CUSTOMS AND BEHAVIORS

Describe the picture.

What is it about thebehavior of the younger tourists that surprises the older pair?

What do you understand by manners?

Can you give example of good or bad manners or behaviors?

What good manners do you remember being instilled by your parents?

Why do you think people have manners?

Can manners affect your success in life? How?

What’s your favorite culture? Why?

Is there any culture you admire for its manners or behaviors?

Look at the quotation below. Discuss what you think it means.

Manners maketh man WillinmoJWykehnm (1324-1404)

2.20 Listen to an anthropologist's explanation and compareyour answer. Answer the

questions.

1 What is the narrow view of good manners, according to thespeaker?

2 What is the real meaning of the quotation and its relation tosociety?

2.20 Complete these phrases about manners. Then listenagain and check. Discuss whether you
think these things areimportant to teach children.

1 Don't .................................... with your mouth full.

2 Don't .......................................... when grown-ups are speaking.

3 Don't ......... or -----------· at people.

4 Don't ... --·----- or -·----... - ... gum.

5 Don't wear clothes that are ................... or ................. -........ ..

6 Be polite, ... ... .... . ..... and show . .... . toothers.

What is happening in the photo?

How would you describe the mother's attitude:strict, intense, something else?

How strict were your parents with you whenyou were young? Are you happy that theywere
this way or not?

Do you think there is any difference in upbringing according to different cultures and
countries? Can you give some examples?

Compare the pictures. How are they similar and different?

Are there human tiger moms? How do you think is their behavior?

Read the article about tiger mom.

What’s your attitude towards this?

Do you share her same ideologies?

Why do think western mothers tend to be that way with their kids?

"To be perfectly honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified
by many aspects of Western parenting," including "how much time Westerners allow their kids
to waste — hours on Facebook and computer games — and in some ways, how poorly they
prepare them for the future," she told Vieira with a toss of her long hair. "It's a tough world
out there." Do you agree with this?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9Eg6XpUgM4

Do you think upbringing ideology has changed over times?

What is a dolphin mom?

According to the video, which is the disadvantage of being very strict?

Look at the pairs of verbs belowand discuss the difference between them.

1 bring up and educate children

2 praise and reward good behaviour

3 rebel against and disobey your parents

4 push and discipline yourself

5 give in to and spoil your children

6 nag and pester someone

7 shame and punish someone

Make sentences with each of the words.

PRESENT SIMPLE, PRESENT CONTINUOUS and WILLFOR REPEATED ACTIONS

Present simple

Some parents read guides to find an answer:

Present continuous with always

She says they are always praising their children for every effortthey make.

will

These are the kind of parents who will give in to theirchildren's demands.

Which tense is used to describe:

1 typical behaviour?

2 a habit which the speaker finds annoying?

3 a simple fact or general truth?

Complete these comments by parents and children byunderlining the correct verb forms.
Sometimes thereis more than one possibility. Then discuss which onesyou sympathise with
and which you don't.

1 My parents will always tell I are always telling me topractise the piano and it just makes me
feel it's achore not a pleasure.

2 In my experience, children will do I do as little workas they can. So you have to make them
do it.

3 Children will want I want to be loved. It's also truethat they will perform I perform much
better in aloving and secure environment.

4 Every parent will hope I hopes that their childrenwill be successful, but they won't always
admit Iaren't always admitting it to their children or eventhemselves.

5 You have to have a different approach withdifferent children. Some will respond I respond
betterto gentle encouragement; others will need I need tobe pushed and challenged.

6 I don't like parents who will always try I are alwaystrying to be friends with their children.
There aretoo many parents who will buy I buy their childrenpresents and let them do what
they want just to geton their good side.

What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?

Why did you eat it? What did it taste like? Where was it from?

Which other unusual food do you know? What do they consist of?

What do you think people eat that kind of food?

Have you ever tried insects? What do they taste like? How was the experience like?

What do you think of people who eat insects as part of their diet? Do you think it has any
benefits on health or on eating habits? Which ones?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3f7I_HAm4d8

Before watching

What do you think a candy man is?

How does the photo make you feel? Do you think most people would feel the same as you?

What do you think Larry Peterman’s mission is?

After

Which countries include insects in their diets?

Do you think eating insects is becoming a new habit?

Is producing insects better for the environment than producing meat?

Are there any unusual dishes or foods in your country?.What types of foods do people in your
country avoid eating generally? Why?

Are there any foods you don’t like? Why?

2.22 Listen to an extract from a radio programme about a tribe with an unusual diet.

Answer the questions.

1 Where is this tribe from?

2 What do they eat mostly?

3 How do they make sure there is enough of thisfood?

What do you think of the diet of the Nochmani?

Do you think what we eat is just a matter of habit?Why? I Why not? Can we learn to eat
anything ifwe have to? Or are there some things you couldnever eat?

Grammar used to, usually,be used to and get used to

5 Look at tl1ese sentences from the extract (1-5).Match each verb form in bold to the meaning
(a-e).

1 We didn't use to think so much about whatwe ate.

2 People usually need mammals in order to live.

3 The Nochmaniwere not used to eating meat.

4 If you are used to a certain type of food, othertypes may be completely indigestible.

5 If more of us could get used to eatingunconventional foods, ...

a refers to something that was strange orabnormal for someone

b refers to something that happens regularly or isgenerally the case

c refers to learning to cope with somethingdifficult or unfamiliar

d refers to what someone did regularly in thepast, but doesn't do anymore

e refers to something that is normal and notstrange

~ USED TO, USUALLY, BE USED TO andGET USED TO

Past habits

used to+ infinitive

I used to eat ...

I didn't use to eat ...

Did you use to eat?

Familiar (andunfamiliar) habits

be used to + noun or-ingform

I am used to (eating)Italian food.

I am not used to .. .

Are you used to ... ?

Present habits

(not) usually+ present simple

I usually eat ...

I don't usually eat ...

Do you usually eat?

Habits that are becomingfamiliar

get used to + noun or -ing

form

I am getting used to (eating)

English food.

I am not getting used to .. .

Are you getting used to .. . ?

Look at the grammar box and then choose theright form to complete sentences 1-9 in A, B
andC. Note that we use be used to and get used to forthings that are not strange or difficult to
do.

In China, people 1 do not usually finish I usednot to finish everything on their plate, because

it is a sign that they have not had enough toeat. Visitors from the west find it difficult to 2 be

used to I get used to this, because they 3 usuallyeat I are used to eating everything up to show

that they like it. When a Chinese host sees theirempty plates, he 4 usually assumes I is used to

assumingthat they want more.

Fifty years ago, people in the USA got 5 used tositting I used to sit down for meals with their

families each evening. Families nowadays 6usually eat I are used to eating together only

three times a week, because busy lives and TVget in the way. But it is believed that if more

families could be 7 used to dining I get used todining together, it would strengthen family

relationships.

Eating a traditional English breakfast of eggs,bacon and sausages 8 used to be I was used

to being a common thing in the UK. A bigbreakfast was important because people 9 didn 't

use to eat I weren't used to eating so manysnacks during the day.

7 Put the verb in the most appropriate form to

complete these sentences.

1 We ........................................................ (eat) out a lo t, but restaurantsare so expensive these

days that we don'tanymore.

2 I -------·---- (have) a tuna and mayonnaisesandwich for my lunch.

3 I -·· ·----- (take) sugar in my coffee, butnow I have a sweetener. It took a little while to

---····-····--·-·----- the taste, but now I can't tell thedifference.

4 When I was staying with my friends inEngland, we ate at six o'clock in the evening. Itwas
strange, because I .............. ···············-·· (eat) muchlater.

For next class: talk about manners and behavior of a society or culture.

Watch movie: Kingsmen and try to adapt the movie to the topic.