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Youwillbeconveyingtoyouraudienceyourideasaboutlove.Forsupportoroppositiontoyour
ideasaboutlove,refertowhatthecharactersdoandsayinLawrencesandCarversstories.
GivecloseattentiontothewaybothLawrenceandCarvercreatetypesofemotionaland
intellectualperspectivesinhischaractersthroughdialogue.Includeparentheticalcitationsfor
yourdirectquotesfromthestories.Forcredit,youmustrefertobothstories.Write
approximately300500words.
Love stems from a unique combination of passion, affection and desire. Love can vary from
person to person, making it subjective rather than absolute. This ever-changing concept of love is
the opposite of Mels idea of love, You'd have to know the particulars. But I think what you're
saying is that love is an absolute (Carver 2). As Mel argues that Eds love for Terrie was not
real, he tries to give a definitive explanation of what love is, making it seem as if love is
something one can identify. However, Mel later stumbles upon issues with his concept of love,
There was a time when I thought I loved my first wife more than life itself. But now I hate her
guts. (Carver 5). Mels struggle to understand the ephemeral nature of his feelings illustrates
the complexity of love, that it is not black and white. Rather, love is different depending on the
situation and people involved. While certain couples have the ability to love each other for the
entirety of their relationship, others like Mel and his ex-wife only experienced periods of love.
As such, love is a subjective matter, as it cannot be explained definitively - it varies depending
on the situation.
In D.H Lawrences story, this fleeting concept of love is illustrated by Isabels relationship with
her husband, Maurice. While it is clear that she loves her husband at times, periodically she is
overwhelmed by a negative and depressing feeling. In those moments, her love for her husband
seems to dissipate, after months of this intensity, a sense of burden overcame Isabel, a
weariness, a terrible ennui (Lawrence). This shift in emotions that Isabel experiences supports
the concept that Mel struggles with, that love can inexplicably change over time. Not only does
her love shift, but it becomes a dark emotion, weariness and burden. While these are not the
same as the hate Mel has for his ex-wife, Isabels feelings for her husband in these moments
cannot be described as love, but rather as an unhealthy emotion that brings her down. Both of
these examples show that as strong as love is, it is sensitive to the conditions that it comes from.
Ultimately, it is up to the individuals involved to recognize their feelings as love and to embrace
it.
Carver, Raymond. What We Talk about When We Talk about Love. New York: Vintage, 1981.
Lawrence, D.H. The Blind Man. The Literature Network, Accessed 9 January 2017.
Between these two stories, love seems to appear as a concept that changes, depending on the
circumstances surrounding a relationship. One thing can be said with utmost certainty regarding
the fleeting concept of love, that it brings people together with happiness and a sense of
belonging. This is seen in the final scene where Maurice touches Berties face that brought a
curious elation about Maurice (Lawrence). Somehow this physical encounter that Maurice uses
to convey his emotions brings this blind man up with a new positive energy the powers of love
are never-ending.
Bring up the discussion about how it is difficult to evaluate situations without being there and
connect that to how love is subjective, it differs from person to person and with time. Thats why
people can fall out of love over time, or come to love other people
Notes on Carver: