Unlock Your Personal Power!

Smash through your personal development barriers

Learn all the stuff they didnt teach you at school
in this special free report.

Written by Aymen Fares

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Table Of Contents

Introduction ............................... 5
The Start! ................................. 7
What is Enlightenment? ..................... 8
What does Enlightenment do for you? ....... 11
Are You Letting Your Thoughts Control You? 14
You Are Not Your Thoughts! ................ 16
A Little On How Your Mind Works ........... 18
Your Will Your Power! ................... 21
Your Emotions ............................. 24
Who Are You? .............................. 27
Happy and Whole ........................... 31
Its Fear That Stops You! ................. 34
Final Words. .............................. 37
If You Want More .......................... 38
The Key To Life Manual .................... 39

What is Life Coaching? .................... 40

Intuition or "Special Psychic Powers" ..... 42
Topics Covered Life Coaching .............. 43
Workshops ................................. 47
An important final point to remember! ..... 48

Introduction
You can do anything you want!
This is a bold statement and it is true.
The problem and the reason you fail to achieve your
potential is simple.
You dont know how you work. The human being is
complex and there is much more to you than your
physical body.
In order to master life your life - you need to
know how you work. In other words you need access
to the secret techniques that govern existence and
how to use them.
This e-book is a collection of extracts and
articles from my old Key To Life and
Spiritual.com.au newsletters, also my current
newsletter at AymenFares.com
This e-book will give you a basic understanding of
how you work. For a full and detailed explanation
refer to my book the Key To Life Manual, register
for one of my workshops or take some one on one
Life Coaching all of this is available at
www.AymenFares.com.
Remember you can do anything you want and achieve
anything you want. Just learn, how you work!

Here is a quote to start you thinking.

"There is no such thing as failure.
'Failure' is merely an opinion that a given act
wasn't done satisfactorily.
Being ruled by fear of failure lets you take
the easy way out.
Rather than accepting the challenge of pursuing
a goal, you can scratch it off your list and
tell yourself that it is impossible or not
worthwhile...
...Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you
never try you can't win, if you do you might."
Jack Collis
People often do not try; your fear of failure often
holds you back. Subconsciously you can say to
yourself that you did not fail. However lack of
failure does not mean success either.
Overcome your fear of failure
o Set your own standards don't let others make
your choices.
o Don't try and be perfect at everything, it's
unrealistic and will rob you of your enjoyment.
o Go head on, do something that you like, yet
fear. Start small.
o If you think you have failed treat it as a
learning experience, you can learn a lot from
your experiences.

The Start!
You need to understand that the basis of all
personal development is clearing emotional blocks
or trauma and allowing the light of a higher power,
God or whatever you believe in, to shine through.
Having said that the first topic we are going to
cover is Enlightenment!
You, like many people may be scared of the word
enlightenment. It has connotations of religion and
mysticism. It evokes images of travelling to India
and studying under a Guru for years, depriving
yourself of all modern luxuries.
Im here to tell you that its nothing like that.
In fact just substitute the phrase crystal clear
clarity when you see the word enlightenment.
Thats what enlightenment is thats the practical
side and the way it benefits you in day to day
activity.
You become crystal clear! This allows you to see
yourself, other people and the world around you
exactly as it is without your current blindfold
on.
It allows you to utilize the law of attraction and
draw to you things and events that you want.
It allows you to completely change your life for
the better.

What is Enlightenment?
Men go fishing all of their lives without
knowing that it is not fish they are after.
Henry David Thoreau
Many of you are looking for what you call
happiness. When I ask my clients or people in
general to define what would make them happy they
give me a list of things. Not just material items
but many other 'things' like love, family, peace
etc..
In all cases there is something to attain.
Let me tell you; There is nothing to attain. There
is only stuff to discard. That leaves you in your
enlightened state. Here in this state, is where you
will find what you call happiness.
Enlightenment
Being a life coach I make a business of helping you
achieve happiness and what you want from your life.
Why can the words I write change your life?
Why can I sit and talk with you and change your
life for the better?
Why is it that I can help others with their life?
I'll give you the answer later in the article.
If you stand on any street corner and ask what is
enlightenment? Perhaps just talk about
enlightenment, most people will say, "Wait a
minute, how the hell does that help me pay the
bills?" and "don't give me any of that religious
crap."

There are many good reasons to seek enlightenment

but before I discuss the practical applications,
what is enlightenment?
So what is Enlightenment?
Enlightenment is an ideal state of being that can
be achieved via an ongoing process. It is the
process of allowing more light, or the maximum
amount of consciousness to shine through your
physical being.
Let me explain it another way. When you are
enlightened you are liberated from the physical
world. That means;
1. You have the ability to witness your thought
process.
Your thoughts create your future physical reality.
You currently identify with your thoughts. You live
your life inside your thought processes and dont
realize that your thoughts are separate to you. The
vast majority of your thinking is conducted without
you being aware of what is being thought.
You ride these thoughts to fruition, often to your
detriment. When you are enlightened, you free
yourself from being swept up in your thinking
process and therefore liberate yourself from any
result that is not your choice.
2. You are free from suffering
You currently suffer every time you wrestle with
emotion, argue about something or agonize over a
decision. Sometimes this is short lived and mild
and at other times it is extremely painful and
remains with you for a long period of time.

When you are free from suffering you will however

still say something colourful when you stub your
toe!
3. You are free of desire.
Desire means you are unsatisfied and in this state
your wants are driven by emotion. Without desire
you can still have, but your want is much closer to
a preference.
When you experience this you will understand
freedom from the material world. This doesnt mean
you cant have or pursue chocolate cake. It just
means you dont lust it and you are unaffected if
you dont get it.
4. You can see the truth.
The truth is the way that the world really is.
Being able to see the truth means you see beyond
the physical shell of others. You see who they
really are. It means you can read between the lines
and really hear what others are saying.
Some people know the process of looking for
enlightenment as "The search for the Holy Grail"
However you do not find enlightenment. It is
achieved by removing its obstacles. These obstacles
are inside you and are created by your mind.
Notice how there is nothing said about religion.
Notice also how there is no mention of morals and
what you can and can't do. Good, now you can find
out just how it helps.

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What does Enlightenment do for you?

Here are some practical examples.
I saw a father shout and get angry at his three or
four year old son. This had a negative impact on
the boy.
Why did it happen?
The father was last on a bus and there were no
seats left. Before the bus could depart from the
airplane to the terminal the man had to be seated.
Everyone was watching and waiting for him.
The logical conclusion was for his son to sit on
his knee. This didn't register on the boy as he was
too young to see what was going on. The father got
very upset and angry and started yelling at the boy
to get up.
The boy was momentarily paralysed at the sight of
his fathers anger, which in the boys mind was for
no reason. This made his father less patient and
more angry, finally dragging the boy off his seat
so he could sit down.
This sort of situation is a frequent occurrence.
This doesn't occur when you are in the process of
enlightenment. You are able to remain calm in all
situations. Anger doesn't exist.
A sales person listens to his client and then
fulfils a need or finds a solution in order to
complete the sale. The key here is listening.

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What happens in real life is that someone talks and

you hear part of what they say. This is because as
they talk your mind momentarily wanders and thinks
in response to what they are saying. You may miss
actual words in the conversation but more
importantly you will miss the true meaning of
what's being said or implied by the words that come
from your clients mouth.
You do not have the ability to clearly read between
the lines. When you are enlightened you are able to
listen completely and to see clearly what is being
said.
Here is another way of looking at it. You are
shopping for some new clothes along the most
fashionable shopping strip in your city. The path
ahead is filled with shop windows displaying
anything and everything.
As you walk, you daydream. As you daydream you are
inside your thoughts and can't see the shops. You
step past each shop, unaware of what it contains.
Every now and again you are aware of a shop, enter
it and buy something that you like.
However you don't know what you missed in each of
the shop windows that you walked past whilst
daydreaming.
Everything you missed in your shopping spree
represents an opportunity in life that you didn't
see.
When you are enlightened you can see the world with
clarity. You get to choose what you want.
So why do I have the ability to help you?
Simply because I am enlightened.
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Yes, just like the guys you hear about in India

that sit around in their robes and share their
wisdom and heal the sick.
Yes, just like Buddha and Jesus were enlightened.
Am I comparing myself to Buddha or Jesus? No, not
at all, I am simply Aymen.
Does it mean that I am a spiritual scholar? No.
Does it mean I am better than you? No.
It just means that my level of consciousness has
been raised to a certain state. In this state I can
help you raise your consciousness.
I do this mostly by transmitting energy in the form
of ideas and words.
Now read on and you can learn in more detail how to
achieve crystal clear clarity!

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Are You Letting Your Thoughts Control You?

"Every thought you have makes up some
segment of the world you see. It is with
your thoughts then, that we must work, if
your perception of the world is to be
changed". A Course In Miracles.
You have about 50 000 thoughts per day. What are
you thinking to create the world you live in? Be
aware of your thoughts. This will give you the
power to create the environment you want. You are
in control whether you like it or not. Accept it!
Many people lead unfulfilled lives.
Are you aware that your thoughts dictate your
emotions? The path you follow is decided upon by
the thoughts that you have and then follow.
Your thoughts make you feel in a certain way.
Emotion comes from your thoughts and emotions are
impossible without thoughts preceding them. When an
event happens in your life you interpret it based
on who you are, your past experiences and the
knowledge you have at the time. Interpret means we
start to think. Thoughts appear and this leads you
to having emotions based on what you are thinking.
The same event may be interpreted differently by
you and your neighbor, causing different emotions
in each of you.
The first step in making a positive change in your
life is being aware of what you think. This sounds
easy but how many thoughts do you have each day? I
have heard the figure 'fifty thousand' quoted. It
is very hard to be aware of all your thoughts; some
are so quick and habitual that you can easily miss
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them. Once you start to consciously 'catch' your

thoughts you may be surprised at how many negative
thoughts you have. You may even be shocked at some
of the thoughts you have.
Your thoughts are not real they are just thoughts!
You have a choice. You can pursue these thoughts
and dwell on them. You can even put them into
action. You can also choose to let them travel
through and not follow them. You can consciously
choose to have positive thoughts. It requires
effort, especially at the beginning. It will soon
become habit. Rather than fight your negative
thoughts just let them go. Get into the habit of
throwing some positive thoughts after them.
Where to start? Next time you are not happy. Take a
look at what you are thinking. Just think about
something that makes you happy. It's that easy. The
past
and
the
future
do
not
exist.
Live in the present moment and create your own
uplifting
thoughts.
Enjoy
life
rather
than
constantly thinking about it.

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You Are Not Your Thoughts!

Most people have an identity based upon their mind.
This means that you believe you are the thoughts in
your head. Everyone thinks in their own certain
way. Most people believe that they are these
thoughts. 'I am fat' 'I am poor' 'I am unhappy' "I
am a carpenter" etc.
These thoughts are not you!
They originate due to external stimuli in your
world. They depend on how YOUR mind has interpreted
the world around you. An example would be; if there
were no thin people then how could you say you were
fat? The word fat would not exist. Your mind
compares you to a standard that you decided to
accept. Your mind continually bombs you with
thoughts that are based on your past and what you
have inherited from your culture.
Emotions are similar. Often the emotion, which
comes after the thought/s are so charged with
energy that you are overwhelmed. You believe that
you are the emotion and act accordingly. Emotions
are your reaction to your mind and it's thoughts.
None of this is you!
When you actually take the time to catch one or
more of your thoughts you discover something
amazing.
Who is doing the catching?
The

answer

to

this

is

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rather

complex

and

too long for this short article. It is instead

contained in The Key To Life Manual.
Did you notice that when you do this there are two
of you? If you have gone through this process you
must now acknowledge that there is someone there
that actually does the catching as opposed to the
thinking.

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A Little On How Your Mind Works

"The best way to predict the future is to
invent it." Alan Kay
You invent the future with every choice
you make in every moment of your life.
Don't
be
a
victim
to
unconscious
programming. Choose where you are going
and make it happen.
One of the best ways you have of improving yourself
is by looking into your thought processes. The
easiest way to do this is to look at the results in
your life.
I mean look at what is happening around you and
what is happening to you. This is an easy way for
you to change your life because you get instant
feedback, just by looking around.
The results you see are the end product of the
accumulation of your thoughts. Your thoughts
actually carry 'weight' and determine what your
world is like. This is not always apparent. We have
so many thoughts; most people are unaware of the
majority of them.
It is estimated
thoughts per day.

that

you

have

around

50

000

Let me explain how your mind works.

You have experiences, through your 5 senses, which
are the process of the conscious mind. These
experiences are recorded by your subconscious mind.

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Your
subconscious
mind
faithfully
records
everything that happens to you, what you think
about it and how you feel about it. Your
subconscious mind can't judge the quality of this
information it only records it.
If you imagine something that is vivid (vivid means
a clear image with depth of emotion), then your
subconscious mind treats this as a real life
experience
and
records
it
as
such.
Your
subconscious mind just records as it sees, it
doesn't store past and future with an image. It
lives in the present.
What is recorded in your subconscious mind forms
your belief system and your Self Image. Your Self
Image is the opinion you have about yourself. The
image of yourself that you form comes from your
accumulated beliefs and the judgments you make in
regard to what you can and can't do.
It is the job of a part of your subconscious mind
to harmonize your external world with your Self
Image. When the two don't match it creates an inner
tension and something must change.
There are two possibilities for change. Either your
external world changes or the tension is reduced.
Lets come back to this later!
Most people exist and accept what happens to them
as their lot in life. They float through life. I
say, you can have whatever you wish. How?
Just reverse the way you do things.
Look around at your world and see what results you
have. Pick something that you wish to change and
set a goal.
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Setting goals is not a new concept. All successful

people have used the concept of goal setting.
However less than 3% of the western population set
and write their goals.
Setting a goal is putting a new image of what you
want into your subconscious.
Lets say you are overweight and you want to be
slim. You need to do the following four things.
1. Set the goal. (I want to be slim)
2. Be specific with the goal. (I want to be 70kg.)
3. Write an affirmation. An affirmation is a
statement of intent and must be written in the
first person, present tense. A statement of intent
has more impact if you add emotional words. (I am a
stunningly slim 70kg and I look wonderful.)
For a full and detailed explanation of these three
things and the fourth and final point please refer
to
the
Key To Life Manual.
Youll also find a full and detailed discussion on
the two things that stop you using one of the most
magical sources of creation - your subconscious
mind. The first of these is if you look for the
how. The how is never apparent otherwise your
goal is too easy. The second thing that stops you
is requiring proof before you act. Proof means you
have no faith. Without faith you cannot harness
your subconscious mind.

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Your Will Your Power!

The collection of your thoughts and their strength
and ability to manifest what the real you desires,
is called your will.
Will is your personal power. Your will is the
collection of your thoughts. Your thoughts if you
have a strong will, enable you to manifest what you
desire.
To put it bluntly, you get what you want if you use
your will. Many people have not developed their
will. In fact many people create situations that
weaken their will.
One of the easiest and simplest ways to strengthen
your will is to set and attain a goal.
Boring you say, we have already covered this! Let's
go a little deeper.
Every time you have a thought that goes along the
lines of - "I will do..." or "I am going to..." you
are actually setting a goal. In other words anytime
you say to yourself I am going to do something no
matter how small that something is, you are goal
setting.
It's like making an appointment with yourself.
"Next week I will..."
The question to ask yourself is do you do it? Do
you keep the appointment? It's interesting to
observe that most people keep appointments with
others yet break the appointment they make with
themselves. This is an indicator of your selfrespect.

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It's your thoughts that create your goals and

targets whether you consciously have a part in them
or not.
Remember we have already covered that the average
person has 50,000 thoughts per day. That's about 2
thoughts per second. Most people are only aware of
a few of their thoughts.
Here's the important bit. Every time you do NOT
follow through and attain your goal you are
weakening your personal power.
Every time that you follow through, you are
strengthening it. The first thing to do is to be
conscious of what you promise yourself and other
people. Don't promise too much.
I am an advocate of shooting high when it comes to
goal setting. However if you consciously examine
your thoughts I believe that you will find you are
promising too much.
You need to focus on less to achieve more.
Here's are some easy examples,
1. A gentleman I know wants to exercise more. He
has trouble exercising once per week and he has
many late nights. He sets himself a target of a
grueling workout every morning before work. It
never happens but he continues to set this goal.
2. A salesman I met believes that he can earn a
fortune selling his product. He has a small,
established client base and has trouble making cold
calls. Everyday he promises himself that he will
make 30 phone calls. His best day so far is two.

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3. I have a client that is disorganized; he has

hundreds of small jobs to do. They are not high on
his list of priorities and they never seem to get
done. He promises himself everyday that he will
clean up. He never has time.
All three scenarios have a multitude of solutions
but we are only discussing the thought process and
how it affects your will.
In all three examples the people are dis-empowered.
In order to build strength of will you need to
start with a smaller target and work on achieving
it.
Achieve one gym workout per week in the afternoon
for a period of time. Make four phone calls per
day, everyday. Do one small task from your low
priority list per day. Build a habit and look for
consistency. Strengthen your will. Achieve one
small step at a time, and then look to the sky to
achieve your dream.

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Your Emotions
Emotions
control
your
life.
They
are
an
inexplicable force that you have to deal with on a
daily basis.
Think of your emotions in terms of energy currents.
Imagine an energy field around you, which changes
shape, color and texture as your emotions change.
In spiritual terms this is called your astral body.
Some people call this your emotional body or energy
field.
Generally, your emotions serve your personality or
your ego. If you wish to achieve a measure of
personal development you must learn to master your
emotions and not be ruled by them. This personal
development is one of the first steps on the
spiritual path of initiation and is also known as
spiritually evolving. The goal of our personal
development is to exercise control of our emotions.
Energetically this is like calming the stormy sea
and symbolically, emotions are represented by
water.
This doesn't mean that we do not 'feel' or that we
should 'shut off' as many people do, on the
contrary the only way to master your emotions is to
get closer to them and actually find out what you
really are feeling. Your emotional needs are often
manifested in physical form. A simple example would
be; eating, many people eat too many sweets. Sweets
are often used as a reward by parents or eaten at
celebrations and may be associated with happiness.
People who are not happy have a subconscious
craving to eat sweets. Emotions control this
behavior.

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Other ways in which emotions dominate are numerous.

You may seek to satisfy desire in many ways; food,
money and sex are common ways to do this. Your
subconscious emotional needs dominate and cause
behavior, which is not 'good' for you. You measure
'good' from a reference point of what you, the soul
behind your ego, thoughts and personality wants.
Through the veil of emotion and ego, a clear path
is
often
needed
before
your
true
self
is
discovered.
There are many ways to still the waters one-way
is to respond, rather than react.
There are other methods that are discussed in my
Manual but we dont have enough room here to cover
them all.
Reacting means you are usually expressing a
negative emotion such as anger and jealousy. Please
notice how I said expressing. If we respond rather
than react we will still feel the emotion. We do
not however have to express it in a negative
fashion. In order to respond rather than react you
need to follow two simple steps that you can find
in the Key To Life Manual.
This two-step process is simple, but hard to put
into practice, the heat of the moment often
providing a difficult training ground. A common way
to overcome this difficulty is to work backwards.
Start with the moments that cause you to react.
Look at incidents that cause you to get emotional,
situations where people 'push your buttons'. Anger
and Jealousy are easy places to start. Look for the
message about yourself; don't just react.
Your emotions originate from thoughts. Unravel the
thread. Find the thought pattern behind the
emotion. All negative emotions start with a fear.
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Take jealousy for instance. This is based on the

fear of losing your partner. It also has it's
origins from the incorrect assumption that you
posses your partner. This shows up as issues of
self worth and it means that you are comparing
yourself to another person and judging yourself as
less.
Envy is another negative emotion and again the
origin is fear. The focus with envy is on what we
are lacking. What you are really thinking is "The
other person has what I want" This is based on one
of two ideas;
There is not enough for everyone and I might be
inadequate or I am not happy with my situation or
myself. This manifests with you launching an attack
or belittling the person or object of your envy.
Statements such as "I didn't want that anyway"
"That's no good because..." mean you are focusing
on what you don't have. Change your thoughts; focus
instead on what you do have.
Once you are aware of the mechanics, which come
into play when your negative emotions are aroused,
you have come a long way. What is required to
finish the task at hand is a willingness to
confront yourself. Remember, when emotions are
raised in YOU, that is the signal for you to look
inside.
A common trap along the way is failure to look at
yourself and instead look to the other person
involved.
This
means
you
are
not
taking
responsibility for your self. You need to shift the
focus back onto you. If you are really interested
in working with this concept you need to take a
look at the Key To Life Manual.

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Who Are You?

This is an important question.
You are a soul, experiencing certain aspects of
creation through a physical body. The real you is
eternal, the real you is the hidden spiritual side,
the voice of wisdom that you sometimes hear in
moments of clarity. The real you is one with the
universe and everything in it. It is the part of
you that feels, the part of you that has a dream,
the part of you that knows right from wrong and
good from bad. Some people call this "your higher
self."
In most of us, to varying degrees, this true nature
is blocked and hidden by what's known as your ego.
Your ego is the part of you that does all the
thinking, it is responsible for the management of
your physical body, including feeding, sheltering
and protecting it. Although your ego is a
necessity, problems arise when it dominates and
controls. This happens because it over identifies
with your physical state and believes it is all
there is. The result is that you live under an
illusion and forget who you are. Your true
spiritual being is blocked from your consciousness.
This is your negative ego. Some people call this
"your lower self."
Why are you like this?
You are here to experience the physical, to learn
the power of our thoughts and to create with them.
We are on a journey back to our source. In order
for us to be able to do this we must temporarily
forget who we really are. Your mind through its
guardian, your ego, latches onto an identity. This
identity is formed from our surroundings and

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experiences since birth. It serves us because we

believe that that's all there is.
Ask someone, "Who are you?" You are likely to get
an answer such as,
o "I am a Writer"
o "I am a Lawyer"
o "I am a Basketballer"
o "I am a Catholic"
People answer with what they do and associate with.
Not with who they really are. The identity that you
create and hold onto also encompasses certain
traits. These traits are learned responses to
stimuli that you have encountered. If the behavior
you choose is deemed to be self-serving at the
time, your ego adds it to its repertoire and a
habit is in the making. Your Lower Self behavior
usually serves your subconscious desires and needs.
These needs are essentially physical and survival
based. They are based on you moving away from fear.
Imagine a shop-aholic who spends all his/her money.
They have to have all the latest clothes no matter
how expensive and how many other clothes they have
to wear. They do this to the detriment of the other
parts of their life, perhaps they run up huge
credit card bills as is common. The fear in this
case may be that they would not be accepted, their
ego tells them that if they have the latest
fashions then they will be accepted. The extent to
which this is played out is dependent on how much
control their ego has. Imagine an angry driver who
abuses other drivers for driving too slow in front
of them. This may be a fear of arriving late for
work or an appointment. The anger is their ego

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enforcing
right
aggression.

of

way

by

intimidation

and

Your Higher Self makes decisions based on movement

towards love and this is essentially spiritual in
nature. An example of this would be spontaneously
giving a present without thought of any reciprocal
arrangement. Helping someone from a pure desire
just to serve, like in the clich of helping a
little old lady across the road. This would also be
taking up the career we love as opposed to the ego
based choice of a career for the money. Going to a
restaurant you love as opposed to the ego based
choice of the restaurant that is fashionable to be
seen at.
What do you argue about?
Think of two people arguing. Who is right and who
is wrong? It depends on your perspective.
Two people argue over the weather, the first person
says it is cold the second person says it's not.
The temperature is 7 degrees Celsius. Who do you
think is right? The first person lives near the
equator and enjoys the warm weather and sunshine.
The second person comes from one of the poles and
is used to subzero temperatures. Right or wrong can
only be - when it is compared to something else.
You take up your defensive position because your
ego identifies with certain thoughts that you have.
These thoughts are part of your identity and your
ego has convinced you that this is who you are and
therefore you must take a stand. You are not your
opinion. There is no right and wrong. Think about
what you last argued over. You may have tried to
make yourself right and the other person wrong.
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defend. Why does one of you have to be right and

therefore the other wrong?
You are not the identity that your ego has built.
If you make some changes in your life, you will
still be you. Change your career, car, spouse, the
country that you live in, your eating habits, your
sexual preferences, your sporting club, go to jail
or go to church, go to the movies or sleep all day.
You are still you, no matter what you do. The
scenario's we can discuss are endless, complex and
along similar lines. What is important is that you
recognize what your fear is and when your ego takes
over!

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Happy and Whole

"It is an orderly universe and the
suffering that comes to us has a purpose
in our lives, it is trying to teach us
something. We should look for its lesson."
Peace Pilgrim
Look around you. The world is reflecting
what you believe. The world is reflecting
to you, what and who you are. If you are
not happy with what's going on around you,
the type of people you attract or your
physical surrounds. Stop trying to change
the world and change who you are.
Your soul chooses to manifest into the physical
body you have today, to create, express and
experience. To be happy and whole you need to do
four things. Here is a brief explanation of two of
things you need to do.
1. Express and nurture yourself.
As a human being you need to express yourself.
Expression means doing what you want to do, what
you feel you have to do and showing the world who
you are as an individual. This is often cloaked in
an emotional cloud. Your path can be obscured by
the powerful 'should' word. People often spend
lifetimes doing what they should do as expressed by
the wishes of their parents or society. "What will
my parents think if I am the singer in a rock and
roll band instead of a lawyer or doctor". Find what
you want to do as expressed by your soul. This is
how you find your power.
Living a life that denies expression and your inner
feelings means that you are not nurturing yourself.
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It also means that you are suppressing your

feelings. Suppression gives away your power. When
you give your power to others it enables them to
have undue influence over you. When people have too
much
power
and
influence
over
you
and
subconsciously you are not doing what you want, you
feel helpless and victimized. This causes you to be
frightened and angry. Anger is a symptom of your
loss of power.
The easiest way to suppress feelings is to
medicate. Drugs including alcohol and the use of
food are popular methods employed. Emptiness,
boredom and disease are the results of this
process. Not doing what you want means you are not
nurturing yourself this again may manifest in the
abuse of food, alcohol or sex. The substance or
behavior becomes a substitute for nurturing.
2. Love yourself and accept yourself as you are.
You need to accept
you are today. All
and everyone has,
'bad' thoughts. We
ashamed of.

yourself and to love yourself as

of us have thoughts and feelings
or has had, what they consider
have all done things that we are

There is both positive and negative in you. This is

also known as light and dark. You must acknowledge
and accept your dark side to become whole. No
matter what you have done in the past you can
change your behavior today. It is pointless to
wallow in your feelings of guilt as this is based
on the assumption that what you did was wrong. Your
behavior always has a positive intent for you, at
the time.
There is a great self esteem exercise that is very
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dramatically improve your Self Love, Self Esteem

and Self Acceptance.
It can be found in the Key To Life Manual along
with the other two things that you need to do to be
happy and whole.

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Its Fear That Stops You!

"Fear is the foundation of all human
limitations." Benny the Jet
Benny the Jet was a fighter, a kick boxer.
Although very small in stature he has
ventured to fight much larger opponents in
full contact tournaments and he has beaten
them. This is an achievement, which earned
him some acclaim.
Before you say, "hey! I thought that this
was
a
spiritual
publication"
think
carefully and reflect over your life. What
fears have stopped you doing something and
what rewards have you missed out on?
Fear is only an emotion not a brick wall.
You have learnt of goals and setting targets. It is
important to move forward into the direction that
you wish to go. I deliberately use the words 'move
into' because that's what you do. You don't move
towards your goal as if it was a never reachable /
achievable ideal. You literally merge with it. You
move forward and become what you want.
What stops you? Fear.
Fear is an interesting emotion and comes from a
series of thoughts. These thoughts are expressed
and form a picture of what you don't want to
happen. The ideal is to focus on what you do want
to happen. Whatever you focus on you move towards.
Just because you have a series of thoughts that
create an emotion does not mean that you can't act.
The emotion is independent of the ability to act.
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Here are some physical examples that illustrate the

possibilities.
If you are about to parachute from an airplane you
may feel fear but you can still perform the action.
A fighter may feel fear whilst he faces his
opponent but he can still perform. You may feel
fear at the thought of public speaking. You can
still actually speak whilst in the company of this
emotion.
If you look at the pattern of thoughts that precede
the emotion you will see that your focus is on what
you do not wish to happen. There is a direct
correlation between the amount of thought you give
in this direction to the power of your fear. Of
course there are other factors that complicate this
illustration. You may have had a prior negative
experience, which usually increases your fear. I
know if you look closely you will find the same
pattern of thoughts that lead to the emotion of
fear. A thought or series of thoughts have as much
power over you as you give them. It's not always as
easy as the physical examples I have given. For the
relationship between action and emotion is quite
obvious. Here is a more intangible way fear
manifests and stops you moving ahead and into your
goals.
Fear of success is prevalent and is often linked to
self-esteem and responsibility. You may not think
you are worthy of success. You may believe that you
are worth less than someone else and therefore are
not deserving of success. Realize that you are
equal as a human being with the rest of humanity
and that no one person is any better or worse than
you. You have your own set of challenges to work
through. You are just as deserving of success as
anyone else. What judgment have you made that limit
your own self-esteem?
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When success finally comes you move from an old

pattern that has held you back, to a new pattern.
This can create emotional turbulence in the lives
of those around us. It is important that you
understand that you don't have to hold yourself
back to protect the self-esteem of others. You have
a fear of your own greatness and you can
read more about it in the Key To Life Manual, along
with two other major fears that prevent you moving
forward.

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Final Words.
"Fear is not of the present, but only of
past and future - which does not exist."
A Course In Miracles
You are often afraid right now, of something that
is imaginary. How much energy do you waste thinking
and being afraid of something that may never
happen, next week?
Do you empower a past negative situation and let
that spoil what you are doing today?
Your thoughts are yours; only you have the power to
change them.

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If You Want More

If you have read through this e-book in its
entirety and you are ready for more, let me help
you transform your life.
I can offer you several ways to this.
1. I have a book available (maybe more than one by
the time you read this) Its Called the Key To
Life Manual.
2. I can offer you some personal Life Coaching.
3. You can attend one of my workshops in person
or via the web
Information on all three options can be found at my
web site www.AymenFares.com
Here is some information about each in case you
have printed the e-book and dont have access to
the internet now.

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The Key To Life Manual

The Key To Life Manual teaches you how to get
anything you want. This includes happiness, success
and wealth.
It is honest, hard-hitting information that works,
written by someone who uses it everyday on himself
and real world clients.
It is not just theory!
The manual also explains why normal practice of
goal setting often doesnt work. I teach you secret
techniques that are not generally know and explain
exactly who you are, where you came from and what
the meaning of life is.
Try it for yourself. You cant afford not to.

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What is Life Coaching?

Life Coaching is a special relationship between you
the client and I the coach. As a coach I help
people from all walks of life and each relationship
is different. I guide you in stages at your pace
and I offer you a non-judgmental point of view.
This allows you the recognition of your own
enormous potential.
The result is that you achieve your objectives much
faster than if working alone. I assist you in
finding happiness and a fulfilling stress free
lifestyle.
Still, life coaching is one of those hard to define
terms. It's almost become a main stream profession
in the same way personal training has crept into
society - however not all life coaches are created
equal.
That's because Life Coaching is not a science its
an "Art".
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I'm better or
worse than any particular coach - I'm just
different. In my uniqueness I will be a perfect
match as a coach to some of you - you decide.
Lets start by attempting to define what life
coaching is? (Here is an article that gives you the
standard answer)
I've done plenty of 'standard life coaching as
described in the preceding article but that's NOT
what I'm about.

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My life coaching is mainly concerned with your

spiritual fulfilment and enlightenment.
I concentrate on your enlightenment, after all,
that's the purpose of life and if you take this
path all of your problems have solutions.
What you will learn
Here is some of what you will learn during a 12
session Life Coaching program with Aymen

The concept of being "present" or living in the

"now"

How to do this and live this in "real life" as

opposed to theory

How your thoughts work, how to manipulate them

and how to free yourself from their slavery.

What are emotions and how to free yourself from

their control

How your conscious and subconscious mind works

Belief Systems and how they influence you

Law of attraction

How to find your blocks in life

How to dissolve your blocks

How to use intuition

Problem solving for a better life

Connection with a higher power

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Intuition or "Special Psychic Powers"

I am an Intuitive coach and a healer. That means I
use my intuition and other talents to discern what
is creating the pain or problem you are
experiencing. Then usually using only words I can
heal you.
Here are some testimonials for you to read.

My life coaching works because I have a few hidden

talents.

The first of these talents is that I am a high

level Empath. (Here is an article that explains
what an empath is)

The second is that I am very strong and direct.

I don't beat around the bush and am not afraid
of confronting an issue and telling it like it
is! I have the ability to pierce
your psychological wall. I'm not intimidated
and I am not frightened of saying what needs to
be said.

I am a healer. The coaching process with me is

healing - some people heal through their hands
- I can heal through my hands but my voice and
my words are much more powerful.

I am a very experienced Life Coach.

I have a lot of knowledge.

I have a lot of general life experience.
I am intuitive and psychic.
I am extremely practical, "No Nonsense", "No B.S"
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and have the ability to get straight to the heart

of an issue. Remember Im an ex-policeman and own a
building company now.

Topics Covered Life Coaching

Here are some of the vast range of subjects I have
covered with different people;
Anxiety / Social Disorders - Often based on
patterns of thought and the emotions around them.
There is relief from this.
Being "Present" - Teaching you how to be present
and showing all the benefits that come with that.
Thoughts - Teaching you how your thoughts work, why
you think certain things and showing you that you
are not attached to them. Showing you the way you
think and the way it influences your future. How to
discover what you are thinking and how to change
and influence your future thought.
Emotions - How they are created by your thoughts
and the way the exert influence over you - and
control you. Free yourself from the influence of
emotion without blocking your feelings. Free
yourself from desire so that you have preferences
not emotional drivers.
Belief Systems - Breaking through limiting beliefs.
Showing you why you believe certain things and how
to change those beliefs.
Enlightenment - Creating space to allow the light
of the higher power in. Increasing your
consciousness - This is the goal of all personal
development.

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Law Of Attraction - How it really works - what the

"Secret" doesn't tell you. How to apply it and
avoid common mistakes.
Romantic Relationships - How to get one, how to
keep one and how to save one. Meeting your soul
mate. I can help you find the perfect partner.
Parenting Issues
your children

Improving relationships with

Relationships (other than romantic) - How to have

great relationships. How to deal with and interact
with others. How to smooth relationships either
personal or business.
Sex - Including sexual problems or dis-function in
men, women and relationships. Healing sexual
relationships. Heightening sexual relationships and
heightened states of "being" created through sex.
Sexuality - Issues of sexuality like being gay or
bisexual. Sexual fantasy - dealing with/acceptance
of the same. Sexual freedom, inhibition and shame.
Sex Magick - (here is an article that explains sex
magick)
Conflict Resolution - How to deal with people,
create win - win situations or just untangle
yourself from a bad situation. How to stop arguing
with other people.
Life Direction - Getting "clear" and onto the right
path. Finding your direction in life. Changing your
career. Issues around divorce and separation.
Personal Power - All about your life force,
boundaries and your behaviour.

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Boundaries - How to maintain your personal

boundaries. The breaking of personal boundaries and
taboos.
Fear - Eliminating and pushing through fear.
Healing Past Hurts - Removing the pain of hats
happened in the past. Releasing trauma and
forgiving
Attitude - Changing your attitude to life from
negative to positive - in order to invoke the law
of attraction in a positive way.
Self Esteem - Fixing it and lifting it.
Discovering why its down and lifting it fast.
Giving you the tools to make sure it never drops
again.
Weight Loss - How to lose weight, why you are not
losing weight and everything associated with diets,
eating, health and exercise.
Male Issues How to be a man, embracing
masculinity. How to feel instead of either blocking
emotion or succumbing to it.
Intuition One of my favourite topics. How to
develop intuition and enhance decision making and
taking action. This is especially useful for
business people, executives, sales people and
speculators.
Trading (Shares, Fx, Cfds and options) For
discretionary traders. How to master your emotions
and enhance your trading.

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Appointments can be made for Face To Face meetings

(I am in Melbourne Australia) or via Skype from
anywhere in the world.

Accountability dramatically improves your bottom

line. In dollar terms alone, this one point pays
for years of coaching.
If you are looking for direct personal or business
coaching to really make your world zing! Contact me
direct or via my web site.
www.AymenFares.com
Aymen Fares
SALM Enterprises Pty. Ltd.
Suite 49/66 Kingsway
Glen Waverley VIC
Australia 3150
Mobile 61 0418 102 544
Email: info@AymenFares.com

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Workshops
Are you still not sure about coaching? Dip your toe
in the water with a Workshop. Read the newsletters
I send out and check my web site regularly for
upcoming workshops and events.
You can learn all of the same techniques as if you
were being coached its just not personalized to
the same extent as one on one coaching.
Try this link to see upcoming workshops and events

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An important final point to remember!

Next time you experience the following and cant
figure out how to prevent it happening again.
Argue with your spouse.
Get angry with your children.
Have trouble at work with your employees, your
employer or your work colleagues.
Find yourself without direction.
Have no meaning in your life.
Are stressed about something.
Experience fear, in any way.
Find that you are unhappy.
Find that you are dissatisfied with your sex
life
Find that you have lost motivation.
Are stuck and not taking action.
Are in emotional pain.
Lose money trading the markets.
Struggle with descisions
Aymen has the answers! Try me and see
www.AymenFares.com
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