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April 4, 2016
Prof. McCoy & Moore
Tell Your Grandma to Go Home
From reading The Loudest Duck by Laura Liswood, chapter three-titled Tell
Your Grandma to Go Home, really stuck out to me in terms of gender and diversity in
the workplace. There are a few themes within the chapter from Liswoods point of view
that are important to note. In the beginning of the chapter, Liswood talks about what
exactly a Grandma is and how it is interpreted for different cultures and how it is used
in the workplace. The other theme, and the most interesting, is about where our perceived
notions came from and how our unconscious helped to shape how we are today. All of
these themes are going to be specifically related to gender in order to understand the
concepts and how people can acknowledge these concepts and use them to better the
workplace.
Almost everyone has had a grandparent who has lessons to share. This is where
provided to us throughout our lives that provide us with inherited unconscious beliefs
about the world, other people and ourselves. She says we always bring Grandma with us,
even in the workplace. The Grandma theory can be perceived in different cultures as
well. For example, in the United States, Grandma customarily taught men that the
squeaky wheel gets the grease, implying that the person who complains the loudest often
receives the most attention (page 50). This saying could also be interpreted as if you
speak up in class, at work, or at a party you will get noticed and even rewarded (page
50). However, in different cultures the saying is similar but has a very different meaning.
For example, In Japan the saying is the nail that sticks out gets hit on the head and in
Chinese culture Grandma says, the loudest duck gets shot (page50). These sayings are
the complete opposite to the squeaky wheel. In Asian cultures, the people who speak up
are discouraged for doing so and are definitely not rewarded for it. Another saying is,
often told specifically to girls- that if you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at
all (page 50). As a manager, it is important to understand the different cultures and their
Grandmas so the work environment is benefiting from the diversity set in place not being
harmed by it. If people of the Asian nationalities and women are not inclined to speak up
but to diligently listen then it is important for a manager to get them involved and not
disregard their silence for lacking ideas or being disinterested. If the wheels are the only
ones speaking then there is no diversity in the workplace. The wheels are typically men
based on what they are taught as young men. Women typically are taught not to speak
unless spoken to. This can be harmful in the workplace because it is important in todays
culture to speak up and make sure your voice is heard. If not, the wheels will be the ones
considered for promotions or raises and the ducks, the nails, and the nice people will be
left in the dark. Even if we were not taught these different sayings growing up, there are
other driving forces that shape the way people think and act today.
There are five different forces from which our unconscious mind originates from:
our parents, experiences, peers, religion and culture, and myths, fairy tales, fables, and
the media. Three of them really stuck out to me in terms of gender, parents, experiences,
and myths, fairy tales, fables, and the media. Our parents were primarily the first people
to care for us and tell us about the world. We grew up with their ideas and ways of
thinking for a majority of our lives. They also gave us guidelines based upon our gender,
for example, girls should do one thing, or act a certain way; boys should act another
way, and are expected to behave differently (page 56). Children also observe their
parents and will pick up on things like how they react to hearing that their child is
gay or lesbian or even listening to them explain nationalities, skin color, and their
own ideas about the differences (page 56). We may grow up to realize their way of
we take what we see and learn from the world around us. For example, if there is a wall
full of pictures of past presidents of the company in a hallway and they are all old, white
men, it is prominent that white older men are the valuable people within the company.
The example that I found particularly interesting was in the myth section. When I was
younger I used to watch Disney movies all the time. The basic plot of almost all the
princess movies was that the girls are the damsels in distress and the prince is the on who
comes and saves them. For example in Cinderella, the Prince who falls in love with
her, finds her lost shoe, and swoops in to rescue Cinderella from her terrible life (page
62). Growing up with this image of men and women can influence people much more
than they may think. Liswood states we start with Cinderella and Superman, and end up
carrying our knowledge of the way the world works- of who rescues and who needs to be
rescued- right into the workplace (page 63). This was interesting to me because, being a
female, I may have a different perspective on males based on some of the things I have
seen in the media and movies. It is important to realize this so those thoughts towards
males will not affect my performance in the workplace or how others will perceive me in
the workplace. We each have our own narrative, our own story about who we are and
who others are. We react to others and others react to us through that narrative, whether
our story is true or not (page 54). Being aware of the differences in cultures and
Grandmas will be crucial for gender and diversity equality in the workplace.