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MOREABOUTNONVERBALCOMMUNICATIONS
AdamBlatner,M.D.
Part2:USINGEXPERIENTIALMETHODSOFLEARNING
(RevisedAugust1,2002)
AsmentionedinPart1theoverviewonnonverbalcommunicationsitishelpfulfor
peopletolearnaboutthisdimensionofhumanbehavior.ThispaperisPart2buildingon
Part1,andwilldiscusssomewaysthatcanbeachieved.
Oneelementissimplylearningtheinformation,settingupthecategoriesinthemind,
gettingorientedtotheproblem.Butmuchofthelearningneedstobethroughgetting
the"feel"ofit,by"doing"thesebehaviors,andvaryingthem.Roleplayingaderivative
ofpsychodramaisanaturalandespeciallyeffectivewaytolearnthisskill.Forexample,
youcanonlyteachastronautsaboutlearningtogetaboutinzerogravitybyactually
simulatingtheexperienceinspecialflightsofairplanes,etc.Theremightbesome
preliminarybriefings,lectures,readingsofothers'experiences,andthatmayreducethe
senseofdisorientationbeforeithappens,buttheactuallearninghappensonlyinthe
"doing."Roleplayingisthesimulationmethodforinterpersonalskilllearning.
Theroleplayingtechniquesofenactment,rolereversal,doubling,themirror,replay,
andothersallofferavarietyofexperiential"viewpoints"forbringingsuchsubtlebody
languagesintosharperawareness.ItisworthwhiletorefertoPart1whilereading
throughthispaper,whichcomplementsPart1byshowinghowgainingthissensitivity
andawarenessmaybepracticed.Let'srestateagainthoughthemajorcategoriesof
nonverbalcommunications:
personal
eyecontact position
space
physiologic
responses
Learningaboutthisdimensionisgoodforpeoplehelpers,therapists,thosewhoneedin
thelongruntoteachpeoplehowtolearnaboutthisdimension!Butinaddition,I
envisionthisbeingtaughtinhighschool,college,professionaltraining,management
training,etc.aspartofanycurriculumofsocialandemotionallearning!
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Forpsychologists,learningaboutnonverbalcommunicationsgoesfurtherinhelping
therapistsunderstandthemanyleveleddynamicsofinterpersonalfunctioning.For
clientsorpatientsintherapy,theybecomemoreempowered,psychologicallyminded
andselfaware!SoIthinksomecomponentofthiskindoflearningwouldbeapowerful
adjuncttoanyholistictherapeuticapproach.(Perhapsaweekendworkshopforclients
inindividualorfamilytherapy?)
Somepsychotherapistshaveusedvideotapeplaybacktopromotesomeinsightabout
thedynamicsexpressedthroughnonverbalcommunications,butthatapproach
requirestechnicalequipmentandthetimetosetitup,someonetorunit,andoftena
gooddealoftimespentinreviewingthenoneditedtapes.Happily,roleplaying
techniquescanoftenachievemuchthesameresultwithoutthesedisadvantagesor
hindrances.
Also,theprocessofexploringproblemsinthisexperientialfashionoftenevokesa
greaterdegreeofgroupcohesionaspeopleworktogethertostageandcommentonthe
interactions.Thereareelementsofnovelty,playfulnessandartisticchallengein
enactingscenes,whichfurtherbuildsagreaterdegreeofinvolvement.
RolePlayingTechniques
Oftenpeoplecannoteasilyunderstandtheimpactofthenonverbalcommunications
involvedinasituationunlessitisreplayedandpointedout.Forthis,theroleplaying
techniquecalled"themirror"isofteneffective.(AsInotedbefore,thesetechniquesare
actuallypsychodramatechniques,whichI'vewrittenaboutinmybooksonthesubject.)
(Blatner,1996).Anindividual'sbehaviorissimplyportrayedbyanothergroupmember.
Thedirectorasksothersinthegroupiftheportrayalwasaccurate,andifnot,the
behaviorisreplayedagainuntilsomeconsensusisgainedregardingitsclosenesstothe
originalbehavior.Thepersonwhodisplayedthebehaviortobeginwith,theonegetting
thefeedback,isthusabletoseehows/hehadbeenbehaving.
Anothervariationofthisisthatofrolereversal,inwhichtheprotagonist,theperson
whoseproblemisthefocusofthegroupatthemoment,changespartswithanother
groupmember(the"auxiliary")whoplaystheroleoftheothercharacterinthe
protagonist'sscene.Whentheauxiliary,intheroleoftheprotagonist,repeatsthe
behavior,theprotagonistintheroleoftheotherpersoninthesceneexperiencesthe
impactofthatbehavior.Whetherit'smanipulativecoyness,subtleintimidation,
helplessness,passiveaggressiveness,orothertypesofinterpersonalrelatedness,the
protagonistishelpedtoownthemeaning(atleasttoothers)ofhisorherownactions.
Themostpowerfultechnique,though,isthatofexaggeration.Whateverslight
elementisbeingexpressed,tobringattentiontoit,havetheprotagonistexaggeratethe
movementorvoiceelement.Thisexaggerationcanberepeatedatanevengreater
magnification,andthenexaggeratedyetanotherdegreegreater.Inthesemore
expressivemovementsoramplifiedstates,theunderlyingaffectandpossiblythehidden
assumptionorattitudetendstocomemoresharplyintoawareness.
Arelatedtechniqueisthatofvariationdoingiteitherintheoppositewayorinanother
way.Theresultingcontrastsmayagainbringabehavior'shiddenmeaningintosharper
awareness.
LearningbyDoing
Aswereviewthemaincategoriesofnonverbalcommunications,someteaching
exerciseswillbesuggested,thebettertohighlighttheexperiencesbeinglearned.More,
thepointistosuggesttothereaderthatyouusetheseideasmainlyasstimulantsto
yourowncreativityinexploringthevariousbehaviors.(IfIhadtoworkoutanexercise
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foreveryelement,itcouldfillalargeandratherboringbookboringbecauseit'sbestto
inventtheexerciseasyouexperienceitindoingyourownroleplayingprocesses.)
Asthemajorcategoriesofnonverbalbehaviorarebrieflydescribed,someexperiential
exerciseswillbenotedthatmighthelpinlearningabouttheirvariations.Thekeytothe
skillofbeingobservantliesinknowingwhattolookfor.Itmaybehelpfulatfirstto
exaggerateagivenbehavior,andthentograduallyexpressitinincreasinglymore
subtlefashions.
CategoriesofNonverbalCommunications(PracticalExercises)
YoumightwanttocomparethissectionwithPart1,whichdescribessomeofthemain
elements.Thissectionwillsuggestsomeexercisesyoucando:
PersonalSpace:Referringtothecomfortableoruncomfortabledistancebetween
people,experimentwithothergroupmembers,usingyourintuitiontosay"stop"when
othersmovetowardsorawayfromyou.However,ifthoseothersplaythepartsof
parents,lovers,orchildren,explorewhichkindsofclosenessfeelappropriate.Then
imaginetheotherpersontobefromaquiteforeignculture,andsenseintoyour
acceptablepersonalspace.Compareyourownrepertoireofallowabledistanceswith
othersinthegroup.
EyeContact:Experimentwithdifferenttimesforglancing,gazing,andstaring.One
cankeepcontactfor2secondsor20seconds.Whendoesitfeel"right"andwhendoesit
becomeintrusive?Experimentalsowiththefrequencyofmakingeyecontact.Onecan
lookaway,andthenlookatthepersonevery5seconds,holdingthatgazeasmentioned
aboveforvaryinglengthsoftimeorperhapslookatthepersononlyeveryminuteor
so.Atwhatpointdoesitbecomeflirtatiousorspooky?
Position:Here'sanexerciseIlearnedfromthepsychodramateacherLeonFineinthe
mid1960s:Setupaninteraction,say,betweenaparentandachild.Playthescenefirst
ata90degreeangle,then,carryingonwiththeparentstandingandthechildsitting.
Continuethesceneasthechildturnshisorherbacktotheparent.Thenfurtherpursue
theinteractionwiththeparentsittingandthechildstanding,facingeachother.Finish
thedialoguewithbothpeoplestandingfacetoface.Othervariablesmaybecombined.
Howdoesitfeelfortheparentorthechildwhentheparentstandsbehindorbehind
andslightlytothesidewiththehandsrestinggentlyontheshoulders?Notehow
certainpositionstendtogeneratecorrespondingattitudes.
Posture:Trywalkingaroundwiththepelvistilteddownandforward,asifthrusting
thegenitalareaforwardwithatighteningofthebuttocks.Thenshiftpositiontoit
opposite,drawingbackthegenitalarea,tiltingthebuttocksrearward.Notehowthe
formerpostureencouragesaswagger,whilethelattergeneratesatendencytotake
mincingsteps.
Talkanddiscoverwhatfacialexpressionsandauxiliaryposturesandmovementsgo
withajawthrustforward.Whataboutthejawsubtlyretracted?Notethatthis
aggressivevssubmissivestanceisexperiencedinternallyaswellasinterpersonally,as
aremostothernonverbalbehaviors.
Asmentionedearlier,experimentwithdifferentanglesoftheheadontheneck,cocked
slightlyorsignificantlytooneside,turnedsothatone'sglanceisfromthecornerofone's
eye,thrustforwardorpulledback.
Movearoundwiththeshoulderspulledback,andthendrawnforward,notingthe
appearanceofothersinthedifferentposition(oroneselfinamirrororonvideotape),
andalsothefeelingsassociatedwiththesetwopositions.It'shardtobedepressedwith
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theshoulderspulledback.Notealsothatmanyoftheseshiftscanbealmost
imperceptible,yetstillhaveanimpactonothersandinone'sownbeing.
Paralanguage:Howyousaysomethingcanmakeallthedifferenceintheworld!
Inflection(rising,falling,flat...)
Pacing(rapid,slow,measured,changing...)
Intensity(loud,soft,breathy,...)
Tone(nasal,operatic,growling,wheedling,whining...)
Pitch(high,medium,low,changes...)
Pauses(meaningful,disorganized,shy,hesitant...)
TheTechniqueof"Gibberish"
Otherexercisestobedescribedmaybeenactedmoreeffectivelywithoutactually
havingtoimproviseadialogue.Thisinvolvesthegenerationofapseudolanguage,a
gibberish,madeof"dadamyamyablahblahblah"ratherthanrealwords.Playwith
havingconversationsinthis"glossolalia"formit'salsoagoodexerciseforspontaneity
training.Thevocalinflectionsarethekey,especiallyastheyareassociatedwithfacial
expressionandgesture.Thevalueofthis"generic"languageisthatyoudon'thaveto
createactualmeaningfulconversation,achallengewhichmaydistractyoufromthe
pointoftheexercise.
So,justmakeupagroupofsounds,gibberish,asifyouwerespeakingsomeexotic
foreignlanguage,andletyouremphasisbethroughyoujugglingthevariablesmentioned
above.Workingwithapartner,tryexpressingyourselfseductively,coyly,surprised,
irritated,etc.,andrespondtoyourpartner'sbehavior.Thendiscusswhetheryou
interpretedeachothers'messagesaccurately.You'llbegintonoticethepowerofthese
elementsofspeech.Usingparalanguagefreesyoutonoticethesubtletiesoffeelings
associatedwithnonverbalcommunications.You'lldiscoverthatanotinsignificant
componentofwhathasbeencalled"intuition"inourcultureisthesubconscious
awarenessofthemeaningculturegivestovariousnonverbalcommunications.Because
thisisnotgenerallymadeexplicitinthecourseoftraditionaleducation,itremains
beyondthegraspofordinary"leftbrain"consciousness.Workinginpairs,playwith
differenttypesofdistance,eyecontact,andposition.Havegroupmembersnoticeother
variablesnotmentionedinthispaper.
FacialExpression:Usingcombinationsofmusclesaroundtheforehead,eyes,mouth,
thetiltofthehead,eyegaze,andjaw,hundredsofsubtleexpressionsmaybeformed.
Usetheactor'stechniqueofstandinginfrontofamirrorwhileyouexplorethedifferent
kindsofexpressionsmentionedinPart1andenactthesesothatyoucanclearly
demonstratethedifferencestoyourself.Droopingorliftingyoureyelids,tighteningthe
musclesaroundyoureyesorlips,andnumerousotherphysicalexpressionscan
significantlyalteryourexpression.(Noticealso,asmentionedinPart1,thatthese
expressionsandotherbehaviorsactuallychangethewayyoufeelinsideyoucanalmost
sensethe"attitude"andsometimeseventhevoiceandvoicetoneandcharacteristic
wordsthatgowithanexpression,gesture,posture,etc.)
Also,theseexercisesandlearningprocessescanbeevenmoreeffectivewhenexplored
withinagroupsettingassumingacontextoftrust,playfulness,andmutualrespecthas
beenestablished.
Gesture:Similarly,explorethefeelingsinvolvedindoingorperceivingsomeofthe
following:clenchingfistshakingafingerpointing...etc.
(UsethelistunderthissectioninPart1.)
Recognizingthatsomeofthesearemorecultureboundthanothers,donot
presumetoknowwhatexpressionsorgesturesmean,butnoticethebehavior,attempt
tomakeitexplicitbytranslatingthegestureintospokenlanguage,andthencheckout
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whatthegesturemeanstothedifferentpeoplepresentThisisespeciallyimportantif
someonereactsinanunexpectedfashion.
Touch:Asanexercise,haveonepersoninyourgrouptakeanotherbythewristto
drawhimforwardcomparethattoagentleorfirmgriponthebackoftheupperarm,
orontheshoulder,orinthemiddleoftheback.Isthegestureapushoratug?Isthe
touchclosertoapat,arub,oragrabbing?Experimentindyadswithdifferentformsof
personalcontact,makingclearboundarieswhensomebehaviorfeelslikeit'sbecoming
uncomfortable.
Locomotion:TryoutthevariousmodesoflocomotionmentionedinPart1andnotice
whatideastheygenerate,whatfeelings,attitudes,impressions:
slithercrawltotterswagger,etc.
Pacing:Toappreciatethisvariable,chooseanactionsuchasextendingyourhand
forward,andperformthemovementseveraltimes.Eachtimechangethequalitytoone
ofthese(asmentionedinPart1)...jerkypressurednervousgradual,etc.
Also,tryoutvaryingyour"latencyofresponse."Tryansweringaquestionwithabit
moredelaythanyouwouldordinarilyextendthatsubtlepauseevenlonger,and
observewhatitdoestotheconversation.
Adornment:Tryhavingavarietyofhatsandwatchingthesenseofrolethatcomes
withthehat,letthehatsuggesttheassociatedbehavior.AlthoughI'mgenerallyinfavor
ofarelinquishmentofthecigaretteasavehiclefornonverbalcommunication,Imust
confessthatthedifferentwayspeoplemightcarryorbrandishtheseexpressionsof
"coolness,"style,representedstrongsemioticstatements.Tryoutdifferentways,like
thatcaricatureoftheNaziinterrogatingofficerholdingthecigarettepalmupbetween
thethumbandforefinger.Experimentwithyourglasses,oracane,etc.
Context:Havethegroupmovethechairsintodifferentpositions:Classroomstyle,with
thegroupleaderatthefrontandeveryonelinedupinrows.Inacircle,ahalfcircle.
Chairsatrandom,somemoreforward,somemorepulledbackPlaywiththelighting.
Experimentandseehowthingsfeel!
PhysiologicalResponses:AsnotedinPart1,thesecan'teasilybepracticed.But
somecanbemimicked.Sodowhatyoucan.
OtherWaysofLearningaboutNonverbalCommunications
Overthelastseveraldecadesanumberofmethodsoftherapyhavebeendeveloped
whichofferexperienceswhichhelpstudentsbecomemoresensitivetotherichnessof
thenonverbaldimensionofinterpersonalrelationships(Fine,1959).AlbertPesso's
"psychomotortherapy,"AlexanderLowen's"bioenergeticanalysis,"ArthurJanov's
"primaltherapy,"thefieldofdanceandmovementtherapy,andother"body"therapies
allincreasebodyawareness(Marrone,1990,Blatner,2000,p.133).Someapproaches,
suchasMosheFeldenkreis'approachorthatofF.M.Alexanderhaveapplications
primarilybeyondthecontextofpsychotherapyskillsinmanagingone'sownbodymore
consciouslymaybeconsideredtobepartofwhattheeducatedpersonwillwanttoknow
inthecomingyears.
RecentstudiesofthehypnotictechniquesofMiltonEricksonandthemethodsofother
masterpsychotherapistsledtothedevelopmentofapproacheswhichnotesubtletiesof
eyemovement,breathing,andothernonverbalcues(Bandler&Grinder,1975).Itwas
alsonotedthatdifferentpeopleseemmoresensitivetocertainmodesofperception,so
thatsomereactmoretovisualcues,otherstoauditorycues,andstillotherstotheirown
internalkinestheticorfeelingcues.Thus,theimpactofaperson'svoicetoneorfacial
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expressionalsovariesaccordingtothetemperamentoftherecipientofthe
communication.
Summary
Peoplereacttotheunspoken,asmuch(ifnotmore)tohowsomethingissaidastowhat
aretheexplicitmeaningofthewords.Misunderstandingscanoftenbeclarifiedifthe
peopleinvolvedhavetheabilitytonoticeandcommentonthenonverbal
communicationsinaninteraction.Psychodramaticmethods,especiallythoseof
enactment,replay,mirroring,doubling,rolereversal,coachingandroletraining,are
effectivevehiclesfordevelopingthiskindofawareness.
Therapistsneedtolearntherangeofnonverbalbehaviorsinordertodiagnosetheoften
subtledynamicsofthesituationandthepeopleinvolved.Thesenonverbalactionsoffer
cluestotheunderlyingdefenses,mixedfeelings,anddisownedintentions.Cotherapists
andtheclientsthemselvesalsobenefitfromthisawareness,becausetheabilityto
commentonthenonverbalcommunicationsinaninteractionallowsparticipantsto
modifytheprocessofproblemsolvingaswellasaddressingthe"content"oftheissues
themselves.
Thefieldofnonverbalcommunicationshasgrownrapidlyoverthelastfewdecades,and
ithasapplicationsinbusiness,media,internationalrelations,education,andindeedany
fieldwhichsignificantlyinvolvesinterpersonalandgroupdynamics.Anoverviewofthis
fieldwasnotedinPart1onthiswebsite.Certainlythereisaneedformorepsychological
mindednessinalltheserealms,andthetechniquesofexperientialeducationoffer
invaluabletoolsforthebuildingofsocialskills.
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