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David Tian presents on developing "Royal Charisma" through ancient Asian philosophies. He discusses the paradox that charisma cannot be consciously pursued but must be a natural expression. The document outlines approaches like cultivating character through ritual practices, maintaining self-awareness to overcome limiting beliefs, and aiming for side goals that bring one to a state of "Flow." The goal is to develop an innate excellence and naturally do good without deliberation, as in optimal states of morality and socializing.
David Tian presents on developing "Royal Charisma" through ancient Asian philosophies. He discusses the paradox that charisma cannot be consciously pursued but must be a natural expression. The document outlines approaches like cultivating character through ritual practices, maintaining self-awareness to overcome limiting beliefs, and aiming for side goals that bring one to a state of "Flow." The goal is to develop an innate excellence and naturally do good without deliberation, as in optimal states of morality and socializing.
David Tian presents on developing "Royal Charisma" through ancient Asian philosophies. He discusses the paradox that charisma cannot be consciously pursued but must be a natural expression. The document outlines approaches like cultivating character through ritual practices, maintaining self-awareness to overcome limiting beliefs, and aiming for side goals that bring one to a state of "Flow." The goal is to develop an innate excellence and naturally do good without deliberation, as in optimal states of morality and socializing.
Philosophical Exploration What Youre Going To Learn
Royal Charisma as the secret to being in Flow all the
time Ancient and medieval Asian secrets to living the good life so that YOU can get what you want in life NOW The Flow Paradox The Solution to the Flow Paradox Conquer Life Like An Emperor Oracle bone inscriptions (dragon bones) ~3,500 years ago Royal Charisma (de ): Enabled the King to get the blessings of the deities and spirits necessary to gain and maintain rule Guodian Bamboo scripts ~2,500 years ago Ruler with Royal Charisma has power to attract and retain best ministers and loyal subjects Royal Charisma exerts a powerful attraction to influence others so as to rule without resorting to force De became special charismathe natural attraction one experiences in the presence of great individuals What You DO Matters Rituals (Li ): Explicit, complicated set of ceremonies and social practices, Included everything from formal, high religious ceremonies to the conduct of government to ones personal deportment and behaviour Almost everything a ruler did contributed to the character of his de, so almost everything he did took on great significance Just as, almost everything you do contributes to your thought life and who you become The Paradox of Charisma Charisma can only be acquired if one is not consciously trying to acquire it (Nivison on oracle bone inscriptions) Trying to be good to win a selfish benefit will only backfire The King can get the benefit of de only if he doesnt actually want it Bamboo scripts: If you try to be filial, this is not true filiality; if you try to be obedient, this is not true obedience. You cannot try, but you also cannot not try; trying is wrong, but not trying is also wrong. Ruling through rewards and punishmentsirrelevant what subjects feel or the ideals they hold Ruling through valueswhat subjects feel and believe is crucial Personal Self-Cultivation Shift from concern over Rulers beliefs and behaviour to ones personal beliefs and behaviour Ancient Chinese philosophers began to apply this teaching not only to Kings but also to themselves and the elite class More than intellectual mastery of texts or rituals, it was to practice and apply these lessons in every aspect of life Ultimate goal was to develop certain traits of character Similarly, ultimate goal isnt to learn lines or even get girls, but to develop a certain character How to Have Royal Charisma Emphasised the need for prolonged and extensive study and practicebut always with the aim of creating a certain character Ritual (li ) was used to develop Royal Charisma (de) Practicing li Shapes your character the more you practice them Expresses and further refines your Royal Charisma Influences those who observe the performance or practice of li The goal of li wasnt just to persuade or influence others; the goal was to instil certain sensibilities, attitudes, dispositions in the practitioner The Paradox of Charisma Revisited
Can develop Royal Charisma through external practices
and studyand then applying them in real life BUT, Royal Charisma cannot successfully be cultivated solely with the aim of acquiring it The pursuit must ultimately be an expression of who one is (a follower of the Dao) How to be a Dating Ninja External practices of charisma Body language, tonality, eye contact Persuasion techniques, strategies Scripted lines, routines, stories, etc. Psychological principles With the ultimate goal of shaping your character and personality In fact, almost everything you repeatedly take into your mind will shape your who you become Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action; reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character reap a destiny. True natural = Possesses Royal Charisma without trying Paradox of Dating Mastery While these external practices and study can (and are the only way to) make you naturally attractive to women As long as your goal is still to attract women, ultimate success will continue to elude you The practices must ultimately be an expression of who you are and who you want to become Do it for a goal greater than getting girls How to get there? Gradual vs Sudden Improvement Early Buddhist philosophy (and Neo-Confucian philosophy) Gradual Long-term practice of meditation, study, and reflection will lead one step-by-step, incrementally to enlightenment Sudden We have the Buddha-nature within us. We just need to find it, and we will be enlightened immediately. In dating, is it incremental growth or a sudden realisation? Two Sages Face Off Zhu Xi (1130-1200 CE) and Wang Yangming (1472-1529 CE) Zhu Xi: Anyone who works long enough at interpreting the classical texts, with dedicated effort and sincerity would arrive at an understandingan understanding that would transform the individual To fully understand the lessons of the texts, one had to become a certain kind of person This understanding comes only after extensive study, broad application, and careful reflection For Zhu, self-cultivation was a protracted process of refining the self to find that deep intuition within Wang Yangmings Approach Wang Yangming: Innate, fully formed, perfect mental-emotional faculty of excellence, buried beneath our bad thoughts Metaphors of the sun shining behind clouds and a clear, bright mirror hidden beneath dust (Buddhist influences) Challenge is to identify this innate faculty, engage it, and preserve it We are to maintain constant inner scrutiny of our thoughts so that we can eradicate and be vigilant against the intrusion of the clouds and dust of bad thoughts In socialising, when you are in Flow, your innately perfect mental faculty takes over and you are at your best To maintain this consistently, need to be highly self-aware, especially of when limiting beliefs are obscuring the Flow mind like clouds and dust. The Unity of Knowledge and Action Wang Yangming: Real Knowledge is both cognitive and affective Need to feel the corresponding emotion Not enough to just know what to do or even to do the thing; need to feel the appropriate emotion Need to cultivate certain affective states How? In the actual events of my everyday life Monitor and correct my thoughts, feelings, and behaviour in daily life When interacting with family, friends, colleagues, etc., Even, or especially, when alone Only then do we discover our sticking points Zhuangzi Zhuangzi (~4th century BCE) Anti-establishment, anti-rationalism, and against the evils of social programming Two phases to self-development, occurring simultaneously Negative phase: Wipe clean the slate of socialisation Through fasting of the mind and sitting and forgetting Positive phase: Spontaneously according with the Dao Sustained course of training (knack passages) leading to a sudden state of perfect application and insight Echoed later by Wang Yangming In social arts, the negative phase of wiping out ones limiting beliefs and the positive phase of gaining experience reaching and maintaining Flow The Solution to the Flow Paradox Flow paradox: State of unselfconscious excellence. But if you self-consciously try to attain it, you are self-conscious and hence not unselfconscious Try not to try Buddhist version Indirect Method (aka, Side Effect or By Product Method) Aim for some other goal that will bring you to Flow along the way (as a side-effect or by- product) Lose yourself in the process or journey In dating, this could be Aim for and lose yourself in Having FUN. Getting to know others. Learning new things from other people. Fitness. Fashion. Arts. Making money (helping more people get more of what they want). Etc. The Charisma Code: Beyond Good and Evil
Wang Yangmings Four Sentence Teaching
The perfect mind is without good or evil In the Flow state of morality, one just does, says, and feels the good thing without self-conscious deliberation and without having to try, and hence one just naturally does what is right and good In the Flow state of dating, one just does, says, and feels the appropriate thing without self-conscious deliberation and without having to try, and hence one is just naturally attractive Further Readings
Edward Slingerland, Trying Not To Try
Philip J. Ivanhoe, Confucian Moral Self-Cultivation (actually, anything by Ivanhoe) Mark Siderits, Buddhism as Philosophy
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