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Robin M. Kowalski
Clemson University
ABSTRACT
People do a lot of mean and nasty things to one another.
Collectively, these behaviors are referred to as aversive inter-
personal behaviors. To examine the structural elements of
different aversive interpersonal behaviors and individual
differences in perceptions of those behaviors, 96 male and
149 female students each wrote a victim narrative and a
perpetrator narrative about one of seven aversive behaviors:
betrayal, lying, improprieties, teasing, complaining, arro-
gance, and dependency. Significant victim/perpetrator differ-
ences were obtained, but, importantly, they were influenced
by the particular aversive behavior being examined. Relative
to perpetrators, victims perceived betrayal, lying, teasing, and
arrogance more negatively. Victims and perpetrators did not
differ in their evaluations of complaining and dependency. In
addition, differences among victims and among perpetrators
were obtained such that victims evaluated the behaviors of
betrayal, lying, and arrogance as more aversive than the other
behaviors. Perpetrators reported feeling more guilt when they
had perpetrated a betrayal than when they had complained or
engaged in excessive reassurance-seeking. Implications of
these differences for relationships are discussed.
The authors would like to thank Tom Britt and Mark Leary for their helpful comments on an
earlier version of this article. All correspondence concerning this article should be addressed
to Robin M. Kowalski, Department of Psychology, Brackett Hall, Clemson University,
Clemson, SC 29634, USA [e-mail: rkowals@clemson.edu]. Sandra Metts was the Action Editor
on this article.
Journal of Social and Personal Relationships Copyright 2003 SAGE Publications
(www.sagepublications.com), Vol. 20(4): 471490. [02654075 (200308) 20:4; 034146]
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People do a lot of mean and nasty things to one another. They criticize, nag,
betray, lie, disappoint, ostracize, embarrass, and tease, to name just a few.
Collectively, we refer to these types of behaviors as aversive interpersonal
behaviors (Kowalski, 1997a, 2001a). Although people also perpetrate other
types of aversive behaviors, such as emotional and physical abuse, in this
article we use the phrase aversive interpersonal behaviors to refer to those
more mundane behaviors to which people are exposed on a more regular
and frequent basis (Kowalski, 2001a).
With few exceptions, these mundane types of aversive behavior occur
most frequently within the context of intimate relationships, such as those
with family, friends, and romantic partners. Ironically, the relationships that
people initially seek out so eagerly become the source of much of their life
stress. Indeed, conflicts with others are ranked as one of the most signifi-
cant daily stressors that people encounter (Bolger, DeLongis, Kessler, &
Schilling, 1989), and peoples interpersonal difficulties are one of the main
reasons they seek therapy (Horowitz, 1986; Rook, 1998).
The prevalence of aversive interpersonal behaviors is illustrated with
data showing that On any given day, 44% of us are likely to be annoyed
by a close relational partner. . . . On average, young adults encounter 8.7
aggravating hassles in their romantic relationships each week . . . and every
seven days most young adults will be distressed by different encounters with
a lovers (a) criticism, (b) stubbornness, (c) selfishness, and (d) lack of
conscientiousness, at least once . . . (Miller, 1997, p. 15).
In spite of the prevalence of aversive behaviors, only in the last decade
has systematic research attention been devoted to them (see Cupach &
Spitzberg, 1994; Kowalski, 1997a, 2001b; Spitzberg & Cupach, 1998). Even
then, when researchers have examined aversive interpersonal behaviors,
their approach has tended to be piecemeal, focusing on a specific aversive
behavior (e.g., teasing) without examining how that behavior compares in
aversiveness to other relational transgressions. Thus, one purpose of the
present study was to examine the structural features of different aversive
episodes and their consequences for individuals and their relationships with
others.
However, not surprisingly, peoples perceptions of the aversiveness of
behaviors vary. For example, two people who are teased may have very
different reactions to being teased, with one viewing the teasing as good-
natured and funny and the other reacting to the tease with tears and hurt
feelings. Similarly, whereas some people are seemingly so habituated to
their partners breaches of propriety that they seem not to notice, others
are deeply offended when their partner continually burps in public (Miller,
2001).
Nowhere are variations in peoples reactions to others aversive inter-
personal behaviors more apparent than when discussing victims and perpe-
trators perceptions of aversiveness. Relative to victims, perpetrators
diminish the negative impact of their behavior, view the behaviors more
innocuously, perceive the behavior as rationally motivated, and see the
consequences of their behavior as more circumscribed (Baumeister, 1997;
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Baumeister, Stillwell, & Wotman, 1990; Besag, 1989; Jones, Moore, Schrat-
ter, & Negel, 2001; Kowalski, 2000; Leary, Springer, Negel, Ansell, &
Evans, 1998). Given the consistency with which victims and perpetrators
appear to differ in their perceptions of aversive interpersonal behaviors, a
second purpose of the present study was to compare the perceptions of
victims and perpetrators across seven types of aversive behaviors. Do
victims and perpetrators reliably differ in their perceptions of aversiveness
(e.g., how negative an aversive behavior is, how annoying the aversive
behavior is, and how hurtful an aversive behavior is) regardless of the
specific behavior being examined or do victims form more negative percep-
tions than perpetrators of only certain behaviors?
We hypothesize that the different perceptions of victims and perpetrators
will depend on the specific aversive behavior being examined, with some
aversive behaviors leading to wide discrepancies in the perceptions of
victims and perpetrators. Other behaviors, however, are expected to show
few differences in the evaluations of victims and perpetrators. Three
reasons account for this hypothesis. First, although all the behaviors inves-
tigated in this study share certain features in common that qualify them as
aversive interpersonal behaviors (see Kowalski, 1997b, 2001a, for a more
complete discussion of variables that influence perceived aversiveness),
some of the behaviors are more direct (i.e., directed at the victim) than
others. For example, betrayals, lies, and teases are behaviors that are
directed at the victim. In other words, perpetrators betray victims, lie to
victims, and tease victims. In contrast, other behaviors, such as complain-
ing or breaches of propriety, may be more indirect. The perpetrator may
complain to the victim, not about anything that the victim has done, but
about something that someone else has done. Breaches of propriety may
be enacted in the presence of another person, but not directed toward or
necessarily meant to offend that person. Clearly, the directness with which
a behavior is perpetrated against a victim will influence the victims percep-
tion of just how aversive a behavior is and how damaging the consequences
of that behavior are to the individual and to his or her relationship with the
perpetrator. More direct behaviors will produce more negative evaluations
of the behaviors by victims than indirect behaviors. Relatedly, perpetrators
would be expected to feel more guilt and to believe that the victim was
more hurt by direct than indirect behaviors. Being overly dependent on the
victim, for example, may make the perpetrator feel bad, but presumably not
to the same degree that teasing the victim in a malicious way does.
Second, aversive behaviors differ in the degree to which they are
perceived by victims as indicative of relational devaluation and, thus, the
degree to which they precipitate hurt feelings. Relational devaluation refers
to the degree to which people feel that others do not value them as much
as they once did or as much as desired (Leary et al., 1998). Most people
would perceive betrayal, lying, and teasing as indicative of relational deval-
uation. In other words, people betray us, lie to us, and maliciously tease us
when they no longer value their relationship with us as much as they once
did (Leary et al., 1998). In response to such behaviors, people feel hurt.
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Method
Participants
Ninety-six male and 149 female undergraduate students participated in large
mixed-sex groups. Although not all students were psychology majors, the data
were collected while the participants attended upper level psychology courses.
Even though participants reported being victimized by the aversive behaviors
of acquaintances and family members, the majority were victims of aversive-
ness perpetrated by close friends and romantic partners. Specifically, 37% of
the participants indicated that they had been a victim of an aversive inter-
personal behavior that was perpetrated by a close friend. An additional 23%
reported that the perpetrator was a romantic partner or a spouse. Twenty-eight
percent of the perpetrators indicated that they had victimized a close friend,
with an additional 21% reporting that their victim was an acquaintance.
Eighteen percent of perpetrators reported victimizing a romantic partner.
Smaller percentages of participants indicated that they had victimized family
members or others who were unspecified (e.g., authority figures).
Procedure
After signing a consent form, each participant was randomly assigned to write
about one of seven aversive interpersonal behaviors: betrayal, lying, breaches
of propriety, teasing, complaining, arrogance, and dependency. Within each of
the aversive behavior categories, participants wrote two narratives, a victim
narrative and a perpetrator narrative, presented in counterbalanced order.
Instructions for victim narratives asked participants to describe an incident in
which someone had perpetrated the particular aversive behavior against them.
For example, in the instructions for betrayal, participants were told: We would
like you to describe an incident in which someone betrayed you, that is, an
occurrence in which someone betrayed your confidence, gossiped about you,
broke your trust, etc.. Across all victim narratives, participants were also told
that Nearly everyone has experienced such things more than once; please
choose an especially important and memorable event. In describing the
incident, please be as thorough and as detailed as possible, providing a
complete account of the event. Include in your narrative the events that led up
to the situation, the nature of the situation, and what happened after the situ-
ation occurred.
Instructions for perpetrator narratives mirrored those for victim narratives,
except that participants were asked to describe an incident in which they had
engaged in the aversive behavior. For example, in the betrayal condition,
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participants were told: We would like you to describe an incident in which you
betrayed someone else, that is, an occurrence in which you betrayed someones
confidence, gossiped about someone, broke another persons trust, etc.
Upon completion of both of the narratives, participants completed a ques-
tionnaire that included items that assessed perceived aversiveness, relational
damage, and guilt. All questions were answered using 12-point scales with five
equally spaced scale labels. Specific items on the questionnaire included the
following: How negatively did you feel about the experience?, How annoyed
were you by the experience?, How guilty did you feel about the experience?,
How negatively do you view the other individual involved in the experience?,
How negatively do you think the other individual views you?, Prior to the
incident, how close was your relationship with the other individual?, After the
incident, how close was your relationship to the other individual?, How much
of a long-term impact did the incident have on you?, How hurt were you by
the experience?, and How hurt do you think the other person was by the
experience?.
TABLE 1
Factor analysis of dependent variables
How negatively did you feel about incident? .84 .04 .10
How annoyed were you by the experience? .73 .004 .06
How negatively do you view other individual? .51 .33 .23
How much of an impact did the incident have? .52 .01 .20
How hurt were you by the experience? .74 .09 .08
How negatively do you think the other person views you? .08 .57 .18
How close was your relationship prior to incident? .26 .73 .19
How close was your relationship after the incident? .13 .79 .09
How guilty do you feel about the experience? .07 .04 .51
How hurt do you think the other person was? .09 .06 .60
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Note. Factor loadings in bold indicate the factor to which a particular item was assigned.
dichotomous coding technique was used such that each variable of interest was
coded as either present (2) or absent (1). Items specific to each composite
variable were summed. In cases when there was any ambiguity concerning the
direction of coding, raters coded the feature as absent. Interrater reliability
(Kappa) across the 15 categories averaged .93 (range .611.00).
Results
TABLE 2
Means (standard deviations) on victims and perpetrators perceptions and
feelings surrounding aversive interpersonal behaviors
Perceived consequences
TABLE 3
Means (standard deviations) on victims and perpetrators perceptions of
specific aversive interpersonal behaviors
Narrative
Variable Behavior Victim Perpetrator
Note. For each variable, means sharing a common subscript differ significantly from means in
the same row and means in the same column, p < .01. Standard deviations are reported in
parentheses.
these difference scores were now on a different metric from the 12-point
response format used for the item assessing how negatively participants thought
the other individual viewed them, all scores were standardized and the stan-
dardized scores averaged to provide a composite measure of changes in close-
ness. Higher scores on this measure indicate greater changes in closeness (i.e.,
more negative effects of the incident on the relationship). A main effect of
behavior, F(6,231) = 5.53, p < .001 (2 = .13) was obtained. Participants reported
greater reductions in closeness in their relationships following betrayal
(M = .39) than following complaining (M = .20), p < .01.
Guilt experienced. The third factor obtained in the factor analysis was defined
by two variables: how guilty do you feel about the experience and how hurt do
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you think the other person was by the experience. A 7 2 2 split-plot analysis
of variance conducted on the mean of these two items revealed main effects of
behavior, F(6,231) = 4.05, p < .001 (2 = .10), and narrative, F(1,231) = 130.04,
p < .001 (2 = .36), as well as a significant interaction between behavior and
narrative, F(6,231) = 12.64, p < .001 (2 = .25). As reported in Table 3, relative
to victims, perpetrators felt more guilt when they engaged in betrayal, lying,
breaches of propriety, teasing, and arrogant behavior, ps < .01. Interestingly,
among victims, more guilt was reported following dependent behavior than
teasing or arrogant behavior. Perpetrators, however, relative to complaining,
reported more guilt following betrayal, lying, breaches of propriety, teasing,
and arrogance, ps < .01.
Linguistic analysis
Of the composite linguistic variables available for analysis based on the LIWC
program, we were interested in negative emotionality, self references, other
references, and total word count for reasons detailed in the introduction.
Negative emotionality is assessed based on words such as angry, ashamed, and
worthless. A split-plot analysis of variance conducted on the negative emotion-
ality profile revealed a main effect of behavior, F(6,229) = 7.35, p < .001
(2 = .16). Participants expressed more negative emotionality in narratives
describing incidents of teasing (M = 3.22; SD = 2.08) than in recollections of
any other type of behavior (Ms = 1.732.30; SDs = 1.251.79), ps < .01. No other
significant effects were obtained.
A split-plot analysis of variance performed on the number of references to
the self in the narratives yielded main effects of behavior, F(6,229) = 3.93,
p < .001 (2 = .09), and narrative, F(1, 229) = 29.56, p < .001 (2 = .11), which
were qualified by an interaction between behavior and narrative, F(6,
229) = 10.54, p < .001 (2 = .22). As shown in Table 3, perpetrators used more
self references than victims when the narratives focused on lying, complaining,
and dependency, ps < .01. However, when the behavior involved teasing,
victims used more self references than perpetrators, p < .01. Among victims,
the greatest number of self references was used in the teasing narratives,
whereas for perpetrators self references appeared most frequently in narratives
discussing lying and dependency, followed by betrayal, ps < .01.
Analysis of the number of references to the other person revealed a main
effect of narrative, F(1,229) = 14.17, p < .001 (2 = .06), which was qualified by
an interaction between behavior and narrative, F(6,229) = 11.47, p < .001
(2 = .23). Victims used more other references than perpetrators when the
narratives related instances of lying, complaining, or dependency, ps < .01.
However, perpetrators used more other references than victims when
discussing teasing, p < .01. In addition, victims used other references most
frequently when describing dependency, whereas perpetrators used other refer-
ences more when describing teasing incidents.
Because of previous research (Kowalski, 2000) showing victim/perpetrator
differences in the total number of words used when relating incidents of aver-
siveness, the structural element of total word count was of interest. A split-plot
analysis of variance conducted on this variable revealed a significant main effect
of narrative, F(1,229) = 8.48, p < .004 (2 = .04). Victims (M = 135.71;
SD = 75.04) wrote significantly more in their narratives than perpetrators
(M = 122.04; SD = 58.74).
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Content analysis
Positive and negative reasons for the behaviour. Separate split-plot analyses of
variance were conducted on the positive and the negative reasons ascribed to
the aversive behaviors. A significant main effect of behavior, F(6,227) = 2.92,
p < .01 (2 = .07), obtained on the negative reasons composite revealed that
more negative motivations were assigned to teasing (M = 3.38; SD = .56) and
arrogance (M = 3.34; SD = .61) than to lying (M = 3.08; SD = .26), ps < .01.
Interestingly, participants also assigned more positive motivations for teasing
(M = 2.36; SD = .49) and dependency (M = 2.49; SD = .53) compared to the
other aversive behaviors, F(6,227) = 13.31, p < .001 (2 = .26).
Victims negative reactions. A main effect of behavior, F(6,227) = 4.58, p < .001
(2 = .11), revealed that participants perceived victims to have more negative
reactions to being teased (M = 3.66; SD = .58) than to complaining (M = 3.23;
SD = .39) or dependency (M = 3.29; SD = .55), ps < .01. Reactions to betrayal
(M = 3.56; SD = .62), lying (M = 3.48; SD = .60), breaches of propriety (M = 3.49;
SD = .54), and arrogance (M = 3.44; SD = .55) fell in between but did not differ
significantly from one another or the other conditions.
Discussion
contrast, reported more guilt than victims. Perpetrators also, not surpris-
ingly, assigned more fault to the victims than victims assigned themselves.
In terms of the narratives themselves, perpetrators narratives contained
more evidence of negative emotionality than victims, and perpetrators
used more self references and fewer other references than victims in the
narratives they wrote. In addition, victim narratives were lengthier than
perpetrator narratives, a finding consistent with research by Schuetz and
Baumeister (1999).
These observed differences in victim/perpetrator responses may arise for
at least four reasons. First, victims may have incorrectly interpreted the
intentions of the perpetrators as more malevolent than was warranted.
However, a significant main effect of narrative obtained on the coding of
the negative reasons ascribed to the aversive behaviors suggests that this
was not the case. Perpetrators actually assigned more negative reasons to
their aversive behaviors than victims did, a finding that may account for
their greater use of self references in their narratives. An examination of
the negative reasons (e.g., revenge, perpetrator was thoughtless and mean,
and/or the perpetrator was trying to make himself or herself feel better)
suggests that these reasons may be either too threatening to victims or are
reasons about which perpetrators have more knowledge than victims.
Second, and related to this latter finding, perpetrators may have, indeed,
had malevolent intentions motivating their behavior, including a desire to
hurt the victim or make the victim feel bad, intentions of which the victim
may have had no awareness. Such negative intentions were clearly reflected
in a narrative in which a participant described behaving arrogantly toward
someone else.
When I was in high school . . . I was very socially conscious with my actions
and who I hung around. I would not be seen with people who I thought
would bring me down. I was very mean to a certain girl because she didnt
dress nice, had a child at 15, and hung out at the smoke shed with other
people who didnt dress nice. I would snub her when she tried to talk to
me, insult her behind her back, and when she really got on my nerves, I
would embarrass her in front of a group of my friends.
The fact that victims in the present study perceived the incident more nega-
tively than perpetrators and the fact that perpetrators assigned more fault
to victims than victims assigned to themselves would seem to suggest that
the motives of the perpetrators were not, in fact, malevolent. However,
even malevolently motivated perpetrators could blame victims and see
their own behavior in a positive light in order to justify their actions.
Third, even if perpetrators had been motivated by negative intentions
initially, the passage of time since the incident occurred may have attenu-
ated these negative feelings. Perpetrators reported feeling guilty about their
behaviors, viewed the incident negatively, and were well aware that the
victims had been hurt by their behaviors. These negative feelings, perhaps
accounting for the heightened negative emotionality in the narratives of
perpetrators relative to victims, may have contributed to reducing any
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malevolent intentions that may have originally been present. Fourth, with
the passage of time, victims may have enhanced their own negative feelings
about the event. Victim ratings of how negatively they viewed the incident
were fairly high (7.38 on a 12-point scale). An examination of some of the
narratives themselves suggests that some of the participants had ruminated
about the events since they had occurred. This rumination may have height-
ened negative affect long after the event occurred (Morrow & Nolen-
Hoeksema, 1990; Nolen-Hoeksema, 1987). The following narrative
provides one such example.
This narrative also highlights the finding that victim narratives contained
more other references than perpetrator narratives. Although we had
expected that victims might use more self references as they relayed their
personal feelings about the experience, many victim narratives made
repeated reference to the other person. Although one reason for this may
have simply been the clarity of the essay, we believe that it reflects the
salience of the perpetrator in the victims mind even to this day.
One interesting exception to the pattern of pronoun use by victims and
perpetrators involved teasing. Whereas teasing narratives of victims used
more self references, teasing narratives of perpetrators used more other
references. One might expect perpetrators to use other references related
to teasing, given that there must have been something about the other indi-
vidual, at least in the perpetrators mind, that precipitated the teasing. That
victims used more references to the self when recounting teasing episodes
may reflect the negative effect that the tease had on their self-esteem.
Although we did not specifically examine the effects of aversiveness on the
self, research has shown teasing to have detrimental consequences for self-
esteem (Kowalski, 1998).
Although the finding that victims and perpetrators differ in their percep-
tions of aversive behaviors replicates the findings in many other studies, the
present study goes much further in showing that these general differences
in the perceptions of victims and perpetrators are not uniform across all
types of aversive events. Rather, the differences observed between the
victims and the perpetrators clearly varied with the specific type of behavior
being examined. For example, in ratings of the perceived negativity of the
incident, victims perceived betrayal, lying, teasing, and arrogance more
negatively than did perpetrators. In addition, as determined by ratings of
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Of note are the specific behaviors on which victims and perpetrators did not
consistently differ from one another, namely complaining and dependency.
Furthermore, even though nonsignificant, the pattern of means for these
two behaviors generally went against that observed for the other aversive
behaviors. For example, whereas victims of all other aversive behaviors
except for improprieties evaluated the behaviors more negatively than
perpetrators, perpetrators of complaining and dependency evaluated the
incident more negatively than victims. Furthermore, although perpetrators
reliably reported significantly more guilt than victims across the aversive
behaviors, no differences among victims and perpetrators in self-reported
guilt were observed with complaining and dependency, although the
pattern of means suggested that, contrary to the other guilt findings, victims
reported more guilt than perpetrators.
What is it about these two behaviors that distinguishes them from the
others so consistently? As noted earlier, aversive behaviors differ from one
another in their directness, in the degree to which they are perceived as
indicating relational devaluation, and in the degree to which they are
viewed as motivated by malicious intent. Complaining and dependency,
relative to the other behaviors, tend to be less direct. Because the content
of complaints or excessive reassurance-seeking is not necessarily directed
at the victim himself or herself, these behaviors are also less likely to
connote relational devaluation (as attested to by the means obtained on the
hurt feelings measure) and, thus, less likely to be evaluated as malicious.
Three additional features also distinguish complaining and dependency
from the other aversive behaviors. First, some aversive behaviors are more
consistently negatively valenced than others. For example, betrayal and
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Conclusions
The results of this study clearly show that victims and perpetrators differ
from one another in their perceptions of aversive interpersonal behaviors.
Furthermore, differences in the perceptions of victims and perpetrators
depend on the particular aversive behavior being examined. Each of the
aversive behaviors examined in this study sends victims a message about
their standing or value in the perpetrators eyes. Given the amount of rela-
tional devaluation inferred, a victim must decide how he or she will
respond to the perpetrator. Consistent with a social interactionist model
(Felson & Tedeschi, 1993), the victims response places the perpetrator in
the role of victim and the cycle continues. In the case of aversive inter-
personal behaviors, such exchanges have the potential to spiral out of
control, leading ultimately to full-blown aggression (Andersson &
Pearson, 1999; Kowalski, 2003).
That differences among victims and among perpetrators were also
obtained contributes to our understanding of why miscommunication
occurs so frequently in close relationships. Given our own perceptions and
our own histories with aversive behaviors, we may have difficulty accurately
predicting how someone else will react to such behaviors. Or, we may
ourselves react to others aversiveness in ways that are disproportionate
to the intent and nature of the behavior (Tedeschi & Felson, 1994). What
another may have intended as good-natured ribbing or a white lie
intended to protect ones feelings is perceived as malicious teasing or patho-
logical lying. Naturally, such misperceptions set the stage for disagreement
and conflict in the relationship.
Ironically, however, in spite of the miscommunication, hurt feelings,
negative perceptions of the other, etc. that follow from incidents involving
aversive interpersonal behaviors, the results of this study also hint at the
resiliency of relationships in the face of adversity. No victim/perpetrator
differences were obtained in ratings of the negative impact of the aversive
incidents on the relationship (i.e., changes in closeness). Indeed, means for
changes in closeness were at or near zero. Thus, people and relationships
seem to have evolved a mechanism that allows them to overcome feelings
of negativity and resentment that stem from repeated exposure to others
aversive interpersonal behaviors.
These patterns of results highlight the need for additional research in this
area. This research, first, needs to help clarify how people define each of
the aversive behaviors studied. We provided definitions for the participants
in the present study, but these may not have meshed perfectly with their
own conceptions of each of the behaviors. Indeed, this may represent one
of the areas of miscommunication within relationships. What one partner
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