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EXCERPT: Section 2
PERSONAL SPAC
If you are closer than arm’s reach, than you are in someone’s personal space. This is
the first lesson you must learn. To create more space in crowded areas such as
elevators and bars, people often tense up and use their arms as protection. They will
hold them close to their body – often crossed – and will also avoid eye contact. If a
woman you know is doing this in your presence and you are not in an elevator than she
is sending you a strong message of disinterest. You will not get very far with a person
who holds closed postures so you would be best advised to give them some space, back
up a few paces, and allow them to reduce their tension. If a woman steps back when
you approach her, it does not necessarily mean that she does not like you, she just
needs more time to get comfortable. People guard their space passionately,
wherever it is, and will not appreciate it if you invade it. Respecting people’s
intimate space involves not invading it with objects, like your bag or jacket, or
with body parts unless they are welcomed.
The need for space is particular to a specific person and is normally a function of their
environment. If they live in a densely populated area and frequent busy malls,
elevators and so forth, they will be more accustomed to having people in close
proximity. Normally, city people will tolerate someone in their space more so than
those who live in rural settings. However, it is quite common to give strangers as much
space as reasonably possible. For example, in an empty elevator, it would be
unreasonable to be so close as to touch a stranger (even one you like). This is
completely reversed however in a full elevator, where it is assumed that
some accidental touching will occur.
Being sensitive to a woman’s need for space is a given. If you act dominant and
enter her space without her permission, you are guaranteed to leave her with a
bad impression. All women perceive men as threatening who enter their personal
space
SECTION 2
Dave is making another poor approach here by The tables have been turned in this situation. This illustrates
ignoring body positions and levels. He has cornered the importance of body positions and levels well. Scarlett is
Scarlett into the booth. She is showing that she is not towering over Dave making him feel subordinate and
impressed by folding her arms across her body. intimidated. The plane her body makes encroaches near, and
She is trying to act passively assively confrontational by possibly over,, the halfway mark on the table. Dave is showing
avoiding eye contact. Dave should even the planes of their that he is being aggressed upon and is pulling his drink toward
bodies and resume positive dialogue as Scarlett isn’t himself and trying to avoid direct eye contact by moving his
receptive to his current advances. chin away from her. It is evident that Scarlett is putting Dave
down and asserting
serting her position over him. These are all
indicators of disinterest as she is using body language to
establish control over the relationship.