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(Active listening is one of the most important tools a leader can apply. It
facilitates greater understanding of situations, challenges and, most importantly,
of the people who do the work)
( M. G. ESKAROS, Parsons International Ltd., Abu Dhabi, UAE )
Patient listening is the doorway to superior leadership for every executive, manager and
supervisor. It is also the doorway for gaining respect from associates and commitment
and loyalty from subordinates. It is the most important of all leadership skills.
An effective leader spends at least half of his or her communication time listening
because it means using the brainpower of every team member. And that brainpower
could be for identifying and understanding a problem or a potential problem, finding a
solution, or for implementing a brilliant idea and developing a new and more efficient
approach to handling daily business.
In our business, we get wrapped in tight schedules and critical deadlines and forget the
importance of being with the troops in a relaxed environment to listen and understand.
Successful leaders invent communication loops to open the channels of feedback by
thinking out of the office and inviting employees for breakfast, meeting them for coffee
or holding informal lunches. Objective managers will refrain from speaking too much
during these activities and will only ask questions and listen. So get out with your team,
listen to their complaints and suggestions, and try to fully understand them.
Seek first to understand. Most of us listen with the intent to reply. We're either speaking
or preparing to speak to be understood. We need to learn and practice the highest form
of listening: empathic listening. This is when every word said really gets inside you. You
look out through it and you see the world the way the speaker sees it.
Communication experts estimate that only 10% of our communication is represented by
the words we say. Another 30% is represented by our sound, and 60 percent by our
body language. In empathic listening you listen with your ears but you also, and more
importantly, listen with your eyes and heart. You listen for feeling, meaning and
behavior; you sense, intuit and feel.
Empathic listening is powerful because it gives you accurate data to work with. You are
dealing with the reality inside another person's head and heart. You're listening to
understand, and you're focused on receiving the deep communication of another human
soul.
Now how do you feel when you work with a boss that does all that? Better yet, how
would you like to be the one who truly practices all that? Superior managers are well
informed and work hard to stay that way. Strength comes from knowledge. The
essence of knowledge, is having it, to use it, as Confucius said. The best way to
acquire daily management knowledge is to listen to your associates, teammates,
bosses and subordinates and use that knowledge to solve problems, fulfill your plans
and reach your goals.
HOW TO DO IT
Let's focus on our most important management rule, which is reporting problems. A
procedure must certainly be developed to not shoot the messenger,but must welcome
the bad news and disagreements as another opportunity to excel. General George C.
Marshall, US Army chief of staff during WWII once said, Unless I hear all of the
arguments against something, I am not certain I have made the right decision or not.
Don't shoot the messenger. When a person asks to see you, do not invite him or her
unless you are really willing to listen and ready to focus without interruptions. Hold all
your calls and silence your cellular phone. Give your full attention to show the person
how serious, appreciative, and respectful you are. That also tells the person to be
concise and to the point. Here's the procedure (refer to Fig. 1).
Case history. At a major engineering company in the early '70s, there was a big
demand for process engineers for large projects. Many fresh graduates were hired. One
of the process unit's senior lead engineers was bombarded with questions and tried to
patiently answer them. For a few weeks half of his time was spent with the young
engineers, coaching and answering their questions.
Working overtime early one morning, the department head quietly came to the lead
engineer's desk, sat down and offered coffee and donuts. Then he asked if there were
any problems or suggestions. The lead engineer mentioned that half of his time was
being spent answering the same question, asked by a different person. And he
suggested that the group start a training program. The boss listened empathically,
thanked the fellow and carried on with his rounds.
Two weeks later, the boss visited again. He had a request from the vice president of
engineering to the lead engineer to immediately start preparing a training program for
the fresh graduates, the first ever in the company's history.
Over a period of two years, more than two hundred engineers, process and other
disciplines attended the training sessions. The effort was rewarding, and everyone
reaped the benefits. The key to this success truly was the boss's emphatic listening
skills.
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