Ep 6 - Jealousy - part 2 - self-control and loving yourself

I met Dorin for counselling after 2 weeks since he received his exercise in relation to jealousy.

His exercise was to stop asking Alina about her whereabouts, with who or what she was doing
when they were apart. Another part of his exercise was to proper listen to her when she felt
the need to share, while emotionally practice the voluntary diminishing of his need to know
in order to control the things which are out of his control anyway. This exercise was also so
that he may put a stop to his mental energy consume and waste.

In order for Alina to feel again strong attraction towards him, his job was to stop controlling
her, which was only pushing her away.

His job was to invest in himself and becoming that charismatic man, sure of himself, full of
passion and enthusiastic. An attractive man, a real man with an alpha personality.

At this moment he had this emotional immaturity which wasnt at all attractive for any woman
and mostly he risk losing Alina.

Dorins mission wasnt easy. In order to escape jealousy, he needed to grow his self-esteem,
to discover how to love himself and to realise he is a valuable person no matter what Alina or
anyone else was doing.

His mission was about becoming a superior man, yet he doesnt fully understand it, and I
would only hope for it.

- Hy Dorin.

Last time when we were talking about jealousy we had to be quick, but I promised we would
talk more on this subject so that you can understand what is going on with you and your inner
demons.

For start tell me about your exercises.

1. Stop asking Alina about her whereabouts, with who or what she was doing and just let
her tell you for herself if she wants to.
2. Tell her about you feelings and inner demons.

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- yes, I did both of these tasks, said Dorin, with a tonality that expressed how hard it was for
him to go through this, but things were beginning to be better.

These two weeks I succeeded in performing the first exercise and not ask Alina about her
whereabouts, with who or what she was doing. Although I was in the wrong twice, but whats
interesting is that I feel an interesting change started in me.

Although when I saw her entering the door I felt to ask her about her whereabouts, with who
or what she was doing and so on, like a riffle, I soon realise that I was trying to hide my jealousy
and need to control under a mask of politeness and communication.

The only thing hiding underneath these questions of mine where were you, with who or what
were you doingwas my emotional weakness.
Like if she really wanted she couldnt have lied.

I tried to conduct this reasoning further and realise that no matter how much I was being a
detective is a waste of time anyway. What would happen if I would find out something I didnt
like? Would we fight again? Would we break up? Am I winning something?

Absolutely nothing good wont arise out of my desire to control.

I have only one hope and that is that love will conquer it all.

I really want to mind my own business and stop wasting my energy on jealousy nonsense or
other negative emotions which arent leading to anything constructive.

I want to be happy, to love and to be loved.

Although is not an easy exercise for me, Ive noticed I admire myself when succeeding on
keeping my mouth shut. Especially because is not easy, I feel this urge on starting my
questioning, but when restraining myself a state of bliss and accomplish takes place to the
jealousy demon. I feel like a better, a superior man because of my self-control.

Only this exercise alone started to change my life and I really need to thank you for it. More
than that, the ability to observe yourself is extraordinary. I see myself from the outside, like an
actor in a movie but in the same time I can be myself and live the experience with all its
emotions.

I find it incredible and is a very good tool for personal development. Practically, a I became
my own coach. I hear myself, actually my thoughts and emotions, like you told us at our first
session.

- Congratulations Dorin, I said while trying not to show all of my enthusiasm, which would
be unprofessional and usually I would manifest it by jumping filled with joy and hugging him.

- This is only the beginning. You will discover that if you continue there will come a time when
youll grow stronger, youll feel a true inner strength and youll never feel the need to ask any
of these questions.

Now you still feel the urge to ask these questions while holding it in and this is an important
step. Continue and youll see how much admiration for yourself youll uncover when you dont
need Alinas validation, but also youll uncover that whatever shell do you can see her with
love and act lovingly around her, even if she disappears for a month.

I am glad you started to observe yourself, once you did this we have an open path towards
extraordinary improvements for both your life and relationship.

The fact you admired yourself is the first sign of self-loving.

And until you love yourself, youll keep asking love from others, while becoming a beggar and
love becomes a charity case.

Surely, you can become a beggar for love, a love thief, a love terrorist or a love tradesman.
You can ask it decisively, blackmailing or threatening, you can faint or act like an Oscar
winning actor, but the essence of the issue wont disappear.
Youre waiting for love with your hand hanging out and with your fist tight.
And no matter how much you struggle love only comes rarely in the right amount, at the right
time and with the right intensity.
And after all, what is love received from begging or being stolen? Is it still love?
Love generates in each of us, it feeds us and fulfils us and the excess is given to others in
need.
I have a few questions that I want you to answer every night from now on until Ill tell you to
stop. I would like you to write it down and repeat it every evening and answer them. Youll see
how the inner healing begins.

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Self-love starts with a few simple questions:

what am I admiring myself for?
when I actually liked my noble behaviour?
for what evil done or imagined am I forgiving myself?
if Id be more tolerant, more understanding and kind what would I allow myself to do today?
if Id known that only the present exist, what should I do if today is everything I have?
regarding my dreams and objectives, am I liking the potential person I can become?

Jealousy is only a wound of the past which reopens constantly. In the past either we lost
something important to us or it was taken or maybe we were rejected and left us feeling
powerless.

Now, every time it even seems likes we might lose love again or it seems someone robes us
of what is ours, this past wound is reactivated and the jealousy demon comes out. But all of
this exists only in our head and in our mind.

Even if true, other people dont belong to us and trying to limit their freedom will be a failure.

Thats way, it isnt important what the other is doing but our behaviour facing anothers actions.

For the next sessions I have prepared something about how you can control yourself, love
yourself and heal past wounds.

Tell me now if you completed exercise number 2, if you talked to Alina and laid your cards on
the table, so to speak.

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Episode 7 - Jealousy - part 3 cards on the table

Last session, after Dorin made some remarkable progress related to self-control and began
an exercise on self-love, a more difficult challenge followed. Dorin was to reveal his feeling,
inner demons and weaknesses to Alina, like he has never done it before.

It was evening and I was having again all these negatives feelings and thoughts. I had a glass
and I knew I had to talk to her and tell her openly about my dark side, but I was scared shitless.
And this is the correct expression.

I realized how weak I am inside when I saw this huge fear keep rising when came the moment
to talk with Alina about my feelings and my weaknesses openly and 100% honest.

I am a man, I shouldnt have this emotional dilemmas, or so I taught. If something bothers you,
you hide it deep into yourself and forget, not mentioning it again.

With our vulnerable relationship, I was afraid talking to Alina about all of my fears, my demons
because I thought that she would see how weak I am in reality and that shell no longer be
attracted to me, and eventually shell leave me.

I was extremely afraid of rejection and abandonment, if I showed my true colours.

However, something made me to trust you, Pera. I had no faith in me, but I had it in you. When
you said this is homework, as man to man, I decided to do it whatever the consequences.

Alina was in the shower and sometimes I stay with her in the bathroom when showering and
talk to each other.

I went now with the heart beating fast and I said in a calm tone: "Alina, I would like to confide
with you and I need you hearing me out for 15 minutes. When could you give me some time?
"

Alina told me: "Let me wipe myself and lets go in the room.

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We sat down and began to talk. I actually talked and she listened.

And I began: "Alina, I know that everything I say now it's about me, my emotions and Im not
placing any responsibility on you for how I feel. But I need to be open with you and tell you
about my feelings.

I am extremely jealous sometimes in ways that you cant even imagine and I often visualise
SF scenarios, as well, sometimes I have the tendency to punish you for things you did only in
my imagination."

"I know," said Alina smiling playfully.

I was surprised by her attitude and I felt glad she could laugh on this subject. It helped a bit
lifting the pressure and encouraged me to continue.

"I look at myself and I dont like what Im seeing. I keep imagining you with other men, and
that youll leave me, while Ill be left and without love. It's a strange mixture and I realize Im
self-destructive. In my mind I know youre not doing anything wrong but it feels like Im sick.
More is like I want to do something toxic and force you to leave.
Sometimes I hide these negative emotions, other times I cant and I start accusing you of all
sorts of stuff. But these are only my insecurities, my fears, my demons and projections.

You know that I like to watch pretty girls and I realize that if you behave youd behave with me
as I with you, I would not have lasted three years. I would have left you.

I realize that emotionally you're stronger than me and I admire you for it.

And I want to be like you, I want to learn how you do it, "said Dorin, sketching a smile and then
continuing.

"- I appreciate that in these three years, you've never acted jealous and that made me even
more attracted to you. You have that certainty that nothing could happen that Im not going
anywhere and that there's no woman who can make me leave you. "

"It's normal," said Alina smiling. "I'm the best woman for you.

In that moment I realized that she was really listening, she wasnt judging me and she didnt
feel sick hearing me talk about my feelings. I felt that whatever Im saying she wont use
against me.

I felt maybe for the first time something I couldnt explain but it was exactly what I needed to
feel.

I needed to feel that I have a true partner besides me. Someone by my side even when weak
and vulnerable as a man.

It was perhaps the first time I felt unconditionally loved. Although she definitely loved
unconditionally many other time but I never felt it. Now, because I didnt felt judgement, I only
felt like Im accepted and loved.

I realized that I have beside me a partner in the true sense of the word.

Our talk lasted over an hour, Alina listened everything I kept locked for more than three years.

And every word made the burden lighter and lighter.

What a privilege it was to be myself together with my girlfriend, not wearing my mask just to
show what a strong man I am throughout by my behaviour.

What I really appreciated was that Alina told me she will change that shell try coming home
earlier even when a lot of work and that shell tolerate my jealous mood.

She listened without judging, but accepted me without being surprised by anything I said, and
also gave me the nonverbal signals that she wont feed my fears while waiting for me to
become that strong man I can be.

That was all I needed. To be provoked by the woman I love in order to become a better version
of myself.

I feel that after this talk, I have become more responsible for how I feel and decided really
follow up on a personal development plan because it can be done, there is progress and things
are beginning to change for the better.

Pera, I want to make a confession.

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Dorin continued excited

"Do you remember when you taught us to proper listen? At that time I didnt thought it was so
important, but in reality it might have saved our relationship. She really listened, I felt for the
first time I have a partner in life, someone who not only supports me to evolve but loves and
accepts me with when Im down or struggle with all of my demons."

Dorin made extraordinary progress. His big advantage was his courage. Maybe not yet having
a highly developed maturity, maybe still a bit impulsive and with insecurities, as we all are, but
all these were reduced to minimum by his courage to apply what I said.

I felt the need to make some additional observations so Dorin will have a more complete
picture of what happened.

"First of all, I want to congratulate you for your courage. You might know the Latin expression,
Fortis Fortuna adjuvant.

Luck is on the side of the brave ones.

What I found in my experience is that the world the biggest risk isnt in business, health, or
anything valued by society.
The greatest risk in this life for any individual, is in love.
Courage in love brings greater benefits than in any other area because love gives the biggest
accomplishments, much more than the material ones.
You already start to see the results of this courage.
At its roots, courage comes from "coeur" which means heart. Courage has always meant "to
express yourself wholeheartedly." It mean to be authentic and openhearted.
Expression takes many forms, the verbal form is just one of them.

You have an excellent partner in Alina, who managed to be a listener as I want for both of you.
The fact that she didnt judge no matter what you said, was key. Now you realized you have
a partner who accepts you as yourself, authentically and this is an essential element for those
who want to discover true love.

Moreover, I liked very much one thing.

Alina didnt fed your insecurities. Other people in relationships are subjecting themselves to
their partner needs no matter how absurd that might be. If Alina would have said that she
wont work with men anymore, just so you dont be jealous, it would have happened three
things:
- she would have been losing opportunities
 - you would have been in the weak and insecure position while finding other jealousy
reasoning
- you would have lost your respect for her because no one likes a person stripped of its
personality

Lucky for you, Alina is a woman with great personality and you understood that while she
loves you and accepts you the responsibility for your emotions is yours only.
And the fact you too understand it is amazing.
It's an excellent progress.
I talked with Alina and she also got homework exercise.
For the next session I think it's time to see each other again as a couple.
After jealousy, what is from your perspective another reason for you two to quarrel?
Without hesitation Dorin said:
"Money and sex"
"Why am I not surprised?" I exclaimed, knowing that it takes a huge amount of work to make
this relationship work again, although all efforts will be repaid in full.

Ep. 8 I didnt want to have sex and he said Im stupid

"Although it's been three years since we're together, my desire to have sex with Alina
didnt changed much," Dorin began.

"A few months ago, sitting in bed, both tired, we kissed, we said good night and we
turned back to back in order to sleep. It was the first time since I was with Alina and
everything felt very dry, so I said in my mind: it is probably like elderly are doing it.

I find it unacceptable at our age to have a dull and boring sex life. There are days and
days when we dont have sex, even if we live together and we see each other daily.

My fear is that if things continue as such, one of us will meet someone else and it
would be crazy to resolve all issues between us except those related to sex. Im
convinced two people can be happy and have a long-term sex life, but I feel stuck.

I started feeling guilt when I try to initiate sex, as if I were a criminal, I am almost
permanently discouraged and I expect to be rejected every time. And believe me it's
not pleasant nor easy to be constantly rejected by your life partner.

Since you made us do that exercise, and sleeping separately, I began hoping for the
better. Sex is more passionate and nice but still very rare. "

"First tell me if there are times when you are satisfied with the quality and frequency
of sex or is it a generalized status do to your permanently dissatisfied mood?" I spoke
trying to investigate a little bit more.

"Come to think of it," continued Dorin, "there are moments when everything is perfect.
For example when we go on trips, we go out at night, especially in the club when Alina
drinks a few glasses of wine. Even more, I have moments when Im very horny and
moments when Im not that desperate. I'd be lying if I said I was totally dissatisfied.
Although, I wish it more often, when we do have sex I remember why I'm so attracted
by Alina.

"Ok. Alina what you think about Dorins perspective? I invited Alina to participate.

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Alina was thinking. She sighed it and began:

"I have never been a nymphomaniac. I like sex but not as much as Dorin likes it. There
are some things that maybe I should have told earlier but I did not know how or just
postponed it and I want to talk about it now. "

"Be my guest," I encouraged Alina.

"What Dorin doesnt know is that I cant be quickly excited, or at least not that quick
as him. Coming home late after a day's work, my mind is still there working and I
cannot detach myself so fast as to be present, available, excited and ready for Dorins
sex drive.

Maybe I needed a longer preparation, maybe Dorin should pay more attention to me
and create an excitement of waiting and anticipation.

I know the responsibility is for both of us. It is true that when travelling or drinking a bit
I become more kinky, probably because I can relax enough and I noticed that when
Im relaxed, Im more in the mood for sex and I get excited faster.

I love it when Dorin is dominant, but not necessarily physically. I love it when he
dominates me with his personality and when he tells me what to do in such a manner
that I know hes the leader, he's my man. But this thing rarely happened lately maybe
because of the problems we have.

I know I'm not the most feminine woman in the world and I want to work on this aspect
of my life. "

"Let's see if I understand what you've told me so far," I said in order to make a brief
summary of the discussion
"Dorin would like to have sex more often, he feels a need for physical intimacy more
often than Alina while somehow expects that Alina to be available whenever he wants,
but without much effort on his part. Alina has difficulty in getting horny because of her
environment, working a lot, and having an intense mental activity she cant relax
sufficient. Alina would like more attention moments from Dorin other than when he
wants sex. But she also like the alpha male which makes her surrender and Dorin
wants Alina more feminine and kinky.

Both of you are agreeing that sex is very cool and more often when Alina drinks and
when you travel.

Did I understand it correctly until now?

"Yeaah!", both of them jumped simultaneously to confirm it.

"Good!" I continued
As you have already noticed, that fact that it was created a distance between you two
even if youre in the same house, also created a space which enabled you to fire up
the passion again. Both of you noticed that the intensity increased but not the
frequency of sex.

Well, I only have good news from now on.

The first good news is that you are an absolutely normal couple, the women desire
simply decreases faster than the mens desire. As time goes by together because she
protects its partner from bad news as much as possible, but cant hide her behaviour
and the desire is not the same one as in the beginning.

"I must tell you something," Alina stopped me. "About 3 months ago when our
relationship began to feel the strong crisis that has led us to you eventually, after a
hard days work, when sex was the last thing on my mind. Dorin was at home horny
like a monkey in heat and jumped me in bed, even when I rejected him. When he saw
theres no chance for sex that night he got angry and became aggressive. Then he
said Im "an idiot" and sent me to hell or something if you can believe such a thing. I
stopped talking to him for two days, but I realized that things arent going for the better."

I explained a little more: The anxiety and frustration, meaning hes unmet needs and
adding to it you rejection conducted him burst so aggressively while his batteries ran
low. Men often feel rejection, regardless of who's coming from and in what form, at a
biological and cellular level. As much they try to control it, rejection is felt deeply.

We'll talk about batteries and how to charge these batteries in a future session so both
of you would not become frustrated or aggressive, but for now I want to go back to the
having sex discussion.

The second good news is that if youre attracted by each other, you can improve your
sex life as a couple. What pleases me is that by being honest and open you gave me
on a plate, all the elements that we need to be able to act even today.

Alina, as you very well underlined, the responsible element in the story is your mind
and your relaxation level. That hard work, uses your mind intensely and makes you
into a little robot who forgets who you are, and I mean a seductive and a very feminine
woman.

Dorin, you noticed very well that alcohol and sex excursions are more satisfying. The
reason is that is that both of this elements change mind set and the mood :)

Dopamine is the hormone that brings "salt and pepper" in our life. When we are always
together, another hormone appears, oxytocin, which kills the sexuality and passion
and creates attachment.

So I have some homework for you guys.

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"As you realized for yourself in your relationship Dorins masculinity decreased as well
as Alinas femininity. What needs to be done is for each of you to assume responsibility
respectively for lost femininity and masculinity while finding ways that you can support
each other to retrieve these two energies.

Once reactivated, these energies sex will once again become more passionate and
full of eroticism and even more frequently.
The first homework is to make a list of what you were doing in the first six months
when you met and had sex maybe 3 times a day. What was your behaviour to each
other, what were you doing, how you spent your time, what were you saying to each
other then.

The second homework is for Alina. Alina, as you know, men are excited visually and
need diversity. To amplify Dorin masculine energy that, I'd like for you to start dressing
sexy at home, and if possible, to change something at you. I dont know what it can
be hair colour or length, the way you do manicures, a piercing or a tattoo. Anything
you think it makes you more feminine and sexy.

The third homework is for Dorin. Dorin, I need you to be the man of the house and for
that well talk individually. Until then, I'd like to think how you can take control of things
and help Alina relax and not feel that she does it all herself, because that makes it a
woman feel like a d..k*, pardon the expression.

If you want a woman next to you, you need to become a man. When did you last
bought her flowers? When did you last gave her foot massage? When was the last
time you took a trip and when you surprised Alina without any reason? I need from
you to regain your life enthusiasm, first of all, to clarify your goals and ideals because
the number one trait of a real man is do you know what it is?

I'll let you think about it and Ill tell you in the session reserved for us, boys.

From now on both of you have homework.

Alina, you need to find ways to relax. Make baths with candles and fragrances lying
around (and Dorin I dont think Alina would mind if instead of waiting for her by playing
on your PlayStation when she comes at 11 pm from work, youll be expecting her with
a hot foamy bath and candles). Do yoga, dance, sing, meditate, do whatever it takes
to begin regaining your mental relaxation and this will lead to the retrieval of femininity.
It's a vast topic that well be resuming in a private session.

Dorin, I need you to take control a little bit and start organize more lively trips and
outings, do sportive activities to get in shape physically, and take care of your
business. I need you and Alina to fell in love with life once again and thus to reactivate
your masculinity

I know it might be to much information but is necessary to get out of your comfort zone
and reinvent yourself and only so the relationship will acquire a new and superior
significance.

What I wholeheartedly hope is that in this way youll make large steps towards
discovering in this life, perhaps the most price possession which deserves all of our
efforts:

True love.

I'd like to take a break and continue with a problem that Alina asked to discuss.
Because today the session is with both of you, our meeting will be longer. After the
break I want to talk about the problem that you have related to money

Leave me a comment and wait for the following episode which will be very interesting.
Its about the money
 Episode 9 I owe to you and youll pay for it

"So Alina, you said you had a problem with Dorin related to money.I resumed our discussion.

Alina began to describe the problem while sitting on the couch:

"Since I know Dorin, we both earn enough and can take care of our personal needs but Im
constantly earning a little more while Dorin receives money all at once and it happens for him
to run out of money, until the next payment I lent him money.

You know what is the problem?

Often, Dorin takes money out of the drawer where I keep it and forgets to tell me. That bothers
me very much because I feel that is a total lack of respect for my work and efforts. I work long
hours for everything I earn.

His behaviour really bothers me, so much so that I decided to do something that I do not agree
but I have to protect myself somehow.

I got a safe house and keep my money there ..."

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"Dorin, what do you think about this?" I said, inviting him to participate in this discussion.

"Pera at first I thought I was going crazy.

I felt really bad because yes, sometimes Im left without money and yes, sometimes I borrow
from Alina but each amount of money was written and it was given back. On the other hand,
when Im paid, I pay for going out, travels, buy gifts and dont take in consideration who pays
for what.

I know Im more distracted and sometimes Im left without money, I just go straight to the
drawer and take from Alina. Whether I take for my need or to do some shopping or paying
bills. Im doing it with the idea that well set the records straight afterwards while she comes
and I writes it down arguing as the end of world is near.

I understand her as well but I think the safe is an exaggeration.

It's like being a burglar."

"Tell me how did you felt the day you discovered that Alina has a safe to keep her money just
to stop your access to it?" - I asked, being certain there were deeper and hidden emotions,
some emotional wounds that I wanted brought to the surface.

Dorin continued:

"I felt betrayed and devalued. I felt Alina raise a barrier between us, like we do love each other
but it all comes down to the money. And even more, she was subjective. Shes not accounting
for all the times I was altruistic and spent for us and do it without an excel table or other
bookkeeping.

Then, I almost felt hatred for her. Its already going bad between us. We already are working
hard and we dont have time for each other. Basically, money is the only thing that should not
be a worry, so yes it was a plus that I could count on her when running out of money and yes
it matters to me because I was not stressed about it.

When she took this for me, my first reaction was to get back at her. To punish her for all real
and imagined mistakes. I felt like strangling her because she took the only thing I really felt I
had in this relationship, the lack of financial worries."

"Very interesting," I said. "What stopped you in the end to go for it and take revenge?"

"It took me about two days before healing emotionally and let anger drain. I burst into tears
and told myself: Dorin, really this is where you are? You want to strangle your girlfriend for not
giving you money? Do you feel that money is the only thing keeping you beside her? When
did you lost your strength and dignity and when did you start begging for money?

I realized that in the end, my money is my responsibility and I'm a little wasteful. I think this
event can help me solve my money issues.

The truth is that I have money I just have to manage them better. On the other hand Alina is
sometimes so desperate about HER money, that we argue when we get back by taxi because
I want to pay an extra 2 penny to the taxi driver and Alina isnt agreeing with it.

Well if the man was respectful and hes done his job well, isnt it normal to leave a tip? "

"Alina? Do you feel the need to add something here? "I wanted to hear her version now Dorins
comments.

"Im sorry Dorin had to go through this and yes, some people might say that Im demanding
and sometimes even cheap, but only I know how hard I had to work for every penny. Im not
inclined to waste money, Dorin can do anything with the money he earns. However hes not
doing a good job if he constantly is left without money."

"I have a curiosity, and it's a question which I want for you two to answer if youd like," I said.

"You told me that your work is the central theme of your lives and your relationship. That this
is for both of you priority number one. How much money you save after these years of work
in which you have sacrificed all of your days and almost lost your relationship? "

Suddenly it was quiet.

"Nothing yet," said Dorin.

I invested the money I had and wait to recover it said Alina. "But the truth is that I didnt saved
the amount that should have been after so much work.

"Hmmm. I do not know if you realize but here's a bigger problem than the finances of a couple.
You both have a problem with money. One is the wasteful one and the other is more
economical inclined, yet none has money although the stated purpose of your life is money.

The money problems you have will stay with you, together or not or in other relationships and
I think we should address this issue seriously. Many people have a bad relationship with
money due to wrongful emotions and beliefs about it.

The first symptom of a bad relationship with money is that you have no savings, and I am
talking to people that puts everything else in second place.
So we need to attack this problem at the roots"

Continuing further

"I'll give you as homework to read three books," I said.

These three books are the ABCs for healing inner thoughts and emotions about money. Only
after you have a foundation, we can talk and work on details like what means money together
or individual money.

The 3 books I recommend are the followings:

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, by T. Harv Eker

Money, a love story, by Kate Northrup
The richest Man in Babylon, by George S. Clason

The first book is dealing mostly with limiting thoughts and beliefs we have in relation with
money and helps us to setup a strong foundation for our prosperity.

The second book is currently available only in English and is dealing with emotions related to
money. We would never achieve prosperity unless we heal the wounds we have regarding
money or the negative emotions associated with money.

The third book contains universal principles to make simple savings and to make a plan step
by step to achieve financial stability.

After reading these books, I want you two to talk and see what you think you was wrong so
far, what you are going to change and then we all can meet and talk about it."

It was almost time to end the session when I received a phone message: "Call me as soon as
you can. My son was left by his girlfriend and wants to commit suicide."