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Every person - including YOU - has done "bad" things. We hide those things from
people because we're afraid if they knew they wouldn't love us.
1. Other people in the world need you to look at them and simply accept them.
Doesn't matter if they know about NLP, visualization, or anything else. If you're
with them and accept them, they'll feel it.
People feel like they get to win when they find a fault in your argument. That's their
self-expression.
1. Most people don't have the sense that there's any other option besides completely
going with it and saying yes... or going totally against it.
2. But the third place is to accept their reality as their reality, without having to judge
it positively or negatively. Then when they're done, share your own different
perspective on it.
3. As long as you're not judging them and making them wrong, nor putting yourself
on the high horse of superiority... the other person will usually simply be ok with
your different view.
What to do:
1. Make an inventory of the parts you're aware of. What do they want? What are
they trying to do?
2. Then at any moment, ask "What part is present now?"
3. The normal way to get us to do something we want to do and can but don't... is to
use force. It doesn't work and creates wild swings of power between your parts.
4. The answer - align the parts.
5. Have something greater than ourselves to align around.
We make decisions easier when we have a cause. It gives us a way to align our parts
in a single direction.
When you have a cause, you become attractive and interesting to other people.