By Francesca Kefalas
Now Year's resolutions are as oll as—
well, they're actually older than —our
calendar
The calendar we know took hold in
1582. Humans, however, have been
‘making resolutions for atleast the last,
4,000 years when the ancient Babylo-
nians held a 12-day festival known as
Akitu to celebrate the new y
is now Marci
arin what
The Babylonians used
the festival to make promises to the
gods and would fall out of favor with
them ifthey did nor follow through,
History tells us resolutions tied co
a new year can be found in many
civilizations and across many cultures
«0 today. We love to make resolutions.
But we sure do have alot of trouble
keeping them — even after 4,000 years
of practice.
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successful, yet 45
us make them
almost every year.
think we can use the new year as
a reset button’ said Dr, Setu Vora
Medical Director of Critical Care and
of Performance
Villian W, Backus
“lesa nice clean stat, Even
Physician Direct
Improven
Hospiea
though we all joke resolutions are made
con New Years and they disappear before
Valentine's Day the
looking at the New ¥
ticude and new hope fora better life and
with a news
better health
‘According to StaristicBrain.com only
8 percent of resolutions are succes,
yet 45 percent of us make them almost
Hana Dunham, a licensed fami
therapist and life coach whose Norwich
practice is called Heart Journey Coun
seling, said with the frenzy the holidayscreate for many, a New Year's
resolution could be considered
just one more stressful ching
to figure out. Often people try
«o take on too many changes,
Dunham ssid.
Dr. James O'Dea, vice
president of operations for the
Behavioral Health Necwork of
Hareford Healcheare, which
owns Backus and Windham
hospitals, said there is no magic
bullet for seting’a goal and 10s away, O'Dea said,
achieving it and resolutions are goals fou can’t define life by the nega-
seated in a different way. tive? O'Dea said. “We ean only define
“Ifthere was a magic bullet that [knew out life by whar we're goingto doin ‘ ‘
of, Td write tha one selfhelp book thar stead of what we are nor going to do.”
would be a bestseller? O'Dea said, Allowing yourself ro slip up and sil :
Inthe absence ofa magic bullee there keep working toward the goal is also :
are some basic techniques that a person important, O'Dea said :
can do to help a resolution stick: the Nicolas Simon, a visiting assistant
able and realistic goals, O'Dea sid. Conneeticut State University, sid he f
‘A person who does not run should enjoys the refcction ofthe year that d
realiscially not intend on runninga has passed and the opportunity to G
marathon in March, he said. However, imagine the possibilities ofthe year inn rere
tharsame person could make resolution ahead that New Yea’ offers. Simon ) ,
to run amarathon and then figure outa keeps notebook of his goals for the r I r
training program or usean Apo build year. He breaks them down and makes aa
upto runninga marathon aupoint of reviewing chem every week
“les ok tosetanambitious goulasa__and making note of how he's doing in
long term goal, bue havingaa strategy and —_hiseffort ro meet his goals,
breakingie down inco its component “Leannot lie o myself il write ie
partsis imporeant” O'Dea sid down.’ Simon sid
Having supports also important, ae Simon said he gives himself permis. n
cording to O'Dea. Findinga person who sion co adjust his goals as the year i i
wants to racklethe resolution with you. progresses and rewards himself when
cor at least supports you in your goal is he hits milestones on his goals. Those é
Imporcane, because making ea rewards could be a special dinner; ell
in one life is nor easy. he sid. inga loved one or giving of his own
“Ic rakes energy to make cha simeasa volunteer. }
O'Dea ssid. “Simply because ‘a reward to yourself whenever :
ivsa good thing co do is usually youdo something positive” Simon 2 s
suficient ro cur goals into behavioral said. ate
changes. You've gor to really be com Positive intentions are what help
Simon be sucessful in creating goals } {
Inaddition vo support, iscrtical to and reaching them he sid
frame goals in an affirmative way, O'Dea “People say “Lwill stop this, Iwill !
said, Denying oneself usualy results stop chat and they stop fora week,
in filure, he said. O'Dea uses his own but then they go back again,” Simon :
love for Cheetos san example, Simply said. “take some time to reflect where ]
deciding nor to cat them is nor enough have been and what the last year was i
comake him stop ceavinghe unhealthy likeand chen I determine what my eat
snack food. Having something that is goals are. They are what I will do” : i
hrealehy and he enjoys, helps him keep the
norwichmag.com + 38Save a life.
or two
Adopting a pets nt jus fsaving forthe pet, it
Can be lifesaving forthe pet owner
According tothe National Center for Health
Research, about 62 percent ofall American
households havea pet and mos of those pet
‘mers thnk of the pet as member ofthe family.
“Some research stdieshave found that people
‘who have apt have healthier hears, stay home
sickle often, make ewer vis tothe doctor,
get more exercise, and are les depressed Pets
rmayalso havea significant impacton allergies,
asthma, social suppor, and soca interactions
with other people according toa report the
center,
cording tothe center, most researchis
Conducted in people who have ether aca or dog,
and studying the benefit of pet ownership can
becitfcl. However, there seems tobe enough
evidence that shows fram small ile to older
adults, ets can help alm aniety and be a
benefit to overall mental well-being
Heres alisting of some animal rescue
nganizations where pet adoptions possible:
Get healthy
‘When it comes to takingeare of,
your health, there ae afew things
thatare common sense and can make
alorof difference
Gettingan annual checkup from
a primary care physician isthe most
basic thinga person can do, said
Dr. Setu Vora, Medieal Director of
Critical Care and Physician Direc
tor of Performance Improvement at
William W. Backus Hospital. This
time of the yearis also good time to
"know your numbers” Vora said
Knowing basic health numbers,
such as body mass index, hip 0 waist
ratio, total cholesterol and bad cho-
lesterol, blood pressure, hemoglobin
Ale (abblood sugar tet), are impor-
tant baselines to have in connection
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toone'shealth, Vora sid.
“These are the key numbers to life?
Vora sid.
‘Vora said good health comes down
to three basic concepts: menu mind
and move. And those come with num-
bers: 5, 15 and 30,
‘Menu means what you eat he said,
Planning five meals each days break
fast, morning snack, lunch, afternoon
snack and dinner are important for
‘maintaininga balanced diet, Vora said.
A balanced dic includes adequate
protein, between 0.8 and I gram of
protcin per kilogram of bodyweight,
and five servings of different colored
fruievand vegetables a day, which has
been shown to reduce instances of.
‘Mind means giving yoursel 15 min-
utes ofime for yourself each day, Vora
ssid. Those 15 minutes canbe spent
he
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liscening to music, coloring, walking,
‘meditating or anything positive that 3
person enjoys and can do alone,
‘Move means get out and get your
heart pumping for at least 30 minuces
day: Vora said chat does not mean
everyone should be doing high
intensity interval workout. For some
people 30 minutes oF moving can be a
brisk walk, stretching or chair yoga, he
said, The human body needs move-
‘ment, Vora said.
“Ifwedonte use it, wedo lose it
Vora saidLae tS
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Make new friends
‘Meeting people inthis hectic world can be difficule, but having
social circle and relationships i important fora persons health.
“Social interactions are important” said Dr. Setu Vora, Medical
Diteevor of Critical Cate and Physician Director of Peformance
Improvement at William W. Backus Hospital. “Companionship
and hobbies that engage you, and networks of family and friends
and at work, these are imporeant for well-being”
‘Not everyone is interested in online dating, however, the
Jntemet can bea esouree. The website www.meetup.com has
groups in Eascern Conneetieue that range from singles groups
adventuce groups, business clubs and more. But ifeven looking
online fora social group is not ina person's comfore zone, there
ane other ways to meet people.
‘Nicolas Simon, a visiting assistant profesor of Sociology at
Eastern Connecticut State Universit, said volunteering also
a good way co meet new people. Simon said having a group of
people in your life who care about the same things is important.
People who volunteer for an organizasion for longer petiods of
‘ime tend to connect with the other volun
For older adules senior centers offen provide companionship,
but they are not the only place to find companionship.
Mary Pincaul,chaieman of the Adventures in Lifelong Learn-
ing program at Thece Rivers Community College, said the group
is for people 50 and over and ie has become a social opportunity
aswell asan educational one. Adventures in Lifelong Learning,
offers ewo seminary a day to people 50 and over when Thee Riv-
“There are a group of about 10 or so people who stay and have
lunch rogether berween the sessions,” Pineau said. “People
stay after or come early and talk to each other. Ira very social
place”
‘Adule education programs and EastConn’s aul education
programs offer entichment classes for all ages.
‘Vora said companionship ean be as simple has having eup of
coffce with someone.
“We sce the seniors who gee together and sit and talk over cof
fee, that’ an important social interaction, Vora said.
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Volunteer
Volunteering isn't just a way to help oxhers, it has pro:
found effeetson the volunteer a8 well
Nicolas Simon, a visiting asistane professor of Sociology
ac Eastem Connecticut State University, sid he was ceach
inga elasson social problems when he saw frst hand what a
difference volunteering could have
“Iewas a depressing elas? Simon admits. “So I encouraged
imy students to go fram analyzing social problems o doin
something about them”
‘The results were dramatic, Simon said. Not only did his
seudents fel good abour actually doing something about
the problems they sa, they were happier in general and also
became more engaged in the elas
“For some of them it changed their lve
Senior Dajoun Jones organizes ECSU’s Annual Day of
Giving and also volunteers atthe No Freeze Shelter and
Covenant Soup Kitchen. Jones sad for him giving back to
the community makes sense
TECSU, hroigh es Caner for Community Engagement,
Finks many of es students co Windham and surrounding.
‘communities for volunteer work in an effort co help the
‘communities and also create more ofa connection between
the university and the towns.
‘Windham Mayor Emie Eldeidge sid it works and the
help ehe ECSU seudenes and other volunteers give to Wind
hham cannot be overestimated.
‘We could never afford to deliver the servies we get from.
non-profits and their volunteers” Eldridge said.
Simon suid volunteering connects people to other people
they may not have ever met, it furthers a person’ under
standing of the community allows a person to develop new
skillsand build a network and a more diverse resume.
“My seudents will forgee what I teach to them,” Simon
said, “They wll not Forget the experiences they have volun
tering, le will stay in their heaes forever and they will bring
that co the next community they go to:
Simon saidNEW LONDON COUNTY
COLCHESTER
United Way of Southeastem
Connecticut and Colchester Soil
Serves monthly food distribution
for community members straggling
with hunger and fod insecurity
Food distributions aresetfor 9am,
to 1]0am.on the fourth Thursday
ofeach month at Colchester
Socal Services, 127 Norwich Ave.
Colheste. For more information,
Wisi socialserviescalchesterc gov
The Colheste Senior enter
i looking for volunteer divers
todelver Meas on Wheels to
homebound elderly through the
TVCCAhome delivered meals
rogram. You nusthavea valid
dhver license anda vehicle. you
ae interested in volunteering, cl
(860) 537-3911 for deta
GRISWOLD
Kitty Harbor isa oil shelter,
depending soley on donations
and volunteer to ep ourcats
happy and healthy. For information,
contact Cis Deveauat chs
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Harbor Volunteer inthe subject ne)
or call (860) 449-4753
LUSBON
Compassion For ats of New London
County in neds volunteers toe
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information cal (60 86-085 or
compassontatshlCacomastnt.
NORWICH
Catholic Charts Diocese of Norwich
seeks an able-bodied, licensed diver
toassist its food panty volunteer.
Duties include picking up food from
Gemma Moran Food Centerin New
London, transportngit to Catholic
Chatties Norwich office and
stocking the foc pantry weekly on
Thursdey mornings. For information
cal (60) 889-8346 268
enter For Hospice Cres ering
and taining volunteers to sere in
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‘eam more, contact Lauren Watson,
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The Norwich Heritage and Regional
Vitor Centers seeking volunteers
to elp staff the center. Some
‘esponsblites nude proving
information to vistors, managing
‘the smalgift shop, and assisting
visitors with directions. Interested
applicants should email infos?
notwichhistorcaocety.org for an
application
‘WINDHAM COUNTY
OAYVILLE
NECCG Animal Services needs
‘volunteers on weekday mornings
to dean, feed and carefor our cats
and kittens Pickup an application
at Northeast Conectcat Counc of
Goverments office 125 Putnam
Pike (Route 12).
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‘Nurturing Families Network seks
‘wottothreevlunters to provide
til care fortwo hours a week ints
ofces while patents attend group
‘Must have reliable transportation
and passa background check,
Ttaining povided. For information, through the Disabled American