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People with anger problems are accountable for what they do consciously

Question
Salaam, May Allah bless you for helpingI have been married for 13 yrs alhamdulil
lah n I hav 3 children . I have always suffered from unstable mood for which I h
av sought medical help n I hav been diagnosed with borderline personality disord
er I hav very conflicting relationship with my husband as I feel he doesn't unde
rstand my feelings he doesn't empathise with me although mashallah he is a good
person I am very difficult to live with bcoZ I find it hard to process my though
ts n emotion in a proper way bcoZ of my disorder also I have been abused as a ch
ild n my parents were divorced while I was still a child all that has contribute
d to the person I am now n Allah knows hw much I try to control my anger n negat
ive thoughts but I always fail May Allah help me I also hav impulses such as ove
r spending which I know us very bad but I can't help it I want to know will I be
held accountable for all this since I can't control it sometimes esp argument w
ith my husband
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is
none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi
wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His Slave and Messenger.
Firstly, we implore Allaah to heal you of every ailment that causes you trouble,
and to give you sound health and reward you generously. We advise you to be pat
ient, as its outcome is good, Allaah permitting. Please refer to Fatwa 83577 on
the virtues of patience.
You should also keenly turn to Allaah in sincere supplication. He is the One who
has the power to relieve your burden, and it is He who answers the prayers of t
he distressed and relieves their hardships. He says (what means): {Is He [not be
st] who responds to the desperate one when he calls upon Him and removes evil an
d makes you inheritors of the earth? Is there a deity with Allaah? Little do you
remember.} [Quran 27:62] You should also engage in the frequent remembrance of
Allaah whenever possible. Allaah The Exalted says (what means): {Those who have
believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allaah. Unquestionab
ly, by the remembrance of Allaah hearts are assured."} [Quran 13:28]
You should consult specialized physicians. Hopefully, they can prescribe a medic
ation to help calm you down and reduce and ease your anxiety. For more benefit,
please refer to Fatwa 86999. You can also refer to Fatwa 86681 on the prophetic
guidance on controlling anger.
You should know that you will be held accountable before Allaah for all your act
ions in a state of consciousness. However, you will not be held accountable for
your actions in a state of unconsciousness as previously underlined in Fatwa 247
126.
In any case, your husband should understand your situation, support you in this
hardship and find excuses for you, as this is part of loyalty and good companion
ship.
Allaah Knows best.

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