In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate

"May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"

Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge
with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds.
Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah
leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but
Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

ANGER
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INTRODUCTION

The aim and objective to read this essay is to practice what you learn and

follow the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad ( ) and not to
become angry.

It is really common that a comment or criticism or someone behaving badly

makes someone angry. Becoming angry immediately is natural but
becoming angry is such a way that it goes beyond its limits is certainly
blameworthy.

This includes doing all the things that anger demands a person to do.

Each and everyone of us should know from which spiritual malady we suffer
from and try our utmost best to get rid of our spiritual maladies.

From these spiritual maladies, there is one malady which is anger. This is
when a person goes beyond their limits, and it is this very anger that causes
great harm to a person in the World and surely in the Hereafter.
There are many people that suffer great hardships and sorrow throughout
their lives because they carried out all the things that their anger demanded
them to do.

A common example is when the husband divorces his wife in the state of
anger without even thinking what he is doing and in the end the
consequence and result is only regret and hardships in this world and in the
hereafter.

WHAT IS ANGER?

Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils but sometimes its results in
the destruction of many noble qualities.

It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast
devoid of any sense.

• Anger is a temptation of shaytaan and deception of shaytaan

• Anger is the root of all evils.
• Anger is a spark of fire that are always bursting.
• Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)

The meaning of anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion excited by a

sense of wrong , physical pain, inflammation, mad, hot tempered, choleric,
inflamed, A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury.

Anger is the strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure.

Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure and hostility.

ANGER AND WRATH.

When someone is angry, mad, and reaches a state of having wrath against
any person, he should make a special Dua. In doing so he will cool down .

It is reported that the Messenger of Allah said ( narrated by Sulaiman Ibn

Sard and reported by Bukhari and Muslim ) that while Sulaiman was with the

Prophet ( ), two persons were blaming each other. The face of one

became red and his jugular veins swelled. the Prophet ( ) said. I know a
statement if he or she say's it then the person with anger will cool down.

The person with anger should say : "I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM SATAN
THE OUTCAST."
IS ANGER LAWFUL OR NOT ?

Anger is lawful in cases of religious affair's when its honours are at stake. It
is an effective preventive measure to safeguard the dignity of man.

A person who has no anger is called a coward because he has got no true
faith in Allah. The person fears the creation and not the creator.

This doesn't give the right for youngsters to become angry with parents
when they don't get what they want.

If a person doesn't practice Islam, a person disobeys the command of Allah

or a person doesn't listen to his parents then to become angry with such a
person can be lawful. But the person shouldn't become too angry because
in Islam extreme anger is unlawful because it creates opposition and
bitterness.

It is undesirable for a pious man to lose his temper, due to jokes, frivolous
talks, quarrels, criticism and greed for wealth.

The real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath. i.e. Anger.

It is reported in a Hadith on the authority of Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased

with him) that the messenger of Allah (Mohammed ( ) Peace and blessing
of Allah be upon him said :

"The man is not a good wrestler; the strong man is in fact the person who
controls himself at the time of anger." the above Hadith is stated in Bukhari.

Anger is unlawful because it destroys the faith of a man. Bah bin hakim
(Allah be please with him) Reported that the messenger of Allah (peace and
blessing of Allah be upon him) . Said: Verily anger spoil's faith just as aloes
spoils honey . It is stated in Bukhari.:

" A person should be cautious from being angry."

It has been narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) That

Allah's Messenger Muhammad ( ) Said:

The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength
"But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger."
In another narration by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him man said

to the Prophet Muhammad ( ) Advise me. The Prophet Muhammad ( ).

Said :

" Do not become angry

The man asked the same question again and again and the Prophet

Muhammad ( ) Replied by in case by saying:

Do not become angry and furious

By looking from the advise given by our beloved Prophet Muhammad ( )

we shouldn't become anger and furious. If we remember the advise and

saying of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ( )then the person becoming

angry will control his anger.

But the youngsters of today have forgotten the teaching of our Prophet

Muhammad ( ) there become angry and furious for small reason like if
their parent tell them to do something which their donut like there say to the
parent in anger that I donut what to do it like cleaning the house or the
toilet. So the best person is one who controls him self in anger.

Hadrat Anas: (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the messenger of

Allah ( Muhammad( ) said:

Who so takes up his tongue as treasure ,Allah will keep his secrets
concealed and who so restrains his anger, Allah will with hold his
punishment on the resurrection day and who so ascribes excuse to Allah will
accept his excuse.

So by reading this we should refrain from becoming anger. Because anger

destroys one faith. The person in anger forgets where he is and says
anything which he regrets after.

Today people are becoming angry because of the lifestyle and the society
we live in. When a person is under stress he or she tends to become angry
because the jobs not done or their children donut listen to them. There
become angry and the anger is taken out on the child.
When a person becomes angry to their parent then that mean he's angry
with Allah Paradise lies between your parent . If you treat them and help
them then Allah will reward you in this world and the hereafter. But if you
displeased your parent this means you are displeasing Allah then the person
will be deprived from Allah's mercy. and the person will get punish in the
hereafter. The aim and objective of reading this is to practice what has been
written and refine from becoming angry. To become angry for Islamic reason
is permissible but it shouldn't cause anyone harm.
Women should control their anger. because anger effects everyone. So
anger is lawful for islamic reason and if ones hourner is at risk's.

Other then this Anger is not permissible.

AT THE TIME OF ANGER

As humans beings, we have our our emotions. We react in either positive or

negative emotions. Sometimes we may lose our logic and we cannot control
our emotions. Hence, we behave in a strange way.
For those who lose control of their emotions and react negatively they have
to be advised in advance what to do in such a situation. Our beloved

Prophet ( ) gave us a prescription that makes us control our negative

behavior. By using it, we will not show our anger and madness . Our blood
pressure will stay normal. All what it takes is that a person has to read the
following statement at the time of anger and wrath.:

" I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM THE OUTCAST SHAITAN "

( THE WORD YOU HAVE TO READ IS IN ARABIC AND IT IS TAW'WAZ.)

From a personal experience, dealing with children fighting one another and
with family counselling, this prescription has worked beautifully. I
enencourage that we recite it loudly for at least three times at the time of
anger . Allah will send special angels to protect us from the mischievous
Shaitan.

Remember what Allah said in Surah Fussilat

( This surah is in the 24th parah Ayat 36 in the holy Qurran ) the
meaning is below ( Ayah 36):
 " AND IF AN EVIL WHISPER FROM SHAITAN ( SATAN) TRIES TO TURN

YOU AWAY ( OH MUHAMMAD( ) ( FROM DOING GOOD ), THEN SEEK

REFUGE IN ALLAH. VERILY, HE IS THE ALL-HEARER, THE ALL- KNOWER "

So the best person is one who controls himself in anger.

When a person is angry he should make wudu (Ablution ) ) and then he
should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran the anger should have gone
away.

The person should prey Taw'waz (aeo zo billahi mnashayta nirazam) and
then prey ( Ayatul kursi) which is in the Holy Qur'ran . ( 3rd para 2nd ruku )

Every person male or female should try to recite the Holy Qur'ran everyday
because by reciting the Holy Qur'ran it takes away the anger and the heart
will become clean.

Anger effects everyone it doesn't matter if the person is young, old, male,
and female. So one should try to control one’s anger. There is a great
reward given to the person who controls his anger.

May Allah give eveyone the abilty to practices upon the Qur'ran and the way

shown by our Prophet Muhammad ( ).

SAYING OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD ( ) ABOUT ANGER.

Allah's Messenger ( )Said a Muslim is never allowed to stay angry with his
Muslim brother over three day's , because he who does that, then dies will
go to hell ( FIRE ) . ( This is reported by Abu Dawood ) (Sahih Al - Jami )
( page 7609).

The messenger of Allah (Prophet Muhammad ( says about anger:

Anger is the effect of shaytaan and shaytaan was created from fire. And
water extinguishes fire."

It is narrated in Bukhari that two people were arguing in the presence of

Rasulullah ( ) One of the two became so angry that his face went red and

his veins swelled. Rasulullah ( ) Lifted his face towards that person and
said to him that I know a sentence if you were to say it your anger will go
away. The sentence is ( taw’wz ). The translation is as follows:

I SEEK ALLAH'S PROTECTION FROM THE CURSED DEVIL"

THE VIRTUES OF CONTROLLING ONES ANGER.

There are many virtues in Ahadeeth recarding a person who controls his

anger. In Tabraani . ( A book of Hadeeth ). It is narrated that Rasulullah ( )

Said : Who ever controls there temper Allah will take away punishment from
him and who so ever safe guard's his tongue Allah will conceal his sins.
In another Hadeeth which is narrated in (Tirmizi and Abu Dawood):

Rasulullah( ) Who ever controls their temper in a state that if he wanted he

could have took revenge. Then On the day of judgement Allah will call him in
front of everyone and will give him the choice of picking the Hoor of his
choice. So by controlling your anger Allah will give the choice of picking any
Hoor from Paradise (Jannat). But today youngsters have forgotten the world
hear after and there are to indulge in this world that we have forgotten the
command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (

) so from now on we should change our lifestyle. And we should live our
life according to the way shown by our beloved Prophet

Muhammad ( ). because success in this world and the hereafter lies in the
command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad.(

). May Allah gives us the ability to practice upon this ( Aamin ).

THE REMEDY FOR ANGER SHOWN BY OUR PROPHET MUHAMMAD (

)
.
The remedy for anger is that when a person who is angry should control his
anger .
In the Ahadith there are three way's shown to control ones Anger.

1). is to say Ta'awwuz

2). is to doWudu (Abulution ) or drink water.
3). is to lie down on the floor
So when a person becomes angry he should perform ablution. Then the
person should lie down because when a person is lying he becomes humble
because this is the quality of the earth due to it being low and not bursting.
This is the opposite to fire which is the origin of shaytaan which results to
pride. When a person is lying down he is far from revenge and retaliation
then a person who is sitting is further then the one who is standing.

In reality anger is a spark of fire and its flames are always bursting. The cure
is that you extinguish t
he fire with water so that the evilness doesn't spread. i.e. by water it means
to make wudu( Ablution) .

The person who is angry should make wudu.then the person should recite
the verses from the Holy Qur'ran which is (AYAH KURSI ) which is in the (3rd
para, 2nd ruku). by reciting the Holy Qur'ran the person with anger it will
cool him down because Anger is from shaytaan.

The person who is angry should be left alone to cool down and the above
remedy should be practiced .The anger should go away.
In the state of anger one should use the above mentioned remedy so that he
doesn't regret later.
 In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate

"May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"

Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge
with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds.
Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah
leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but
Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Coping with an Ill-Tempered Child

- Sheikh Salman al-Oadah

It never ceases to amaze me how many people complain about their

children’s bad tempers and have not the faintest idea what to do when their
children get angry.

We are often surprised and hurt by the things we hear our children say in
anger, their hands folded across their chests, words like: “I hate you!” and “I
don’t want you!” and “I don’t love you anymore!”

Children say such things when they are angry, and parents are often at a
loss to respond with anything other than harsh words, curses, and a good
smack. Most parents have no better remedy to administer and justify
themselves by saying that they are disciplining their children for their bad
manners.

In truth, cursing and hitting the child is nothing more than a hasty reaction
from the parents dressed up in the guise of “discipline”.
There are many things that the parents need to take into consideration in
order to handle the situation correctly and remedy their children’s tempers:

* When we consider the guidance of the Prophet (peace be upon him), we

observe that he never once struck his wife or servant. I am not merely
discussing the question of “to hit or not to hit”. What I am saying is that
hitting often exacerbates the problem far more than it remedies it.

* Many parents are confused about what they should do first when their child
gets angry – should they focus on the cause of the anger or on the anger
itself?

In my personal estimation, it seems that seeking a solution for the cause of

the anger is better than trying to remedy the anger itself. Eliminating the
cause of a problem is invariably a solution to the problem.

* If we as adults fail to exhibit any self-restraint when we are angry, how can
we expect our children to do so?

It is important for us to raise our children to know how to stay calm and
collected and deal with things in a rational manner. If we are neglectful in
this, then we will have no recourse but to calm the child down when he gets
angry and then try to find out how to deal with the cause of his anger.

There is an old Arab saying that goes: “You cannot give what you do not
have.” This is true. If the parent has a bad temper and is unable to control
himself when he gets angry, how can he fault his child for the same?

The parent is the role model.

The child does what he sees his parents doing.

* Why should we not discuss the matter with our children when they get
angry? Isn’t it better to use such a tone than it is to cry and shout, which
only causes the child even more distress? There is no problem with using a
conversational tone in discussing matters with our children.

In the Quran, we see that the Lord of All the Worlds uses such a tone with his
angels and His Prophets. We see the Prophet Solomon (peace be upon him)
using such a tone even when he speaks to a bird. Is not it more appropriate
for us to do so with our children who are our own flesh and blood?

Many parents address their children in a demeaning, condescending tone,

simply because their children are small and their young minds have not
matured. The parents see that the time to show respect has not yet arrived. I
see this as a big mistake, though one that is very common.
If we look to the Prophet (peace be upon him) for guidance, we see that he
behaved very respectfully towards children.

* We need to exercise a lot of patience when dealing with children.

A child is naturally eager and impressionable, with an unlimited imagination.

It is wrong to expect him to behave like an adult when he has yet to learn to
distinguish between what is beneficial and what is harmful.

This explains to us the reason why the Prophet (peace be upon him)
descended from the pulpit to meet his grandchildren al-Hasan and al-
Husayn, even though many prominent Companions were standing before
him.

* It is a serious mistake for our children to feel unloved by his parents. This is
the case even when the child is being punished.

The feeling of love should be ever-present, even when administering bitter

medicine. This is especially true since our children have hold of our hearts,
and in spite of their tender years, they have an influence over us.

* We need to accustom our children to communicating their feelings to us, to

express themselves properly when they are angry instead of crying and
shouting.

When we come to know the cause of the anger, we need to speak to our
children on their own level and explain matters to them in a way that they
can understand. We cannot deal with them as if they were adults like
ourselves, we must deal with them on their own level, no matter how trivial
their problems may seem to us.

We can think about how a little girl took the Prophet’s hand and he allowed
her to lead him around wherever she wanted to go.

A child needs to feel that he lives in an environment of controlled freedom.

He should not live in an atmosphere of constant control and domination so
that he represses his feelings and his identity.

* In one survey, it was determined that 70% of the children living in the Gulf
region suffer from psychological disorders of one kind or another.

We find ourselves between two opposite extremes – that of going overboard

in controlling and disciplining our children and that of utter laxity. What is
needed is a just balance.
I know some very respectable people who insist on pining over every detail
when it comes to “raising” their children, so much so that the child can
scarcely breathe without being taken to account for it. When the father
comes to me with his son in tow, the boy’s face is ashen and he is visibly
disturbed. This is because the child is not allowed to act in any way other
than according to his father’s mindset, which is an impossible burden for the
mind of a small child.

* We must teach our children to seek means to control their anger.

We might instruct them to perform ablutions or to sit down if they are

standing or to take hold of a book or some other object. If he does so and his
anger subsides, then he should be commended and rewarded for keeping his
anger under control. Do not withhold the praise when your child keeps
himself calm. Let him know with your words and gestures that you recognize
his achievement. Give him a little token of appreciation, even just the pen in
your shirt pocket.

* Allow the child to role-play. Be the angry one and let your child try to calm
you down. Let his try whatever means he feels are appropriate.

* It is better for a child to say “I feel angry because of this or that” than it is
for him to scream and shout.

* The dictatorial approach is not always the right one. We need to avoid
saying things like “Shut up!” “Get out of my sight!” “If I get my hands on
you, I am going to break your head!” and “Don’t use that impudent tone with
me!”

At times, might we rather say: “Dear, I am your father (or mother, as the
case may be) and I love you. I feel it when you are angry, so do not distress
me so.” What is important is for the child to empathize with your feelings.
The child today will be an adult tomorrow, and if we do not develop such an
empathy with our children when they are young, we may regret it down the
road.

* We should take to heart the example of the Prophet (peace be upon him).
Anas said about him: “I swear by Allah. I have never seen anyone show more
mercy to his family that Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him).” [Sahih
Muslim (2316)]

The Prophet (peace be upon him) loved children. He wept when his little son
Ibrâhîm died.

Whenever a child was born, they would bring the child to the Prophet (peace
be upon him) and he would offer supplications for the child. Sometimes he
would change a child’s name to a better one. He used to play with children
and humor them.

When al-Hasan, the Prophet’s grandson came running into the Prophet’s
room and jumped down in front of him, the Prophet (peace be upon him)
embraced him and kissed him and said: “O Allah! Love him and love those
who love him.” [Sahih al-Bukhârî (2122) and Sahih Muslim (2421)]

He would go to the mosque, carrying either al-Hasan or al-Husayn on his

shoulder. Once he prayed his prayers while carrying Umamah bint Zaynab in
his arms. He consoled a small child whose pet bird had died. He would even
seek the permission of a child sitting to his right to allow him to offer a drink
first to some elders on his left. When the child refused to waive his right, the
Prophet (peace be upon him) served the child first. We see where `Amr b.
Salamah was appointed to lead the prayers for his people though he was
only six years old, simply because he was the most knowledgeable among
them of the Qur’ân.

Examples like these abound, and when we regard them, the greatness of the
Prophet’s character becomes all the more evident to us. We realize that the
best schools of education and childrearing in the East and West are in need
of the light of our Prophet’s example.
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This is information regarding Short Temper according to Authentic Hadith.
You just examine yourself may be someone suffering from this type of
problem. As it affects your personality!

Short Temper
Anger is a tendency that comes from the Shaitan. Only Allah (SWT) knows
how much evil and sin results from it. Hence Islam has a great deal to say
about this negative characteristic and the Prophet (SAW) described remedies
for ridding oneself of this problem and limiting its effects. These include the
following:
Seeking refuge with Allah from the Shaitan. Sulaymaan ibn Sard said: "I was
sitting with the Prophet (SAW), and there were two men swearing at one
another. One of them was red in the face and the veins of his neck were
standing out. The Prophet (SAW) said: 'I know a word which, if only he would
say it, this (anger) would leave him. If he said, "A'oodhu billaahi min al-
shaytaan (I seek refuge with Allah from the Shaitan),", this [anger] would
leave him.'" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 6/377).
He (SAW) also said:
"If a man gets angry and says 'A'oodhu billah (I seek refuge with Allah),' his
anger will cease." (Saheeh al-Jaami' al-Sagheer, no. 695).
Keeping quiet. The Messenger (SAW) said:
"If any one of you gets angry, let him keep quiet." (Reported by Imaam
Ahmad, al-Musnad, 1/239; Saheeh al-Jaami', 693, 4027).
Anger usually makes a person lose control, often to the extent that he may
utter words of kufr (Allah forbid), or curses, or the word of divorce (talaq)
which will destroy his family, or foul language that will earn him the enmity
of others. Keeping quiet is the way to avoid all of these evils.
Keeping still. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:
"If any one of you gets angry, let him sit down if he is standing. If his anger
goes away, (that is good), otherwise let him lie down."
The narrator of this hadeeth was Abu Dharr (RA), who told the following
story: he was watering his animals at a trough, when some other people
came along. He said, "Who among you will help Abu Dharr to water his
animals and ....?" A man said, "I will," but he broke the trough. Abu Dharr
was standing, so he sat down, then he lay down. Someone asked him, "O
Abu Dharr, why did you sit down then lie down?" He said, "Because the
Messenger of Allah (SAW) said … [and quoted the Hadith]." (The Hadith
with the whole story is reported in Musnad Ahmad, 5/152. See also Saheeh
al-Jaami', no. 694).
According to another report, Abu Dharr (RA) was watering his animals at a
trough when another man made him angry, so he sat down (Fayd al-Qadeer
al-Mannaawi, 1/408).
One of the benefits of this Prophetic teaching is that it prevents the angry
person from doing something crazy and out of control. An angry person
could inflict harm or even kill ‘as we shall see shortly’ or he could destroy
property and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will explode in
this fashion, and lying down makes it even less likely that he will do
something reckless or harmful. Al-'Allaamah al-Khattaabi (may Allah have
mercy on him) said in his commentary on Abu Dawood: "The one who is
standing is ready to move and destroy things. The one who is sitting is less
likely to do so, and the one who is lying is not able to do anything of the sort.
It seems that the Prophet (SAW) commanded the angry person to sit down or
lie down in order to prevent him from doing anything that he would later
regret. And Allaah knows best." (Sunan Abi Dawood wa ma'ahu ma'aalim al-
sunan, 5/141)
Remembering the advice of the Messenger of Allah (SAW). Abu Hurayrah
(SAW) reported that a man came to the Prophet (SAW) and said: "Advise
me." He said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated his request several
times, and each time the response was, "Do not become angry." (Reported
by al-Bukhaari, Fath al-Baari, 10/465).
According to another report, the man said, "I thought about what the Prophet
(SAW) had said, and I realized that anger is the source of all evil." (Musnad
Ahmad, 5/373).
"Do not get angry, and Paradise will be yours." (A saheeh hadeeth. Saheeh
al-Jaami', 7374. Ibn Hajar attributed it to al-Tabaraani. See al-Fath, 4/465).
Remembering what Allah (SWT) has promised to those who avoid the causes
of anger and strive to control themselves is the best way to extinguish the
flames of anger. The Prophet (SAW) has told us about this great reward:
"Whoever suppresses his anger at the time when he could express it openly,
Allah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of
Resurrection." (Reported by al-Tabaraani, 12/453; Saheeh al-Jaami', 176).
Another immense reward is described in the Hadith: "Whoever suppresses
his anger when he is able to vent it, Allah will call him before all the people
on the Day of Resurrection and let him choose whoever of the hoor al-'iyn he
wishes." (Reported by Abu Dawood, 4777, and others. Classed as hasan in
Saheeh al-Jaami', 6518).
Knowing the high rank and distinction that is bestowed upon the one who
controls himself. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said,
"The strong man is not the one who can wrestle another to the ground; the
strong man is the one who can control himself when he is angry." (Reported
by Ahmad, 2/236. The hadeeth is agreed upon).
The more angry a person gets, the more highly valued is his self-control. The
Prophet (SAW) said:
"The real strong man is the one who gets intensely angry, so that his face
reddens and his hair stands on end, but he suppresses his anger."(Reported
by Imaam Ahmad, 5/367; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami', 3859).
The Prophet (SAW) used an incident that took place in front of his Sahabah
as an opportunity to reinforce this lesson. Anas (RA) reported that the
Prophet (SAW) passed by some people who were wrestling, and asked,
"What is this?" They told him, "So-and-so is a strong man. No one challenges
him but he beats them at wrestling." The Prophet (SAW) said,
"Shall I not tell you who is stronger than him? A man who is mistreated by
another, but suppresses his anger, has defeated his own shaytan and the
shaytan of the one who mistreated him." (Reported by al-Bazzaar. Ibn Hajar
said that its isnaad is hasan. Al-Fath, 10/519).
Following the guidance of the Prophet (SAW) with regard to anger.
He is our example, and his attitude towards anger is clearly demonstrated in
many ahaadeeth, of which one of the most famous was reported by Anas
(RA), who said: "I was walking with the Messenger of Allah (SAW), and he
was wearing a Najraani cloak with a stiff collar. He was accosted by a
Bedouin who pulled his cloak roughly. I looked at the Prophet's (SAW) neck
and saw the marks left by the collar. The Bedouin said: 'O Muhammad, give
me some of the wealth of Allah that you have!' The Prophet (SAW) turned to
him and smiled, and ordered that he should be given something." (Reported
by al-Bazzaar. Ibn Hajar said that its isnaad is hasan).
Another way in which we may follow the example of the Prophet (SAW) is by
making our anger for the sake of Allah (SWT), when the limits set by Allah
(SWT) are violated. This is the worthy kind of anger. The Prophet (SAW)
became angry when he was told about the imaam who was putting people
off praying because his recitation was too long. He became angry when he
saw a curtain decorated with pictures of animate creatures in 'Aisha's (RA)
house. He became angry when Usamah (RA) spoke to him about the
Makhzoomi woman who was guilty of theft, and said to him, "Are you
interceding concerning one of the punishments prescribed by Allah?" He
became angry when he was asked questions he disliked. His anger was only
for the sake of Allah (SWT).
Knowing that suppressing anger is one of the signs of taqwa (piety).
Allah (SWT) has praised certain people in His Book, and the Prophet (SAW)
highly commended them. There have been prepared for them Gardens as
wide as the heavens and the earth. One of their characteristics is that they
"… spend (in Allah's Cause - deeds of charity, alms, etc.) in prosperity and
in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-
Muhsinun (the good-doers)." (Al-Imran 3:134)
These are the people whose good qualities Allaah has mentioned, people
whom others admire and want to catch up with. Another of their
characteristics is that
"...when they are angry, they forgive." (Ash-Shura 42:37)
Paying attention when one is reminded.
Anger is something natural, with regard to which people differ. It may be
very hard for a person not to get angry, but a sincere person, if he becomes
angry and is reminded about Allah (SWT), will remember Him and will stay
within the limits that He has prescribed. Some examples of this follow.
Ibn 'Abbaas (RA) reported that a man asked permission to see 'Umar (RA),
and permission was given. The man said, "O son of al-Khattaab, by Allah, you
are not giving us much, and you are not ruling us fairly!" 'Umar (RA) became
so angry that he was about to hit the man, but al-Hirr ibn Qays (who was
among the people sitting with 'Umar) said, "O Ameer al-Mu'mineen, Allah
said to His Prophet (SAW):
'Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish (i.e.,
don't punish them).' (Al-A'raf 7:199),
and this man is one of the foolish." By Allah, 'Umar (RA) did not take the
matter any further when this was recited to him. He adhered to the words of
Allah (SWT) (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 8/304).
This is how the Muslim should be, not like the evil hypocrite who, when he
got angry and was told about the hadeeth of the Prophet (SAW), and was
advised by one of the Companions of the Prophet (SAW) to seek refuge with
Allaah from the Shaytaan, said, "Do you think there is something wrong with
me? Do you think I am crazy? Go away!" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath,
1/465).
We seek refuge with Allah (SWT) from failure. Ameen!
Knowing the bad effects of anger.
The bad effects of anger are many, harming both the self and others. A
person may swear and utter obscenities, and may hit others, lashing out with
no control. It may even lead to killing. The following story contains a lesson.
'Alqamah ibn Waa'il reported that his father (may Allah be pleased with him)
told him: "I was sitting with the Messenger of Allah (SAW) when a man came
along, leading another by a twisted rope. He said, 'O Messenger of Allah, this
man killed my brother.' The Messenger of Allah (SAW) asked, 'Did you kill
him?' He said, 'Yes, I killed him.' He asked, 'How did you kill him?' He said,
'He and I were hitting trees to make the leaves fall (so we could use them for
animal fodder). He swore at me, so I got angry and hit him on the side of the
head with an axe, and I killed him. (Reported by Muslim in al-Saheeh, 1307).
Even if anger does not go as far as this, there may still be broken bones and
injuries. If the person with whom a man is angry runs away, he may turn his
anger upon himself, tearing his clothes, slapping his cheeks, falling
unconscious, or breaking dishes and furniture.
One of the worst things that result from anger and cause social ills and
family breakdown is talaq (divorce). Ask many of those who have divorced
their wives how and when it happened, and they will tell you, "It was in a
moment of anger."
Lives are shattered and children are lost as a result. Feelings of regret and
failure haunt people's minds, and life becomes bitter all because of anger. If
only they had remembered Allah (SWT) and come back to their senses,
restrained their anger and sought refuge with Allah (SWT) from the Shaitan,
what happened would not have happened. Going against shari'ah only ever
results in loss.
The physical harm that results from anger is very serious, as the doctors
describe, such as thrombosis, high blood pressure, fatal heart attacks,
diabetes, etc.
We ask Allah (SWT) for good health. Ameen!
The angry person should think about himself at the time of anger.
If the angry person could see himself in the mirror at the time of anger, he
would despise himself and how he looks when his color changes, he shakes
uncontrollably, his face reddens, the veins of his neck stand out and he
behaves like a crazy person. He would be put off by his own appearance, but
it is well known that the ugliness that exists inside a person is even worse
than any that may appear on the outside. How happy the Shaitan must be
when someone is in this state!
We seek refuge with Allah (SWT) from the Shaitan and from failure. Ameen!
Du'aa'.
This is the believer's constant weapon. He asks his Lord to rid him of evils,
problems and bad characteristics, and he seeks refuge with Allah (SWT) from
falling into the pit of kufr and wrongdoing caused by anger, because one of
the three qualities which will save a person from Hellfire is being just and fair
both at times of contentment and at times of anger. (Saheeh al-Jaami',
3039). One of the du'aa's of the Prophet (SAW) was:
"Allaahumma bi 'ilmika'l-ghaybi wa qudratika 'ala'l-khalqi aheeni ma
'alimta'l-hayaata khayran li, wa tawaffani idha 'alimta'l-wafaata khayran li.
Allaahumma wa as'aluka khashyataka fi'l-ghaybi wa'l-shahaadah, wa
as'aluka kalimat al-ikhlaasi fi'l-ridaa wa'l-ghadab, wa as'aluka'l-qasda fi'l-
faqri wa'l-ghinaa, wa as'aluka na'eeman la yanfad, wa qurrata 'aynin la
tanqati', wa as'aluka'l-ridaa bi'l-qadaa', wa as'aluka bard al-'aysh ba'd al-
mawt, wa as'aluka ladhdhat al-nadhr ila wajhika wa'l-shawqa ilaa liqaa'ik, fi
ghayri darraa' mudirrah wa laa fitnati mudillah. Allaahumma zayyinnaa bi
zeenati'l-eemaan wa'j'alnaa hudaatan muhtadeen"
(O Allah, by Your knowledge of the Unseen and Your power over all creation,
keep me alive so long as You know life is good for me, and bring about my
death when you know death is good for me. O Allah, I ask You to make me
fear You in secret and in the open, I ask You to make me speak sincerely at
times of contentment and at times of anger, I ask You to make me be
moderate in poverty and in wealth, I ask You for a blessing that does not
end, contentment that never ceases, and for acceptance of Your decree. I
ask You for a good life after death, and I ask You for the joy of looking upon
Your face and the longing to meet You, with no harmful adversity or
misleading trial (fitnah). O Allah, adorn us with the beauty of faith, guide us
and let us be a means of guidance for others)." (Reported by al-Nisaa'i in al-
Sunan, 3/55; and by al-Haakim. Saheeh al-Jaami', 1301).
 Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.
In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate

"May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"

Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek

refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad
deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and
whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness
that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad
is His slave and Messenger.

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Anger for the sake of Allaah:

A part of Imaan
By Asma bint Shameem
Few weeks back, we talked about the reprehensible kind of anger, the kind
that is fueled by pride and selfish desires for the nafs. Anger that inspires a
person to avenge his own personal feelings is indeed blameworthy.
However, there is also the kind of anger which is praiseworthy the kind of
anger that is an integral part of our Deen without which ones Imaan is weak
and bereft This is the anger for the sake of Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta ala.
There is a misconception in our society and culture that ALL anger is bad
some of us even go as far as to say that all anger is HARAAM!
But that is absolutely NOT TRUE.
The Prophet (pbuh) did got angry:
To the contrary, there are many examples in the Sunnah that show us that
the Prophet (pbuh) got angry. However, his anger was never to defend
himself or for personal reasons, Rather, it was to ensure the dominance of
Allahs Word..the protection of His boundaries.
The Companions relate that the Prophet (pbuh) would never became angry
for anything. However, if the sanctity of Allah was profaned, then nothing
could assuage his anger. [Bukhaari and Muslim]
So when the Prophet saw a curtain having pictures (of animals) in Umm ul
Mo mineen Aishas(RA) house His face got red with anger, and then he got
hold of the curtain and tore it into pieces. The Prophet said, "Such people as
paint these pictures will receive the severest punishment on the Day of
Resurrection ." (Bukhaari)
And when a man was brought to the Prophet in a state of intoxication, The
Prophet felt it hard (was angry) and ordered all those who were present in
the house, to beat him. (Bukhaari)
And when a man came to the Prophet and said "I keep away from the
morning prayer only because such and such person prolongs the prayer
when he leads us in it. The narrator said: I had never seen Allah's Apostle
more furious in giving advice than he was on that day. (Bukhaari)
And there are many, many other examples. His was the anger for the sake of
Allaah, when His rights were violated when His religion was mocked.
This is the kind of anger that a Muslim should feel when Allaah is disobeyed,
his religion is attacked, his beliefs blasphemed, and the honor and lives of
the people are transgressed against. Indeed, what kind of piety is there in a
person who witnesses Allahs sanctities being violated, His religion
abandoned, the Sunnah of His Messenger shunned, and yet remains still with
a cold heart and a shut mouth!
So,
For every defiance and disobedience to Allaah one should feel angry
For every Sunnah being desecrated one should feel angry
For every Bidah being introduced in the name of Ibadah one should feel
angry
For every Halaal being shunned and every Haraam being adopted one should
feel angry
For every human right that is being violated.one should feel angry
For every act of terror every transgression..every oppression every
wrongdoing.one should feel angry
And Every time your kids lie or, your family doesnt wake up for Fajr or your
wife/daughter goes out without Hijaabone should feel angry.
Because these are the acts that ANGER ALLAAH!
These are deeds that bring on His wrath!
These are actions that go AGAINST the teachings of His Messenger (pbuh).
And whatever makes Allah angry should make us angry, too!
Whatever displeases the Prophet (pbuh) should displease us, too!
You will not find any people who believe in Allaah and the Last Day, making
friendship with and loving those who oppose Allaah and His Messenger, even
though they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their people.
[al-Mujaadilah 58:22]
The Prophet (pbuh) said: The strongest bond of faith is loyalty for the sake of
Allah and opposition for His sake; love for the sake of Allah and enmity for
His sake.
Yet, we have slowly become immune to all this. We have totally lost all
perspective of what is of utmost importance. We choose to ignore the slack
in religion, but we are very harsh when it comes to the Dunya.
We get angry if our kids are late for school but we let them sleep through
Fajr!
We get angry if they dont work hard for their Final Exams.but we dont worry
much about how they have prepared for their REAL Final Exam.the one in the
Aakhirah!
We are anxious to pay our taxes on time, yet it doesnt bother us if we didnt
pay our Zakah this year.or the year before.or the year before.!
When someone disobeys our rules, we are harsh and quick to reprimand, yet
we are constantly disobeying Allaah and His Messenger (pbuh) and dont
even give it second thought!
When someone insults us, we are ready to fight him yet when someone
insults the Prophet (pbuh) by introducing BIDAH in the religion, we turn the
other cheek!
When we are inconvenienced in the slightest, we are SOOO sore..yet when
Muslims all over the world are being oppressed, we think its their problem!
Subhaan Allaah!
We, as true Muslims, should feel this anger to disobedience, the resentment
to injustice.
However, this anger, if it is truly and sincerely for Allah's sake, will only
inspire us to noble deeds and to personal sacrifice, and never to base,
unjust, immoral, or other un-Islamic actions.
The solution lies in coming back to Allaah, making sincere repentance, and to
educate the masses, spread the word of Allaah, establish the Sunnah,
striving hard in His Cause with love and sincerity and setting a model for
others to see with ones own exemplary behavior.
May Allaah guide us and give us the Tawfeeq to love what He loves and hate
what He hates, as this is an essential part of ones Aqeedah, without which
ones Imaan is incomplete.

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