The Sexual Framing of

Male-Female Interactions
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by Captain Jack!
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http://www.betheseducer.com !
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 My Story and How to Be Your !
Own Dating Guru!
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Dear Friend,
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Even though weve never met I know a few things about you.
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I know you arent satisfied with the area of your life
called, Dating.
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I also know youre a man of action, and youve decided to
do something about it. Which brings you to guys like me.
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I first started this journey in late 2004. I had just
gotten a divorce. I was overweight. I had two young
daughters and had been decimated when the economy tanked
after 9/11.
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I was thrust into a world I knew almost nothing about. I
met my first wife at 20 years old and got married a couple
years later.
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I had never really dated. I only had a girlfriend for a few
months in high school and then never had one until I met
the girl I eventually got married to.
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Not exactly success, huh?
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But, I came across the dating community. Here were guys who
were DOING something about it. I devoured everything I
could. I went out, scared as shit, and failed HORRIBLY.
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Many times I went home having done nothing other than stand
at the bar or club all night talking to no one but the
bartender and feeling so outside of it all. A few times on
the verge of tears out of frustration.
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I pressed on and on. Putting in several hours a night when
I wasnt scrambling to find work to pay my bills.
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Successes started trickling in. A phone number here, a date
there.
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After more researching online I kept hearing about this guy
named Mystery. I could tell something was different. He had

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a structure, a system, a Method. It looked and sounded
amazing. Almost magical, and I wanted the Magic! So I took
a bootcamp and learned directly from him.
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I wanted the Magic and I got it! But, it didnt come
without a lot of hard work. Taking the bootcamp was just
the beginning. I worked on myself like a madman! I studied
every major system out there. I posted for feedback. I
posted for ideas.
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I reconstructed my Game Plan from the Ground Up nearly
every 3-4 months.
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I created Sticking Point Analysis to help me bust through
places where I got stuck. (Its modeled after Eli
Goldratts System described in his book, The Goal.)
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While I love Mysterys work I began noticing certain things
that no one else seemed to notice. I tested them out and
discovered that many of the core assumptions I previously
held were wrong. Over time I developed my own ideas,
theories and tactics. I began to see the world differently.
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I got good. I mean real good. Better than I ever dreamed or
imagined I could.
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In short, I became my own Pick-up Guru!
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Now, I teach and coach in addition to having fun in my
private life.
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While I do make money at it, I do it mainly to help other
guys. Those rare men who, rather than whining, have taken
action and decided to do something about their
circumstances.
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My goal for you: is that YOU become your own Guru. Ill
help you every step of the way but YOUVE got to do the
work.
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Ive made it as simple and fun as possible. Make it an
Adventure.
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~ Captain Jack ~
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P.S. For those of you who want to work through this guide
with my help I have a special 4 week coaching program to
help you. Heres how it works, you do the missions in
this book and after each one you send a full writeup to me
with any comments or questions. Ill look it over and give
you feedback that will speed your progress. Send an email
to jason@getabeautifulgirlfriend.com with subject line
mission eCoaching for more info.

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 What Others Have Said About Captain Jack!
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Captain Jack's ability to engineer same night pulls is actually a
little frightening. Future

CaptainJack is the best PUA who isn't already a guru. And

better than every instructor I've ever seen from RSD, Juggler,
PU101 etc. Sinn

Watching Captain Jack work is incredible. He's just this really

laid back, normal guy, and then he talks to a girl, and then he's
making out with her, and then they're heading off to his place,
arm in arm. And then you think to yourself "how the hell did he
just do that!?" Tenmagnet

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All but Captain Jack by Steve Mayeda (aka El Topo)
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So Bar XXXXX it is. We head on over and it looks good right
away.
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Man! Hot Girls Crazy! Totally packed! There were more hot
girls than people at the three Bars we were at before.
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I walk around and see Kino Master. Then I see Captain Jack.
Tribulus sees a bunch of other people that I dont know.
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And like most all the other guys they are standing in a corner.
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All but Captain Jack.
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What a motherfucker man (I say this in the Miles Davis
phrasing of motherfucker).
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He is fucking good. He was an instructor at my Boot Camp in
Scottsdale and pulled twice when he was there.
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Tribulus is not around so I follow the other PUAs. We stand in a
corner waiting for Captain Jack.
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It feels great hanging out against a wall with a bunch of guys
acting cool. Let me tell you.
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Captain Jack comes up says something to me and then like a
fucking pro opens an HB9 (note: that stands for hot girl with a
rating of 9 out of 10). I have got to tell you, I really dont get it.
I watched the whole thing.
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CJ Saw the woman at the bar, walked up next to her. Looked
her way slightly, looked away and opened. I have no idea what
he said, but she opened right away.
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Kino (physical touching) right away.
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He says something else and has her locked in. Her boyfriend
come over and summons her. She acknowledges him and then
turns back to CJ.
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More kino, more kino and then the BF pulls her away
physically. The club kicks us out. Captain Jack is still inside.
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All the PUAs and I wait for him. No one including myself open
anything, and there is still stuff around us.
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After about 15mins CJ comes out with a girl. Tribulus finds me
and says for us to go. I leave the other PUA wallflowers as the
watch CJ in the midst.
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On the way back Tribulus tells me not to fall into the trap of
becoming a wallflower. Hes right, it is one thing to watch
someone whos really good, but it is another to follow him
around and take notes that will never see the light of day.
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We talk about how good Captain Jack is. Tribulus says, Hes
doing the same stuff that we do, he just does it right. But
man, it doesnt look like it.
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I now realize that my minuscule success of number closes and
dates are nothing. Yeah, I can open a set, get attraction, get
comfort, but I got a long way to go.
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I have a new goal.
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I have got to get as good as Captain Jack. I have got to work at
this thing.
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- El Topo
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 Disclaimer

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This book will show you how to meet and attract a beautiful
woman much faster than you ever thought possible.
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Using the ideas, theories, tactics and strategies Ive been able
to take MANY women home from bars and clubs the very same
night I met them. Ive done it with a startling amount of speed
and consistency.
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It was FUN for a few years but now I believe the best chance
you have for happiness and fulfillment is in a relationship with
a beautiful woman of high quality.
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I thought having all that sex would make me feel better but it
actually didnt have that much effect on my overall happiness. I
derive a lot more satisfaction from focusing on one beautiful,
high-quality woman.
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I think serial monogamy provides the best opportunities for
both your and her long-term happiness and health.
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That is my opinion after having had non-committed sex with
several hundred women and often having 4-5 simultaneous
girlfriends.
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However, the WAY I get a girlfriend now is basically the same
way I would initiate a purely sexual relationship. The primary
difference is in the AMOUNT of qualification I do beforehand
(youll learn more about that later) and how much sexual
tension I build before having sex. (Now I usually wait until I am
SURE I want her as a girlfriend first).
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How you live your life is up to you. You can use this to do like I
did and have lots of sex with lots of women if you want. I
suggest serial monogamy though. The pleasure derived from it

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is far superior. And, if the relationships breaks down for any
reason, just dust this guide off and find another one!
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~ Captain Jack ~

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 Workability is the Measure!
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The next sentence you read might be the most important in
the entire book.

The most important thing regarding the theories and ideas in

this book is not whether or not they are true... it is whether or
not they actually work!

Workability is the real measure of this guide. Who cares if it is

true if it doesnt work? And, who cares whether or not it is true
if it gets the desired result?

And, everything in this has been proven to work again and

again in every situation imaginable, in dozens of countries on
earth by guys of all ages, shapes, sizes and skills.

They all laud the amazing workability. Remember that as you

read this. The most important thing is not whether you agree
with the theory or WHY I say something works, but that it does
work.

The Big Lie!

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If you are not enjoying the success with women you desire
there are really only a few things wrong.

They are all fixable.

But, before I list them out and show how we are going to solve
them I want to tell you the real, core reason you are not
experience the results you want.

It is this: You have bought into a huge lie. Im not saying there
is some government agency promoting this lie and shoving it
down everyones throats. I really have no idea where it came
from, why it is here or why it still persists.

Ive proven it to be untrue. So have all of my students. But,

once you understand it and convince yourself, no PROVE to

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yourself, that it is a big lie you will benefit from the inequity in
the dating scene it has created.

This lie is actually what will make it possible for you to have
outrageous and unheard of success because it obliterates your
competition by keeping them out of the Game entirely. Or,
causing them to do such stupid things that they rarely or never
succeed.

What is the lie?

It manifests itself in various forms, here are a few examples:

Women are not as sexual as men.

A quality woman would not sleep with a guy on the first date
(or 2nd or 3rd or whatever).

A woman wants to get to know the guy first, go on dates, get

romanced, etc.

It takes a lot to turn a woman on.

You find it in a common double-standard as well: If a woman

has sex on a first date she is a slut. But, if a man has sex on
the first date he is a stud.

All of this above stuff is untrue. Women enjoy sex and want
sex just as much as men do. Forget all the idiot psychologists
who say otherwise.

The big lie is that sexual urges exist independently as part of

body processes. That is not true. When someone gets turned
on, feels horny or feels attraction there has ALWAYS been
some recent stimulus whether external (in their environment)
or an internal copy of an external stimulus now stored in the
mind.

In addition to that, some people have made the decision to

experience turn-on at certain intervals because they enjoy the
kinesthetic feelings. Even this requires a mental action. Its

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simple enough. When they made that decision they also said
recall stored images/ideas/concepts of this type and the
mind provides them. This causes the stimulus and the person
gets turned on. It might APPEAR spontaneous but even that is
due to their early decision to periodically experience the
mental stimulus.

There really is only one difference in sex drive between men

and women. Men ARE more likely to get turned on by sight and
women are more likely to get turned on by a mans behaviors,
primarily communication behaviors.

If men DO have more sexual thoughts than women it is only

because there are more visual stimuli in the average mans
environment than male behavioral stimuli in the womans
environment.

When I use the term sexual I am talking about the feelings you
experience as a result of the opposite sex. I am not only
referring to sexual turn-on. If a woman makes you feel more
manly that is part of the sexual I am talking about. It has to
do with your sexual nature as a male (or hers as a female).

Not understanding the big lie and the only one difference
has caused men so much trouble.

But, now, you should know that her sex drive can be
stimulated by an outside source and it is stimulated by male
behaviors, primarily communication behaviors.

More on that later. But, first. this is from an article I wrote to

readers of my pick-up artist blog, called Captain Jacks
Grande Adventures. It is one of the widest read and most
popular dating blogs on the internet.

The blog served as the home of my written record of my

research into all aspects of dating. Id go out and document
exactly what I said or did each night at bars and clubs all
across the United States but mainly in my hometown.

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Id post new theories, ideas, experiments on the blog and get
feedback. Id share what worked and what didnt. Id even
publish nearly word for word reports of my outings so other
guys could dissect and learn from them.

Heres an article introducing one of my big breakthroughs. As I

said in my Disclaimer I no longer have sex just for sex like I
did then, instead preferring to get a long-term girlfriend in a
monogamous relationship BUT I STILL do the things Im
teaching here -- I just delay sex and add a few things on to
make her my girlfriend.

Heres the article:

Romance = Male-Female Sexual Tension

Posted January 12, 2009

Women are starving.

Im sitting in the bookstore right now and the Cafe points

directly to the Sex, Relationships and Romance Novel section.
There is an absolute STREAM of women going over there.
Those sections are NEVER empty.

Why?

Women are literally starving for the male-female sexual

dynamic. Now, thats not the word they use for it.

They call it Romance.

But, most men cringe and think of Romance as flowers,

expensive candlelight dinners, chocolates and kissing her ass.

Its not that at all! And, women know that. Have you ever READ
a romance novel? They are filled with sexual tension, secret
sex liaisons, forbidden pleasures. I made my way through half
of one and I swear nearly every character had sex with every
other character by the midway point. I stopped reading.. I got
it.

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Romance = male-female sexual tension.

Not that other shit weve been trained to think. Romance can
occur anywhere.

A bookstore, a sidewalk, an expensive restaurant, wherever.

Its not the environment, its the tension. If you make her feel
feminine and sexy, shell WANT to have sex with you.

And, theres no better way to create that male-female sexual

tension than with Sexual Framing.

Mastering Sexual Framing will give you the absolute power to

have sex pretty much whenever you want it.

(It has NOTHING to do with dirty talk or being a creepy horny

guy. Its MUCH MUCH MORE than Strawberry Fields or Rings on
Fingers, too. (Note: Those are conversation routines I use when
talking to a woman.)

Not only can you have a life filled with sex, you could easily
use it to get a girlfriend. Or, have a few girlfriends at a time. If
you were really perverted you could use it to create a Harem of
chicks who basically act as personal assistants. (Thats right,
theyll run your errands and shit and ENJOY IT! Strange, I know
but Ive done it and so have countless others.)

And, you can have these types of relationships without lying or

drama. See, YOU set the rules by your frames. The problem is
when you go around Gaming you have no friggin clue what
Frames you are setting.

Even worse, you have no idea of the Frames SHE is setting and
you are unwittingly AGREEING to.

Shit man, you could even use it to get married.. and, then,
keep the marriage alive and spicy for years to come.

Sexual Framing and understanding the female psychology of

sex really decomplicates things. Do you feel meeting women is
hard or draining or complicated or takes too much time?

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Sexual Framing makes it easy.

Once you get it you will look so smooth people will watch you
and swear youve been good with women all your life.

No one understands it better than I do and I can TEACH you

how to apply it every day no matter where you are or what
youre doing.

Shit, you can even apply it to business. About a month ago, I

got 6 experts in the spiritual self-help field to hand me 4
detailed lessons for a new membership program for FREE
because I understood their values and framed it so that if they
DID NOT do it for me theyd be violating their values.

And, the women? Well, they will be so relieved, so glad, so

HAPPY that theyve met a guy who REALLY GETS IT they will do
pretty much anything you want.

So, what exactly IS this Sexual Framing Im talking about? In

its essence it is using your words to convey to her several
things which make a sexual relationship much, much more
probable.

The Big Lie makes it more powerful because she has

SUPPRESSED her sexuality because shes been told it is bad.
This suppression requires her to put off sex, to set up a bunch
of rules around it and to make sure NO one views her as a slut.

All of this gets in her way of having a good relationship and in

YOUR way of initiating it.

Therefore, we must remove the suppression, validate her sex

drive, let her know we approve of it and let her know we think
SHE is sexy.

The easiest way Ive found to do each of those is in this book.

Ive created word-for-word scripts for conveying them inside
of a normal conversation.

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There is no hypnosis involved (gross!). Nothing about it is
activating secret parts of her mind that make her
unconscious and have uncontrollable sex urges. That is not
only gross and unethical, it is wholly unnecessary and is not
even the best way to do it.

It is not dirty talk, although AFTER you get your conversation in

a Sexual Frame then she often WILL dirty talk and be open to it
from you after all. Youve already demonstrated to her that
youre not judgmental.

It is a very simple, straightforward and fun way to get both her

mind and bodys sexuality unleashed from its societal
suppression and aimed squarely at YOU, the one who has
helped her liberate it!

As I mentioned earlier, this guide will show you exactly what I

say, why I say it, why I think it works and gives several
examples of how Ive used it in real life to get the girl.

Youll understand them so you can have a conversation and

say similar things in the same way to get similar results.

Further, Ill show you how to get into a normal conversation so

you get a chance to actually bring them up to the woman so
they have the intended effect on her.

But, before we do all that, would you like to read actual reports
which detail my adventures where I used it successfully?

Here are three. Dont get too caught up in the Routines that I
talk about. Well go into more detail on that later. In these
reports I use their names so I dont have to type out what they
are. Most of the people I wrote these for on private forums
already knew what the routines were. Instead, focus on the
overall flow and structure of the interactions.

Here are three reports for you to read.

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Lay Report: Too Smooth

Part1:

Last night I meet PlayerT and his hottie at the venue.

Eye spy a 3 set (2 girls, 1 guy). As I'm walking over another guy
pulls up behind my Target. Hmmm. Now, I'm 3 steps away and
it has become a 4 set.

My mind is calculating body language information with each

step...she's NOT into the guy...at all. So, he gets totally
ignored. I walk around him and open them as a 3set. The girl
Im targeting (my Target) backturns the dude.

He looks at his other friends across the aisle like "what the
fuck?"

When dealing with the group you have 3 basic options.

1) Ignore them and game the girl. Cockblock city UNLESS the
girl wants you so bad that she vetoes her entire group. This
does happen but it is low probability and a hard way to work.

2) Neutralize them and wait for the opportunity to game her.

This is higher probability than #1 and actually takes LESS
energy (in the long run) than #1.

3) Win the group and have them GIVE her to you. This is the
highest probability and is the most fun, too. It requires A LOT
of focus and experience. It is the highest probability of all 3.

But, being the lazy fucker that I am, I opened with #2 to gauge
the group cohesion. After about 1 minute she was shining so I
switched to #1. They BACKED AWAY from us when her
attraction skyrocketed. Had they stood their ground or even
chimed in, I would've moved back into #2 or #3 depending on
their actions.

I pulled her over to PlayerT and his hottie and intro'ed.

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I ran my routine called Strawberry fields. She starts biting her
lower lip. Playing with her hair. Squirming in her chair.

I take her to the quiet side and sliiiiide into that sweeeet
Comfort Rhythm with her. She is giving me those dreamy looks
and probably thinking I'm her prince.

I'm giving her those dreamy looks (but I'm really micro-
calibrating and methodically building in "justification hooks"
for her feelings so when she looks back on our little piece of
time together she has REASONS to justify those emotions.)

I'm also wondering what she looks like naked.

Her friend calls and then comes over. It is time for them to
leave. Awwww, just another hour under my spell and she
would've surrendered totally to me.

We give each other one of those long lingering hugs and I do a

routine called Almost Kiss. She submits, but I'm a tease
bypassing her lips and gently caressing her neck with my lips.

She gives me a longing, lingering look as she is walking away.

I saw HBWhiteShirt earlier and she gave me a quick hug. Again,
she was standoffish and said, "I'm going to get a drink" and
left.

After gaming the HB (code for Hot Babe) above I found her
again. This time I was determined to solve the riddle.

I found out that she felt weird because apparently that was her
first Same-Night-Lay with a guy so she was freaking out when
she saw me and "didn't know how to act around" me.

I think if I could've talked to her mon, tues before seeing her

that wed. it would have been OK when we saw each other.

I patched things up quickly, got the CORRECT number from her

and was in again. I took her to her place and did naughty,
unspeakable acts with her.

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"I approach every woman as a potential mistress." -- Aristotle
Onassis

Part 2:

I meet up with PlayerT and PlayerJ at the venue. PlayerT is with

his usual HB10 and PlayerJ is all over her friend (who I passed
on a couple weeks ago about a 6).

Naturally Im feeling that I should have a honey fawning all

over me.

I scan the room...not much here as it is Sunday night but

definitely some talent to work with...HBWhiteShirt (see LR: Zen
of No-Game etc, etc) just came in but Ive already had her
about 3 times now so shell be a last resort.

I notice a group turn towards me out of my peripheral vision,

slowly scanning that direction I notice the girl from Part 1.

I had texted her once before but never set anything up because
she was working. Then, I had my daughters for 10 days in a
row preventing me from going out for any Day2s (a second
date after you meet a girl).

It is a 4 set, 2 guys, her and her friend. Hmm...The guy

obviously likes her...she seems mildly interested in him but
she is giving me AIs (Approach Invitations - keeping and
holding eye contact encouraging you to come talk to them).

I decide it is time to pass by. She waves, I smile and head right
past her to the bar. I turn back around. I re-open her directly
(why not, have talked with her before, number closed and she
is giving AIs).

The guy leaves after 30 seconds never to be seen again.

Having already been in comfort with her I did little more than
be a funny, entertaining guy with heavy doses of kino
(physically touching that has sexual overtones).

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This girl REMEMBERED the entire previous meeting. She recited
almost every single conversation topic.

I was amazed.

CJ: Wow! You have an amazing memory.

HBJLoBooty: I have a selective memory...I only remember
things that impress me.

CJ: * smiling * Oh yeah?

HB: Yeah, you made quite an impression.

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I kiss closed her in the bar after her 3 or 4 blatant IOI
(Indicator of Interest) AND when she stared up at me with lips
half open and eyes surrendering to me...

I interspersed our time together with trips back to the table

where PlayerA and PlayerJ were sitting, leaving her in order to
fractionate and make her wonder a bit if Id be back.

I walked her out to her car and we started making out near the
back bumper. Heres where my improved social awareness
skills are turning would-be objections into lays.

HBJLoBooty: Where are you parked?

CJ: Over there. Take me home, Ill have a friend of mine bring
me back to my car in the morning.

She starts going mmmmm as if shes hesitating and about to

voice an objection. In the past, I wouldve just stood there and
waited for her to say something.

Not now.

I let go of her and walked to the passenger side and hopped in.
She stood back there for a second like WTF? and then came in
the car and started driving.

Ha ha...

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Got her to my place, got her comfortable and escalated to full
monty.

~ Captain Jack ~

End of Lay Report: Too Smooth

Sorry for all the jargon! If you ever see a word or phrase you
dont quite understand please jump to the glossary
immediately so you know what is going on.

If you read closely you can see all of the major phases of a
successful pick-up. Theres FINDING her, approaching her,
meeting her, getting her attracted, getting her sexually
attracted and getting her to agree to go with me back home.

But, almost ALL of the first part of the interactions were

structured so I could do two things: Strawberry Fields and
Almost Kiss. Those two routines unleash that suppressed
sexual desire and get her to attach them to YOU. Notice how
she thoroughly remembered our meeting even thought it was
from weeks ago?

Thats how powerful this stuff is.

Heres another one.

LR: CaptainJack Shows Catholic Schoolgirl De-Light

March, 2006

Get to the venue about 10:20 and there is a HUGE friggin' line
and I'm pissed because I like to start early.

Dan W. and Jason show up and we wait forever to get inside. I

think we rolled in about 11:15 or so.

Dan and I are heading to the bar because after all that waiting
and getting rained on, I need a shot of patron. (Note: I do not
recommend drinking, especially for beginners as youll need all
of your brainpower to focus.)

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The place is packed and filled with hot girls. Sweet.

As soon as Dan and I hit the bar a girl comes over and starts
grabbing my scarf and kinoing me hardcore. I'm a bit taken
aback because it happened so fast.

HBTeacher: blah, blah, blah, love your scarf thingy, blah, blah

CJ: Cool. I like it too

HB: Oh, I'm sorry.

CJ: For?

HB: You look scared or something. I don't mean to get you in

trouble with your girlfriend.

CJ: Girlfriend? ** Geez, I need some Patron, quick ** Naw, I'm

just scared of drunk girls with beer bottles on St. Patrick's day.
That's pretty scary. You never know what they are gonna do.

HB: ** shocked look and then smiles ** I just talk to whoever I

want...blah, blah, blah

CJ: Yeah, that's the way it should be.

I turn back around and Dan hands me the shot and I tell him
that he has to finish his beer before I finish my shot but I'll give
him a head start. We laugh. Cheer our drinks and then I blast it
down.

Ok, time to run proper game on HBTeacher. I see her looking

for her friends and walk back up to her.

HB: I'm looking for my friends.

CJ: Your friends? They are having fun. Let's go outside.

I start her outside and it takes FOREVER to get out there.

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On the way, a few other chicks touch my scarf. This is the
value of wearing some unique, interesting clothing item that
no other guy will be wearing, gives you more opportunities.

One guys says some shit. He appears to be about 7 feet tall.

Bald with a goatee. I immediately think of that song "Jump
Around" by "House of Pain."

GoateeGuy: This is a pussy tail!

CJ: What? ** making them repeat always takes a bit of mustard
off of their bullying attempt **
GoateeGuy: The scarf, that's a pussy tail.
CJ: Cool man. ** As I continue dragging the girl towards the
outside patio. **

Captain Jack does not need an Irish ass-whipping...especially

not when the night starts off so good.

I get the HB outside and lock-in against the wall. (Note: lock-
in means you get somewhere and get settled in a way that
makes it appear that the girl is leaning into you and interested.
When other girls in the bar/club see it they view you more as
an attractive male because a girl has shown attraction to you).

She immediately goes into qualifying herself. (That means she

is telling me how great she is, haa. This is an attempt to show
shes qualified for my level of attractiveness. Hows THAT for
turning the tables?)

Turns out she is a teacher - has been single for a few months
now.

CJ: A teacher? oh, god!

HB: What?
CJ: Every teacher I've met has been soooo bad!
HB: Well, yeah! We have to be good all week around the
children so when the weekend comes...
CJ: It would never work out between us...
HB: Why? Why? ** putting her hand on my chest **

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CJ: You'd always be trying to steal my attention...I'd be trying
to steal your attention... HB: ** laughs ** blah blah blah

I run strawberry fields.

After the interpretation she says, "That is SOOOOO True!

Omigod! How did you know all that!"

HBTeacher: "I have to have sex like 3 times a day!"

CJ: "3 times! I'd be worn out. You'd kill me! My back, my
knees..."
HBTeacher: "No. No. Once in the morning...once when I get
home...or just twice that night."
CJ: "Oh, I see. So you just space it out. Cool. We can do that."
** ha ha, I'm fucking sneaky. **

I run the Question Game Routine.

Craziest place she's had sex...the beach.
My favorite place to have sex...swimming pool.

HBTeacher: Nooooo. It makes the girl raw.

CJ: "That's not my problem." ** she laughs **

HBTeacher: "Where do you like to take girls to hang out."

CJ: "Straight to my place."

HBTeacher: "No for real. Where would you take me."
CJ: "Straight to my place."

HBTeacher: "ha ha, I'm not that easy..." blah blah blah

Now, I keep thinking, "Ok dude, time for the kiss close" but she
just keeps yapping and I get sidetrack like 3 times.

Finally, we decide to look for her friends. SHE number closes

me and makes sure I call her to make sure I got the number
right. Which is interesting. I've noticed NOW that when I don't
go for the number close and they bring it up, they'll often
make me call them so they can store my number. This has
happened a lot lately but never used to happen.

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I talk to the other PUAs for awhile and then we decide to get
some more gaming done.

Another chick looks at my kick-ass scarf that I bought for $5

at Wal-greens and opens me with a negative comment...

HBIrish: "What ever you were thinking when you bought

that....you shouldn't have."

CJ: I laugh..."You're a good girl, trying to act bad."

She looks shocked and then recovers.

HBIrish: "No, it's the other way around. I'm Irish, we're all bad."
CJ: "Cool. I've heard irish girls have bad tempers...."
HBIrish: blah, blah, blah

I move on because I'm not interested.

I'm talking to Dan W. and I point out a 3-set with two cute
brunettes. One is about an HB8...the other LOOKED like an HB8
from a distance but when I got close she turned out to be a 7.

I tell Dan W. what the situation is about how the HB7 is sort of
feeling left out...and it's a good opportunity to go over there.
About that time I notice that best opportunity open up so I roll
in.

CJ: Do you guys think David Bowie is hot?

HBCatholic: "Who's that?"

From there I move her outside patio. We vibe a bit and she tells
me she's Catholic and I tell her that all Catholic girls are bad.
That every Catholic girl I've known has loved bondage and
kinky stuff. She AGREES!

Chat with her...make her sit in my lap...get the Kino going very
strong.

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I notice Matt and Dallas Shaguar and wave them over and we
chat for a bit in front of HB.

I take her back inside and sit down in a booth with her. I start
the Question game. Gets sexual really quick.

** Mystery's Kiss Close Routine **

CJ: "You want to kiss me, don't you."

HBCatholic: "No."

CJ: "Oh, I didn't say you could. You just looked like you had
something on your mind."

HB: * laughs *

I start talking about something else and we chat for another

few minutes. Dan W. walks by and says, "Her friend is looking
for her." I nod. She is talking on the phone to said friend.

Her friend mentions getting something to eat and she has a

guy with her. So, it is 4 of us now.

When I get up from the table, I am surrounded by people.

Matt, Dan W., two of Matt's friends and one of Matt's FB's (I
think). I am getting introduced and people are talking to me
about my archives (a collection of reports like these on the
internet) and so forth and I'm trying to pay attention and meet
people while simultaneously making sure the Bounce goes
through. (A bounce is a move from one location to another, in
this case, from the club to IHOP).

We head to IHOP.

I consider switching Targets. Her friend is better looking and

more bubbly. My girl is being kind of cold for some reason.
(Note: I actually had a date and make-out session with her
friend a few weeks later.)

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They go to the bathroom and when they come out something
has changed. She is a little more snuggly to me.

She drops her friend and the guy off at their car. I do the
hooka speech. She says it sounds really cool. I tell her..."Let's
go now. I have one at my place."

HBCatholic: "Ok!"

We leave my car in the parking lot and come out here.

She was awesome in bed, except she kept on saying stuff like,
"Spank me daddy! Harder daddy!!! I've been a baaaaaad girl!"
Kind of on the edge for me. The last thing I want to think
about during sex is family members.

Afterwards she told me that she masturbated TWICE before

going out that night. TWICE! And, that she didn't think she was
going to come during sex because of that. She also told me
that her friend was on a mission to get laid that night.

Then, she asked me if I had any toys.

~ Captain Jack ~

End of LR: CaptainJack Shows Catholic Schoolgirl De-

Light March, 2006

Youll notice that this was a girl that I met THAT night. And,
she was a very, very pretty girl.

You should see many similarities between this one and the
previous one, even though the previous one took place in two
meetings and this one took place in only one.

The routines I used sexualized the conversation without it

seeming weird or resulting to outright dirty talk which is
unlikely to work. Remember, it has to take place as part of a
CONVERSATION. Dirty talk is one way. But, when I tell her that
a choice she has made reflects that she has a high sex drive

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then that is different, see that? It is a shared experience and it
is about HER.

LR: Sinn Has Only 4 Lays This Month

Posted at January 11, 2007

(NOTE: Sinn was my wing man at the time and we would travel
the country to different cities and teach guys how to interact
with women. We would have friendly competitions about how
many women we had sex with up to that point. I was using the
title of this report to taunt him in a way as part of that
competition ha.)

Im on Bootcamp in Scottsdale. The venue we roll to doesnt

have many sets. Im getting irritated because I want to open. I
help a few students out and give them as much feedback as I
can.

I finally open a set around midnight. Its a semi-cute girl with

braces. I open her because she has one of those bodies you
can just punish.

Two Part Kiss Routine hooks. (This means that it gets her
interested so she is also invested in the conversation. It is not
just me yapping away. She is contributing.)

She turns to face me. I lock in. I start teasing her about her
braces.

Its really on so I decide to parade her through the venue. (This

is simply putting the girl on your arm and walking around the
place so OTHER people see you do it.)

It turns out she is their with her mother and aunt. Her aunt is
eating some 26 year olds face. I tell her that I have 2 condoms
in my wallet and we should drop them off with them.

I move her around and get locked in against a rail. Strawberry

fields. Jealous ex deletes my numbers. She then moves into

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Comfort with me by asking me what I do, where I live etc. She
tells me she has a 6 year old son. I run First Child Brings Surge
of Ambition Routine.

I try to kiss but she rejects. Hmmm, this is weird. Its

EXTREMELY ON. Im thinking its cause her mom is there.

I move her again to build social proof.

I open another cute girl (a little chubby). Two part kiss Hooks.
Were in attraction. I tell her it will never work out between us. I
run jealous ex deleted my numbers routine. She tells me her BF
just broke up with her a day or two ago.

I change the subject to something I cant remember. Her two

friends come in and I have them introduce me to her. She likes
me but Im trying to trade up. I saw her later trying to catch
eye contact but I was in set.

I had one or two other sets: one of the girls ignored me, the
other opened really well was really hot and started dancing on
me but I had already decided to open this Brunette with
awesome long hair, a thin body and nice boobs. Its about 1:20
or so..

Two part Kiss Routine.

Trust Test. Spin. Lock in.

Itll never work out between us.

CJ: Howd you get here?

HBHolland: I drove everybody. Im the designated driver.

CJ: That sucks. Im within walking distance so I can drink as

much as I want!

HBHolland: I wanna drink too!

CJ: Hotels have alcohol.

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HBHolland smiles real big.

I run Rings on Fingers Routine.

I picked her up and put her on the bar. This drove her
attraction levels through the roof.

Jealous Ex Deleted My Numbers. Hookah TB.

Strawberry Fields Routine. (She said 100! strawberries.)

Its really on. I get her number and figure Ill try to get her to
meet up with me later.

Closing time at the bar.

Sinn has texted me that he just closed his 4th for the month so
my 5 lays are by no means safe. Weve been shit talking on a
level commensurate with a Boxing match. I know I have to step
up. It is making us work hard. It is making me concentrate. Its
good.

At 2:35 am I text her Hi sexy lady

She texts back about 3:05 where you at?

I tell her Im eating but going back to the hotel. She texts
something about being happy I talked to her. I text back
mmmm... I wanna see you

She agrees to come and get me. She gets there and we start
making out by the pool. We get to the hotel room. I try to pull
her into the shower but Sinn is in the bed with one of his
peepers open so he can get a look at her.

She laughs and says we need to let him sleep and to come to
her place.

We leave and drive back to her place. On the drive:

First Child Brings Surge of Ambition

I start dirty talking her. Shes loving it.

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We get to her place and I discover that she has lingerie under
her outfit. Nice fake boobs. Sex twice. Sleep. Sex in the
morning, too.

On the way back to the hotel in the morning I debrief her. She
tells me that I was so dominant and interesting that she got
extremely turned on because most guys are too soft and weak.

~ Captain Jack ~

End of LR: Sinn Has Only 4 Lays This Month

Are you noticing a pattern? All of these have the same basic
structure and the most important and effective parts of the
interactions are standardized routines that Ive designed (or
borrowed from others) that create specific effects. They are
designed to let her know this is a sexual interaction and its
ok.
!
This guide will teach you that structure and how to construct
those sexual framing routines. (Or, you can simply adapt
mine for your use).
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 How to Use This Guide!
!
Youll get the absolute BEST results by actually going out and
trying this stuff. Dont worry about the results at first. The first
thing is to just get out of the house and be social. There are
missions in here for you to go out and do. They will train you
in the skills you need to get good at meeting and attracting
women so you can get the girlfriend or wife of your dreams. In
addition, they will help you to internalize the ideas and
theories.
!
This is not a book to simply read. It consists of missions. If you
only read the book you will not improve your love life. If you
read it and do the missions, some of them over and over again,
you WILL experience a tremendous increase in your love life.
!
No one who has applied a fair amount of action can say they
have not improved a great deal.
!
By the time you go through all of the missions in this book you
should be a man who can go into any social situation and take
your best possible shot to initiate a male-female sexual
relationship. Basically, that means you can make her into your
girlfriend or even your wife, if thats what you want.
!
That does NOT mean you will have to wait for sex. Ive found
that if done properly sex is the easy part. Most of my best
girlfriends came from women who I met and had sex with that
very night.
!
I dont necessarily recommend this any more. But, it was part
of my learning and growth process to get extremely good at
starting sexual relationships in as short a time as possible.
!
Now that youve seen an overview, lets get down to the nitty-
gritty!
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 What Makes Sexual Framing Possible:!
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Understanding the Core Basic Behind All Male-Female!
Sexual Dynamic Interactions!
!
Now that youve got some of the background and seen examples of how
successful interactions have gone down. There is only one good place to
begin a study of the male-female sexual dynamic and that is at the very
beginning.
!
There are doubtless a few reading this who could go out right now and
getting a girlfriend. Many could do so easily. Others feel they have no
clue and their results conKirm it. Others could rattle off theory and ideas
from the worlds greatest pick-up artists like experts, yet fail miserably
in real life. Still others are so in apathy they do not even try.
!
No matter the skill level, there is something each one of us lacks,
otherwise we wouldnt be studying, researching or looking for answers.
So, for maximum results, we are going to begin at the very beginning of
the subject and master each point as it comes up, just as if we knew
nothing at all about it right now. In that way we shall be sure not to skip
the one thing or the Kifty things that each of us needs which would
unnecessarily limit us and make things harder and more inefKicient than
necessary.
!
I will warn you: At times the thoroughness with which I spell things out
may seems excessive, perhaps even exhausting or annoying. There is a
reason behind it. As I said earlier, skipping one simple thing can cause a
weakness that seriously inhibits results. We are going to be thorough
because I want you to get the best results possible.
!
We will begin as far down the ladder as how a man goes about Kinding
suitable women, as in where they are. For anyone looking to make a
thorough and quality selection it is a task that must be handled before
much else can be done. And, then we shall go all the way down to the
case of a man who wants to attract a beautiful woman who is so used to
getting hit on that, when she goes out in public, she surrounds herself
with male and female friends who serve as barriers to any would-be
suitors.
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We will see what he must do for any case he could come across: The case
of the lone girl in the coffee shop. The case of a girl walking through a
store who seems too busy to interrupt. The case of two girls out at night
in a bar or club who seem to have vowed to ignore anyone but each
other. The case of a woman who is holding out for some other guy who
does not seem to know she exists. We will tackle, dismantle and SOLVE
every possible case or variation you can imagine.
!
In order to do this we will examine all of the factors point by point. We
will DISCARD what does not have an effect on the outcome and
RUTHLESSLY ignore it as if it does not even exist. We will go clear from
Kinding where they are to making them AWARE of you, to making them
INTRIGUED by you, to making them feel SEXUAL INTEREST in your
maleness, to unleashing their pent-up SEXUAL DEMAND and focusing it
squarely on you, to getting her full and 100% conscious AGREEMENT to
begin a sexual relationship with you.
!
This will cover how to make an initial approach, what to say Kirst, how to
keep the conversation going, how to handle others in her group, how to
get her intrigued, how to get her to consider you as a potential lover and
how to move things to a physical level.
!
By taking one point at a time as it comes up in the natural order of
things, beginning with the simplest and most obvious, each successive
point will be equally simple and obvious. In the same way, by executing
my designed missions, noticing the results, understanding what
happened and debugging it, each successive experiment will yield an
increase in your ability to attract the woman you desire.
!
Now then, starting at the beginning, since we are talking about how to
start a sexual relationship (as opposed to gaining a friend), lets ask,
What is the bare absolute minimum required for a sexual relationship?
You need a female. But, not any female it has to be one YOU want, right?
Further, she has to be available, true? (I dont recommend trying to get a
woman who is engaged or married.) What else? Hmm How about
agreement? She must agree to it. Then, theres you. Obviously you cant
initiate a sexual relationship without being present. So, well add that
you two must be in the same location at the same time.
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So a bare minimum is: One Male, One Female, Same Time, Same
Location, Agreement to Have Sexual Relationship.
!
Simple enough, right?
!
Ah, but I hear you! Its NOT that simple! I cant just go up to any
beautiful woman I want and say, Hey, lets go to a location and have
sex!
!
Ok, youre right. That would be an extremely low-probability move. But,
remember what we want to do is build this from the ground up and stick
to the basics without unnecessarily complicating things or adding in a
bunch of arbitrary rules which take us no closer to the ultimate goal.
!
So, where does it all hang up? It all hinges on that one word: Agree. And,
lucky for you weve got an extremely powerful ally in helping us to get
her to Agree to that sexual relationship. It is her suppressed sexual
nature. I will show you exactly, precisely how to un-suppress it, let it out
and get the pent-up demand aimed directly and squarely at YOU.
!
The rest of this book will show you how to make a beeline right to
Agreement by unleashing her sexual nature. Once you have that,
everything else is very, very simple.
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How You Get Agreement!
!
In every communication interchange there is some level of agreement.
This level of shared agreement dictates the future options for the course
of the interchange. I can say, The cat is ugly and you can say, No, it is
cute. On that point, we do not have agreement. If you then said, Lets
take it home. I would not be very likely to agree to that statement. After
all, who wants an ugly cat? If you wanted me to agree you would have to
Sind some way to get me to agree that we should bring the ugly cat
home. You might appeal to my love of animals by saying that an ugly
cat is less likely to Sind a home and therefore may get put to sleep. You
may try several different appeals to gain agreement.
!
Understand that communication is used to secure agreement. And,
communication is accomplished by your words (and a few other things
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!
What you say matters. Take this example from legendary writer, Gary
Halbert. He would have students in his seminars write two letters to
their mothers. I would like you to do the same. Dont worry if you dont
have a stamp or an envelope right now, just grab two sheets of paper
and write down each letter and get ready to send them.
!
The Sirst letter you write should go something like this:
!
Dear Mom,

Im very busy right now and I dont have time to

call so thats why Im writing you this letter. You
know, mom, not only are you responsible for my very
existence, you are also the nourishment that has
made my life sparkle.

Im under a lot of stress right now and for some

reason, I started thinking about you. It has
occurred to me that maybe I havent let you know
recently how much I appreciate you and how much I
love you.

I especially like remembering you and remembering

all of those times you took care of me when I was
too little to take care of myself. Anyway, Im
going to make it a point to see you just as soon as
I can and then you sign love, and your name.

Wouldnt your mother just love that? What effect do you think it would
have on her? I bet shed cry.
!
But, now write something like this:
!
Dear Mom:

If I werent such a long way from home, I probably

wouldnt have the guts to tell you this but the

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following has been true ever since I was born. You
have made my life a living hell.

Every person I know has a mother that is superior

to you in every positive way imaginable. You are
nothing more than a wrinkled up old bitch and as
far as Im concerned, the biggest waste of skin God
ever created.

Speaking of God, as the good Lord knows, youre

certainly not too mentally swift either. So just in
case your low IQ keeps you from understanding what
Im trying to say, let me make it perfectly clear.

Eat Shit and Die.

Please dont call or write me. I have no

inclination whatsoever to communicate with you ever
again. Reluctantly your son or daughter,

P.S. dad sucks too.

I bet that one would make her cry, too. But, itd a totally different kind of
crying, wouldnt it? The letters are roughly the same size. They are from
the same person (you, her son) and to the same person (your mother).
Yet, the effect on her could not be any different. It is the meaning behind
the words which create the effect.
!
In addition to WHAT you say, theres also HOW you say it. I can say, I
hate you. in several different ways to create different effects in you. I
can say it with a playful tonality. I can say it in a way that seethes with
anger. I can say it in a jealous way. The words are the same but the
tonality changes the meaning and thus the effect it creates.
!
What you said earlier matters to what you are saying now because it can
modify the meaning and effect. Compare these two sentences:
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Sentence 1: All the other girls in my phone are not responding to my
voluminous voicemails and text messages, lets hang out.
!
Sentence 2: I had a blast talking to you the other night, at Sirst I thought
you were a real dork but you proved me wrong, lets hang out.
!
The Sinal phrase is lets hang out but what youve said before that is
night and day. In one you are saying she is your LAST option. In the
second, you are saying you enjoy being around her. Big difference.
!
In addition to all of the above, WHO is saying something matters.
Imagine modifying the two letters to your mother so they did not come
from you. Imagine they came from some random person in China. What
impact? Very little. Probably just confusion and bewilderment before
getting tossed in the trash.
!
One Sinal thing: Who else hears what is said often makes a difference.
Consider the emotional impact differences the following compliment
like You are extremely sexy to a woman would if also heard by:
!
1. Her Dad
2. Her Best Girlfriend
3. A stranger
4. Her boyfriend
5. Her ex-boyfriend she no longer liked
6. No on else
!
Isnt it safe to say she would have different reactions and feelings about
the compliment depending on who else heard it? Doesnt it also makes
sense that her RESPONSE back to you would be possibly modiSied by
who was there?
!
Ive said it to a woman and had her sink into me and begin making out
with me. Other times it has seemed to cause almost no discernible
reaction.
!
To most effectively gain agreement you need to realize that what you say
matters, how you say it matters, what youve said earlier in the
interchange matters, who says it matters and who else hears it matters.
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Given that all that is extremely important you do NOT leave it all to luck
and chance! If you ever want to get real good at meeting and then dating
beautiful women you should know what to say, how to say it, when to
say it and who to BE while youre saying it. Further, you should know
what is ok to say in front of others and when you should get her alone
instead.
!
That means... you are going to need a script of sorts. Imagine you walk
out of your hotel to grab a taxi to go somewhere. Right there on the
corner, also hailing a cab, is the most beautiful woman youve ever seen.
Hair Slowing, slender Sigure, perfect skin, big doe eyes, perfect lips. You
see the taxi coming towards her and youve got mere seconds to snag
her attention. What would you say?
!
I know EXACTLY and precisely what Id say to stop her, to hold her there
long enough to hear me out, to get her commitment to talk to me later. I
dont have it down verbatim necessarily but I would say much the same
thing every time.
!
Do not think it is a good idea or somehow romantic to leave something
this important to chance. You will miss out. Instead, prepared, practiced
and polished guys like me will be spending our nights enjoying the girls
YOU wish you had.
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Basic Structure: The Game Plan
!
As you saw in my my reports these interactions follow the
same basic structure. I am going to reveal that structure and
show you how having a set Game Plan which includes Routines
will help you get the girl.
!
First, you have to FIND the women. And, since you are just
learning you want to find LOTS of them.
!
Why?
!
Well, think of it this way. If you wanted to get good at Golf but
you only went out and hit one ball a day, how good do you
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In fact, would you ever have ANY hope in getting good? No.
Because you are not getting enough practice and the results
you are getting are not happening in a small enough frame of
time for you to notice the patterns you need to in order to
increase your situational and social awareness.
!
The easiest way to get lots of practice is to go where there are
lots of available, single women all in one place.
!
That almost always means bars and nightclubs. I hate them. I
despise them. At times theyve been fun but for the most part I
dont like them. I dont like alcohol. I dont like smoke. I dont
like loud music. I cannot dance, either.
!
But, at a bar or club, I can talk to 20 women in one night if the
place is packed.
!
So, we are going to say you should plan on spending 2-3
hours per night at a bar or club with enough women in it so
you can talk to 8 to 15 groups.
!
The more the better. Especially at first. Once you get good you
can meet women anywhere you want. Until then, youve got to
practice and that means talking to a volume of women.
!
Then, you are going to need to know what to say first to
Open the group for a conversation.
!
From there youll need enough material to talk to the group
with until you can find an opening to playfully TEASE the girl
you want.
!
Once she starts showing some interest and engagement youll
then need material to hold a conversation, turn it into a male-
female sexual dynamic, melt her heart so she feels strong
emotions about you and then close for a future date.
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I dont want you to get overwhelmed. This is actually simple
once you know what to do. However, it DOES require practice.
Lots of practice.
In your game plan youll have the following routines which
correspond to the structure of meeting and attracting a
woman.
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Step 1: Find A Woman You Are Attracted To
Step 2: Open the group she is in with a standard opener
Step 3: Tease her
Step 4: Start a conversational Theme
Step 5: Tease her again
Step 6: Continue the theme or start a new one
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Step 6a: Ask how they all know each other to make sure she is
not someones wife or girlfriend. If she is available, then...
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Step 7: Shift your focus to your Target
Step 8: Ask her a Qualifying Question
Step 9: Get into a one-on-one conversation with her by telling
her friends you are going to borrow her for a few minutes.
Step 10: Sexualize the Conversation (Sexual Framing of Male-
Female Interactions!)
Step 11: Run a HeartMelter to get her feeling a connection to
you.
Step 12: Sexualize more.
Step 13: Do a TimeBridge (that means set up a date for later
that week right then and there... DO NOT just get her number
and have to call her to set up later).
Step 14: Talk to her more about anything at all for a few
minutes before taking her back to her friends.
!
Now, its time for a mission. Ideally, youd go and execute this
mission BEFORE reading the rest of this guide. Thats how I feel
youll get the best results.
!
I must stress that the ONLY way to get good at this is to
actually go out and do it. Reading will accomplish little for you!

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Mission #1: The Newbie Mission with

Standard Openers
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Back in 1998, Mystery started posting on a newsgroup called
alt.seduction.fast. He hoped to find men who were actually out
meeting women who he could swap notes with so he could get
better. His ultimate hope was that he could find some guy who
was MUCH better than him so he could learn from him.
!
He soon crashed head on into the reality that not only was he
the best in the group, most guys hardly even TALKED to
women.
!
To combat this he created what he called, The Newbie
Mission and invited everyone to do it. Most of the guys didnt.
They wanted more information, more ideas, more theories or
they wanted to beat ONE approach to death by constantly
analyzing it.
!
Opening a group up for conversation is a skill and any skill
requires practice.
!
I want you to go out and approach 50 groups in one week. The
purpose here is to get you used to opening a group, delivering
a routine and gracefully exiting.
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Thats it. Pick a group with a woman you think you might be
interested in. You look at them, start talking, continue talking
and when youre done, you exit. Do NOT drink. Not even an
ounce.
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If you are scared, thats ok. Whatever. So youre scared. Ok. So
what? Do it anyway. They have no idea how scared you are. Just
go and do it.
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For this, youll need a standard opener. Ill give you two. One is
better for groups who are all female. The other is for groups
that have one or more males in it. Those two will be all you
need.
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Opener 1: David Bowie (all female group)
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You: Do you guys think David Bowie is hot? (Or instead of hot
you can say attractive)
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Girls: Yes/No/Who?
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You: My niece, shes in her late teens, is infatuated with him.
Has a huge poster on her wall. Its a mystery to me.
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Girls: Blah, blah, blah.
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You: Ok, nice talking to you guys.
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And, then youre off to do it again! Dont complicate this... it is
simple. Just go do it, ok? Dont over think it. Dont worry about
what theyll say. None of it matters. This is about YOU getting
better at a skill... the SKILL of starting a conversation and
running a routine. Thats it.
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Opener 2: Malibu Black Snuck Up on Me (mixed set)
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You: Any of you like Malibu rum?
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Group: blah, blah, blah.
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You: I was on a date and this girl kept ordering them for us
and I was like Ok, this has no alcohol I can have a few of
these. Plus they were really good so I just kept drinking. Shit,
was I wrong! All the sudden I could hardly focus my eyes! I
found out later from the waitress it was Malibu Black -- thats
double the alcohol as regular Malibu. Stay way from that stuff.
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Group: blah, blah, blah.
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You: Ok, nice talking to you guys.
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And, youre done. Now, dont worry about these not being
true. You can make up something similar that is true if you
want, just dont stray too far. Im not advocating lying. You DO
NOT need to lie to get a girlfriend or a date. But, you arent
trying to do that now. Right now you are merely practicing a
skill and thats the skill of opening, not getting a girlfriend. In
the future, when you are really trying to get a girlfriend you
will know enough to create your own routines taken from
your real life experiences.
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After each night you go out I want you to write down what
happened. I want you to write down as much of the
conversation as you can. I want you to write down what you
observed and put a date on it. The reason youre doing this is
to help your recall AND to keep things in your awareness so
you can begin to notice patterns. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT!
Please, please, please do it.
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Tease Her Mercilessly!

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There is a difference between incredibly beautiful women, pretty
women and average women. (Im assuming you do not want an ugly
woman, ha).
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The difference is in how men react to them. The incredibly beautiful
woman truly experiences a different life. No one holds her accountable.
Everyone (especially men) kiss her ass. She gets opportunities to go to
exotic places, see bands, etc, etc, etc all for free.
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That is why you CANNOT treat her like shes special. Everyone does. So
you should tease her. Mercilessly. But, remember that part of this guide
where I said WHO says something makes a difference to its effect? You
do? Great!
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Were now going to make sure we are taking that account because it
probably isnt going to go over very well if a Stranger just walks up and
teases her.
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So, youre going to tease her only after youve got her group interested in
you. That will happen somewhere after youve gotten through your
opener. Not real long... maybe a minute or two after youve opened.
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This makes you different. Every other guy who has gone over there will
kiss her ass. Youre so pretty. blah, blah, blah or just be boring (Where
do you work, what do you do, where were you born, boring, boring,
boring).
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Let me make a point: This is part of an attitude that you are not going to
take her crap. Everyone does. She has a love/hate relationship with that.
She often thinks people are not trustworthy because of this. She feels
like shes not getting real feedback and so cant improve. You will be a
breath of fresh air.
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But, I must reiterate... It is not necessary or in any way useful to be mean
about it. This is a playful not going to take your bs little girl attitude. If
youve ever seen Harrison Ford in Raiders of The Lost Ark movies
imagine how hed do it but with a little more playfulness.
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So, for the next mission youll need several teases and several
conversational themes. You will open like you did before but this time
you will focus on TEASING your TARGET once or twice and getting into a
conversational THEME before ending the conversation.
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So, lets do it. 50 more groups on this mission.
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Mission #2: Teases and Themes
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I LOVE teasing girls! They get so funny. A lot of times theyll
start acting like little spoiled kids. So hilarious.
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Here are a few of my teases:
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I say one of these after she says something, no matter what it
is. Make sure you SMILE when you say it, too. And, dont let it
become the subject of the conversation. You want to move on
right after that.
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CJ: Ok, who brought their little sister to the bar?
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CJ: Is she always like this? You can dress her up but you just
cant take her anywhere. (Mystery used this in front of me on a
bootcamp and the girl who had previously seemed annoyed by
his presence was suddenly incredibly attracted to him. Ive
used it hundreds of times since then and had the same
reaction.)
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CJ: Umm, Note to self DONT date this girl and laugh and
smile REAL BIG because this can be taken harshly.
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The key as I said above is to say it playfully while smiling real
big and then MOVE ON.
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Now, what are you going to move onto? One of your favorite
conversational themes.
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Mine are: places in the city I like to go to and why, traveling all
over the world, adventures I am going to do in the future or
have done (Scuba, spear fishing, boating), UFOs and ghosts -
are they real?)
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I could talk about any of those for quite a while. So, for this
mission you want to open, tease, get into a conversation with
the group about one of your themes.
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You might not tease during the opening conversation, you
might get into a theme first.
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Either way, make sure you get in a tease before you exit the
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Thatd look weird. Stick around another few minutes
discussing your theme before gracefully exiting.
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It WILL help you to write down your own themes and then for
each one write down 5-7 statements about it you think people
will find interesting.
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There you have it. Fifty sets over the next week!
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Mission #3: Qualify Her and

Secure a Future Date
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By now, you should feel like you are pretty good at opening
and getting into a conversation. If you dont feel that way then
I suggest doing mission #2 over again. Remember, you are
gaining a SKILL. It is silly to move onto a higher skill when you
do not feel comfortable in a lower-level, foundational skill.
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Remember earlier when I said that really beautiful women get
treated differently? How theyre always getting their ass kissed?
In most mens eyes they are qualified to be their sexual partner
just because they are beautiful. That should not be true for
you. She should have MORE than just her good looks going for
her.
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You want to make that clear to her. That will also set you apart
from all other desperate men who are constantly kissing her
ass.
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You do this with a Qualification Statement.
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But, youd only do this after first checking if shes married or
there with her boyfriend. Its the polite thing to do and will
save you lots of trouble. So, before this you want to ask, How
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If it turns out she is not with her boyfriend or husband THEN
you can move into Qualifying her with one of the statements
below, or one you make up.
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(Youd use only ONE of these examples).
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CJ: Youre cute. What else do you have going for you besides
your looks? (a variation of Mysterys more complex and lengthy
routine)
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CJ: What do you want to be when you grow up? And, dont say
Princess!
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CJ: What do you do in life when youre not out at bars hitting
on ridiculously semi-handsome guys? (gesturing to myself)
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Dont take what she says too seriously. In fact, many women
will lock up. Theyve probably NEVER been asked this before.
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If she cant say anything or kind of locks up just say something
like, Thats ok. I have a good intuition about people. I think
you have substance.
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At this point, if you havent already invited her to an area away
from her friends do so. Remember, the principle we covered
earlier that said WHO else around could hear the conversation
modifies its effects? You dont want her worrying about what
her friends are going to think/say about what youve said or
what she said. So, either right before or right after
Qualification you should try to get her away from her friends
for a bit. How?
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CJ: You seem interesting. Lets go over there and chat for a
minute.
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If she says yes, then look at her friends and say, Im going to
borrow your friend for a few minutes. Well be right over there
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If she says no, dont get flustered. She might not be ready yet.
Fine, its ok. At this point, qualify her if you havent already...
or, if you have then tease her a lot more as you discuss one of
your themes.
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After you ask her the Qualification question, if she does
happen to say something interesting then reward her on it.
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Woman: Well, Im really nice!
CJ: Thats great! If more people were nice Earth would be a
better place. Thats interesting.
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Woman: Im a good kisser!
CJ: Hm... Ok, lets find out!
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(That has actually happened MORE than once. You can also be
a little more suspenseful and say, Well see. Give me another
example. Then, after she does that you can say, Ive been
thinking about the first one too long then move in for the
kiss.)
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Now, you want to go back to or use again one of your themes
for a few more minutes before you do the next thing.
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NEVER just get her number. If you get her number all you are
doing is buying an opportunity to chase her into a date. Set it
up then and there while she is experiencing your MAGIC!
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Youll have better chances. Trust me.
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What I do is have something setup for later in the week that
most people would be interested in.
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CJ: Hey, my friends and I are going to meet up to Sunday night
to see this new band play at xyz place. You should come
along.
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This is called a TimeBridge because you are bridging between
NOW and a future date when you will see her again.
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The fact that you are talking about your friends relieves some
pressure of a one-on-one date. Giving her what you will do
makes it more real in her mind. Telling her were does that as
well and saying you should come along also relieves the
pressure that it is going to be a long, intimate, one-on-one
date with a lot of pressure.
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If she says, yes then you trade numbers with her and go back
to a normal conversation for a few minutes. You do NOT want
to end off right when you get her number!
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Do Mission #3 on 50 sets! That doesnt mean you have to
TimeBridge 50 sets.. it means you OPEN and get as far as you
can through the mission for each set.
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Mission #4: Sexualize the Conversation

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Ok, by now you shouldve gotten a few lovely ladies to talk to
you one-on-one. Further, a few of those should have agreed to
meet you a few days later for a date!
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If thats not the case dont fret. What we are about to do will
help you. If you were not able to get women to agree to be
with you one-on-one or you are not at all confident you can do
it well then go and redo Mission #3 for another 50 sets.
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If so, then, lets move on... this is the FUN part!
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What we want to do is follow Mission #3 all the way until you
get her alone but BEFORE you ask for the TimeBridge you are
going to sexualize things a bit. This WILL IMPROVE the amount
of numbers you get as well as the number of women who
actually show up for the date.
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Youve got her alone. You have qualified her. The conversation
is going well. Now lets sexualize it.
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CJ: Hmmm... I want to find something out. Have you ever
taken the Strawberry Fields test?
Girl: Ummm.. no, what is it?
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Now, you and her stand up if youre not already standing. You
stand next to her and gesture out in front of you like youre
pointing out a field.
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CJ: Youre walking around and you come across a strawberry
field. How high is the fence?
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If she has any hesitation at all just say, Show me with your
hands how high.
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CJ: Ok, you get over the fence, how many strawberries do you
eat?
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Girl: 5! (or, whatever number)
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CJ: Oh my god! Five! Wow! (while shaking your head)
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The girl will usually go what? what? why are you surprised? or
something like that.
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Dont answer her. Just press on.
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CJ: Ok, what about the farmer?
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No the girl will say something like, What about him? or Did
he see me? or Is he good looking?
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CJ: Wow! First 5 strawberries now this?!
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It doesnt really matter because the overall interpretation will
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CJ: Ok, heres the interpretation. The fence has to do with
your goals. You set them high but not so high you cant reach
them. Thats good.
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CJ: Now, the strawberries! I still cant believe this... you said
five.. oh my god... well, that has to do with your sex drive.
Most people say two! And, you said five! Youd have me
handcuffed to the bed Im sure!
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They will usually laugh or say its true or say something like
for the right person! or similar.
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CJ: Ok, the farmer. The farmer has to do with societys rules
and regulations regarding relationships, you said, What about
him? that means you do your own thing in that area forget
what society says! That is good.
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That right there accomplishes these things: Youve
complimented her on your goal setting, youve told her she has
an above average sex drive, youve told her she doesnt care
what others think about that and said that is a good thing.
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See how that would make her feel MUCH better regarding her
sexuality!?
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It does. Its the closest thing to magic Ive ever seen.
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After this go back to normal conversational themes for a few
minutes.
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But, throw in something like this: You know, I like what youre
saying but sometimes its a little hard to concentrate because I
think your eyes are really sexy.
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Ive seen women bite their lips and blush on many occasions
when Ive said something like this.
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Why? Because now WHO is saying it? You, the MAN who has
told her that her sexuality is good, a MAN who is interesting,
who can hold a conversation not only with her but with her
friends and who can make her feel all sorts of GREAT feelings.
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But, if you were to go right up to her and say that right after
first meeting her what do you think would happen? Shed blow
you off like any of the other 100 guys who started a
conversation by telling her she was pretty or should be a
model or whatever.
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Can you think of others? By the way, you only need to say one
or two of these. Ive gone as high as three but never much
more than that because it can be too much.
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Here are a few that Ive used:
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CJ: Can you repeat that last sentence, I keep on getting
distracted by your nice lips. Im going to kiss them at some
point.
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Sounds super cheesy doesnt it?
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Well, in the context, it fits right in and it hits them like an atom
bomb! It is building that sexual tension that most men dont
realize women mean by Romance.
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After delivering the Strawberry Fields routine and a few
statements like the above THEN go for the TimeBridge.
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I bet you get more to say yes and I bet they are more likely to
actually MEET up with you later.
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Now, remember that you should stick around for a while after
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after getting the TimeBridge.
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Mission #5: Deep Connection

By now you should be having some wonderful sexually charged
interactions with the most beautiful women youve ever talked to.
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If youve found it difSicult then I suggest going back to one of the earlier
missions and putting in some extra work. Usually a problem with a
mission is NOT in the mission itself. It is usually that some earlier
mission was not fully completed or the skill it handles needs more
practice.
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So, for this mission you are going to do just like Mission #4 but after
delivering Strawberry Fields (or a similar one youve created) you are
going to deliver what I call a Heart Melter which is some story from
your life that will make a girl go awwww.
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Ill post a few of mine so you get a feel for them but I dont recommend
them... You should make your own but you can use these to see how they
are structured.
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ASTRONAUT
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CJ: When I was younger I wanted to be an astronaut. My dad thought it
was cool. Any time wed go to meet family or friends hed say, My son is
going to be an astronaut. He even bought me this huge globe of earth
and put it in my room. Id go to the other side of the room and pretend I
was Sloating in space and the earth was far away. But, then I changed my
mind and I was so afraid my dad was going to be disappointed. So one
day I said, Dad I need to tell you something. Sit down. and he looked at
me kind of confused. Finally, I broke it to him, Dad... Ive decided I dont
want to be an astronaut anymore. He said, Thats Sine, son. You can be
whatever you want. I was so relieved.
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Ive had women get tears in their eyes on this one. But the next one I am
going to tell you has put quite a few of them in tears.
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CJ: You know how you can tell someone is talking about something
serious on the phone by their voice even if you cant hear every word -
just by their tone? When I was about 7 or 8 or so I heard my moms voice
like that while I was playing in my room. I got close to my door and
listened. She was worried about paying the light bill she didnt know
how shed get the money. So, the next day I put a lot of my toys in this
wagon and sold them to other kids in the neighborhood. I took the
money to my mom and said, Hey, I heard you on the phone. Heres $18
for the light bill.
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You see how those would get her all emotional, haa? This causes a huge
contrast in her mind. Youre not a horny guy, now youre this complex
and REAL person with a past.
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It changes everything. They dont HAVE to be used after the sexual
framing portions. Ive used them Sirst with the same impact. You can see
for yourself if you prefer a different order.
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So, go out and do another batch of 50 and see how that changes things!
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Mission #6: Improvement

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Ok, you should be getting numbers now and dates as well. If youre not
take a look at how closely youre following the mission instructions and
redo them to gain the associated skill.
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What I want you to do on this mission is simply go out and open 50 sets
this time getting as many numbers as you can. Try to beat your previous
numbers.
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Go back through all of your previous mission reports and see if theres
something you need to work on and think of how youd improve it.
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What To Do On A Date

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Ok, so now you shouldve gotten quite a few women agreeing to meet
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will often text them later that night or the next day something simple
like, Great talking to you! Seven strawberries wow!
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Then, Ill text or call and invite them out.
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When I get them out I keep it fairly low key and romantic. I give her a
soft hug when I see her. You dont have to spend money. Have a fairly
normal conversation and then compliment her on something (non-
sexual). Her smile. Her eyes. Her sense of humor. Her clothing. Her hair.
One is plenty. Too many gets a bit uncomfortable.
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Throughout the date you want to increase the touching. Light at Sirst.
Dont be grabby. Touch her arm or shoulder Sirmly but not hard. Leave
the soft touches to wimps.
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If shes responding well then get closer. If you guys are in a booth, have
her sit next to you. Move out to a patio or to the bar so theres not a
massive table between you.
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Now, let her know that her beauty is having an effect on you. Not Oh my
god! You are so beautiful! How are you NOT a model already?
Something simple like in the earlier missions. You have amazing lips.
The other night I couldnt stop thinking about kissing them. Got it?
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Im not giving a list of them because if youve picked the right woman for
you there will be PLENTY that is attractive to you that you can
compliment her on. Make it sincere.
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If you guys havent kissed by now then I suggest waiting for a pause and
saying, Wait! Hold that thought. and leaning over and kissing her
lightly for a few seconds then ending it. You dont want to go on too long.
You want to break it off before her. Leave her wanting more. Her heart
will be racing and thats how you want it but, you do NOT want her to
become too self-conscious about kissing in public and ending it.
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No, you only want her to feel good, feel comfortable, and feel like shes
having an amazing effect on you. After all, why did she go through an
hour or more of clothing, doing her hair, applying her make-up and
shaving her legs? To have an amazing effect on you. Make sure to let her
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This is all fairly simple. It is a skill and it requires practice. But, nothing
quite beats have a beautiful woman staring at you like you are a Prince
and hoping she can be your Princess. So, go get good at it.
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Conclusion

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The key to all of this is practice. You have to do the drills (the
missions) to get the skills. Meeting and getting women
interested in you IS A SKILL. And, as youve seen you can use
these missions to develop the skill.
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Enjoy your new adventures!
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~ Captain Jack ~

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