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What Every Man Wants in a Woman; What Every Woman Wants in a Man
John and Diana Hagee, ISBN 1-59185-723-6, Charisma House
This a dual book bounded into one, written by a husband and wife, but not from the viewpoint of
the authors but from their experiences and research done and the things written down by men and
women about what they want in a partner. In both the sections of the book, each of the authors
also draws a parallel to the section written by the other to illustrate the differences in the way a
man and a woman thinks.
What Every Man Wants in a Woman John Hagee
The author starts his book by listing the top ten things a man wants in a woman in order of
importance and then bases the rest of the book there upon. In addition to the information shared
with men, each chapter also contains a special section for women titled Hints for Her to assist
women in giving a man what he needs.
Conflicting expectations are the source of most unhappiness in marriage. If you are entering into
marriage with high expectations but with low preparation, you are going to be disappointed. A
hasty courtship can often lead to a marriage relationship that is a disaster. Allow enough time for
infatuation to die and for true love and spiritual attraction to develop. Marriage is the act of two
incompatible people learning to become compatible via compassionate compromise. The author
discusses the following four differences every man and woman must learn to accept:
- The womans right-brain caring versus the mans left-brain logic
- Enjoying the process versus accepting the goal
- Spiritual authority versus feminine manipulation
- The Days of Wine and Roses versus the Days of Thunder and Lightning
In 1 Corinthians 7:2 Paul commanded Let each man have his own wife. This means s~x
outside of marriage is absolutely forbidden. The implication in 1 Corinthians 7:3 is that God does
not only expect the man to be loyal, but He also expects him to be a lover. Several Scripture
references to various pages are given to show that the Bible is indeed a book for Lovers.
The author discusses his interpretation of the 7 things listed below he thinks God says Woman
wants from men based on Ephesians 5, and teaches some communication skills in between.
- Women want a man to love them completely, passionately and romantically.
Common personality traits existing among alcoholics are traits developed after the addiction, not
before. Alcoholism has no known physical cause and an unhappy childhood is not a primary
cause of addiction. Alcoholism or drunkenness of any kind is clearly forbidden in Galatians 5:1921. The alcoholic plans his day around drinking and hides behind excuses. The author provides
some clear practical steps as a way out of alcoholism.
Poor communication is generally the result of poor hearing. When it stops flowing, your
marriage dies. You can win an argument but lose your marriage. In accordance with Matthew
12:34-37, words are a transcript of the mind.
The first step toward making your marriage an affair-proof marriage is to determine that both of
you want to improve your marriage. Your marriage can sizzle, but not without you planning to
make it happen.
The author discusses the following steps to Marriage Survival:
- Totally forgive and forget the past
- The Husband is the King, Priest and Prophet of his family
- Realize that submission in the Bible means mutual submission
- Eliminate the absentee father
- Start communicating today
- Live in s~xual freedom
- Reference for the marriage relationship
Love is not what you feel, love is what you do. The Bible says in 1 John 4:8, He who does not
love does not know God, for God is love. Without love, you are nothing. John Hagee concludes
hid part of the book with an in depth discussion of love as described by the Apostle Paul 1
Corinthians 13.
What Every Woman Wants in a Man - Diana Hagee
The most important decision you will make in your life is whether you receive Jesus Christ as
your Savior. The second most important decision you will make is who you will marry. These
choices will contribute to your future happiness and whether you will be able to serve the Lord to
your maximum potential.
There are many reasons why people get married, but Diana sums up God reasons for marriage
as:
- To become one flesh
is expressed with love, trust and gratitude. Respect at this level is earned. One of the greatest
services a woman can perform for her husband is to respect him in thought, in word and in
action.
Raising a family that loves the Lord takes a three-way partnership the husband, his wife and
the Lord. A family man spends quality time with the whole family as well as with each child. A
parent is only as happy as their saddest child. A wife must partner with her husband and not
compete for his leadership over the children. Set goals for your family and stay focused on them.
Pray daily with your spouse for your children. Bless your spouse and your children daily. Pray
for your childrens spouses early in their lives.
In 1 Timothy 5:8, the Bible teaches that the man who can, but wont provide for his family, is
one who has abandoned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. A man who rejects the
principle of tithing cannot understand the feelings of a woman who believes and trusts in the
Word of God regarding prosperity. In this case the woman must wait on the Lord to convince her
husband, and in the mean time she must be obedient to her husbands decision. This is a question
that must be settled before the marriage takes place.
A woman will be held accountable for how she helps her husband maintain financial order within
the marriage. Her husband should be able to have full confidence in her and should lack nothing
of value because of her management of the household budget in accordance with Proverbs 31:1112.
The thing a woman wants most is security on all levels. God provided for our needs to be met by
defining the roles of men and women. It is important that a woman makes her husband feel
needed. A man who doesnt feel needed is not going to provide. A clean, neat appearance and
home, a wife with a smiling face, clean and well behaved children and a car clear of debris gives
a husband encouragement.
Truthfulness and Honesty are absolutes in life and they must never be compromised. They can be
broken and they can be mended, but they can never be the same again without the restoration of
Jesus. Honesty is defined as a refusal to lie, cheat or deceive in any way. Without trust, a solid
marriage foundation cannot be build. Some men struggle with honesty and some husbands find it
easy to lie to their wives about minor things. Others manipulate or control their wives by the lies
they tell. When a problem with dishonesty is acknowledged, a man can with the help of God and
his wife, learn to be honest in the marriage relationship. Lies will always be exposed sooner or
later and they will do irreparable damage to the marriage. In order to get an honest relationship,
you must contribute honesty to the relationship. It will be difficult for a husband to give
emotional support if the wife does not openly express her emotions to him.
It is not honesty that drives a wedge into a marriage, it is dishonesty. Be willing to share with
each other the things in your past that happened to you, even if it is things you consider to be
failures or weakness. A husbands biggest disappointment is not what happened to his wife in the
past, but in her not trusting him with the truth. Recalling the events of a day allows both to
practice current honesty. To forget something is not the same thing as avoiding to tell about
something. Revealing your thoughts, plans, hopes, dreams and goals for the future is to
experience future honesty. Not telling the whole truth is the same as telling a lie. To provide
partial information that leads your spouse away from the complete truth is deception. To
manipulate the facts to create a false impression is dishonest.
It is very difficult to have a great sense of humor without being a happy person. Humor is not
laughing at someone elses expense. In Matthew 5:1-12, nine kinds of people are listed who are
happy. The word Blessed in this passage also means Happy. Learn to laugh at yourself and
allow laughter to diffuse anger. Laughter can change everything. Humor requires that two people
see the same thing as funny.
The author quotes the columnist Ann Landers who makes a clear distinction between infatuation
and romantic love: Infatuation is instant desire one set of glands calling to another. Love is
friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. The author then shares
seven things a woman can do for her man to generate romance in her marriage based on Song of
Solomon:
- Tell him you love him (Song of Solomon 1:7)
- Praise him (Song of Solomon 4:7)
- Prepare a special meal for him (Song of Solomon 2:5)
- Give him gifts (Song of Solomon 7:13)
- Surprise him (Song of Solomon 2:10)
- The power of your touch (Song of Solomon 1:2)
- Loyalty (Song of Solomon 6:3)
The author sketches some scenarios of what it might have been like to be married to a Godly
man like Noah, Abraham, Moses or David. They were all flawed individuals chosen by a
flawless God to do His will. In order to accomplish their purpose, these men had to have a very
supportive and godly woman by their side. The author then discusses what it means to be a
Godly man in todays time and how a woman can help her husband becoming a Godly man.