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february 2014
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//editor's note
//reality of sex
//sex talk
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//aids
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//danielPEREZ interview
//sexual fantasy
//female fans
//desire or love?
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Editor-in-Chief
Jonah Valdez
Features Editor
Janell Haylock
Arts Editor
Brenda Delfino
Sports Editor
Adrian Wilson
Religion Editor
Daniel Peverini
Essay Editor
Isaac Carren
Layout Editors
Evan Aumack
Rachel Cho
Advisor
Israel Carren
Writers
Abel Medel
Lorel Durant
Simer Kaur
Caitlin Cuenca
Max Gutierrez
Teodora Balaj
Shannon Taylor
Nicole Samila
Amar Kiswani
Jamie Perchez
Cesar Saldaa
Matthew Valdez
Kyle Cespedes
Syria Armenta
Sarah Lancaster
Kevin Alexander
Aaron Schoonover
Photographers
Jonathan Rojas
Baraa Alaraj
Adrian Wilson
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EDITOR'S NOTE
I thought sex was optional.
I was in the fourth grade on the verge of the decade mark and I knew thingsyes,
even things about sex. I knew the stork and baby explanation was fiction. I knew
making love and sex were separate, but equally effective means of impregnation.
I knew that a penis enters a womens vagina and that was sex. I knew that couples
engaged in kissing and hugging and that was making love. I knew this from the
movies, as the actors did so, burrowing themselves under the covers, as the music
played harmoniously. What did they have to hide? I knew that a person could make
their choice: pregnancy through making love or pregnancy through having sex. I
had always assumed that my parents chose the former. Kissing and hugging, or,
making love, just seemed so much easier, anyway. Sex looked like a real pain.
I knew things, but I obviously had no bearing on the sexual realities of life.
So, to destroy the myths, enlighten my ignorant mind, and once and for all, set the
record straight about sex, I turned to the church. But it wasnt my pastors that broke
the truth. It wasnt my youth leader, and it wasnt even my parents.
On a Saturday night, waiting for a church board meeting to end, I stood on the rocky
soil of our church parking lot, under a tree, next to the parked cars, hidden from the
lights in the secrecy of shadows, and in the company of my friends. Becuase I usually
spent a lot of time with my older brother, most of my friends were older that I. These
individuals were in sixth grade, kings of the elementary. They were truly in the know.
So, when we got to talking about sex, I perked my ears for an education. They told
me that sex was the only way to get a girl pregnant and chuckled at my primitive
dualism of making love and sex. My cheeks reddened and I stood embarrassed.
But I realized I was now really in the know. I felt like I joined the club, a new rank of
maturity. On that Saturday night in the church parking lot, my pre-teen friends beat
my parents to the punch. They gave me the truth. Thus, my conversation of sex had
begun.
Sex is perhaps one of the most pervasive enigmas of society. There is never any easy
answer to good sex. A large, sweeping solution for preventing sexual abuse hardly
exists. Sexually transmitted diseases are still a reality for even the most educated
societies. Sex has even morphed into a marketing tool, luring millions into buying
products, watching films, and engaging in activities through the erotic idealizations
and sultry advertisements. Scientists, psychologists, counselors, and therapists have
been working to understand sex for years, and still, there is much to learn of such a
bodily function. While sex is many things, its ambiguity should not work to dissuade.
In fact, its vague character works as a sort of invitation for even further discovery.
How so? Let us recall the notion of friendship.
When you gather together with friends, you always want to listen to each others
stories and latest news in each others lives. From irritated laments about a particular
professor that drones on for hours with a dry, monotone voice, to the stories of a
romantic interest in a particular boy or girl, friends crave details. Friends want to
know what makes this professor so boring, how he keeps the same facial expression
and bodily position the entire class period, only shifting to click for the next side or
to laugh at his own lame jokes. They want to hear about how that cute girl walked
up to you after university worship and gave you her number, or how that mysterious,
quiet good-looking guy that always sits in the back, actually smiled at one of your
jokes, which set a flurry of butterflies in your stomach. Love at first sight. Friends, no
matter the circumstance, tell it as it is. Friends are concerned with the truth.
The same applies to our situation of sex. The topic is not easily defined, and yet we
should be demanding the details. We should be looking for the gritty facts, the things
that drive the notion forward. We should be concerned with the truth of sex. In a
society where the media is the most effective educator of sex, we are in desperate
need for a reality check. Engage with this issue and the matters brought forward like
a conversation with a good friend. Engross yourself in the stories as if we are that
friend, spitting the details and colorful phrases, causing moments of laughter and
spells of urgency, but most importantly, informing and building accountability.
Lets talk about sex.
Peace,
Jonah Valdez
Editor-in-Chief
news
reality of sex
//jonahVALDEZ
On January 22, President Obama
established a task force in a recent effort
to combat sexual assault within college
campuses. The Presidents cabinet was
at hand, beaming down on their leader,
smiling for cameras, nodding their heads
in approval. President Obama was
seated on a wooden desk, varnished to
a shine, bearing the stately Presidential
Seal on its front. The curtains, a bright
yellow, gave life to the room, along with
golden candlesticks across the walls.
The East Room of the White House,
which often holds musical concerts,
banquets, and dinners, was fit for a
celebration, a regal event. But for the
President, there was no room for smiles,
as he signed the memorandum with his
classic solemnity. These efforts stirred
in the wake of a recent report, released
by the White House Council on Women
and Girls, during the anniversary of the
landmark Roe v. Wade ruling on abortion rights. The report showed that out
of the 22 million women of America that
are raped in their lifetime, the majority
suffers this experience between the ages
of 16-24. The heart of this age range
encompasses the college demographic.
Only 12 percent of this group notified the
authorities about their assault. Seven
percent of college males have admitted
to either committing or attempting rape.
Two thirds of these male individuals have
done so on multiple occasions.
The report detailed, Many at-
munication.
tricky.
If there is ever to be
a sexual ethic that
exists to inform in
directness, openly
work with, and fully
address the realities
of sex, this method
and mode of thinking
may be scooting ever
closer. It is a way
of thinking that is
founded on the principles of our campus
in seeking, knowing,
and serving.
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ready to live with the social and communal consequences. Because the community will not agree with you. And to what
extent does the community count for the
integrity of your authentic existence, you
have to make that decision.
We are all communal social beings,
but it does not mean that we are all
totally submerged and totally submissive to everything society takes. We
are always selective, and this is one of
those areas where we have to make that
choice and be willing to live with the
consequences, says Dr. Kim.
Whether you do it outside or inside
the institution of marriage, you have to
feel whole; own the act as your truth,
and be responsible to yourself, your
partner, and your community says Dr.
Kim. And while we are communal beings, sex and sexuality are also extremely
personal.
If there emerges among the new
generation a question of individual
choices on this matter that may potentially challenge the traditional views and
the communal codes, Dr. Kim believes it
should be openly addressed at all levels
within the community.
Any theological, doctrinal, philosophical issue is subject to constant
revision, constant reevaluation. We may
at the end of such conversation and
reaffirm what we have held on to, or we
may come up with a different formula.
But I think there is an intrinsic danger in
thinking that everything we have been
saying is final. In all aspects of life, we
always need to be open for further dialogue. Whether it be a theology of sex
and sexuality, or any other theology, say
Dr. Kim.
This may seem to be quite radical to a consensus that lives under the
traditional Christian ethic of the campus
community. The hypothetical questions
that inform such skepticism include, If
God spoke to writers of the Bible, isnt it
all absolute? Gods word is final! Where is
the danger there? If God never changes,
how can our ethics change?
In addressing these concerns, consider a brief history lesson from Dr. Kim.
He says that it is vital for any individual
to realize that reevaluation is very true all
throughout Biblical tradition. Dr. Kim explains that if you look at culture, history,
and context, the Bible we have is a long
history of constant revaluation of the tradition that each generation has received.
For every generation, in ancient Israelite
culture, they always dealt with what they
received from a previous generation.
They did not simply adhere to it and bow
down, giving it absolute authority. They
would wrestle with these traditions and
would try to make sense out of it in their
own new situation. These people of the
Biblical cultures dialogued rigorously
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SEX
TALK
We asked you to tell us your sexual
experiences and what you think about
premarital sex. The responses were
not overwhelming in number, but those
that did contribute were far from subtle.
Those that had the audacity to stand
up and talk about sex did so with a bold
voice, one that matters, as with all voices
here on campus. Some upheld the
traditional Christian ethic of sex, calling
for the benefit of abstinence. Others
pitted themselves against tradition and
expressed a serious desire to find a
sexual preference and a sexual identity.
Like you would with a friend or another
college peer, try and lend an ear (or
eye) and listen closely. Respect their
openness, their courage to be vulnerable,
and most importantly, their value of
honestyrevealing truth.
Never had it but cant wait to one day experience with that
special someone!
I first had sex when I was 14. I've had positive sexual
experiences with partners in serious relationships for
1year+. I think that sex is something people need to do
before marriage. I believe that sexual compatibility, and the
ways that a relationships dynamics can change after sex,
are things that people should be aware of before getting
married. (I am born and raised Adventist)
Sex isn't bad. It's good, in fact it's great! It's what God
made in order for his creation to procreate and bond. Not
to mention sex is like a sixth sense. Besides the sight, the
touch, the feel, the taste, and the smell, sex is what unites
two human beings heart and soul. I would dare to call it
a spiritual sense. Which is why it should be something so
absolutely private and special, between two forever! (as
cheesy as that sounds, it's the truth.) I have noticed people
go one way or another about such topic. You have some
people that think sex is repugnant, or at least that's what
they have been instilled. By "repugnant" I mean sex is all
about the "flesh" and the flesh is weak. So, if you want a
relationship with God you must stray away from those "flesh
calling desires". How unfortunate. I don't think God could
have made it more clear, he created sex, he never abolished
it. Then you have the "YOLO" peeps. Why not experience sex
with multiple people right? I mean how could you possibly
marry someone without "knowing" if you like them in bed. If
you are with someone just because of the sex, well that my
friends is a different story. God didn't speak of abstinence
to control you, to force you "to wait", to make you feel
guilty if you were to have sex. He simply cares. He cares so
much. I don't care how many people brag about having sex
and not feeling any emotions towards the other person.
It's psychologically proven that human beings are affected
and influenced by their experiences. God would hate to see
you hurt, heartbroken, anxious, insomniac, depressed, and
feeling worthless all in response to what he created for you!
He created it so that you may feel fulfilled, blessed, and
happy, but at it's right time! So you may be wondering why
I believe sex should be between only two individuals? I am
not married, yet. So how would I know that sex is great?
Let's just say after a three year relationship (sexually active)
that didn't end well. Everything went downhill. I was broken,
hurt, anxious, insomniac, and confused. Then I understood. It
was never God's plan to condemn me for my actions. He just
wanted to protect me, he wanted me to be patient. The last
thing he wanted was for me to go through such pain, such
grief, I literally felt like half of me was gone! But it happened.
Still he was there for me. Please, don't let his love and
grace be an excuse for being impatient. After all, true love
is patient. And sex, sex is a beautiful thing but like it says in
the bible, their is a due time for everything. And truth is, you
shouldn't even be asking yourself if your ready to have sex
when your personal identity is nothing but a blurry distant
thought. Find out who you are in God, seriously. Who are
you? God will take care of the rest. This, this is what I think
about sex.
My first sexual experience was awful, I was manipulated into
having sex. I felt nothing because I didn't want to be there.
Now a days I don't like having sex, personally I try to avoid. I
think it's the person decision to have sex or not. I haven't had
sex with a girl yet but I want to
Personally, I've never had sex. Everyone always assumes
I have because of the way I dress, or the way I look, or
because I can talk to anyone without reservations. I've
always wanted to save myself for marriage, and I intend
to do so. My current boyfriend and I are on the same
page. We both want to wait until marriage, but all my past
relationships, my boyfriend would push me to go further. I
always had self control then, but to be honest, if my current
boyfriend pressured me now, I don't think I would be able to
say no . . .
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//interview
daniel perez
Earlier this month, we had a chance to sit down and talk with the president of PRISM, Daniel Perez. PRISM is an unofficial club
on campus, an established advocate and voice of our own LGBT community. In his conversation with the Criterion, Daniel
voiced the many perspectives of the LGBT community and their place within the Christian community and society at large.
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defines you.
Myth #2: You cannot be LGBT and
Christian. That hurts my heart, because
I know some people that walk away
from Christianity because of what other
people tell them and what they hear
from others. To me, if God is the most
loving Creator that we know him to be,
that having Him in your life is so free
and that it makes everything better, its
really sad that everyone cant have Him.
Also, to say that you cant be LGBT and
Christian, youre forcing people to have
this choice, which is really difficult. Its
like telling someone, you have to choose
between heterosexual and loving God.
Its a part of you; its not something
that you can choose. Its different from
choosing between stealing or loving
God, because that is a choice. Its something that you can say, Yes or No to, not
something that you are. Ive seen the
strongest relationships with God in LGBT
people. One of my friends has been told
that he can't have God and that God will
never love him. It's forced him to dig
deeper in the Bible and to dig deeper in
his relationship with God. You look at
him and you say, That guy has God with
him, wherever he goes, and he touches
peoples lives. And those are two basic
things for me personally: LGBT people
are sex driven people, for that is definitely not true. And you cant be LGBT
and have a relationship with God.
All right, so moving on to some other
things people say, pretty habitually.
Youve heard it all before, man, thats
gay. Thats so gay, Are you gay, or
something? All of these phrases exist
in normal conversation amongst people
here on campus and in the greater
society, and they typically hold negative
connotations. We all grew up around
such talk amongst peers. What do you
think about these statements? Do you
find them offensive? Should we approach them lightheartedly? Are they
just jokes that should be laughed at?
you meet, but its sad that youre not going to heaven. And thats the thing that
a lot of people experience, especially if
youre LGBT and Christian, I feel like you
can lose so much.
Now, I am not sure if you are comfortable with this next question, and you can
tell me if youre not, but it will dig a bit
into your personal life. How did you realize your sexual identity and realize that
you are not a heterosexual individual?
And when did you decide to come out?
If youre willing to, explain this important
portion of your life.
I knew I was gay when I was in the first
grade. I remember my first crush. It
was nothing sexual, I just really liked
this other guy in my class. We played
Pokmon with each other. A group of
us would go and beat each other up and
pretend we were Pokmon. But I just
knew I was different. I remember when
my dad and other male family member
spoke, especially when it was about
women, they would say, Man shes hot!
Man this girl. I asked my dad, Why do
you guys always do that. He responded, Well, thats just what guys do. And
if you dont, then youre gay. Are you
gay? I told him no, but inside, I realized
that I really was. I didnt tell anybody
for a long time. I kept it very secretive. I remember telling my best friend
during Freshman year of high school,
and after that, I didnt say anything until
my Freshman year of college when I
was at a public school. I saw all these
people that were really open and really
accepting, and I realized it was time
for me to accept myself, because this
battle between my Christian identity and
myself has just been too hard. So thats
when I started coming out to the rest of
my friends, my parents, and my fraternity brothers at Cal State. That was a
very important part of my life, because I
realized that people could love me, just
for me. There were some people that
were questionable at first, but I didnt
have to experience what many of my
fellow LGBT people have had to experience, where they were kicked out of the
house, where their friends just stopped
talking to them. Honestly, I think God
put the friends that I have in my life and
He put them there early on, because
that was a hard period in my life. Not
only was this going on, but a lot of family issues were going, as well. It was just
difficult, but God showed His mercy and
He put the right people in my life, and
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To the person struggling with accepting us, I know that its hard. Whether or
not you are influenced by Christianity or
culture, you can never be wrong when
being nice to someone, even if you are
struggling to accept these people. You
can never be too nice. Love them like you
would love anyone else. You dont want
to be that last voice that could end their
relationship with God or to push them
over the edge to end their life, because
they feel unworthy to anyone, no matter what they do. As you struggle with
acceptance, pray hard, and pray that God
will fill you with His light in an unbiased
way, searching for Gods desire. And
while you do all of this, just love as much
as you can.
features
aids
//janellHAYLOCK
Lets flesh it out. This stigmatized
disease that is entirely consuming and
devastating, taking over sense of self,
roughly 2.3 million a year in addition
to a global community of 35.3 million.
In most class discussions we come
close to a sense of sympathy for those
inflicted by the virus, but many times
it is a superficial conversation with no
real purpose. A useless conversation
mentioned for political correctness.
Whats the point of that? For the first
time in my college experience, I sat in
on a sincere lecture about the reality of
the widespread nature of AIDS and how
each one of us is implicated in the fight
against it. Dr. Fritz Guy, the orator, told a
powerful story of a family battling with
AIDS that is quoted below:
the anxious parents of other children-parents who were afraid their children
would be contaminated by Nicole,
whose brother had AIDS.
Medical tests showed that Nicole
did not have AIDS, and the results
were public information, having been
reported in the local newspaper and on
the radio, but Nicole had to leave the
school anyway.
Happily she was admitted to a Head
Start pre-school program, and then
entered a Catholic kindergarten, where
the priest promised to stand by her,
whatever people might think.
Because of AIDS, Nicole became
familiar with death at an early age. One
day she asked her grandmother, Is
Daddy gonna die? Is Mommy gonna die
too? When they die, can I come and live
with you?
I was curious to find out how
the Seventh-day Adventist church is
entangled in the conversation of AIDS
and sexually transmitted diseases
in general. My preconceived idea
considered a statement from the
General Conference (GC) of the church
mentioning AIDS prevention and
care as methods of reaching out and
evangelism. Indeed, this was essentially
the core of the statements I read online
discussing their stance on the topic, but
what I came across however was a new
realization.
arts
if the Academy gave an Oscar for faking orgasms. Marilyn slowly began to
recover with the help of her psychiatrist
but her life ended shortly after, due to a
drug-related incident. In 1962, the year
of her death, Marilyn expressed her
anxieties, I am a failure as a woman. My
men expect so much of me because of
the image they have made of me and
that I have made of myself, as a sex
symbol . . . I cant live up to it.
Marilyn Monroe is the perfect example of a sexually objectified woman
who carried the burden until the last
days of her life. She was not a victim but
a symptom of a society with a dysfunctional perception of beauty. This ugly
truth about Marilyn is often ignored, her
positives aspects left behind and all that
remains is the archetype of a sex symbol, adapted, used and reused.
Not all celebrities fall in the same
trap. There are those who choose to
embrace their natural beauty. Take Titanic actress, Kate Winslet, for instance,
who doesnt allow the media to decide
her weight. She refuses to accept digital
arts
sexual fantasy
//maxGUTIERREZ
Sex has become a prime objective
in society produced by the media. We
all have our own set of beliefs that may
come from our family and beliefs, but
we also use the media as a reference
as to what is normal in society now.
Television programs, such as Jersey
Shore, show that meeting someone at a
club and having sex with someone new
every night, is a new trend in which is
deemed normal, and possibly cool. Then
we have the romantic films that show
a perfect couple that finds love in the
first glance. Then there is pornography,
which completely alters the entire idea
of sex. There is strict roles of power
and submission, and there is no reality
to their acting. The 2013 film Don Jon
exhibits these three forms of media with
three unique characters that all contain
different social beliefs.
The Blind and Infatuated Man
Jon, played by the actor Joseph
Gordon-Levitt, plays a man who is more
addicted to pornography than he is to
sex. He lives his life through a particular
set of things that are of importance to
him. He cites this list as my body, my
pad, my ride, my family, my church, my
boys, my girls, my porn. Take notice
that each item on his begins with the
word my. He also cites that he loses
himself when watching pornography.
His life is based heavily on routine. He
cleans his apartment and goes to the
He is addicted to the
fantasy of two people
being lost in the ecstasy of
pleasure
sports
female fans
//adrianWILSON
Another Sunday, another loss!
That is how I felt while I ate myself into
depression at Buffalo Wild Wings, as the
Redskins take yet another loss for the
season. While I was soaking in defeat, to
my surprise I noticed something that I
have never really thought of before until
that day. It wasnt because I was sitting
there angry and about to explode. It
was not the fact that everybody was
laughing at me because I was wearing
a Redskins jersey. What I noticed was
beyond the game of football.
While I was eating my wings I
noticed a couple next to me watching
the Chargers game. To no surprise the
girlfriend was asking million questions
during the game and the boyfriend was
getting annoyed by all of the questions.
Another guy who was there that was
religion
desire or love?
//danielPEVERINI
The Impasse
Imagine with me for a moment. Its
late Saturday night, and you are alone
with a person of the opposite sex that
you think is quite attractive. The other
person is pretty in to you, too. But its not
like you are in a serious, committed relationship with the other person. You know
that there is nothing lasting between
you two. Yet here you two are, in a place
where you wont be interrupted if you
decide have sex. It might be fun. Do you
go for it?
Its a toss-up. You might think you
have good reasons to indulge your
desires. Perhaps its been too long since
youve felt intimate with another person,
and you just want that. Maybe you are
bored, and having sex will take away
your boredom for a while. Or you just
want the pure physical pleasure of sex,
the climax, the sheer bodily-ness of it.
But you might also think you have good
reasons to abstain. You might make
another human being that you dont
expect. You could get an STD. University policy tells you that having sex is
grounds for dismissal. Youre a good
Christian, and good Christians dont have
sex outside of marriage. What should
you do?
Clearly we have divided sexual
expectations. As good Christians, we
all say that we dont have sex. Yet as
religion
essay
We sometimes forget
that porn stars are
people too.
RANDY
WEST
SHELLEY MARY
LUBBEN CAREY
JOHN
LESLIE
ASIA
RICHARD
CARRERA PACHECO
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