93 % of what you say to the people you meet is non-verbal.

Attraction and Flirting

If you are single and looking for love, here is a fact that
might surprise you. Very often we give cues and signals to
those we are attracted to without even realizing it. In
most cases, you are reading someone's signals and forming
a negative or positive impression without knowing why you
are doing so.
Non-verbal signals, or what is known as body language,
can have five times more of an effect on a person than
the actual words you may speak.

Universal Sign

One of the most common types

of body language is the smile.
The smile is an universal sign of
acceptance and happiness. A
smile that reaches the eyes is
a genuine smile that says you
are welcome to come closer.

You Can Feel It

Two Ways of Communication

Whether we realize it or not, we communicate in

two separate ways. One way is by verbal means,
and the other is by body language. In order to
completely understand what someone is saying to
you, you must not only listen to the verbal
speech, but you must also watch and read their
body language.

Secrets and Lying

Most of us feel that we're good at detecting a
lie, when actually we're successful at
recognizing deceit only slightly more than
fifty percent of the time. Of the
approximately twenty behaviors that are
regarded as deception cues, only about seven
of them are legitimate indicators, and of those
seven, all of them can be caused by factors
other than lying:
Blinking
Hand Shrugs
Increases in Vocal Pitch
Pupil Dilation
Self-touching
Speech Errors
Speech Hesitations
Even these seven don't mean much individually,
but when they appear in clusters, it's a good
indication that someone may not be speaking
truthfully. Let's look at how these cues can
appear in groups and discover why they may or
may not be good indicators of honesty.

Something else to look for is eye contact.

Sometimes you can almost feel someone looking
at you, or you catch it from the corner of your
eye. If someone you may find interesting is
looking at you, turn towards him or her and look
at his/her eyes, but for only a few seconds. A
direct stare lasting more than a few moments
can be considered aggressive or hostile. Hold
the contact for a few moments and then look
down. Don't forget to smile.

Gesture Meanings
The most obvious body language is when someone shakes their
head either back and forth or up and down. This is a widely
recognized deliberate gesture which means no or yes. Folding
one's arms in front of them means that they are not listening
to what you are saying, or, they do not agree with you.
Are they really listening to you or are they actually tuning you
out? Are they leaning forward in their seat? Are they using
full eye contact with you? Then they are probably listening
attentively. On the other hand, are they leaning back in a
relaxed position? Are they looking at television or otherwise
diverting their attention elsewhere? If so, then the other
person is only half hearing what you are saying, if they are
hearing anything at all.

Blinking and Pupil Dilation

While both more blinking and pupil dilation are
identified in research results as being deception cues,
they can indicate such a variety of other conditions
that their inclusion is dependent upon their being
observed in combination with other deception cues.
High intelligence and increased mental activity can
also result in excessive blinking, and pupil dilation can
result from arousal, attraction, or other interest.

1. Keep in mind that each person has their own

unique body language
2. Observing in context is key
3. If a person looks up at the sky, or to the sides
4. When observing others,
5. If a person talks at a fast rate and mumbles or
isn't clear on what they are saying
6. It's easy to spot a confident person;

Cues

1. Avoiding eye contact or looking down.

2.Nodding.
3.Turning the body away from the subject or person
4.Touching the face or head with their hand.
5.Raising eyebrows.
6.Looking around.
7.Leaning forward.
8.Tilted or cocked head.
9.Licking the lips.
10. Display body parts.
11. Looking at watch.
12. Eye contact.
13. Touching the face or head with their hand.
14. Tapping fingers or foot.
15. Gazing.

a) to understanding body language.

b) they are lying (trying to stall for time) or not
telling the full truth.
c) called baseline behaviors.
d) they will make prolonged eye contact and have
a strong posture.
e) they are usually thinking about something.
f) be subtle about it.

Lying and
Deception

Boredom
Interest
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Att
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Attraction

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Avoiding eye contact or looking down.

Nodding.
Turning the body away from the subject or person
Touching the face or head with their hand.
Raising eyebrows.
Looking around.
Leaning forward.
Tilted or cocked head.
Licking the lips.
Display body parts.
Looking at watch.
Eye contact.
Touching the face or head with their hand.
Tapping fingers or foot.
Gazing.

Lying and
Deception

Interest
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Att
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Boredom

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