How to speak better

Losing inhibition to speak, prepare lessons or lectures, speaking off the cuff,
avoiding the "white", direct or participate in meetings, are problems of verbal
communication that can be eliminated with this technique, discipline and trainin
g. To show how this is possible and make life easier for many people, Tilibra as
ked Prof. Reinaldo Polito, director and teacher of speech and the author of How
to Talk Properly and No Inhibitions, prepare some tips. 1. Be yourself This is t
he first major hint of how to speak better: the naturalness above all else. No t
echnique may be more important than its naturalness. Learn, improve, progress, b
ut when speaking, always be natural. 2. Say the words Say quite well all the wor
ds. Especially do not omit the pronunciation of "s" and "r" and end "is" interme
diaries. For example, ask first, in January, third, you need to, bring, take, an
d not, Janer, tercero, needs, bring, We. Pronouncing every sound correctly, the
message will be better understood by listeners and there will be greater appreci
ation of the image of the speaker. Do exercises to improve diction reading any t
ext with your finger between the teeth and trying to speak as clearly as possibl
e. 3. Talk with good intensity If you speak too low, people who are distant not
understand his words and stop watch. It also should not talk too loudly because,
in addition to tire quickly, can irritate the listeners. Speak at an appropriat
e time for each environment. Never leave, however, speak with enthusiasm and vib
rancy. If you do not show interest in what passes, you can not also interested h
is audience. 4. Talk with good speed Do not talk too fast. If his diction is poo
r will be even more serious, since hardly anyone will be able to understand it.
Also do not talk very slowly, with prolonged pauses, not bore the listeners. Use
a recording device to get to know the speed of your speech and decide the best
style. 5. Contact pace Switch height and speed of speech to build a nice rhythm
of communication. Who is expressed with constant speed and height ultimately ind
ifferent listeners, not the lack of content but by the way "colorless" as it pre
sents itself. 6. Have an adequate vocabulary A good vocabulary must be free of e
xcess poor and vulgar terms such as swear words and slang. Moreover, it is not r
ecommended a full vocabulary of difficult words and often incomprehensible. Also
avoid the vocabulary of his profession in front of people unfamiliar with this
kind of talk. Avoiding poor and vulgar vocabulary, having no concern to express
themselves with words, and allowing the professional vocabulary in the same area
, you will be developing a vocabulary of simple, objective, and sufficient to id
entify all your ideas and thoughts. 7. Take care of grammar A grammar error, dep
ending on its severity, may disrupt the production and even destroy your image.
Every grammar must be correct, but mainly, do a review of agreement and verb con
jugation. Many falter in the construction of sentences because they have doubts
about the agreement to do or to conjugate the verb. Also, increase their reading
of books by good authors and observe carefully the construction of their senten
ces. Reading is one of the best sources of learning.
8. Please correct posture Stay well positioned. When speaking, try not to put hi
s hands in his pockets, back, cross your arms or lean over the table, chair or b
ench. Let your arms naturally at your sides or above the waist line and gesture
in moderation. The excess of gesticulation is worse than the foul. Distribute yo
ur weight on both legs, avoiding the support now on one leg, sometimes on the ot
her. This attitude makes ungainly posture. Also do not be moving wildly from one
side to another and when stopped, do not open your legs too. Only move when you
want to get closer to the listeners or emphasize certain information. Do not re
lax posture of the trunk with his shoulders slumped. You can spend an image negl
igent or excessive humility. Be careful also not to act otherwise, not raising h
is head too, not maintaining the rigid position of the chest. Image could pass a
haughty and bossy. Let's countenance always relaxed and if possible, smiling. D
o not talk about joy in the face closed, not in sorrow with the happy face. Alwa
ys remember that there must be consistency between what we say and what we showe
d on his face. When speaking,€look at all the people to make sure they are liste
ning and paying attention to his words. Especially when reading, this care must
be redoubled, because there is always a tendency to look all the time for the te
xt, forgetting the presence of listeners. 9. Has a beginning, middle and end all
talk, either in a simple conversation or a presentation to a large audience, mu
st have a beginning, middle and end. The beginning In the beginning, try to conq
uer the listeners disarming their resistance and capturing their interest and at
tention. To do this, you can use some of the following tips:
• Tell a little story that has close relation with the content of your message.
Stories usually arouse interest.
• Praise sincerely listeners. • Use a phrase that triggers impact. • Say you wil
l not consume much time. • Get a quote from respected author by the listeners. •
Use a really good mood. However, avoid jokes. • Raise a reflection. • Demonstra
te subtly that knows the subject and have experience. • Enjoy a condition making
a comment about this or someone who has
just spoken, or on an event known to the listeners. At first, you should not, ei
ther by not being properly prepared to speak.
• Apologize for being with physical problems (flu, colds, headaches, etc.). • Te
ll jokes. • Ask questions when you do not want to answer. • To take a stand on c
ontroversial issues.
• Start with "buzzwords" or phrases often used. For example, the union is streng
th;
One swallow does not make a summer, etc..
• Make very controversial quotes from authors. Know also that the beginning shou
ld be brief,
neutral and save interdependence with the rest of the speech. Mean
In the first part of the environment, prepare the topic being addressed. Share a
single sentence on this subject that will be addressed. For example: "I will ta
lk about the pleasure of modern man." Then do a historical theme or raise a prob
lem for which solution will. • Finally, talk about the steps that the matter wil
l develop. For example, if the theme was leisure, steps could be in the field of
leisure, recreation and leisure at the beach club. The second part develops the
main subject because of what was prepared. If you did a historical, now talk of
this, a problem arose, now give the solution; split the topic, now do the steps
promised. Use comparisons, examples, statistics, testimony, everything you can
to confirm the contents of your exposition. If you feel that someone could make
any objection to their arguments, this is the time to refute it. The end At the
end, do a brief recap. In just one or two sentences, do the summary submitted. T
hen, in closing, use the same resources suggested to start: praise the auditoriu
m, making a quote, make a condition, a really good mood, raise a debate, etc.. A
dditionally, you may request that act on their proposals. Do not end by saying "
this was what I had to talk or otherwise empty with no objectivity.
Train 10.Pratique quite enough and, whenever you can, take the opportunity to sp
eak. Remember also that good communicator must know how to listen.
Date: 22/02/2000 Author: Tilibra / prof. Reinaldo Polito