The Eucharist: Foundation of the Christian Family

Fr. John A. Hardon, S.J.

We do not normally associate the Holy Eucharist with marriage and the family. But we should.
Without the Eucharist, there would not be a livable Sacrament of Matrimony or a stable Christian
family.
What are we saying? We are saying that Christ intended these two sacraments to be related as
condition and consequence. The Eucharist is the condition, and matrimony as the core of the family
is the supernatural consequence.
Surely this calls for an explanation, and a clear explanation.
Needless to say, this is a most important subject. It is so important that the survival of Christian
marriage and the Catholic family depend on it. Are we serious? Yes. The Holy Eucharist is
indispensable for living out the supernatural, and therefore humanly impossible, demands that
Christ places on those who enter marriage in His name.
Our plan is to cover the following areas of this fundamental issue.
Christian marriage in the family is a life long commitment to selfless love.
This selfless love is impossible without superhuman strength from God.
The principal source of this superhuman strength is the Holy Eucharist.
Christian spouses and their families are a living witness to Christ's power to work moral
miracles in the world today.
The single most important need for Christian families is a renewed faith in the Holy
Eucharist.

Christian Marriage and Selfless Love

Christ instituted the sacrament of marriage in order to restore marriage to its monogamous position
before the fall of our first parents.
When some Pharisees came to test Jesus by asking Him: Is it lawful for a man to put away his
wife for any reason? Jesus answered and said to them, Have you not read that the Creator from
the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause a man shall leave his father
and mother, and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? Therefore now, they are
no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.
(Matthew 19:3 6).
But Christ did not stop there. He not only told His followers that marriage is a lifelong commitment
that no human authority can dissolve. He further commanded those who call themselves Christians
to love one another with such selfless charity as to be willing to die for one another after the
example of His own selfless love of dying for us on the Cross.
This is Christian marriage as elevated by Him to the Sacrament of Matrimony. It is a lifetime
covenant between husband and wife, to remain faithful to each other until death. It is also a lifelong

promise, made to God under oath, to love one another with selfless charity, enduring patience, and
whole hearted generosity. Even more, it is a solemn vow to accept the children that God wants to
send them and educate their children for eternal life in Heaven with God.
Since the time of Christ, there have been many breaks in Christian unity. There have been many
departures from the Catholic Church. There have arisen numerous churches, calling themselves
Christian. Why the departures? The main single reason has been the unwillingness to accept
Christ's teaching on the indissolubility and fruitfulness of Christian marriage, founded on selfless
charity.

Need for Superhuman Strength

It takes no great intelligence to see that a faithful and fruitful marriage requires superhuman
strength. Change the word superhuman to supernatural and we begin to see what we are talking
about.
Catholic Christianity is unique among the religions of the world, whether ancient as among the
Egyptians, Babylonians, Greeks and Romans before Christ, or among the living religions of the
human race.
Catholic Christianity is unique in making demands on the morality of its believers that are beyond
human nature by itself to live up to. The two hardest demands are the practice of Christian chastity
and Christian charity. Combine these two virtues, and we begin to see why Christian marriage and
the family require, indeed demand, superhuman power from God to remain faithful to for a
lifetime.
This is what Christianity is all about: living a superhuman life by means of superhuman grace
provided by Christ to those who believe that He is God who became man to enable us to witness to
His name.
That is why Christ elevated marriage to the dignity of a sacrament. He had to, otherwise what He
commanded His married followers and their families would be an idle dream.
There are certain things that human nature, by itself cannot, and the word is cannot do. Like
what? Like living for a lifetime in loving family partnership, without being seduced by selfishness
and sexual perversion that surround us like the atmosphere we breathe.

The Eucharist Provides Superhuman Strength

Entering marriage for believing Catholics is one thing. Living in Christian marriage and raising a
Christian family are something else. That is why Christ instituted the Sacrament of the Eucharist.
The moment we say, Sacrament of the Eucharist, we mean a triple sacrament:
The Sacrifice Sacrament of the Mass
The Communion Sacrament of Holy Communion, and
The Presence Sacrament of the Real Presence of Jesus Christ in the Blessed Sacrament.
Jesus Christ instituted the Holy Eucharist to give those who believe in Him the power they need to
remain alive in His grace. For married Catholics and their families this means the light and strength

they must constantly receive if they are to live out the sublime directives of the Holy Spirit for
Christian believers.
They have no choice. The world in which they live is
an adulterous world
a contraceptive world
a masturbating world
a homosexual world
a fornicating world
an abortive world, that murders unborn children in their mothers' wombs.
Not to be deceived by this world, whose prince, Christ tells us, is the devil, Catholic husbands and
wives and their families need the light that only Christ can give. He is available with this grace
through the Holy Eucharist.
Not to be seduced by this world, master minded by Satan, Catholics need the courage that only
Christ can give. He tells us not to be afraid. Why not? Because, as He says, Have confidence, I
have overcome the world.
What is He telling Christian spouses and their children? He is assuring them that He is still on earth
in the Blessed Sacrament; that He is still offering Himself daily on our altars in the Sacrifice of the
Mass; that He is literally, physically giving Himself to them in Holy Communion. Why? In order to
enable them to do what is humanly beyond their natural intelligence to comprehend and beyond
their natural will power to perform.
Catholic families have no choice. The psychological pressure from the world, the flesh and the
devil is too strong to cope with by themselves.
The Holy Eucharist must remain, if it already is, or become, if it is not, the mainstay of their family
lives. This is no option. It is a law of spiritual survival for Catholic marriages and families in every
age, and with thunderous emphasis, in our day.
At the turn of the twentieth century, Pope St. Pius X identified the first meaning of the petition of
the Lord's prayer, Give us this day our daily bread. The primary meaning of this petition refers to
the Eucharist. We are asking God in the Our Father to open the minds and hearts of believers to
their need for daily Mass, daily Holy Communion, and some daily praying before the Blessed
Sacrament. Why? To provide us with the daily sustenance that our life of grace requires.
I am speaking to professed Catholics. I am speaking about Catholic marriage and the family. I am
speaking to those whose union in Christ must be preserved by Christ, nourished by Christ, grow in
loving chastity and charity as prescribed by Christ.
Nineteen plus centuries of Catholic Christianity proves that the Holy Eucharist is absolutely
necessary for married Christians to remain faithful to each other, and selfless in their mutual love.
The Holy Eucharist is absolutely necessary for Catholic families to remain united in a world of
selfish instability.

Witness to Christ's Power to Work Miracles

If there is one thing that stands out in Christ's visible life in Palestine it is His power to work
miracles.
In one chapter after another of the Gospels, Christ performed signs and wonders that testified to His
claims to being one with the Father and that, without Him, we can do nothing to reach our eternal
destiny.
Christ changed water into wine at Cana in Galilee.
Christ restored sight to the blind, and speech to the mute.
Christ cured paralytics so they could use their limbs.
Christ calmed the storm at sea by a single word.
Christ even raised Lazarus from the grave. When He told the dead man to Come forth,
what had been a decaying corpse came out of the tomb as a living human being.
But Christ's greatest miracles were not His power over the physical laws of nature. They were His
power to change unbelieving hearts to become men and women of heroic virtue.
The pagans of the first three centuries A.D. were converted to Christ when they saw Christians
practicing chastity and charity. It was especially the faithful and fruitful love of married Christians
and the stability of Christian families, that changed pagans into believing Christians and, in the
process, changed the history of the human race.
Where did the early Christians receive the incredible strength they needed to live in Holy
Matrimony and propagate the faith through their saintly families? Remember, to become a
Christian in those times meant to expect martyrdom. Where did Christians receive the superhuman
power to live such superhuman lives? Where? From the Holy Eucharist.
It is not commonly known but should become known that in the early Church Christians heard
Mass and received Holy Communion every day. The Holy Eucharist was brought to them in prison
as they were awaiting martyrdom by fire or the sword, or by being devoured by wild beasts. We
turn to our own day. What Christ did during His visible stay on earth in first century Asia Minor,
He has continued doing down the ages by the exercise of His almighty power available in His
invisible presence in the Holy Eucharist.
It is the same
Physically same,
Historically same,
Geographically same,
Really same Jesus Christ who worked miracles at the dawn of Christianity, who is now
present in the Blessed Sacrament, offering Himself in the Mass, and received by us in the
Holy Eucharist.
What do we conclude from this? Obviously, that Catholic families be witnesses in our day to
Christ's power in their lives, as were the Christians who were mangled by lions in the Roman
Colosseum, or, like St. Thomas More, were beheaded by order of a lecherous king who discarded
his wife in sixteenth century England.

The Greatest Need Today

This brings us to our final reflection. I make bold to say that the single most important need for
Christian marriage and the family is a renewed faith in the Holy Eucharist.
There is an outstanding statement in the Gospels about Christ performing miracles. The evangelists
tell us that Jesus could not work miracles among some people because of their lack of faith.
Notice what we are saying. We are saying that the Almighty Master of Heaven and earth, the
Creator of the sun, moon and stars, when he became Man was unable to exercise His omnipotence
because of some people's lack of faith. Of course, this means that He could not, because He would
not, work miracles where the people refused to submit their minds in humble belief to His Divinity.
Now we turn to our own time and place. Would anyone doubt that in our nation in the last decade
of the twentieth century, we need an avalanche of moral miracles to preserve marriage and the
family from disintegration by the demonic forces let loose in our country today?
Only God can work a miracle and we need to change the figure, an ocean of miracles in America,
as in Canada as in England, and France and Germany and Scandinavia, to mention just a few
materially wealthy countries that are in desperate need of divine grace where so many are walking
in darkness and the shadow of eternal death.
Jesus Christ is the infinite God who became man. He became man not only to die for us on Calvary.
He became man to live with us in the Holy Eucharist. Catholics have a grave responsibility. They
are to stir up their faith in this continued presence of Jesus, now on earth, in our midst, in our day.
They are to obtain for themselves and for their contemporaries the power to live their married lives
according to the teaching of Jesus Christ. He instituted the Sacrament of Matrimony and the
Christian family to be a constant witness in an unbelieving world to what only Godbecome man can
achieve.
This divine power is accessible in the Holy Eucharist to those who have the humility to believe.
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