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Cosmo have
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Hands up
for nail art
n the cover
23 Hot Spring
Fashion
Trends
From
animal
The Saturdays
Ms King on longprints
distance love, babies
to sports
and Twitter
chic to
trolls
pastels and
more your
perfect new look awaits
65 Confessions Of A Male Porn
Addict How one man had to learn
to have sex with his girlfriend
82 Feel 100% Condent
Let Cosmo be your life coach
86 Listen To Your Instincts
Not Your Critics These savvy
businesswomen proved the
doubters wrong. So could you
160 50 Sex Tips To Take You Over
The Edge Do try these at home
46
Mollie
LIVE BIG & GO FOR IT

23 If You Only Desire One
Thing This Month Make it some
super-sparkly neck candy
25 Catwalk To Cosmo Delicious
denim pieces
28 Lessons Ive Learnt From My Mad
Fat Diary The real-life Rae Earl on how
sharing her adolescent embarrassments
has taught her a great deal
31 Fashion At Work Great strides
34 Men Vs Fashion The boys cast
their verdicts on celeb outts
37 Lust Haves Show us to the
shiny things
40 Winging It Sick of couples sucking
face in your space? This is for you
41 The Rise Of Secret Networks Now
that your mum and dad are on Facebook,
where can you share online privately?
LOVE, SEX & SUCCESS

43 Confessions Employment uh-ohs
54 No Doctor Would Tell A Cancer
Patient To Go Away Until Their
Illness Got Worse Why arent eating
114
Find your
inner
animal
disorders being taken more seriously?

70 Sex And The
Single Girl Sophie asks a guy for a
date. What could possibly go wrong?
Single Guy Tom hits the clubs and
nds them a romance-free zone
73 Oh, Harper, Will You Ever Have
Awkward Teenage Years? Will Miss
Beckhams privileged upbringing
actually mean she misses out on a lot?
76 What Does This Remind You Of?
From art galleries to trendy bakeries,
vaginas seem to be everywhere. Two
writers feel very differently about it
80 So, Why Isnt The Law Protecting
Womens Bodies? Why hasnt Britain
got tough over female genital mutilation?
89 She Said What?! Want to make a
good impression at work? Here are ve
things you should never say
91 So You Think You Want My Job?
How a dietician spends her day and
what she really eats
92 He Says She Says An email
mistakenly sent halfway round the
world brought this couple together
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96 Romancing The Tone Spring
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106 Game Changer Sporty, simple and
sexy = game, set and match to you
114 LAfrique Cest Chic Animal
prints and tribal bling to make you
look jungle-fresh
120 The Edit Our purse-friendly
guide to springs key looks
127 Catwalk To Curvy New-season
styles perfect for plus-sizes
129 How Do I Wear The Bomber
Jacket? Team Cosmo takes on the trends
133 Top 10 Flats Chic shoes you can
actually walk in!
136 Power To The Purple This
Inside
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61 Zac Efrons Awkward Moments
That condom incident included
62 20 Men On The Best Thing
About Being Single Its not just
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67 Centrefold Olympic swimmer Ryan
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174 The Busy Girls Workout Superquick, super-effective moves
175 Ask Irma No-nonsense advice
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176 Design Doubles Turn your pad
into a kaleidoscope of colour
179 Good Girls Go To Heaven, Bad
Girls Go Everywhere Jamaica? No, she
went of her own (oh, stop it)
180 Cosmostrology
186 Date Night With Alex Pettyfer
The Magic Mike hunk spills on his
dangerous passion. Us?!
SEX ETC
IN EVERY ISSUE
159 Sex Etc Opener

165 Lets Go Digital Something is
missing from our sex lives. And no, its
nothing to do with technology
167 Sex Therapy Rachel Morris sorts
your horizontal hang-ups
168 Fat Vs Sugar The Big Debate
Sugar is the new nutritional no-no, but
are we being fed the right facts?
171 My Bodys Amazing Because
Breast-cancer survivor Hannah Foxleys
body has been on a tough journey, and
she loves it more than ever
172 Hottest Superfoods Just what do
those mysterious new supplements on
the health-food shop shelves do?
173 Bye-Bye Body Hang-Ups Dr Linda
17 On The Cover
19 Editors Letter
21 Youniverse Have your say
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of a charity we all wish didnt have
tragic outcome, since that young man died at
to exist. Beat was set up to help
19 from anorexia nervosa.
with the treatment of people with
Eating disorders claim more lives than any
eating disorders which currently
other mental illness, with up to 20% of people
affect 1.6 million people in the UK
dying prematurely either from the physical
and Cosmo is proud to be its chosen media
consequences of the illness or suicide. But
partner for 2014. So, instead of writing my
these conditions are treatable, and recovery
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is possible. One persistent myth is that no one
Ringwood, Beats chief executive, to explain
ever really gets over an eating
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Eating disorders are serious
our daily contact with people
mental illnesses, yet awareness
SUPPORTS
affected by eating disorders, that
about them is still hampered by
this isnt true. People can and do
misunderstanding and myths. Its
make full recoveries; their health
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and well-being restored, their
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and awareness of these distressing and often
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As the second series of the TV comedy based on Rae

Earls diaries hits our screens, Rae, 42, tells Cosmo
what lessons shes learnt along the way
nogging pillows.
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bodies. Insecurity came as
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just how it was in my day,
has insecurities. Since
only we were told to shut up
putting my life out there,
about it. People self-harmed
Ive discovered that even the
too, you know. If only theyd
beautiful, slim classmates
had someone to talk to and
who looked like swans and
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Kurtz and Cosmo. Knowledge
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A shared experience is
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NICK SAYS She looks
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saw a girl wearing this, Id
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Lady Gaga.
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ties together better than
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Lady Gaga you expect her
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NICK SAYS She looks
ROB, 23, from

London, is a designer
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me something about
who she is.
colour, but theres too much

of it; shed look better in
different trousers.
NICK SAYS She

looks OK for a casual
summers day, but I
wouldnt want to take
her to dinner wearing
this ensemble.
ROB SAYS This
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the top part is formal
and the jeans look
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yourself stuck
being the wingwoman? Rosie
Mullender knows
j t how that feels
Ive spent countless evenings
guarding piles of bags and
coats, willing the clubs lights
to go up so I can go home. One
night, I made my friend promise
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she wouldnt leave me on my

own. This is about us girls,
OK? I warned before she
started chatting up a guy as we
queued to get into the club.
After hours of watching her
getting it on under a glitterball,
I knew something had to
change. No longer willing to
be a one-way wing-woman, I
swapped clubs for pubs and
never looked back. But is

there a (tactful; non-passiveaggressive) way of letting your
friends know its not OK to
ditch you every time you go
out? You need to maintain
a balance between fun and
friendship, and make your
boundaries
clear, says
behavioural
therapist Charlotte AustinTalbot. Before you go out,

let your friend know you want
to stay together. If she lets
you down, have a face-to-face
conversation the next day. Be
fair but assertive. Dont judge;
focus on how you feel rather
han her behaviour, and
emind her that staying
afe is a priority.
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ick of seeing couples getting

it on in public, Drew Phillips
(pictured) and Scott Cleveland
have created the funniest
Tumblr weve seen in ages.
The concept behind Wing-manning is
simple: locate a target, stand nearby, look
totally unamused and get your mate to
take a photo. Genius. Narked-off wingmen and women everywhere salute you.
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decrease in daily users,

acebooks just
specically teens).
celebrated its
Katy Howell of social-media
10th birthday,
consultancy Immediate
but the party
Future says weve grown more
may be over.
discerning as privacy issues
New research shows young
come to the fore. Instead,
people are abandoning the
were going for segmentation
site and moving on to the
next big thing: private social keeping friendship groups
separate and intimate (do
networks where your dirty
you really want all your FB
laundry stays hidden.
friends knowing what you
Figures suggest that TMI
wailed during 4am karaoke?).
fatigue and concern over
And so were switching to
what our boss (or ex) might
discreet, private apps such as
see is driving us away from
Path and Between.
Facebook. Plus, the rising
US app Path limits your
number of oldies signing up
contacts to just 150
means younger users
people (see ya, 645
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music and messages
night pics
with a small inner
something Facebook
circle. Crucially, you can see
itself has conrmed (in
whos viewed your updates,
November it announced a
making it impossible to
sneakily stalk somebody. The
app has already notched up
an impressive 20 million
users worldwide since its
launch in 2010. Similarly,
South Korean app Between
offers a space for two people
to make a virtual scrapbook
of their relationship (photos,
videos, messaging essentially
Facebook for two) and has
been downloaded 3.75
million times already.
Couple is another one-onone app rapidly gaining
momentum, with over a
billion messages already
having been shared.
So maybe soon youll be
waving a virtual goodbye
to those mind-numbing
updates from that former
schoolmate you never quite
got round to unfriending.
See you on the other side?
HAPPY
BIRTHDAY TO
THE SHARD!
Londons
newest iconic
building turns one this month
and now contains three of the
UKs coolest, most dizzyingly
high-up restaurants. Heres
where else to get a taste of
the high life...
PANORAMIC
34, LIVERPOOL
Formerly the
UKs highest
restaurant
(100m), every seat has a
spectacular view. It serves
modern French classics, as
well as fab cocktails.
TOWER
RESTAURANT,
EDINBURGH
On top of the
National
Museum of Scotland, enjoy
unbeatable views with heartybut-haute Scottish cuisine.
GRAPE &
OLIVE,
SWANSEA, at
the top of the
tallest building
in Wales, the Meridian Tower,
overlooks the marina below
and serves delicious
locally-sourced food.
SUSHISAMBA,
LONDON, on
the 38th and
39th oors of
the Heron
Tower, has Europes highest
outdoor eating terrace and
serves great fusion food.
Giftstalking (verb)
Checking the ads on your boyfriends
laptop to see if you can gure out
what hes getting you for your
birthday. Are there pop-ups for
Tiffanys or cheap ights to Paris
vying for his attention on his Firefox,
betraying his browsing history? Or
maybe, if youre less lucky, purveyors
of tacky lingerie and oven gloves?
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Confessions
Your juiciest secrets this month
Working 9-to-5?
What a way not to
make a living
In a tight spot
I work behind the scenes at a

theme park as the health and safety
coordinator, which means squeezing
into a lot of small spaces and taking
extra care that everythings safe. I was
doing my normal checks one day when
I stood up too quickly in a low-ceiling
area and knocked myself out cold it
was pretty embarrassing having to be
taken to hospital and explaining that
despite being charged with health and
safety, I wasnt wearing a hard hat.
Ruth, 26, health and safety
coordinator, London
Beauty blooper
Trying to impress in my workexperience placement at a busy

publishing house, I was put in charge
of the annual beauty awards. I had to
request images from PRs and thought
theyd respond more quickly if I told
them theyd been nominated. Massive
mistake. My boss then got a million
emails from various PR rms thanking
her for the nomination. Then tweets
started popping up from the companies
telling everyone theyd been nominated
for our awards. An angry conversation
later, my boss made me ring every
person up and explain to them that
Ben decided he needed

to order the pink
Post-its more often
this wasnt the case. Lets just say

my placement was short-lived.
Bridget, 21, journalist, London
As one door closes
Id been hoping for a promotion for a

while, so when my boss picked me to
give a presentation to a major client,
I was chuffed! I wanted it to be perfect,
and on deadline day I was running
around like a headless chicken trying to
get things nished. I needed to ask my
boss a question so I sprinted into her
office, not realising shed closed her
glass door. I smacked into it nose-rst in

front of the whole office and had to go
to A&E. But I still did the presentation
the next day, black eyes and all
Suzie, 29, recruitment consultant, Leeds
Re: Slagging off boss
My boss had just given me a dressing

down in front of my team so, in a rage,
I red off an email to my friend. She
doesnt know what shes talking about.
I could do her job with my eyes shut. Shes
so unprofessional. And dont get me started
on what shes wearing today. You should
See more Cosmo readers confessions at COSMOPOLITAN.CO.UK/COMMUNITY/CHANNEL

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Confessions
see it! Not my nest hour, but the worst
thing was that I sent it to my boss by
mistake. HR ended up getting involved
and I was put on disciplinary measures.
Always check before you send!
Karen*, 29, office assistant, Maidstone
Ball games
Im the restarter
I had a very important meeting with our

premier client, and my boss was banking
on me to clinch the deal. After a detailed
pitch over a lavish dinner, I thought Id
nailed it. I leant over to shake the clients
hand with my bag hooked on my arm,
oblivious that it was over a candle. I
thought I could smell burning, but didnt
think anything of it, until the client told
me. In a panic I chucked water on it, but
managed to hit my boss in the process.
Luckily, we secured the deal, but ever
since Ive been known as Smoky Joe.
Esme*, 28, sales executive, Cardiff
Costume drama
My new job started in October, and a

staff meeting was scheduled just before
our Halloween night out. I hate fancy
dress but felt I ought to make an effort,
so I turned up to the meeting in a pirate
costume, complete with eye patch, scar
makeup and a blow-up parrot on my
shoulder only to nd that nobody else
was dressed up. They were all going
home afterwards to change and nobody
had told me! Even worse, the manager
then asked me to introduce myself to
everyone because I was new. I spent the
entire meeting wishing the ground
would swallow me whole.
Laura, 24, bartender, Glasgow
GUYS
CONFESS
Freaky facial hair

Sometimes their beards and mos
just get the best of them
Mo regrets
Id been seeing this girl for a while

and she told me she had a thing for
guys with moustaches, which was
great because I had a monster of a
mo. Then, one time before sex, she
asked me if I wouldnt mind shaving
it off for her I guess she wanted to
see the man behind the mo. Sadly,
that was the last time I saw her. I
guess it really was the moustache
she was into, after all...
Matt, 28, comedian, London
Weird beard
I was away from home on a work

trip, having a quick shave with my
electric trimmer. Id just nished the
strip right down the middle of my
chin when the battery died and
I didnt have the charger with me.
Whats worse, the rest of my beard
was really long at that point, so my
bizarre reverse Mohawk was very
noticeable for the next few days.
I was so embarrassed rocking that
monstrosity while trying to look
professional in front of my boss.
Daniel, 24, journalist, Belfast
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Chin up
My friends and I always go all out

for Movember. Last year was the best
yet wed raised a load of money
and Id grown an impressive
handlebar moustache. For a laugh, I
decided to dye it pink on the last day.
But, when I went to shave it, I found
the dye had stained my skin, leaving
me with a neon-pink horseshoe
around my mouth. I was a laughing
stock at work, and it took ages to
grow enough back to cover it again.
Chris, 28, call-centre worker, Edinburgh
Stubble double
Ever since I could grow one, Ive had

a full beard, but one time I decided
to shave it off to see if I liked it. That
night, I couldnt count the number
of people looking at me confused
as if to say,Is it you? Then one
friend said, Hi, are you one of
Daves mates? I couldnt resist I
told him I was my own twin brother
and acted offended that Dave never
mentioned me. We talked for 10
minutes before he clicked. Ha!
David, 25, radio presenter, Cardiff
COSMOPOLITAN.CO.UK/COMMUNITY/CHANNEL
BY BECKY FLETCHER AND KATE RUSSELL. PHOTOGRAPHS NICK ONKEN, GETTY. *NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED
During a job interview, I pretended I was

in a local netball team, knowing a few of
the girls in the office played in a league.
A few weeks into the new job, they kept
asking me about it. I nally agreed to go
along one night, even though I hadnt
played since I was 16. I turned up to
practice in Converse (I dont own
proper trainers), and kept getting called
up for breaking the rules and missing
the ball. The girls didnt say anything
but it was obvious they knew Id lied.
That was the last time I played netball.
Sarah*, 31, fashion buyer, Manchester
Woman we love
In fashion, love and life,

M O L L I E K I N G has relaxed
the rules. Cosmo finds out the secrets
behind her confident new vibe
Words
Photographs
Styling
|Woman we love |
ince Cosmo last
photographed Mollie
King, theres been a
subtle transformation.
For our cover shoot she
wants less makeup, fewer
accessories and no candy
pinks Shes calmer;
more poised. It seems
the girly one from pop
band The Saturdays has
found her stride. Now
26, shes in a longdistance relationship
with American record
producer Jordan Omley
and has her own place
in west London with
her dog Ale.
In the past year shes been plucked
by the fashion elite straight on to the
FROW at fashion week and into Next
Managements talent books, alongside
Alexa Chung, Lana Del Rey and Suki
Waterhouse. With the second drop of
Loved By Mollie her collection of
signature pastel separates and tailored
spring coats hitting Oasis stores in
March, Mollies taking fashion seriously.
I studied fashion at A level and its
something I love learning about. Ive
always had a strong opinion on clothes.
I know straight away if I like something
or not and how it could work, she says.
But far from a pouty fashion clich,
shes still the girl you could just as
easily share a Chinese takeaway with on
Saturday night (chicken in black bean
sauce with egg fried rice for her). She
become Auntie Mollie to three of
bandmates children, and loves not
better than a deep and meaningful
with her mum. We skipped straigh
past talking about the government
budget decit and sat down to chat
exes and babies. Cosmo gets the
serious gossip from Mollie on
I got to know Jordan when we
were recording our album in LA,
but it wasnt until I was home in
London that we started dating. Its
coming up to a year now and we
y back and forth to see each
other as often as we can. It sounds
glamorous and showbiz, but it can
be tough at times because you want
to come home to one another and
snuggle on the couch. Hes different

from guys Ive been out with before.
Im really happy; hes denitely ticking
all the boxes. He looks after me.
I can be quite high-maintenance as a

girlfriend. But Ive learnt to be more
laid-back in relationships. I was single
for a year before Jordan and you really
do get used to living like that. I live
with my other man my dog Ale
and Im quite independent.
Whats annoying is that the bad

comments on Twitter are the ones that
stay in your head. If someone is nasty I
think, I dont need that, Ive got my
own insecurities, so I try to block them
straight away. As long as you yourself
are happy, thats all that matters.
Its really hard when its fresh; you
cant go from being in love to friends
overnight. Ive always had to take time
apart after a break-up. When theyre
with somebody new and youre single
that really hurts, but its easier when
you move on. Recently there were some
pictures of me and David [Gandy, her
ex-boyfriend] sat next to one another at
the same tennis match and the pictures
could not have been more unfortunate.
It looked like we hated each other, but
we do actually get on. Just as I do with
Andy [Brown, from Lawson]. Ive stayed
friends with all my ex-boyfriends, which
is nice because we often bump into
each other at events.
I feel really protective of all the girls,

especially when they were pregnant. The
press can be really hard on women and
their pregnancy bodies. Shes carrying a
human inside of her, what do you expect?
A womans gure is going to change. Im
so proud of what great mums they are.
Beautifully
accessorised
with a fedora
and brogues
Sexy yet
sophisticated
in S/S14s
hottest colour
Mollies the picture

of ladylike chic
wearing a cape and
leather skirt
Back to basics
in a strapless
LBD and
stacked heels
|Woman we love |
Ive been to the hospital each time
after Una, Rochelle and Frankie gave
birth. The babies were literally a few
hours old when I saw each of them.
Aoife [Unas daughter] is a year and a
half now and its amazing seeing her
grow up. It totally changes your life
and I have the best of both worlds I
can play auntie but not have to do all
the nappy changing! One day Id like
to have loads of kids, but Im not
quite ready for it yet.
I can always trust my mum to be

honest and say,Oh, I think youve
got a bit too much makeup on there,
or,That skirt was a bit short! Were
really close and I talk to her about
everything whether Im worrying
about work or a boyfriend thing.
Shes really good at taking herself
out of the situation so I can say to
her,Forget Im your daughter; Im
asking you this as a friend. I can
trust her with anything and I know
she would never tell anyone.
Shes an absolute legend. I saw

her at a fashion event and I really
wanted to fangirl her and get a
picture but I was too scared. If Im
on the front row of a show and
someone like her walks in, I get
so excited and cant stop staring.
I think, Oh my god, I need to
remember this feeling because
I wont be doing this forever. One
day when Im a granny, I want to
remember how cool it is!
My big sister got married last year

and it was such an emotional day. She
walked down the aisle with my dad,
then there was me and my other sister
as bridesmaids. We were all in tears
we did a reading and could hardly get
through it. I couldnt help but think of
my own wedding and that it would be
quite similar, because there would be a
COSMO
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lot of the same family there. One day

and one day only Ill look like a
princess, hopefully.
I dont have a Kim Kardashian bum

unfortunately, and I dont have massive
boobs either. You have to work with the
bits youre most proud of, so if Im
going out I always think, Right, Molls,
your legs are better than your cleavage,

so go work those. Im not that curvy, so
I like to wear things that give me more
shape than Ive got. Everyone has their
body hang-ups; I think,Oh, I could
tone that, or, I wish I could change
that. But as much as you can tone bits
or add bits, youre born with your body.
The Saturdays new single Not Giving
Up is out in March. Loved By Mollie
is available at Oasis-stores.com.
Mollie talks through the style secrets behind her cover-girl look at Cosmopolitan.co.uk/mollie

|Cosmo reports |
No doctor would
tell a cancer
patient to go away
until their illness
got worse.
But thats whats
happening to
thousands of
women with
eating disorders...
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|Cosmo reports |
ack in 1980, Cosmo

published an appeal that
revolutionised experts
understanding of eating
disorders. Readers with
an irresistible desire to
eat and drink [who] keep their weight
normal by vomiting, were asked to
help psychiatrists compile a paper on
a new and bizarre eating disorder. Two
years later, the British Medical Journal
identied bulimia nervosa as an eating
disorder for the rst time.
This year, Cosmo is partnering with
the charity Beat to continue to
demystify eating disorders youve
heard of such as bulimia and
anorexia and also those that wreck
sufferers lives but dont meet dated
medical criteria, so go undiagnosed.
The most prevalent myth about
eating disorders is that theyre a trivial
problem suffered by silly, attentionseeking girls, says Dr Christopher
Fairburn, who co-authored the report.
Theres also a focus in the media on
people who look like skeletons, and
those who die of anorexia. But while
their cases are extreme, in fact theyre
a tragic minority. Sufferers can look
normal, while behind the scenes their
lives are completely blighted.
The silent disorder
Jenny Cole, 25, looks like any other

healthy young woman, and her body
mass index (BMI) is within the normal
range. But despite her lack of jutting
hips and shadowed collar bones signs
often associated with eating disorders
shes ghting a daily battle with her body.
Two years ago I got a mystery stomach
bug, explains Jenny, a learning support
assistant from Hampshire.Doctors
couldnt work out what was wrong,
but it meant I started losing weight.
Id suffered from anorexia in my teens
and I began using my illness as an
excuse to restrict my eating again.
The idea of losing weight took over
my life I gradually cut out whole food
groups and would weigh myself more
than once a day. If I gained or lost as little
as 100g, it was a really big deal. Id
constantly examine myself in the
mirror, but I simply couldnt see it
when people told me I was getting thin.
I eventually lost 35% of my body
weight and was hospitalised. Doctors fed
THE FACTS
Around 1.6 million people suffer from an
eating disorder in the UK.
In female sufferers over 18, its estimated
that 15% suffer from anorexia, 35% from
bulimia, and the rest from EDNOS.
Anorexia affects more women than men, at
a ratio of 10:1. But men are more likely to be
misdiagnosed and under-referred.
Youre more likely to develop an eating
disorder in your teens, but they can occur
at any age.
40% of individuals surveyed by Beat were
told that their BMI wasnt low enough to
access treatment.
Anorexia has the highest mortality rate of
any psychiatric illness. Its been estimated that
15-20% of sufferers will die prematurely, from
complications or suicide.
The earlier you seek help, the better your
chance of recovering, but gures suggest 20%
of anorexics and 23% of bulimics never will.
Eating disorders are serious mental-health
issues and are very different from disordered
eating, ie, trying different diets or worrying
about your appearance.
If youre worried, your rst port of call
should be your GP or B-eat.co.uk.
me through a tube to see if that made

a difference to my stomach problems,
and when I gained weight, it was clear
that my problem had become more
psychological than physical, despite
my denials that I had an eating
disorder. Even so, the BMI criterion
for anorexia is so low, I was diagnosed
with EDNOS [eating disorder not
otherwise specied] instead.
Taking it seriously
EDNOS may sound like a government

body, but in reality it has become the
catch-all term for numerous eating
disorders, accounting for half of the
1.6 million sufferers in the UK. It
includes any disorder that doesnt t
the criteria for anorexia or bulimia,
including binge-eating disorders and
illnesses that combine symptoms,
such as bingeing and starving.
For an anorexia diagnosis, women
must have a body weight at least 15%
below the expected BMI, due to selfinduced factors such as avoidance of
food, vomiting or excessive exercise.
They must also demonstrate bodyimage distortion (for example, seeing
themselves as fat when theyre not),
fear of fatness and crucially
amenorrhoea (an absence of periods).
For a bulimia diagnosis, patients
must display an irresistible craving
for food, plus evidence of bingeing and
attempts to counteract foods effects
through methods such as purging or
using diet pills. Their weight must also
be well below what is considered normal.
But these strict guidelines mean many
young women arent getting the help
they desperately need.If a person
doesnt meet these criteria exactly, or
displays a mixture of symptoms, they
can be diagnosed with EDNOS, says
Beats communications officer, Rebecca
Field.It can be difficult to diagnose, and
people need to be aware that its a serious
issue EDNOS sufferers arent just being
a bit funny about food. But because
its not as well-known as anorexia or
bulimia, some sufferers dont feel
people understand or take it as
seriously. That needs to change.
In many cases, people arent
getting the help they need soon
enough, for what is a serious mental
illness. Individuals are sometimes
told to come back to their GP in a few
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EDNOS sufferers
often struggle to
be diagnosed
I should listen to that disordered voice.

But it also means I cant talk about my
illness, in case people wont believe me.
As Amys disorder took hold in her
teens, she was refused treatment on the
basis that she wasnt ill enough. Today,
she wonders what impact that decision
had on her health.If something had
been done back then, would I be in
a better place now? she asks.Would
I have needed less treatment overall? And
if experts make that mistake, why should
I expect more than that from the public?
GPs have to get better at. But its hard

getting proper help for anyone with an
eating disorder. Mental health is not
prioritised due to lack of funding and
resources, and that needs to change.
Improving treatment
A major diagnostic change in the US,

which experts hope to see in the UK
in 2015, means absent periods are no
longer required for an anorexia diagnosis.
I saw a doctor in 2011 because I was
starving myself, bingeing and purging,
says Laura Crofts, 29. I was
clinically underweight and
COULD YOU
had heart palpitations. I was
The importance of taking
OR SOMEONE
EDNOS disorders
YOU LOVE HAVE cold all the time. I couldnt
eat without stomach pains,
seriously makes economic
AN EATING
or walk without getting
sense too. A May 2012
DISORDER?
the shakes. I didnt have
report found that eating
If you recognise some
periods, but because I was
disorders cost the English
of these signs, see your
on the mini Pill, I couldnt
economy 1.26 billion a
GP or visit B-eat.co.uk
say whether theyd stopped
year, due to factors such
Fear of gaining
naturally. So I was only
as lost working days and
weight
diagnosed with EDNOS.
treatment costs.
Distorted perception
According to NICE
The sooner someone
of body shape or
guidelines, an EDNOS
gets the treatment they
weight
sufferer should be treated
need, the more likely they
Mood swings
for the eating disorder their
will make a full recovery,
Excessive exercise
symptoms are closest to.
says Rebecca.Yet 74% of
Difficulty sleeping
But, argues Dr Fairburn,
participants in a recent
Obsessive or rigid
the system is still awed.
survey by Beat agreed or
behaviour attached
EDNOS is seen as the
strongly agreed with this
to eating
poor relation of eating
statement: The length of
Feeling out of
disorders, he says.But its
time I spent on a waiting
control around food
just as profoundly impairing
list caused me to feel that
Purging behaviours
as the others. We need
I wasnt sick enough.
Secrecy
treatment to evolve and
Surveys have revealed
become more tailored.
waiting times of up to
Weight changes
As for Jenny, she is unsure
two years. Wed like to see
Poor skin and hair
what
the next step is likely
mental health treated
Dizzy spells
to be.I understand that
as an equal to physical
services are stretched but
health, with an 18-week
you have to be very ill to get help, and
target, says Rebecca.
Thankfully, partly due to charities such by that point its harder to recover, she
says. If you have anorexia, theres an all
as Beat, awareness of EDNOS among
guns blazing attitude to getting you
medical experts is gradually increasing.
help. But my local eating-disorders
And, of course, not all patients have the
same experience. GPs do have a certain service has decided its done all it can to
help me, even
amount of discretion, and we do hear
from people whove had a very supportive though others
have been
GP whos pushed for them to get the
getting help for
treatment they need, points out Rebecca.
SUPPORTS
longer. I feel like
We just need more stories like this.
its giving up
GP Dr Ellie Cannon agrees: Picking
on me. N
up disorders like EDNOS is something
weeks or months, which often results in

their slipping further into the grip of
their eating disorder, Rebecca explains.
BMI is used as a crude way of rationing
services, and has no clinical basis.
National Institute of Clinical Excellence
(NICE) guidelines dont mention specic
BMIs, yet commissioners are obsessed
with them. No one would tell a cancer
patient to come back when their tumour
was bigger, yet people with eating
disorders who require urgent treatment
are made to become more dangerously
ill before getting the help they nd so
difficult to ask for in the rst place.
A hidden battle
Many EDNOS sufferers also struggle

in their own minds with thinking theyre
not ill enough to deserve help. Because
I dont look ill, it makes me feel like
Im not as ill as other people who are
visibly suffering, says Amy*, 24, from
Leicestershire. I feel I dont deserve the
same treatment, and that other people
wont believe me. Its tearing me apart.
After suffering from anorexia at
university, Amy got help as an outpatient
and reached a healthy weight. But while
she does not currently full the BMI
criterion for anorexia, her daily struggles
with food are just as serious.
Im not an anorexic weight but I have
an anorexic mind, she says. My brain is
at war with itself, tearing itself apart over
every single mouthful I eat, every pound
I gain or lose. But that brain isnt housed
in an anorexic body. To me, my body
which I think looks too big is proof
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me s
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What they really think

about love, sex
and YOU
Zac Efrons
awkward
moments
Its the name of his new lm, and
hes had a few for real too
A condom packet falling out

of your pocket at work would
be mortifying, but on the red
carpet in front of the worlds
paparazzi? Killer. So what did
Zac do at The Lorax premiere?
Of course, he did the only thing
you can do: laugh.
You thought your fashion fails

were bad? Turns out A-listers
make mistakes too. Zac once
dyed his hair silver to channel
Sisq (yes, he who sang
Thong Song). The 90s were
cruel to us all were glad
we're not alone.
When lming a nude scene in

That Awkward Moment, Zac
gave the crew a money shot
they hadnt bargained for. We
just got naked, he said. There
was like a sock thing [covering
me]. It fell off. Awkward or
amazing? You decide.
Hes not immune to a prank from

his mates. If Im riding shotgun,
and we pull up at a red light
next to a bunch of girls in a car,
they roll down the window and
turn on a High School Musical
track. I just stare forward like
nothings going on, he revealed.
Zac stars in That Awkward Moment, out now

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THE BEST THING ABOUT
BEING SINGLE
Apparently they think it makes them dress better
Insidemensminds
Theres nobody to consult if
you want to do something. A
double bed to yourself is also a
bonus. And sex is usually
exciting because its always with
a new girl, maybe one that Ive
met that evening although
thats not all that frequent.
Calum, 32, Edinburgh
I dont like the person
I am in a relationship.
Ive been with a few
troublesome girls and
dont like being
messed around. I can
be hard work too; I
get bored easily and
frustrated if girls watch
shows like X Factor
and Geordie Shore.
Matt, 26, Aberdeen
Its nice to think a bit more

about myself and do things
to suit me a little more I
think Ive been out with some
fairly high-maintenance
girls! Evan, 27, Glasgow
It means I can do
whatever I want; theres
only so much boozing
a lady can take!
Malcolm, 27, Newcastle
I like that the only person I
can disappoint emotionally,
sexually or in any other way is
myself. And because Im such
a nice person, I forgive myself
very quickly and easily!
Paul, 28, Edinburgh
BY KATE RUSSELL. PHOTOGRAPHS GETTY, CAITLIN MITCHELL
You can save a

lot more cash. In a
relationship you
sometimes have to
cater for two, even
if they have
money!
Emmanuel,
28, Essex
Im a street
artist so the
best thing for
me is to be able
to spend all
day every day
painting.
Ben, 25, London
One of the best
things? You dont
have to put up
with other peoples
friends; people you
wouldnt normally
like. James, 27,
Hertfordshire
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I enjoy the lack of

commitment. Im an
army officer, so Im
often overseas for
long periods, and
being single means I
dont mess someone
around or have them
worrying and waiting for me. Plus, the
excitement of meeting new girls is fun
too. Fin, 25, Northumberland
I really like being

able to do things on
a whim. Women tend
to like planning
things for you, so
the freedom to do
whatever you want
whenever you want
at the last minute is really enjoyable.
Alasdair, 37, London
Its nice not being
asked to iron
anything. Dean,
26, Manchester
The best thing about
being single is that
pre-rst-date excitement.
Not a lot can beat
that feeling.
James, 26, London
In my experience,
single people dress
and look better,
and are more
sociable, myself
included. When
single, one needs
to make more of an
effort. Sean,
26, London
When you
dont have to
worry about
anyone else,
you can be
totally
indulgent
and selsh.
Mohammed,
31, south
London
I get to do what
I want when I
want, like seeing
the lads. Thats
the best thing
not having to
think about
someone elses
plans. David,
25, Plymouth
I like being single because
Im allowed to talk about all
the girls I want to pull on a
night out with my mates.
But Im never actually
brave enough to do it and
then I end up lonely at the
end of the evening
Charlie, 21, London
I guess the thing about
being single is that you
dont feel so locked down.
If you want to move to
another country, you can
just do it without thinking
about the repercussions
for someone else. I actually think I prefer
being in a relationship, though.
Frederik, 25, Sweden
The most positive
thing about being
single for the past
few years is that
its meant I could
concentrate on
getting myself
sorted career-wise.
I dont necessarily
think that makes
me happier,
though. I would
happily start a relationship now if the right
person came along. Ed, 22, Leeds
Theres an aspect of being
controlled when youre with
someone. I think people who
are single want to be in a
relationship and those who
are in a relationship want to
be single. The grass is always greener
David, 27, London
Its nancially benecial
you have more money for
yourself and more time to
think about how to spend it.
Financial planning is easier
when youre single.
Frankie, 28, London
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I had to
learn to
nd my
girlfriend
sexy
ast year, a Cosmo survey

showed that more
than 90% of sex and
relationship therapists
have seen an increase in
couples with relationship
problems caused by porn. Its a
distressing picture but one thats
not wholly surprising. Were keenly
aware of what porn is doing to many
peoples sex lives from being
expected to engage in painful or
dangerous acts, through to feeling
emotionally cheated on by a partner
who gets off on watching porn
videos. But what is life like inside
the pornography prison? What if you
couldnt get through the day without
a handjob and a x of hardcore
pornography?
Three years
Porn
almost
ago, Gabe
ruined
Deems life
Gabes life
changed
forever. A
popular,
athletic
23-year-old,
hed nally
got together with the girl hed had

a crush on for two years Gabe
thought she was his dream woman.
But when they tried to have sex, he
couldnt get an erection. He was
numb. They tried every foreplay
move they could think of. Nothing.
Its difficult to explain how it feels
the moment you realise your penis
is broken, says Gabe. I remember
the pain and hurt on her face she
thought there was something wrong
with her. Tears welled up in her eyes
and I started to freak out. What the
hell was wrong with me? It wasnt
performance anxiety Id never
struggled with condence. I hadnt
been drinking. I was healthy. I knew
something must be wrong with me,
but I had no idea what.
That night, Gabe typed young man
boner problems into Google. His
search led him to a thread where he
found thousands of posts by other
men with a similar story: Im
attracted to my partner but cant get
turned on. They all had one thing in
common: porn. On the site, an
expert on porn addiction had
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described a test you could do to see if

you had a problem. He said you had
to see if you could masturbate
without porn or fantasising. I tried it,
and I couldnt. I remember crying
and thinking, What have I done to
myself? To test it again, I searched
online for porn and instantly got an
erection. I couldnt believe it.
Even though Gabe had been
watching porn online for a decade,
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Insidemensminds
Hooked on hardcore
Think porn addict and you

probably imagine a pervy misogynist
someone unable to form a healthy
connection with a woman; someone
who would rather lock himself away
with his broadband connection.
Youd be wrong, says Gabe.
He believes it was unlimited access
to porn from a young age that
rewired his brains sexual pathways
and got him to the stage where he
was unable to nd a real woman sexy.
We got broadband when I was 12,
says Gabe. My parents worked so
Id have three hours every day after
school when I could watch more and
more hardcore material. At school,
my friends and I would pass notes
around with the names of free sites
wed found. The more I watched, the
more numb I became. I built up a
tolerance, so to get the same thrill Id
have to watch something even more
shocking and degrading. At 13,
youre curious so youll click on
something like
woman has sex
with horse. Who
knows what that
does to the brain
over time? I was
watching things I
idnt even want to
watch but I had to
o it. If someone had
ked me what I was
tracted to, I would
never have said girls crying while
theyre having sex or girls gagging,
but that was what I was watching.
Afterwards, I would think about the
degrading porn Id watched and
think, Why did I watch that what
is wrong with me?
I became sexually active at 13 and,
throughout high school, I took pride
in knowing a lot about sex, he says.
I would try to act out what Id seen
online. Looking back, I can see that
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turned on by his girlfriend. At the

I saw girls as objects I thought they
were there for my pleasure. When we start, I lied to her, telling her I wanted
to hold off from having sex because
had sex, they had to perform to live
I was falling in love with her.
up to my expectations. At school we
Thankfully, she was understanding.
would talk about which girls would
Half a year later, I could see light at
do anal, which ones gave the best
the end of the tunnel so I told her
blow jobs it was never about who
everything. The rst time we had
had the best personality or who was
sex was amazing. Feeling genuine
the most fun. Im ashamed of how
arousal was something I hadnt
I treated women.
experienced in years
To reboot his brain, Gabe
just knowing
decided he had to go cold
I wasnt broken was
turkey. It took a nineI saw girls
such a weight off
month ban on porn and
as objects I
my shoulders.
masturbation before
thought they
Since his
he was able to get an
were there for
recovery, Gabe has
erection and nally have
my pleasure
made it his mission
sex with his girlfriend
to
be completely
the same girl hed failed
open
about
how porn
to perform with before. It
addiction
affected
him.
If
Im with
wasnt easy.After a month I suffered
friends
and
they
start
talking
about
terrible withdrawal, including
porn
and
sex,
I
tell
them
what
insomnia, headaches, muscle spasms,
happened to me when you tell
the shakes, anxiety attacks at work
a guy that watching porn could
I was losing my mind, says Gabe.
eventually stop his dick from
I felt depressed and disgusted with
working, he listens. I can honestly
myself for having reached this point.
say that I now have no desire to
It was a very dark time.
watch porn Ive had a complete
After six months he started to feel
change of heart.
slightly more normal and could get
The science of
PORN ADDICTION
esearch has shown

that dopamine the
pleasure chemical lies
at the heart of porn
addiction. When you achieve
something, this chemical oods
the brain, giving you feelings of
pleasure, excitement and
arousal. Because of these
rewards, dopamine acts as a
learning chemical in effect, it
teaches your brain what you
like best, wiring you to keep
coming back for more. When
you have sex with someone,
dopamine makes you focus on
the other person they become

even more attractive to you and
you feel more connected to
them. So when sex is replaced
with pornography, that
connection is focused on the sex
act alone. Its also believed that
porn releases more dopamine
than sex, so the effects last
longer and keep people looking
for a greater (ie, more hardcore)
x. The good news is that these
pleasure pathways can be
recongured, but as Gabes story
demonstrates, this can be a long
and difficult process.
Check out Gabes advice for porn addicts at Cosmopolitan.co.uk/helpforpornaddiction
BY FIONA COWOOD
it never occurred to him that it

could affect, let alone obliterate,
his physical ability to have sex.
Insidemensminds
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Ryan
Lochte
The American swimming

sensation shows us how
he washes up
I love working out. If

you take a day off from
swimming, its going to
take three or four days to
get back in shape. With
swimming I burn a lot of
calories, so Im able to eat
pretty much anything and
it wont affect me. But I
dont. One of the things
Ive found out is what you
put in your body has an
effect on how you feel,
your attitude, everything.
Ive been eating healthily
for the past four or five
years. I train really hard
and I just feel good.
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This month, Sophie Goddard plucks up the courage

to ask a guy out for the rst time
your set the other night, I typed.Bit

male friend of mine once
random, but fancy a drink? Ten
compared asking a girl out
minutes later, a friend request appeared
to getting a buzz cut.You
think youll end up looking on Facebook. I accepted (naturally) but
45 EXCRUCIATING MINUTES
cool, but its the same old story. You
LATER, still nothing. Were my photos
make painfully intimate small talk
that bad? Finally, I got my reply.Haha,
with somebody you dont know, spend
yer alright then. Hurrah! Not quite a
a wodge of cash in the process and
Shakespearean sonnet, but itd do. I
deeply regret it afterwards. Crikey. I
suggested a time and date and he agreed.
made a mental note never to visit a
Easy! Why hadnt I done this before?
barber shop or ask anybody out, ever.
Sadly, my excitement was short-lived.
Turns out, Im not alone nine out of
He was an hour late (That bus journey
10 single women feel the same and
was long, man,) jokingly suggested I
admit theyd never ask a guy out.
pay for dinner (Because you asked me,
But at a recent party, I changed my
remember?) and plonked his feet up
stance. The DJ (a proper one, who
on my chair (in The Rib Shack
played vinyl instead of an iPod)
where we ate his choice).
was hot.Oh, my god, hes so
And no, we didnt see each
t, I mouthed to my
Ive wasted
other again. Or snog. In
friend Polly. We danced
zero time
the closest we got
to his set all night and
wondering what fact,
to a goodbye kiss was
when he ended with a
could have been
him sucking his teeth
Michael Jackson/2Pac
and instead I
when I told him I still
mash-up, I knew it was
listened to Ja Rule (whats
love. Or denitely lust.
know for
wrong with that, anyway?).
Polly pushed me towards
sure
Its safe to say he wasnt
his DJ booth. GO ON! Say
about to scoop Gent Of The Year.
you liked his set and ask where
Was it because Id set the tone for the
he usually plays! So I took a deep
evening by asking him out? Did he gure
breath and edged towards him along
with 20 other females who had the same he didnt have to make an effort? I guess
Ill never know. But although the night
idea. Oh. I gave up and went to the bar.
itself might have been a clanger, Im still
After a week or two, he much like
glad I did it. Because now Ive wasted
my hangover was a distant memory.
zero time wondering what could have
Until I heard one of his songs on the
been and instead I know for sure.
radio. Curious, I Googled him. His
So why do so many women stress
Twitter page appeared. Should I
about asking men out? According to
message him? Would it look desperate?
Psychology Today its because we
He doesnt even know I exis
see it as a risky initiative. Sod
I reasoned. So its not like he
that. You need to take a few
can ask me out even if he
Follow Sophie
on Twitter
risks in life. Apart from having
wants to. Screw The Rules, Im
@Sophiegoddard
a buzz cut; never do that.
doing it! So I did. Hey, loved
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Nightclubs are not the place to nd The One,

says Cosmos Tom Craine. They are, at best, a place
to forget the fact that youve yet to nd her...
Ive got a boyfriend. I was tempted to

ightclubs: places barely
reply,Well, Ive got a signed Radiohead
made tolerable by
poster; that seems about as relevant at
Jgerbombs. Places where
you struggle to stay upright this point. But then, looking around
at the shirts and loafers sharking the
in a queue to put away a coat you
room, I decided to say nothing. I could
deeply regret bringing. Places where
see why shed made that assumption;
romance goes to die and is forced to
its exactly what these places teach us
pay a cover charge for the privilege.
that chat can only mean one thing.
Okay, so maybe Im being a tad
And this is exactly why I prefer places
melodramatic, but Im really not a fan
where people have gathered for a shared
of generic clubs. Ive never woken up
reason. A reason other than humping.
on a Saturday morning, looked at the
Plus, its not exactly the ideal setting,
smudged stamp on my wrist and
is it? If I were pressed on the
thought,You know, its a wonder I
perfect way to meet someone,
failed to meet my soulmate
my response wouldnt be,
there. Instead, Ive looked
Well, ngers crossed, itd
at that mark and
be so dark Id only nd
thought,Oh, a stamp
out what she looks like
Did I go to a club?
at closing time when
Did I kiss someone?
they suddenly ick on
And where the hell is
lights bright enough for
my phone?!
investigative surgery. Oh,
Ironically, I think the
and hopefully some tinnitusreason a typical club is such
inducing dance music would
a bad place to meet someone
be blaring so loudly I wont have a clue
stems from the very fact that its geared
what shes saying. Quite simply, you
towards the concept of the pull. What
shouldnt have to yell your rst
should be fun now feels unpleasantly
conversation with someone. Yelling is
competitive. For a start, you cant look
rarely romantic. Okay, perhaps if its I
anywhere without seeing a new couple
love you from a departing steam train;
eagerly dry humping one another. (Why
not so much if youre screaming, Sorry,
do people do this? If you want to get
whats your name again? repeatedly,
jiggy, go home. If I want a burger, I
over the sort of R&B that attempts to
dont buy one and just rub the wrapper
repackage misogyny as swagger.
around my face.) But, more troubling,
So if I were you, Id choose
as I found recently, is that its nigh on
somewhere that reects who you are,
impossible to chat to anyone without
where you might be able to
them assuming you want
meet someone doing the same.
more. At a bar, I mentioned
ut then again, what do I
to the girl waiting next to
Follow Tom on Twitter
@TomCraine
now?
Im still single. Next
me how busy it was, only to
or Tomcraine.com
top, Oceana
get the curt response,Sorry,
If I want a
burger, I dont
buy one and just
rub the wrapper
around my
face
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Celebrity offspring are able to

swerve all the worst bits about being
a teenager. But is that really such
a blessing, asks Caroline Corcoran
arper Beckhams
life is going to be
different from
mine. This
dawned on me
as I saw photos of her (aged
two) wearing shoes more on
trend than anything I (aged
32) have ever owned.
Obviously, shell drink wine
at posher places, and will
never stand in Primark
trying on a dress over her
coat in a pre-party panic. But
the key differences, I realised,

will come when shes a teen.
Recently, I saw photos of
Teenage Me at my cousins
beach wedding. My younger
sister Gemma and I were
bridesmaids. Gemma looked
perfect; me, aged 14, not so
much. Firstly, Im staving off
a shiny forehead with half a
Rimmel pressed powder and
no other makeup that was
my look for three years.
Then, due to a reluctance to
accept that my boobs had

skipped immediately from
AA to DD, Im wearing a bra
that suggests I have not two
breasts, but four. My newly
wavy hair has failed to relent
to being blow-dried straight
for two hours, reacting to the
humidity in a way that only
one woman (Monica Geller)
would get. Theres also the
unmistakable glint of trauma
in my eyes: my dress is white,
and Id spent an hour trying
to use a tampon for the rst
time, crying and balancing a
leg on the hotel bathtub.
It was a stressful time, but
one that made me appreciate
when I emerged on the other
side; older, wiser and

clutching Ghds and a 32E
from Bravissimo. As for
Teenage Harper, any hair
frizz will be sorted with
home visits from an A-list
hairdresser. No doubt a
makeup artist will live in the
spare bedroom (wing), and
Rigby & Peller will probably
invent a bra just for Harper
that moulds to the shape of
her breasts. When she cries at
not being allowed to go to
Rich from the sixth forms
party and drink Cherry
Lambrini from a mug,
Victoria will sigh but think of
something to make her feel
better. Like,How about we
go to The Oscars instead?
And when her mates y off to
Kavos without her as VB says
shes too young, Harper will
scream that its so unfair. To
cheer her up, Harper will
soon be squealing with
delight as she and DB design
her rst tattoo together.
Shell have celeb company,
of course. If Suri Cruise ever
strolls into the school loos
and eyes sweat patches on her
top, Im sure shell skip the
Mitchum and go straight for
armpit Botox. Harper, Suri
and co probably wont vomit
over a wall after their rst
drinking session. I imagine
Bollinger is less challenging
on a young stomach than our
own heady mix of alcopops
and White Lightning.
The thing is, though, 15
years later, my friends and I
still get hysterical over our
teenage stories and lets not
tell the A-list hairdressers this,
but Adult Me thinks hair
frizz isnt such a bad thing.
Teenage Me would disagree
and look at me like I was
mad. Then again, that might
just be a frown from the pain
of holding a hairdryer for
two hours straight
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WHAT
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and do you really want everyone talking about it?
|Cosmo trend |
eminist creatives from

the world of art, fashion,
photography and craft
have a new muse: the
vagina. The female form
is being objectied in
new ways, this time by
women and men keen to represent
it in all its glory. But how do these
images make you feel? We asked two
writers to share their views
IM ALL FOR IT
says writer Tracy Ramsden

The vagina, it seems, is
having something of a
moment. Everywhere
you turn, somebody is
knitting one, crocheting one, baking
one (look away now, Mary Berry),
making earrings of one. Craftivists
mostly female are reclaiming the
vagina in creative new ways. And I
happen to think this is no bad thing.
It may be gauche to be so public about
ones privates, but we live in a world
where an innocent scroll of Facebook
can offer us uninvited, uncensored
glimpses of friends postnatal bodies
(umbilical cord still attached). And the
objectication of womens intimates is
an all-too-familiar narrative. Yet were so
vaginally ill-informed that last year saw
a 45% increase in women enquiring
about aesthetic labiaplasty (ie,designer
vagina surgery). Youre only a Google
search away from the depressing fact
that young women (and men) have a
seriously skewed point of reference for
what they should look like down there.
And its a norm dictated almost entirely
by the likes of YouPorn.
But in a more positive move, groups
of women are banding together and
taking part in traditional craft activities
only not because of their gender, but
because they want to. Take the Shoreditch
Sisters (part of the Womens Institute),
whove embroidered a patchwork vulva
quilt to campaign against female genital
mutilation. While in the US, the
Snatchel Project was devised to protest
against proposed reactionary legislation
affecting women by encouraging them
to knit a uterus and post it to their
congressmen with the message, Hands
off my v-jj. Heres one of your own.
While 2012 saw women take to the
streets in Slutwalks and Muff Marches
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|Cosmo trend |
If the idea of a
fanny revolution
gives you the ick,
youre missing
the point
ITS ALL
TOO MUCH
says Rosie Mullender

Forget gladiator rings:
this seasons must-have
accessory is a different
kind of ring altogether namely, your
vagina. I dont mean that in a girlpower, women-are-the-best-woo! kind
of way, but in a literal one. From purses
that op pinkly open like labia, to
menstruating-vagina tees, the most
intimate part of a womans body is
now out and proud. And I for one am
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AND NOW
FOR SOME
THINGS THAT
ACCIDENTALLY
LOOK LIKE
VAGINAS...
CAVE
Of course, this
cave is rocking
the natural look
FLIP-FLOPS
We wont ditch
our Havaianas
just yet
GLACIER
Even global
warmings getting
in on the act
PASTRY
Well stick to
cereal for
breakfast, thanks
BAG
We dont see
this catching
on, somehow
OYSTER
They do say
oysters are
aphrodisiacs
SHOE
Taking foot
fetish to a weird
new level
STADIUM
Not the way to get

women interested
in football
BY TRACY RAMSDEN, ROSIE MULLENDER AND KATE RUSSELL.

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to protest against sexual violence and

the pornication of our private parts,
the past 12 months have been cosier,
perhaps in reaction to squeamish
gynophobes. Hipster bakeries are
fashioning vagina cupcakes. YouTube
will teach us how to origami a vagina.
Craft marketplaces Etsy and Folksy are
awash with vagina purses and vulvainspired pendants. Granted, a crocheted
clitoris is no more authentic than the
airbrushed porn version, but when the
message it delivers is an important one,
its reassuring to know its
been lovingly handcrafted
by women, for women. Its
what your nanna would
have wanted.
If the idea of a fanny
revolution gives you the
ick, youre missing the
point. Celebrating the
vagina in all its 3D glory is surely much
healthier than obsessing over Mileys
twerking bottom or Caras thigh gap.
Nobody is saying we should all stick
our phones in our pants and start
sharing intimate seles, but I do think
we should applaud the women who are
brave enough to do so. And if your
sensitive eyes are offended, you dont
have to look, but you really should
listen. For everything else, theres a
knitting pattern.
hoping the day that it gets embarrassed

and goes back in again comes sooner
rather than later.
Dont get me wrong, the liberation of
womens sexuality is obviously a great
thing. But does it really necessitate
aunting your fanny at every possible
opportunity? When confronted with
the group foof-ashing of Project Bush
(an ad agencys attempt to photograph
as many bushes as possible), I cant help
thinking the perpetual spotlight on our
vaginas is getting way out of control.
When Charlottes became the subject
of an oil painting in an episode of Sex
And The City back in 1998, it was
shocking. Eight years later, artist Jamie
McCartneys The Great Wall Of Vagina,
featuring 10 panels of plaster-cast female
parts, was still considered controversial.
Yes, were supposed to embrace our
vaginas, to love them as a natural part of
our bodies. Getting to know our
intimate area and what
makes it tick is a key step
on the path to satisfying
sex, and the demystifying
of our private parts has
certainly helped with that.
And, yes, the message that
every womans vagina is
different is crucial. Even
more important is publicity surrounding
practices such as female genital
mutilation. But theres a difference
between normalising vaginas and
over-egging the pudenda pudding. Does
the body-love message really have to be
hit home with a sledgehammer or
indeed silver balloons spelling out Lily
Allen Has A Baggy Pussy? Whats wrong
with a petition?
In the same way that you sometimes
wonder if sex is a bit of a busmans
holiday for gynaecologists, I can barely
muster any enthusiasm for my own.
And just as the novelty willies handed
out at hen parties dont exactly add
dignity to mens dangly bits, nibbling at
a vagina-shaped cupcake doesnt make
me want to squat over the nearest
mirror in admiration.
We should be proud of every bit of our
bodies. But its time to put our owers
away and accept that approximately
half the world has one, and the majority
of the other half love them. Because,
honestly, the only spotlight I want on
my vagina is my gynaecologists.
Cosmo trend
lia was just seven years old

when, without anaesthetic,
she was held down while
a cutter removed her
clitoris and sewed up what
was left. Her mother told her it would
make her prettier. Years later, Alia was
able to have part of the procedure
reversed, but accepts that nothing will
happen to those involved.
Female genital mutilation (FGM) is a
growing issue in the UK. An estimated
66,000 British women have undergone
the procedure, and 24,000 girls under 15
are believed to be at risk the highest
number in Europe. Yet despite FGM
being illegal here since 1985, not a
single person has been convicted for it.
The French courts
In France the situation is very different.

When a three-month-old girl bled to
death after being cut in 1982, her parents
were successfully prosecuted, and France
has since led the way in punishing the
crime, despite having weaker laws than
ours. Its had more than 40 FGM trials,
and two practitioners and more than 100
parents have been convicted.
Linda Weil-Curiel is a Paris-based
lawyer and vice-president of the Desert
Flower Foundation, which raises
awareness of FGM. She believes the lack
of justice for British victims stems from
a misplaced sense of respect for different
cultural customs.The parents of these
80
girls claim FGM is their tradition, and

the British authorities want to be seen to
respect that, she says.But its mutilation.
Its societys duty to protect these girls
as they would any other children. The
French trials have been a very public and
effective deterrent to parents considering
arranging it for their daughters. They also
send the message to girls that they ha
rights as citizens of their country. If
this happened in Britain, it would
make a massive difference to the
number of girls at risk.
However, Amnesty International
has voiced concern that legal
action creates more problems for
victims as FGM is usually instigated
by parents, and girls dont want to
bring criminal charges against them
Anti-FGM campaigner Leyla Husse
who suffered FGM herself says,
Girls are terried of accusing their
families. If theyre going to speak out,
they need to be empowered and
educated so they know FGM is a
violation of their basic rights. We need
to change the system so girls dont have
to give evidence. Social services should
be able to do so on their behalf, as they
would with other kinds of abuse.
6 February is International Day of
Zero Tolerance to FGM.
If youre worried that a child might be
at risk of FGM, call the free 24-hour
FGM helpline on 0800 028 3550 or
email Fgmhelp@nspcc.org.uk
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women who are rm
believers in listening
to your instincts,
not your critics...
Queen of sexy
knickers:
Jacqueline Gold
I was told my business idea was a fad

now my companys worth 150m
As a 21-year-old doing work experience
at her fathers business (Ann Summers),
Jacqueline Gold had a light-bulb
moment. After going to a Tupperware
party, she realised there was a market
for gatherings where women could buy
sexy lingerie and toys. To launch the
idea, I needed funding from the board
and was met with a lot of resistance, she
says. At the time, nobody believed
women could be empowered in the
bedroom. One male board member
told me, Women just arent interested
in that sort of thing Which in
hindsight probably said more about his
sex life than it did about the idea.
Another said, This is a fad. I give it two
86
years. But I was getting great feedback

from women, and my gut told me to
keep going. The more the board said it
wouldnt work, the more I wanted to
prove them wrong and I did.
The Ann Summers Party Plan proved
to be a huge success. In her rst year
at the company, Ann Summers had
a turnover of 85,000; today, its
150million, with 145 stores and over
7,000 party planners. Sometimes
adversity is exactly what you need to
push forward, she says.But do your
research; never make up the evidence. If
you can honestly say your idea works
nancially, go for it and enjoy proving
the doubters wrong!
I was called a
dropout, but look
at me now!
Despite blogging for four years as a

hobby, it wasnt until 20-year-old Olivia
Purvis won Best New Fashion Blog at
the 2011 Cosmopolitan Blog Awards that
she felt condent enough to turn it into
a job and dropped out of her English
and communication studies course at
Liverpool University to do so.When
I told my lecturer, she looked at me like
I was mad, suggesting it wasnt a safe
career choice, Olivia recalls.Other
students asked,Why have you dropped
out?, which upset me. I wasnt quitting;
I was starting my own business!
Hearing so much negativity, on top
of the nancial implications (Id paid
for some of my housing and uni fees
up front) made it a huge decision, but
Ive never regretted it. My fashion and
style blog Whatoliviadid.
com now has around
25,000 visitors a month
(plus I get paid from
advertising), and Ive done
everything from speaking
at conferences in Las
Vegas and Cambridge
University to working
with Miss Selfridge and
H&M. It was denitely
worth following my
heart. Who else gets paid
to do what they love?
|Work it! |
Olgas hot
business idea
paid off
I turned my hobby into a day job!

When Olga Allon, 37,
handed in her notice to
launch a Bikram (hot)
yoga business, everybody
thought she was crazy.
Id been working as an
architect for three years
on top of seven years
training when I
decided to retrain as a
yoga teacher. I loved
yoga, especially Bikram,
and wanted to set up my
own yoga business, but
needed to qualify as a
teacher rst. When I

resigned, my boss and
colleagues asked why I
was leaving such a secure,
well-paid job. My dad
said, Ive put you
through university for
seven years to become a
yoga teacher?
After qualifying, I
began looking for
studio premises. A year
and a half later during
which time I was paid
per yoga class I opened
my rst studio. After that,

I opened my second, and
by 2011 I had three
London studios
including celebs clients
like Andy Murray, Elle
Macpherson and Florence
Welch. If youve got a
good idea you believe in,
dont stop pushing for it.
Whatever it is, there will
always be doubters, but
theyre essential and help
ensure your idea is
completely watertight.
The Dragons told me I couldnt crack

America now Obamas a customer
When Natalie Ellis, 45, pitched her
non-spill dog bowl in 2008 on Dragons
Den, she was unanimously rejected and
told shed never crack America. But six
years later, her product, The Road
Refresher, is stocked in 32 countries (as
well as by the worlds largest retailer,
Walmart). Oh, and the Obamas even
have one in The White House.
Natalie says, I was gutted when none
of the Dragons wanted to invest but, by
the time the show aired, I was already
Karren
Brady
SORTS YOUR
LIFE OUT
Cosmos resident superwoman

solves your work dilemmas
Im really bad at speaking in meetings
and usually stay silent, which means my
boss barely notices me. How can I speak
up? Kimberley, 30, Manchester
BY SOPHIE GODDARD
Karren says Bosses are generally short

on time, so waffling on for the sake of it
during a meeting is rarely a good plan.
When it comes to presenting ideas,
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proving them wrong. In the six months

between being told no and the show
airing, I ignored the Dragons advice
and invested my last 4,000 in the
business, then ew to a trade show in
Chicago to sell to retailers. People
queued up to stock the product and,
within a few weeks, it was the fastestselling dog bowl on Amazon.com.
Im so glad I wasnt deterred by the
Dragons advice and listened to my
instinct. If you think your idea works
talking too much is much worse than
talking too little. Preparation is key
researching themes or ideas in advance
means youll be able to make a strong
impact in a short space of time. If need
be, bring in physical examples or ideas as
props. Dont worry if youre not a natural
speaker; meetings are about coming up
with solutions to problems. Theyre not
an excuse to hold court. When talking, be
aware of your bosss body language
dont drone on if theyre looking around
the room and, equally, be aware of
yours. I prefer face-to-face contact to
emails, but if youre worried about
speaking, briey ag up your idea, then
explain it in more detail over email. After
all, actions speak louder than words.
Got a work issue? Tweet @CosmopolitanUK,
using #KB, or email questionforkarren@
hearst.co.uk.
If its good
enough for
Baracks pooch
and theres a real demand for it, give

it a go. At worst, you can put it to bed
and move on. At best, youll change
your life forever.
THEY SAID IT
WOULDNT CATCH ON
Twitter
The Wall Street Journals John Dvorak wrote
that Twitter had too many aws to become
popular. Eating your words now, eh, John?
Netix, Spotify,
Lovelm Instant, etc
Apple MD Steve Jobs said, The subscription
model of buying music is bankrupt. You
could make the Second Coming available in
a subscription model and it might not be
successful. This year Netix bagged its 40
millionth user; Spotify has six million users
paying for their subscription.
The iPhone
In 2007, the CEO of Microsoft said, Theres
no chance that the iPhone is going to get any
signicant market share, citing the price tag
as the primary reason. Now, Apples share of
the market is about 13%, with the iPhone 4S
having sold more than 60 million worldwide.
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that your boss probably
wont appreciate being called
a douche bag or hearing that you
cannot WAIT for 5.30. However, in
the course of the days casual chit chat,
you might be letting some statements
slip that could sound subliminal
alarm bells in your bosss head. Here,
with the help of career guru Dan
Schawbel, author of Promote Yourself,
are our top ve sentences that should
never pass your lips
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OMG, I am SO busy
You might be saying this to emphasise
how hard youre working, but its
unlikely to be received positively. Those
around you are most probably thinking,
Me freakin too. If you want to ag up
how much you have on your plate if
your manager needs help with a task,
say something emotionally neutral,
such as, Ive got a lot to work through
here, and leave it at that.
involve late nights, domestic spats,

crying kids, drunk best friends,
unwell pets and noisy neighbours.
But moaning about being tired is
quite simply a no-no. As Dan explains,
This shows that you arent getting
enough sleep, which translates into low
productivity. So, quit it.
But we usually do it
this way...
Be accepting of new ideas and ways of
doing things, says Dan. If you always
do things one way, youll get the same
results. A new report by Deloitte
highlighted the three key characteristics
of the next generation of leaders, and
exibility coupled with a willingness to
challenge the status quo came out on
top. With rapidly updated technology
changing the landscape of whats
possible, dont be the one griping about
change its inevitable, so embrace it.
Im soooo tired
This is probably a
really bad idea, but...
Newsash: every boss in the world

knows their employees have lives
outside work; lives that may often
Starting your contribution in this way

may be driven by modesty, but youre
sending out a load of negative signals to
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your colleagues and bosses. Dan says,

Never start a sentence telling a
manager or co-worker that your idea is
a bad one because they wont take it as
seriously and will already feel let down.
Have you ever heard Obama start one
of his kick-ass speeches with, This
probably wont make sense but?
Exactly. Ditch your doubts. Just pitch it.
I thought somebody
else was doing it
There are two reasons why someone
might say this. One you forgot about
a task and are blaming someone else.
Two you genuinely thought someone
else was responsible. But neither of
these reasons paints you in a good light.
It doesnt look good if youre blaming
other people for not doing work when
it was your responsibility in the rst
place, says Dan. And if you didnt know
it was your responsibility,
you should have
asked. Initiative
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So you
think you
want my job?
My diet
is healthy
80% of
the time
N A M E SARAH SCHENKER
AGE 40
FR OM LONDON
JOB DIETICIAN
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A typical day
Ive always been interested in
food, so after my A-levels I did a
four-year nutrition and dietetics
course at the University of Surrey,
which involved spending nine
months as a trainee dietician in a
hospital. I loved working with
the patients and developing my
people skills. I learnt theres a ne
balance between being caring
and sensitive, and ensuring they
actually listen to your advice.
I stayed with the NHS for
three years before completing
a PhD in human nutrition and
going to work for the British
Nutrition Foundation, where
I developed campaigns and
strategies similar to ve-a-day.
Now Im a freelance consultant.
Im usually up by 7am to get
my two young boys ready for
school and x something simple
for breakfast yogurt or peanut
butter on wholemeal toast. If I
dont have meetings, I might
test meals for my upcoming
recipe book, or comment in
the media on health trends. I
hold most of my consultations
at home. When it comes to
losing weight healthily, the
key is balance and exibility.
Its important to give clients
a plan they can stick to; my
consultations can involve

anything from writing shopping
lists to demonstrating how to
prepare meals. Sadly theres no
magic wand for losing weight
it calls for hard work, discipline
and determination. But I allow
one treat meal a week the
thought of never having pizza
can be too daunting. Lunch is
usually a chicken salad with
brown rice or a stew 80% of
the time my diet is very healthy.
Ive worked with lots of
household names, from Ewan
McGregor to Chelsea FC. Sports
people can be very superstitious
about food if they had a
banana smoothie before a win,
theyll often want one every
time they compete.
When Im working to a tight
deadline, Ill put the kids to bed
and carry on working until

midnight sometimes. Other days,
I nish earlier and go to an armybootcamp class or my running
club. If Im out for dinner with
friends, every conversation
usually starts with, Ooh, what
are you having? People always
want to know. Most of the time
its actually pretty boring.
The good
I love the variety. One minute Im
putting together a presentation;
the next Im on TV talking
about celebrity diets.
The bad
Its frustrating when people with

no qualications think they
know better. And its worrying
that anyone can Google anything
and call themselves an expert.
STILL
INTERESTED?
Qualications
I recommend
studying sciences
at A-level, then
taking an integrated
degree in nutrition
and dietetics or a
degree in nutrition
and a postgraduate
diploma in dietetics.
Salary A dietician
starts on around
21,000 working
for the NHS, but
as a freelancer
I earn around
50,000 a year.
Key skills A love
of science and food
is important. Being
empathetic and
understanding also
comes in handy.
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|Cosmo relationships |
Hes
say
Shes
say
You've
got
mail...
One couple tell

Cosmo how an
email mistake brought
them together
TIME TOGETHER
Live together in London

Emily and
Dan on their
wedding day
EMILY QUINTIN,
30, online content
producer from Sydney
In 2009, I was irting with a girl

in my office and I took down her email
address. But I wrote it down wrong and
accidentally emailed another girl called
Emily who lived in Sydney, Australia. It
was a cheeky message that started Hey
Fringe (the intended Emily had one!).
DAN
Dan sent me an email

completely by mistake and I thought it
would be funny to send him a jokey
reply. I havent had a dodgy fringe since
the late 80s. You must have the wrong girl,
I wrote. It changed both of our lives in
ways wed never expected.
E M I LY
How on earth did you get together?

We emailed back and forth about
everything and nothing. Then we met
on Skype. A couple of months later we
started toying with the idea of meeting.
E I asked him if hed come and visit

me, and he booked a ticket without
hesitation. In April 2010, Dan ew to
the other side of the world to meet me.
Wow! So the rst meeting mustve been nerve-racking?
S TAT U S
LIVING ARRANGEMENT
INTRODUCING
DAN QUINTIN,
31, stockbroker
from Essex
How did it start?
Four years
Husband and wife
INTRODUCING
I had 24 hours on a plane to think of

something witty and funny to say, but
as soon as I saw her I lost the ability to
speak, so I just kissed her on the lips.
I downed two glasses of champagne

at the airport bar. When I saw him, we
both found that words werent enough;
we kissed for ages.
When did you realise you were in love?

I knew as soon as I saw her. I think
we both knew before we even met,
although neither of us dared to say so.
On our second day together, I

suddenly realised I could quite easily
spend the rest of my life with him.
What have been the major milestones in your relationship so far?

Em visited me in London a few
months later, and met all my friends
and family. Then, in February 2011, we
got married in Australia, after which
Emily moved to the UK.
The day Dan proposed was pretty

special he met me at Heathrow
airport and got down on one knee.
We try to mark our anniversaries by
travelling somewhere special together.
What do people think about how you met?

Hardly any of my friends batted an
eyelid at my unique boy-meets-girl
story Ive always been spontaneous.
Brave
enough to let
Cosmo put your
relationship under the
microscope? Send a pic of
the two of you and 100 words
about yourselves to Cosmo.
mail@hearst.co.uk with
He says/she says as
the subject.
D
Describe each other in three words.

D
Beautiful, articulate, funny.
Happy, dependable, strong.
Where do you see yourselves in ve years time?
We see ourselves in Sydney,

hopefully near a beach.
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Wed like to add to our little team

with a puppy and a couple of kids.
BY LORNA GRAY
The former
e-pen pals
in Sydney
My friends and family werent

particularly wary, and any uncertainty
disappeared once theyd met Dan.
Bra, 25, Rosie

for Autograph at
Marks & Spencer
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Dress, 65, Asos.

Earrings, 75,
Crystal Delica
Jacket, 65; skirt,

80, both Asos. Top,
28, Dorothy Perkins.
Shoes, 375, Jimmy
Choo. Rings (just
seen), from 20,
My Flash Trash
Dress, 65, River

Island. Rings,
as before
99
Skirt, 149,
Monsoon
100
Dress, 395,
Reiss
101
Bra, 25, Rosie

for Autograph
at Marks &
Spencer
102
Dress, 975,
Vilshenko. Shoes,
435, Christian
Louboutin
103
Top, 24.99, New

Look. Shorts,
28, Intimissimi
104
Jacket, 120, River

Island. Teddy, 45,
Rosie for Autograph
at Marks & Spencer.
Necklaces, from 14,
Estella Bartlett at
My Flash Trash. Rings,
from 27, Laura
Gravestock. Other
rings, as before
Hair and makeup
Lisa Valencia at
Carol Hayes, using
Show Beauty (hair)
and Clinique
(makeup).
Model Nadia
at Union.
Fashion Coordinator
Holly Coopey
With thanks to
Emirates and
Velassaru Maldives
See more from
our fashion trip at
Cosmopolitan.co.uk/
cosmoontour
105
Journey to the urban jungle in

graphic animal prints, tribal jewellery
and a hot gentleman in tow
Fa s h i o n S a i r ey S t e m p
P h o t o g r a p h s Ta k i N a k a m u r a
Embark on a romantic journey in a little leopard-print dress and vibrant heels Shana wears: Dress, 192, Essentiel
Antwerp. Shoes, 65, Office. Bag, 243, Angel Jackson. Cases, as before. Earrings; necklace, 12.50 for set; bracelets, 8.50 each,
all Allusions at BHS Wes wears: Jacket, 49.99; shirt, 17.99; shorts, 17.99; bow tie, 4.99, all New Look. Shoes, 35, Bertie
A zingy zebra-print suit requires some serious tribal hardware Jacket, 140; trousers, 137, both Edith & Ella.
Bikini top, 57, Calvin Klein Swimwear. Sunglasses, 189, Celine at My Optique. Necklaces, from 20, Freedom at Topshop
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The
NEWSEASON HITS
Spring into action
with the latest trends
from irty orals
to sports luxe
Sunglasses, 114, Ray-Ban

at Sunglasses-shop.co.uk
Jumper,
19.99,
H&M
Jacket, 198,
Adriano
ldschmied
Bag, 209, Radley
Purse, 89,
Ted Baker
Dress, 35,
Love Label
at Very
Pastels
aplenty
Jeans, 215,
Goldsign
Chalky hues and

sorbet shades are top
of our wish list
per,
.99,
Superdry
Playsuit,
65, Jarlo
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165
DA b
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120
Shoes, 32,
Dorothy Perkins
Shoes, 155,
Kat Maconie
Top, 24,
Dorothy
Perkins
Dress,
20, F&F
Sweater, 34,
Poppy Lux
Trainers,
40,
Laura
Ashley
Bag, 85,
Cath Kidston
Trainers,
26, Next
Trousers, 40,
Paper Dolls
Floral
fantasia
Welcome in the new
Trousers,
79.95, Gap
Hat, 16.99,
Bershka
wave of ower prints

Top, 79,
Ossie Clark
Trousers,
59, Boden
Dress,
60, Jarlo
Dress,
39.95,
Gap
Shirt,
36,
Asos
Jeans,
22.99,
Tezenis
T-shirt,
75, House
Of Hackney
* 121
Jacket, 19.99, Bershka

Clutch,
24, Very
Dress,
49, Very
Jumpsuit,
35, Miss
Selfridge
Top, 116, Velvet

Bag,
19.99,
H&M
Top, 12.99,
Mango
Watch,
44.50,
Kukulakuku
Jeans, 115,
Maison Scotch
Top, 190,
Day Birger
et Mikkelsen
World
traveller
Go global with
Necklace,
150,
Sweetlime
a touch of the exotic
Dress, 45,
Sugarhill
Boutique
Clutch,
22,
M&Co
Scarf, 8,
F&F
Rucksack,
55, Pauls
Boutique
Top, 35, Rocha John

Rocha at Debenhams
122
Coat,
29, Very
Headphones,
40, Wesc
edit
The
Bag,
225,
Diesel
Shirt, 38,
Asos
Shorts,
49.99,
ONeill
Shorts, 60,
Bambi & Manson
Trainers, 55,
Superga
Every girls
favourite
denim
Make it look
Jacket, 666,
Citizens Of
Humanity
Dress, 30,
Littlewoods
fresh for spring
Boots,
120, G-Star
hirt,
90,
lay
Shorts, 65,
Wrangler
Dress,
32,
Neon
Rose
Jumpsuit,
213,
Wildfox
Shirt,
29.95,
Gap
Gilet,
29.99,
Mango
Playsuit,
64.99,
Superdry
* 123
T-shirt, 38, Next
Shorts, 34,
Topshop
Skirt, 28,
Dorothy
Perkins
Clutch,
24.99,
Little
Mistress
Jacket, 42,
Dorothy
Perkins
Minimal
luxe
Keep things pared
Shoes,
60, Office
back with simple

monochrome shades
Shoes, 48,
Miss Selfridge
Shoes,
160,
Senso
Dress,
75,
People
Tree
Dress,
68,
Topshop
Clutch, 18, Dorothy Perkins
Shoes, 35,
Dorothy
Perkins
124
Blazer,
70,
Amaze
edit
The
T-shirt, 24.99,
Superdry
Shoes,
70,
Schuh
Shorts, 76, Zoe Karssen
Top, 47, Stussy
Jumper, 70, Selected

Femme
Hat, 25,
Starter
Sports
chic
Hang loose in cool
Jacket,
75,
Sisley
Sweater,
80, Tallulah
sweats and high-tops
COMPILED BY SAIREY STEMP. FASHION ASSISTANT KATIE SAXON, PHOTOGRAPHS 3 OBJECTIVES
Trainers, 75,
Adidas at Schuh
Top, 75,
Princesse
Tam Tam
Trainers,
55,
Vans
Top, 68,
This Is
A Love
Song
Joggers, 73,
April, May
Trainers, 55,
Puma
Jacket, 49.95, Gap
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THE PENCIL In both dress and skirt
format, the pencil was a key look on

the catwalks. Perfect for creating or
accentuating an hourglass gure, the
pencil shape streamlines a feminine
silhouette, as seen on the Dior runway.
Laura Puddy
KEY COLOURS Think pastels and candy
or S/S14, the catwa

were awash with
gorgeous prints, h
hues, pastel tones,
double denim, she
fabrics, monochrome, luxe lace
biker jackets. With such scope
the season ahead, it pays to gu
now the trends thatll work for
shades pink, turquoise and yellow.

If head-to-toe colour scares you, mix
with denim or navy blue, or go for
accessories in a hot hue.
MONOCHROME You cant go wrong with

black and white, but if youre worried
about a curvier bottom half, keep allout white on top and try plain black or
black-and-white print below.
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SUPER-SHEERS TO LUSCIOUS LACE
Catwalks and high street alike

range of fabrics, from lace to m
sheer-mix pieces all great for
so you can adjust the trend to
Dont like showing your arms
top with lace sleeves. Not fond
legs? Go for a skirt with a shee
section (sheer fabrics give the i
baring more skin than you act
PS...
PRINTS Matchy-matchy, orals and
geometric prints will be everywhere

(New Look has some great matching
two-pieces, as does Oasis). Its a great
trend to play with, as patterns can often
help streamline a curvier shape.
NEW FOR S/S14 House Of Frasers rst
Heard about British

Plus Size Fashion Weekend?
Dedicated to curvaceous and
plus-size girls, BPSFW on
1415 February is a chance
to explore new brands and
designers, and be surrounded
by industry experts. Check
out Bpsfw.com for more
information.
plus-size range is about to launch

online. With a variety of price
points, styles and brands, itll be
a great one-stop shop for curvy
girls. Houseoffraser.co uk
DIOR
DENIM A must-have for S/S14 is

This season its not all about s
skinny jeans and buttoned-up
Instead, think cute jackets, dun
pencil skirts and A-line shapes
at Balmain and DKNY. Flatter
to wear and great for curvy gir
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colour, fabric an
shape. Skirt, 24
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Una Speziale by
Marks & Spencer
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been creepin
back in over the
couple of season
are here to stay.
Great for elongat
the leg. Shoes, 9
Kurt Geiger
A leather biker
jacket never goes
out of style. Jacket,
60, River Island
Inject some
colour into your
S/S wardrobe with fab
accessories. Necklace,
14.99, New Look
This print-tastic
jumpsuit is very
versatile and drapes
in all the right places,
making it really
attering on curvier
shapes. Jumpsuit,
49.50, Evans
This lace midi
pencil skirt ticks
Spring updates
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WITH JEANS
3.1 PHILLIP LIM
THE BOMBER
JA C K E T
Bombers go brilliantly with

jeans, but if youre worried
about looking too boyish,
opt for a shorter, neater
or cropped style.
FEELING
FLIRTY
They dont have to be masculine.
Stick to a softer, silky style and
team with a oaty skirt for a
more girly look.
COMFY
CASUAL
Try teaming a smart blouse
or buttoned-up shirt with
a sporty bomber and luxe
joggers if, like Alex, the
casual look is more
your bag
* 129
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HOW THE
A-LIST
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layer over
buttoned-up
shirts
DONT
be scared to
wear over
feminine
shapes
POP OF
PRINT
DO
team with
your bikini
for a beach
update
on recent
cover star
her silk bomber
AND HOW NOT TO WEAR IT
Blauw by Maison
Scotch
DONT
always zip
it up
GIRLY
GLAM
DO
throw over
skinnies and
a tee
DONT
Kanye, did Kim really

let you leave the
house wearing this?!
Youre absolutely
fabulous, darling
NOT!
Its still too soon

for an 80s style
revival, Missy Elliott
go OTT with
a sequinned
LBD
39.99, Missguided
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TOP, ASOS
Lilac is a cold shade that needs

warm, dewy skin to pop
against, says Kenneth. So rub
a cream bronzer where the sun
naturally hits and create a halo
of warmth round the eyes by
applying a warm peachy beige
from the socket lines up to the
brows, as well as under the
bottom lashes. Then dab
lilac-pink on the centre of your
top lids, so it ashes when you
blink, and top with soft,
shimmery lilac all over your
lids. Paint your lips lilac too if
you want to avoid an excess of
blue in the colour (which can
make you look frozen), add
raspberry-pink lipstick until
youre happy with the shade.
TOP, SARA C. EARRINGS, KATIE ROWLAND
Theres an impressionist painter

in all of us; you just need to let
her out! says Kenneth. This
dappled eye isnt symmetrical and
thats what makes it pretty just
make sure you wear it with
condence and style. Using
brushes, I dabbed on a lavender
cream colour and a heather
powder shadow as the mood
took me, taking care to step back
after every dab to ensure the end
result looked deliberate, not like
an explosion in a paint factory. I
kept the lips a pale baby pink to
keep all the focus on the eyes.
Instaglam
Indigo
1 Diego Dalla Palma Happy Nails in Indigo,

10.50 (out in April) 2 Mac Pure Pigment
in Full Force Violet, 17 3 Butter London Wink
Eye Pencil in Indigo Punk, 14 4 Nars Matte
Eyeshadow in Outremer, 18 5 Maybelline
Color Tattoo in Endless Purple, 4.99 6 Beauty
UK Pearl Eyeliner in Purple Haze, 3.49
Lilac
1 Models Own Nail Polish in Lilac Dream, 5

2 Face Stockholm Pot Gloss in Amusing,
17 3 Shiseido Lacquer Rouge in Indiscreet,
23.50 4 Cargo Eye Shadow in Provence, 12
5 Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Cream Shadow in
Cool Lilac, 18.50 6 Benet Lollitint CandyOrchid Tinted Lip & Cheek Stain, 24.50
Lavender
1 Burberry Sheer Eye Shadow in Lavender,

22.50 2 Illamasqua Cream Pigment in Dab,
17.50 3 Kiko Long Lasting Stick Eyeshadow in
31, 6.90 4 Lola Eye Shadow in Lavender, 10
5 LOral Paris Color Infallible Eye Shadow in
Metallic Lilac, 6.99 6 Seche Nail Lacquer in
Buttoned Up, 9.95
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Kenneth answers your makeup questions at Cosmopolitan.co.uk/askkennethsoh
STILL LIFES DENNIS PEDERSEN. MAKEUP KENNETH SOH AT FRANK, USING GIVENCHY OMBRE COUTURE. HAIR HEATH MASSI AT FRANK, USING
LORAL PARIS STUDIO LINE #TXT. NAILS LOUI-MARIE EBANKS, USING CIAT. MODEL SAGA AT FM. BEAUTY ASSISTANT LUCY PARTINGTON
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time
In need of a soul-restoring spa break? We thought so. Heres our pick of

the best new spas worthy of your weary body. Plus, some brilliant
money-off deals to get you there. Youre welcome
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Best for
Top-dollar romance
Lucknam Park Hotel & Spa, Wiltshire
(Lucknampark.co.uk)
Why? Just outside Bath, tucked away in 500 acres of

parkland, sits this awe-inspiring ve-star country house.
As soon as you turn into the mile-long drive and the
gates close behind you, you know youre in for a treat.
With wood-panelled libraries, elegant Georgian
bedrooms and staff everywhere, this place is your very
own Downton Abbey. In cool contrast, the spa itself has
an ultra-modern, Zen-like vibe, complete with plunge
pools and a wellbeing house for alternative treatments
such as sunlight therapy. Our organic Ila back treatment
was dreamy and even came with its own soundtrack!
We loved The real log re in our bedroom
falling asleep to that comforting crackle and glow
was totally uh-mazing.
Cosmo tip People come from miles around for the

Michelin-starred food, so book early for the dinner of
your dreams.
* 143
Best for
An empty-yourmind getaway
The Headland Hotel and Spa,
Cornwall (Headlandhotel.co.uk)
Why? The Atlantic air mixed with the
splendour of this four-star hotel and
ocean-view spa immediately relaxes
your mind. After I tried The Dreaming
treatment, all I could do was stare at the
sea and surfers from the terrace bar. Its
a top-to-toe experience, including full
body massage, scrub and facial, using
Spiezia, the Cornish beauty range,
designed to put you into a deeply
relaxed, dream-like state. If your budget
doesnt stretch to a hotel stay, a spa day
is a must. The Indian head massage was
the best Ive ever had.
We loved The hot footrest in the

Cornish salt steam room and underoor
heating in our en-suite bathroom cosy,
cosy, cosy.
Cosmo tip Theres no need to leave

the hotel except for a walk on the
beach; youre already in the best spot
in Newquay.
144
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Best for
The full A-list experience

Bulgari Spa at the Bulgari Hotel,
London (Bulgarihotels.com)
Why? Created for the most demanding (and least broke) of
punters, this spa means business when it comes to treatments.
ESPAs aroma-therapeutic products star alongside hi-tech
equipment and cosmeceuticals. Fitness comes courtesy of the
celeby Bodyism team and you can even get your soul made
over with an emotional healer. My customised Delux Facial
involved an enzyme peel, mesotherapy (vitamins injected with
a sort of staple gun not kidding), LED light therapy and
massage. My therapist was extremely knowledgeable and
I came out looking 20 years younger. Priceless!
We loved The pre-facial face-mapping, where skin is
assessed with a special shows-up-everything light to make sure
it gets exactly what it needs.
Cosmo tip Book in two or more hours worth of treatments

and you get a day pass to the exclusive heat experiences, pools
and gym. Who knows which celeb you might be doing laps with
in the 25m swimming pool!
Best for
Homely hedonism
The Morritt Country House
Hotel & Garage Spa, Co Durham
(Thegaragespa.co.uk)
Why? Picture cosy armchairs and Irish coffee in front of the

re. After a great sleep, we spent the day in the adjoining
Garage Spa. My hot-stone massage was simply perfect, as was
taking in the scenery from the outdoor steel hot tub.
We loved All the locally made, natural products, available

everywhere from the restaurant to the spa.
Cosmo
o tip Check out the UKs rst Shepherds Hut Log
Sauna, modelled on a cosy 19th-century shepherds hideaway.
Best for
A traditional retreat
Spa Illuminata at Daneseld House, Bucks
(Daneseldhouse.co.uk)
Why? Daneseld House is a breathtaking building with

stunning views of the River Thames. The Grand Hall offers
squidgy sofas, a log re and tapestry-lined walls. We ate
seriously good posh nosh in the Orangery. Treatment-wise,
I had the well-executed Daneseld Experience, combining an
Aromatherapy Associates body treatment and facial.
We loved The cosy, well-stocked cocktail bar perfect for

retoxing after a day in the spa.
Cosmo tip Pay the extra 2.50 to get your breakfast in bed.
* 145
Best for
An anniversary escape
Gilpin Hotel and Lake House, Lake
District (Thegilpin.co.uk)
We loved The owery Joules wellies and socks

that we were given to wear with our robes for
walking through the woods.
Cosmo tip Book an afternoon Jetty Spa Trail so

youll be in the hot tub for sunset. When it gets
dark, the walkway is lit with candles and it feels
even more romantic.
Now go there for less!

Every single one of these spas is offering
Cosmo readers special deals on its
normal rates. For details of how to claim
your offers, price info, plus full terms
and conditions, go to
Cosmopolitan.co.uk/pampertime.
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PETER PEDONOMOU. FASHION AND ART DIRECTION SHELLY VELLA. FASHION COORDINATOR HOLLY COOPEY. HAIR AND MAKEUP LISA VALENCIA AT CAROL HAYES, USING SHOW
BEAUTY AND ST.TROPEZ. MODEL EMMA GRATTIDGE AT MODELS 1. WITH THANKS TO EMIRATES AND VELASSARU MALDIVES. BIKINI BOTTOMS, NEXT
Why? This small, family-owned hotel is set in 100

acres of woodland with a private lake. From the
moment you arrive, the super-friendly staff are at
your beck and call. The rooms overlooking the lake
have jaw-dropping views and are denitely worth
asking for. Not the biggest of spas, but the Jetty
Spa Trail is the real reason to visit: a four-hour
private spa journey just for couples. Every location
is booked out just for you and includes treats such
as a private swim, a salt snug and an aroma
massage, and ends with a bottle of champagne
in the outdoor hot tub. Amaze!
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we tried luxury new
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serum is easy to apply and,

despite feeling a bit tacky at
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THE GREAT TWIN TEST-OFF!
Cosmos Beauty Writer Cassie has roped her twin sister into a monthly beauty trial
ONE-MINUTE
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Connie
favours paredback beauty and

budget-friendly
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my skin feeling very smooth and
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WIN VERDICT
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an instant, but Ren felt more luxurious to use and a little kinder on the skin.
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7 Messy plaits
3 Neon orange lips

1 Feathery lashes
There are a lot of doe-eyes

around: thick, dened lashes,
says Macs Terry Barber. The new
Articial Aubergine shade of
Macs cult mascara really brightens
the eye. Use the wand tip to coat
each lash. Skip eyeliner; this trend
is best worn with esh-toned
eyeshadow or bare skin.
Orange is really hip, says makeup

legend Gucci Westman, and
her crayon of choice Revlon
ColorBurst Matte Balm in
Mischievous is now in the shops.
Worried about orange playing up
any yellow in your teeth? Go for a
pink-tinged shade, eg, bright coral.
Were obsessed with Antonio

Corral Caleros overlapping,
tangled plaits at Rachel Zoe:
Apply Moroccanoil Molding
Cream to dry hair, then blast with
a hairdryer from underneath to
tangle it. Clip up the front
section, braid the rest, then
release the top section and tuck
random strands into your braid
so it ends up wider on top.
8 Rock-chic matt
Makeup artist James Kaliardos

was inspired by LAs glam metal
scene for the rock-tastic Rodarte
show. If youre not a fan of gloss
or pretty, take a cue from this
sexy, suede-look trend. New Nars
Matte Multiple gives that velvety
nish: smudge on to your lips and
cheeks with your ngers and add
lots of messy black eyeliner.
9 Sea-shined
hair
4 Dreamy bronze
Charlotte Tilbury created a perfect

summer makeup look at Etro: I
used various brown shades, with
a gloss layer for a slightly wet
effect. This cream eyeshadow
from Laura Mercier does the job
in one sweep. Just add chocolatebrown mascara and bronzer.
Hairstylist Mark Hampton

used lashings of this new
Toni & Guy serum to create
slicked-back ponytails at the
Ashley Williams show. The
key is high-shine, not wet,
and this has a barely-there
feel so you can add loads,
he explains. Knot fabric or a
scarf halfway down the pony
for a holiday vibe.
5 Schoolboy brows
BY KATE TURNER. PHOTOGRAPHS STUDIO 33, JASON LLOYD-EVANS
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Top of our spring wish list? Dayglow skin and were talking
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you need is clever, light-boosting
No7 Instant Illusions Rapid
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skin look fresh and summery. Its
great skin in a bottle!
Theres a standard look for brows

this season, says Maybellines
Sharon Dowsett. Blunt, straight
and dark even black. The brows
at Erdem were inspired by
schoolboys: full and a bit feral!
This genius new Benet product
is a brush-on bre gel that adds
little bres to give you mega brows
that still look like your own.
6 Blue eyeliner
If you make one change in

your beauty routine this season,
swap your black eyeliner for
blue, says Sharon. Blue
eyeliner is like denim you
can throw it on casually with
anything. Sharons favourite
product is this incredibly
smooth Maybelline kohl. Trace
it along the waterline, inside
the bottom lid of your eye, and
see what a difference it makes.
10 Flip your parting

Heres a ve-second style update:
blast your hair with Sebastian
Professional Drynamic volumising
dry shampoo, ruffle the roots
with your ngertips and pull your
hair into an extreme side parting,
leaving loads of punky volume
at the crown. N
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Is it blue? Is it purple? Its

actually both, in a cool,
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way. Wear it on its own or
use it to transform any
base colour.
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over a punchy base.
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BEAUTY
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INGEBORG VAN
LOTRINGEN
BEAUTY
EDITOR
KATE
TURNER
BEAUTY
WRITER
CASSIE
POWNEY
has her eye on products

that really deliver
is ahead of the
new beauty trends
tames her hair and

colours her eyes
my
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fragrance
come toget
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created a fab and
Schwarzkopf. Her fave?
Essence Ultme Omega
Repair BB Beauty
Balm, 5.49, which
you can feel working
every time you use it.
Follow Inge on Twitter

@CosmoBeautyBoss,
Kate @KateBeautyEd,
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have a 44% lower

sperm count. Time to
grab the remote back?
STRESSED? Then its the perfect time to
have sex. Those worried parts of your brain
actually shut down when youre aroused, so
you can forget about work woes.
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Alcohol doesnt make people

look more attractive, it just
makes you way more lusty.
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ELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE
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Sex
hot
sextips
Forget the experts weve
asked other women what
takes them over the edge
The thing that most gets me in the
mood is when Im naked and my
boyfriend kisses me all over, but Im not
allowed to kiss him back. It drives me wild.
Thea*, 29, psychologist, London
Never let your bedroom action become
routine; its boring and unsatisfying. But
this could just mean assigning one day a
week to mix it up and keep it interesting.
Sarah, 23, barmaid, Essex
Go back to basics with foreplay and
opt for a sensual massage. My breasts,
sides, lower stomach and inner thighs are
particularly sensitive Danielle*, 31,
executive assistant, London
I often get baby oil involved. You
can pour it wherever you want
(although remember, oil and
condoms dont mix!). It makes
everything so much more sensitive and
softer to the touch. Plus, its great for your
skin. You can also buy it without the shop
assistant knowing what youre planning
Hayley, 22, blogger, Essex
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Sex
Take it in turns to blindfold each other
and wear earplugs. The rest of your senses
will go into overdrive plus not knowing
whats going to happen next will blow your
mind. Beth, 34, writer, Warwickshire
It doesnt have to be Christmas to
make each other a sex advent
calendar with a treat under each window.
Billie*, 27, sales executive, Belfast
I always tell the guy exactly what I
want. Men nd condence a massive
turn-on and you get sexual satisfaction
in return its a win-win situation. Hannah,
23, marketing assistant, Manchester
Go down on him,
and once youve got
into a rhythm, pull
back so only the head
is still in your mouth.
Flick your tongue over
the top and move it
from side to side. It always gets a good
reaction, and that makes me feel supercondent. Susannah*, 25, auditor, London
My husband once pulled me into the
shower when I was wearing a silk
nightie. The water made the material cling to
my body, and we then had some of the best
sex ever. Katy*, 32, nancial executive, Kent
When my partner is half asleep,
Ill wake him up with oral. The
sleepiness and the pleasure provides an
almighty climax for both of us when he
returns the favour. Sophie, 25, events
coordinator, Essex
I love it when my boyfriend and

I have a bath together. I sit on
the edge of the tub while he
goes down on me. Having my
feet in the water while my body
is naked and a bit cold somehow
makes everything feel extrasensitive. Heidi*, 31, teacher,
Wolverhampton
I start off gently biting his
lip, then move down his
body with subtle kisses,
making them more intense
towards his stomach, where hes ultrasensitive. Hes usually groaning at this point
and thats before Ive taken him in my
mouth. Louisa*, 25, trainee barrister, London
Send him kinky messages every hour
explaining exactly what you want to
happen when you get home. Hell go mad
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anticipating the next one and when you nally

meet you wont be able to keep your hands off
each other. Jenni, 24, student, Manchester
Take a sip of ice-cold water

and hold it in your mouth
while pleasuring him. The
shock and the sensation will be (almost)
more than he can handle. Anna*, 25,
medical administrator, Sheffield
Dedicate one night a week

solely to foreplay. Its good
to discover exactly what you
both like in the build-up to sex,
and the next day youll be
completely red up.
Megan, 20, waitress, Essex
Maintaining eye
contact with a guy
while youre going
down on him turns
you both on. Seeing the effect youre
having on him is a huge buzz.Josie*,
30, recruitment consultant, London
Everyone feels self-conscious

naked. I know how good it feels
when my other half says he loves
my body and Ive learnt that its also
important to return the favour. Kim*, 29,
events manager, London
Spontaneous sex on the stairs, the sofa
and in the shower has meant that my
other half and I have found new positions that
just arent possible on a soft bed. Emma,
25, brand consultant, Manchester
One of the secrets of great sex is not
comparing your sex life with your
friends. If youre happy with what you have,
it really doesnt matter what others might be
getting up to. Amy*, 28, nurse, Reading
I love cooking a meal at home
wearing just his shirt. You both
know where its leading
although you might not get to nish your
dinner Sophie, 24, PR manager, London
Use his name during
sex: a subtle ego boost
thatll turn you both on.
Rosie, 35, writer, Essex
Put a mint in your mouth before
going down on him. It adds a tingle
hell love. Ella*, 29, retail assistant, Cardiff
If Im having sex with a new partner
and Im not reaching orgasm, Ill show
him how to do it myself and let him nish off.
From then on, he knows just how to pleasure
me. Jasmine*, 26, teacher, Gloucestershire
Get him to dress up. Seriously.
My boyfriends Scottish and I
make him wear a kilt. Seeing
him in something different really does it for
me. Jacqui, 30, research assistant, London
Put on your sexiest lingerie, take
sneaky shots of yourself during the
day and send them to your partner. Itll make
you feel so sexy. To have both of you thinking
about it all day creates amazing chemistry.
Sam, 33, kinesiologist, Kent
I had a boyfriend whod go

from spooning me from
behind, to pulling me on top
of him so I was lying on my back on his
chest. From there I could guide his hands
wherever I wanted, then leave the rest to
him. Hed nuzzle into my neck, whispering
sexy things into my ear. Such a turn-on.
Jackie, 28, account executive, Birmingham
Have one month without full-on
sex. If you cant wait that long, try
two weeks. The release of sexual tension
at the end will keep you going all night.
Rachael*, 25, secretary, Ipswich
Doing it in front of a mirror
sounds cheesy but is a major
turn-on when you actually try it. Faye*,
26, recruitment consultant, West Sussex
Whether youre on top or
he is, keep pulling back
before it becomes full-blown
sex. Youll feel so turned-on that after you
nally give in, your orgasm will be
incredibly intense. Elizabeth, 29,
designer, Surrey
If a guy goes down on you, get
him to place a semi-melted ice
cube in his mouth. The mix of the warm
and cold sensation, plus him gently licking
the drips as they glide down your leg is
amazing! Rebecca*, 26, auditor, Manchester
After exchanging saucy

messages, my man and I met for
lunch and had sex in a restaurant
toilet. The thrill of perhaps getting
caught meant weve repeated it
several times. Caitlin*, 24, office
manager, Aberdeen
When going down on
me, my boyfriend
breathes on my stomach,
then kisses my inner
Practise kegels squeezing the

same muscles youd use to stop
weeing it makes sex much better. Alice*,
25, advertising copywriter, Swindon
My boyfriend used an ice cube

on the tip of his penis, then
I straddled him and he trailed the
ice down my back. Wow!
Olivia*, 24, teacher, London
When Im out with my boyfriend, I
bite my lip he knows what Im
thinking and it turns him on but he cant do
anything. His move is to subtly kiss my neck.
When we get home, were totally in the
mood. Lucy, 25, project manager, London
If somethings not working
for you, speak up right away.
My other half thought I liked
something and did it all the time. I put up
with it for six months until I nally admitted
it wasnt my thing. Sasha*, 29, solicitor, York
If Sex And The City
taught me anything,
its to use full-fat
whipped cream in the
bedroom, not the canned stuff; it holds its
shape better when in contact with warm
skin. Lily*, 28, market researcher, London
Propping up my bum with a couple
of pillows when my guy goes down
on me gives him a better angle and me more
pleasure. Kate, 25, sales assistant, Essex
The taste my
thumb game was
going well
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thighs, then he starts again from the

beginning but adds a gentle lick, and so on.
The anticipation and tenderness leads to an
amazing climax. Eleanor*, 25, research
scientist, Nottinghamshire
For a bit of a thrill, my boyfriend and I
will start having sex in my living room
10 minutes before my housemate is due
home. Its one hell of a passionate quickie!
Harriet*, 24, occupational therapist, Cardiff
One guy poured champagne over
my body and licked it off. An
expensive treat but, thanks to the sensations
of the bubbles, its one Ill be repeating.
Bex, 25, production assistant, Worcester
Be spontaneous. Grabbing him the
second he walks through the front door
will catch him off guard and make sex
extra-passionate. Meg, 27, nurse, London
When my boyfriend pulls my

knickers to one side, rather than
taking them off, I nd it a massive turn-on.
Amelia*, 22, sales assistant, Cardiff
Promise each other three
wishes over a weekend
away. Its the best way to tell
him what you like and have him do it.
Sophia*, 24, PR assistant, Wiltshire
Im a huge fan of
missionary, but also enjoy
deep penetration. To get
both, I pull my knees
towards me and place my feet on his chest.
It feels amazing. Sarah, 27, advertising
executive, London
If youre into sex toys, invest in
something that you can both enjoy
using. Verity*, 29, teacher, Birmingham
I trail my tongue along his shaft to the

area between the testicles and the base
and gently exhale. Its seriously sensitive and
always gives my boyfriend goosebumps.
Chelsie, 24, stylist, London
My ex used to hold my ankles
up so my back was tilted during
missionary. It made things more
intense. Millie*, 25, legal secretary, Manchester
Whispering in my boyfriends ear
during sex, and the occasional nibble,
drives him crazy. I didnt realise how sensitive
ears could be! Isla*, 25, engineer, Bristol
Dont underestimate the power of
expensive underwear. Sure, itll
probably come off quicker than it went on,
but its a great condence booster.
Lauren, 25, student, Manchester
Having recently started taking
my tness seriously, my sex life
has denitely improved as a
result. More reason to head to the gym!
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Sex therapy
change-your-life sex advice, ask Cosmos sex psychotherapist, Rachel Morris
I have zero sex drive
PHOTOGRAPHS ASHA FULLER, MARCIO DEL NERO. ILLUSTRATION KATY WAKEFIELD. RACHEL REGRETS SHE CANNOT ANSWER YOUR LETTERS PERSONALLY
Since my pregnancy Ive lost all interest in sex. Our

daughter is nearly three and my (highly sexual)
husband is piling the pressure on. He doesnt want a
sexless marriage, but I cant force it can I?
No, but perhaps you can cajole it. Pregnancy, childbirth,
postnatal weight gain and stretch marks dont exactly
add up to phwoar for any woman. And having a baby
is overwhelming. But you have to make room for your
adult self. Go on dates together and focus on recalling
each other before the baby. Decide to nd your way
back: read an erotic novel or buy something that makes
you feel sexy. Once youve reconnected with your desire,
you can ease your husband back into the picture.
He treats me
like a toy
Im missing out on great sex

My boyfriend and I split up for a while and I had a ing with
an older guy, who showed me what great sex is. Im glad to be
back with my ex, but the sex that used to seem OK now makes
my heart sink. What do I do?
When youre old and wise, the only things youll regret are the
things you didnt do. You can a) teach him. This isnt a quick
solution, so pass if youre impatient or youll only add frustration
to your disappointment. Positive reinforcement has more staying
power. Describe what you want more of (Mmm, thats good but I
like it best when you do it like this). Or b) lead him: you make
the decisions. But dont tread on his ego; it can have a wilting effect.
Or c) leave him. Theres no shame in accepting that sometimes
theres just no going back.
My boyfriends
always trying to
make me do things
I dont want to
in bed, and uses
language I hate.
I try to stop him,
but he wont listen.
I want us to make
love but hes not
romantic at all.
When you say you
try to stop him,
have you said, Im
not enjoying this
please stop? Or,
That language is a
real turn-off for me
please dont use
it? Trying implies
youre only hinting
at how you feel,
hoping hell read
your signals, which
he isnt. Its hard to
ask for what you
want in bed; its
even harder to say
no to someone you
care about. But if
he wont even listen
then youre wasting
your breath dump
the pigs ear and
nd yourself a
silk purse.
HE
She smells
different
WANTS
TO
KNOW I love giving my girlfriend
oral, and have noticed she

has a really strong smell. Its not an
infection smell (my ex once had
thrush), but its different. Is there
something wrong or do some
women just have a stronger smell?
Fact number one: all women smell of
something as do men. Fact number
two: usually this is perfectly natural.
Fact three is that most women dread
having the kind of conversation
you sound like you might want to
have. Some women naturally emit
a stronger odour, and it can also be
affected by eating strong-tasting
foods, among other factors. But,
unless theres a bacterial imbalance,
it shouldnt be unpleasant. If it is, she
may have some kind of infection and
chances are shell deal with it.
Write to: RACHEL MORRIS,

Cosmopolitan, 72 Broadwick
Street, London W1F 9EP, or email
rachel@cosmopolitan.co.uk
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vs
...the big
debate
In the ongoing Whats healthy, whats not? battle, sugar has

recently stolen fats Nutrition Bad Guy title. But is it a fair ght?
nti-sugar stories
have hit the
headlines lately,
with warnings
that its as
dangerous for you as alcohol
and tobacco. Last month, obesity
experts launched a campaign to
have the sugar content of some
food and drinks cut by up to 30%.
The trouble is, theres
abundant, conicting info on its
alternatives, such as agave syrup
(its low-GI but high in fructose,
FYI). And the controversial diet
books that tell us to tuck into
large amounts of fat certainly
raise the red ag where heart
health is concerned. Here,
nutritionist Lyndsey Heffernan
gives us the facts
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My friend says sugar

is worse for you than
fat. Is it? Jessica, 30
LYNDSEY SAYS In general dietary terms,
neither is worse per se, as our bodies

require both for different reasons. But
the rise of processed foods has created
monster versions of them, which play
havoc with our health. Heres the skinny:
FAT Theres no official recommended
dietary fat intake, but it should account
for 20-35% of your energy (calorie) intake.
This means limiting foods high in
saturated fat, such as biscuits, cakes,
pizza, fried foods and potato chips.
Good fats, from oily sh, nuts, seeds,
avocados and vegetable oils, are needed
to maintain healthy joints, hormones,
skin even a healthy nervous system.
Saturated fats in meat and dairy can
help support brain function and calcium
absorption, but too much (over 20g per

day) can clog your arteries.
Trans fats, found in processed and fried
foods, are so articial that your body
cant process them effectively. This leads
to bad LDL cholesterol, clogs arteries
and spells disaster for heart health.
SUGAR Sugars can be classed as either
complex or simple carbohydrates.
Complex carbohydrates from veg,
wholegrains, beans and pulses are
broken down into more simple sugars,
which your body uses for slow, sustained
energy release. This type of sugar should
form the majority of your energy intake.
Simple carbohydrates from white
bread, cakes and biscuits dont require
this level of breakdown, so they hit your
bloodstream fast, causing energy
uctuations that can lead to heart disease,
type-2 diabetes and obesity. So choose
complex varieties wherever possible.
Sex
Can I cut down on
sugar while still
satisfying my
sweet tooth? Lauren, 31
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LYNDSEY SAYS Yes! Its simply

a matter of retraining your taste buds
to appreciate the natural sweetness
of foods. Cut out all sweet treats for
a week and youll get the idea even
carrots will taste sweeter. If you dont
want to cut out sugar altogether, make
smarter snack choices. Dark chocolate
is richer than milk chocolate, so youll
need less to satisfy you; eat it with a few
nuts and the protein will slow the effect
the sugar has on your bloodstream. And
I challenge anyone with a sweet tooth
not to love the taste of chopped fruit
with natural yogurt.
I want to maintain
my weight. Is it
better to follow
a low-fat or low-sugar
diet? Rachel, 28
LYNDSEY SAYS For many years, fat was
public enemy No.1 for dieters, but

recent thinking points the nger at
sugar. This is the reason many modern
weight-loss plans ban all carbohydrates
even fruit to force our bodies to use
up their existing fat stores.
Cutting out whole food groups is
extreme, but there is something in
this. When we eat sugar, it triggers the
release of insulin, the hormone needed
to process sugar from our blood into
our cells, where it can be used for
energy. If we eat too much sugar, insulin
stores it as fat hence we gain weight.
So these diets reverse this process by
banning the sweet stuff.
The danger is that your intake of
artery-clogging fat could increase as a
result. And low-fat products wont help;
theyre often packed with sugar and
articial sweeteners.
If you dont want to lose weight, its
best to follow a low-GI eating plan
(wholegrains, lean meat, poultry, sh,
pulses, nuts, seeds, fruit and vegetables)
to regulate your insulin response and
therefore your appetite and weight.
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Health-shop shelves are groaning with new products promising to boost health,
from chia seeds to baobab powder, whey blends
to psyllium husks. But what exactly are they?
And do they work? Kate Russell tried some out
Moringas health claims

are unsubstantiated, says
nutritional therapist
Caroline Skirrow. The
side effects (nausea,
diarrhoea and heartburn)
are common and its
considered unsafe for use
during pregnancy.
This is potentially a very

powerful medicinal plant,
but until we have more
scientic evidence its best
to nd safer alternatives,
advises Caroline.
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Sprinkle a tablespoon on
just about any meal for
fast weight loss.
High in vitamin C, bre,

calcium and potassium,
taking it every day will
supplement your
recommended daily
allowance of vitamins,
minerals and antioxidants.
Apart from holding six

times as much vitamin C
as oranges, it contains
a chemical called
polyphenol, which reduces
the rate sugar is released
into the bloodstream,
banishing cravings and
energy swings. Research
indicates it could also treat
type 2 diabetes.
From day one my usual

post-lunch slump was
nowhere to be seen.
A winner!
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Two scoops in milk or

water twice a day adds
lean muscle and aids
weight loss.
The extra protein helps

muscle cells regenerate,
so its great for athletes
and those wanting to
develop lean muscle
mass. But drink it without
being active and its just
unnecessary added
calories. Its best for
aiding post-exercise
recovery, adds Caroline.
I tried a shake in place

of my regular breakfast,
but I found it didnt ll me
up for very long. For it to
make any difference, you
do need to exercise and
follow the provided plan.
One of the best sources of

soluble dietary bre, the
husks promote healthy
digestion, regularity and
cardiac health. Plus,
theyre meant to keep you
fuller for longer, which
promotes weight loss.
Its proven to be effective

at relieving constipation
and can help with IBS
symptoms too. If youve
got tummy problems,
Caroline gives psyllium
the thumbs up.
This is really unpleasant to

drink. The husks swell to
up to 50 times their size,
which meant they made
me incredibly bloated. My
stomach was churning all
day, so something was
happening down there.
These super-simple
slimming tricks rarely
work and a US study
comparing people who
ate chia seeds with people
who didnt showed no
effect on appetite or
weight loss. Any
high-bre foods help
calorie control, so just eat
more whole grains, beans
and veggies, says
Caroline. Flaxseeds, which
are cheaper, also offer the
same health benets.
I felt fuller after half of

my lunch, and Id have
polished off the rest if it
werent for all the chia in
it. Its really dry, so dont
try it without wet food.
By the time 5pm rolled
round, though, I was
famished that KitKat
never stood a chance
PHOTOGRAPH DENNIS PEDERSEN
Moringa powder, derived

from Asian owers, is
said to tackle everything
from gum disease to
constipation to cancer to
birth control moringa
roots have traditionally
been used as a birthcontrol agent as theyve
been known to suppress
the reproductive system.
Its also a morning
zinger-upper.
Bye-bye body hang-ups

Dr Linda Papadopoulos unravels the causes of poor body image
THE DILEMMA
5 REASONS
I LOVE
SPRING
Do blondes
really have
more fun?
The weather
Not too hot, not too
cold and perfect for
the pastel leather
jacket I just bought.
Ive recently gone blonde

for the rst time and
have noticed that some
people are acting differently
around me. Its crazy. Can
hair colour really make such
a difference? Or could it be
that Im behaving differently?
Interestingly, there is a
science behind reactions to
blonde hair. Going back 11,000
years, hair colour probably
played a role when it came
to sexual selection. In those
days, hunting for meat was
dangerous and many men died.
The theory goes that this was
a time of intense sexual rivalry
between females, as they had
to compete for limited males
and for a favourable share of
meat. When given the choice,
cavemen chose blondes, as they
stood out from their rivals.
Another evolutionary reason
is that blonde hair can be
interpreted as a sign of youth
and, therefore, reproductive
tness. This is because, as our
hair gets darker with age, postmenopausal women rarely keep
the golden locks they had when
they were younger.
But its not just cavemen
who favour blondes. Research
PHOTOGRAPHS GETTY, CHRIS CLINTON. JACKET, 120, RIVER ISLAND
The smells
Flowers blooming,
freshly cut grass, the
appetising waft of
an early barbecue
blondes should make a beeline

suggests that the percentage of
for the peroxide. The best hair
blondes in magazines exceeds
colour is one that makes you
that in the normal population.
feel like yourself.
This suggests that the selection
In a recent
pressures that
shaped the
SELF-HELP CORNER study, researchers
sent a woman
standards of
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to three London
Western female
Want to stop being
clubs with
beauty in the late
a points-counting,
scale-weighing crazy?
her hair dyed
Palaeolithic era
Isabel Foxen Duke
brunette, blonde
are still the same
dishes out advice (with
and then red,
today. In fact,
a side serving of VERY
and watched
anthropologists
funny anecdotes)
how many men
believe the desire
about how to stop
obsessing over food.
approached her.
to have light
They found she
hair represents
was chatted up the most as a
an urge to look different
blonde, but was rated most
most people have dark hair,
highly for attractiveness and
so blondes are more unusual.
intelligence when brunette,
But that doesnt mean all nonand feistiness as a redhead. This
RETWEET THIS WANT A POSITIVE, HAPPY THOUGHT TO SHARE
may reect a shift in fashion,
ON TWITTER? DR LINDAS INSPIRATIONAL WORDS WILL HELP
with brunettes now being
idealised in the way blondes
Linda Papadopoulos @DrLinda_P
Learn to identify and challenge negative thoughts. You can train
once were. As far as I can tell,
your mind to do this and its a key component of happiness
though, blondes, brunettes and
#CosmosDrLinda
redheads all seem to have fun!
The park
Reading Cosmo,
chatting, walking,
eating everything is
better done in a park!
Spring cleaning
Messy desk? Jumbled
wardrobe? Nows the
time I de-clutter my
space and mind.
Longer days
When the clocks go
forward and the
evenings become
lighter, it makes me
feel full of energy.
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Press through
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Victory
jumps
Stand with
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wider than
shoulder-width
apart, your toes
pointed forward.
Bend your knees
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To burn
are parallel with
more calories,
the oor. Extend
use your arms
your straightened
to propel
arms behind you
yourself.
at a 45-degree
angle.
Pushing
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as far as you can
while simultaneously
pulling your
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Continue jumping
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REMEDY
IT
Overactive
bladder
(OAB),
which sees
sufferers
needing the loo
frequently (and, like,
now), is more common
than you might think. If
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punch your right

hand across your
body to the left,
simultaneously
turning your torso
and head in that
direction. Repeat
with your left
hand to the right.
Continue punching
in each direction
without pausing
for 30 seconds,
going as quickly
as you can.
As you
get tter,
you can switch
sides without
pausing.
Hurry-up lunges
Get into a plank

position with your
palms under your
shoulders and arms
straight, balancing
on your toes.
Jump your right
foot forward, so
it lands directly to
the right of your
hand. Pause for a

second, then jump
your right foot back
to the start. Pause
again, then repeat
with the left foot.
Continue jumping
for 30 seconds,
going as quickly
as you can.
Plank hops
1
Focus
on keeping
your bum down
as you hop. It will
help strengthen
your core.
youre suffering, dont

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Stand with your

et wider than
ulder-width
t, toes pointed
egrees, and
d your knees
our thighs are
llel to the
r. Make sts
your hands
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elbows next
our torso.
Maintaining a
squat position,
POP IT
Get into the

plank position,
balancing on your
forearms and toes,
so your elbows are
directly under
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Using your
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to the right.
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going as quickly
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Why did he dump me?

My boyfriend of four years dumped me.
He says he cant offer me a future and is
holding me back from marriage and kids.
Im 27 and hes 45. I said I dont want
these things as we both have them from
previous relationships. Why now, after
our years together? Im devastated.
Has he recently had a birthday? Or a sexual
hiccup? My guess is that something has
alarmed him about the age gap; he feels
himself to be, if not old, over middle age.
He needs your understanding and assurance
of his sexiness and energy. If he cant be
consoled and insists on a break-up,
remember you are still young; you have time
to change your mind about everything.
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He has no motivation
I have a degree and am in full-time work.

My boyfriend, whos 32, has never had a
job. He has type-2 diabetes because he
only eats junk food. How can I make
him see his lack of drive for health or a
career will be the death of him? Our
relationships not great, but Im worried.
He requires professional help. The best you
can do for him is rst to go to a website
where diabetics learn about their ailment
and discuss it. Show him the results of your
research, then take his hand and lead him
to life-saving counselling. I hope your
concern for him is as a friend. He badly
needs one as he is no friend to himself. But
he is certainly not now, and may never be,
ready for a committed relationship.
Irmas
He had an affair
Why do we
apologise is it for
hurting someone,
for being caught
out or for both?
The other day on
the bus, a boy next
to me had an ice
cream that ew
into my lap as we
went over a bump.
Say sorry his
mum demanded.
Im sorry, he said
tearfully to the
empty cone in his
hand, not to me.
Genuine apology
cannot be ordered;
it needs mutual
understanding.
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I found out from my husbands phone that hes

been having an affair. I told him to get out of my
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him a chance to prove himself. I love him too but
now I feel that I cant trust him like I did before. Will
he go back to the other woman?
Its up to your husband to give you time and reason
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Be positive about a fresh start for you both. Put sexy
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without a second thought. But what you have together
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the hell? Might as well earn it!
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inspired that iconic beach scene in Dr No.
BY AMANDA STATHAM. PHOTOGRAPHS GETTY
Youll love
The laid-back party vibe.

This Caribbean island has
some of our favourite bars
in the world, including the
Pelican Bar a tiny
drinking hut made of
mangrove sticks on a
sandbar a mile out to sea
from Treasure Beach.
Owner and sherman
Floyd will catch sh and
fry it for you while you sip
chilled Red Stripe beers
and chat with your feet
The beautiful
Half Moon
Rose Hall
dangling in the water.

Theres no electricity,
so when the sun sets
its time to return
reluctantly to shore.
Will Smith loved it, and
so will you. The beaches
are worth the eight-hour
ight alone. Jamaicas got
some of the worlds best,
including Negrils seven
miles of soft white sand.
And theres a lot of culture
too, like a trip to Rose
Hall in Montego Bay a
mansion once
occupied by
Annie Palmer,
a white witch
who allegedly
killed three of
her lovers
there. Visitors
claim theyve
captured her
in photos (we
found a white
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blob on our pics too, but
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Stay at
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come in rainbow colours.
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Octopussy 1, which is
painted the colour of the
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roof terrace and alfresco
bathroom. Theres also a
pool, tiny bar, a Caribbean
caf where locals hang
out, a strip of sand and
the Driftwood Spa. If you

want more party action,
cliff-top boutique retreat
Tensing Pen is in the heart
of Negril, close to all the
bars. Or for resort living,
try Half Moon Rose Hall in
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Facebrag
about
Cliff-jumping at Ricks
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ies twice-weekly
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scarily high rocks (if
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Pisces 19 FEB-19 MAR
Scorpio 23 OCT-21 NOV
March
A better job or improved

workplace is on offer after
July. Youll boost your
image or online prole
by April. Dating? A guy
with kids is interested.
Dont start a nancial or
shopping feud; it could go
on for months. Your big
internet problem improves
in the second half of 2014.
Projects involving babies or

children in your world, or
a very serious relationship
phase, make this month
unforgettable. An overseas
friend has excellent advice.
If you can live with a at
or house issue, youll save.
Change a project even if you
have to waste previous work.
A females support helps.
Aries 20 MAR-19 APR
HAPPY
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Ms
Pisces
Taurus 20 APR-20 MAY
Go to people you can rely

on to help you out with a
difficult work situation. The
lesson for March is simple:
to get the respect of the
group, put the group rst.
Animals bring you closer to
a man with whom you have
little in common its hard
to resist a good cause or a
cute creature!
Gemini 21 MAY-20 JUNE
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Cancer 21 JUNE-22 JULY
Virgo 23 AUG-22 SEP
Leo 23 JULY-22 AUG
Libra 23 SEP-22 OCT
Let changes happen when

it comes to travel or foreign
connections; its time to live
fully in the present. You can
achieve huge things if you
work harder for others in
a volunteer or charity role.
Do everything necessary to
achieve your body ambition.
And trust your instincts
when it comes to your ex.
A work or unpaid project will

inspire you so much youll
want to give up weekends.
Check eBay or car-boot prices
for bargains and possible
prots. A hesitant man will
turn his behaviour round if
youre honest. Find out why
a crafty female (in both senses
of the word) has such an issue.
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other people have to say
about health and beauty in
order to get the best results.
Dont assume that relatives
will do anything you
wouldnt take on board
yourself. Rein yourself in
with some sexual self-control
for as long as you need to,
then move on.
You can help other people at

work but you need allies and
backers. You can change the
world, one person at a time;
take on the responsibility.
Youll have new opportunities
in love if you dont let others
sway you and only heed
yourself. Youve also hit a
fork in the road with cash.
A stuck period in your life

with one man is nearly over,
but you need to snap up a
chance to change things with
another female in his world.
Wonderful group chemistry
is around you as everyone
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goals; pursue success or
money within the group and
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internet prole; it could
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yourself and others unless
you are genuine. In love,
take the reality check thats
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and move on to happiness.
Look at how youre spending
your weekends and who
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Aquarius 20 JAN-18 FEB
Be self-reliant at work to
counteract an unhelpful
female. Youll get the allies
you need if you put your
ideas across condently. You
have just enough stamina
to keep persisting with a
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holiday from the real world.
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How would you rate

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Well, youre in luck

this year Where
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on a date?
Jesus Christ, I dont really

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Shall we kiss, then you can
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say Im good; some would
say Im bad.
Alex wants you

to let him know
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The Magic Mike star, 23, is a bit

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Valentines to beat?
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cars. Ive actually crashed

four times in the past ve
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He has tattoo of his name

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