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ON THE COVER:
Kristen Fairchild welcomes you to her country farmhouse
by Donna Cronk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 5-7
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HOME SWEET HOME:
Essay winner shares what made her childhood home special
by Ruth Ann Willis. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 8-9
Farmhouse home place means many
happy memories for Kennard writer
by Janet Sparks . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 10-11
Her heart will always belong to home
by Lynda Alberson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Page 12
House in the country is her haven
18 20
by Trista Hill . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 13-14
Helping the kids search for home
by Lisa Perry. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Page 15
To all the homes Ive loved before
by Donna Cronk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 18-19
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HER ARTFUL HEART:
Thoughts on stocking the larder
by Cheryl K. Bennett. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 20-21
VIEW FROM MY PORCH:
How Sadie captured my heart
by Sandy Moore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 22-23
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MOMSENSE:
Staying put is comforting decision
by Katie Clontz . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Page 24
HER SERVICE:
Cancer survivor offers feedback in unique way
by Beth Schulte . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 25, 27
HER HEALTH:
Check out these womens health guidelines
by Nancy Lewis . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Pages 26-27
The award-winning Her magazine for women is published in winter, spring,
IN THE KITCHEN WITH BLAISE: summer and fall by The Courier-Times, 201 S. 14th St., New Castle, IN 47362.
Snack crackers that are worth the wait To comment on content, contact Donna Cronk, 765-575-4657;
by Blaise Doubman . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Page 28 email: dcronk@thecouriertimes.com. For advertising, contact Stacie
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Enter to win useful recipe book . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Page 29 Publisher: Bob Hansen
Magazine editor: Donna Cronk
HER CALENDAR: Advertising director: Stacie Wrightsman
Upcoming events around the area . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Page 30 Circulation director: Jack Hutcheson
HER TAKE TWO: Graphic designer: Susan Curtis
Photos from Donna Cronks trip to Washington D.C. . . . .Page 31
her magazine for women page 3 Winter 2017
On HER mind By Donna Cronk, her editor
Thoughts
of home
and hearth
Photo provided
Katie Clontz, Donna Cronk and Susan Curtis celebrate this magazines
first-place award as best feature section in the annual Hoosier State
T
Press Associations Better Newspaper Contest in December.
heres no place like it. Home. Our Home Sweet Home Essay Contest winner is Ruth
In this winter issue, the cover stories center on the
Ann Willis who shares fond memories of her birthplace and
theme of Home Sweet Home. childhood home. Other beautiful essays came from Linda
On the cover is the beautiful Kristen Fairchild in the
Alberson and Janet Sparks, sharing the personal love they feel
doorway of her familys vintage homestead. Kristen and her
for the homes they grew up in.
husband have restored the home and lled it with a farm and
Youll also read about Trista Hills Country Haven, and my
cattle theme, reecting their business and interests. Just wait
tribute to all the homes Ive loved.
until you see some of the clever ways she has decorated the
Cheryl K. Bennetts Artful Heart is found in the kitchen
space. where you can cook a big pot of chili right along with her.
Sandy Moore shares about her love of writing and horses and
shows pictures of her beloved horse, Sadie, visiting with a
couple of children who stopped by. Sadie is the main subject
of Sandys new book, Sadies Search for Home, available
at The Courier-Times and from Sandy.
Registered nurse Nancy Lewis educates us on some tests
we need as women, and The Farmers Almanac sent along a
book of readers favorite recipes that one lucky her magazine
reader will win in an upcoming drawing. (But of course you
Gifts, must enter to win.)
On a different note, in case you didnt see it in The Courier-
Home Times, Im pleased to tell you that this magazine won a big
award at the December Hoosier State Press Association
Decor, Newsroom Seminar and Better Newspaper Contest. We won
rst place among newspapers of our general size in the Best
and Feature Section category.
On hand to accept the award in Indianapolis on behalf of
Surprises... the newspaper were yours truly, MomSense columnist and
Courier-Times Managing Editor Katie Clontz and maga-
zine and newspaper designer, Susan Curtis. I want to thank
everyone all of our regular columnists, contributors, contest
all of your Funeral entrants, advertisers and our readers for keeping this maga-
needs with quality silk zine interesting. Well keep making magazines if youll keep
reading them.
arrangements Meanwhile, always feel free to contact me with story ideas,
comments, photos or just to say hi. Stay warm and cozy this
All with FREE Local Delivery!
winter and well see you back for the spring edition.
Tis the Season Gifts and Sherrys Flowers
Donna Cronk is editor of this magazine and edits the
1206 Broad St, Downtown New Castle Neighbors section of The Courier-Times. She is author of two
Call 529-7600 or 465-7025 Hours 9-4 Mon-Sat novels, That Sweet Place and At Home in the Heartland and
(Sundays by choice) enjoys giving programs with themes relating to the books or
to writing.
Winter 2017 page 4 her magazine for women
home SWEET home COVER STORY
Vintage
farmhouse
gets modern
update
K
By Donna Cronk
risten Fairchild always wanted to live on a farm,
and be a farm girl. She didnt get that chance
growing up in Greeneld.
But I always wanted to be, so I ended up in the right
spot, she says.
She married Brent, a Tri High School graduate, whose
background is raising beef cattle. The couple now raise a
herd of about 300, with the cattle placed in on their own
and in other area pastures. His folks are Doug and Paige Photo provided
Fairchild, local farmers. Brent and Kristen Fairchild with some of their cattle.
For the past two-and-a-half years, theyve called home
a farmhouse on Ind. 103 South, between New Castle and
Lewisville. When they initially looked at the house, she The Highest
didnt want it. Turns out that one of her objections had an QualityAt the
easy remedy. She was concerned about the couples dogs
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And while they had thought of tearing down the old Since day one at Sproles Family
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It is so good to see young people love the place, Mike will not have to make dicult
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her magazine for women page 5 Winter 2017
Continued from page 5
After Mikes parents died,
Tyler Powell purchased the
house and some ground,
selling it later to the Fair-
childs.
Heart-warming
Another Moore family
member, Heather Gorman,
granddaughter of Byron and
Evelyn, calls the trans-
formation amazing. It is
incredibly heart-warming to
see the house being loved
the same way our family
once loved and enjoyed it,
says Gorman. The Fair-
childs have breathed new
life into the house and cre-
Donna Cronk / C-T photos ated a beautiful home.
The rural New Castle home of Brent and Kristen Fairchild has been on Ind. 103 South for more than a cen-
tury. Generations of the Moore family owned it and it now belongs to the Fairchilds.
The front part of the
house dates from the 1840s
and the back was added in
the 1860s.
On the exterior, updates
include re-siding the house,
adding and furnishing
a front porch, They in-
stalled Fairchild Livestock
signs out front near the
driveway entrances.
When entering through
the front door, the eyes
go immediately to the
staircase. The Fairchilds
cleverly upcycled metal
from a shed on the property
on the backs of the steps.
This corrugated metal
siding was used in various
ways throughout the home,
including as backing on
Kristen Fairchild with the gate she cleverly installed Kristens cowgirl boots become part of the kitchen built-in shelves in the living
to corral the family dogs. decor when tucked under a boot bench. room and backsplashes in
the kitchen.
To the right of the stairs
is a room the couple turned
into an ofce. Its their
Cattle farming is the favorite room and in-
theme of the home, cludes cattle art and motifs
and certainly apparent throughout the space.
in the living room with Between the left side of
the Hoosier cattle skull the stairs and the living
and other touches
room is a hallway that leads
to the kitchen. Separating
including the ottoman
Kristen fashioned.
Note the upcycled the kitchen and hallway is a
metal on the shelving. black-painted outdoor gate
that would be adorable if
only for show, but it serves
the purpose of keeping the
familys dogs out of the
Winter 2017 page 6 her magazine for women
front part of the house as
needed.
Clever use of metal
The kitchen was gutted
and redone. The corrugated
metal is a sturdy and unique
backdrop that works well
with the stainless appli-
ances. The bright white
cabinets are topped with
antique farm signs and tins.
The laundry room is
distinctive for its barn-wood
countertop over the washer
and dryer and more white
cabinets. The room is off
the kitchen for easy access.
Also behind the kitchen is a
room currently used by the
familys pets but could eas-
ily be another bedroom.
Back in the front of the
house, the living rooms
focal point is the skull of an
Indiana cow, taxidermied
by Billy Gardner of Spice-
land. Kristen designed and
created an ottoman for her
husband. The room is full
of country and farmhouse-
styled cattle-motif items.
Ive had a full vision
of what we wanted and it
turned out perfect, says The stairwaywas updated with metal cut and up- Rustic boards make a useful counter over the
Kristen. cycled from a shed on the property. washer and dryer in the laundry room.
Ive had a full vision of what we wanted and it turned out perfect.
Kristen Fairchild
The front porch has cheery seating, including a porch swing hung The Fairchilds kitchen continues the rural theme.
with rope.
her magazine for women page 7 Winter 2017
home SWEET home
Childhood
home will always
bring sweet
memories
M
WINNER By Ruth Ann Willis the kitchen table up to the sink for me to
lie on. I put my head in the sink and she
y home sweet home will washed my hair. My sister got the same
always be my birthplace and treatment.
childhood home. This was a big, My sister was two years younger and
10-room farmhouse and was my play- she and I played in the house, especially
house until I was 10-years-old. on the stairs. Our favorite was playing
The house had four bedrooms upstairs church. We took turns leading the singing
plus another room that was a combination while the other one sat on the steps as the
storage/junk room/playroom. We had a congregation.
bathroom upstairs but its use was limited Another favorite activity was riding our
in winter because the upstairs was not tricycles through the entire downstairs, in
heated. Downstairs was the parlor, living and out of all the rooms. For diversion,
HOME SWEET room, dining room, kitchen, enclosed we would spread newspapers to ride on,
back porch, and the Old Room. A porch thinking the sound was like tires on wet
HOME ESSAY stretched across the front of the house. pavement.
CONTEST The front door opened on an entry hall We played house in the dining room,
with the parlor on the left, living room under the table. With blankets hang-
to the right. The stairs went up from this ing down over the sides, it made a cozy
entry, and the hall led to the Old Room. playroom. My sister and I spent many
The Old Room got its name because hours with our dolls and dishes under the
it was the original log cabin built by my dining room table.
grandfather. Later, he built the rest of the In summer, the yard was our playroom.
house around the log cabin so we always We liked to take our table and chairs,
called it the Old Room. All the materi- dishes and dolls outside. The yard had
als for the log cabin and the new house lots of trees and bushes, which made it
were taken from the property. Even the easy to make rooms to play in.
gravel to make the concrete and stucco The house and farm were sold and we
were from the river that ran through the moved away when I was 10. After many
farm. years of neglect, the house was on the
The Old Room had a replace that verge of being bulldozed when a young
had been closed and unused for years. couple became interested and purchased
There was a small lavatory room that the farm.
served as the downstairs powder room. They began restoring the house and re-
Central heat meant a one-register searched the history, becoming aware of
furnace that could heat only the down- the rich ancestry of the house. I am grate-
stairs rooms. Wintertime bathing was ful that it was saved to provide memories
accomplished at the kitchen sink or in a for another generation.
tin washtub. Ruth Ann Willis is a New Castle resi-
On Saturday nights, Mother pushed dent.
Winter 2017 page 8 her magazine for women
Ruth Ann Willis has wonderful
memories of her childhood home.
My home
sweet home
will always be my
birthplace and
Photos provided
childhood home. Ruth Ann Willis won our Home Sweet Home Essay Contest with a story about this house, her childhood
home.
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By Janet Sparks good thoughts of the past.
The house was completed. I knew I wanted
y farm-family roots run deep: 154 to think about all the memories the old house
years deep, to be exact. The prop- held and share that with my dad and siblings.
erty I was raised on has been in our I presented the framed poem to them at our
family since 1863. The house I was raised 2010 family Christmas as we set in the beau-
in was built later than that, but was the only tiful comfy living room of the new house.
childhood home I knew. My parents went The structure I knew as a child is gone, but
to housekeeping in the farmhouse and lived the memories I have written on paper can be
there for forty-some years. read repeatedly when I look up from my desk
In 1991, my parents let my brother and his and see the framed poem on the wall.
Janet Sparks family move into the house, giving him better
access to the farm operation. The feeling of Our Farmhouse
my childhood farmhouse was still there when Down Rush County way a year or so ago
my family and I visited. Stood a stately looking white house on our
Over time, the mechanics of situations farm
change. My brother wanted to remodel my Surrounded by corn and soybean elds all
childhood house and make it easier to heat in a row,
and for upkeep purposes. The upstairs of the Giving that house its homey country
two-level structure was to be torn off to make charm.
it a one-story house. My feelings were mixed, From the cool eerie stone block basement
but I knew that would make a better situation To the long corridor attics on the top oor,
for my brother. Growing up in that two story house repre-
It was hard as I drove by seeing all the sent
windows missing from my childhood home, Many wonderful childhood memories
making it appear as an abandoned property. galore.
I comforted myself knowing that the down- Moms homemade beef and noodles being
stairs would look the same with many new elegantly served
improvements. In the dining room on the built in glass
Not too long after my drive-by look, I was door buffet
told there had been an unforeseen issue with Being consumed by hungry guests sitting
the remodeling. My childhood home had the round the table with reserve
misfortune of being in the path of a tornado While visiting and discussing news of the
in the 1940s and another one in the 1990s. day.
The rst one took the back off the house. The Recalling evenings spent in the living room
second storm only did minor damage. When Watching Purdue play basketball on our
the contractor looked closer into the remodel- one and only TV
ing, it was discovered the house was shifting While popcorn and homemade grape juice
off its foundation. The contractor advised to were being consumed
take down what was remaining and build an And my dad giving his armchair opinions
all new house. That was very hard for me. to the referees.
Acts of nature can take down a building, Many winter nights were spent in the cold
but memories continue to ll the mind with frosty windowed upstairs
Winter 2017 page 10 her magazine for women
Photos provided by Janet Sparks
Janets childhood home on a beautiful winters day.
A
By Lynda Alberson
their favorite foods. She gave advice and lec-
s a young one, I thought my house was tures if needed. You spent time here, you got
ugly. It had white stone (or whatever), her two cents. Dad gave rides to a few. Even if
and was the only one in the neighbor- they started walking, he caught up to them.
hood. The rule was simple. Respect the house and
Later I saw it as a blessing. I told people to the people in it. I dont just mean the kids had
look for the bedrock-looking house. The joy to respect the adults; the adults had to respect
was inside. My home is where all hung the kids. Mom and dad xed up the
out, be it family or friends. Did basement with an old, black and
Mom greet everyone like Mar- white television, radio, record
Lynda Alberson
tha Stewart? That is a no. One player and a pool table.
holiday, not sure if it was They were sneaky. They
Thanksgiving or Christmas, knew my friends would
but Mom, probably from want to go down there and
my nagging, set the table I would gure out a way
fancy with more than the to get down there. I did
good china. I was happy and didnt realize it was
until my aunt and cousin got exercise. I was with my
here. friends. In the summer we
This has always been a make had the garden. We would sit
yourself-at-home kind of house. outside and talk to neighbors. It
Well, they wanted to play poker. was never too late to call or visit.
Mom was like, but I got the My parents fed a lot of people. How,
table set. I dont know.
They were like, Thats OK Dayton, Maybe because they didnt need a
we only need one end. date night or to go out. They enjoyed
They moved stuff and played un- family, playing cards, watching televi-
til time to eat. Mom never said a word, sion, listening to laughter. Why do go
just shot me a look. I headed for when fun at home is cheap? If
the safety of my room as dad The rule was my home could talk it would
laughed. Mom never set the simple. Respect have many stories to tell joy-
table with more than her good ful and sad. There has been a
china after that. the house and the lot of life lived in this home.
The table would never be on people in it. I watch as a few of my
a magazine cover but it lled friends grew up and now do
many with food and love. My folks were with their families in some ways what they
never Mr. or Mrs. You visit twice and you used saw my parents do. What a great compli-
rst names or they frankly they didnt answer ment to them. My heart swells with pride as
you. Four of my friends called her Mom. To I think about it. This house has been a home
many this house seemed odd because if some- to my family since 1962. It has brought joy to
one rang the bell, they are new. No one knocks many the ones that dwelled within as well as
they just come on in and usually yelled, Any- neighbors and family. It has provided comfort
one home? in times or sorrow, as well as safety in times
My home was never spotless. How could it of fear. I know this home hugged many and
be with pets, friends and family always here? made a few ne adults.
I was never ashamed of it for it was home. This old house is a good home made with
People knew if they spilled something, no big love and laughter. I am proud of my home.
deal was made. Moms joy was seeing people Lynda Alberson is a New Castle resident.
Winter 2017 page 12 her magazine for women
home SWEET home
Home is my
sanctuary
in the world
O
ByTrista Hill to order our day. This also helped me be
more productive during the morning hours
ne of my favorite places to be when the kids were in better moods.
in this whole wide world is my Step 2: Tidy the kitchen. Even if noth-
home. It is where I feel the safest, ing else seems to get done, I make sure to
the most real and the most at peace. Even wash the dishes and wipe off the counters
with three teenagers in the house and the before bed.
busyness that comes from having lots of When my children were toddlers, a
people in and out, I nd my home to be friend told me that she felt immediately
magically refreshing. defeated each morning if she came out
There is nothing and I do mean noth- to a messy kitchen. I committed to trying
ing fancy about my home. Almost ev- it for a week, and I could not believe the Trista Hill
erything we have has been used, repaired difference it made in my outlook for the
and re-used and probably more than day! Not only was I pleased with the way
once. Plus, we understand the insanity of things looked in my kitchen each morn-
putting our hard-earned money toward ing, I was much less overwhelmed by the
anything nice. We have three teenagers! thought of preparing meals that day.
We spend a lot of time in our house, so I started to look at my kitchen as
there are always messes that need cleaned my personal ofce space and worked
up, voices that really could be quieter on keeping it more user-friendly. If I
and long lists of things to do. I actually worked in a cubicle every day, I certainly
have trouble consistently getting from one wouldnt leave it covered with crusty
room to the other without taking on new leftovers from the day before!
projects along the way. Having said that, I Step 3: Allow plenty of time for sleep.
am rarely overwhelmed by my homemak- My children were well into their school
ing. It isnt that I am some sort of Wonder years before I stopped requiring a rest
Woman; I gave up that dream years ago! time for them each afternoon. They were
Its just that Ive learned the steps that also in bed early enough to get 10 hours
work for me in this dance. of sleep almost every night. Not only
Step 1: Beat the kids out of bed. I be- did this make them more pleasant little
gan this habit when I had three preschool- people, but it made me a more pleasant
ers, because I found myself playing catch young momma. Plus, the kids were less
up before I even dragged my head from vulnerable to all of the viruses we came
the pillow. I missed the best time of my across. Most of us work better when
day the quietness of the morning if I were well-rested.
slept in. Step 4: Schedule time for whats im-
This was hard for me for a couple of portant. I have caught a fair amount of
years, because I had a daughter who ak over this, but let me just say that our
thought 5:30 a.m. was a totally logical family has been paid big dividends in this
time for breakfast. As she got older, I area. As a young mother, I struggled with
found that I could count on her to look at committing to too many things of negli-
books or do puzzles quietly in her room gible importance to my family instead of
until I came to get her at 6:30. This al- honoring my commitments to them.
lowed time to shower, read my Bible and Continued on page 14
her magazine for women page 13 Winter 2017
My prayer is that I Continued from page 13 illustrating a point or giving glory to God.
The more overwhelmed I was, the more Step 9: Mark family time on the cal-
make our home a I shut downor lashed out. I learned that endar. I want to encourage you to set an
place that brings I needed time at home every week; I did appointment with your family and keep
not function well when I was on the run it as you would with a doctor, accountant
glory to God, four or ve days out of every seven. I also or nail tech. We have had weekly family
blesses all who learned that keeping a tidy house was more nights on our calendar for years, and they
manageable if I broke it up into smaller have become a cherished tradition. We also
enter it, honors my jobs that could be done daily bathrooms make it a point to eat together around the
husband with its on Mondays, laundry two days a week, table no phones, no TV, no interruptions
clean out the car every Friday, have guests as often as we possibly can. As the kids
peace and provides for supper every rst and third Wednesday. get older and get jobs, this becomes more
This not only helped me have a better- difcult, but I still make it a priority.
a delightful kept home, but it also greatly reduced my Step 10: Be part of the solution. There
sanctuary for our stress level. Yes, there are times when were too many years when I blamed too
life interrupts and things just do not go as many things on the people around me. I
children. Home planned, so exibility is certainly required. played the victim and felt sorry for myself
sweet home. I have found, though, that if I am mostly when life got hard and things didnt go my
making time for what is truly important to way. No one wants to live with a martyr. In
me (like my bathroom not smelling similar recent years, I have tried to not take myself
to a gas stations), I am much more ready too seriously.
for and reasonable about my life taking I have tried to forgive even when apolo-
unexpected turns. gies have not been made. I have also tried
Step 5: Shed the cape. Remember my to not keep score which is very, very
earlier mention of Wonder Woman? It is difcult for me. Ive also learned that even
an illusion that one woman can do it all if Im right, I can still go about things all
(without even smudging her make-up or wrong. The relationship is almost always
mussing her hair!). more important than the issue.
Step 6: Dont say everything you think. A few years ago, I bought a framed work
My home is much more peaceful when I of needle art that says, Home is dads king-
speak gently or choose not to speak at dom, moms world and a childs paradise.
all. I will say that Im still working on this This sums up my home for me. It is my
one more than I wish I was. world until God calls me to the next one.
Step 7: Be intentional about training My prayer is that I make our home a place
your kids. I went to college with a girl who that brings glory to God, blesses all who
didnt know how to get the core out of a enter it, honors my husband with its peace
head of lettuce or bake a potato. She also and provides a delightful sanctuary for our
drove 175 miles every four weeks for her children. Home sweet home.
mom to do her laundry. Trista Hill keeps house just outside of
I completely understand the desire to Mooreland, speaking at womens events and
feel needed by our children, but I certainly writing the occasional blog. Check her out
hope I dont put my selsh pride ahead of at www.livingfrommyabundance.wordpress.
my personal responsibility to prepare them com.
for the real world. If were still making
dental appointments for our adult children
on a regular basis, we may need to loosen
our grip a bit. Since my husband is a fam-
ily therapist, he has been fairly focused
on making sure our kids feel like theyre
part of what we do here the cleaning, the
cooking, the money-making, the playing,
the planning and the problem-solving.
Step 8: Be respectful. I have an amaz-
ing husband, but he sometimes gets on
my nerves. Repeatedly. I also know a few
people whom I love deeply but occasion-
ally drive me batty. Dave and I make it
a point to not share family drama with
the kids. We also have never shared our
relationship baggage with our children. If
we spill the beans about anyone, we do
so about ourselves and for the purpose of
Winter 2017 page 14 her magazine for women
home SWEET home
I
By Lisa Perry
New Castle resident Susan Falck-Neal had
ll see you in Hickory! the spoiled me rotten during my own horse-
sweater-clad brunette called trading back in April with her extremely
cheerily with a wave and a smile effective and professional realty service.
as she crawled into my son Tylers car. He As I suspected, the realtor couldnt
waited in the drivers seat. measure up to Susans standards. Im
The pair is moving to Hickory, NC, really not sure, Ill have to check into
next July when he accepts his new posi- that, and subject change peppered the
tion at a hospital there. We were traveling North Carolina Realtors responses, which
down after Thanksgiving at my house in did nothing to enamor Tyler and Sarah.
Virginia to explore houses for them to buy Or me. We set off a burglar alarm at one Lisa Perry
together. house and the realtor didnt know how to
For anyone keeping track, their reloca- remedy the situation, frantically pushing
tion to North Carolina from Florida is buttons on her cell phone. But then the
the latest in a long line of my childrens police showed up and got the situation
moves. I have daughters in Arizona, Ken- under control.
tucky, Ohio, Georgia and Indiana. I have No added stress there.
sons in South Carolina, Texas, Florida The experience creates a steep learn-
(soon to be North Carolina), Virginia, and ing curve for Tyler and Sarah, beset with
two in Ohio. My children move more than a completely new vocabulary: disclosure
Garry Kasparov at tournament time. form, easement, abstract, amortization,
I was thrilled to have been invited along appraisal, inspection, mortgage, earnest
on this fact-nding mission, as neither money, encroachment, and escrow, to
Sarah nor Tyler have experience pur- name only a few.
chasing a home. This will be their rst. I With each new vocabulary word came a
followed the pair in my minivan so that host of new to-do items for their list: get
after the appointment with the realtor, pre-approved at the bank. Order inspec-
they could turn south and continue to their tions. Ensure the house has clear title.
current Florida home. I would go north on Find a contractor to inspect the home for
Interstate 81 for my 3-plus hour return to estimates. Nail down which utility com-
Virginia after we were nished looking. It pany claims the easement.
sure beats 18 hours, so I am a very happy By the time we had toured each Hickory
Momma. home on the list, Tyler and Sarahs eyes
The excitement the two exhibited as we boasted more glaze than a Jacks Donuts
left my home was palpable, and brought tiger tail.
back memories of buying my own rst Mom, I think weve decided to rent
home. It never really mattered how big or for awhile, Tyler said when he called to
fancy the home was. What mattered was check in the next day.
always who was under the roof with me. I smiled to myself. I knew that buying
Wed planned the trip well in advance, or renting doesnt really matter, as long as
Tyler and Sarah requesting time off, con- wherever they end up, the square footage
tacting Realtors, making hotel reservations is big enough for two.
for stops along the way. Id lled the gas Henry County native Lisa Perry is
tank, programmed the GPS, and made sure former managing editor at The Courier-
all necessary research was completed for Times. She now lives in Virginia and con-
each house on the list. tinues to write periodic columns for The
I tried not to expect too much out of the Courier-Times and her magazine.
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but insisted that we enjoy as much bounty
he last time I graced Grandmoth- from the garden as we could eat.
er Jobes home was 1964, I was 6. And one time, at least, we sure could eat
Yet I can tell you more details about a lot. We ended up with some unexpected
the place that you would care to know, dinner guests. They were family members
from the layout of the kitchen to the blue moving another family member across state
velvety stuffed rocking chair and the Jesus and they arrived tired and hungry. Here we
picture on the wall in the living room to were in the boonies, out of reach for pizza
the dishes in the marble-topped buffet. I delivery and there wasnt a restaurant for
see it all now, as though watching it live. I miles. Oh, but we had a summer garden
Donna Cronk still have occasional dreams staged in that ripe for the picking. We picked, husked and
house, although it has been more than half boiled sweet corn so fast that Brian and I
a century since I was inside. could barely keep up with the demand. A
I grew up in exactly one home, my fam- blessing.
ilys small farmhouse, added onto when I The house had its aws, as all houses do.
was in rst grade. Its been 20 years since That long lane leading to our little abode on
my late mother lived there, 25 since my dad a hill was sweet in the summer, but in the
was alive, but if it werent for the complete winter, it was a constant threat. What ap-
remodel a family member recently did, I pears as a small incline when covered with
could nd myself around that house today green grass takes on the form of a mountain
in the dark and not miss a step. when covered with snow.
Married life We owned no tractor, only shovels, and
if the wind blew at all during a snowstorm,
Brian and I lived in a mobile home dur-
ing our rst three years of marriage and we were ofcially snowed in. It took a
were happy as clams. Then we moved and days labor or a paid farmer to plow us out.
rented a ranch-style farmhouse. Luckily the One winter I spent three weeks (one two-
owners left it semi-furnished and we were week stint, one one-week) bunking with
allowed to use the furniture because there my boss in her rented Attica home or I at
was no way we could have lled even a could not have gotten to work.
quarter of the place. We were grateful for I think back on it now and realize that
the upright piano and pump organ because had we not been good friends to begin
they lled space, even though neither of us with, I never would have felt comfortable
could play a note. staying with her at all, let alone for such an
When the owners decided to move extended period. I have no idea what my
back two years later, I cried. But we then Plan C would have been. In fact, the entire
rented the rst house we looked at, another course of my life would have changed had I
farmhouse, only this one small, white and lost that job.
perched on a hill. My tears dried quickly This was also the home to which we
because this house had more character than brought our newborn Sam. He was nearly 3
the other and we could ll it with our own when we moved across state to the second
furnishings without gigantic ller musical ranch house in our lives, the one to which
instruments. we brought home our second baby, Ben, two
It also had a replace, hardwood oors, years after the move. We lived a lot of life in
central air and came with an adorable that house. I dont think I appreciated it the
landlord who still planted and maintained a way I should have because I was always on
Hoosier garden suitable for a Better Homes the look out for that move-up house.
Winter 2017 page 18 her magazine for women
Empty-nesters
But now, with both boys grown
and gone from our home, if I
drive by that house, my eyes go
directly to the tiny bedroom they
shared with its stacked bunk beds
and Sega Genesis game system.
They were happy as ducks and
never mentioned needing or want-
ing more space or more house.
The house we live in now will
soon rival my childhood home for
the house in which I have lived
the longest. While it is a one-and-
a-half story ranch, it isnt fancy,
but it has the distinction of being
the house we chose because we
wanted it as opposed to making
do with what we could afford in a
hurry when faced with a move.
The week before the big
move into the house, I took the
week off work to move as much
of the small stuff as possible. It
was one of the best weeks of my
life because I got to enjoy things
such as putting my dishes away
in a methodical, unhurried way,
decorate the window ledge over
the sink, hang clothes up in our
his and hers separate closets.
This house was loved for many
things on my wish list that came
true: beautiful kitchen cupboards,
space for my Sellers Cabinet,
two full baths, a soaking tub, an
oak staircase, an upstairs family
room the kids could especially
enjoy.
Nearly 20 years later, were still
enjoying that home.
I dont know what house Ill
love in the future. Brian and I
talk about where we want to
Photo by Donna Cronk
live and what house we will one The marble-top hutch, pitcher and print on the wall came from Grandma Jobes home. I remember
day call home after I retire. We the hutch and the picture from when I was a little girl and saw them in her home. Since inheriting
discuss possibly moving back to them, I have made sure the picture hangs above the hutch in whatever home where we live as it did
my hometown. I envision an old at Grandmas house.
house fully xed up and move-in
ready, something with character
and history. Brian says we should The last time I graced
build a house there, our last.
For now, Im satised to feel at
GrandmotherJobes home was 1964, I was 6.
home where we are, together. I see it all now, as thoughwatching it live.
Editor Donna Cronk has also
dreamed of owning a bed and I still have occasional dreams
breakfast. She decided it was staged in that house, although
easier to own it on paper and to
that end, is author of two nov- it has been more than half a
els, Sweetland of Liberty Bed & century since I was inside.
Breakfast and That Sweet Place:
At Home in the Heartland.
her magazine for women page 19 Winter 2017
HERartful
HERartful
The comfort of a winter larder
snowed in (for how many days?) with my
A
By Cheryl K. Bennett
parents and brother and sister. The piles of
larder is a room or cupboard for stor- snow were several feet high. I always thought
ing food. if that could happen once, it could happen
During my daughters growing-up again.
years, she and I watched every show in the With these two memories rmly planted
series Little House on the Prairie. One in my mind, I always felt it was important to
memorable scene had a powerful effect on stock my larder when the winter months roll
me. The scene played out in a Christmas spe- around.
cial. Everyone in the cabin woke in an excited
manner on Christmas morning. Stocking up
Cheryl K. Bennett The gifts were stored in the hay loft of the One must always have the xins for chili.
barn. Pa threw open the door of the cabin to This is a must. And no matter what current
be met with a solid white wall of snow. The diet I am on, in case of being snowed in, it is
snow was piled so high, the only way to ac- necessary to have all that one needs to bake.
cess the barn was to go out the top window of Nothing makes me want to bake than being
the cabin while stretching a rope from cabin snowed in. If you dont feel like going all
to barn. All of this was great fun on Christ- out, cookies from the cold case, premixed,
mas morning for the Ingalls family. sometimes pre-sliced may be kept ready in
For many years when living in New Castle, the fridge. For some reason, what I feel like
my children and I lived in a small house on baking is bread. This means one must have
South 14th Street, nearly directly across from fresh yeast and all of the other ingredients for
Marsh. I have always joked about stocking baking bread.
my larder for the winter. Friends who heard Now that I live in Bloomington, a bit south
me talk about this would tease me You and west of town, between Smithville and
only live across the street. It isnt as if you Harrodsburg, on the farmette, we never know
will get so snowed in that you cant walk to what to expect. In case of losing electricity,
the grocery for whatever you might need. we need to be prepared to roast hotdogs on
What I have failed to mention is that I was hot dog sticks or to cook a piece of meat in a
a freshman at Ball State when the Blizzard basket over the re.
of 78 struck. I was able to hitch a ride from We have slept in front of the re and
Ball State and get home to my family. I have cooked what we could in the past. Necessity
often wondered what inspired me to work to is the mother of invention and that is true
get home to New Castle from Muncie? I was when you live out in the country on a curve
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It was in this position that my eyes were Photos provided by Sandy Moore
opened to the conditions in which many Kennedy and Paxton King visit the Moore farm, Sandy, and her horse Sadie, on a win-
children in Henry County were living. As ters day.
the puppets rattled on with silly prattle,
children began to share with the puppets
their own experiences with the consequenc-
es of drug use. I was greatly troubled.
I wanted Sadie Search for Home to touch
these children and many more like them to
give them hope. I wanted to tell the mes-
sage that God has a wonderful life for them
if they will trust him and let him lead. All
children have so much to overcome in this
world today and each encounter bullies,
loss of friendships and opportunities for
success or failure.
As Sadie searched for her forever home,
through times of neglect and trials she
displayed courage, endurance and forgive-
ness. But Sadie found the one thing she
was looking for love and relationship.
She found a home for her heart.
Sadies Search for Home has been a
personal joy for me to write. I hope many
children, parents, grandmothers and grand-
fathers will enjoy it as much as I have.
Rural New Castle resident Sandy Moore
is retired from The Courier-Times and
writes this column for this magazine. She
is available for speaking engagements
and enjoys sharing encouraging messages
with the public. Her book is available from
her and at The Courier-Times. For infor-
mation contact her at mooresandy6070@
yahoo.com or call 765-686-2990. Kennedy King is all smiles as Sandy leads her riding on Sadie.
her magazine for women page 23 Winter 2017
Halloween 2008 was
the first major holi-
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our newly-purchased
home with our son,
who was only a
month old at the
time. Im sitting on a
second-hand chair
that had been in my
family for years. Be-
side me is a rocker
given to us by my
grandmother. When
we first purchased
our house, we
didnt have enough
furniture, so lots of
our household items
were family hand-
me-downs.
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I use a large plastic container with a snap-on lid
Count the memories, not the calories. but you may also cover your large bowl with a tight
his slogan means everything to me plastic wrap. The crackers will break apart slightly
from the rolling and tossing, which is desirable.
and is what I more or less live my life Store covered at room temperature.
and create my recipes around. The 1 1/3 cup canola oil
slogan is printed on my blog, business cards 1 package powdered, ranch salad-dressing mix
and is the slogan I use for my cookbook. 1 package taco-seasoning mix
I love family memories and family recipes 3 teaspoons crushed, red-pepper flakes
1 box saltine crackers
and I think of them as almost a family tree, Start by combining the canola oil, pow-
or journal that tells the stories and growth of dered, ranch salad-dressing mix, taco-sea-
Blaise Doubman each family member. Each recipe contains soning mix and crushed red pepper akes in
a memory and each recipe, regardless of an extra large plastic bowl.
calorie count, is a cherished memory that Add in the saltine crackers and gently roll,
can be passed along to the next generation. I toss and shake them until they are covered in
am always on the hunt for forgotten family the oil and seasonings.
recipes and memories and get excited when Place a lid on the plastic bowl and cover.
someone writes to me with a new piece I can Place on counter at room temperature and
add to my family-recipe puzzle. gently give a shake and toss several times a
My excitement went through the roof day for three days.
when my Grandma Barbra told me that she At the end of the three days, remove the
heard from my Great Aunt Betty, who had lid and serve!
sent a recipe! My Grandma Barbra and her Ask and Answer: I have been getting
sister, Betty, who lives in Texas, correspond a lot of questions about what to do with a
back and forth with family pictures and fam- store-bought rotisserie chicken. The possi-
ily updates. bilities here are endless!
Last September Grandma had mailed You could take the chicken, remove the
Betty a copy of my cookbook and Betty had skin and bones, cut the meat into large bite-
written back saying how much she and her size chunks and add diced sweet pickles,
family loved and enjoyed my cookbook, celery, white onion and boiled eggs. Squirt
encouraging me to write more and saying in a little yellow mustard, add a large spoon-
that her daughter Jeanne, would be sending ful of mayonnaise, a sprinkling of white
me her recipe for gumbo! granulated sugar, salt and pepper and have
Immediately I went into trying the recipe rotisserie chicken salad that would be deli-
that Betty had sent for snack crackers. I did cious for days!
not think I was going to be able to wait the You could also use the meat in making
three days that it called for in the recipe, but chicken and noodles, chicken pot pies or
I did, and believe me when I say that these even a cold chicken side dish called Chick-
crackers are worth the wait. en Caviar that combines the chicken meat
Betty said she likes these better than with champagne, white and purple grapes,
potato chips and I agree with her. They have mayonnaise and brown sugar.
so much more avor than anything you can Kennard resident Blaise Doubman is a
nd in a potato chip, or buy at the store. Its graduate of Indiana University East. He
another fabulous family recipe that I can add loves the culinary arts and invites readers to
to my family recipe collection and I hope follow his blog at: Blaise the Baker (http://
that you will also add to yours. blaisethebaker.com) His debut cookbook can
Bettys Cajun be purchased on his blog. He writes Chew
Aunt Bettys Cajun
Snack Crackers This! exclusively for The Courier-Times
Snack Crackers These crackers have a spicy kick that is amplified
on the rst and third Sundays. Blaise loves
by the crushed, red-pepper flakes. Feel free to add
are hard to resist. less or simply leave them out. The canola oil that is to hear from readers. Email him at blaise
Photo by Blaise Doubman called for cannot be replaced with any other type thebaker@gmail.com
Winter 2017 page 28 her magazine for women
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Thursday, February 23
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