Documente Academic
Documente Profesional
Documente Cultură
c o m F e b r ua ry/ m a r c h 2 0 1 2
The pressure peaks on Sundays. the ciulla family of we live in a pressure-cooker world, and our kids suffer
new york city brace themselves for the week ahead. i call it some degree of stress because of it. but do we know how
Sunday afternoon anxietyand we all feel it, says Phebe much? at least 20 percent of children say they worry a lot
neely ciulla, whos a senior manager at Deloitte, mom of about things in their lives, according to the recent Stress in
7-year-old maria and 2-year-old carlo and stepmom of america Survey by the american Psychological association
14-year-old michael and 9-year-old katie. the strain is (aPa). but only 8 percent of parents report that their kids
particularly hard on maria. her parents are divorced. experience a great deal of stress.
She lives in tight quarters with her mom, her stepdad, two im trying to do well in school, and im working two jobs
step-siblings who come and go and a half-brother. Shes in to save money for college and to pay for my car, says 16-year-
second grade at a school that has high expectations on her old gunnar bankoski of Dunkirk, ny. i have so much to do
performance, and, frankly, so do i, admits Phebe. i travel a and so many people needing me that i often feel like im
lot for work, and so does my husband, so consistency and spreading myself too thin.
a predictable routine are hard to maintain. when marias in addition to the tensions of their own lives, children
really stressed, she has bad dreams and acts up. if im catching absorb their parents stress more than moms and dads
a plane the next day, shell sometimes say, i wish you were realize. most parents say their own stress levels arent healthy,
staying here, and shell cling to me, reluctant to let go when with a third describing their stress as extreme (8 to 10 on
we hug goodbye. its gut-wrenching. a 10-point scale), the aPa study shows. working moms
By L au r a F Ly n n M c Ca rT h y P h oTo i L Lu sT r aT i o n s By a n n C u T T i n g
w o r k i n g m o t h e r . c o m F e b r ua ry/ m a r c h 2 0 1 2 17
Signs of Trouble
sleep problems, headaches although kid stress is
and upset stomachs. widespread, it isnt always
theres also new evi- easy to recognize, espe-
dence linking childhood cially as children get older.
obesity to stress. nearly a a little kid whos overtired
third of americas children and stressed may whine or
are now overweight or throw a temper tantrum.
obese, up from about 5 but older kids may with-
percent in the early 1980s. draw, talk less and become
the aPa survey reveals irritable, changes that can
that overweight kids are easily be identified as nor-
seem especially vulnerable. Kid Stress significantly more likely mal adolescence. Parents
in a recent online survey of Escalation to worry about things need to be vigilant. Dont
nearly 600 working par- Stress builds as children than normal-weight kids. wait for your son or daugh-
ents, 88 percent said they get older. as kids move and theyre prone to ter to say, mom, im really
suffered at least one from elementary school self-soothing by eating or stressed, because thats
stress-related health through middle school, and napping, while their nor- probably never going to
problem. its not hard to then high school, things mal-weight peers are more happen, says Dr. gins-
understand why parents get harder in every way likely to work out stress burg. nearly every
are stressed out. in the academically, socially and with healthier options like behavior that parents
wake of the great reces- athletically, says Jeanine exercise. its little wonder feardrug use, eating dis-
sion, three quarters of Swenson, mD, a pediatri- that nearly half of over- orders, bullying, even sex
parents surveyed by the cian, marriage and family weight kids say they is driven by stress, because
aPa say they worry about therapist and mother of experience headaches and kids reach for easy, quick
money and half worry three teens in milwaukee. sleep and eating problems. fixes to manage their emo-
about losing their jobs. were now seeing a pro- at just 8 years old, tions. Look for these signs
but there seems to be fessionalism of childhood maya hill of Forest Park, that your son or daughter
a sort of denial when it where the emphasis is on iL, feels the stresses not is overwhelmed by stress:
comes to our kids. a full gaining skills and being a only of schoolwork but also Increased irritability
69 percent of parents say star rather than on having of being overweight, says or anger
their stress has little or no fun and doing something mom Sandra hill, who
Withdrawalnot talking,
impact on their children, you enjoy. theres this works for a chicago finan- spending more time alone
yet 91 percent of kids say push from a very early age cial consulting firm. if
they know when their par- to get your kids in there, people tease her about her Physical ailments like
ents are stressed because this idea that its this big weight, ive told her to say headaches, stomachaches,
they yell, argue or com- competition, a big race. something like i dont like fatigue or chest pain
plain more. and, depend- its kind of like being little you saying that. it hurts Behavior changes like a
ing on age, between a third adults. and the strain is my feelings. a lot of times new group of friends, a new
and half of older kids say affecting kids health: it works. Sometimes not. way of dressing, new habits
their parents stress makes about a third of children in even without perfor- Slipping school and
them feel sad and worried. the aPa survey experience mance anxiety or weight activity performance
18 w o r k i n g m o t h e r . c o m F e b r ua ry/ m a r c h 2 0 1 2