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TOUGH TOPICS
Unmet objectives
Poor results
Damaged working relationships
Bad performance reviews
Stalled careers
Increased stress
Sleepless nights
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I think its important to let other people know exactly how I feel.
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TOUGH TOPIC
Any subject
which is likely to produce
a negative emotional reaction.
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Broken relationships
Retaliation
Career damage
PLANNING
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PLANNING
PLANNING
FEELINGS
FACTS
Copyright Marie G. McIntyre, All rights reserved.
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PLANNING
Preparation Questions
The Problem
The Person
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Preparation Questions
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PLANNING
PLANNING
Manager
Employee
Coworker Coworker
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PLANNING
STRATEGIES
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STRATEGIES
THIS
NOT THIS
Adult Adult
Parent
OR THIS
Child
Child Child
STRATEGIES
If youre having
an argument,
then youve
already lost.
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STRATEGIES
Avoid blaming
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STRATEGIES
I think . . .
I noticed . . .
I felt . . .
STRATEGIES
Promoting Collaboration
Explain effects of the problem
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STRATEGIES
Collaboration Strategies
EXPLAIN EFFECTS: When I dont receive information by the 15th, my monthly report
is late, and that makes my bosss report to the CEO late. And then my boss becomes
very unhappy with me.
DESCRIBE FEELINGS: I really felt excluded when you didnt invite me to the
planning meeting.
REVERSALS: If people frequently went to the CEO to get your decisions overturned,
I expect that would make you uncomfortable.
ANALOGIES: Trying to develop a plan without clear goals is like shooting at a target
behind a sheet.
STRATEGIES
Collaboration Strategies
AREAS OF AGREEMENT: We seem to agree that customers are on hold for too
long and that it may be costing us business. We also agree that the problem needs to
be solved quickly.
SEEING THEIR SIDE: I can certainly understand that having to calm down impatient
customers would be very difficult.
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STRATEGIES
STRATEGIES
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ROAD MAPS
ROAD MAPS
Coworkers
Bosses
Employees
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ROAD MAPS
Coworker Coworker
Manager
Employee
ROAD MAPS
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Roadmap: Coworker Feedback
Defensive
Reduce
emotion
Resolved
Resolved
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Roadmap: Complaint to the Boss
Reduce
Defensive emotion
Engage in
Test for Refusal
problem-
agreement
solving
Resolved
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Roadmap: Employee Performance
Reduce
Defensive emotion
Describe Ask for
performance Questioning
input Explore
problem & their point
explain need of view
for change Resolved
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