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There are particular pressures at play in an international project landscape which need
attention if relationships are to be established and nurtured effectively. Here are just a few:
1. Time
Projects are per definition temporary in nature. Temporary can mean anything from a
couple of months to five or more years. But the time limited aspect of an assignment
means that people can psychologically commit less to establishing solid and meaningful
relationships. After all, its short term. Why waste precious work and social time investing
in people with whom, once the project is over, its likely that there will be no further
contact? When this mentality is in play in a project team, commitment, effort, creativity,
productivity of teamwork etc. all suffer.
2. Linguistic
International projects are primarily done in English. When a foreign language is used
between human beings, either as a non-native speaker or as a native speaker with nonnative speakers, intimacy reduces. Most non-native speakers do their best to
communicate their sense of selves and understanding of others in a base vocabulary of
around five thousand words or less. The nuance and sophistication which any native
speaker brings to the process of relationship building is similarly lost. In this context, we
get B1 or B2 relationships formed they work but are without depth.
3. Cultural
Just to clarify, culture is not just national culture. Culture is a word which alerts us to the
issue of diversity and a plurality of dynamic and interactive sets of values and practices
driven by gender, age, professional background, regional and national identity corporate
values etc. When we go international, plurality increases, and with that increase comes
greater excitement and interest (we are curious animals) but also the risk of alienation
and stigmatisation of the other (under pressure, it is seldom my fault but usually their
fault that things went wrong). Relationships often exhibit a kind of honeymoon effect in
project teams at the beginning people embrace each other with open arms and
optimism. Once the hard work kicks in, resources become scarce and deadlines loom,
initial collectivism can quickly degenerate to a kind of combative individualism.
4. Virtual
International also generally means virtual working at significant distance (often with
different time zones), having to communicate mainly through electronic means such as
email and telephone conference calls. Distance and the use of electronic media
undermine both communication and, eventually, relationships. Distance means that
communication tends to just take place in very formal and task-based contexts
meetings, for example. We lose the chat around the coffee machine, the quick catch-up
in the corridor. Electronic media takes away body language, looking into the eyes of the
person to assess whether what was said is really what was meant. It means clarification
becomes more vital and yet emerges as more difficult. Email and conference call
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meetings are mainly for transmission of messages rather than for discussion and effective
exchange of ideas.
5. Organisational
International projects are curious animals. When I started working more closely with
those leading projects, it quickly became clear to me that conflict management skills are
a vital skill. Many big projects in major corporations are about change. This change can
be harmonisation. It can be about innovation. Whatever, its about change and by and
large, people resist change, at least at the beginning. And those working in projects have
to deal with this resistance. And while relationships inside the team may be relatively
harmonious, stakeholders outside and around the team may be far from in agreement
with what the project is trying to achieve. This means those involved in projects need to
be great influencers, expert sellers of their project, superb networkers and deal doers to
secure support and agreement at critical moments of a projects life cycle. But, as clients
often say, when is there time to do all of this soft stuff what does networking actually
mean, how can I influence, is playing politics part of relationship building? Interesting
questions!
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3. Managing a relationship is not just about being nice to someone. In business part of
managing a relationship means convincing someone to support your point of view.
The book provides a series of activities which enable students to think seriously
about a range of influencing strategies and how to apply them with different people
in different contexts. In Managing Project, Ive included a favourite warmer activity
called the Diamond Exercise which kicks off an examination and practice of
influencing skills. It goes like this.
Simply form groups of three or four. One person pretends to hold a very expensive
diamond in their hand. Another person in the group has three minutes to influence this
person to give them the diamond.
The observer(s) should follow the conversation and take a note of which influencing
tactics are used, and which seem to be the most successful.
After the conversation, stop and discuss. Then change roles and repeat the exercise.
When you have finished, decide which influencing tactics were most effective, and why.
Ive done the exercise a thousand times and it always engages. It always stimulates useful
insight about communication, influencing, the connections between manipulation and trust,
and how important persuasion is to the way we interact with people at work.
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Further reading
Publications:
1. Dignen, B. with McMaster, I. Effective International Business Communication (Build your
interpersonal skills). Collins, 2012
2. Gunn. R Matrix Management Success - Method not Magic. Infinity Publishing 2007
3. Herrero, L. Viral Change. Meeting Minds. 2008
4. Porter, Elias. H. Relationship Awareness Theory. Personal Strengths. 1996
5. Portney, S. E. Project Management for Dummies. John Wiley & Sons, 2000
Websites:
1. http://www.business-spotlight.de/tags/bob-dignen?page=1
Bob Dignen speaks to camera about interpersonal communication.
2. http://www.keithferrazzi.com/uncategorized/the-5-best-ted-talks-about-relationships/
Great TED Talks about building relationships.
3. http://www.dalecarnegiewaysf.com/2012/09/20/carnegies-6-principles-of-relationship/
Some great fundamentals from Mr Carnegie.
4. Professional bodies associated with project management
www.ipma.ch (International Association of Project Management)
www.pmi.org (Project Management Institute)
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