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TITLE: FORGIVENESS AND REPENTANCE

Discussant: ANALITA C. BELLO


Professor: Dr. Camua

• REPENTANCE-is the second principle of the gospel of Jesus Christ is extremely


important and is how we show faith in Jesus Christ .

• SIX STEPS OF REPENTANCE:

1. FEEL GODLY SORROW


“For I will declare mine iniquity ; I will be sorry for my sin”
(Psalms 38:18)
2. CONFESS TO GOD
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our
sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.“ (John 1:9)
3. ASK FOR FORGIVENESS
"Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never
let the righteous fall." (Psalm 55:22)
4. RECTIFY PROBLEMS CAUSED by the SIN(s)
"And if it be stolen from him, he shall make restitution unto the owner
thereof.“
(Exodus 22:21)
5. FORSAKE SIN
"He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and
forsaketh them shall have mercy.“ (Proverbs 28:13)
6. RECEIVE FORGIVENESS
"In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins,
in accordance with the riches of God's grace.”
(Ephesians 1:7)

5 Ways to Apologize:

1. Express Regret

2. Accept Responsibility

3. Make Restitution

4. Repent Genuinely

5. Request for Forgiveness


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1.Determine what went wrong. Did you say something insensitive, no matter how true
it is? Did you fail to come through on a promise? Was the offense recent or long ago? You
can't apologize effectively if you don't know what you are apologizing for. If you don't
think you did anything wrong, then express regret or sadness for the feeling that someone
is experiencing as a result of what you did. Presuming the effect was unintended, the basis
of the apology often lies in not having foreseen how your actions would affect this person,
realizing that the benefits of the action did not outweigh the unforeseen circumstances,
and wanting to compensate for your oversight.

2.Take full responsibility for the offense, without sharing the blame with anyone
else, and without presenting mitigating circumstances. Admit that you were wrong
emphatically, unreservedly, and immediately. An incomplete apology often feels more like
an insult. An apology with an excuse is simply not an apology. It may very well be that
other people or circumstances contributed to the situation, but you cannot apologize for
them; you can only apologize for yourself, so leave them out of it.

3. Realize that there are no excuses. Do not try to think of or offer one. An apology
with an excuse is not an apology. Take full responsibility for what you did. And if the
person to whom you apologize rejects it, then they do not deserve it, but do not take it
back; still say "I'm sorry".

4 Decide when to apologize. Sometimes immediately after your mistake is best,


sometimes not. The sting of a harsh word can be cooled right away with a quick apology,
but other offenses might need the other person to cool down before they are willing to
even listen to your next sentence. However, the sooner you apologize for your mistake,
the more likely it will be viewed as an error in judgment and not a character flaw.

5. "I'm sorry; I shouldn't have said that."

Write your apology down. Construct a letter to the person you're apologizing to,
rehearsing what you will say in person. If you don't feel comfortable with writing, then use
a voice recorder. Not only will this help you remember what to say when you're face to
face with them, but you can also bring the copy with you and hand it to them if you find
the apology quite difficult to express. But never forget that a direct and honest apology is
best. Do it face to face, if possible. A phoned, emailed or recorded apology may show a
lack of sincerity and effort.

6. Begin the apology by naming the offense and the feelings it may have caused.
Be specific about the incident so that they know exactly what you're apologizing for. Make
it a point to avoid using the word "but". ("I am sorry, but..." means "I am not sorry.") Also,
do not say "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry if you were offended." Be sorry for
what you did! "I'm sorry you feel that way" makes it seem like you are blaming the other
person, and is not a real apology. Validate their feelings or discomfort by acknowledging
your transgression's (potential) effects, while taking responsiblity:

o "Boss, I'm sorry I'm late again, I know my shift started 10 minutes ago. I hope this
doesn't complicate your day."
o "Dear, I'm sorry I forgot your birthday - there's no excuse. I hope you don't feel
neglected, please let me set this right."
o "This is an explanation, not an excuse. There is no excuse."

7.Make amends. Think about what caused you to make the offense. Is it because you're a little too laid
back about being on time, or remembering important dates? Is it because you tend to react instantly to
certain comments, without pausing to consider an alternative point of view? Is it because you are
unhappy with your life, and you unknowingly take it out on others? Find the underlying problem,
describe it to the person (as an explanation, not an excuse), and tell them what you intend to do to rectify
that problem so that you can avoid this mistake in the future:

o "I snapped at you because I've been so stressed out with work lately, and it's selfish
of me to take it out on you. Starting tomorrow, I'm going to cut down my hours to X
per week. I really think it'll help me unwind, and help us spend more quality time
together."
o "I've been distant and cold because I get paranoid that you're going to walk out on
me because I don't have a job. But that's a terrible thing to do. Look, here's a list of
things I'm going to do to find a job ASAP..."

8..Express your appreciation for the role that they play in your life, emphasizing
that you do not want to jeopardize or damage the relationship. This is the time to
briefly recount what has created and sustained the bond over time and tell loved ones that
they are indeed loved. Describe what your life would be missing without their trust and
their company.

9. Ask if they will give you another chance to make up for what you did wrong.
Tell them you'd love to show them that you've learned from your mistake, and that you
will take action to change and grow as a result, if they will let you. Make a clear request
for forgiveness and wait for their answer. This gives the injured party the well deserved
"power" in determining the outcome of the situation.

10. Be patient. If an apology is not accepted, thank them for hearing you out and leave
the door open for if they wish to reconcile later. (E.g. "I understand you're still upset about
it, but thanks for giving me the chance to apologize. If you ever change your mind, please
give me a call.") Sometimes people want to forgive you, but they still need a little time to
cool off. If you are lucky enough for your apology to be accepted:

o Avoid the temptation to throw in a few excuses at the end. Instead, have a
transition planned out beforehand for what you can do to solidify the clean slate
(e.g. "Let's go get some coffee and catch up. It'll be my treat. I miss knowing what
you're up to.").
o Remember, just because someone accepts your apology doesn't mean they've fully
forgiven you. It can take time, maybe a long time, before the injured party can
completely let go and fully trust you again. There is little you can do to speed this
process up, but there are endless ways to bog it down. If the person is truly
important to you, it's worth it to give them the time and space they need to heal.
Don't expect them to go right back to acting normally immediately.

 At the same time, don't let someone hang this over your head for the rest of
your life. The same way you need to learn how to apologize, they need to
learn How to Forgive.
11.Stick to your word. This is every bit as important as every other step. A true apology
entails a resolution, and you have to carry out your promise in order for the apology to be
sincere and complete. Otherwise, your apologies will lose their meaning, and trust may
disappear beyond the point of no return.