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Sean Hankerson
Professor Cassel
8 December 2017
Abusive Relationships
Today around the world exists a plethora amount of problems that need to be faced. One
of those problems that is going to be addressed today is the topic of abusive relationships.
Although one might say that abusive relationships have declined over the past decade, it is still
way too common and the reasons behind why they still exist vary person to person and can fall
under different and effective reasoning. According to Baholo, almost half of all men and women
will receive physical aggression at some point in their life.These kind of relationships exist all
across the globe, but everyone deserves to live in a peaceful environment without having to
in some type of relationship. Whether it be throwing objects, pulling hair, pushing, pinching,
biting, slapping, beating, choking, or backing someone into a wall, all of these examples fall
under physical abuse. Although Domestic violence is more common in dating relationships such
as boyfriend/girlfriend, it can also exist through a family member. It occurs in both heterosexual
and homosexual relationships. Not only does it occur in different relationships such as
husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, it can also happen with sexually active partners. Baholo also
shows around 10% of women will experience rape in their lifetime. Women increase sexual
problems including sexually transmitted diseases that experience intimate partner violence.
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Approximately 25% of women and 14% of men will receive some form of severe physical
violence from their partner. Domestic Violence is also present in all different races and origins,
some more than others. 18% of Asian Pacific Islander, 34% of Hispanic Women, 37% of White
Women, 45% of Black Women, and 48% of American Indian/ Alaska Native Women encounter
sexual or physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in life. Two-
fifth of lesbian women, three-fifth of bisexual women, and a third of heterosexual women
encounter the following types above. In men who encounter the following types above as well, a
fourth of the men are gay, a third are bisexual, and nearly a third are heterosexual. Domestic
violence occurs in all shapes and sizes. It does not matter what the case or example is, domestic
violence can potentially occur at any given setting and with anyone. Statistics and percentages
Not one exact reason can fall under why victims that do not leave their abusive partners.
There are numerous different reasons behind this depending on who the person is. Both Baholo
and the National Domestic Violence Hotline share four distinct reasons why abusive
relationships continue to exist, the separate reasons include Conflicting Emotions, Pressure,
Distrust of Adults or Authority, and Reliance On The Abusive Power. The four categories
contain numerous and effective explanations for why one might stay in an abusive relationship.
Conflicting Emotions is one of the primary reasons for why abusive relationships exist.
Fear and believing that abuse fall under the Conflicting Emotions. The victim can be extremely
paranoid of thinking the outcome of leaving the relationship and do not feel safe at all if they
were to leave the relationship. It can be very difficult for the victim to open up with intimate
partner violence and take advantage of resources that may help a victim with their situation.
Additionally, two other reasons for Conflicting Emotions are low self-esteem and love. If one
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has very low self-esteem, they might feel that the abusive relationship is their fault and they will
not be able to find anyone better than their abuser. One that loves their abuser have hope that one
day the abuse will finally end. The person does not want the relationship to end, but want their
The second category for existing abusive relationships is Pressure. Social and Cultural
Reasoning are a part of the meaning behind Pressure. If the abuser is popular and likeable, one
might feel afraid that they will take side of the abuser or will not believe anything that he or she
may say. Sometimes, one may fear of what the rest of society thinks towards their victim. For
instance, it is more uncommon for men to be abused by women, so a man being abused by a
woman may have a lot of shame and fear to open up with someone. Pregnancy and Parenting
also play a factor in Pressure. For abusive relationships that have a child, the victim may feel that
staying in the abusive relationship is more important for the child as opposed to separating the
relationship. The abuser can blackmail the victim by either threatening to hurt the kid or having
possession of the kid after the breakup of the relationship. Furthermore, Social/Cultural
The third topic for abusive relationships is the Distrusting of Adults or Authority. Its
Just Puppy Love and the distrust of police are the first two reasons under the third topic. Often
adults do not believe in the correlation between teenagers and love. If the relationship consists of
teenagers, the victim may feel like there is no adult that will want to hear their relationship
problems. They also might feel as if anyone in general will take the status of ones relationship
as a joke and not serious at all. Also, countless younger people in this world do not feel as if the
police can help them in any way. Language Barriers and Immigration Status will also play a role
in the Distrusting of Adults or Authority. Illegal immigrants would want to take into great
consideration of the risk they might take for turning in their abusive partner if they are
undocumented. If the most common spoken language in a country is not spoken by the victim,
the victim can have extreme difficulty attempting to explain the situation to someone. Distrusting
of police, Just Puppy Love, Language Barriers, and Immigration Status are four equally
Reliance On The Abusive Power is the final of the four categories being discussed.
This last topic falls under the topics of Lack Of Money, Nowhere To Go, and Disability. If the
victim is not financially stable and depends on their abusive partner financially, the victim may
think it is impossible to break up with someone they rely on financially heavy. If the person
being abused lives with the abuser, the victim may feel they will have nowhere else to stay and
potentially become homeless, so they feel that they are stuck staying with them. If someone you
know is mentally/physically attached to their abused partner, they might feel as if there could not
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be any reasoning behind leaving their partner. The victim may feel obligated to stay with their
abuser if they are mentally/physically dependent on their partner to the extreme. Victims with
high levels of esteem, dependent source of income, and internal locus of control are more than
likely to leave an abusive relationship. Many of the victims do not meet these requirements;
Undoubtedly, Lack Of Money, Nowhere To Go, and Disability all play a role in the last
category under Reliance on the Abusive Power. The background knowledge over domestic
violence along with statistical and factual information throughout the passage guide the reader to
understanding abusive relationships easier. As you can also tell, various different reasons all
make up for why one may stay in an abusive relationship, but all of the reasons can fall under
different cornerstones. Backed behind the National Domestic Violence Hotline, there is simply
just not one main reason as to why approximately one in four women and one in seven men
experience severe physical violence in their lifetime by their partner.Various different reasonings
decreased in the past decade, it does not take away from the fact that they are still common and
going on while hurting countless innocent people who are in these relationships around the
world.
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Works Cited
Shelter-Based Qualitative Study." Culture, Health & Sexuality, vol. 17, no. 5, May 2015,
www.safehorizon.org/get-informed/domestic-violence-statistics-facts/.
www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-stay/.
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