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Community; Connecting; Friendship; Relationships; Service; Sharing
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We must love our small-group members and encourage them to love one
another in a variety of different ways. As they grow to love one another and
show that love through tangible actions, we can celebrate and encourage more
tangible expressions of love. This love will be inconvenient and costly. It will
involve more than two hours on Thursday evening. But it will be
transformational.
The logical next step with people we love is to encourage and build them
up. First Thessalonians 5:11 commands, "Therefore encourage one another
and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." The word translated as
"build up" is a construction term for building houses or temples. Just as a
contractor builds from the bottom up, we must begin right where each person is
and help him or her grow into the edifice God intends each of us to be. We do
this by enthusiastically encouraging and calling out God's best in each person
day after day, week after week. Small groups are especially adept at this
because we grow to know one another in authentic ways, and we are able to
call out God's best in one another.
James 5:16 continues, "pray for each other so that you may be healed.". We
talk a lot about prayer in our groups, but how often do we seriously pray for the
needs of others, either during the meeting or after? We must be willing to
appeal to our loving Father on behalf of one another on a regular basis,
presenting specific requests, and persistently praying until we see an answer.
When we do, our groups will see incredible growth and healing. Don't rush
through your group prayer time. Encourage real sharing and earnest prayer by
modeling it yourself and thanking people who open up. Continue that prayerful
mindset throughout the week, making a point to pray for each of your group
members.
Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." What a model of unity in the
body of Christ! The reality is that if your group stays together for long, someone
will hurt or offend someone else. How you handle the conflict will set the tone
for openness and accountability for the rest of your time together. When you
observe conflict in the group, encourage rapid forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't
excuse the harm, and you may still need to address the actions that caused the
hurt. But rapid forgiveness is important to transfer the debt to God and take the
first steps toward a restored relationship.
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Galatians 6:2 says, "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill
the law of Christ." I see this one another acted out in small groups all the time.
We love to help one another, and it's a beautiful picture of community when we
do. Our small groups should jump to help when serious needs arise like illness,
death, job loss, emotional loss, and financial setbacks.
But then Galatians 6:5 says, "each one should carry their own load." Why do
these verses seem to contradict one another? The word translated "burdens" in
the first verse is baros, which means a heavy, crushing burden or weight
pressing one down. It's a weight that makes an excessive demand on one's
resources, whether material or spiritual. The word for "load" in verse five
is phortion, which is simply something to be borne without reference to weight. It
was often used in reference to cargo carried by a ship, a pack carried by a
soldier, or a child in the wombbasically, a person's everyday assignment from
God. The key is knowing the difference. We don't want to enable by hovering,
doing more than is needed. But we also don't want to leave someone to carry a
burden alone. We help most when we encourage group members in their
everyday burdens and jump in to help when there is a crushing burden.
Our small groups are a great place to grapple with this concept. We must learn
to submit to one another in humility, honoring the good ideas, contributions, and
needs of every member. As leaders, we can submit to the needs and wishes of
our members, modeling this behavior for them. This might include what to study,
how fast to study, when to meet, and when to add new members.
What does service look like? Consider Jesus, who took the form of a servant
and washed the filthy feet of his disciples (John 13:1-17). We must graciously
serve one another in equally humble ways. I'm always impressed by how small-
group members serve one another. I've seen people go out of their way to serve
another with childcare, moving, meals, home care, and financial needs. The
ways we can serve one another are endless.
Think about your group. How well are group members modeling the one
anothers? They're a great gauge for the health of your group. Developing the
one anothers builds both unity and depth. And living out the one anothers
serves as a great witness for the countercultural lives that God calls us to.