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Students will learn and reflect on their lives to develop awareness about self and
others. They will examine their identities, self-esteem, values, strengths and
weaknesses. Participants will also learn how to keep motivated and how to
enhance their communications skills. Additionally, participants will write their
personal mission, vision and goals. Finally, they will learn about group dynamics,
tolerance and prejudice. This program activity is designed to develop students'
understanding of the conflict cycle, words, gestures, and behavior that promotes
collaboration or diminish conflict. Peer mediation, effective communication, active
listening and non-verbal communication are among the skills that are practiced.
Goal:
Students will develop knowledge of self and others in order to prepare for
effective leadership through the exposure to a series of activities that
promote healthy self-esteem, identity and cultural awareness, and
development of thinking, communication, planning and organizing skills.
Resources needed:
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MODULE # 3.1: Self-Awareness and Self Knowledge
Objectives:
Students will recognize their personal strengths and enhance their self-
image.
Students will be provided an opportunity to compare their positive self-
concepts with others positive perception of them.
Students will be introduced to the concept of self-disclosure.
Students will reflect and write their thoughts in their journals.
Context
Before you can start to lead others, you must first know how to lead
yourself. This has been the key to becoming a leader since the days of
Socrates and Aristotle. "Know thyself" was the inscription over the Oracle
at Delphi, the Greek mecca of wisdom. It is by this principle that the great
leaders of the past, present, and future gain an effective followership and
achieve their goals. Leadership guru, Warren Bennis, states, "Know thyself means
separating who you are and who you want to be from what the world thinks you are and
wants you to be."
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Activity # 3.1: Who are we? (55 min)
Procedure:
After watching the video, explain to participants
that as human beings we go trough a series of
developmental stages during our life span. The
major periods of human development include: prenatal (conception-birth),
infancy and toddlerhood (birth-2 years), early childhood (2-6 years), middle
childhood (6-11 years), adolescence (11-18 years), early adulthood (18-40
years), middle adulthood (40-65 years) and late adulthood, 65 years-death
(Berg, 2007).1
Focus on adolescence to relate to the group. For more information visit:
http://kidshealth.org/parent/growth/growing/adolescence.html
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Berg, Laura E. (2007). Development Through the Lifespan (Fourth Edition), pp. 361-427. Boston, MA: Pearson
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Education, Inc
shared their three things, the rest of the group must decide which of the
three is a lie. The person then indicates which one was the "lie".
Provide Students Handout 1.2. Who Am I? And ask them to write three
words describing who they are (example, teacher, mother, and wife).
Engage in discussion based on the responses on status-oriented (student,
husband, father, daughter, son, catholic) and value-oriented (affectionate
person, caring, loving, free, generous) responses.
The facilitator will explain that neither of these two types is necessarily better
than the other and that up to 30 or 40 years ago, most people defined
themselves in terms of their jobs.
Ask for volunteers to share their responses.
Ask how many of them are status-oriented and how many are value-
oriented.
Debriefing
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Activity #3.1.2: Building self-identity (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Students will view and comment the YouTube video. Asian-Canadian
Self-Identity available at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRLGPOP_T_M (3
min)
Using your mobile phone QR Code Reader app scan this
code to visit this web based educational resource.
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Activity # 3.1.3: Inside/ Outside Masks (55 min)
Procedure:
To visit this web site with your smart phone use your QR
code reader
Scroll down the page and click on Start Quick (Circle in red)
Take the test
IMPORTANT: Announce to the students that when finish the test, they should not
have their options correspond to any of the options in the box. They also should
UNCHECK the email my results and Friend match options
Click Next and get the results
Pair students up and ask them to share the results.
Explain to the students that although this test is not professional and should not
be trusted, it is just an exercise to help us analyze what we know about our inner
self. Explain to the students the difference between our inner and outer self.
Distribute Handout 1.4 Masks and ask students to draw two masks: one
depicting what they look like on the outside and the other depicting what they
"look" like on the inside. The outside mask can include how they think others
perceive them.
Ask 3 - 4 people to share their masks.
Describe what the Johari Window is: It is a diagram showing four different
selves and how the awareness or otherwise of these aspects of our self by
others and ourselves leads to four categories (The public self, the private
self, the blind self and the undiscovered self). Refer to Handout 1.5.The
Johari Window.
Explain that increased self-disclosure generally leads to greater self- awareness.
Explain that the concept of self-disclosure refers to the sharing of information
about oneself with others either consciously or unconsciously. The facilitator may
also describe why members are initially reluctant to self-disclosure but gradually
begin to do so. With appropriate self-disclosure in groups, cohesion and group
morale generally increase. The facilitator should note that personal information
should not be disclosed during this exercise.
The Johari Window game:
Instructions
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1. Exchange your email address with three students
2. Go to http://kevan.org/johari
3. Pick five or six words that best describe you.
6. The next step is to send the URL located underneath the Johari to
the three students you exchange your email with, so they can play
the Johari box picking words they associate with you.
7. Click on the link provided on the website to watch how your Johari
Window changes as your friends pick words that best describe you.
Get the HTML results to paste into your journal or email, bookmark
this URL.
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Have a class discussion to explore the advantages and disadvantages of this
exercise. Were you surprised by anything that was said?
Debriefing
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Activity # 3.1.4: Self-Concepts and Media Influence (55 min)
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Divide the classroom into groups of four or five and have them sketch a one page
ad of positive words and images related to teens. The students can use the
internet to research videos and commercials for inspiration. If preferred by the
students, they could also use their computers to design the ad. The ad should
answer the following questions.
o What is it selling?
o How is it selling it?
o Why is it positive?
After completing the ad, the students present their ad to the class.
Debriefing
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Activity # 3.1.5: Building self-esteem (30 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Display the text on the board and have students fill the blanks
out individually.
I am great at ________________,
I am a fantastic _____________,
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MODULE # 3.2: Decision-Making Skills
Objectives
Students will learn about the model for appropriate decision-making.
Students will enhance their decision-making skills by solving different
situations and learning what type of a decision-maker they are.
Context
In subsequent modules we will learn about interests, values and goals and
how they are important in shaping our lives. Knowing our values, dreams,
goals and interests help us to make responsible decisions.
Pens/pencils
Sheet of paper one for each participant
Journals one per students
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity # 3.2.1: Decision-Making (55 min)
Procedure:
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Decision making game.
Instructions
1. Go to http://checkyourself.com/interact.aspx
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MODULE # 3.3: Communications Skills
Objectives
Students will understand the importance of two-way communication.
Students will learn how to express ones thoughts and feelings through the
use of I-Statements.
Students will learn that they can be in control of their lives by engaging in
assertive behavior.
Context
Pens/pencils
Sheet of paper one for each participant
Journals one per students
Dictionary
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity # 3.3.1: Two-way communication (55 min)
Procedure:
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1. Ask students to go to visit the
following web site:
http://www.slideshare.net/agillies/3-
steps-to-effectively-communicating.
In this website they will play a two
way communication presentation
slide. Have the students play only
slides 9 to 20. Ask them to take
notes if necessary.
2. After viewing the slides, display this
video on the blackboard
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xI
vY33KWIKAhttp://www.youtube.com
/watch?v=xIvY33KWIKA) up to minute 3.12.
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Activity # 3.3.2: Choosing your words correctly (30 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker. Students will view and discuss the video. Master Peace International:
You Versus I Statements available at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9YgDxKqQwU (3.16 min)
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Activity # 3.3.3: Assertiveness or Passiveness (30 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Students will view and discuss the video. Assertiveness - Tips for being
assertive & saying 'No' available at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZynhvBShqU&feature=related. (7.13)
Instructions
Play the video up to minute 1.07. Pause it after the first request (Laura can you
make me a cup of tea please?) Tell the students that they are going to play Lora
and practice saying no to each request. Have students respond aloud. Play the
second request, pause and let the students respond. Repeat until the last
request on minute 1.32.
Play video up to minute 4.08. Pause and announce to students that they will be
practicing the run with Laura. Students will give an answer aloud after each
question. Play the video and pause after the first request. Let the students
answer. Play the video and listen to Lauras answer. Listen to the second
request. Pause. Let the students answer. Play the video and listen to Lauras
answer. Repeat until the last request on minute 5.40.
Play again and listen to the feedback.
Explain that assertiveness is a method of communication that lets others know
your ideas and feelings while respecting their feelings as well. For the purpose of
our discussion, behavior can be divided into three types: aggressive, assertive
and passive. Refer to Handout 3.4 Aggressive, Assertive or Passive for further
information on the concept of assertiveness.
Then the participants work through scenarios providing their normal response
related to either passiveness or assertiveness (Handout 3.5).
Students engage in discussion indicating what they have understood from the
activity; discuss every situation.
Game:Chair hopping. This exercise highlights the importance of different
communication styles (Use Handout 3.5 Hopping Chairs for instructions).
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Activity # 3.3.4: Anger Management (30 min)
Icebreaker. Students will view and discuss the video. RLT Teens and Anger
Management. Available at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nL1BrvwgrVM
(7.15 min). Using your mobile phone QR Code Reader app scan this code to visit
this web based educational resource.
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MODULE # 3.4: Conflict Resolution
Objectives
Context
Conflict is inevitable in groups. Conflict can occur when two parties are
working towards the same goal and generally want the same outcome, or
when both parties want a very different settlement. negative. Conflict is
necessary to avoid traps like groupthink. A leader should even encourage
conflict, but then a leader should also know how to resolve it. Throughout
situations of conflict among people, the leader usually assumes the role of a
mediator. This occurs because the leader has acquired conflict resolution skills.
Pens/pencils
Sheet of paper- one for each participant
Journals one per students
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity # 3.4.1: Styles of Handling Conflict (30 min)
Procedure:
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Activity # 3.4.2: Fighting conflict and resolving conflict (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker. Tug of War: Initiate this activity, if possible, by asking for one
volunteer. Using a rope, demonstrate to the class what a tug of war is.
Each individual pulls the rope from the end attempting to win. Explain to
participants that the purpose of this activity is to illustrate the way we view
and handle conflicts. Have participants read the situations in Handout 4.4
Tug of War and ask them how they would deal with them as an enemy
and as a friend.
Now that students have an understanding of tug of war, tell them that
there are rules for fighting fair.
Present the five rules for fighting fair in Handout 4.5 Fighting Fair.
Have students solve the conflict situations provided in the Handout 4.5.
Have students tell what both people in the conflict situations won when
the conflict was resolved fairly.
Mediation. Ask students how many of them have heard of mediation? It is
probably that most of them have an understanding of this concept. Tell
them that mediation is an alternative form to help empower others to
solve their conflicts. Often, we are used to telling others what to do, but
that is not always helpful. Tell them that mediation is used by schools,
organizations, and courts for solving problems and reaching agreements.
The mediator listens and asks questions that help the individuals solve
their disputes. Remind participants that they all have the ability to be
mediators.
Play this video about mediation to illustrate the meaning of mediation and
its benefits. Mediation Process and benefits. The video is available at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nOepqoCsmfw. (2.59 min)
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Engage in a discussion based on the questions on handout 11.3A:
o What did the participants learned from the activity?
o Can they see the benefits of mediation?
Debriefing
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Activity # 3.4.3: Family and conflict (45 min)
Procedure:
After watching the video ask participants with whom they live. Tell
participants that parents, guardians and children have responsibilities;
however, when the responsibilities are disregarded, it leads to conflicts.
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For example, parents are responsible for providing food to their children;
children are responsible for doing their homework. How can we avoid
conflicts?
Ask students to brainstorm on the kind of conflicts parents, guardians and
youth have with each other. Ask them to think about themselves, friends
or relatives. Make sure to take notes on the flit chart or blackboard.
Once conflicts have been discussed, engage in discussion on how to
avoid those conflicts; ask participants to write down their responsibilities
as son or daughter and their parents or guardians responsibilities.
Ask for two volunteers to do a role-play to reinforce avoiding conflicts with
parents or guardians. Have one participant be the son or daughter and
the other the parent or guardian.
o The child is coming from school and the parent/guardian is cooking.
The parent/guardian told the child in the morning before leaving for
school to make sure to clean the room when he/she comes back. The
child returns from school and puts his/her book bag in the closet, and
proceeds to grab the TV remote control. The role-play should indicate
what the son/daughter should do differently to avoid conflicts with
parents/guardians.
Discuss what they learned from the activity.
Debriefing
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Module # 3.5: Family Enrichment
Objectives
Context
Pens/pencils
Sheet of paper one for each participant
Journals one per students
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity # 3.5.1: The Meaning of Family (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Video. Students will watch and discuss the video: What is
family? Available at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBdkq02CZ58
(2.57 min)
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Have participants watch the following video about the dynamics of a
specific family. Running Your Family Like a Business: Family Life (1949)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yAvd5VqJ5og
(9.50 min)
While watching the video, the students should answer the following
questions:
o How do they manage work and family responsibilities?
o How do they solve personal and family problems?
o How do they interact with each other?
o Does anybody assume leadership roles? Who?
o How did this family look similar to yours?
After watching the video elicit answers from the students and open up a
group discussion.
Debriefing
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Activity # 3.5.2: Three Styles of Family Leadership (30 min)
Procedure:
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Activity # 3.5.3: Family Relationships (30 min)
Procedure:
Begin this activity by telling students that the idea of dysfunctional families
has been created by society and internalized by many families. For
example, single-parent households are not necessarily dysfunctional.
Tell them that as long as they have one person that loves them that is
what matters.
Ask students to write an autobiography in their journal, which should
include their parents involvement in their lives. Ask them how parent
involvement or lack of parent involvement has affected who they are. Is
this belief instilled by society? How can we change self-damaging
beliefs?
Break students into groups of 4 or 5.
Maintaining family relationships is helpful for our psychological health. For
example, if questions about family history arise, they can probably
provide some answers. There are other reasons why family relationships
are important. Ask students to think about other reasons. Take notes on
the flit chart or blackboard.
Provide Handout 5.3. Precious Memories
Have students record two memories of family traditions they experienced
in their family.
Open discussion: Have students discuss why that experience was
important to their family.
Debriefing
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MODULE # 3.6: Substance Abuse Awareness and Prevention
Objectives
Students will learn how alcohol and other depressant drugs slow down the
thinking process.
Students will be able to measure the frequency in which youth use
alcohol/drugs.
Students will learn about the health effects of the Marijuana.
Context
Pens/pencils
Sheet of paper one for each participant
Journals one per students
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity# 3.6.1: Introduction to Drugs (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Students will view and discuss the video. Anti-Drug PSA
Drugs Kill Dreams, available at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sd3L4l4OcJQ (0.36 secs)
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5. Each group gives a brief presentation on the drug assigned and
displays a picture of the drug on the board.
Alcohol Usage Tell students that one of the most widely used drugs is
alcohol and have them complete Handout 6.1 Alcohol Usage
Once the six questions are completed, review each question with the
students and encourage them to stay alcohol and drug free.
Debriefing
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Activity# 3.6.2 Recognizing and Preventing Drug Use
Procedure:
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Using your mobile phone QR Code
Reader app scan this code to visit this web based educational
resource.
How to identify drug abuse? Explain to the students that they are
going to learn about how to identify drug abuse in a teenager. Pair
the students up and assign them a symptom. The students will visit
http://timetoact.drugfree.org/think-look-for-signs.html and click on
the symptom to learn about it.
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MODULE # 3.7: Values
Objectives
Students will identify a personal value and examine their own value system.
Students will build relations among group members through positive
interactions and to increase self-esteem by receiving thoughtful gifts from
others.
Context
Pens/pencils
Tape
Sheet of paper one for each participant
Journals one per student
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity # 3.7.1: Identify values (55 min)
Procedure:
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o A person who values excitement may participate in action sports or
travel.
Provide Handout 7.1 What Do I Enjoy Doing? and ask students
participants to list 10 activities that they like to do.
Once they have completed the list, ask them to examine it and see if any
themes or patterns are apparent in their values or what they like to do.
Discuss and share answers with larger group.
Debriefing
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Activity # 3.7.2 Exploring cultural values (55 min)
Procedure:
Display the image on the board. Divide the students into groups of four or
five and ask them to draw a picture of a value. The value does not need to
be any of the values represented in the picture below. The picture can
depict a specific value or the general concept of value.
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Activity # 3.7.3: Gift from the Heart2 (55 min)
Procedure:
Explain to participants that giving and receiving gifts often brings a good
feeling. The giver expresses unconditional love. The receiver gets a
token of affection and love. This activity allows peers to understand
others and learn how others see them through the exchange of thoughtful
gifts.
Ask students to form groups of 3-4 and have each member of the group
choose an imaginary gift to give to each person in the group.
Each gift is drawn or described on a piece of paper to be given to the
recipient. The gifts should be thought out carefully so they represent the
individuals who receive the gifts. The gifts may be deep and thoughtful
such as courage to face lifes difficulties, for someone who has shared
many deep problems with the group. Or the gifts may simply be
something the receiver would enjoy, such as a season soccer pass to go
see your teams games any time you want, for someone who enjoys
soccer.
Once everyone has completed their gifts, let one person at a time give out
his/her gifts to the others. When giving the gifts, the giver should explain
what the gift is and why they chose to give that particular gift to the
individual.
Engage all students in a discussion based on these questions:
o How did you decide what gifts to give?
o What did you think about the gifts you got?
o Do you think there was a good match between the people and the
gifts they received?
Debriefing
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Adapted from http://www.gamesforgroups.com/index.htm
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MODULE # 3.8: Personal Mission, Vision and Goals
Objectives
Context
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Activity # 3.8.1: Writing a Personal Vision Statement (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Students will view and discuss the video. What if life is
actually. Available at
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qx8w3rgvIsM&feature=pyv (6.51 min)
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Brown, Duane (2007). Career Information, Counseling, and Career Development (Ninth Ed), pp. 113-114. San
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Francisco: Pearson Education, Inc.
After this exercise is finished, distribute the Handout 8.3 The areas that
you let operate by accident and have the group complete the worksheet
by focusing only in one area that was mentioned in the previous exercise.
Have a couple of students share their answers.
Refer to Handout 8.4. Developing a Personal Vision Statement and tell
participants about what a vision is and how leaders can use it.
Ask students to think about their past to identify important events in their
lives in preparation for writing a vision statement (refer to Step 1.
Handout 8.4).
Ask students to determine what they want for their future (refer to Step 2.
Handout 8.4).
Ask students to write an article on how they have made a difference (refer
to Step 3. Handout 8.4).
Once steps one through three are completed, ask participants to begin
writing a short vision statement in their journal (Step 4. Handout 8.4).
After writing the vision statement ask the students to swap their vision
statement. Students will have a peer review session of their vision
statements.
Debriefing
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Activity # 3.8.2: Writing a Mission Statement (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker Students will view and discuss the video: Personal Mission
Statement. Available at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6i0z7WV-o8I
(4.14 min)
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MODULE # 3.9: Mentoring
Objectives
Context
Pens/pencils
Sheet of paper one for each participant
Journals one per students
Computers, projector and internet access for facilitator
Computers with internet access for the students
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Activity # 3.9.1: Learning about mentoring (55 min)
Procedure:
Icebreaker: Students will view and discuss the video. Big Brothers Big
Sisters Hispanic Mentoring Program; available at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80gSys0btuo (5.32 min)
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Activity # 3.9.2: Group mentoring group activity
Procedure:
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Handout 1.1
In My Teens
Thoughts about relationships:
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Handout 1.2
Who Am I?
Write three words describing who you are (example, student, son/daughter, Christian).
1.
2.
3.
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Handout 1.3
Identity Cube
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Handout 1.4
Masks
Draw two masks: One depicting what you look like on the outside and the other
depicting what you look like on the inside. The outside mark can include how you think
others perceive you.
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Handout 1.5 The Johari Window
Our blind self may remain blind because others will not discuss this part of us for a
range of reasons. Perhaps they realize that we would be unable to accept what they
see. Perhaps they have tried to discuss this and we have been so blind that we
assume their views are invalid. They may also withhold this information as it gives
them power over us.
What you do
What you see in me
not see in me
The Private
What I see in me The Public Self
Self
The
What I do not see
The Blind Self Undiscovered
in me
Self
The Open person is usually the most 'together' and relaxed of the personas. They are
so comfortable with themselves they are not ashamed or troubled with the notion of
other people seeing themselves as they really are.
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With a small Blind Self, they make fewer social errors and cause less embarrassment.
They are also in a more powerful position in negotiations, where they have fewer
weaknesses to be exploited.
Becoming an Open Persona usually takes people much time and effort, unless they
were blessed with a wonderful childhood and grew up well-adjusted from the beginning.
It can require courage to accept others honest views and also to share your deeper
self and explore the depths of the undiscovered self.
The weaker side of the Open Persona is where they understand and share
themselves, but do not understand others. They may thus dump embarrassing
information from their Private Selves onto others who are not ready to accept it.
What you do
What you see in me
not see in me
The Private
What I see in me The Public Self
Self
The
What I do not see
The Blind Self Undiscovered
in me
Self
The Naive Persona may also be somewhat of a bull in a china shop, for example using
aggression without realizing the damage that it does, and can thus be disliked or
feared. They may also wear their heart on their sleeves and lack the emotional
intelligence to see how others see them.
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The Secret Persona
When a person has a large Private Self, they may appear distant and secretive to
others. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of time
ensconced in their own private world. In conversations they say little and, as a result,
may not pay a great deal of attention to others.
What
you
What you do not see in me
see in
me
The
What I see in me Public The Private Self
Self
The
What I do not see in
Blind The Undiscovered Self
me
Self
Having a smaller Blind Self (often because they give little away), the Secret Persona
may well be aware of their introverted tendencies, but are seldom troubled about this.
Where they are troubled, their introversion is often as a result of personal traumas that
have led them to retreat from the world.
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3. The Mysterious Persona
Sometimes people are a mystery to themselves as well as to other people. They act in
strange ways and do not notice it. They may be very solitary, yet not introverted.
What
you
What you do not see in me
see in
me
The
What I see in me Public The Private Self
Self
The
What I do not see in
Blind The Undiscovered Self
me
Self
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Handout 1.6 Changing a Failure Identity through Rational Self-Analysis
As the Mysterious Persona knows relatively little about themselves, they may be of
lower intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others. They may
also just prefer to live in the moment, taking each day as it comes and not seeking
self-awareness.
Some forms of esoteric self-developments seek to rid oneself of concerns about the
self in order to achieve a higher state of being. They may deliberately enter states of
non-thinking and revel in such intuitive paradoxes as knowing through not knowing.
_______________________
Adapted from:
http://changingminds.org/disciplines/communication/johari_window.htm#the
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Handout 1.7: Changing a Failure Identity through Rational Self-Analysis
(1). Im worried that I wont get into (1) My instructors tell me I am doing pretty well in
college and, if I do, that I wont be my classes. On the video-tape where I was a
good at counseling clients. counselor, Dr. Gonzalez said practically every
student had concerns about their first interview. I
guess it would be better to take things in stride,
rather than awfulizing by expecting the worst.
(3). Others will do better than I in (3) Some students are doing better, others arent.
social work courses. Thus, I wont Im getting Bs and Cs, which is average. My
be any good at it and should drop course instructors have praised me on many
out of school until I figure out what I things. I really like social work, so even if I bomb
should do. field placement, Ill know I gave it my all. If I give
up now, Ill be kicking myself for quitting before
knowing if I can really do this.
(4). I fear I wont know what to say (4) In the past I feared I wouldnt pass several
when I get my first client in the classes: math, biology, pre-calculus, and Spanish.
field. Once I started those courses I did OK. When it
comes down to it, I know students as scared as I
who passed classes. If they made it, I can!
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(5). Im really worried Im going to (5) Im certainly not a failure. Ive got a lot of
get tongue-tied while leading a things going for me. Im already a junior. Im
group in field placement. Im more getting at least average grades. I have a lot of
scared about working with groups neat, close friends. Im in good health. Ive passed
than about working with individuals. a lot of tough courses. My instructors tell me Im
goo at interviewing. In the past Ive been my own
worst enemy. Im glad Ive had this talk with
myself. Im going to stop putting myself down -
staring now!
(6). Im overweight and no one likes (6) There I go again, putting myself down. Im
me because of it. scared, but others have survived. Think positively.
Ive spoken in class, given presentations without
becoming tongued-tied. I even led a group
session. Though my knees shook, my instructor
said I did OK, and Id be better and more relaxed
with practice.
(7). I know Ill never find anyone as (7) True, Im overweight but I intend to diet and
great as Julio again. No one has exercise. Its simply not true nobody likes me. I
even asked me out. have a lot of close friends, and my family likes
me. Maybe if I become more assertive more
people will notice me and like me.
(8). No guy wants to date a fat girl. (8) With tons of singles to date, there must be a
I know no one will date me. few Id enjoy. Ive got to be honest with myself.
The reasons I havent had dates are because Ive
been wallowing in self-pity, and havent gone
places to meet someone. From tonight on, Im
going to start looking. Enough self-pity!
(9). Whats the use of going to (9) Again, my thinking is screwy. I see a lot of
college? Even if I graduate, Ill overweight people who are dating. I can too!
never get a job in social work. Im Many guys have told me Im a good listener and
wasting my time. talker. Ill lose some weight, and think positively.
In fact, I think Ill ask him if hed like to come over
to talk and eat lunch. He may be as shy as I am.
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(10). Given everything, Im a failure (10) Its not true Im wasting my time. Ive learned
and doomed to a lonely, boring, and grown as a person, and met some great
low-paid life. people. Thats more than justified the money
spent. Plus, I stand a good chance of getting a
social work job. Ive seen other students hired
who have no more on the ball than I do. Even if
the job market is tight when I graduate these
courses have increased my interpersonal skills
which should help me get a job in a field where I
can apply what I learned.
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Handout 1.7
Ingredients for a Positive Self-Image
Having a positive self-image is one of the most important traits of a leader. A leader has
to be confident and self-assured. Believing in yourself impacts your relationship with
others. In fact, a positive self-image opens up communication with everyone around
you.
6. Situational Skills
-Situational skills provide you with the ability to analyze a situation and decide what the
most appropriate behavior to respond with would be. Remember that a leader should be
flexible and ready to adapt to the situation around him/her at all times.
7. Judgmental Skills
-Judgmental skills give you the ability to recognize a situation, analyze what needs to be
done, and apply good judgment to the decision you make.
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Handout 2.1
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Handout 2.2
Situation Role Play4
Narrator Begins:
A group of friends are over at Sarita's house for a party, and her parents have just left to
see a movie. Everyone but Juan and Carla has been going out for two months. As they
decide to go get something to eat and rent a video, Juan and Carla are left in the house
alone, and Carla suggests that they go make out in Sarita's bedroom. Juan is unsure,
and as they think about it they both realize that they dont have protection.
Carla: Theyll be coming back soon. Come to Sarita's room with me while we still have
time.
Juan: I want to, but I don't know if we should.
Carla: Why not?
Juan: I dont have any protection with me.
Carla: I knew we were getting more serious so I just started taking the pill, and it's not
like we have AIDS or anything.
Juan: Carla, I don't know . . .
Narrator: CUT to STAR Vision!!! Juan and Carla have to make a decision. What does
the STAR say they need to do?
Facilitator: The first thing to do is STOP. STOP means get out of the situation for a
moment if you can, and give yourself some time to make your decision. Step back from
the pressure you may be feeling from other people, and take a second to remember
yourself and what's important to you.
Juan: I need to get a drink of water. I'm going to go to the kitchen for a minute, okay?
Carla: Okay.
Juan: (Juan leaves to get a drink of water in the kitchen.)
Narrator: CUT to STAR Vision!!! What does the STAR Vision say to do next? Give
students appropriate time to answer.
Facilitator: Use this time to THINK about what you want to do. These are some things
you can ask yourself:
What is happening? Do I like what is happening?
What do I want to happen? What are my options?
What will happen if I do X? What will happen if I do Y?
Think through the possible consequences of your actions.
Handout 2.1A: Situation Role Play
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Adapted and used with permission from Healthy Oakland Teen Project.
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What are consequences?
Consequences are the results of your actions. They can be good or bad, sometimes
they're both, and sometimes they're neither. After you've thought it out, then make your
decision.
Narrator: Juan and Carla think about the situation, their options and the consequences.
*Narrator comes in again when they have each made their own decision.
Juan: I really want to make out with Carla, but we don't have any condoms and it
seems like she is ready to take that next step. If we go to Sarita's room, we may end up
having sex. She's on the pill, so she won't get pregnant. It could be that everything
would be fine, but either one of us could have HIV, or some other STD like herpes or
syphilis. We may not even KNOW it and the other could get infected too. Maybe the
other kids or Sarita's parents will come back and catch us.
If we don't go to Sarita's room, Carla might think I don't like her. She might tell her
friends I wouldn't do it with her, and the guys at school would be looking at me like there
was something wrong with me. She might never talk to me again or it might be cool with
her, and we can just wait. Ive also been thinking about waiting to have sex until I was
really in love with someone, so I would marry them if we ever got pregnant. Im not sure
if Im at that point. I've always thought that feeling good and being true to myself is more
important than what other people say or think about me. I'll tell Carla that I want to wait
because I want us both to feel good, not only now, but also after tonight.
Narrator: Cut to STAR Vision!!! Now that Juan has made a decision, what comes next?
Facilitator: The next step is to ACT. This includes telling the other person what you've
decided. Talking about your decisions can take more courage than just doing what
you've made up your mind to do. It also means that the other person will understand
why you're doing this. It shows that you care about how the other person feels and
communication shows that you respect each other.
Narrator: Juan and Carla come back together and talk about what they've decided.
They talk until they each understand what the other person is saying.
Juan: I've thought about it, and I've decided I don't want to go upstairs with you tonight.
Carla: How come?
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Handout 2.2 Situation Role Play
Juan: I don't want you to think I don't like you, because it's not that at all. I just dont
think we are ready for sex. I care about my health, and yours, too. I want us both to feel
good, not just for now, but after we've made our decisions. Besides, we can still hang
out and have fun until the other kids get back. We don't need to have sex for that. 22 4
Carla: It's funny that you decided that, because I was just thinking that maybe this isn't
the best time for me either.
Juan: I'm glad you understand.
Facilitator: The final step is to REVIEW your decision when it's over.
Narrator: Look over the consequences of your decision. Are they consequences you
can live with? This is the best way to tell if you made a good decision. Another important
part of your review is checking in with the other person afterwards. The next time Juan
sees Carla, he will ask her how she feels about what happened. Juan should also think
about his vision in this process. How does this decision affect his vision or plans for the
future?
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Handout 2.3: What Kind of a Decision Maker are You? Decision-Making Styles5
Not all individuals approach decision making in the same manner. There are Inner
Reliant decision makers who take responsibility for their decisions and Outer Reliant
decision makers who try and transfer the responsibility to others for their decisions. The
following list identifies a number of different decision-making styles. Assess whether
that style is inner reliant or outer reliant.
Impulsive Decider One who takes the first alternative that is presented: Decide now;
think later. Dont look before leaping.
Fatalistic Decider One who leaves the resolution of the decision up to the
environment or fate: Whatever will be will be.
Compliant Decider One who goes along with someone elses plan rather than making
an independent decision, especially when that plan doesnt agree
with ones own beliefs: If its okay with you, its okay with me.
Anything you say.
Delaying Decider One who delays thought and action on a problem: Ill think about it
later.
Agonizing Decider One who spends much time and thought gathering data and
analyzing alternatives only to get lost amidst the data gathered: I
cant make up my mind. I dont know what to do.
Intuitive Decider One who decides based on what is felt, but cannot be verbalized:
It feels right.
Paralytic Decider One who accepts the responsibility for decisions, but is unable to
do much toward approaching it: I know I should, but I just cant get
with it. Cant face up to it.
Escapist Decider One who avoids a decision or makes up an answer to deflect
inquiry. For example, if asked by a relative about a college major,
this type (although still undecided, but considering teaching), would
respond, Im thinking about pre-med. This allows the escapist to
give a socially acceptable answer without taking responsibility
Play it-Safe One who almost always picks the alternative with the perceived
lowest level of risk: I like anthropology, but I can get a job in
accounting.
Planner One whose strategy is based on a rational approach with some
balance between the cognitive and emotional: Im the captain of
my fate; Im the master of my soul.
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Adapted from Rutgers University Career Services
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Handout 3.1
ACTIVE LISTENING
Despite what you might think, listening is not hearing. When you hear something your
ears receive a sound like traffic, dogs barking, or babies crying. However, listening
requires your ears AND your brain, hearing AND interpreting the message you are
receiving. Anyone can hear, but leaders listen.
In order to be an active listener, you must not only pay attention to what another person
says, but also identify how to respond properly. Active listeners concentrate, clarify, and
check the meaning, content, context, and intent of what others say. You have to try to
understand what the other person is saying, feeling, or thinking, then put that
understanding into words, feeding it back to them for verification.
2. Paraphrasing
are trying to say.
Example: So let me see, you mean
3. Reflecting Feeling
Example: That must make you feel sad.
4. Reflecting Meaning
Restate the feeling/ emotion with reason.
Example: You must feel sad because
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Handout 3.2
One-Way Communication
Instructions for Demonstrator: Study the shapes below. Facing away from the rest of
the group, direct members in how they are to draw the figures below (Remember: you
are the only person who can speak!). Begin with the smallest square and describe the
objects that follow clockwise, taking note of the particular relationship of each object to
the preceding one. No questions will be allowed from the rest of the group.
When finished, show the diagram to the rest of the class. Looking at the drawings, what
were some of the problems?
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Handout 3.2A
Two-Way Communication
Instructions: Study the shapes below. Facing the group, the leader should now direct
participants in how they are to draw the figures. Begin with the smallest circle and
describe the objects that follow counter clockwise, taking note of the particular
relationship of each object to the preceding one. Answer all questions from participants
and repeat if necessary.
When finished, show the diagram to the rest of the class. Looking at the drawings, did
they improve from the last time?
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Handout 3.3A: Definition of I-Statements
You-Statements I-Statements
Dont do that. Id feel better if we focused on our work.
You stop that, or else! Im frustrated.
You should know better. I thought it was done differently.
This is all your fault. I think mistakes were made, lets fix them.
Your so dumb cause youre younger. Ive got experience that might help.
You dont know how its done. Ive got an idea how to do it!
Youre acting like a baby, get over it! I feel like we should move on.
Youre an idiot! Im unhappy the way things are going.
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I-statements communicate much more honestly and successfully how one persons
behavior affects another. I-statements tend to be more effective because they
discourage defensiveness and encourage the other group member assume
responsibility for his/her behavior. I-statements tell the group member that you trust
him/her to respect your needs and to handle the situation constructively. I-statements
are much less likely to produce an argument. They tend to facilitate honesty, openness
and more cordial relationships within the group.
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Handout 3.3B: Choosing Your Words Carefully
Directions: Change the negative blaming statements below to positive non blaming
statements without changing what is being said.
YOU-STATEMENT I-STATEMENT
______________________________
Its not really important but ______________________________
I wanted to talk to you. ______________________________
______________________________
I wouldnt go out with you even if ______________________________
you were the last person on earth. ______________________________
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Handout 3.4
ASSERTIVE: An assertive reply would be honest and direct, but not disrespectful to
your neighbor. Example: No, I cant help you now, but if youd like me to help you in
the future, please just give me a little notice.
PASSIVE: When you respond passively, you avoid immediate conflict, but you may be
upset because you havent expressed your feelings. A passive response to the situation
would be to work, even though you didnt want to, or to decline, by making up some
excuse. Example: Ok, I guess I can help you out.
Situation 1: You have tons of homework and Mom asks you to do the dishes.
Response:
______ Why dont you do the dishes? Cant you see I have tons of homework?
______ All right, Mom.
______ I have a ton of homework tonight, and Id rather not have to do the
dishes so I can get my work finished.
SITUATION 2: Friends at a party ask you to try drugs, but you dont want to.
Response:
_______ Well, just this once wont hurt.
_______ Youre all crazy! What do you want to do that for?
_______ No thanks, I really dont want to try drugs.
SITUATION 4: Your friend wants to copy your homework, but you believe copying is
wrong.
Response
_______ I worked hard on this and I want the full credit for the assignment. I
dont want to take the chance of getting caught.
_______ Well, okay. Be sure to change some of the words.
_______ Thats cheating.
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Handout 3.5
Hopping chairs6
Purpose
Delegates will try to persuade other people to sit in the chair next to them.
Delegates sit around in a circle and are separated from each other by one
empty chair.
The delegates aim is to fill the empty chair on their right as soon as the
exercise starts. They can use any method of communication such as eye
contact, shouting, pleading and hand gestures to persuade others in sitting on
their right. As soon as a chair on someones right becomes available that
person should try to get someone to sit on it.
Timing
Activity: 5 minutes
Discussion
Ask delegates which method of communication they found most useful in this task.
Was it aggressive persuasion or an assertive approach that paid off more? Does an
assertive request always work or sometimes it is better to be more aggressive in
getting what we want?
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Source: Skills Converged
http://www.skillsconverged.com/FreeTrainingMaterials/tabid/258/articleType/ArticleView/articleId/590/Assertiven
ess-Exercise-Chair-Hopping.aspx
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Handout 3.6
Anger Management
Situation 1: A friend tells you that your girlfriend/boyfriend is cheating on you. How
would you handle this situation?
Situation 2: You find that your best friend is talking behind your back. What do you
do?
Situation 3: How would you handle put downs or bad teasing from peers?
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Handout 4.1
MY
PROBLEM
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Handout 4.2
Conflicts
Conflict: A Personal Definition
Conventional definitions of conflict are important to understand, but how we think about
and respond to conflict on a personal level is just as important. After all, our style
influences how we interpret and manage conflicts not only in our personal lives, but in
our work lives as wellwhen we sit at the table for staff meetings, supervise staff, and
develop agreements with other agencies.
How people handle conflict depends on their upbringing, experiences, values, culture,
and temperament. Some members of your team may shy away from conflict and give in
rather than explore differences of opinion. Others may feel it is impolite to disagree or
argue with another person in public. Others may thrive in jumping into the hot seat.7
As you read this section on different ways of handling conflict, think about how you
would characterize your own style, as well as the style of one or two particular people
you work with.
Avoiding characterizes a person who does not address conflict; she will take
whatever steps she can to pretend the conflict does not exist. Avoiding may take
the form of diplomatically sidestepping or postponing an issue, or simply
withdrawing from a threatening situation.
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Compromising characterizes an individual who falls between competing and
accommodating. A person who is compromising wants to find an expedient,
mutually acceptable solution that partially satisfies the parties involved.
Compromising might involve splitting the difference, making an exchange or
concession, or seeking a quick middle-ground position.
Conflict-Resolution Styles9
BUID RELATIONSHIP
ACCOMMODATE COLLABORATE
Your way Our way
COMPROMISE
AVOID COMPETE
No way My way
WEAKEN RELATIONSHIP
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Adapted from Bellard, J. Getting Unstock: A Consumers Guide to Collaborating Conflict Resolution, 1996.
Washington, DC: Corporation for National Service and the National Association for Community Mediation, p.2
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Handout 4.3
Once you have identified your style, consider the following strategies to improve your
conflict-resolution practices.
Let go your position for a moment. Think about what the other person needs and
wants.
Work with others to identify underlying concerns and issues.
Consider all the options, and how all the parties stand to benefit from each one.
Focus on your own concerns. What are your needs and goals?
Give yourself time to gather data that support your caseyour goals and
reasons they matter.
Take a deep breath; calmly state your concerns and why they are important.
If you sense that a confrontation is brewing, dont just give up. Objectively
present your point of view while providing data to support it.
Slow down. Dont always choose the fastest solution. Take your time to find
alternatives that really work for everyone.
Make your thinking explicit when youre at the table. Help your colleagues
understand how you work with others to find solutions that benefit everyone.
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Handout 4.4
Tug of war
In a tug of war, or rope pulling, there is a winner and a loser. It is a contest to determine
who is physically stronger. Wouldnt life be simple if we dealt with all conflicts like tug of
war? But the strongest person in a conflict is not always right and the bully in a fight
does not always win fairly.
When we are angry, we often perceive the other person as an enemy or opponent in a
contest. Like a tug of war, we think of either winning or losing. It is difficult to remember
that we both have the problem not me against you but both of us tied up together
with a common problem to be worked out.
Remember.when there is a conflict to be solved; you are both responsible for finding
a solution.
PUTTING IT TOGETHER
Read the following situations. Tell how you would deal with them.
Situation As An Enemy I Would As a Friend I Would
Someone calls you a name
Someone pushes you
Someone takes your pencil
Someone steps in front of
you in line
Someone steps on your
foot
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Handout 4.5
Fighting Fair
In a tug of war or boxing match, it is you against the other person. However, a real
conflict situation should not be like a tug of war, but you and me together against a
common problem.
It is difficult to fight fair when we are fighting mad, we feel threatened and often our
angry emotions block our good judgments. Fortunately, there are rules we can learn to
fight fair in a real conflict situation. By learning these rules we can become capable
conflict solvers and more caring people.
Putting it together:
______________________________________________________________________
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Handout 4.6A
Steps for Mediation
I. Introduction
II. Listening
Ask the first person what she or he could have done differently.
(Paraphrase).
Ask the second person what she or he could have done differently.
(Paraphrase).
Ask the first person what she or he can do here and now to help solve
the problem. (Paraphrase).
Ask the second person what she or he can do here and now to help
solve the problem. (Paraphrase).
Use creative questioning to bring disputants closer to a solution.
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Handout 4.6B
Mediate
Pat and Lou are good friends. Pat broke up with his/her/girl/boyfriend and told Lou the
story including all the events that led to the breakup. Later Pat found out the story had
gotten around and blamed Lou for the gossip telling him/her never to get close to
him/her again.
Divide the class into groups of four. Two will play the disputants, one, the mediator, and
the fourth, an observer. Have the disputants role-play the conflict and the mediator offer
help using Steps for Mediation.
After the first role-play, have the observer help process by asking the group questions
such as: What went well? What could have gone differently? The students can then
change roles so each plays either a disputant or a mediator.
Afterwards, ask students: How did they feel when the mediator offered assistance? Did
it feel helpful? Like an intrusion? How did you feel when you offered mediation? Can
you imagine yourself offering to mediate a dispute in your family? Among friends? Have
you ever done that? If so, this is a Conscious Act of Peace.
Finally ask students for one word describing how they are feeling.
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Handout 4.7
Group Conflict Resolution Techniques
1. Define the problem. The individuals or groups should identify the conflict in terms
of their own needs. How does the problem affect each person/group? How do they
view the problem? How does this view on the problem differ between one another?
In defining the problem, the individuals or groups should refrain from making
personal attacks or making statements of blame. They should use I-messages, in
the following format: "When... (situation or behavior that is causing the problem), I
(speaker's feeling), because (consequences of the situation or behavior to the
speaker)". For example, "When club members get to the meeting late, I feel
irritated because it gives me less time to discuss club business."
2. Restate the problem. Restate the problem incorporating the needs of both
individuals/groups. Both individuals/groups must agree with the definition of their
needs. Continue this process until agreement is reached.
3. Develop alternatives. Have all participants in the discussion offer their ideas and
suggestions as to the best way to solve the problem. No discussion, acceptance,
rejection, or evaluation of solutions should happen at this point.
4. Evaluate alternatives. Have all members of the group discuss the pros and cons of
each alternative. Eliminate those alternatives that are unacceptable for any reason
to any participant. Participants should continue to be honest in expressing their
feelings and needs throughout this process.
6. Implement the solution. Discuss the implications of the solution. How will it affect
everybody? How will it help solve the problem? Set up a time in the future to
evaluate how the solution is working.
7. Evaluate the solution. Find out how each person feels the solution is working.
Should the solution be adjusted? Does everybody still agree with the statement of
the problem? If anyone feels that the solution is not working, or that new
problems have arisen; then repeat the process from the beginning.
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Handout 5.1: The Building Blocks of Family Life
3 Relating to Others
Description: The quality of family life depends on the interaction between family
members. Caring, respectful relationships in families help family members reach
their fullest potential.
Example: Expressing feelings, needs, and ideas constructively; listening
actively; recognizing and respecting individual differences; and resolving conflict.
Discussion:
Why are families important to you?
Why is each of the skills identified in the activity important to families?
In what ways do you already possess some skills in these areas?
In what ways could you improve your present skills to prepare to build a strong
family?
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Handout 5.2
Leadership is important in families. With effective leadership, a family can satisfy the
needs of all family members, achieve family goals, and build the abilities and self-
esteem. There are several styles of leadership, each with different goals and outcomes:
Director Style: Uses authority and power to control, direct, supervise, and
oversee family members.
o Goal: To have family members depend on the family leader.
Shared Democratic Style: Involves other family members in decision-making,
fosters cooperation and negotiates differences.
o Goal: Empowered, interdependent members.
Delegate Style: Influences members by explaining and delegating what is to be
done.
o Goal: Independent family members.
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Case Study 3: Delegate Style
Case Study 2: Shared Democratic Jose and Karina Gamboa have been
Style married
Mr. Cravero is a single father raising almost 20 years. They have three
his daughters Mara and Laura. The childrenMatias, Hernan, and Julieta.
Cravero family has always been close Karina has worked part-time
and makes many decisions together. throughout her marriage to Jose, but
They hold family meetings and allow she recently began working fulltime to
everyone to contribute to the help pay for Julietas college expenses.
discussion of problems. Mr. Cravero While working more, she has delegated
noticed Laura has been angry and many household tasks to Hernan,
withdrawn and is worried about her and including making dinner and taking
wants to help. care of Matias. Hernan is getting
Reflective Dialogue Questions annoyed with his extra duties, and feels
What is happening here? like hes doing all the work by himself.
What action would you recommend? He also knows his mother his
What would be the consequences of sacrificing quite a bit.
that action? Reflective Dialogue Questions
How do Mr. Craveros actions illustrate What is happening here?
the Shared Democratic style of What are some of the goals in this
leadership? family?
What are the consequences of this How is Hernan feeling?
style? How is Karina feeling?
How can you tell? How might Julieta feel?
How can Mr. Cravero help his family? What type of leadership style does
Karina show?
What might be the consequences of
this style?
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Handout 5.3
Precious Memories
In the spaces below, describe memories of two family traditions. Attach pictures or
memories to help record the experience. Interview other family members who were
present and record their impressions of that tradition. Explain why these traditions are
important to your family.
NAME OF TRADITION:_____________________________________________
Name of Tradition:_____________________________________________
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Handout 6.1: Open Discussion: Alcohol Usage
Name:________________________________
1. What is alcohol?
5. If someone you know came up to you and asked you to drink some beer, what
would your response be?
6. What are some other activities or hobbies you can tell your friend to do instead of
drinking alcohol?
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Handout 7.1: WHAT DO I ENJOY DOING?
List 10 things you like to do, such as riding, entertaining, reaching, playing tennis,
writing and so forth. Use the spaces provided under the word Activities.
Activities 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
1. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
2. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
3. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
4. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
5. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
6. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
7. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
8. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
9. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
10. ____________________ ____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____ _____
Now examine the table to see if any themes or patterns are apparent in what you
like to do. Is there a pattern in the underlying values too?
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Handout 7.2: Values Survey
Below is a list of 18 values arranged in alphabetical order. Your task is to arrange them
in order of their importance to YOU and as guiding principles in your life.
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Handout 7.3
Definition of values10
10
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Adapted from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Value_(personal_and_cultural)
Handout 7.411
Procedure:
2.Go over the instructions for this activity. Say that space-age technology will
safely transport any item, no matter how large or small. Some items you may
want to take include:
On your index card, write down the six items you would take.
Be prepared to share with the group.
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Source: Advocates for youth: http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/for-professionals/lesson-plans-
professionals/1173?task=view
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Distribute index cards and form small groups of four or five to
brainstorm things for this imaginary journey.
Allow about 10 minutes for participants to work in groups. Then
ask for volunteers to share one or two of the items they have
chosen to take on the journey, and to explain their choices.
Discussion Points:
1. What would it be like to explain to people from another galaxy just what sets your
people apart from other people on Earth? What has been important to your
people throughout their history?
2. What is important to people of your cultural heritage?
3. What would you want to hear from the extraterrestrials represented at this
conference?
4. Why might it be valuable for people from Earth to visit with those from other solar
systems and galaxies? What could we hope to learn from them? What might they
learn from us?
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Handout 8.1
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Handout 8.2
1. List two areas of your life in which you feel you have control and
confidence.
2. What are two areas of your life that you let operate by accident? For
example, you want to get good grades, but fail to do your homework.
What are the chances of consistently getting good grades?
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2. What are the positive consequences of not having control over them?
3. What are the negative consequences of not having control over them?
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Mentors can also provide advice and wisdom to the mentee in a continual relationship
that can last a lifetime. As coaches, mentors may enhance the mentees knowledge and
understanding of the opportunities made available to them through the community in
and how to handle specific situations, problems, or settings. As advisors, mentors can
offer suggestions for problem solving, decision-making and reaching short- and long-
term goals.
A mentor often provides counseling and explains how personal concerns can hinder
education, self-esteem and postpone a promising future. Due to the trust and emotional
attachment that often develops between mentor and mentee, anxieties, fears and
conflicts can be openly discussed and ultimately overcome with the mentors guidance.
Another important function of mentors is to support and to inspire mentees to realize the
infinite possibilities life holds, and to know their own potential in fulfilling such
aspirations (Flaxman, Ascher, and Harrington, 1988).
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Hispanic youth often need guidance in the processes of applying to college and
financial aid. A mentor can assist a young person through this process.
Hispanic youth often need academic support, such as tutoring and counseling. A
mentor can provide this assistance.
Hispanic youth often have working parents that have limited time to nurture their
childrens aspirations. A mentor can provide needed attention.
Some Hispanic youth are pressured to financially contribute to the family and as
a result leave high school or college before graduating. A mentor can intervene
with parents to assist them to recognize that investing in a college education will
provide long-term financial rewards.
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A mentoring program may run into some challenges if there is too much structure,
resulting in mentees not getting a chance to receive a quality mentoring experience,
whereas too little structure may leave participants at a loss for words. A good mentoring
program reflects the needs of the entire audience-mentors, parents, youth and schools,
as well as the community at large. Other challenges that need to be addressed in the
development of a mentoring program include: transportation of mentees, resources,
scheduling and access to workplace facilities.
One-to-One Mentoring
Mentoring in small groups has a number of advantages. First, it takes pressure off the
mentor in arranging meetings, as this responsibility is shared by others. Secondly, at
group mentoring events, youth feel free to ask questions that they might not normally
ask in a one-to-one mentoring relationship. Examples of group mentoring activities
include:
Student Counseling Sessions geared toward assisting students with course
selection, the college application process and graduation options.
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Monthly Meetings offer youth the opportunity to address questions about various
field and career opportunities. Meetings can also focus on creating a network of
friends and professional contacts.
Panels are one of the most ideal formats in presenting multiple perspectives on
various themes through short presentations designed for the target audience, as
well as for introducing a variety of role models at one event.
Conferences can bring youth together for mentoring and exposure to new ideas
and role models. Such events can showcase Hispanic health professionals who
are at the forefront of significant issues and enhance their visibility in substance
abuse and mental health.
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