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Dance Floor Game Decoded
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Contents
Introduction
Angelos Story
The Allure of Dance Floor Game

Solo Dancing Versus Partner Dancing
Is the Dance Floor a Trap?
Why Do Dance Floor Game?
You Dont Have to Be a Great Dancer Just a Competent One
Chapter 1: Dance Floor Donts
Dance Floor Game Mistakes

Lacking Tact in the Approach
Parking on the Dance Floor
Dancing with Your Wing
Trying to Have a Conversation
Taking Action
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Chapter 2: Would You Like to Dance?
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Dance Floor Logistics

Large and Small Dance Floors
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The Approach
Eye Contact
Lead Her to the Floor
Open Hands
Single Targets
Group Theory
Capitalizing on Another Players Mistake
Matching and Mirroring
Backing into Her
Approaching from Behind
Pawning and Working the Room
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Taking Action
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Chapter 3: Taking It Further
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Escalation and Compliance

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Simultaneous Escalation and Compliance Steps
Taking Advantage of Buying Temperature Raised by Another Guy
Avoiding Neediness
Have an Abundance Mentality
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Taking Action
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Chapter 4: Transitioning
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Moving Off the Dance Floor

Know the Venue
Attraction
Tactics for Extraction
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Know the Right People

The Doorman
The DJ
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Taking Action
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A Few Last Words
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Frequently Asked Questions
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Appendix A: The 2-step
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Appendix B: Learning Rhythm
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Introduction

Angelos Story
For years (Im talking about starting out in high school, throughout my college
years and well into my 20s) I couldnt figure out why I wasnt having any success with
women in clubs. Night after night, weekend after weekend Id be tearing up the dance
floor and yet Id leave empty handed no grinding, no make outs, no numbers. People
always gave compliments on my dancing skills so I knew I didnt look like a dork. Yet
guys who couldnt dance half as good as me were getting the girls. What was I doing
wrong?
I use to think that my dancing would speak for itself and therefore girls would line
up to get with me. I felt I didnt need to approach girls. Why should I? Im a kick ass
dancer so they should come to me. How untrue that was!
In my early 30s my dance skills kept improving but my dance floor game
continued to remain non-existent. At the same time my verbal game was advancing by
leaps and bounds. Years spent learning and practicing the social and conversational
dynamics between men and women had started to pay off. My dancing was still better
than my ability to speak to women yet my success rate with girls in the verbal arena was
dramatically higher. Eventually I reached the point where I was able to talk to a girl as
easily as I could dance in a nightclub. Women soon found me charming when I spoke
and as a result my triumphs, through verbal game only, increased substantially.
I cant recall how it happened but one day I had an epiphany: why not apply what
Ive learned about verbally interacting with women to the dance floor! Things like
approaching, attraction, escalation, testing, and even smiling. It took trial and error and
getting rid of my ego to translate my verbal game to a dance environment. In time
things started falling in place. Since I first started clubbing in my teen years, I had
collected an abundance of information from watching guys successfully (and
unsuccessfully) game girls on the dance floor and about clubs in general.
Unfortunately, I didnt know how to use all that data at the time. Now, having this
information became useful in dissecting and converting verbal game to dance floor
game.
At first my dance floor game achievements were few some random grinding
here and there. However, as my confidence grew so did my success. Things began
making sense and my interactions with girls on the dance floor were no longer arbitrary.
I was able to dance with any girl I wanted without having to speak a word to her. That
was just the beginning and it only got better. What blew my mind was that I had the
ability to meet a girl on the dance floor, grind with her, make out, and even touch her
intimately without ever having had a conversation! On top of that, I could get the girl to
leave the dance floor with me so I could run verbal game to obtain her number or to get
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even more physical. After many years of eluding me, I finally had command of the
dance floor.
Having developed a structure for dance floor game has helped me immensely.
Its given me confidence and a sense of control for the disorder that occurs on a
nightclub (or even house party) dance floor. Furthermore, I discovered that one does
not need exceptional dance skills to be successful at dance floor game. Which means
the system Ive developed can be learned and used by someone with minimal dance
experience! In Dance Floor Game Decoded I teach that system to you. This e-book is
the culmination of years of knowledge and I hope you are able to use it with great
success.

The Allure of Dance Floor Game

Solo Dancing Versus Partner Dancing
The tactics described in this manual apply mainly to what I refer to as solo
dancing. With this type of dancing a partner is not required although you can still dance
with one if desired. Examples would be dancing at nightclubs, house parties, wedding
receptions, etc. Partner dancing (e.g. salsa, swing, ballroom), on the other hand,
requires that you have someone to dance with. For example, you cant dance waltz or
tango without a partner.
In terms of dance floor game, I favor solo over partner dancing. With partner
dancing there is too much competition from other men. Once your dance is over with a
girl theres usually another guy waiting to get the next dance with her. Typically, you
have only a few moments to talk with her before shes taken away. Furthermore, unless
youre an amazing dancer, theres usually some other male with flashier moves and
more experience to impress the girl.
With solo dancing, competition and interruptions are fewer. Solo dancing lacks
structure, which is a deterrent for most guys. In my experience, approximately 85% of
the male population in a club does not or cannot dance (I live in Southern California and
this is true with just about every venue Ive been to). They dont know how to move their
feet, look stiff, uncomfortable, and lack rhythm. All these things are enough to make a
man avoid the dance floor.
Because partner dancing has formal set of rules to follow its easier for a man to
learn. You can easily go to a studio and sign-up for salsa or swing classes, learn from
an instructor, and within weeks youll have a grasp of the basic steps. Its the lack of
structure that makes solo dancing favorable for someone with dance floor game. Most
men cant dance solo and therefore competition is low.
Is the Dance Floor a Trap?

For many men the dance floor is a trap. The various arguments against dance
floor game include: the music is too loud to run verbal game; its difficult to get a girl off
the floor and isolate to build rapport; its hard to keep a girls attention. All these
reasons are definitely valid. However, most players probably have not been clubbing or
dancing as long as I have (over 20 years) to figure out solutions to the above dilemmas.
So to the average guy the dance floor can be a trap and should be avoided. However,
for someone with dance floor game it can easily be turned into opportunity.


In this e-book I'll give you the tactics needed to be successful at dance floor
game. To facilitate learning my dance floor game methodology, Ive divided it into three
main components:
1. The Approach (covered in Chapter 2): how to get a girl to dance with you.
2. Escalation and Compliance (covered in Chapter 3): getting physical, building
attraction, and turning up the heat on the dance floor.
3. Moving Off the Dance Floor (covered in Chapter 4): knowing when shes
attracted so you can extract her from the dance floor to a non-dance location
to build rapport and get her number.
Why Do Dance Floor Game?

~ Dancing says much about who you are. It conveys positive personality traits that
tell people you are fun, extroverted, comfortable in your own skin, and that you can have
fun regardless of what people may be thinking about you. Some women even relate the
ability to dance with great sex.
~ Since most men dont dance, its an enormous demonstration of higher value
(DHV) for those who can. Think about being one of the few men dancing at a party,
club, or wedding reception, and then having women approach you - all because you
have more skills on the floor than most guys. When girls come to you without having run
any verbal game thats social proof!
~ Youre able to work the room with less effort. When a pick-up artist works the
room using verbal game (e.g. in a bar or party) he starts off gaming a group of people
(also known as a set). He is loud and boisterous, making sure people nearby notice
the fun people are having around him. He then moves to then next group (or even
merges with) and repeats the process, making his way through the room (see diagram
below). In essence, he becomes the life of the party - which of course is not a bad
thing. The difficulty with verbally working the room is the amount of effort and time it
takes to continue and repeat the process. Talking with a group can last from 1 minute
to more than 10 minutes.
What if you were able to work the room without having to move from group to
group? Dance floor game allows you to do this. If youre on the floor doing things most
guys cant (e.g. dancing comfortably with rhythm all while having a good time), then the
room watches you. I love an empty dance floor. It gives me the opportunity to
command the attention of the room. A confident man dancing on an empty floor, having
a great time is a powerful DHV.

Dance Floor Game
Verbal Game
Sets
You
Sets
Youre the center

of attention - the
room watches you!
You
Working the Room
~ Dance floor game is about communicating without words and mainly through
body language. It s the only type of game where you can start from meeting a girl on
the dance floor, to grinding with her, making out, and even groping her without having a
conversation. Additionally, there s an added intimacy about engaging a girl without
having to speak to her. Verbal routines, back handed compliments, and story telling are
not needed!
~ Many men avoid or make excuses for not wanting to dance when their date asks.
It s a DHV if you re able to confidently take her up on the request. Even better, if you
can suggest dancing before she does. It is alpha since many men at a club (or even
house party) try to avoid the dance floor altogether.
~ There may be instances when you have to rebuild attraction when on a date.
Escalation through dancing provides a fluid way of doing so. Turning the girl, dips,
grinding or even just dancing close in a sensual manner are natural ways of rebuilding
attraction while also increasing buying temperature (or BT, her level of attraction
towards you). When done properly, an increase in BT can be achieved faster than
running verbal game.
Furthermore, if you ve not already kissed her, dancing provides many
opportunities for you to do so. It s a smooth way to fly under the radar while bringing
her into your personal space. Imagine dancing with your date, asking for her hands,
turning her into you so that she s inches from your face, and then simply leaning in to
kiss her. Those awkward moments when you re about to kiss a girl are removed
because dancing can create a natural flow in a non-verbal interaction.
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You Don t Have to Be a Great Dancer Just a Competent One
Many men are under the impression that it takes a high level of dancing skill to
successfully do dance floor game. This is untrue! Many times I ve witnessed a guy
make out with a very attractive girl and leave the dance floor with her after having only
done the most basic dance moves. You don t have to be an amazing dancer to get the
girl, just a competent one.
1. Know the music you re dancing to. You don t have to know every song that s
being played in a venue, just the genre of music. For instance, if the DJ is
playing Latin infused music (e.g. Shakira) you shouldn t be dancing swing.
You may be an excellent swing dancer but swing dancing to Latin music
doesn t make you a competent dancer.
2. Dance on the beat/on time. This is what having rhythm is about being able
to move your legs and arms in sync with the music. When someone claims to
have no rhythm, most likely he is having difficulty matching his body
movements to the beat. See Appendix A for an easy dance move to learn
and Appendix B for a lesson on how to find rhythm.
3. Don t worry about people watching or what they may be thinking about you. If
you start thinking that people are judging or are staring at you while you re
dancing you ll start to become self-conscious. When that sinks in you close
off, think too much about what your legs and arms are doing, dance off time,
and stop having fun. Dancing is an extroverted activity and the less you worry
about other people the easier it is to improve and enjoy yourself. Most likely
you won t see most of those people again, so who cares what they think!
4. Enjoy dancing for dancing s sake! If dancing to you is more like a task or job
than it is fun, then it ll be harder for you to get comfortable on the dance floor.

Dance Floor
Donts


Lacking Tact in the Approach
Ive found that the number one complaint women have about guys when being
approached on the dance floor is that men quickly invade their personal space. Guys
tend to move in too fast and get grabby, putting their hands on the girl before she has
even acknowledged that she wants to dance with him. Unfortunately, it doesnt work
like this.
Heres a typical club scenario: a guy sees a girl on the floor and approaches her.
He may dance apart from her for a few seconds or minutes and then he steps into her
personal space. Soon his hands are on her and the game is over before it has even
started. Just because a girl is dancing with you it doesnt mean shes ready to let you
grope her.
Another favorite approach by the uninformed is dancing behind a girl without her
knowing that hes there. This tactic is creepy to say the least. When the girl eventually
turns around shes surprised to see a stranger lurking behind her. Other times guys will
come from behind and immediately put their hands on the girl and start grinding. As
with verbal game, approaching from behind can be threatening. It is possible that these
tactics could result in a favorable outcome, however, having a tactful approach can
increase your successes substantially.
Parking on the Dance Floor

An easy way to annoy dancers is by standing around them and not dancing, in
other words, parking. Girls hate this because people become obstacles, taking up
dance floor real estate. Whats more frustrating is when guys park with drinks in their
hand. Spilling on the floor and on those around them is a major party foul. If youre
going to be on the dance floor, dance, and leave your drink elsewhere.
Typically when guys park on the floor its to search for girls (also known as
targets). They turn into fixtures on the floor. Girls are intuitive and can easily figure
out what a player is doing. This translates into creepy behavior, which in turn lowers
your value. The equivalent of this in a non-dance environment would be standing
around in a bar with your wingman, not speaking to each other, and looking around for
girls to talk to.


Whether in a club or bar, being discreet about looking for girls is a wise move. In
a club, do it off of the dance floor and dont ignore your wingman. If you have to,
pretend to be having a conversation with your wing as you look for prey.
Contrary to parking, but just as annoying, is walking through the dance floor
(again with drinks in hand) hunting for targets. Sometimes its necessary to have to
pass through the floor to get somewhere or to someone. However, when you constantly
do it for the sake of looking for targets, it lowers your value as girls see you move from
one set (a single person or group of people) to the next.
Dancing with Your Wing

I applaud guys that will dance on the floor without women in order to attract them.
If youre going to do this, make sure you dont face your wing. Doing so makes it look
like youre dancing with each other. This is especially bad when 3 or more guys end up
forming a dance circle. Are you looking for men to dance with or women?
If you and your wing(s) are dancing, do it away from each other. For instance,
you can dance on one end of the floor and your wing on the other. If you can help it,
keep your wing in sight, he may need your help. By dancing solo, its less threatening to
girls that want to approach you to dance or who chose to dance in your proximity. Yes,
some women are ballsy enough to approach guys on the dance floor. This in itself is an
enormous DHV in terms of social proof and one of the reasons I enjoy dance floor game
the girl is doing half the work!
Trying to Have a Conversation

If a guy is able to get a girl to dance with him sooner or later he tries to have a
conversation with her on the dance floor. Dance floor game is an attraction mechanism
and not for building rapport, so asking for the phone number shouldnt occur on the
dance floor. Additionally, women are on the dance floor to dance, not to chat. Initially
she may oblige by answering your questions about her name and where shes from but
eventually shell get bored. Furthermore, trying to build rapport on the floor is difficult
the music is loud and people may be bumping into you.
Save the conversation for when you move her off the dance floor. Many guys will
get stuck in conversation mode on the floor while the attraction slowly whittles away.
After attraction is made then you can take her off the floor to build rapport.
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Taking Action
At the end of each chapter there will be a section titled Taking Action. In it youll
find various activities you can do to build and strengthen your dance floor game. I
strongly suggest doing the activities because theyll help you develop a kind of muscle
memory for what youll be learning.

The first activity is relatively easy. Go to a venue that has dancing and watch
guys attempting to pick-up girls on the dance floor.
Look for the mistakes that I mentioned above: do the guys lack tact in their
approach, park on the dance floor, dance with their wingmen, or try to have a
conversation with the girl?
Notice how guys approach girls and whether they succeed or fail.
Look for missed opportunities such as a failure to approach.
Ask yourself questions about what you witnessed on the dance floor. For
example, Why did the guy fail and what could he have done differently to
avoid failure? or What did he do so that he was able kiss the girl in a matter
of minutes? You may not know the answers now but as your game develops
an aha moment may occur in the future when you do know.
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Would You
Like to Dance?


Large and Small Dance Floors
For the sake of argument, let s say there are two sizes of dance floors, small and
large. The small floors (which can fit approximately 45 people) would typically be found
in lounges whereas the larger ones are present in clubs. The size of the floor in a large
club can hold at least 80 people.
LARGE DANCE FLOOR
SMALL DANCE FLOOR
Dance Floor Sizes

As shown in the diagram below, large floors can accommodate many sets. And
unless the club is densely packed, there will be ample walking room between each set.
As ideal as this appears, a large floor can work to your disadvantage. Let s say you
start working the floor by dancing with the 4-set (a group of four girls). For whatever
reason, you leave and move on to the next set. This set blows you out and you then
move on to another set, and so on.
In a large floor setting, you ll have to cross a lot of geography to move from set to
set. The problem is you are visible to the sets around you. Again, girls are intuitive and
when they see you moving from set to set they have a pretty good idea what you are
doing. As mentioned in the section Parking on the Dance Floor, you are lowering your
value when women see you do this.
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Sets
You
Large Dance Floor Logistics

When gaming on the floor, I personally prefer smaller floors for several reasons.
A small floor can easily get packed to the point where people are dancing shoulder to
shoulder. Therefore you don t have to worry about crossing a lot of geography to move
from set to set. With a small, densely packed floor moving between sets is not as
obvious to onlookers. There is so much going on in a small, busy floor that people tend
not to pay attention to what others are doing around them.
So in the diagram below, if you start working the floor and decide to move to
another set, you can easily approach the next one by simply turning around or taking a
few steps.
Sets
You
Small Dance Floor Logistics

It s true that with a smaller floor you can quickly burn through all the sets.
However, when a small floor gets packed existing sets tend not to stay on the floor for
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too long. Thus, a smaller floor will be easily replenished with fresh targets as the night
progresses.
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The Approach
Would you like to dance? I cant remember the last time I was at a club and
uttered that phrase! Unless youre partner dancing, you dont have to ask a girl to
dance. Asking for a dance is a closed ended question shell answer either yes or no.
If she answers no, then youre out of luck. There are many non-verbal techniques you
can use to get a girl to dance with you.
Eye Contact
Making eye contact (EC) is one of the easiest ways to engage a girl. For
example, if youre dancing and you notice a girl looking at you from on or off the dance
floor, then look back and hold your gaze. If she holds as well, then take it is an
invitation for you to approach her. Smile and walk over to her. If shes already dancing,
you dont have to say anything but if you do remember that conversations are to be had
off the floor (for verbal game tips see Frequently Asked Questions section, item 9).
Shes on the dance floor to dance, not to be interviewed! Use the techniques below,
Lead Her to the Floor or Open Hands, for engaging girls who are not dancing but
making eye contact. Similarly, if youre on (or off) the floor and youre watching a girl
dance and she looks back, dont look away. Hold eye contact and take that as an
approach invitation.
Lead Her to the Floor

Sometimes getting a girl to dance with you is as simple as taking her hand and
leading her to the floor. Walk up to her with a smile, look her in the eyes, nod your head
in the direction of the dance floor (as if youre showing her where youre taking her), and
take her hand. When you take her hand dont use a vise grip, but do be firm. Be aware
of how much pressure your thumb is applying to her hand too much can be painful for
her. After youve taken her hand dont wait for a response from her, immediately start
leading her to the dance floor.
Open Hands
If youre on the floor and you spot a girl youd like to dance with try this simple yet
effective technique. Smile and make eye contact with her. After she acknowledges you
hold out your hands to her. Make sure you do this with your palms facing up and just
above waist level. Your arms shouldnt be fully extended think about making an angle
between your forearm and upper arm slightly greater than 90 degrees. With your
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fingers gesture to her as if you are asking her to come towards you. The action would
be similar to curling your fingers toward your chest, relaxing, and then repeating the
action (see diagram below). By doing this gesture you are telling her to come and
dance with you.
Ideally, you want the girl to place her hands in yours when doing this gesture. It
establishes touching early on and also gets her use to your touch. When she does,
gently pull her towards you but don t bring her into your space (have her dancing about
an arm s length away). This also communicates that you are dancing together. Finally,
let go of her hands.
curl fingers
toward chest
arms are not

fully extended
hands above
waist level
Gesturing the girl to dance with you
Single Targets
Some girls do dance by themselves. If you see a solo target on the floor, simply
make eye contact and approach her with a smile. Additionally, you can use the
technique mentioned above, Open Hands. In these situations I also suggest dancing
next to the girl before engaging her. It gives you an opportunity to show your fun
personality. By doing so you are telling her that you re just as comfortable as her
dancing by yourself. However, you re also sending the signal that since both of you are
dancing alone, the two of you may as well dance together.
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Group Theory
Most of the time girls will be dancing in groups. So it makes sense to approach,
for instance, a 4-set with you and your three wings. That way each girl has a man to
dance with. Theres really nothing wrong with this approach. No girl is left out and your
wings each have one girl to run interference on.
But consider approaching the set solo. It may seem a bit more nerve-racking
but its also much less threatening to the group of girls. Before you engage the group,
make sure your wings are close by and they know when to enter the set should you
need them. Know who your target is but dont head directly towards her and start
running game. Its too mercenary and when the group figures out what youre doing
they may decide its time to save her and drag her away.
Instead, dance with the entire group. Your initial goal is to gain acceptance of
her peers. Have them welcome you into their group. To approach the set you can use
many of the techniques described in this section. Depending upon how large the set is
you dont have to dance with each girl for an entire song, although it can be fun. Just
spend a few seconds with each one. The purpose of this is to display your personality,
to show the set that youre having a great time and are fun. What can you do with the
girls? Simple moves like turning them, having them turn you, or even dips. The moves
dont have to be flashy, just interactive get them involved.
When this is accomplished then you can focus on your target. Its possible that
your wings wont be needed. If you didnt upset or offend her friends, they may just let
you have time with your target without cock blocking you. Again, communicate with
your wings so they know if, when, and who to run interference on.
It is possible to forego gaming the entire group (without wings) and going directly
for your target. If your target is in a 3-set or larger, then her friends still have each other
to dance with. In a 2-set gaming your target leaves her friend out in the cold in this
case a wing would come in handy. In either case you still run the risk of having her
friend(s) drag her away. However, if they notice that shes having fun with you, and
youre not creeping her out, then they may leave her with you.
Capitalizing on Another Players Mistake

If you take the time to observe the dance floor, then you can take advantage of
situations caused by other players. Many times a single player or players will approach
a set of girls. If there arent enough players to occupy the entire set you can use this to
your advantage.
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For example, two players engaging a 3-set leaves one girl out in the cold.
Chances are shell feel like a third wheel, not having anyone to dance with. Because
the set has already been engaged all you have to do is approach the girl and dance with
her. If the players that approached the set crash and burn dont leave the set. To
separate yourself from the other players you can ask the group Were those guys
friends of yours? This lets the group know that you arent associated with the players,
especially if they were creepy.
Matching and Mirroring

Matching and mirroring is not only a great way of getting a girl to dance with you
but also an effective way of gaining rapport in a non-verbal manner. To use this
technique youll first watch the way your target is dancing so you can pick up what shes
doing. If you have trouble picking up her moves it may help to watch her off the floor
before approaching her. When youre ready dance within her proximity, put yourself in a
position where she can notice you its not effective if youre dancing with your back
facing her. Repeat her moves to her and try to dance in sync with her. If shes dancing
off beat, then do the same. When using this tactic do not do it in jest, as if youre
making fun of her. Smile and make eye contact as you mimic her movements.
By matching and mirroring on the dance floor you are telling the girl that you
understand her and how she is expressing herself a key to developing rapport. One
caveat: if she is doing something that is outrageously stupid or embarrassing and you
mimic her, then you run the risk of being seen as the same.
Backing into Her

A fun way of getting a girls attention is using your butt to initiate the dance. Use
this with caution some girls wont appreciate being touched by your butt!
Place yourself in close proximity of your target, with your back facing her back.
As youre dancing slowly move backwards into her, make sure you dont knock her over!
The idea is to gently back into her so that your butt is against hers. If this is too much of
a big step, you can move into her making contact with your back first and then your
behind. Regardless, dont stop dancing when you connect with her, the movement
should be fluid.
With the connection made move in sync with her rhythm. For example, if shes
swaying her hips from side to side, then you follow her lead. To acknowledge her you
can look over your shoulder and smile at her. Winking is also fun. Some girls will think
that youre pushing them and move away. The more playful ones catch on to what
youre doing and reciprocate.
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Don t do this for too long, she ll get bored and leave an entire song would be
way too long. Eventually turn around to face her. To get her to face you, you can place
your hands on her waist and gently turn her around or reach around from behind take
one of her hands and spin her.
Approaching from Behind
Earlier I mentioned the problem with approaching a girl from behind. It can be
threatening when you do it in a manner that doesn t give her any indication that you re
behind her, especially when you immediately touch her.
Instead, try this for a more tactful approach: place yourself behind the girl so that
you re close enough to put your arms around her without having to touch her. From this
position bring your arms forward but don t straighten them out completely, they should
be bent. The bend between your forearm and upper arm should be like the diagram
below. The idea is that the girl should be able to see your arms on either side of her
when you bring them forward. By doing so you re letting her know that you re behind
her. You may be in her space but you haven t offended her by immediately grinding or
putting your hands on her.
place yourself close enough
to the girl without touching her
arms forward and bent so

they are visible to the girl
Approaching from behind
Now, don t just stand there with your arms out. You should be dancing while
you re behind her. Try to dance in sync with her. That way if you decide to grind it will
be an easy transition since you are already in sync with her.
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At this point, if youve been dancing with the girl for a few seconds and she hasnt
walked away, youre in. To go further, you can put one or both hands on the girls waist
while youre dancing. If after a few seconds she hasnt moved away, then move into her
space to the point where youre making contact with her. Escalation will be covered in
depth in the next chapter. As with the technique Backing into Her, dont dance behind
her all night. After awhile shell get bored. Bring her around to face you.
Pawning and Working the Room

Dancing with a girl doesnt mean you have to be with her all night. Pawning (the
act of using a person to further your purpose) is a great way to warm up and at the
same time work the room. Even if you have no interest in a woman its a good idea to
dance with her so other women get a chance to see how much fun you are.
Place yourself within proximity of your target and dance with any girl near you.
Have fun, smile, laugh and make sure those around notice. You can turn the girl and if
another girl is watching turn her too. Dance with the new girl as well turning and
dipping her, having her turn and dip you. Be the life of the party; make a girls night by
giving her some of your valuable attention. The idea is to move from girl to girl,
employing each one to help you look attractive. Not only will this make you look good
on the floor but itll also make you feel great!
Continue pawning girls until youve reached your target. Make sure you dont
stay with each girl for more than a few minutes. Try to keep yourself moving and leave
each girl wanting more. This raises the energy level of the dance floor and centers the
attention on you.
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Taking Action
Visit venues that each has a different size dance floor preferably a venue with a
small dance floor and another with a large floor.
Notice how visible guys are when they try to pick-up girls on a large dance
floor.
Observe how the vibe changes amongst the different floors sizes. You may
find that on a smaller floor the vibe of the crowd is more upbeat and intense
(relative to a large floor), making girls more approachable.
Dance by yourself in the middle of the floor (while other people are dancing)
and notice how you feel. You may discover that you dont feel self-conscious
dancing alone on a crowded dance floor.
The Approach
Now that youve spent some time in dance venues, its time to get some practice
approaching girls! Start by approaching only girls dancing alone and groups of 2 or 3
girls. As your confidence grows start approaching larger groups of girls. Focus only on
the approach and nothing more dont think about escalation and extraction. All the
activities below should be accomplished alone, no wingmen.
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Begin practice by choosing a night to use only the following approach

techniques: Eye Contact, Lead Her to the Floor, Open Hands, Single Targets,
and Group Theory. If you dont feel like you had enough practice, then go out
another night before moving on to the next activity.
On a different night, approach using only the following techniques:

Capitalizing on Another Players Mistake, Matching and Mirroring, Backing
into Her, and Approaching from Behind. Again, go out as many nights as
needed.
After youve accomplished the two activities above dedicate a night (or nights)
using all the approach tactics mentioned in this chapter with focus on
executing Pawning and Working the Room.

If possible, repeat the three activities above (in the same order) in a dance
venue that has a different dance floor size than what you started your training
in. For example, if you began with a small floor, then repeat the activities on a
large floor.
Determine which floor size makes it easier for you to approach girls.
At the end of each night evaluate your performance. Think about what you
did correctly and where you faltered. If a particular approach technique
worked best/worst for you, then figure out why and how you can improve.
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Taking It
Further


Now that youre dancing with the girl take advantage of your time with her by
building attraction through a combination of escalation and compliance steps. By not
escalating chances are things wont go any further than just dancing. Escalating
conveys your interest to the girl and without it youll just get stuck in a dance loop. Even
if a girl is interested in you, you cant count on her to take things further. As a man, its
your job! Remember, shes already dancing with you so there must be some interest or
attraction on her part.
Simultaneous Escalation and Compliance Steps

When you first have your target dancing with you avoid immediately invading her
space and groping her. This is the mistake a lot of players make: they dance for a few
seconds and then put their hands on the girl and start to grind. Some women may be
ready to grind early on, their BT may be at the point where you can do this immediately.
However, its not always going to be that easy. Knowing how to gauge her interest by
testing for compliance, while incrementally raising her BT, will get you further than just
going caveman on her.
Once you start dancing with a girl keep distance between you and her, about
arms length. Show her that you can refrain from being needy early on, unlike most
guys. Its important to keep eye contact with her and smile. Since talking will be
minimal, EC will help maintain the connection between both of you. If youre constantly
looking down or elsewhere shell think youre not interested and attraction will be lost.
Feel free to take short breaks in EC but always come back to her.
When youve been dancing for a few minutes (dont wait an entire song) and if
you havent already moved her closer, bring her nearer to you using the technique
explained in the section Open Hands. Dont have your bodies make contact yet and be
sure to release her hands. If she wont take your hands continue dancing and try again
later. If repeated attempts fail, simply move closer to her the distance you were trying to
move her. A girl may not allow you to touch her initially but dont think you wont be able
to as your dance progresses. Its possible that she may just need more time to warm up
to you.
Following is a list of steps you can take to escalate. My process of escalation
involves taking incremental steps to raise her BT while simultaneously testing for
compliance, in other words, each escalation step is also a compliance test. As you
progress through the steps the intensity of escalation increases along with the difficulty
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of the compliance test: the first step (Step A) is the least intense and easiest to achieve
while the last step (Step R) the most intense but hardest.
A) Turn her.
B) Turn her into you so that she ends up with her back facing your chest. Dance
for a few seconds in this position (do not grind) and turn her back out.
C) Gently pull her into your space. Make contact between your waist and hers
but do not grind.
D) Place both hands on her hips.
E) Place a hand on the small of her back
F) With one hand on her back, bring her closer and press your waist against her.
At this point you can start to grind with her.
G) Bring your face close to hers as you grind. If youre height prevents you from
doing this, then touch her neck.
H) Touch her face with your hand.
I) Turn her around and grind her from behind.
J) Place one hand on her waist and another on her thigh as you grind from
behind.
K) Move the hand thats on her waist to her stomach, up past her chest (do not
grope her), and to her neck and face. Your fingers should be grazing these
areas.
L) Touch her cheek with yours. If height is an issue, then you can gently caress
her face and neck with the hand you used in step K.
M) Move the hand that's on her thigh to her inner thigh and up a bit.
N) Turn her around to face you, place one hand on her lower back, or even on
her butt, and press her firmly against you as you grind.
O) Touch her face with one hand and let your cheek touch hers. If you cant do
the latter due to height, then from under her chin use your fingers to
raise/lower her head to make step P easier to accomplish.
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P) Brush your lips against her cheek, ear, and/or neck and kiss those areas.
Q) Let your lips graze hers.
R) Kiss.
As you go through the iterations pay attention to how she responds. In doing so,
you can determine whether or not to escalate further and how to react. For example, if
you try Step G and she quickly pulls her head back, she clearly does not want to be that
close to you yet. Again, it may be that her BT is not high enough to want you that near.
Also, its not necessary to go through the steps continuously. It can be advantageous to
break connection and dance apart before escalating further tease and have her
wanting more. When youre ready, continue escalation from where you left off.
In any situation where she doesnt comply take a step back. If you have your
hands on her thighs or back, or are grinding with her, then break your connection. Step
back, make eye contact, and smile at her. Dont let it phase you and if it does dont let
her know it! Dance apart from her for a while and try to escalate again. You may have
to start a few steps back to build more attraction and increase her BT. Another option
would be to take her off the dance floor to build rapport using verbal game. Later you
can bring her back to the floor and attempt to re-escalate.
The order of the steps above is not a hard and fast rule. They are more useful as
guidelines. Typically, however, as your escalation progresses the intensity should be
increasing. In other words, you shouldnt escalate backwards by starting out, for
example, at Step L and then Step K, J, I, H, etc. At times it can be helpful to rearrange
the order or skip steps depending on your situation. Experiment and find what works for
you. Maybe youll discover that if you grind her from behind (rather than from the front
first) you can skip some steps and go straight to kissing her neck. Additionally, if a girl
wants to grind with you from the start, its possible to skip the early steps (e.g. steps AF). Her BT may already be high and allow you to go further faster. Use judgment and
her responses to determine what you should do to escalate further.
For example: if she initiates grinding, can I put my hand on her butt rather than
her lower back? How does she respond if I do does she move my hand away? She
moved my hand away; Ill try touching her lower back instead and pressing her firmly
against me. Shes cool with that and starts grinding me harder. Ill try to kiss her on the
lips and see how she reacts, etc.
Going through the escalation process can occur quickly or slowly it all depends
on the situation and the girl. With that in mind escalation can occur in one song, two
songs, three songs or one minute, five minutes, or even ten minutes. A definite answer
cannot be given. If a girls BT is already high, then its possible to go far into escalation
in one song. A good way to determine BT is through the indicators of attraction she
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gives you (attraction is covered in Chapter 4). The more indicators of attraction the
more likely she has an elevated BT. Other girls may require that you warm them up first
resulting in a longer time to escalate. Compliance tests, therefore, come in handy
because they help gauge the girls interests and attraction in you while also giving an
idea as to what your next step should be.
Some women will only let you go so far on the dance floor. If she stops you it
doesnt exactly mean that shes not interested or attracted. A womens conscience may
kick in and prevent you or her from progressing further. When this happens it may be
time to take her off the dance floor.
Taking Advantage of Buying Temperature Raised by Another Guy

Some guys dance with a girl, raise her BT, and then leave her (possibly because
they dont know how to get the girl off the floor). Capitalizing on these situations can
make dance game easier. If a girls BT is already up, then escalation may be less effort
because the previous guy has done part of the legwork. When you engage the girl keep
in mind that just because her BT is high you may not be able to put your hands on her
initially. However, her raised BT can make her more open to escalation much sooner
than usual.
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Avoiding Neediness
Have an Abundance Mentality
Neediness is a common stumbling point for many men on the dance floor.
Becoming needy puts you in a mindset of scarcity instead of abundance. When a girl
senses that youve become needy any attraction she has towards you becomes weaker.
Remember, there are many other women on the floor dont get caught up on just one!
Also, dont feel that you always need to be engaged in a set whenever youre on the
dance floor. Becoming strictly results oriented can take the fun out of dancing. Dancing
should be enjoyable and not feel like work!
To be successful at dance floor game Ive identified what I call the 3 Cs of
Neediness that must be avoided on the dance floor: Chasing, Clinging, and
Conversation.
1. Chasing when it is clear that she is trying to distance herself from you: if a girl
is not interested, then she may simply start to create space between you and
her on the floor. This could be in the form of turning her back on you and not
re-engaging; returning to her friends and dancing with them; dancing with
another guy. Instead of realizing this, the needy guy will waste time following
the girl around the dance floor while attempting to regain her attention.
2. Clinging to the girl when he has her in his space: a good example of this
would be holding a girl (from the front or behind) and not letting go of her for
the duration of their dance. Its almost as if the guy is afraid to release her for
fear that she may not come back. So he holds onto her and keeps her close.
3. Having a conversation on the dance floor: remember, the dance floor is
mainly used to build attraction and women are there to dance, not chat. Build
rapport when you are off the floor. See the section in Chapter 1, Trying to
Have a Conversation.
In the case of situation 2, an easy remedy is to step back or let her go after
youve had her in your space for some time. Unless she insists, dont keep her close for
an entire song. Break your connection, dance apart from her for a bit, and then you can
bring her back in. Dont make the common mistake of always needing to have your
hands on her show her you can refrain from acting like most men. Have her wanting
more. You will encounter some girls who are all about freaking on the dance floor. If
you do, then by all means reciprocate. But for women that require a more tactful
approach, dont be afraid to let go.
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Taking Action
Escalation and compliance can be nerve-racking at first but with practice it does
get easier. As your confidence and skill grow in this area, dance floor game becomes
very rewarding. For this chapters activities its not necessary to follow my
Simultaneous Escalation and Compliance Steps (Steps A through R) precisely and in
order feel free to improvise. As a recommendation, take baby steps as you escalate
and dont try to reach the goal of the each activity as quickly as possible. In doing so
youll start to build a mental library of escalation and compliance responses from women
and how to handle them.
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The goal of the first activity is to grind lightly, as opposed to hot and heavy,
with girls (either from the front or behind). Again, dont worry about having to
follow my steps (A through F) to get to grinding. Whats important is that
youre able to escalate to the point of grinding. Focus on escalating to this
point and no further. If youre not use to dancing intimately close with a girl
take this opportunity to practice maintaining eye contact and being
comfortable.
For the next activity pick another night to train. Reach the point of grinding
with a girl and then work on tactile contact. For example, get comfortable
placing your hands on the girls hips, touching her cheek and the small of her
back with your hand, and holding her closer to you to grind more intensely.
Dont force yourself upon her and if she persistently stops you from escalating
further respect her boundaries this is just practice!
Although kissing and making out on the dance floor can be satisfying, know
that you dont necessarily need to achieve this to successfully get a girl off the
dance floor. With that said, take a night out and practice escalating to the
point where you can almost kiss the girl. For instance, touch your cheek to
hers or bring your face close to hers so that your lips are just inches apart. If
you feel that theres an opportunity for a kiss, then by all means take it.
Again, dont be forceful with the girl and respect her boundaries.
On your final night of practice, look for situations where a girl and guy are
dancing and the guy departs sooner than he should have. For instance, he
grinds with the girl and doesnt escalate further but instead gets stuck in a
dance loop and eventually leaves. When you find this attempt to profit from it.
See if you can take momentum from the previous player and use it to your
advantage when you escalate.

At the end of each night evaluate your performance. Think about what you
did correctly and where you faltered. If you had difficulties at any point during
escalation, find out why and how you can improve.
Avoiding Neediness
Dedicate a night to completing the following activities. You can also do them
each night you go out for the previous sections exercises.
Observe the dance floor and watch guys becoming needy towards women.
Analyze the situations and think about what the guy could have done to avoid
needy behavior.
Think about the previous nights you went out to train and determine if you
acted needy towards any girls. Scrutinize your behavior and figure out what
youll do the next time you catch yourself lacking an abundance mentality.
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Transitioning


Since dance game is an attraction mechanism, knowing when to take your target
off the floor is vital. As mentioned before, its not a good idea to have a conversation on
the floor, so building rapport and asking for the phone number shouldnt occur here.
Know the Venue

If youre in a venue that youre unfamiliar with (club, lounge, house party) its a
good idea to discover your surroundings. This will be important when it comes time to
take the girl off the floor: youll know exactly where to go and you avoid wasting time
walking around aimlessly. When you wander without direction the girl has time to think,
gets taken out of the moment, and buyers remorse may set in. She may think: I
shouldnt be leaving the dance floor with him, I should go find my friends, or Is he
safe? So when surveying the venue, look for places to sit that arent reserved
(especially important in lounges and clubs in Los Angeles), areas quiet enough to have
a conversation, and outdoor areas such as patios. Also keep an eye out for interesting
conversation pieces. With this information moving your target from the dance floor
becomes a smoother process.
Attraction
A good time to leave the floor is before shes worn out from dancing. Dont wait
to move her when shes sweating bullets, panting, and just about to pass out on the
floor. In this state she may be feeling self-conscious about how she looks is she
drenched in sweat, is her hair all over the place, are her clothes in disarray, etc.. Its
hard for a girl to feel attractive when shes in this state. She may excuse herself to the
restroom, possibly never to be seen again. Plan to extract her before she decides to
end your dance. Her reasons to stop can also be fatigue/thirst, boredom, wanting to
find her friends, or your lack of action to move things forward (e.g. failure to escalate or
extract).
Make sure youve gained at least some attraction from her before attempting to
take her off the floor. How do you know if shes attracted? Here are some indicators of
attraction (the more you have the better and the more you have the greater the
likelihood of her having an elevated BT):
Tries to have a conversation with you as you dance.
Holds eye contact. Added bonus if she does this with a smile.
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Gives compliments.
She s danced with you for more than one song. If it s a mix of music, then the
equivalent length of an average song.
Keeps dancing with you after her friends have left the dance floor.
Touches you repeatedly.
Clings to as you dance wants to keep you close.
When you back away from her she closes the gap by advancing towards you.
You ve successfully escalated and she s passed numerous compliance tests.
This is especially true if you ve gotten very physical with her.
You were able to escalate quickly with no objections from her.
Buyer s remorse may set in after getting physical on the dance floor. This can be
triggered by events such as grinding, making out, or heavy petting. If you re interested
in obtaining a girl s number after getting physical, then take the girl off the floor before
regret rears its head (or her friends take her away). Build rapport as soon as possible to
deter her from making an escape. Without rapport you end up being just another guy
she had a good time with in a club.
It is possible to escalate to a physical state (even as far as groping or hands
beneath clothing) without buyer s remorse occurring. When a girl is attracted enough
(or her BT is high) she may be willing to go that far without regret. Thus, quickly
extracting for rapport building may not be necessary. It s also worth mentioning that a
girl may only be interested in having fun on the floor (making out, grinding, etc.). In this
case, attempting to extract a girl in this state to build rapport may work against you. She
may end your dance to find someone who is only interested in the same. It can be
difficult to know if you re dealing with this type of girl. If she declines at least two
attempts to remove her from the floor, then it may be better for you to go along for the
ride and accept that she wants to just have fun.
Tactics for Extraction
Below are verbal tactics for moving a girl off the floor. When you use these, lean
into her and speak close to her ear as if you have a secret to tell her. I usually place
one hand on the small of her back as I do this.
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1. After dancing, she ll most likely be thirsty you don t have to buy her a drink!
Plan ahead and have a drink waiting for you somewhere. I m going to get a
drink. Come with me, is simple yet effective. After you ve lead her to your
drink, offer her that. I m sure you know better but it s worth mentioning: if
you re sick (e.g. a cold), have a cold sore, or any type of illness that can be
passed to another person by sharing a drink, then do not let her drink from
your beverage.
It s not uncommon for your drink not to be there when you arrive. Most likely
it s been picked up by a bar back. To prevent this from happening (at a bar,
lounge, or club), simply place a cocktail napkin or coaster over your drink.
This let s the bar back (and other patrons) know that someone will be coming
back for the beverage.
Coaster or Cocktail Napkin
H2O
Saving your drink
2. Have her explore the venue with you. I ve never been here before. Let s
explore and see what kind of adventures we can get into.
3. If you ve noticed something interesting about the venue (a statue, photo, etc.)
suggest that you show it to her. Did you see that insane painting of dogs
playing poker that s hanging in the hall? You ve got to check it out! Come
on.
4. Bring her outside to cool off. The patio is supposed to be beautiful let s go
check it out and cool off.
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5. Introduce her to your friends. Hey, I need to go find my friends. Theyre
really cool. Come with me so you can meet them.
6. If her friends are still on the dance floor, then have her introduce you to them.
After introductions, let them know where youre taking your target. Im going
to borrow your friend. I promise to bring her back.
7. Have her practice a turn with you off the dance floor. Hey, I just learned this
turn and I want to try it with you.
8. Introduce her to key venue employees such as the doormen, DJ, bartenders,
etc. Do you know the DJ? Hes a friend of mine. Ill introduce you to him.
After youve successfully moved the girl from the dance floor youre now free to
have a conversation and build rapport. This is when dance floor game ends and verbal
game begins. As youre running verbal game on the girl, keep in mind the following: she
just left the dance floor with you, a complete stranger. What does this mean? It means
she has enough attraction and interest to justify wanting to know who you are!
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Knowing key employees of a venue (doormen, bartenders, DJs, promoters) is a
great way of providing social proof. Taking the time to make friends with these people
can pay off in the long run. Imagine being able to bypass the line with your date at a bar
or club, shaking hands with the doorman, and walking right in. Below are examples of
how you can get to know a couple of these employees.
The Doorman
So how do you make friends with venue employees? Just talk to them every
time you visit the venue and when you leave. If you see the same doorman at a bar you
frequent, then make it a point to ask how his night is going or if hes keeping warm in the
cold weather. Most patrons dont take the time to chat up the doorman and ask his
name. Youll stand out if you take a few seconds to talk with him even more so by
introducing him to women you meet at the bar or bring with you. Developing a
relationship becomes easier if you haunt the bar every week. Youll become a familiar
face and be seen as a regular of the venue. Eventually he wont even bother asking
for identification. At that point you should be able to walk right up to him, greet him with
a handshake, and go right in.
When the doorman starts recognizing you after several visits, its a nice idea to
offer a drink. Most doormen wont drink on the job so you can offer a bottle of water. As
youre walking into the bar turn and say Hey bro, you want a bottle of water? Again,
not many patrons will do this and so you stand out from the crowd.
Once youre sure that the doorman knows who you are, try this: the next time you
visit the bar and theres a line, attempt to bypass the line by walking straight to the front,
greeting the doorman with a handshake (if youre with a girl introduce her), and walking
right in. Expect that hell let you in, dont be nervous about it. If you feel like you need
to say something you can use Hey man, can I come through? I dont like asking if
theres a wait because then Im acknowledging that theres a line. If youre denied and
have to wait in line, dont be upset hes just doing his job. Not all doormen will allow
you to bypass a line but its worth a shot to find out which ones will.
The DJ
After introducing yourself to him, comment positively on his set (the music hes
playing). If hes doing tricks such as scratching or beat juggling tell him that you like his
turntablism (pronounced turn-table-izm). By using the word turntablism you are
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speaking DJ lingo and hell appreciate your comment. Ask for his card or e-mail
address and where else he spins (DJ talk for other venues he works at). The following
day e-mail him and re-introduce yourself. Again, tell him you liked his set and find out
the other venues he spins at.
The next time you see him stop by the DJ booth and chat a little, even offer to get
him a drink. If you happen to be with a girl or meet a girl that same night (including the
night you met him) introduce him to her. Like doormen, not many people will take the
time to get to know the DJ. Hell remember you, especially if you offer him a drink or
introduce him to women.
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Taking Action
Congratulations on coming this far in your training! Its now time to work on the
final component of dance floor game. If youve successfully completed the activities at
the end of the previous chapters, then this section should be relatively easy.
Survey the dance venues youve been frequenting for the Taking Action
exercises. Get to know them and find where you can sit, talk comfortably,
and cool off (e.g. an outdoor patio). Also look for conversation pieces that
you can use as an extraction tactic.
With the information above, set-up a plan for where you can go when you
take the girl from the dance floor. For example: its cool out tonight and the
outdoor patio is beautiful; its quiet enough to talk there, has funky dcor to
make fun of, and theres enough unreserved seating so I wont have to worry
about being bothered to get bottle service just to sit down.
Practice noticing indicators of attraction from a girl (see the section

Attraction). When youre gaming a girl observe if she holds eye contact with
you, smiles, gives compliments, etc.
Taking as many nights as needed, work on extracting girls from the dance
floor using the techniques from Tactics for Extraction. Its not necessary to
practice all eight tactics but become comfortable using at least three.
Try to think of your own extraction tactics that may work better for you.
Evaluate your performance at the conclusion of each night. Analyze any

stumbling points and find a solution.

If youve been frequenting the same venues to complete the Taking Action
exercises, chances are youve noticed the same doorman, bartender, or DJ working the
nights youre there. Theres a good chance they recognize you as well. Regardless, its
time to make a new friend.
Get to know a key employee at each venue you haunt and greet that person
whenever youre there. Be friendly and not a nuisance.
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A Few Last Words

The hardest thing about becoming good at dance floor game is getting practice in
the field. Its not like running verbal game where you can walk outside and start talking
to any girl. Dont get discouraged if your progress is slow at first and youre repeatedly
shot down. Like any endeavor, mastering dance floor game will take time and patience.
I hope you enjoyed reading and learning from Dance Floor Game Decoded as
much as I did writing it. Helping people learn is fun for me and Im excited about having
the opportunity to share my knowledge with you through this e-book. Should you have
any questions, comments, or feedback, feel free to write me at
angelo@flirt2thebeat.com.
See you on the dance floor,
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Frequently Asked Questions

1. Should I take dance lessons? If so, what kind?
Dance lessons couldnt hurt. Theyll help with your sense of rhythm and timing.
For people who are shy about expressing themselves on the dance floor, lessons will
help you remedy that and get you comfortable. As far as what kind, although I favor
solo dancing over partner dancing, Id recommend taking swing or salsa lessons.
These classes can help you get use to dancing with women. Also, the turns and dips
you learn from these dances can be used in solo dancing as a means of escalation.
Taking hip hop lessons (which dont require a dance partner) would be beneficial
as well. These will keep you up to date on current dance moves. Gyms and dance
studios typically offer classes for the beginning dancer.
Remember you dont have to be an excellent dancer to do dance floor game
you only need to be competent. See the section You Dont Have to Be a Great Dancer
Just a Competent One. If youre interested in taking solo dance lessons to get
comfortable with dancing, I teach them in Southern California. Additionally, I offer inperson dance floor game instruction that works easily with my dance lessons. For more
information feel free to contact me at angelo@flirt2thebeat.com.
2. Does having a strong dance background hurt or help dance floor game?
It can do both. It can hurt you by making you unapproachable to women. For
example, your flashy moves may give the impression that youre too good to dance with
people less talented as you. Also, if you look serious on the dance floor and are not
smiling, people may think you have an attitude or big ego.
A dance background can help you by enabling you to express yourself in a
positive light so long as youre smiling and sharing that energy with the people around
you. You already have rhythm and timing down and chances are youre already
comfortable being on the dance floor by yourself. This can give you an edge over less
experienced dancers.
3. What kind of music is good for dance floor game?
I prefer hip hop, R&B, and top 40/pop. One of the reasons for this is familiarity.
What clubgoer hasnt heard of Kanye West, The Black Eyed Peas, Justin Timberlake, or
Lady Gaga? It is this recognition of songs that helps to create a fun, party atmosphere
in a club. Numerous times Ive been in a club and the dance floor was empty because
the DJ was playing an obscure house or techno song that hardly anyone knew. When
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he started playing more familiar music such as Usher or Britney Spears girls flocked to
the dance floor and started to dance and sing.
The second reason for my preference of music is because many of the songs are
sexually charged. For example: Lollipop by Lil Wayne, OMG by Usher, and Hold It
Against Me by Britney Spears. Songs like these are providing the background to the
interaction between you and the girl. There have been many instances where I was
dancing with a girl and when she heard a song that shes crazy about shed start acting
out the lyrics. I am not saying that hip hop, R&B, and top 40 are the only genres of
music that will work with dance floor game. However, from my experience, these
genres are more conducive to gaming on the dance floor.
4. What are some of the most common dance floor game mistakes?
Not escalating further and failure to move the girl off the dance floor. Many guys
will get to a certain point in escalation and stop usually its when theyre grinding or
dancing intimately close with a girl. They could try to escalate more but they choose not
to. Instead they get stuck in a dancing loop and it goes no further. Instead of moving
ahead or in addition to, the guy could have also extracted the girl from the dance floor to
build rapport.
5. When approaching, do you approach from the side or head-on?
It really doesnt matter. What matters more is how Im going to engage her and
where I need to place myself to make things easier. For example, if I want her to notice
me as Im doing Matching and Mirroring, then Ill dance in her field of vision. Using the
tactic Approaching from Behind obviously requires moving in from the back.
6. Is it necessary to have a wingman?
Of course not, but it does help. You can dance with a group of 4 or more girls
and not need a wingman. Its important that you have fun with the group and not be
creepy. Smile, interact with the girls, and read the section Group Theory. I suggest
getting use to gaming alone. Its a great confidence builder, especially when you are
the center of attention in a group of ladies.
7. How do you break into a set of girls that are dancing in a circle?
A fun way is to get in the middle of the circle and dance. When youre there start
interacting with the girls. You can turn them, have them turn you, do dips, etc. Just
dont become their dancing monkey. Work the circle using group theory.
Another way is to engage any one of the girls. You just need the attention of one
girl so you can break the circle. As an example, dance next to the circle and make eye
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contact and smile at any of the girls nearest to you. When one of the girls
acknowledges you turn your body to face the girl making it obvious that youre interested
in dancing with her. You can even use the technique Open Hands. After youve danced
with her for a short amount of time move on to the next girl. Again, use group theory to
work the set.
8. What are some useful tips for guys that are new to dance floor game?
Be comfortable dancing. Have a genuine smile on your face and have fun.
People (including girls) will pick up on your positive energy!
Get the practice in, even if it means having to crash and burn. Have at least 1
night a week to practice dance floor game.
Strength in numbers. Find a wingman that has an interest in dance floor

game or will at least go to venues that have dancing.
Go dancing with female friends so you can get comfortable dancing with girls.
Take a partner dancing class such as swing or salsa. See above Item 1.
Find out what type of music you enjoy dancing to and do dance floor game at
venues that play that music.
Game and dance with girls on the dance floor that you wouldnt usually be
interested in. This will help you with approach anxiety, build your confidence,
and allow you to get some practice in without having to worry about the
outcome of the interaction.
9. Do you ever use verbal game on the dance floor?

Yes, but I keep it to a minimum. I mainly use verbal game when Im escalating
and extracting a girl from the dance floor. If Im at the point in escalation where the girl
and I are dancing intimately close or if things have become sexual, then I may use
verbal game to increase her BT. I dont give compliments on her physical beauty or say
anything explicit such as We should get naked right here and just go at it. Ill be more
tactful and say I think you and I are the sexiest couple out here or I like the way you
move your hips. However, if the girl says sexually explicit things to me then Ill
reciprocate. When I speak to the girl while were dancing I take the opportunity to bring
my face close to hers. Talking intimately close helps to increase her BT. I talk with my
lips near her ear, with them just about grazing her skin.
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I do engage verbally sometimes but for the most part I mainly use the non-verbal
tactics described earlier. Its actually more fun and challenging for me. Here are some
verbal approaches I use:
You guys [by this I mean girls] look like fun, so I had to come over and dance
with yall.
If I see a girl standing on the sidelines of the dance floor Ill say I can tell you
want to dance, so you might as well dance with me since Im dancing by
myself.
For girls not yet dancing: Can you dance in those shoes? After she answers
Ill reply with Well, come on and direct/lead her to the floor.
Doesnt this remind you of a high school dance? Mostly girls dancing and
guys standing around. We should get a dance in before a teacher with a ruler
comes around to separate us.
10. If Im a dancing with a girl that I have no interest in, whens a good time to
end the dance?
Ill wait until the end of the song and thank her for the dance. Dont think youre
committed to dancing with the same girl for a certain amount of time. If you dance for
just one song, youre fine. I would not recommend leaving in the middle of a song. Its
rude and she may say something negative about you to a girl you may happen to end
up gaming you never know.
11. Why do you stress smiling when on the dance floor and approaching?
Since dance floor game is mainly non-verbal you need to be able to communicate
positive body language to your target. Smiling helps to achieve this. However, its not
just a smile that you should have but also a generally positive and upbeat vibe. People
gravitate to this type of energy. No one wants to dance with (or even be around) a
boring, negative person.
12. How do you approach a mixed group of girls and guys?
I use group theory to handle situations such as these. The only difference is that
I dont dance with the male(s) in the group. Initially, Ill do some recon and try to
determine if a guy is a boyfriend or has an attachment to any of the girls. For example,
Ill look for smiling and heavy eye contact between the guy and a girl. Even if Im not
certain, Ill still approach the group. If I think that a particular couple may be together,
then Ill make sure to not dance with that girl for too long as I work the group. As long
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as you're not creeping out the girls and they're having fun with you then its possible the
guy(s) won't cock block you unless they're jealous or overprotective.
13. How do I escalate if a girl wont let me touch her?
Some girls just dont like to be touched on the dance floor, just like some girls
dont like to be hit on at bars. However, dont let that deter you from pressing forward.
It could be that she needs more time to warm up to you. Regardless, if you cant touch
her then attempt to dance in her personal space (this includes dancing behind her).
Dance with her in close proximity, maintain eye contact, smile, and see how she reacts.
Attempt to escalate if she doesnt back away. If repeated attempts to escalate fail, then
the best you can do is make the dance fun for the both of you. Extraction is still worth a
try. Its possible that building rapport with her first will allow you to take her back to the
dance floor to escalate physically.
14. When and how should my wingman come in?
Have your wingman give you enough time to work the group alone before he
enters. That way the group can see that youre cool (not creepy) and that any guy
associated with you probably is as well. When he enters acknowledge him (through a
nod, handshake, etc.) and then all he has to do is dance with the other girl. You can
make introductions and exchange a few words but dont get into a conversation.
15. I tend to forget what to do when Im gaming on the dance floor. Is there any
easy way to remember what Ive learned from your e-book?
Yes, there is. One way is to make a cheat sheet and keep it in your wallet or
mobile phone. Refer to it whenever you draw a blank. Also, try remembering the
following acronym for DANCE:
D Dance
A Approach & Attract
N Non-neediness
C Compliance
E Escalation & Extraction
16. Do you have any instructional videos for sale?
Eventually, I will! You can watch free videos at my website
www.flirt2thebeat.com.
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Appendix
The 2-step

The 2-step
The easiest dance move you can do is the 2-step and it s a great starting point to
being competent on the dance floor. Following, I ll teach you this dance. If this were the
only move that you re able to do, knowing it is enough to get you on the floor running
dance floor game.
To begin, stand upright with your shoulders relaxed and knees slightly bent.
Make sure you re not standing at attention with your shoulders back and chest out,
doing so will make you look stiff. Drape your arms comfortably at your sides and bend
your arms so they re making an approximate 90 degree angle (as shown in the diagram
below). Keeping the hands above the waist, make a loosely closed fist and have the
palms facing each other or up. Stand with your feet about shoulder width apart and
heels on the ground this is starting position.
On the dance floor it doesn t matter which leg you begin dancing with, however,
for the sake of learning you ll start with your left. Initially, you ll have a tendency to stare
at your feet as you learn. Doing this during practice is fine but when you re on the
dance floor keep your head facing forward (looking at your feet displays a lack of
confidence). Use the diagram below for clarification to the following steps:
1
With your left leg, step in toward the arch of your right foot. Be sure to pick
your foot off the ground (but keep it close) instead of just sliding it across the
floor. As the left leg moves, bend at the knee to pick the heel up. Lifting the
heel will give a stylized look. Set your foot down with the ball planted lightly
on the ground (near the arch of your right foot and not touching) but don t
set the heel down. Your heel should end at 1.5 to 2 inches off the ground.
Bring your left foot back to starting position, setting the heel down. Again,
pick your foot off the ground (but keep it near) rather than just sliding it
across the floor.
Repeat step 1 with right leg.
Repeat step 2 with right leg.
Continuously repeat the above steps as you keep your arms in the bent position
you started with. That s all there is to doing the 2-step! Practice to the point where you
can do the movements smoothly without having to think about the details (like keeping
the hands above waist level). Also, remember to have fun and smile!
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The 2-step
head facing
forward
stand upright
with shoulders
relaxed
arms comfortably
draped at your side
hands above
waist level
loosely closed
fist, palms facing
inward or up
Upper body position
bend at the knee to

lift the heel off the
ground
stationary leg
active
leg
stationary leg, have

a slight bend and dont
lock your knee
active
leg
heel should be 1.5 to 2
off the ground when
ball of the foot touches
the ground
stand with feet

shoulder width
apart
1
repeat with right leg
start with left leg
Stance and leg movement
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step in toward arch of

stationary foot with the
ball of your foot contacting
the ground
1 Leg movement

Appendix
Learning Rhythm
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Learning Rhythm
Chances are in the past you ve nodded your head or tapped your foot as you
listened to music. When you were doing this you probably were tapping or nodding to
the beat of the song. If you could do this, then dancing to the beat (having rhythm)
should be no problem. If you haven t accomplished this small feat, we ll remedy that
now.
The easiest way to find the beat of a song is to listen to the drumbeat or bassline.
To practice, play a song with a moderate tempo. Make it easy on yourself and use a
song with a distinguishable drumbeat - pop music would be ideal. Now, find the beat of
the song and tap your foot in a steady rhythm along with it. If the song has a pause in it
and the beat stops, keep tapping your foot as if the song were still playing. When the
song starts up you ll find that your tapping is still in sync with the beat. As a tip, listen to
when the vocalists starts singing. In most pop music he or she typically starts on beat.
After you ve found the beat in a moderate tempo song, challenge yourself and do
it with faster and slower songs. Try this with different genres of music as well (hip hop,
R&B, rock, etc.). You re now ready to 2-step to music!
Start with the stance shown in Appendix A, with your feet in starting position.
Play the same moderate tempo pop song you used earlier and find the beat in your
head (nod your head or tap your foot if it helps). When you re ready, move your left leg
on the beat to step 1 and then 2 on beat, followed by the right leg on the beat to step
3 and then 4 . Repeat the steps continuously. Congratulations, you re dancing!
Challenge yourself by doing the 2-step to songs of various tempos. If you re
watching your feet as you dance, try eliminating that habit as soon as possible. With
practice the dance move will be committed to muscle memory and you ll no longer need
to look down.
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