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Jonathan Farrington
HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE
We all respond to situations in certain ways. Often, this happens without our
really thinking about it – that is, we respond to our past and to our conditioning.
In effect, we can believe we are “programmed” to respond in a certain way.
This is not the case. Among our human attributes are self-awareness,
imagination, conscience and independent will. We can choose how we
respond - in effect, we can “change our script”. In making this choice, we
move from being reactive to being proactive.
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
Concern
PROACTIVE FOCUS
(Positive energy enlarges the Circle of Influence)
To begin with the end in mind is to suggest that we have some awareness of the
end itself, yet often this is not the case. It is said, “If you do not know where you
are going, how will you know that you have arrived”? To be aware – or even to
have a vision - of the destination or end, is to use those human attributes of
imagination and self-awareness.
To begin with the end in mind - to have a vision - is to assess whether that vision
is realistic, as well as to formulate ways of actually achieving that end. This
approach is applicable whether we are managing and leading others, or
whether we are seeking to improve our self-management.
One of the most effective ways to begin with the end in mind is to develop a
personal mission statement. It focuses on what you want to be, and to do, and
on your values and principles. Because each individual is unique, a personal
mission statement will reflect that uniqueness - both in content and form.
Going through this process increases self-awareness yet further. You will
become even more aware of the “scripts” which affect your responses - this
awareness is an essential first step to making any effective change.
Application suggestions:
1. Set aside time to completely separate yourself from your daily activities and
to begin work on your personal mission statement.
2. Start a collection of notes, quotes and ideas you may want to use as
resource material in writing your personal mission statement.
1. What one thing could you do (which you are not doing now) that, if you did
on a regular basis, would make a tremendous difference in your personal
life?
2. What one thing in your work life would bring similar results?
1. Activities 2. Activities
G Crises G Preventative,
G Pressing problems maintenance activities
G Deadline-driven projects G Relationship building
G Recognising new opportunities
G Planning, Recreation
3. Activities 4. Activities
G Interruptions, some calls G Trivia, busy work
G Some mail, some reports G Some mail
G Some meetings G Some phone calls
G Pressing matters G Time wasters
G Popular activities G Pleasant activities
1. Identify a Quadrant 2 activity you know has been neglected in your life –
one that, if done well, would have a significant impact on your life, either
personally or professionally.
Interdependence
The first three habits relate to the personal sphere, to the “private victory”.
Habits 4, 5 and 6 move us into interpersonal spheres, towards “public victory”.
There are a number of key issues which contribute to interdependence - things
which Covey describes as “deposits in your Emotional Bank Account”:
First, see the problem from the other’s point of view. Really seek to understand
and to give expression to the needs and concerns of the other party, as well as,
or better than they can themselves.
In achieving Applications:
“Win/Win”, the
process is as 1. Make a list of obstacles that keep you from
important as the applying the “Win/Win” approach more frequently.
actual outcome. Determine what could be done within your Circle of
Influence to eliminate some of those obstacles.
Having sought first One of the key skills in this area is empathic listening.
to understand, the This involves much more than registering, reflecting, or
next step is to be even understanding the words that are said. In
understood. empathic listening, you listen with your ears, but you
also listen with your eyes and with your heart. You listen
for feeling, for meaning. You listen for behaviour. You use your right brain, as well
as your left. Empathic listening is so powerful, because it gives you accurate
data with which to work – enabling you to avoid the trap of reacting to what
you are hearing according to your own “script”.
When we listen autobiographically (from our own experience, rather than from
an understanding of the other person’s), we tend to:
G Evaluate
G Probe
G Advise, and
G Interpret
Being understood
Having sought first to understand, the next step is to be understood. The key
here is to concentrate on three sequential philosophies: ethos, pathos, logos.
Pathos is the empathic side - your being in alignment with the emotional thrust
of another person’s communication.
Application suggestions:
What is synergy? Simply defined, it means that the whole is greater than the
sum of its parts. It means that the relationship, which the parts have to each
other, is a part in and of itself. It is not only a part, but also the most catalytic, the
most empowering, the most unifying, and the most exciting part.
The diagram below illustrates how closely trust is related to different levels of
communication.
LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION
High
Synergistic (Win/Win)
Low High
CO-OPERATION
What is synergy? Internal synergy – the appropriate use of both left and
Simply defined, right brain – also comes into play in Habit 6.
it means that the
whole is greater Interpersonal/Interdependent synergy. We achieve
than the sum of this by recognising each person’s particular
its parts. characteristics, their diversity, their strengths and
qualities, their life experience – all those elements that
make up the unique individual. If we operate in a way that encourages values
and makes use of each person’s unique qualities, recognising that this is for the
benefit of the whole - there is a greater chance of achieving synergy.
Together
Everyone
Achieves
More
Application suggestions:
Should you be concerned about having time to do any of the above? Covey
would say you do not have time not to do them! Remember the lessons of
Quadrant 2 – putting first things first – and the importance of such maintenance
activities.
Application suggestions:
Consider the extent to which each of the Habits is part of your self-
management.
1. Be proactive
Use your findings to help you identify action needed. Formulate a Personal
Action Plan to extend and enhance your capacity for self-management and
for principle-centred leadership.
Formerly, Jonathan was the CEO of The jfa Group, which he established in 1994
and sold in 2005.
Prior to that, he earned his spurs in some of the most demanding and
competitive market sectors – i.e. IT, Telecommunications and Finance.
Outstanding achievement at an early stage in his career provided a ‘fast-
track’ passage to several board level appointments, working with a number of
the largest and most successful international corporations including: IBM,
Wang, Legal and General, Andersen Consulting, Litton Industries and The Bank
of Tokyo.
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