renewal in April.)
As the carriage whisks her from
the castle to the wedding pavilion,
the bride starts to sob, then pulls
herself together, smiles, and waves
to the crowd. Not just any wave, she
explains, but a princess wave: wrist,
wrist, elbow, elbow, run your hand
across your cheek, and blow a kiss.

NOT EVERYONE loves a princess.


Its a form of insanity, Orenstein
says. Why cant they emulate
queens? A queen actually has power.
She rules. The princess has no power
except the power that comes from
being pretty and young, which, of
course, cannot last. Not having to be
in charge is the point of princess
culture, adds Rebecca Hains, PhD,

author of Confronting Cinderella.


These women are saying they want
it all but in a way that doesnt involve
the work and does include the
sparkle and glamour. The nostalgia
is for a time that never was and for
dreams that are unattainable.
Women are being joyously duped.
A surprising number of women
racing at Princess Weekend agree.
(Princesses are either born into it or
marry into it, says Hayley Bowers, a
28-year-old English teacher from
Atlanta, Georgia. They dont have a
lot of dramatic arc.) But unlike the
cultural critics, these anti-princess
princesses dont seem to be taking the
phenomenon very seriously. And
their definitions of what a princess is
have become intensely personal.
Half an hour after she crossed the
finish line, Kara Peters, a 27-year-old
financial-education coordinator from
East Lansing, Michigan, is still wiping tears from her blue eyes. Im not
a girlie girl, she sniffs, adjusting her

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tiara. I dont like tutusshes wearing oneand I never wear makeup.


Two years ago, Peters explains,
she was 54 pounds heavier than she
is today. She couldnt run a quarter
lap around a track. Then she started
working out. When her running
partner suggested she enter the
Princess Half Marathon, Peters
figured the stakes couldnt be lower.
It was not exactly the Olympics.
The day of the race, she passed the
10-mile mark, something she had
never done before. I hadnt allowed
myself to believe that I would finish,
and when I realized that I was going
to, I couldnt control my emotions,
Peters says. For her at least, being
a princess is not about being selfabsorbed, materialistic, or rescued
by a man. I know its silly, she says.
But there was such female bonding
and empowerment out there. The
women werent like, Hey, move,
youre in my way. They were like,
Hey, I like your tutu.

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YOURE IN DEMAND
Summer is a social season (beach parties, music festivals, etc.), and you can
be challenge to pin down. Stay busy
this coming winterstart a cooking
or book club or any indoor activity you
werent into during warmer months.

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YOURE ON TOP OF YOUR GAME


Youre running around half-naked,
so you shave, wax, get pedis, and
work out on the reg. When everything
is in tip-top shape, you feel sexier.
Keep up with your routine and youll
emanate your hot summer self yearround, snowmageddons be damned.
SOURCES: MATTHEW A. HUSSEY, AUTHOR OF GET THE GUY;
AKASH SINHA, CLINICAL RESEARCH ASSOCIATE AT NEWCASTLE
UNIVERSITY; PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND RELATIONSHIP EXPERT
RACHEL SUSSMAN, LCSW, AUTHOR OF THE BREAKUP BIBLE

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You get your car


tuned up and
hardly ever skip
a dental cleaning.
But theres no
reminder in your
calendar to
RECHARGE YOUR
SEX LIFEand
there should be!
These moves will
turn up the heat,
whether youre
newly dating or
together forever.

BY ZO RUDERMAN
PHOTOGRAPHED BY MEREDITH JENKS

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Just
Started
Dating?

Ah, that new-car smell.


So fresh and unknown.
The downsideyou
havent quite figured out
each others mechanics.
Even if sex is more
frequent than Law and
Order reruns, theres
room for improvement.
Set a precedent and make
sure you come rst. Women
often focus on their guys
orgasm, and treat themselves
as an afterthought. Since
were all creatures of habit,
doing the reverse can pay off
in the long run.
sexologist Jessica OReilly, PhD

I started seeing someone


more experienced, so to
alleviate awkwardness, I
immediately asked him what
he liked. That made him
comfortable to tell me what
worked, and he asked me
the same. Soon, wed shifted
our techniques toward each
other, so sex was amazing. It
brought us closer too.
Evan E., 19

I ask, Whats something


youve never done in bed but
want to try? Whatever we do
wont get compared to an ex.
Kathleen G., 31

Dont fake it. Hell keep


doing the thing that didnt
work. Get started the way you
want him to continue, even if
its awkward. sex educator
Charlie Glickman, PhD

My go-to position with a new


guy is girl-on-top, leaning
back, grabbing his ankles
behind my back. Its atteringat abs, perky boobs
so I can enjoy myself, not
think about my aws.
Andi L., 33

Congrats! You
Hit OneYear
Comfortable: Good when it comes to bras, not
so much when it comes to sex. The excitement
and newness has worn off, and according to
experts, his desire to impress you may be
diminishing too. The key is to make that comfort
work to your advantage by changing things up.
Remind him of a time he
rocked your world in bed,
Remember our rst vacation when you did X? That
felt so good. Hell take it
as a challenge. OReilly
I took up yoga and
became so exible in bed.
My boyfriend and I were
suddenly able to do things
we never used to be able
Cait H., 28
to do.

honey isnt as easy to lick


off as you expectedyou
can laugh it off and keep
Jamie S., 19
going.
Pick up the erotic book
Sweet Love, edited by
Violet Blue. Highlight the
parts that turn you on,
and let him do the same.
OReilly

Drive over to his house


wearing lingerie and a
raincoat and nothing else.
Clich, but hot. Glickman

My boyfriend and I started


doing timed orgasm
challenges. Set a clock,
and see who can make the
other person come faster.

After a year of dating,


my boyfriend and I would
mix it up by trying out
fun things wed seen in
steamy movie sex scenes.
The key is to keep it playful, so if something doesnt
workfor example, that

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Take a class at a sex


shop. Youre comfortable
enough to do it without
feeling weird, and youll
learn new moves. sex
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WaitWhat If Youre
Long-Distance?
Pros: When you see each other, its go-time. Cons: Those long
stretches in between and attempting phone sex when you feel
ridiculous describing your vagina and what youre doing to it.
Learn to talk dirty; draw
inspiration from books
or movies. A few strategic words can create
greater sexual intensity
than a physical touch or
technique.
OReilly
I sent my boyfriend
lingerie and told him it
was for when I came
to visit the following
week.
Erin M., 20
Wear vibrating undies
and tell him to text you
instructionshigh

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speed, low speed, etc.


Even though youre
thousands of miles
away, he can still give
you pleasure. OReilly
I swear by bath sex! Ill
put him on speaker and
leave my phone near the
bath, then get to it.
Sam F., 29

Get ready for a phone


date the same way
youd get ready for a real
date, so you feel hot.
Glickman

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My boyfriend travels a
ton, and I started sleeping in our guest room
when he was away. It
kept our bed feeling like
our special sexy place.
Joanna V., 26

Wed start off with


textsWish you were
naked in my bed right
nowthen talk dirty on
the phone. By then, wed
be more than ready to
Skype. Wed both do our
thing while the other
watched. Hot. Liz T., 19

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Youre Shacked
Up or Married
Youre both playing a lot of roles in the
relationship, and not the sexy-nurse/patient
ones. More like roommates, financial partners,
wedding planners, or coparentsall things
that can push sex to the back burner. Creating
some distance, while counterintuitive, helps
reignite your curiosity and fight routine.
My husband saw some
guy chat me up at a bar,
and when we got home,
we had this crazy-hot
sex. It was like seeing that
other men are attracted
to me made him want
me more.
Jess K., 29
Erika Lust produces
erotic videos for women
(available at ErikaLust
.com). Theyre explicit,
but theres more of a
connection between the
performers. Glickman
Go to dinner sans panties, but dont let him nd
out until youre at the
table. Couples often get
dressed in front of each
other, so surprising him in
public can be especially
thrilling.
OReilly
Break out the blindfold,
but use it on yourself, not
him. It will heighten your
other senses and reinforce
a sense of curiosity about
his body, something thats
lost after youve seen your
guy naked a thousand
times.
Fleming
Keep one-upping yourselves. Once a month,
brainstorm something
youve never tried, and
do it. I once heard a
couple of 40 years say
theyve been together for

so long because they just


keep getting kinkier.
Glickman

Our life feels like its


turned into one errand
after another, so weve
started assigning sex acts
to errands. His going down
on me equals grocery
store, so now I love our
trips to Whole Foods.
Jen C., 30

Role-play, but start when


you walk in the front door.
Couples tend to recap their
days to each other (not
exactly sexy), and its hard
to transition into sex after
venting. Coming home as
someone else nips that in
the bud.
Fleming
Spanish director Pedro
Almodvar has made
some really racy lms
that are good to watch on
date night to get you in the
mood. In Jamn Jamn,
you see Javier Bardems,
um, chorizo, so its worth it
just for that. Lauren S., 29
Watch him make a work
presentation or run a race.
Or do anything else he
does well, especially if its
in front of other people. Itll
remind you why you fell
for him, and its a turn-on
to know you get to go
home with him. Fleming

T
Talk dirty, but outside
the bedroom. Couples at this
stage make the mistake of
only doing this in bed, and
n start to feel rehearsed.
it can
So whisper something
wicked
d in his ear at a restaurant, while grocery shopping, anywh
here. OReilly

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SE X Q & A

Wood you try


this? Read our
tips first.

NO-B S RE SP ONSE S
TO QUES TIONS YOU CA N
ONLY ASK CO SMO

I want to try anal sex,


but Im scared. Be
honest...will it hurt?
A

Sex educator Jamye Waxman says before you even


think about trying it, make sure you have two things:
a caring partner who listens and a good silicone
lubricant. The next step is the warm-up. Start
with a well-lubricated finger or butt plug before you
graduate to a penis, Waxman says. If your body
resists any of those, stop and breathe, she says.
Eventually, when you relax, your rectum will
relax with you. Now, as to the second part of
your question, yeah, it may hurt a little. It should
eventually feel better, even pleasurable. But if it
doesnt, dont keep doing it! You may just have a
back door that you prefer not to use for guests.

therapists in The Journal of Sex Medicine found that


intercourse lasting from 7 to 13 minutes is the most
desirable. If hes within that time frame and youre
still suffering from sex burn, try using more lube or
go down on him for a bit before he enters you. If he
takes longer, alcohol or medication could be to blame.
Antidepressants and even antihistamines (They
dry everything up, says Arlene Goldman, PhD,
coauthor of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy) can make him
take longer to finish. Or it could be that he is masturbating too much and has become accustomed to the
intense friction of his hand. Be honest and tell him
that sometimes sex goes on for so long that it becomes
uncomfortable and youve heard that medication,
alcohol, or too much, uh, self-love can be inhibitors.
He cant cut out the meds (but you can strategize
together about ways to make sex better for you). He
can, however, ease up on the other two.

Q It really turns
me on (and helps
me have an
orgasm) to picture
my boyfriend
with another
woman. Am I a
total weirdo?
A Not one bit, says Dorian
Solot, coauthor of I Love
Female Orgasm. Its
common to fantasize about
things that are hot in a
dream world but that you
would never do in real life,
she says. Researchers at the
University of Michigan also
found that women who
fantasize reported higher
levels of desire and sexual
satisfaction. So picture him
with Mila Kunis as often as
you want!

Have a Ball

Q What are
Kegel balls,
and do they
really work?
A Claire Cavanah,
cofounder of Babeland
and coauthor of
Moregasm: Babelands
Guide to Mind-Blowing
Sex, breaks it down:
Kegel balls, aka Ben
Wa balls, are weighted
balls that you insert
into your vagina for
pleasure and/or to
strengthen your PC
muscletoning it leads
to stronger orgasms.
Insert them and walk
around for 20 minutes
a few days a week.
JESSICA KNOLL

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too long to finish, and Im lying there,
uncomfortable, wondering, How
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can do to help him get there faster?
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man thro pol o gy

le brain
your guide t o t h e ma

COSMO SEXICON

i nv e r t eb r o n :
A w i mp who has no
backbone and is afraid
to step up and defend
h i m s e l f o r h i s g i r lfriend. <Last night, this
dude starts yelling at me
for taking his bar stool.
Instead of stepping in
and helping me defend
m y s e l f, m y d a t e j u s t
stood there. Total invertebro.>

HOW TO GET THE TRUTH


Its almost impossible to determine
the exact degree of truth in your
guys love declaration (science,
youve failed us!), but you can still
squeeze out some intel. Heres your
postmortem plan.

They may regret


that last kiwitini
in the morning.

behind

i love you

He dropped the L-bombwhile wasted. Um, now what?

SO, THAT HAPPENED

DID HE MEAN IT?

Its Saturday night, and youre at the


bar with the guy youve been dating.
Youve both been partaking in some
tequila. Everyones having a good
time. Suddenlyand slurrilyhe
looks at you with noticeably glossedover eyes and says those three little
words for the very first time: I love
you. Huh?

It dependsbooze affects different


men in different ways. It slows down
the brains frontal lobe, which
controls judgment and inhibition, so
yesits possible that he was
sharing feelings he didnt have the
guts to express without some shots.
But when guys drink, they also
become more sexually motivated
i.e., his L-bomb could just be his
horny subconscious trying to
scheme its way into your pants.

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Ask him if he remembers what he


said that night. You can do this
in person, over text, on the
phone, whatever. Just be sure to leave
the question open-endedthat way,
hes more likely to share his true
thoughts. If he admits to saying it but
doesnt volunteer an explanation
STEP

Ask him point-blank if he meant it.


Yes, its blunt, but if you want
to know, its the only way.
Remember, its not like youre asking
him apropos of nothingthe words did
leave his mouth, and you have every
right to know if they were legit.
STEP

SOURCES: SARAH BENSON, MS, LCSW, AUTHOR OF UNDERSTANDING


THE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ALCOHOLIC; SARAH ROSE CAVANAGH, PHD,
DIRECTOR OF THE LABORATORY FOR COGNITIVE AND AFFECTIVE SCIENCE
AT ASSUMPTION COLLEGE

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First, dig deep and ask yourself:


Do you want him to mean it?
If yes, read on. If no, dismiss
his sweeping statement as drunken
gibberish, nothing more, and pretend it
didnt happen.
STEP

Hey, stranger, free for drinks tonight?

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MANSWER METER

HEY, GUYS!
WHY DIDNT YOU
CALL OR TEXT
HER AFTER SEX?
UNDERSTANDABLE

ANATOMY OFTHE RESURFACING GUY


WHO HE IS The guy who disappears on you after a few great dates, then randomly texts you
a few weeks or months later, pretending he didnt ghost you like a total douche.
WHATS HIS DEAL? Hes cycling through women, trying to keep his options open. Hes not
into commitment because that means he could miss out on something better around the
corner. But he wants to keep you in his rotationon his terms. That, or he tried to get with
another girl, struck out, and is running back to you as a backup.
YOUR NEXT STEP If you ask us, this species of guy should be extinct and you should stop
responding. If you want to carry on, dont expect to be more than one of his many.
SOURCE: EMILY MORSE, HOST OF SEX WITH EMILY ON SIRIUS/XM SATELLITE RADIO

I didnt get
her off and was
embarrassed
to show
my face after
that.

She was
friends with my
ex, so I felt bad
and regretted it.
Peter M., 29

Roger H., 28

She peed in
bed afterward.
Gross.
Henry D., 31

She shushed me
during it because
she didnt want
her roommates
to hear us. I am
not a child!
Tim P., 30

She asked me
to choke her.
Maybe I was too
quick to judge,
but thats
not for me.

She cried
during sex, and it
scared the crap
out of me.
Matt W., 26

She ODed on
dirty talk and just
wouldnt shut up.
What a turn-off.
Tyler
Tyler K., 28
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Sam D., 30

She lived in
another city, and I
didnt want to
deal with longdistance.

Her bed was


piled high
with dolls
and stuffed
animalsso
creepy!

Mosha R., 24

Mental Foreplay,
Anyone?

Meet JASON SILVA,


31, host of National
Geographics hit show
Brain Games. Fittingly,
he is obsessed with the
brainIts your
sexiest organ!and is
here to reveal a few Jedi
mind tricks thatll heat
up any relationship.
Were listening! A.D.

If Youve
Just Started
Dating

If Youve Been
With Him
for a While

Silvas a big fan of


philosopher Rich
Doyle, who says new
couples should
scramble their egos.
Meaning, do things
that lower your guard
and disarm your selfconsciousness. It
brings you closer.

To avoid hedonic
adaptationwhen
your brain adapts to
the familiar (your
partner) and your
senses get less
arousedtry new
things. Doing so
makes your brain fire
pleasure hormones.

So

So

Harry S., 30

Peter P., 30

I got what I
wanted and
moved on.

LAUREN PANARIELLO

Grooming.
I take care
of stuff down
there, and if
you dont,
there wont be
a round two.
Rick L., 23

APPALLING
Names have been changed because it
was the only way these guys would
give us honest answers.

A.D. AND L.P.

Go skydiving or rock
climbing together.
Thrilling, fearinducing stuff amps up
your adrenaline, which
dissolves your walls
and turns you both on.

Watch him make a big


presentation. Seeing
your guy in his element
sparks dopamine in
your brain and gives
you the hots for him all
over again.

Or

Or

Reveal your fear of


public speaking.
Admitting your
vulnerabilities makes
you seem more
relatable, boosting
intimacy in you both.

Plan a girls weekend.


Parting ways and
thinking about being
together later really
does make you fonder
of someone familiar.
Spark, reignited!

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Get it
together,
Ray.

BOYFRIEND

INTERVENTION

Bringing up a touchy subject with your guy can be trickyespecially when it involves self-improvement on his part.
But you do need to take action on occasion (like when hes not living up to his boyfriend potential). Heres how to do it right.

And Youre Getting Turned Off,


Concerned for His Health, or Both

WHEN HE WONT
GET A JOB

(Or Is Underemployed)
and Is Mooching
Off You

FIRST, TELL HIM YOURE BUMMED ABOUT HIS BODY.


There are two ways to approach this convo. You
can focus on his health and say, Look, I want to
be with a guy who takes care of himself and it
seems youre not doing that. And thats

START BY BRINGING IT UP
GENTLY. Its best to put the
emphasis on you. Say, I just
dont get why youre not trying
harder to get a job

making it harder for me to stay


in this with you. Or say, I like you so

youre so
talented! Whats
going on?

much, but I realized that Im less attracted to you


lately, and it sucks.I want to want you! In both
scenarios, by being real about it and putting it on
you, hell get the message without feeling like
youre being
SO ASK HIM HOW YOU CAN HELP. Begin
condescending.
by asking him whats on his mind. He
could be feeling anxious at work and
taking comfort in food, in which case a
But dont
simple convo with you could help him
leave him
get back in check. Option two: Offer
hanging.

to cook more healthful


meals together, or go to better-

for-you restaurants. Finally, suggest


active dates. Youve already come
clean with your feelingsnows the
time to help him succeed.

Complimenting him
instead of insulting him
will help him open up.
See what we did there?

{
Then remember to

REINFORCE HIS AWESOMENESS.


Its tempting to do his job
searching for him, but dont.
That will emasculate him.

Besides, you arent


responsible for him.

Instead, tell him why you think


his career path is so cool. Hes
more likely to start
INVITE HIM TO YOUR WORK
hunting if hes
HAPPY HOURS. While its crucial
confident that hell
not to act as his recruiter, its
eventually succeed.
fine to invite him to any
networking events that may
benefit him. And bring

him into your convos,

And finally

so he can talk about his career


goals too. Who knows? Sandy
in accounting could hook it up!
A.D.

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SOURCES: SUSAN ALBERS-BOWLING, PSYD, PSYCHOLOGIST AT CLEVELAND CLINIC, OHIO,


AUTHOR OF EATING MINDFULLY; RELATIONSHIP EXPERT CHRISTINE HASSLER, AUTHOR OF
20-SOMETHING, 20-EVERYTHING; JUDY SCHEEL, PHD, LCSW, AUTHOR OF WHEN FOOD IS FAMILY

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He let you pay.
For the first
date. Now what?

Q My boyfriend wants

E
LOV E A DV ICGURU,
GU Y
F ROM OUR E R S ON
D
K Y HE N

A guy asked me out to


see a movie. He picked
me up, so I offered to
pay for the movie
tickets, saying it was
like reimbursing him
for gas money. I didnt
think he would let me,
but he did. Shouldnt
he have tried to pay?
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Theres a voyeuristic element to


watching you touch yourself,
even though he knows you know
hes watching. And because he
knows you know hes watching,
it feels to him like youre touching
yourself because youre so turned
on by the fact that hes watching.
Got all that? Good, because its a
turn-on for him. Plus, Im sure
youre well aware of the fact that
guys love visual stimuli. And one
more reason to indulge this request:
Hell be able to gather valuable intel
on how you like to be touched. So
make sure you do it in a way you
genuinely enjoy rather than
worrying about giving him a good
show. Because trust me, no matter
what you do, itll be a good show.

A He shouldnt have tried to pay for the


ticketshe should have insisted on paying
for them. So I agree with you, but let me explain
why I think he did what he did. It sounds like
you made a strong argument to pay (although
it was a very poorly reasoned argumentfor
the cost of two movie tickets to equal the cost of
gas to get there, the theater would have had to
have been in a different state!). Men tend to
be pathologically eager to please on a first date,
so when a woman seems intent on splitting
the cost, some guys agree to it, not because
theyre cheapskates but because they think
thats truly what she wants. If you liked the
guy otherwise, give him another chance.
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ASK HIM
ANY THING

to watch me masturbate,
but I know I will feel
embarrassed. Why would
he want me to do that in
front of him?
A Uh, because its super hot.

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Q After we broke up,

LIGHTWEIGHT YET INTENSE.

my ex and I continued to
call each other every year
on our anniversary, to say
hello and catch up. This
year, I left a message, but
he never called me back.
I know hes still single, so
why the radio silence all
of a sudden?
A You know hes still single even
though hes not speaking to you? Im
not convinced, but lets just say he
doesnt have a serious girlfriend. He
could have just started dating
someone, which would probably
make that annual phone call a lot
less important to him. Or maybe he
just decided it was finally time to let
go of your old relationship, including the anniversary ritualan
excellent decision, if you ask me.
(And you did.) That doesnt mean
the two of you wont get back in
touch. It just means that youll no
longer focus on a relationship that
ended years ago.

Q Ive been living with


my boyfriend for about
two years now, and we
were dating for a few
years prior to that. I
assumed that moving in
together would result
in our taking things to the
next level in our relationship, but it hasnt.
Whats taking him so
long to pop the question?
A You thought that moving in
Hydrates deeply,
replenishes instantly.

together would take things to the


next level, but it actually eliminated
the need to take it to the next level
at least as far as your boyfriend is
concerned. Plenty of men (and
women) see no point to marriage if
all the things people typically associate with marriage are already
there: a stable long-term relation-

ship, shared responsibilities,


cohabitation, etc. You two have all
those things, so Im guessing he
sees no reason to throw a mindbendingly expensive party or buy a
pricey ring just to get a piece of
paper with your names on it. That
said, any committed couple should
be capable of discussing their life
goals with each other. You need
to clearly tell him you want to get
married and give him a general
time frame. Im guessing his
response will be something along
the lines of Why? So have your
answer ready.

Q My man and I have


been together for about a
year, and during that time,
I just havent been able to
vibe with his best friend.
I know it makes my
boyfriend uncomfortable,
but I cant imagine myself
ever seeing eye to eye
with his annoying friend.
How do I make things
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of your job or with family members
you tolerate so that Thanksgiving
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that you should take abuse from the
friend or you cant ever disagree
with him. But you can limit the
amount of time you spend around
him, and you can try to ignore the
dumber things he says or does. My
guess is that this guy is simply an
immature goofball whos sad that
his best friend isnt around as much
and who might be taking that out
on you. You sound like a caring
girlfriend, and once the friend
settles down and sees that you both
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SEX
ON
THE
FIRST
DATE
Along with not wearing white after Labor Day
(seriously?) and waiting for a guy to ask you out
(eff that), you can add Dont have sex on
a first date to the list of rules that are now
considered one hundred percent outdated.

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We used to think that falling into bed
with someone too soon would disqualify
you from being considered girlfriend
material. But welcome to 2013, when the
world is a lot less sexist than it used to be.
In this day and age, more people
recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not
something to be ashamed of, says Justin
Lehmiller, PhD, a social psychologist at
Harvard who studies relationships and
sexuality. For those people, its important to establish sexual compatibility
early on, and having sex on the first date
may be the right move for them.
Ultimately, getting nekkid with some
dude youve known for only 2.5 hours may
not be your thing, and thats fine too. The
point is that hard-and-fast dating rules
(like No sex till date three) and oldfashioned expressions like the vile Why
buy the cow when you can get the milk for
free? are antiquated and harmfulthey
produce all this unnecessary anxiety and
shame about something normal and natural: dating and sex. At Cosmo, were all
about breaking the rules, so when the new
book Its Okay to Sleep With Him on the
First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating,
Debunked landed on our desks, we were
inspired to launch our own investigation.

TOM HUSSEY/MICHAEL GINSBURG AND ASSOCIATES;


BLACK IMAGES/SHUTTERCOCK.

We polled almost 1,000 18- to


35-year-olds about their
attitudes on sex on the first date
and whether theyve actually
done it. And we gave the books
coauthor, Jeff Wilser, a
chance to break down his POV.

TRUST ME
MEN DONT JUDGE
YOU FOR HAVING
SEX ON A FIRST DATE.
You go on a date. Its fun. You hook upand
then he loses interest. Why did this happen?
Who knows: Maybe hes too picky, maybe he
doesnt feel a spark, maybe hes
commitmentphobic, or maybe hes just a
game-playing douche.
There is one variable, however, that
almost never feeds into the equation:
whether you gave it up too soon. Its a
misconception that is held by millions

(spoiler alert: Cosmos poll found


that 83 percent of women believe
men think less of a woman who has
sex on the first date), but the truth is,
most guys just dont think like that (67
percent of guys polled say they
absolutely dont). Men are simple
creatures. In the history of planet
Earth, no guy has ever said, Shes
awesome. Shes intelligent. Shes sexy,
and shes into Game of Thrones. Theres
only one problem.We hooked up on
the first date.
If the moment feels right, and
theres chemistry, why not sleep
together? says my friend Teddy,
a designer, who has the guts to say
what most guys really think. When he
was 23 and living in Austin, Texas,
a female bartender thought he was cute
and asked him out. On their first date,
they slammed tequila shots, danced to
Patsy Cline, hailed a cab, made out in
the back seat, and then stumbled into
her apartment to do what single people
do. Did Teddy think that she wasnt
girlfriend material? The question
strikes him as ridiculous. After a first
date hookup, all I think about is
whether I like her, whether shes smart
and funny, and if I want to see her
again. He did. They dated exclusively
for a few months, and no, while it didnt
end in a wedding (most relationships
dont), their breakup had nothing to do
with the boozy romp.
If theres chemistry, theres
chemistry, and from the guys
perspective, it doesnt really matter
if we hook up on date one or date
seven. I dont say this lightly. I just
cowrote a dating book about it. As part
of our research, my cowriter
(relationship expert Andrea Syrtash)
and I heard hundreds of men say the
same thing again and again: Men are
unfazed by first-date booty.
Lets look at Exhibit B. A few years
ago, Phil from Chicago (then 36 and an
exec at a chocolate company) visited
some friends in Toronto. He hit it off
with a woman named Rica, who
decided to seduce him. I just wanted to
get laid, Rica told me, laughing. I had
bought a new $5,000 bed, and I wanted
to break it in.
The conventional wisdom would
say that Rica made a mistake. Acted
too aggressively. Misplayed the game.

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COSMOS
POLL
RESULTS
Have you
ever had sex on
a first date?

YES 38.6%
NO 61.4%
YES 44.4%
NO 55.6%

Have you ever


had sex on a first
dateand then
had that date
turn into a
relationship?

YES 27.8%
NO 13.9%
Ive never
had sex on a
first date

58.3%
YES 36.8%
NO 13.2%
Ive never
had sex on a
first date

50%

Have you ever


wanted to have
sex with a guy
on the first date
(or with a guy
you met out) but
held off because
you liked him
and didnt want
him to get the
wrong idea
about you?

YES 63.5%
NO 36.5%

Do you know any


couples who
started out by
having sex on a
first date?

YES 44.5%
NO 55.5%
YES 58.6%
NO 41.4%

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In your current or
most recent
relationship, if
you waited
several months to
have sex, why did
you wait?
I worried that if I had sex too soon, I wouldnt be
thought of as relationship material.

28.2%

21.7%

Im just not comfortable sleeping


with someone I dont know that well.

39.2%

26.1%

I wont sleep with anyone


until weve had the exclusivity talk.

13.2%

6.5%

The other person wanted to wait (I was ready).

7.0%

37%
Religious reasons

12.5%

8.7%

WHAT DID COSMOS POLL AND JEFFS


RESEARCH FIND? IT DOESNT
MATTER WHEN YOU SLEEP WITH HIM!

YES

NO

NO

SOMETIMES
THIS
HAPPENS

SOMETIMES
THIS
HAPPENS

YES

Will this lead to a serious relationship?

SOMETIMES
THIS
HAPPENS

SOMETIMES
THIS
HAPPENS

guy who sleeps around is a stud


and a woman who sleeps around is a
slut. Its ugly, unfair, and openly
sexist. And would you really want to
date that kind of hypocrite anyway?)
When researching the book, we
found that many women decided to
wait for their own reasons. If you
know that sleeping with someone
wont bring out your best or will
make you needy, its a good idea to
wait, says Andrea Syrtash, my
cowriter on the book. However,
dont wait because you think the
guy will lose respect or interest.
Wait because of how it will affect
you. Its really not about him. Guys
who are interested in you will still
call and pursue you after theyve
seen you naked.
Confession time: Its also possible that we wont call after a firstnight hookup. This happens. Ive
had dates where I was only kindasorta feeling it, then we drank a
round of margaritas, then another
round, and soon were making out
and hooking up. (Stay classy, Jeff!)
Then the next morning, were sober.
The spark is gone, and date two
never happens. The fallacy, though,
is thinking that date two would
have happened if we had skipped
the nooky. Thats misidentifying
the root cause. If the man and the
woman are a match, it doesnt
really matter when they hook up.
Corollary: If theyre not a match, it
also doesnt really matter. (See the
handy matrix, at left.)
As for Phil and Rica? Eventually
he moved to Toronto to live with her.
They traveled to England as a
couple, toured the countryside, and
even stayed in a stone castlewhere
he took out a diamond ring and
popped the question. She said yes!

Ladies, do you think most men


think less of a woman who has
sex on the first date?

YES 82.6%

NO 17.4%

Guys, do you think less


of a woman who has sex
on the first date?

YES 32.8

NO 67.2%

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Jeff Wilser is the


New Yorkbased
coauthor of Its
Okay to Sleep
With Him on the
First Date: And
Every Other Rule
of Dating,
Debunked.

BLACK IMAGES/SHUTTERSTOCK.

COSMOS
POLL
RESULTS

Do you hook up on the first date?

The almighty judges who make The


Rules would be shocked
shocked!to learn that when the
back of Ricas dress tore open, she
turned to Phil and said, Well, I
guess youre going to have to keep
your hand on my ass all night. Phil
told the conventional wisdom to go
to hell. It wasnt a red flag. It was
super hot and sexy. And then, the
next morning, it was so much more
intimate. We got to know each other,
and we found that we had so much
in common. They broke every rule.
They christened Ricas bed, spent
the weekend together, held hands at
the coffee shop, and when Phil
returned home to Chicago, It felt
magical, like we were already
boyfriend and girlfriend.
How about Phils buddies? Did
they snicker, disapprove, and warn
that shes only booty-call material?
Thats not how we operate. My
friends just told me, You lucky
devil! Phil e-mailed Rica to say that
if she came to visit, he would make
her an elaborate six-course dinner
of scallops, monkfish, and lime
sorbet. She hopped a flight to
Chicago, he cooked, and they
started dating long-distance.
Okay. Its time for a key clarification. Im not saying that you should
hook up on the first date. Im not
arguing that it will boost your odds
of finding love. That logic is nutty,
and I have no idea if it makes sense
from your perspective. Maybe it does,
maybe it doesnt, and there are 357
valid reasons to wait, including: If
you think the guys acting sketchy, if
you have religious or moral reasons,
if he uses the expression YOLO, if you
want to ratchet up the delayed gratification, if his texts include ROFL, if
he enjoyed Fifty Shades of Grey, if
youre a virgin, if you have an STD.
(Obvious? Id hope so. But my lawyer
is forcing me to type these disclaimers at gunpoint.) All Im saying is
that if you want to hook up, were
not going to think less of you. You
shouldnt feel guilty. You
shouldnt feel ashamed.
(A final disclaimer: This is true
for most guysnot every guy. The
roots of this double-standard go
back to the twisted mind-set that a

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Weve got your summer reading list right here.
What to wear, who to clique with, how to
bag that hottie from across the room, and yes,
how to get ahead in lifeCosmo goes to college.
YOUR SOCIAL
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They say that
college is the best time of
your life. Heres how to make the most of
these years while youre living them, so
someday when youre out with your old
roomies, youll remember that time when.

Have Your

Buddying Up

In Class

At a Party

People tend to sit in the same


spotthere are back-row, middle-,
and front-row types. Whichever
one you are, gravitate toward your
peeps, and introduce yourself
to your seatmates. One first-day
exchange can lead to a BFF by the
end of the semester.

When you see someone you think


looks cool, compliment her outfit. It
is a good opening line and will get
her talking about where she got it,
etc.people like talking about
themselves, so you cant go wrong.

Suggest hanging out sometime.


Tell her to Facebook you, and offer
to do the same. Odds are, youll
discover you have mutual friends.
If youre in a large class where its
intimidating to approach the
professor, ask students around you
if theyre going to office hours. If so,
make plans to go together, and grab
a coffee afterward.

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Bring up the music thats playing. Is


it good, overplayed, awful? Whether
or not you share musical tastes,
youll learn something about the
person youre chatting with.
Work the room! Try to make more
than one friend at a party. Its no fun
being a hanger-on.
Take photos, Instagram them, and
share your handle: insta-friendship!
CAROLINE HEARST

HOW NOT TO PICK UP A GUY

Do not mention youve kept an eye out for him on


campus or youve Facebook-stalked him. He doesnt
need to know youre an internet man-finding pro.

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5 Genius Study Tips


Straight From College
Students
1. Put all exam dates and due dates for
papers in your calendar the first week of
school, so you never have that doh!
moment the night before a big test.
2. At the beginning of the semester, scout
out your secret study spot. Libraries are
often packed, so find a different place
where you wont be tempted to socialize.
3. Be social before class, and spot the
students who seem to get it. Suggest a
Facebook group for homework help, or
organize and host a study session.
4. Use apps like Notability to record
lectures, and download SelfControl, an
app that blocks websites like Tumblr and
BuzzFeed while youre studying.
5. Take advantage of your professors
office hours, and e-mail them with any
questions. Putting in the extra effort
could pay off come final-grade time.

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Making new friends was so easy as a kidit was all about who was in your
kindergarten class or neighborhood. In college, your options are vast,
which can be intimidating. Just remember: Theres no shame in approaching
someonechances are, he or she wants you to! So go ahead and
make the first move. How? Two letters, one word: Hi. Lets get started.

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Best Year Ever


3 Easy Ways to Avoid the Freshman 15
#RealTalk: On average, most students gain only about 5 pounds.
But still, they can be avoided. Heres how.

1. Follow the 90:10 ruleif you make smart food choices 90 percent of
the time, you can indulge yourself the other 10 percent of the time.
2. Use the MyFitnessPal app to check the nutrition info of the food in the
caf before you decide what to have for dinner (myfitnesspal.com).
3. At the caf, when your friends head back for seconds (or thirds!),
instead of following their lead, fill a mug with warm tea to keep your
mouth busy. JUDY SUTTON TAYLOR
SENIOR FLASHBACK

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SUCCESS TIP
from Sheryl Sandberg, author of Lean In

One of the messages


of Lean In is that if
you reach for an
opportunity, youll be
surprised how much
youll learn or how well
it will go, and in either
case, youre better off.
SENIOR FLASHBACK

Explore all the different


majors that interest you
before settling into one. I
wish I would have been
more open earlier instead
of being dedicated to one I
really didnt like and being
afraid to switch until
halfway through college.
Courtney, Berklee College of Music

Instead of dating my high


school BF long-distance, I
wish Id given myself a
chance to be single and do
my own thing at college.

COSMO

Pre-Game Tips
Dont be that girl who gets sloppy
drunk before she even makes it out at
night. Avoid drinking straight vodka, and
drink water between alcoholic
beverages to slow your pace. And when
you dont feel like drinking? Just fill a
solo cup with club sodano one
will even realize you
arent partying.

Michelle, Ramapo College of New Jersey

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[ THE DAY AFTER ]

Dorm-Room Bathrooms
You still have to do your business even when the
restrooms have been through a Saturday night.
Check out these smart ways to overcome.
BEFRIEND THE FRONT DESK workers so they
might let you use the employee bathroom.
MAKE A MENTAL NOTE of where the quieter
halls are. Use those bathrooms on Sundays.
USE PAPER TOWELS to turn on and off the
faucet and to open and close doors, especially at
the end of the weekend, when guests you dont
know have also been using the bathrooms.
LAY YOUR TOOTHBRUSH on a paper towel.
USE HAND SANITIZER to kill any germs you
may have picked up.
LET AN RA KNOW if someones thrown up in the
bathroom. Its their job to call facilities if any major
cleanup is needed.

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As a freshman, the idea


of studying abroad scared
me. It wasnt until late into
my senior year that I
realized I loved to travel
and I should have made
time to study overseas.
Alissa, Monmouth University

COLLEGE-LIFE TIP

Make friends with


someone with a car, but
be sure to always give
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10 Sexy Things to Do
Before You Graduate

You have four years to flirt, date, and hook up.


We just so happen to have some ideas on how to make the best of them.

1. GYM PICK-UP Bring two water bottles

72%

with you. Chase after a sexy lughead when he


exits: Excuse me! You left your water on the
treadmill. Oh, you didnt? I still think Im owed a
coffee for the Good Samaritan attempt.

of Harvard
freshmen entered
their freshman
year as virgins.

2.I hooked up in the


campus bell tower.
You have to squeeze
through a gate to get
in, but where theres a
will, theres a way.

Harvard Crimson survey


of 2013 grads

9.

WORK IT at the library. Dress cute for


that all-nighterall those study breaks are
great mingling opportunities. Also show up
with two lattes in hand, and offer one to a cute
guy buried behind his laptop: I was supposed
to meet my friend, but she bailed. Want this?
Caffeine is the currency of la biblioteca.

Lisa N., 20

3. FLUFF AND FOLD in the laundry


room instead of back in your room. Or show up
before the time is up on the dryer. If a cute guy
walks in, small talk will happen organically.

10.My freshman year,

Isabel E., 20

5. BRING A FRISBEE to toss around


with your friends on the quad. Accidentally
throw it at some hot guys so they have to send
it back your way and join in. Just dont break
your targets nosethat would be awkward.

COSMO
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Choose protection that
works for you before youre in a
hookup situation. Check out
Bedsider.org for birth-control
comparisons and where to get
them (sometimes for free)
based on your
zip code.

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6.I hooked up
with my TA in the
classroom. Lauren N., 21

I dated a film major, and


we snuck into the filmediting office. Only film
majors had access to it, so
we had privacy. Ally S., 22

7. USE A PERSONAL DAY as an


excuse to Facebook message the J.Crew model
lookalike in your psychology class to ask what
you missed. (It also reminds him that you exist,
you have great hair, and he should friend you.)

8.We were hooking up in


the ceramics building, then
Officer Wendy from Public Safety
caught us. I had to run out with
my clothes stuffed in my jacket.

the COLLEGE
DICTIONARY
dormcest n : A sexual relationship with
a guy who lives on your dorm floor.
the turkey dump n : T he a n nua l
affair when freshmen go home for
Thanksgiving and end their high school
relationships.
sexiled adj : When your roommate
kicks you out so she can sleep with her
boyfriend in your shared room.
shackbag n : A purse that contains
essentials for spending the night with a
guy who is generally not your boyfriend.
May include some or all the following:
toothbrush, bronzer, eye concealer,
fresh underwear, condom.

Jamie S., 19

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4.Inside the field-hockey


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regular spot for me and my
boyfriend. We never got caught
thereexcept one time there was
another couple in the other net at
the opposite end of the field!

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3 Ikat decorative pillow, INC Internationall
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PLAN. Talk with your roommates about
whos coming, so you can all get a ballpark
number of guests.
CLEAR THE WAY. Get personal stuff out of
sight (tampons, dirty laundry, etc.). Stash
anything breakable or valuableyou dont
want your pearls to walk away.
MAKE IT EXTRA FUN. Whip up a signature
cocktail (named after yourself, of course!),
e!),
pass out mustaches, funny sunglasses, orr
even name tags with ridiculous nicknames.
s.
CROWD CONTROL. Make up a password soo
you open the door only for those invited (and
nd
youll know if its an RA). Pick a line from
your fave movie, or get creative.
BE IN CHARGE. Its your room, so keep an
eye out so things dont get out of hand. And
lock your door behind you on the way out!

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9 Lamp, Happy Chic by Jonathan


Adler, $125, jcp.com

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E.l.f. All Over Color in


Permission, $1,
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THINK PINK
Rosy lipstick:
Pretty yet
professional.
Revlon ColorStay
Ultimate Suede
Lipstick in High Heels,
$9.99, drugstores

HIT SNOOZE!
Buy yourself an
extra 10 with dry
shampoo.
Tresemm Fresh Start
Color Care Dry Shampoo,
$4.79, drugstores

Sweater
eate Joe Fresh, $29, joefresh.com Shirt Ann Taylor, $68,
anntaylor.com Jeans Bebe, $119, bebe.com Glasses Betsey
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emporioarmani.com Bag Missguided, $33.49, missguidedus.com
Shoes VC Signature, $225, vincecamuto.com

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Jacket Ann Taylor, $168, anntaylor.com Shirt MNG


by Mango, $30, jcp.com Skirt Rebecca Minkoff, $298, Rebecca
Minkoff, NY, 212-677-7829 Headband L. Erickson, $32,
franceluxe.com Bag BCBG Max Azria, $398, bcbg.com Shoes
French Connection, $150, Lord and Taylor

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Sephora Collection
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a go-to outfit and get yourself out the door.

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Youll be ready for anything with these key pieces.


Bad-hairday cap
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Bright
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DL 1961, $268,
dl1961.com

Sexy goingout fragrance


Juicy Couture
Viva La Juicy
Noir, $70,
Macys

POWDER UP!
Massage this
powder into roots
for major volume.
Gt2b Powderful, $5.99,
drugstores

Fashion
backpack
Marc by Marc
Jacobs, $88,
Nordstrom

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LBD
Cameo The Label,
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Kajal liner is
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creating a sexy,
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Baseball
jacket

VS Makeup Kajal Liner,


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Two by Vince
Camuto,
$199, vince
camuto.com

Face wipes
BB cream
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SPF!)
Maybelline
Dream Fresh
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$8.99,
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Dress Parker, $264, parkern


parkerny.com Necklace BCBGeneration, $58,
bcbgeneration.com Bag Rebecca Minkoff, $175,
rebeccaminkoff.com Shoes MLE, $189, miashoes.com

Chic
high-tops
Nike, $130,
nike.com

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Facial
Towelettes,
$5.99, Target

Yoga
mat spray
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your sheets!)
Buddha Nose
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College is the perfect time to take a few
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Fact: Nothing makes you look pulled


together faster.

2 Hairstyles THAT MAKE A STATEMENT

Rimmel London Moisture Renew Lip Colour SPF 18 in


Back to Fuchsia, $6.79, drugstores

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Hilary Duff
Michelle
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THE SEXY PIXIE


The new tomboy
cuts are so much
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stylist for faceframing pieces,
and dont let him
or her anywhere
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THE TAILORED SWEATPANT

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So comfy, youll live in them. A rolled bottom


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that give you that piecey, lived-in look.

DKNY Jeans, $69.50, Macys

Rusk Being Rubber Gum, $14, Ulta

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Whether its black,


platinum, or really
red, monochromatic
hair color makes a
major statement.
Keep it vibrant with a
color-protective
product (below).

NO-MAKEUP MAKEUP

Ciara

It takes only two products to


look polished: foundation
and black mascara. (Use two
coats for maximum impact.)
CoverGirl Whipped Creme Foundation, $6.99,
drugstores; LOral Paris Telescopic Shocking
Extensions Mascara, $9.99, drugstores

Upgrade your
plain black
sweater with a
sequined eyeof-the-tiger
motif.
goJane, $63.50,
gojane.com

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Black-eyeliner addicts, this cute crayon
brings the drama but looks so much subtler.
Clinique Chubby Stick Shadow Tint for Eyes, $16, clinique.com

Ashlee Simpson

THE FRENCH-FRAME MANI


A basic neutral looks cutting-edge
cool outlined in black. This pen
makes it easy.
Sally Hansen Nail Art Pen, $7.95,
drugstores

Ali Larter

Riley Keough
LOral Paris Advanced
Haircare Color Vibrancy
Dual Protect Spray,
$6.99, drugstores

HIGH-WAISTED JEAN

Zo Saldana

Switch up your
skinnies with the
latest retro-flavored
cut. For the most
flattering line, wear a
heel or wedge, and
tuck in your top.
Levis, $58, levi.com

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WHAT ITT IS Skullcandy Hesh 2


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and
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$52.95, skullcandy.com
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CHEGG Find the best prices
for new and used textbooks,
and sell back your books at the
end of the semester. chegg.com

GLYMPSE If youre walking across


campus alone, show someone
your exact location through your
phone. glympse.com
SCOUT MOB Get cash-saving
coupons, and find out about
great deals nearby. Free java?
Score! scoutmob.com
HIPMUNK Find flights based on
price or date, and get travel tips
from the cute mascot while you
wait for info. hipmunk.com

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WHAT IT IS

Dyson DC44
Animal
Vacuum
WHAT IT IS iPad Mini
WHY YOU WANT IT Go (lap)topless to class
with your iPad miniits lighter than a book
and not only can you take notes on it, you can
check Facebook as well. $329, apple.com

WHAT IT IS

WHY YOU WANT IT


Its super lightweight,
and itll fit under
your bed. Nobody
wants to clean,
but trust us, youre
going to use this.
$399.99, dyson.com

Logitech Ultrathin
Keyboard Cover
for iPad Mini
WHY YOU WANT IT
This 2-in-1 case and
keyboard for your iPad
mini is rechargeable and
comes in cool colors like
purple. $79.99, logitech.com

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DARKSKY Before trekking to class


without an umbrella, check the
up-to-the-minute forecast.
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Membership dues. Supersize textbooks. And yes, snacks! Use these


seven tips so you never find yourself with a zero balance. BY CYBELE WEISSER

Pick one thing to buy with a credit


card. You do need to establish a credit
history, so get a card with no annual fee
and use it to cover a single, regular
expense, such as your cell phone,
so you know you can always
pay off the bill in full. Search
for options at Nerd
Wallet.com.

Track Your Spending

Ditch the Wheels

Writing down your expenses every day can be a


drag. Instead, download the free app from Mint
.comit will send you a text message if your
checking account falls below a certain amount.

Students spend an average of $75 on gas per


month, and campus parking can cost up to
$500 a semester. So even if you love your car,
try to live without it and youll save boatloads.

Pay Attention to
Your Patterns

Rent Your Books

Go on a Debit Diet
Swiping plastic is painless, and when youre
out at night, after a few drinks, its a slippery
spending slope. So go out with a specific
amount of cash to limit your spending automatically (just keep enough for a cab ride home).

The average student spends about $600


a year on textbooks, but sites like Bookrenter
.com offer books for 60 to 80 percent off,
including shipping.

Get a Job Off-Campus


On-campus jobs are convenient but often
pay only minimum wage. To up your take, get
a job that uses skills related to your major.
Majoring in business? Local banks
sometimes hire part-time tellers. Good at
jewelry making? A college side project
can turn into a real business.

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Buying chips and candy at the local convenience store every afternoon? Go to Sams
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sacrifice. Or get a gig working at a caf that will
let you take home baked goods galore.

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AUGUST
From left to right:
Fro

ON ALYSSA Cardigan,
Timo Weiland, $195;
Tim
tank top, Necessary
tan
Clothing, $16.99; jeans,
Clo
Old Navy, $34.50;
boots, Tory Burch, $495;
boo
sunglasses, Westward
Leaning, $180
ON ALEX Jacket,
Bess; T-shirt, Denim and
Supply Ralph Lauren,
$49.50; shorts, Paige
Denim, $169

SEE PAGE 234 FOR SHOPPING INFORMATION.

ON SALLY Jacket, Maje,


$515; T-shirt, Roxy,
$32.50; jeans, Vigoss,
$58; boots, Marc by
Marc Jacobs, $398; belt,
Kelly Wearstler, $375

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ON SHALINI Vest, H&M, $29.95;


top, White House Black Market,
$78; jeans, I Jeans by Buffalo,
$35; boots, DKNY, $395
ON ALEX Sweater, J.Crew, $498;
jeans, Riders by Lee Indigo,
$26.99; boots, DKNY, $375; sunglasses, Emporio Armani, $160
ON ALEXANDRA Jacket,
Jonathan Simkhai, $470;
T-shirt, Junk Food Clothing,
$38; jeans, Joes, $210; shoes,
Express, $59.90
ON ALYSSA T-Shirt, Lovers
and Friends, $48; shirt, Miss
Me, $64; pants, Paige Denim,
$239; boots, Elizabeth and
James, $475; iPhone case,
Rebecca Minkoff, $35
ON SALLY Top, Sandro, $425;
jeans, Calvin Klein Jeans,
$79.50; shoes, Kate Spade
New York, $328; sunglasses,
Emporio Armani, $160
ON LAUREN Sweater, Dakota
Collective, $105; jeans, Cult
of Individuality, $109; boots,
Kate Spade New York, $328;
necklace, Mawi
ON KARA Sweatshirt, Bongo,
$18; jeans, Roxy, $59.90;
boots, Tommy Hilfiger, $139;
backpack, Bess, $240;
necklace, Material Girl, $18

RULE
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Alex, 20
Atlanta, GA

Chemistry Major
Dream Job I want to work in
research and development for a
cosmetics company. Id love to have
my own beauty line one day.

SHELF LIFE

ON ALEX Sweater, MM Couture, $78; shirt, Express, $39.90

STUDY BUDDIES

ON ALYSSA Top, Ostwald Helgason, $540; skirt, Camilla and Marc, $360; shoes, Tory Burch, $425;
watch, Tissot Swiss Watches, $595; bracelet, Charming Charlie, $10
ON SALLY Jacket, Charlotte Ronson, $395; top, Aropostale, $8; jeans, BlankNYC, $88; shoes, Tommy Hilfiger, $129

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Chevy Chase, MD

History and
Art History Major
Dream Job Lord of the Rings tour
guide in New Zealand. I am a huge
fantasy nerd, and living in New Zealand
would be awesome.

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Jess, 18

Toronto, Ontario

Business-Marketing Major
Dream Job As a Division 1 trackand-eld athlete, I plan on using my
degree to become a marketing executive
for a major tness fashion brand.

Beauty Tip Before rocking those cutoffs, slather on a hydrating SPF like Banana Boat Protect
and Hydrate Sunscreen Lotion SPF 50, $10.50, to keep skin sexyand safe.

NOTHIN BUT NET

ON JESS Sweater, Kitsun Tee, $175; shirt, Joe Fresh (similar styles), $19; shorts, Levis, $78; shoes, Converse Chuck Taylor All Star, $50;
watch, Michele, $375; bracelet, Miansai by Michael Saiger, $68; left ring, Vita Fede, $200; right ring, Material Girl, $12

STEP IT UP

ON SALLY Dress, Ostwald Helgason; shoes, Tommy Hilfiger, $129 ON LAUREN Jacket, Miss Me, $99; shirt, XOXO, $49; skirt, Moschino;
boots, Rachel Zoe, $455 ON ALEX Dress, United Colors of Benetton, $119; boots, 10 Crosby Derek Lam, $450

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From left to right: ON ALEX Top, Joe Fresh, $19; skirt, Diane von Furstenberg, $245; boots, Alexs own
ON SALLY Shirt, H&M, $29.95; skirt, Vivienne Westwood Anglomania, $655; shoes, White House Black Market, $110
ON LAUREN Sweater, Ralph Lauren Blue Label, $198; skirt, Diane von Furstenberg, $275; shoes, Coach, $225

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ON SHALINI Shirt, White House Black Market, $74; skirt, Bebe, $109; shoes, Tommy Hilfiger, $69 ON ALEXANDRA
Shirt, Tommy Hilfiger, $99; skirt, Love Leather, $253; boots, Calvin Klein, $149 ON KARA Top, Erin by Erin Fetherston, $195; skirt, American Eagle Outfitters,
$39.95; shoes, J.Crew, $298 ON ALYSSA Top, Saint James, $70; skirt, Vivienne Westwood Anglomania, $380; shoes, Cole Haan, $198

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Lauren, 22
Kansas City, KS

Cell- and MolecularBiology Major


Best College Moment My rst
Mardi Gras! The New Orleans Saints
had just won the Super Bowl, so
the entire city was out on the streets
celebrating and catching beads.

Shalini, 21
Minneapolis, MN

Sociology and
Economics Major
Dream Job I want to be an
intelligence analyst for our country.
Postgraduation Plans Ideally, I would
love to travel, but Ill probably end up
in grad school for economics.

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Alyssa, 21
Pasadena, CA

Political-Economy Major
Dream Job To work for a think tank

or government agency, like the


Congressional Research Service,
as a policy analyst.
Wish Someone Had Told Me To take
classes outside my comfort zone.
Dont be scared to take classes that just
sound interesting!

ROLL CALL

ON ALYSSA T-Shirt, Lovers and Friends, $48; shirt, Miss Me, $64; pants, Paige Denim, $239; boots, Elizabeth and James,
$475; sunglasses, Prada, $290; iPhone case, Rebecca Minkoff, $35

SOCIAL STUDIES

ON SHALINI Dress, Charlotte Ronson, $350; boots, 10 Crosby Derek Lam, $395; watch, Michele, $745; bracelet,
Elizabeth Cole Jewelry, $75 ON LAUREN Jacket, Buffalo David Bitton, $128; T-shirt, Lovers and Friends, $48; pants,
Nanette Lepore, $298; boots, Diane von Furstenberg, $398

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Alexandra, 19
Los Angeles, CA

Neuroscience Major
Dream Job I would
love to be a dermatologist or
a genetics counselor.

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Kara, 19
Monroe, LA

Legal Studies in
Business Major

HAIR: REBECCA PLYMATE FOR LENORE GREYL AT ART-DEPT. MAKEUP: TRACY MURPHY FOR KOHGENDO AT JED ROOT, INC.
MANICURE: SHELLY BAKER AT BELLADONNA DAY SPA. PROP STYLIST: JEFF HINDS. PRODUCTION: LISA LATTER LOCATIONS. SEE
PAGE 234 FOR SHOPPING INFORMATION.

Postgraduation Plans I want to


attend law school and work toward
starting my own business.

Beauty Tip For a showstopping look, pair scarlet lips (try Este Lauder Pure Color Vivid Shine Lipstick in Fireball, $25)
with a matching mani (we love Este Lauder Pure Color Nail Lacquer in Pure Red, $20).

DRAMA QUEEN

ON KARA Shirt, Cameo the Label, $139; T-shirt, Necessary Clothing, $17.99; pants, Banana Republic, $89.50; boots, Rachel Zoe, $455

ART AND SOUL

ON ALEXANDRA Jacket, BCBG Max Azria, $448; shirt, Merona for Target, $22.99; jeans, Alice and Olivia by Stacey Bendet, $220; boots, Elizabeth
and James, $425; top bracelet, Mawi, $632; middle bracelet, Lulu Avenue Designs by Jude Frances, $49; bottom bracelet, H&M, $7.95

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FRINGE

We thought technicolor
mascara was cool.
All hail le blanc lashes!
1. Apply two coats of white
mascara or lash primer to
lower lashes only, says
makeup artist Christian
McCulloch, who created
these looks.
2. Balance out the look by
lining and coating upper
lashes in black (bronze
shadow optional).
Bikini top, Bordelle, $215;
skirt, XOXO, $59; bag, Sara
Battaglia; earrings, Charming
Charlie, $8; ring, Jennifer
Fisher, $175; hoop earrings
worn throughout, model's own

SUMMER
WHITES

Throw up the flag and


surrender! Worn on eyes,
nails, and in hair, this usually
quiet shade gets loud.
BY LONI ALBERT
PHOTOGRAPHED BY JAMES MACARI
FASHION EDITOR: CHARLES MANNING

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The High

LINE

Fresh, graphic, and


totally unexpected
meet the double-wing.
1. Here, McCulloch lined
upper lashes with white
pencil (see his pick on page
199), extending the line just
beyond outer corners with a
slight upward flick.
2. For the second wing,
trace directly above the
first line, stopping just short
of its outer edge.
Top, Express, $59.90; bra,
Gap, $39.50

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White lacquer with


metallic details make
for a major mani.
Start with two coats of
snow-white polish (on
our models: Zoya Nail Polish
in Purity, $8), layering a
matte top coat between
each to minimize streaking.
Our (very patient!) nail pro,
Julie Kandalec, applied a
lineup of metal spikes (a
craft-store staple) to each
nail. But one or two accent
nails look cool too. Press
spikes into damp polish with
a tweezer.
Using a metallic Sharpie,
draw French tips, half
moons, stripes, whatever!
Mess up? Alcohol removes
the marker, not the base.
(Opposite page) Top,
Love Leather, $330; gloves,
LaCrasia Gloves, $150
(This page) Top, Topshop, $42;
bracelet, Joomi Lim, $106;
ring, Vita Fede, $175

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Triple

PLATINUM
Pale-white blondes are
totally trending.
(White specs too!)
1. An icy allover hue takes
serious upkeep, says stylist
Zaiya Latt. Plan on seeing
your colorist monthlyand,
in between, dousing strands
with a violet shampoo (try
Clairol Shimmer Lights,
$6.09) to prevent brassiness.
2. For a lower-maintenance
take on the trend, ask your
pro to paint on cool, silvertoned streaks instead.
Top, Joe's, $265; bikini bottom,
Giejo, $98; glasses, Prada, $300

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SKIN

Fake sky-high cheekbones with pearl


highlighter. It looks
amazing on deep skin
tones and faux tans.
1. Swipe illuminating
cream high along the
ridges of your cheekbones,
from the apples of your
cheeks to your temples.
2. Top with shimmery
powder (a flat fan brush
deposits the perfect
amount, says McCulloch).
Want extra drama?
Smudge shimmery white
liner on the inner corners
of your eyes.
Top, Wildfox, $78

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UPDO

Pair a messy topknot


with a white leather
headband for a fast, flirty
summer style.
1. Mist day-old strands with
dry shampoo for texture. (Try
Tresemm Fresh Start, $5.)
2. Gather hair at the top
of your head, and twist it into
an imperfect bun, pinning
it in place, says Latt. Slide
the band an inch behind
your hairline.
Jacket, Fidelity, $198;
bodysuit, NOE Undergarments,
$255; headband, Jennifer
Behr, $98
HAIR: Zaiya Latt for Bryan
Bantry Agency. MAKEUP:
Christian McCulloch for Dolce
& Gabbana at Tracey Mattingly.
MANICURE: Julie Kandalec
for Chanel Beaut. MODELS:
Nadine Leopold/IMG; Amira/
New York Model Management.
See page 234 for shopping
information.

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Blanc Beauty Essentials

1. Dolce & Gabbana Crayon Intense Eyeliner in


White, $30 2. CoverGirl Outlast Stay Brilliant
Nail Gloss in Snow Storm 110, $5.49 3. Dolce &
Gabbana Intense Nail Colour in True White, $20
4. Sally Hansen Xtreme Wear Nail Color in White
On, $3 5. Lancme Cils Booster XL, $24
6. Diorshow Mono Eye Shadow in Swan, $29
7. Maybelline New York Color Tattoo 24-Hour
Cream Gel Shadow in Too Cool, $7 8. Bobbi
Brown Shimmer Wash Eye Shadow in Snow, $22

WHITEHOT

Everything you need


to work these
anything-but-basic
trends

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Tune
in to Wake Up
With Taylor!

on Cosmo Radio (SiriusXM


Channel 108) on August 1
at 8 a.m. ET to
discuss other must-dos
to make your
summer perfect.

EATonFRESH
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CHEAP

To get more out of the farmers market,


ask a farmer: Pam Clarke Torres of
Prospect Hill Orchards, in New York,
tells how to afford the great stuff at the
green market this month.

Stock Up on Stuff
That Lasts

The softer the item, the faster it spoils,


says Clarke Torres. Buy only a few
peaches and berries and more of heartier
foods, like apples and carrots.

Do a Lap Before
Buying

PASCAL SHIRLEY

Every farmer sets her own prices,


so its worth comparison shopping. You
might get a two-for-one deal.

Look for Sneaky


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Afternoon shoppers are rewarded:


Many vendors slash prices when theyre
ready to pack up shop. Farmers may also
sell less-than-perfect items at a discount.
(Overripe plums are still delicious.)

Farmstand (free, iTunes)


gives you real-time info
about deals, discounts,
and special events.

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200
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Thats how much less you eat


on days when you have a highprotein breakfast, a new study
found. You could even crave less
junk food! Try a breakfast burrito
with turkey sausage and veggies.

SOURCES: NUTRITIONIST DAWN JACKSON BLATNER, RD, AUTHOR OF THE FLEXITARIAN DIET; HEATHER LEIDY, ASSISTANT PROFESSOR IN THE DEPARTMENT OF NUTRITION AND EXERCISE PHYSIOLOGY AT THE UNIVERSITY OF MISSOURI

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SONGS
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OUR

Save the Band of Horses


for your commute, not your
workout. When joggers
listen to up-tempo rhythms,
they begin running more
quickly to keep up with the
beat, according to a new
study in the Journal of
Applied Physiology. The
researchers say the best
music to run to has 150 to
170 beats per minute. Use
the Cruise Control app
($4.99 for iPhone) to adjust
your music to help you
meet your target pace, or
steal our playlist.

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Beach volleyball,
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Ouch, you twisted it. If its


so bad youre limping, see
a doc. Otherwise, get ice
on your ankle, elevate it
often, and wrap it with an
elastic bandage. Repeat
each day.

SOURCE: DEPARTMENT OF PSYCHOLOGY AT THE UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA AT BERKELEY

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Continue to avoid running and other cardio.


Minor sprains heal in
about seven days; more
severe ones take two
weeks. Youre better
when you can make
pain-free air circles with
your foot.

DAY 15 & ON

Repeat sprains are really


common, but simple
balance exercises can
help you avoid them. At
least three times a week,
stand on one foot for 30
seconds; repeat on your
other foot. (Close your
eyes to make it harder.)
SOURCE: TRICIA HUBBARD, PHD,
PROGRAM DIRECTOR FOR ATHLETIC
TRAINING, UNIVERSITY OF NORTH
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Show
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You might never strut your stuff on a


stage in lingerie like a Victorias Secret
model. But its nice to know you could.
MEET YOUR TRAINER

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1 Lie on your back with each arm extended away from your body at
about a 45-degree angle, touching only your fingers (not palms) to the
floor. Bend your left leg, and position your foot just above your right
knee. 2 Keeping your right leg straight, lift your upper and lower body
together to make a V shape, fingertips touching the floor. Return to
start position, and repeat for 30 seconds. Rest for 30 seconds, and
repeat for 30 seconds with other leg. Do two or three sets.

TILTED
TWIST
1 Sit on the floor with
legs extended straight
in front of you. Make
fists, then raise your
arms to shoulderheight. Bend your
elbows to touch fists,
and lower your torso
about 45 degrees.
2 Twist your chest and
arms to the right (dont
shift your torso or
head). Repeat to the
left. Continue,
alternating sides, for
30 seconds. Do two
or three sets.

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1 Lie on your left side,


legs stacked, right hand
behind your lower back.
Extend your left arm,
touching your fingers to
the floor. 2 Keeping your
right leg straight, raise it
a few feet. 3 Lift up
your left leg to meet your
right while raising your
upper body to form a V.
Return to start position.
Repeat for 30 seconds,
then flip over and repeat
for 30 more seconds. Do
two or three sets.

The #1
Cardio
for Your
Abs

Most cardio works


your legs, but
Olajide takes a
different approach:
He has his Angels
jump rope to
strengthen their
core and arm muscles. Jumping rope
is also the quickest
way to melt fat to
reveal your newly
toned abs. Do it for
three minutes and
you burn as many
calories as you
would in nine
minutes of jogging!
Olajide offers a few
technique tweaks
to get the most
from your rope..

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FIND THE
RIGHT ROPE
You need one thatss
long enough. How to
tell: Stand with your
ur
t,
feet hip-width apart,
and center the rope
e
under your feet. The
handles should come
up to your armpits.

ADJUST
YOUR ARMS

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Keep your arms bent


with your elbows at hip
height, close to your
body. Flick your wrists
to swing the rope
instead of moving your
arms in wide circles.

JUMP SOFTLY
Stay on the balls of
your feet, and only
jump an inch off the
ground as the rope
skims the ground. And
try not to take an extra
hop between jumps
it puts unnecessary
stress on your joints.

NAMASTE CRUNCH
1 Lie with your entire body touching the floor. Extend your arms overhead, palms facing each other. 2 Swing arms to your sides, and
begin lifting your upper body. 3 Make a 45-degree angle with the
floor, while swinging arms up so your fingers point to the ceiling.
Keep arms straight and in line with your back. Return to start position.
Repeat for 90 seconds, then rest for 60 seconds. Do two or three sets.

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Oral Sex
Does That?

SOURCE: CENTERS FOR DISEASE CONTROL AND PREVENTION; JOURNAL OF


CLINICAL ONCOLOGY

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You should see a state


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If bad news is breaking, you can probably find
Marina Vorobyev glued to her television. Last
year, it was Hurricane Sandy that fixated the
28-year-old event coordinator from Morganville,
New Jersey. Im Russian, so I was obsessed
with what was happening in the Russian neighborhoods on Coney Island during Sandy, she
recalls. I was eating up the news. I kept thinking, What if it were my grandmother? Then,
this spring, she couldnt tear herself away from
the 24/7 news coverage of the Boston Marathon
bombing. September 11 really did a number on
me, so every time some form of terrorism
happens, I get flashbacks, she says. It gets
really intensein my head, every car parked on
the side of the road is about to explode.
Sound a little too familiar? Between the wild things
Mother Nature is throwing at us (monster tsunamis,
mile-wide tornados) and public violence like the
Newtown school shooting, it might feel like the worlds
gone crazy. Whats more likely is that our hectic modern
worldwith the influx of social media and a 24-hour
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with more worries than were programmed to handle.
During the Boston Marathon bombing aftermath, 63
percent of Americans followed the story very closely
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Pew Research Center survey. Bystanders live-tweeted
from the scene, armchair investigators posted theories on
Reddit, and rumors circulated on Facebook. Perhaps as a
result of our information overload, the Pew study found,
75 percent of us now expect occasional acts of terrorism to
be a part of life in the future, up 11 percent from the year
before. Were living in a constant state of fear.
All of this worry is contagious. When psychologists
work with groups, they notice that everyones combined
emotionswhat they call the group moodhas more of
an impact on individual actions than any one persons
emotional state. We call this a herd mentality, says
clinical psychologist Stephanie Newman, PhD, author of
Mad Men on the Couch. If youve ever been part of a
group receiving bad newsan office receiving word of
layoffs or a coastal town preparing for a hurricane
youve probably noticed how panic mounts and it feels
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WHY ITS WORSE FOR WOMEN


Women may be especially prone to catching and passing
on an emotional contagion. When women are exposed to
disturbing news stories, their stress levels rise more
than mens doso much so that the anxiety carries over
and the next tough situation becomes even more worrymaking, according to a new study from the Centre for
Studies on Human Stress, in Montreal. Researchers
measured levels of cortisolthe fight-or-flight hormone
that causes those jittery, heart-racing feelingsbefore
and after men and women read newspaper articles that
were either neutral or filled with negative reports of
crime and economic troubles. Then they put all the
subjects into the stressful situation of a simulated job
interview. The women experienced spikes in cortisol,
while the male subjects reactions were more mild.
Its not just headlines that can set us off. Its easy to
see how some women end up on anxiety overload
because we tend to have our finger on the pulse of whats
going on in our surroundings, says Tamar Chansky,
PhD, author of Freeing Yourself From Anxiety. Being
empathetic and people-oriented are great strengths
but women with those qualities are also more
susceptible to all this secondhand stress. This may
be one reason why women are twice as likely to be
diagnosed with an anxiety disorder as men are. Women
are often the emotional hub, with partners, parents,
siblings, friends, coworkers all representing spokes,
Chansky says. If these folks are stressed and youre the
caretaker type, then youre going to take on all their
troubles as well.
When friends tell Vorobyev about their guy troubles
or work pressures, she feels her own blood pressure
rising. Its very hard for me to hear about a friends
problem without getting anxious and restless about
their issue, she says. When my best friend broke up
with her boyfriend last year, I almost crashed my car
because I was crying so hard. Vorobyev finds herself
losing sleep and struggling to stay focused on her
schoolwork. Ill have to read things five times before
I understand what the textbook is saying, she says.
This snowball effect of anxiety is part of why
we find it so difficult to manage. If youre filled
with anxiety, youll turn to a friend for helpbut you
may unwittingly find yourself pulled into her emotional
drama even as youre attempting to master your
own emotions, Newman says. This is why a girls
night can go from cathartic heart-to-heart to all-out
downer. When people are overwhelmed by
extreme emotions, says Newman,
research shows that they often
unconsciously seek to help themselves by
passing the buck to someone else with
whom they are emotionally connected.

STATE OF FEAR.

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anxiety youve absorbed. Tracking
your worries in a journal can help
pinpoint the causes.
But maybe the single most
important thing you can do to avoid
catching anxiety, the experts agree,
is schedule some time to unplug. At
least an hour before bed, turn off your
computer, smartphone, and
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rest of the time. And consider how
you consume news. If youre the
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For Vorobyev, meditation and yoga
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whenever things are going well, I try
to be aware of it and just say thank
you into the air, she says. It sounds
silly, but gratitude has become a big
part of my lifeand it makes a world
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RED
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Light-bodied, silky
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Dried cherries,
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go with

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This Italian red is fruity
and dark, and it pairs
well with tomatoes and
cheese. Yum.

For a party,
go with

PINOT
NOIR

This light red is so


versatile that most
white-wine drinkers
will enjoy it.

When the
he
Waiter
Comes
If you havent decided on
e
what to order, ask what they have
thats dry and crisp (or whatever
flavor profile you prefer).
When he offers you a taste,
put your nose in the glass and
smell the wine. Anything funky?
No? Okay, perfect.
Give the glass a quick swirl
to aerate the wine and bring out
the aroma. Smell again, then take
a small taste.
If alls well, give a nod to the
waiter, or say Thats great. If
somethings off, let him know.

For a girls gettogether, go with

SPARKLING
Sparkling tends to be festive,
and people should drink it
without having anything to
celebrate, Mack says. Youre
alivethats reason enough!

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Summer
Music Fest
Cheat Sheet
Lollapalooza

Outside Lands

Burning Man

Bumbershoot

CHICAGO, IL
AUG. 2 TO AUG. 4

SAN FRANCISCO, CA
AUG. 9 TO AUG. 11

BLACK ROCK, NV
AUG. 26 TO SEPT. 2

SEATTLE, WA
AUG. 31 TO SEPT. 2

HEADLINERS

HEADLINERS

Lana Del Rey,


Mumford and
Sons, Vampire
Weekend,
Ellie Goulding,
The Killers

Paul McCartney,
DAngelo,
Yeah Yeah Yeahs,
Jessie Ware,
Grizzly Bear
VIBE Laid-back and friendly,

VIBE A high-energy party

with major foodie cred and


beautiful scenery

STRATEGY Make a

HEADLINERS None. Per the


official website: Burning
Man is not a concert.
Participants cometo
entertain one another.
In the past, big-time
deejays like Paul
Oakenfold have
dropped in to spin.

HEADLINERS Fun.,
Death Cab for
Cutie, Heart,
MGMT, Kendrick
Lamar, Icona Pop
VIBE Raucous but
artsy (the fest
also features
comedy, theater,
and visual arts)

VIBE Free-spirited and


anything goes. Think
wacky costumes
(actually, clothing is
optional!), tricked-out bikes
(the best transportation
method on the Playa,
as the festivals
desert grounds are
called), and hugs
from soul-searching
strangers.

COOL LOCAL BAR Capitol Hills


Crescent Lounge, which
was recently voted the citys
best singles bar

SURVIVAL TECHNIQUE Pack a

HOTTIES YOULL MEET Rowdy

DAMAGE $95 for a 1-day

layers. Temps in Golden


Gate Park can drop 10 to 15
degrees after dark.

indie fans cooling off in the


Seattle Centers 10-foot
water fountain

pass or $235 for a


3-day pass

ski mask to protect your


face from sandstorms and
baby wipes because
Burning Man is BYOShower.

DAMAGE $250 for a 3-day pass

DAMAGE $380 for the week

pass, $120 for 3 days

Postconcert,
some bands
(like Band of
Horses) hit
Chicago clubs
to play bonus sets.

Watch for secret


shows not on the
official lineup. Last year,
Jack White busted out an
impromptu set in a woodsy
area called McLaren Pass.

For shelter from the


blazing sun, hit up
Center Camp Caf, a
massive tent that offers
38,000 square feet of
shadeplus iced coffee.

Catch a comedy show.


The lineup is still
TBA, but Fred Armisen
and Amy Schumer
have performed in
recent years.

STRATEGY Grab lunch


ST
from one of more than
fro
60 vendors at A Taste
of tthe Bay Area.

custom schedule at
Lollapalooza.com.
COOL LOCAL BAR Big

Star, in trendy
Wicker Park, has
great margaritas.
SURVIVAL TECHNIQUE

Pick a time and


place to meet up
with friends. Cell
service is notoriously spotty,
thanks to 100,000 fans
trying to make calls at once.

TIP

HOTTIES YOULL
LL MEET

Sophisticated, take-hometo-mom types who know


how to pick a killer malbec
SURVIVAL TECHNIQUE Bring

TIP

STRATEGY The headliner

stage is indoors, and


entry is first come, first
served. Get in line 90
minutes before showtime.

DAMAGE $50 for a 1-day

TIP

TIP

Ellie Goulding

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Get a sneak peek at what to look forward to


and what to watch out for this month.
BY AURORA TOWER

@AuroraAstro

STELLAR GIFTS Youre


passionate, generous, and
effortlessly captivating.

BLIND SPOTS You can be a


perfectionist and overly
demanding.

Halle Berry
August 14, 1966
Mila Kunis
August 14, 1983

FASHION FAVES Metallic gold or


silver accents. Wearing the
colors of the sun illuminates
your bold personality.
INDULGENCE You love to plan

get-togethers and be social.


You amp up the fun factor at
every party you attend.
SEDUCTION STYLE Youre not
SE

af
afraid
to make the first move.
Your
Y
boldness gets results!
THIS MONTH If youre holding
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news with your family and
n
friends, speak up after the
fr
8
8th, when you will have their
full support. Careerwise, a
fu
br
bright new chapter is on the
h
horizon. Seek out professional
ad
advice from a mentor or a
tr
trustworthy colleague.
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for
alert
al for new opportunities in
November,
N
and be open to
changing
ch
plans come
January,
Ja
when your hard
work
w
will pay off and
culminate
cu
in an opportunity
for
fo travel. In love, youre
capable
ca
of deep connections.
B picky, and dont ignore
Be
your
yo gut instinctit will help
lead
le you to the right person.

FOCUS ON: Embracing your logical instincts.


Your methodical nature will pay off at
work this month. Stay detail-oriented.
YOUR MANTRA: Be open to inspiration. A
ash of genius strikes on the 25th when
Mercury opposes creative Neptune. If you
pitch an idea, have the facts to back it up.
DONT BOTHER: Overtaxing your body.
Switch out a high-octane workout for a
sunset walk. Calm brings clarity. POWER
OF ATTRACTION: If an old ame makes an
appearance, play hard to get. It will give you
time to suss out his intentions.

LIBRA (SEPT. 23OCT. 22)


FOCUS ON: Your core friends. You like to
spread your wings socially, but dont forget
your closest palsthey appreciate your
attention too! YOUR MANTRA: Think outside
the box. Ideas come in all shapes and sizes,
so be open to a curveball revelation coming
your way. DONT BOTHER: Overstepping
your authority at work on the 21st. Your
enthusiasm could be misconstrued as
opportunism. POWER OF ATTRACTION: If
youve been crushing on a friend, now is the
time to let him know. Ask him out for a fun
but intimate date to gauge his interest.

SCORPIO (OCT. 23NOV. 21)


FOCUS ON: Your inner smarty-pants. Read
a book thats relevant to your work, then
impress your boss with new facts. YOUR
MANTRA: Be a lover, not a hater. Its easy
to gossip about what you dislike. Instead,
ip the negative vibe into a positive one.
Bond over stuff you like, and notice how
your mood improves. DONT BOTHER: Overreacting to hurtful comments on the 11th.
Youre in control, so keep your cool. POWER
OF ATTRACTION: Plan a gathering for your
guy and his friends. Hell be thankful you
made the effort to hang with his crew.

LEO

Hayden Panettiere
August 21, 1989

Jennifer Lawrence
August 15, 1990

VIRGO (AUG. 23SEPT. 22)

Your Love Matches


SAGITTARIUS

ARIES

Together, you fall in love hard


and fast. Once committed,
you go the distance and support
each others big life goals.

His confidence makes you swoon,


and he loves your positive
energy. Thats an electric combo,
in and out of the bedroom!

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AQUARIUS (JAN. 20FEB. 18)

ARIES (MARCH 21APRIL 20)

FOCUS ON: A much-needed vacay. Take


a week or even a day to recharge your
batteries. Itll reinvigorate your creativity.
YOUR MANTRA: Stand by your plan. If
someone in your family doubts you on the
23rd, be ready to articulate why your goals
are important to you. Theyll be impressed
and simmer down. DONT BOTHER: Overscheduling. Youll have more fun leaving
some room for spontaneity! POWER OF
ATTRACTION: An exotic guy could sweep
you off your feet near the end of the month.
The sex may be hot, but be skeptical if he
promises the sun and the moon too soon.

FOCUS ON: Having a social summer. Invites


are pouring in for barbecues and parties.
Plan your own soiree to reciprocate your
friends generosity. YOUR MANTRA: Go with
the ow. Dont miss out on a last-minute
event because youre stuck in your ways.
DONT BOTHER: Being boastful online.
Instead of uploading another sele, comment on a friends cool post. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Communication is your strong
suit. Now its his turn. On the 8th, your guy
may initiate a deep conversation about your
relationship. Be patient with himhes
doing his best to express himself!

FOCUS ON: Fun in the sun. Gather your


posse for a picnic in your local park,
complete with Frisbee, bocce ball,
Twisteran annual event, perhaps?
YOUR MANTRA: What goes around comes
around. When a friend asks for advice, be
generous with your attention. Shell return
your kindness. DONT BOTHER: Upgrading
your technology. The shifting planets
may disrupt communication. POWER OF
ATTRACTION: Romance revs into high gear
when sexy Venus gets involved on the 16th!
Experiment with a new move youve been
curious to try out in the bedroom.

CAPRICORN (DEC. 22JAN. 19)

PISCES (FEB. 19MARCH 20)

TAURUS (APRIL 21MAY 21)

FOCUS ON: Reminiscing with your high


school gang. Start up an e-mail chain. The
banter will reignite your hilarious group
dynamic. YOUR MANTRA: You got this.
Youre determined to reach a work goal,
and you will. If a confrontation boils to the
surface on the 11th, be patient and take the
high road. DONT BOTHER: Blowing your
budget. You are in saving, not spending,
mode. POWER OF ATTRACTION: If a
colleague has been trying to capture your
attention, postwork drinks are the perfect
opportunity to start a irtation if youre in
the mood to return his advances.

FOCUS ON: Showing off your cheeky side.


Let your quick wit shine at social events
this month. Admirers are watching. YOUR
MANTRA: Health equals happiness. Take
advantage of the heat and swim outdoors
in the ocean if you can. Youll glow after
playing in the waves! DONT BOTHER:
Suggesting pricey outings. A movie-andsundae fest is everyones choice for a girls
catch-up night. POWER OF ATTRACTION:
On the 22nd, when the Sun slides into your
partnership house, head to a concert and
rock out hand-in-hand with your guy. Your
connection will be intense.

FOCUS ON: Achieving a work victory. Youre


on the threshold of a major career boost.
Prioritize your goals. YOUR MANTRA: Get
smart about money. On the 29th, valuable
advice is headed your way, so be prepared
to get realistic about your budget. DONT
BOTHER: Indulging your mood swings. If
your emotions spike, listen to your favorite
mellow song, sing along, and wait it out.
POWER OF ATTRACTION: If nostalgia gets
the best of you and youre yearning for an
ex, hold off on the late-night text for now.
Check in with yourself in the morning, and
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GEMINI (MAY 22JUNE 20)


FOCUS ON: The art of conversation. Plan a
dinner party where guests come prepared
with a topic they want to explore. Let the
debate begin! YOUR MANTRA: Get in on the
action. Want to contribute to your favorite
blog? Approach them with pitches on the
27th. DONT BOTHER: Getting swayed by
a would-be guru. Dont let a charming
teacher outweigh your sound judgment.
POWER OF ATTRACTION: You barely have
time to date this month, but make at least
one plan with a guy on your radar. Ask him
to an event youre already scheduled to go
to. Youll hit two birds with one stone!

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CANCER (JUNE 21JULY 22)


FOCUS ON: Finishing a big project thats
been dragging on. Its time to wrap things
up. The sense of accomplishment will
energize you for your next endeavor. YOUR
MANTRA: Spread your wisdom. A friend
will seek your educated opinion on the
26th. Trust that you know the answers.
DONT BOTHER: Second-guessing a
colleague. You have suspicions that
someone may not be as she appears. Focus
on your responsibilities, not hers. POWER
OF ATTRACTION: Suggest a moonlit skinnydip with your guy. It will lead to an all-night
romp and leave you with giddy memories.
COSMIC
NEWS
EVERYONE
CAN USE!

The Leo Man


LOVES Condent women who go after what they want.
HATES Critical opinions that dampen his lofty goals.
DREAM DATE Dinner at a buzzed-about restaurant
before hitting a party. He wants to show you off!

Chris Hemsworth
August 11, 1983

WIN HIM OVER By showing your loyalty. He


appreciates a girl who only has eyes for him.

WHAT HES IN THE MOOD FOR THIS MONTH


Leo Drop off his favorite
takeout one night while hes
working late, then go meet
the girls. He loves that youre
caring yet independent.

Sagittarius Its
getting hot in here! If the
humidity is getting to him,
why not suggest a cooling
shower for two?

Aries Hes into any form

Virgo Spend a day deux


near the water to relax his
mind. A beach day or lakeside
picnic will reinvigorate him
and your relationship.

Capricorn He has
family responsibilities on his
mind. A day apart and hell be
craving your affections.

Taurus The way to his


heart is through his stomach
this month! Breakfast in bed
could turn into an all-day
lovefest.

of competition. Plan a game


night with friends so you can
partner up and take on a new
challenge together.

you interact with his buddies.


Suggest a beer-garden
gathering for the whole crew.

Aquarius Support
his do-gooder spirit by
accompanying him to a
charity event. Youll be
inspired too.

Scorpio Help him

Pisces He wants to get

Cancer Hes indulging

pick out some new clothes


for the ofce. Boosting his
condence will bring a new
zest into the bedroom.

physical. Hit the park for a


one-on-one training session.
Let him help and guide you.
Hell love displaying his skills!

in escapist fantasies. Plan a


tropical staycation for two.
Homemade mango daiquiris
will inspire his imagination!

Libra He wants to see

Gemini Invite him to a


family event thats special to
you. Hes eager to impress
those who know you best.

AUGUST 1: Feminine Venus makes a perfect sextile (where the planets are 60 degrees apart!) with manly Mars: epic date night! AUGUST 7: Serious Pluto
opposes optimistic Jupiter. If a project requires more funds than you anticipated, back off. AUGUST 21: Jupiter squares off with unpredictable Uranus, so
nish old ventures before launching new ones. AUGUST 27: Active Mars moves into brave Leo until mid-October, so step up to a leadership role at work.

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Gianna Rossis world is
turned upside down the
day the man who broke
her heart strolls into her
office. With one heated
glance, Gia realizes how
badly she wants to
unravel the mystery that
is Jackson Rutledge
no matter how much its
going to cost her.
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BY SYLVIA DAY

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The walk up to the reception


seemed to take a very long time.
It was a tough pill to swallow,
realizing that my ex-boyfriend, Jax,
still affected me so strongly. Hed
been part of my life for only five short
weeks two years before. Id slept with
two other men since him and
thought Id moved on.
He was studying a display of our
best-selling cookbooks when I
rounded the corner. His expertly
tailored suit showed off his tall,
powerful frame. Id never seen him

dressed so formally. Wed met at a


bar, of all places. Id gone out with
some classmates, and he was
attending a bachelor party.
I shouldve known it wouldnt
turn out well.
But god, he was magnificent. His
dark hair was close-cropped on the
sides and in the back, slightly longer
on the top. His eyes were a brown so
dark, they were nearly black. Had I
really thought they were soft and
warm? Id been blinded by that lush,
sensual mouth and wicked dimple.

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RIGHT UP TO ME,
STANDING
FACE TO FACE,
A LITTLE MORE
THAN A HEAD
TALLER EVEN
THOUGH I
WORE HEELS.
HE WAS IN MY
PERSONAL
SPACE. TOO
INTIMATE.

There was nothing soft about


Jackson Rutledge. He was a hard
man, cut from a ruthless cloth.
As I approached him, he looked
me over from head to toe.
Jax didnt have a type. He loved all
women. I told myself I could have
been anyone and gotten that look
from him, but I didnt believe it. My
body remembered him.
Hello, Mr. Rutledge, I greeted
him formally, because he still hadnt
acknowledged that he remembered
me. Ms. Yeung will be out in just a

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moment, I continued. Ill show you


to the conference room.
As he followed me, I could feel
his gaze on my back, my ass, my legs.
It made me feel awkward.
He didnt say a word, and I was
afraid to say anything either. I felt a
terrible yearning, the almost desperate need to touch him. It was hard to
believe Id had him in my bed. Had
him inside me. How had I ever had
the courage to take on such a man?
I was relieved when we reached
the conference room, the door handle
feeling blessedly cool as I pushed
it down.
I felt his breath in my ear as he
said, How long are you going to
pretend you dont know me, Gia?
Pushing the door open, I stepped
inside, holding on to the handle so
there was no mistaking that I
wouldnt be staying.
He walked right up to me, standing face to face, a little more than a
head taller even though I wore heels.
His hands were in his pockets, his
head bowed over me. He was in my
personal space. Too intimate. Far
too familiar.
Please step back, I said quietly.
He moved but not in the way I
wanted. His right hand slid out of his
pocket and then down my arm, from
elbow to wrist. I felt his touch
through the silk of my navy blouse.
Youve changed so much, he
murmured.
Of course. Enough that you didnt
recognize me earlier.
Jesus. You think I didnt recognize you? He turned away, but that
didnt lessen his impact. The back
view was just as splendid as the front.
Id recognize you blindfolded, Gia.
I was shocked. Wed gone from
distant and impersonal to searingly
intimate in a heartbeat. What are
you doing here, Jax?
He walked to the windows and
looked out at New York. Im going
to offer Lei Yeung whatever it takes
to make her go play in someone
elses sandbox.
It wont work. This is personal.
Business should never be
personal.
Nothings personal, right?
I said, remembering how hed
just failed to show up one day.
And every day after.

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Things were personal between


us, he said, his deep voice husky.
Once.
No, they werent. Not for you.
He turned abruptly, causing me
to take another cautious step back.
There are no hard feelings, then.
Good. Theres no reason not to pick
up where we left off. When Im done
with my meeting, we can head to my
hotel and get reacquainted.
Fuck you, I snapped.
His mouth curved, revealing
that delicious dimple. Oh, how that
changed him, concealing how
dangerous he was with a touch of
boyish charm. I hated that playful
little indentation as much as I
adored it.
There you are, he said, with an
unmistakable note of triumph. You
almost had me fooled into thinking
the Gia I knew was gone.
Dont toy with me, Jax. Its
beneath you.
I want you beneath me.
Id known he would say that if I
opened the door, but Id had to hear
it. I had to hear him spell it out. He
was direct when it came to sex, as
sensual and natural as an animal.
I loved it, because Id been that way
with him too.
Greedy. Insatiable. Nothing else
had ever made me feel as good.
Hello, Mr. Rutledge, Lei said,
sweeping in on her killer Jimmy
Choo slingbacks. Im going to
assume this is a pleasant surprise.
It can be. He turned his
attention to her so completely, I felt
dismissed.
Ill leave you two to it, I said,
walking out. Leis gaze caught mine,
and I understood the silent message.
Wed be talking soon.
I didnt look at Jax again, but I still
got the same message from him.

Excerpted from Afterburn, by Sylvia Day.


Copyright 2013. Published by Harlequin.

Sylvia Day is a number one New York


Times and number
one international
best-selling author
of more than a
dozen awardwinning novels sold
in 39 countries.

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GOYA Adobo All-Purpose Seasoning
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red onion, nely chopped (about cup)
red bell pepper, nely chopped (about cup)
1 can (15.5 oz.) GOYA Low Sodium
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cup fresh corn kernels
1 avocado, nely chopped (about 1 cup)
1 tbsp. GOYA Lemon Juice
1 tbsp. nely chopped fresh cilantro

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2. Heat remaining oil in skillet. Add onions
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about 5 minutes. Stir in black beans and
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through, about 2 minutes. Remove pan
from heat. Stir in avocado, lemon juice
and cilantro until combined.
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a. Lots of pics of every

a. A reggae brunch,

party you go to and


every couch you and
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a live-fish pedicure,
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Images of nature
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You havent heard


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You chime
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an episode of Wives
With Knives on your
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Go by yourself. It
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a.

b.

c.

Minimalyou only
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Hey, Wanna Be Friends?

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The Pitfalls of Being a Wallflower

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Maybe Be a Little More Boring?

Youre a blast in a glass, but you dont feel the


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It wouldnt kill you to step on the karaoke


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weekend. The key to being the fun friend, not
the crazy friend? After you tell your story or plan
your party, sit back and let others do the same.

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