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Emily Robertson
Scott Harris
UNIV 392
2 August 2017
I thought I was a leader three months ago. I thought I knew everything about leadership
and what it meant to be a leader. I thought I knew how to be vulnerable and flawlessly interact
with diverse people in diverse places - I was wrong. Becoming a leader doesnt happen
overnight, and it doesnt happen naturally. Rather, one develops into a leader through small
becoming a College Coach, I was working and being a role model to individuals that had similar
demographics as me - white, cisgender, mid-upper class, and educated. I never had to worry
about being relatable, or think twice about the things I said and how my words could trigger
someone, and I didnt have to think about diversity beyond someones work skill set.
I wont lie - I honestly didnt originally put much thought into my initial learning goals. I
applied for this job because it sounded fun and would be better than working in a fast food place
somewhere back home, but again, it turns out I was wrong. When writing my goals, I pointed
out the three biggest, obvious aspects of this job - developing professionally, exploring Chicago,
and connecting to youth from all walks of life. Never did I think these three things would
change myself and outlook on life completely. In particular, I valued my time with the SEaL and
First Star students because while I was trying to be a role model for them, they showed me how
to be a better person and more inclusive. All of these students were of color, low income, and the
First Star Scholars have all been involved with the foster care system at some point in their life.
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Before meeting them, I thought connecting to them wouldnt be any different than interacting
with other students I had before. Yet that idealized perception came to a screeching halt the first
day I met them. I began noticing that along with my other white colleagues, I had a harder time
developing relationships with all the students of color. Sometimes I felt like they didnt trust me
as much because at first they wouldnt open up to me, yet they would have deep, vulnerable
discussions with my fellow of color coworkers. I also felt that I wasnt gaining their respect at
the same rate; I would ask them to do something and they would refuse, but when someone of
color asked them of the same thing, they would happily oblige without a fuss.
Thus, I began to become a little frustrated and at a loss of what to do - I couldn't just
change my skin color or pretend to be a first generation college student in order to be more
relatable for my SEaL and First Star students. After discussing the intersection between
diversity and leadership with a coworker of color, I quickly realized that to be a better leader for
my marginalized students, I needed to be more inclusive and accommodating with my words and
actions. I made sure not to give in to any stereotypes regarding their race or culture, and I
always matched where they were at - emotionally and physically. In addition, I had to take into
account how the students were brought up differently than I was and how role models or the lack
The changes to my leadership style were often subtle, yet incredibly noticeable to those
students who were of color or marginalized. To start, instead of telling students to do something,
I asked them if they could help me and them by doing something. For example, instead of
saying, Throw away your trash, Id ask, Can you please throw away your trash so we can
move onto your next activity and do fun things with your friends? This small tweak in wording
and tone was far more friendly and caring, and it helped me immensely when interacting with
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my students because they often had people of authority in their lives only telling them what to
do, not always taking their best interests into account. By practicing shifts in speech like this, I
was able to show them that I wasnt just another authoritative, controlling white person in their
life always telling them what to do. But rather, I gave them control over the situations which
they dont always have the privilege to do in this society, and I did so by being their friend and
mentor.
The most important lesson I learned was that even the smallest changes in something as
simple as tone can change your relationships with people drastically, especially those who are of
color or those who are marginalized. I was developing stronger mentorships, the students started
coming to me more, and I began to feel closer to all my students because they began to open up
to me, as they showed me how to be the best I could be for them. My experiences as a College
Coach have stretched my capabilities, made me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable, and allowed
me to finally utilize my interpersonal skills with varying group dynamics. However, all of these
challenging opportunities were necessary for me to grow and continue to learn as a leader. I was
trying to be a leader for my students, but my students were leading me to become something
more.